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Nigeria is a vast multicultural country with the largest population on the continent of Africa and more than 300 groups of people.Adeola schools us all on the importance of recognizing Nigerian cultural groups as kingdoms rather than tribes. We center this episode on the ways Nigerians are navigating their varied experiences and narratives without the erasure of others. We touch on specific examples of how our cultural identities as Nigerians are very different from each other, Adeola a majority identity Yoruba and Salem who is Efik, Annang & Ibibio - minority Nigeria tribes. We talk through the fact that there is no homogenous black identity, rather there are cultural similarities and niche experiences. We tackle the unique ability within Nigeria to have majority non-domination, and how we as a culture are successful at dismantling the idea of tolerance by creating spaces for people to co-exist within the structures of their own unique identities. We end this conversation with a recognition that Nigeria is still very imperfect, however the diversity present is one of the biggest things that make us great as a Nation and the rest of the world could learn from it.

Intro To Season 3 by Thrive Table

Join Adeola & Salem as we share things we are ditching and leaving behind in 2017. And some things area's of growth we are manifesting in 2018. P.S: we give our listeners a shoutout for being part of our awesome growth process in 2017. Thank you for taking our words in! We cant wait to keep bringing you good content in the new year.

Here we navigate the big and bold topic of sisterhood: what it means to us, what it looks like in the various different settings, how it has saved us and how it is necessary to stay sane in these times. Adeola shares a really great tip for those who are asking how to find that community or sisterhood. Salem shares how the Trinity teaches her about sisterhood. Our introductory conversation tackles the idea of travel as the new black, the millennial expectations we have of what our lives should look like at this point, and how summer self care affects winter feelings.

The title says it all: We are both ovulating and decide to channel all our baby making energies into addressing thirst and ambition. We tackle Forbes 30 Under 30 and Salem's disappointment at being nominated but not selected. Adeola gives some amazing insights as to the unrealistic expectations of achievement we place on ourselves. We also spend a lot of time talking about gorgeous men in light of the sham that was People's Sexist Man Alive 2017 and Salem composes a wacky admiration poem dedicated to Idris Elba's shirtless body. Enjoy!

We finally tackle sexual assault in light of #metoo & all the recent allegations. Adeola is glowing because of her lovely skin care routine, salem chokes on her wine..umm, fermented rose lemonade. Salem is learning that the most loving thing she can do for herself is to stop procrastinating and Adeola is learning boundaries from people who want to take but never give We highlight Afri-Ameri Trade Store as the Thriving business of the week, and our African badass of the episode is Cambridge student Lola Olufemi who championed the cause to decolonize british lit curriculum. We share a poem on hovering over our bodies in light of harassment to our bodies and some practices we can do to come back home to our bodies and care for ourselves as we heal from various forms of violence and misogynoir.

This is a catch all episode where we talk about: - mental health - sisterhood -slutty girl fears - gorgeous men - African storytelling - Privilege. And end with on a very yogi-ish note with all the self kindness and compassion talk. Tune in! Listen up! Connect with us and leave a review

What to expect on this weeks episode as we commence the second season of the podcast: We touch on ‘haaawt looking dark skin eligible African bachelors in Diaspora. We dissect the movie ‘October 1’ : how patriarchy destroys men and leads them to take out their trauma on women. Adeola coins a new word - "stupidility" and Salem shares some intimate personal history. We touch on the Republic of Biafra and how we need collective healing as a country. The books we referred to are: Chinua Achebe, ‘There was a country’ A personal history of Biafra. 2012, Penguin books. Happy listening and welcome back

On this last episode of season 1, we brought our moms to the table in honor of mothers day weekend! We chat with them about African parents, African daughters, the expectation of perfection, dating, and what its like to be mothers of strong women. Because our moms are very Nigerian, the issue of marriage and modesty comes up so if this is a trigger for you, take care of yourself!

We have a wonderful treat for you our lovely listeners! Some of you sent in questions and we chose some of your questions as the main topics of conversations for this episode. We hope our Answers are satisfying. Send us your questions and they could be featured on our next special episode. Email: thrivetablepodcast@gmail.com Twitter: ThriveTable

"My body my rules" are the words that we keep telling ourselves to make it through a society that constantly wants to tell us how to look and what to look like. Fat shaming, thin body shaming and all other shaming is just not cool and we at thrive table are not here for it. We share our experience and what we believe you should tell the next Kendrick Lamar hotel who wants you to come in Afro or not. We also discussed the difficulties of being a creative of colour, all the obstacles and hurdles to jump and how we can respect our coloured dolllar or pounds to elevate people who respect and acknowledge our humanities. We share our experience with nude photography and also our new creative ventures. Salem is launching her poetry book "Uyai" this Friday and Adeola is launching her digital magazine "Distinguished Diva" by women of colour on Wednesday 26th of April. Our baddass diaspora of the week is KEZCOO a creative photographer and cinematographer who is working on a series of body positive images. Kez Coo: http://instagram.com/kezcoo We also celebrate Ijeoma Umebinyuo the writer of "Questions for Ada" a collection of touching poems every diaspora will relate to. http://instagram.com/theijeoma Join the conversation with us on twitter at @ThriveTable and use the #thrivetablepod to share with us your creative venture.

