Podcast appearances and mentions of Terence T Gorski

Roland Williams is an interventionist, author, trainer, counselor and consultant specializing in addiction related issues. He is one of the first Licensed Advanced Addictions Counselors in the state of California. He is a motivational speaker who conducts seminars, workshops, keynote presentations, as well as staff training, skills building and program development worldwide. Roland is the Founder and President of Free Life Enterprises, Counseling and Consulting Services, He is the Coordinator of Chemical Dependency Studies at Cal State East Bay. He is the Director of the United Auburn Indian Community (UAIC), Recovery Program, He was the Chairman of the Clinical Advisory Board for Lionrock Recovery, and innovative Online Intensive Outpatient program. He was the Founder and Director of VIP Recovery Coaching, an International Coaching Company providing Recovery Coaching for high profile clients in their environment. As a Clinical Consultant he helped set up the first abstinence-based addiction treatment center in Amsterdam, Holland, and has worked with addicts and treatment centers, in Japan, Switzerland, Russia, Thailand, Costa Rica, England, Holland, Mexico, France, The Philippines, Dominican Republic, Nepal and Italy. Mr. Williams has three published books; Relapse Prevention Counseling for African Americans, Relapse Warning Signs for African Americans, (both written with Terence T. Gorski) and Relapse Prevention Workbook for African Americans written solely by Mr. Williams. He recently published Recovery is a Verb, a Workbook by Roland Williams.Episode ResourcesCENAPS Training | cenaps.comRoland Williams Consulting | rolandwilliamsconsulting.comRecovery is a Verb Workbook | www.amazon.com/Relapse Prevention for African Americans | www.amazon.comRelapse Prevention Counseling Workbook | www.amazon.comConnect with The Courage to ChangePodcast Website | lionrock.life/couragetochangepodcastPodcast Instagram | @couragetochange_podcastYouTube | The Courage to Change PodcastTikTok | @ashleyloebblassingamePodcast Email | podcast@lionrock.lifePodcast Facebook | @thecouragetochangepodcastLionrock ResourcesLionrock Life Mobile App | lionrock.life/mobile-appSupport Group Meeting Schedule | lionrock.life/meetings

Bitten discusses how sugar/food addiction is an illness of the brain and how it can affect one's life every bit as much as any other addiction. EPISODE 90 SHOW NOTES: ADDICTION BACKGROUND SUGAR IS THE GATEWAY DRUG SUGAR ADDICTION IS A BIOCHEMICAL BRAIN ILLNESS EATING SIMPLE WHAT IS ADDICTION? HIDE, LIE, AND SNEAK HARMFUL USE VS ADDICTION BIOCHEMICAL DENIAL FOOD ADDICTION DOESN'T ALWAYS EQUAL OBESITY FOOD ADDICTION VS OTHER ADDICTIONS SUGAR IS ONE OF THE STRONGEST DRUGS YOU CAN'T HIDE FROM FOOD THE ADDICTIVE BRAIN SUGAR ADDICTION COMES VERY EARLY IN LIFE MODERATION FOR AN ADDICT? MISCONCEPTION OF ADDICTION 3 PHASES OF ADDICTION FREEDOM FROM FOOD ADDICTION ADDICTION RECOVERY BENIGN MANIPULATION RELAPSE PREVENTION LEARNING FROM A RELAPSE SUPPORT/COMMUNITY IS ESSENTIAL 4 STEPS TO OVERCOME SUGAR ADDICTION STARFISH THROWER ANALOGY Bitten Jonsson, RN, is a US-trained expert on food addiction, who specializes in helping people to break free of unhealthy attachments to foods, such as sugar and processed carbohydrates. She has been on the Board of Directors for the Food Addiction Institute located in Florida since 2010. Bitten has decades of experience treating patients with food addiction and has developed a holistic treatment program for food addicts in which she offers education for professionals, both in Sweden and online. She has also developed a self-diagnosis test, which helps clients learn if they're suffering from harmful use or addiction. It is important to know the difference since the treatment for each condition differs. Bitten follows guidelines in addiction medicine from the American Society of Addiction Medicine (ASAM) and is trained in Addiction Interaction Disorder, oftentimes described as “one illness, many outlets.” Most of Bitten's training was completed alongside Terence T. Gorski at CENAPS in the US. She was also a member of National Association of Addiction Treatment Providers (NAATP) and The Association for Addiction Professionals (NAADAC) for many years. Additionally, she has been certified and licensed in Alcohol and Drug Diagnose Instrument (ADDIS) since 1990, which is built on ICD 10 and DSM5 diagnostic criteria for addiction, as well as, SUGAR certified and licensed. SUGAR is an evaluation instrument she developed after the ADDIS model. Bitten is a food addict in recovery since 1993, which is when she got help in the US after struggling with her own food addiction for many years. She is convinced that a keto food plan is the best option for those who suffer from food addiction — and more specifically, for those who are addicted to sugar. Website: https://www.bittensaddiction.com/en/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/bittensaddiction/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/BittenJonsson FB: https://twitter.com/BittenJonsson FB Group: Sugar Bomb in your Brain Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjACTQb2C2J6yRhd7dcX5rw/playlists LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/bitten-jonsson-a46086a/ **************************** Lone Star Keto Social Media Website: https://lone-star-keto.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/lonestarketogirl IG: https://www.instagram.com/lonestarketogirl Twitter: https://twitter.com/Lone_Star_Keto FB: https://www.facebook.com/LoneStarKetogirl/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/lonestarketogirl  Nutrition & Life Coaching:  https://LSKCoaching.as.me/ Carnivore & Fasting coaching: https://revero.com/product/amber-w/

In his book Passages Through Recovery: An Action Plan for Preventing Relapse, Terence T. Gorski explains the recovery process through six stages - transitioning from active addiction to sobriety. This excerpt describes the importance of conscious growth in our lives. It also compares two very different ways of coping with "stuck points" in recovery - approaches to problem-solving that lead to very different results.

Passages Through Recovery by Terence T. Gorski provides readers with an action plan to stay on the course of recovery. In this excerpt, Gorski discusses the power of using good judgment, and provides advice on how we can learn to control our behavioral impulses.

This episode is sponsored by Thryve - TEST YOUR GUT HEALTH AND GET CUSTOM PROBIOTICS BASED ON YOUR UNIQUE GUT HEALTH (using my sponsor - Thryve) https://trythryve.com/carnivoreyogi Bitten Jonsson, RN, is a US-trained expert on food addiction, who specializes in helping people to break free of unhealthy attachments to foods, such as sugar and processed carbohydrates. She has been on the Board of Directors for the Food Addiction Institute located in Florida since 2010. Bitten has decades of experience treating patients with food addiction and has developed a holistic treatment program for food addicts in which she offers education for professionals, both in Sweden and online. She has also developed a self-diagnosis test, which helps clients learn if they’re suffering from harmful use or addiction. It is important to know the difference since the treatment for each condition differs. Bitten follows guidelines in addiction medicine from the American Society of Addiction Medicine (ASAM) and is trained in Addiction Interaction Disorder, oftentimes described as “one illness, many outlets.” Most of Bitten’s training was completed alongside Terence T. Gorski at CENAPS in the US. She was also a member of National Association of Addiction Treatment Providers (NAATP) and The Association for Addiction Professionals (NAADAC) for many years. Additionally, she has been certified and licensed in Alcohol and Drug Diagnose Instrument (ADDIS) since 1990, which is built on ICD 10 and DSM5 diagnostic criteria for addiction, as well as, SUGAR certified and licensed. SUGAR is an evaluation instrument she developed after the ADDIS model. Bitten is a food addict in recovery since 1993, which is when she got help in the US after struggling with her own food addiction for many years. She is convinced that a keto food plan is the best option for those who suffer from food addiction — and more specifically, for those who are addicted to sugar Connect with Bitten Jonsson here - https://www.bittensaddiction.com https://www.dietdoctor.com/authors/bitten-jonsson-rn

The Junkies continue to break down the topic of denial in part two of this discussion. Carlos reviews the denial strategies from part one, and helps us process through two more denial strategies. We detour for a moment into the world of music and its power to stir up emotions and memories from our past; and enjoy another morsel of truth from the cookie jar.   Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE to get the latest episodes of Recovery Junkies in your podcast feed!   Check us out at our website: www.therecoveryjunkies.com   Recovery Junkies music references from the episode:  Maggie Rogers: https://music.apple.com/us/album/heard-it-in-a-past-life/1437448293   RENT Soundtrack: https://music.apple.com/us/album/rent-original-motion-picture-soundtrack/80447021   Psychedelic Furs: https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/the-psychedelic-furs-essentials/pl.35fe78ab5e214642a0c0aaa50ee0c277   The Motels: https://music.apple.com/us/album/essential-collection/715826341   The Pretenders: https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/pretenders-essentials/pl.28c3175f4191413d8e6a4dadf460037d   Blondie: https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/blondie-essentials/pl.fca7980afb89417d9c6db7a92fa9f3b2   The Rolling Stones: https://music.apple.com/us/album/shes-a-rainbow/1440746664?i=1440746675   Coldplay Essentials: https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/coldplay-essentials/pl.0b42b4ce31584d949e6a0603f3777e6e   