One of the most interesting parts of diaspora culture is that at any given point we have 2 or more cultures vying for attention and expression within us. This episode is dedicated to all the people who have to deal with that phenomenon in every day. Lets chat about how we can stay authentic to ourselves in the midst of multi-culturality.

We have our very first THRIVE Table Podcast guest today and we are chatting all about the African tradition of boarding school. What actually goes on there, the perks and trauma of it, and why we probably would still send our kids to boarding school

In this episode Salem and Adeola share openly about sexual health, taking responsibility for your sexuality, knowing your body sexually, the mediocre sex life of African men, and the use of crystals, yoni eggs to explore sexuality. Enjoy! Share with a friend! Use this as a conversation starter among your tribe. And send us an email with your thoughts about sexual wellbeing - thrivetablepodcast@gmail.com

YES! YES!! YES!!! When you listen to this episode you will understand why. In this episode we talk about Belly Dancing, Get Out, the dangers of the African black/african american divide, and dealing with the deconstruction of spiritual wounds on women by the Church. We also talk about female genital mutilation, and lots of sexuality. Speaking of sexuality. Salem overshares a little bit and Adeola orders you to find your clitoris (at least do it for the 200 million girls that have had their clitoris’ mutilated. WHO STATISTIC). This week we are highlighting: Diaspora Badass Chidimma Ozor (The Type A Hippy). You can find her on Facebook & Instagram @ thetypeahippie THRIVING Business of the week: TwerkPowerment. And you can find Kelechi Okafor and her wonderful business on Twitter and Instagram @Twerk_werkz Find us on our *NEWLY CREATED TWITTER ACCOUNT* https://twitter.com/thrivetable

In this last episode of the Womens month series, Adeola and Salem share some things they would want their future darlings to know. Also a conversation about how yoga has changed both of their lives and why representation matters! Our Diaspora Badass of the week is Buki Alabi and you can find her Album "For my Granddaughter" on itunes here: https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/for-my-granddaughter/id874971517 Our THRIVING business of the week is AriatuPR by Ronke Lawal. https://twitter.com/AriatuPR https://www.instagram.com/ariatupr/ As always you can catch us on thrivetablepodcast@gmail.com. Stay awesome loves!

Oh we LOVE you THRIVE Table listeners! In this podcast episode we are introducing a new structure to our podcast that is less about the structure and more about you just chilling with us, hearing about the real issues of our week, and getting some inspirational and motivational content along the way. Also we are kicking off a new podcast practice of celebrating some THRIVING & Badass Diaspora women we think you should you know about! This week we are highlighting: Dr. Peace Amadi (the Pink Couch girl) for her TedX Talk http://www.thepinkcouchblog.com/ and our THRIVING Business of the week is The Afro hair and skin co by Ibi Meier-Oruitemeka (instagram @theafrohairandskinco). For our content this week Adeola Shares about a racist encounter she had which is quite hilarious and I share about a speech I am giving that I am incredibly proud off. We round out the episode by talking about 5 things we would tell our younger selves if we could go back in time, and off course by sharing how much we LOVE you - our wonderful listeners.

Wow! This was such a sweet episode friends. Lots of YOU women in the world are doing amazing things & never publicly validated for your work. Consider this your affirmation and your incentive to keep going on. The world needs your beautiful contributions, but don't do it for them, do it because you have a fire in your bones and the joy that comes from doing the things that lights your up. Here we FINALLY discuss the Beyonce & Adele Grammy episode. Why collaboration is powerful especially for minority women if we thrive. How to find a mentor and to end out we share stories of the women that have impacted us the most in life. Happy Listening and please send us your stories of women that have impacted you the most on our podcast thrivetablepodcast@gmail.com

Lets talk more about dating - THE PERFECT FIRST DATE, cheesy pick up lines, who pays on a date, playing small to make men feel comfortable, and swirling are some of the things we share about on this weeks episode of The THRIVE Table Podcast.

The world as we know it is crazy right now! Cue elections in various different countries, Brexit, and all the other things going on in the world - we need to have a conversation on how we can care for ourselves wholistically. Its crazy to assume that all of the things going on have not affected our mental health so lets self check in, and have a conversation on how to provide for ourselves what we need.

Bringing the topic of love and dating to our table where nothing is off limits. We talk about why guys might find us intimidating, and what we think about that. Find out which of us is more likely to date outside of our race, what we think about changing or keeping our last names after marriage, and let us know which one of us you think has had more unlucky at love moments! Expect lots of laughs and eye rolls. If you find yourself single this Valentines Day, expect some fellow single girl solidarity. Lets reclaim single as a fabulous life experience? Send us your topics and critics at thrivetablepodcast@gmail.com

There is incredible power in hearing the voices of under-represented people. For too long stories of Africans have been told by Western voices and with this podcast you get to hear the raw and untold stories of two diaspora African women - whose identities have been shaped just as much by our African experiences as by our western experiences. Come listen and get a sneak peak into our world and some never heard before stories. Some Quotables: "Men are fun playthings." "Salem's reaction in her first yoga class: do black people yoga??" "There are so many different brands of feminism and it means so many different things to so many different people, but at the core feminism = equality of men and women" "Don't underestimate the power of representation."