The Police: https://music.apple.com/us/album/every-breath-you-take/1440882817?i=1440882897   Denial Pattern Checklist (Developed By Terence T. Gorski © Terence T. Gorski, 1999) https://www.therecoveryjunkies.com/downloads   Denial Pattern #1. Avoidance: I Say To Myself: "I'll talk about anything but my real problems!" Somewhere deep inside of me I am afraid that I might have a problem with alcohol or drugs that is hurting me and those that I care about. But when I don’t think or talk about it I feel OK. So I think about other things and try to keep people from prying into my life where they don’t belong. My drinking and drugging is private and no one has a right to know anything about it. If someone asks about it, I change the subject and start talking about other things that have nothing to do with my drinking and drugging. If nothing else works, I’ll start an uproar by creating a bad crisis and making sure that they get sucked into it. If all else fails I’ll play dumb and pretend that I don’t know what they’re talking about.   Denial Pattern #2. Absolute Denial: I Say To Myself: "No, not me! I don’t have a problem!” When others try to corner me, I tell “the big lie.” I say that I don't have a problem with alcohol or drugs. No! Not me! Absolutely not! I don't drink too much! I don’t use drugs!; I’m not addicted! I never get sick or have problems because of drinking or drugging. I am so good at convincing other people that there is nothing wrong that sometimes I actually start believing it myself. When they believe my story a part of me feels really good because I beat them. Another small part of me feels disappointed. There is a small part that wants others to know what is really happening. There is small scared part inside of me that wants help.   Denial Pattern #3: Minimizing: I Say To Myself: "My problems aren’t that bad!" Sometimes my alcohol and drug problems get so bad that I can’t convince myself or others that I don’t have a problem. When this happens I minimize. I make the problems seem smaller than they really are. Yes, I had a small problem with my drinking and drugging. But it only happened that once. It will never happen again. Besides, the problem just wasn’t as bad as people think it is.   Denial Pattern #4. Rationalizing: I Say To Myself: "If I can find good enough reasons for my problems, I won’t have to deal with them!" I try to explain away my alcohol and drug problems by making up good explanations for why I drink and what’s “really” causing my problems. Sometimes I’ll pretend to know a lot about alcoholism and addiction so other people will think that I know too much have a problem. The truth is that I rarely if ever apply what I know to myself or to my own problems.   Denial Pattern #5. Blaming: I Say To Myself: "If I can prove that my problems are not my fault, I won’t have to deal with them!" When the problems gets so bad that I can’t deny it, I find a scapegoat. I tell everyone that its not my fault that I have these problems with alcohol and drugs. It’s somebody else’s fault. I only abuse alcohol and drugs because of my partner. If you were with a person like this, you’d abuse alcohol and drug too! If you had a job or a boss like mine, you‘d drink and drug as much as I do. It seems that as long as I can blame someone else, I can keep drinking and drugging until that person changes. I don’t have to be responsible for stopping.   Denial Pattern #6. Comparing: I Say To Myself: "Showing that others are worse than me, proves that I don’t have serious problems!" I start to focus on other people instead of myself. I find others who have more serious alcohol and drug problems than I do and compare myself to them. I tell myself that I can’t be addicted because I’m not as bad as they are. I know what an addict is! An addict is someone who drinks and drugs a lot more than I do! An addict is someone who has a lot more alcohol and drug- related problems than I do. An addict is someone who is not like me! I tell myself that I can't be addicted because there are other people who have worse problems with alcohol and drugs than I do.   Denial Pattern #7: Compliance: I Say To Myself: "I’ll pretend to do what you want, if you’ll leave me alone!" I start going through the motions of getting help. I do what I’m told, no more and no less. I become compliant and promise to do things just to get people off of my back. I find excuses for not following through. When I get caught, I tell people that I did the best that I could. I blame them for not giving me enough help. I tell people how sorry I am. I ask for another chance, make another half hearted commitment, and the cycle of compliance tarts all over again.   Denial Pattern #8: Manipulating: I Say To Myself: "I’ll only admit that I have problems, if you agree to solve them for me!” When I my alcohol and drug problems box me into a corner, I start to manipulate. I try to use the people who want to help me. I try to get them to handle all of my problems and then get them to leave me alone so I can keep drinking and drugging. I'll let them help me, but only if they do it for me. I want a quick effortless fix. If I they can’t fix me, I blame them for my failure and use them as an excuse to keep drinking and drugging. I won’t let anyone make me do anything that I don’t want to do. If they try, I'll get drunk at them, blame them, and make them feel guilty.   Denial Pattern #9. Flight into Health: I Say To Myself: "Feeling better means that I’m cured!" I manage to stay clean and sober for a while, and things start to get a little bit better. Instead of getting motivated to do more, I convince myself that I’m cured and don’t need to do anything. I tell myself that I may have had a drinking and drug problem, but I got into recovery and put it behind me.   Denial Pattern #10: Recovery By Fear: I Say To Myself: "Being scared of my problems will make them go away!" I began to realize that alcohol and other drugs can destroy my life, hurt those that I love, and eventually kill me. The threat is so real that I convince myself that I can't ever use alcohol or drugs again. I start to believe that this fear of destroying my life and killing myself will scare me into permanent sobriety. Since I now know how awful my life will be if I continue to drink and drug, I just won't won’t drink or drug anymore. If I just stop everything will be fine. Since everything will be fine, I won't need treatment or a recovery program. I’ll just quite.   Denial Pattern #11: Strategic Hopelessness: I Say To Myself: "Since nothing works, I don't have to try" I start to feel that I’m hopeless. It seems like I’ve done it all and nothing works. I don’t believe that I can change and big part of me just doesn’t want to try anymore. It seems easier just to give up. When people try to help me, I brush them off by telling them that I’m hopeless and will never recover. When people do try to help me, I give them a hard time and make it impossible for them to help me. I don’t understand why people want to help me. It would be easier if they just let me keep drinking and drugging.   Denial Pattern #12. The Democratic Disease State: I Say To Myself: "I have the right to destroy myself and no one has the right to stop me!" I convince myself that I have a right to continue to use alcohol and drugs even if it kills me. Yes, I’m addicted. Yes I’m destroying my life. Yes, I’m hurting those that I love. Yes I’m a burden to society. But so what? I have the right to drink and drug myself to death. No one has the right to make me stop. Since my addiction is killing me anyway, I might as well convince myself that I’m dying because I want to.   Personalizing The Denial Patterns   We can become better at recognizing and managing our own denial if we personalize the denial patterns we selected. This is done by writing a new title and description for each denial pattern we selected in our own words. Here are some examples of personalized denial patterns.   1. (Avoidance) Skating Off The Walls: I know I'm using denial when I refuse to directly answer a question and keep trying to change the subject. 2. (Absolute Denial) Saying It Isn't So: I know I'm using denial when I tell people that I don’t have a problem even though I know deep inside that I do. 3. (Minimizing) Saying It Isn’t That Bad: I know I'm using denial when I admit that I have a problem, but try to tell people that it isn't as bad as they think it is. 4. (Rationalizing) Giving Good Reasons: I know I'm using denial when I try to convince people that there are good reasons for me to have the problem and that because there are good reasons I shouldn't be responsible for having to deal with it. 5. (Blaming) Saying It's Not My Fault: I know I'm using denial when I try to blame someone else for my problem and deny that I a responsible for dealing with it. 6. (Comparison) Criticizing Others: I know I'm using denial when I point out how bad other people's problems are and use that as am reason why my problems aren’t so bad. 7. (Manipulating) Getting Over On Others: I know I'm using denial when I try to get other people to handle the problems for me. 8. (Recovery By Fear) Scared Straight: I know I'm using denial when I tell myself that I could never use alcohol or drugs again because I'm so afraid of what will happen if start drinking and drugging. 9. (Compliance) Being A Good Little Boy: I know I'm using denial when I start telling people what they want to hear to get them off of my back. 10. (Flight Into Health) Suddenly Cured: I know I'm using denial when I believe that my problems have suddenly gone away without my doing anything to solve them. 11. (Strategic Hopelessness) Why Bother: I know I'm using denial when I tell myself that I can never solve my problems and that other people should just leave me alone. 12. (Democratic Disease State) I Have My Rights: I know I'm using denial when I tell other people that I have right to use alcohol and drugs regardless of what happens and that they have no right to try and stop me.

This week, the Junkies dig into part one of a topic no one ever wants to talk about...denial. Carlos helps us unpack the many forms of denial and how we can grow in self awareness when faced with our struggles. We also dip into the cookie jar for another tasty piece of truth. Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE to get the latest episodes of Recovery Junkies in your podcast feed! Find additional information about us: www.therecoveryjunkies.com   Denial Pattern Checklist (Developed By Terence T. Gorski © Terence T. Gorski, 1999) https://www.therecoveryjunkies.com/downloads   Denial Pattern #1. Avoidance: I Say To Myself: "I'll talk about anything but my real problems!" Somewhere deep inside of me I am afraid that I might have a problem with alcohol or drugs that is hurting me and those that I care about. But when I don’t think or talk about it I feel OK. So I think about other things and try to keep people from prying into my life where they don’t belong. My drinking and drugging is private and no one has a right to know anything about it. If someone asks about it, I change the subject and start talking about other things that have nothing to do with my drinking and drugging. If nothing else works, I’ll start an uproar by creating a bad crisis and making sure that they get sucked into it. If all else fails I’ll play dumb and pretend that I don’t know what they’re talking about.   Denial Pattern #2. Absolute Denial: I Say To Myself: "No, not me! I don’t have a problem!” When others try to corner me, I tell “the big lie.” I say that I don't have a problem with alcohol or drugs. No! Not me! Absolutely not! I don't drink too much! I don’t use drugs!; I’m not addicted! I never get sick or have problems because of drinking or drugging. I am so good at convincing other people that there is nothing wrong that sometimes I actually start believing it myself. When they believe my story a part of me feels really good because I beat them. Another small part of me feels disappointed. There is a small part that wants others to know what is really happening. There is small scared part inside of me that wants help.   Denial Pattern #3: Minimizing: I Say To Myself: "My problems aren’t that bad!" Sometimes my alcohol and drug problems get so bad that I can’t convince myself or others that I don’t have a problem. When this happens I minimize. I make the problems seem smaller than they really are. Yes, I had a small problem with my drinking and drugging. But it only happened that once. It will never happen again. Besides, the problem just wasn’t as bad as people think it is.   Denial Pattern #4. Rationalizing: I Say To Myself: "If I can find good enough reasons for my problems, I won’t have to deal with them!" I try to explain away my alcohol and drug problems by making up good explanations for why I drink and what’s “really” causing my problems. Sometimes I’ll pretend to know a lot about alcoholism and addiction so other people will think that I know too much have a problem. The truth is that I rarely if ever apply what I know to myself or to my own problems.   Denial Pattern #5. Blaming: I Say To Myself: "If I can prove that my problems are not my fault, I won’t have to deal with them!" When the problems gets so bad that I can’t deny it, I find a scapegoat. I tell everyone that its not my fault that I have these problems with alcohol and drugs. It’s somebody else’s fault. I only abuse alcohol and drugs because of my partner. If you were with a person like this, you’d abuse alcohol and drug too! If you had a job or a boss like mine, you‘d drink and drug as much as I do. It seems that as long as I can blame someone else, I can keep drinking and drugging until that person changes. I don’t have to be responsible for stopping.   Denial Pattern #6. Comparing: I Say To Myself: "Showing that others are worse than me, proves that I don’t have serious problems!" I start to focus on other people instead of myself. I find others who have more serious alcohol and drug problems than I do and compare myself to them. I tell myself that I can’t be addicted because I’m not as bad as they are. I know what an addict is! An addict is someone who drinks and drugs a lot more than I do! An addict is someone who has a lot more alcohol and drug- related problems than I do. An addict is someone who is not like me! I tell myself that I can't be addicted because there are other people who have worse problems with alcohol and drugs than I do.   Denial Pattern #7: Compliance: I Say To Myself: "I’ll pretend to do what you want, if you’ll leave me alone!" I start going through the motions of getting help. I do what I’m told, no more and no less. I become compliant and promise to do things just to get people off of my back. I find excuses for not following through. When I get caught, I tell people that I did the best that I could. I blame them for not giving me enough help. I tell people how sorry I am. I ask for another chance, make another half hearted commitment, and the cycle of compliance tarts all over again.   Denial Pattern #8: Manipulating: I Say To Myself: "I’ll only admit that I have problems, if you agree to solve them for me!” When I my alcohol and drug problems box me into a corner, I start to manipulate. I try to use the people who want to help me. I try to get them to handle all of my problems and then get them to leave me alone so I can keep drinking and drugging. I'll let them help me, but only if they do it for me. I want a quick effortless fix. If I they can’t fix me, I blame them for my failure and use them as an excuse to keep drinking and drugging. I won’t let anyone make me do anything that I don’t want to do. If they try, I'll get drunk at them, blame them, and make them feel guilty.   Denial Pattern #9. Flight into Health: I Say To Myself: "Feeling better means that I’m cured!" I manage to stay clean and sober for a while, and things start to get a little bit better. Instead of getting motivated to do more, I convince myself that I’m cured and don’t need to do anything. I tell myself that I may have had a drinking and drug problem, but I got into recovery and put it behind me.   Denial Pattern #10: Recovery By Fear: I Say To Myself: "Being scared of my problems will make them go away!" I began to realize that alcohol and other drugs can destroy my life, hurt those that I love, and eventually kill me. The threat is so real that I convince myself that I can't ever use alcohol or drugs again. I start to believe that this fear of destroying my life and killing myself will scare me into permanent sobriety. Since I now know how awful my life will be if I continue to drink and drug, I just won't won’t drink or drug anymore. If I just stop everything will be fine. Since everything will be fine, I won't need treatment or a recovery program. I’ll just quite.   Denial Pattern #11: Strategic Hopelessness: I Say To Myself: "Since nothing works, I don't have to try" I start to feel that I’m hopeless. It seems like I’ve done it all and nothing works. I don’t believe that I can change and big part of me just doesn’t want to try anymore. It seems easier just to give up. When people try to help me, I brush them off by telling them that I’m hopeless and will never recover. When people do try to help me, I give them a hard time and make it impossible for them to help me. I don’t understand why people want to help me. It would be easier if they just let me keep drinking and drugging.   Denial Pattern #12. The Democratic Disease State: I Say To Myself: "I have the right to destroy myself and no one has the right to stop me!" I convince myself that I have a right to continue to use alcohol and drugs even if it kills me. Yes, I’m addicted. Yes I’m destroying my life. Yes, I’m hurting those that I love. Yes I’m a burden to society. But so what? I have the right to drink and drug myself to death. No one has the right to make me stop. Since my addiction is killing me anyway, I might as well convince myself that I’m dying because I want to.   Personalizing The Denial Patterns   We can become better at recognizing and managing our own denial if we personalize the denial patterns we selected. This is done by writing a new title and description for each denial pattern we selected in our own words. Here are some examples of personalized denial patterns.   1. (Avoidance) Skating Off The Walls: I know I'm using denial when I refuse to directly answer a question and keep trying to change the subject. 2. (Absolute Denial) Saying It Isn't So: I know I'm using denial when I tell people that I don’t have a problem even though I know deep inside that I do. 3. (Minimizing) Saying It Isn’t That Bad: I know I'm using denial when I admit that I have a problem, but try to tell people that it isn't as bad as they think it is. 4. (Rationalizing) Giving Good Reasons: I know I'm using denial when I try to convince people that there are good reasons for me to have the problem and that because there are good reasons I shouldn't be responsible for having to deal with it. 5. (Blaming) Saying It's Not My Fault: I know I'm using denial when I try to blame someone else for my problem and deny that I a responsible for dealing with it. 6. (Comparison) Criticizing Others: I know I'm using denial when I point out how bad other people's problems are and use that as am reason why my problems aren’t so bad. 7. (Manipulating) Getting Over On Others: I know I'm using denial when I try to get other people to handle the problems for me. 8. (Recovery By Fear) Scared Straight: I know I'm using denial when I tell myself that I could never use alcohol or drugs again because I'm so afraid of what will happen if start drinking and drugging. 9. (Compliance) Being A Good Little Boy: I know I'm using denial when I start telling people what they want to hear to get them off of my back. 10. (Flight Into Health) Suddenly Cured: I know I'm using denial when I believe that my problems have suddenly gone away without my doing anything to solve them. 11. (Strategic Hopelessness) Why Bother: I know I'm using denial when I tell myself that I can never solve my problems and that other people should just leave me alone. 12. (Democratic Disease State) I Have My Rights: I know I'm using denial when I tell other people that I have right to use alcohol and drugs regardless of what happens and that they have no right to try and stop me.