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Women can be confusing and ask you to act in what seem like contradictory ways, at the same time. Tobin Zivon talks about how to “please” a woman without becoming a “pleaser” – a man who lacks his own boundaries or spine!

Women can be confusing and ask you to act in what seem like contradictory ways, at the same time. Tobin Zivon talks about how to “please” a woman without becoming a “pleaser” – a man who lacks his own boundaries or spine!

I love this conversation with Tobin Zivon, who has been nick-named the “couple's whisperer.” I did some 1-1 sessions with Tobin when I was hunting to find out why my intimate relationships never worked. Working with Tobin was a crucial piece in my healing jigsaw and I'm excited to share with you his wisdom, sensitivity, humour and passion.  In this rich conversation we explore the territory of intimate relationships, including why relating can be so challenging,  the patterns that kill relationships, ways to deal with charged emotions and triggers, what to do when you are stuck in the dynamic where one partner wants deeper intimacy and the other doesn't want to or doesn't know how to, what makes for a thriving relationship and how to grow more of the good stuff, powerful questions to invite vulnerability and connection,  what Tantra is, how to explore a deeper quality of sexual intimacy and listen to the end and you get an opportunity to practice tantra as you listen to the podcast, as Tobin guides you in a beautiful practice.   If you are wondering why you are stuck in certain patterns around relationships or curious about what it takes for a relationship to thrive, this conversation has gems that are for you whether you are single, dating or in a relationship. Why relating can be so challenging for people How our wounds meet with another  What the ‘bandwidth of familiarity' is, how you can get stuck there and how to move out of it The patterns that kill relationships Ways to deal with charged emotions and triggers What to do when you are stuck in the dynamic where one partner wants deeper intimacy and the other doesn't want to or doesn't know how to  The limits of non violent communication  Why its important to take responsibility for what's not working in your relationship  Why its important to have a guide to support you in your relationship  What makes for a thriving relationship and how to grow more of the good stuff  Powerful questions to invite vulnerability and connection  What Tantra is How we are designed to be tantric beings How to explore a deeper quality of sexual intimacy  Listen to the end where you get an opportunity to practice tantra as you listen to the podcast, as Tobin guides you in a beautiful practice.  Tobin Zivon has been wholeheartedly dedicated to spiritual awakening and to serving others in the flowering of their highest potential for over 30 years.  Author of books “The Art of Mindful Living” and the forthcoming “Allies in Awakening: Living the Truth of Unconditional Love in Intimate Relationships,” he has been described as “The Ultimate Guide… A rare, exquisite blend of Therapist, Coach, Spiritual Teacher and Tantra Master all wrapped into one.” He has worked with thousands of individuals and couples to help them break through stuck patterns and painful dynamics, helping them to find their way into a more fulfilling and connected life of authentic liberation, love and relationship satisfaction. RESOURCES FROM TOBIN On Tobin's website you can download a free e-book, Emotional Alchemy and find details about his private work and online courses: https://tobinzivon.com/ (https://tobinzivon.com) Find Tobin on Facebook and message him to join his group, The Art of Awakened Relationship  https://www.facebook.com/tobin.giblin (https://www.facebook.com/tobin.giblin) RESOURCES FROM SARAH Sign up to Sarah's newsletter for pleasure mapping, a free guided practice https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/guided-pleasure-mapping/ (https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/guided-pleasure-mapping/) Book a free consultation with Sarah  https://calendly.com/sarahrosebright (https://calendly.com/sarahrosebright) Ignite Your Sexuality, a 10 module self study course for women  https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/an-online-course-for-women/...

04:25 Tobin introduction 08:23 Experimentation and learning in relationships 13:46 Tobin's previous blindspot 20:29 most common thing to see again and again in couples practice 24:17 Antidote/answer to that 31:29 Punishment as an unconscious defensive barrier in women 40:29 Productive ways that women can communicate with their male partner 50:50 what women desire from men 57:51 being more responsible for choices in partnership 01:03:15 “ask me anything”... What is happening in Saora's life currently. 01:09:05 Where to find Tobin online Saora Love IG: https://www.instagram.com/saoralove/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/saoralove82/ Tobin Zivon has been wholeheartedly dedicated to spiritual awakening and to serving others in the flowering of their highest potential for over 30 years. Author of books “The Art of Mindful Living” and the forthcoming “Allies in Awakening: Living the Truth of Unconditional Love in Intimate Relationships,” he has been described as “The Ultimate Guide… A rare, exquisite blend of Therapist, Coach, Spiritual Teacher and Tantra Master all wrapped into one.” He has worked with thousands of individuals and couples to help them break through stuck patterns and painful dynamics, helping them to find their way into a more fulfilling and connected life of authentic liberation, love and relationship satisfaction. TobinZivon.com https://www.facebook.com/tobin.giblin IG: @tobinzivon

Ep 2: Optimized and Awakened Loving with Tobin Zivon In this episode, your host Zach Beach interviews love, intimacy, and sacred sexuality coach Tobin Zivon on Optimized and Awakened Loving. Learn more about your guest below: * http://tobingiblin.com/ * https://www.relationship-mastery-secrets.com/ * https://www.facebook.com/tobin.giblin Tobin Zivon has been a love, intimacy, and sacred sexuality coach for over two and a half decades. The author of "The Art of Mindful Living," Tobin helps groups, couples and individuals blossom to their highest potential. His training includes 6 years in a Zen Center, 12 years in the Ridhwan School, a three-year apprenticeship with one of the foremost transpersonal psychotherapists in America, five years with Adyashanti, and a teacher-training program with the South African Tantra teacher Shakti Malan. Learn more about your host and the show at: www.zachbeach.com www.the-heart-center.com Like us on Facebook: facebook.com/learntolovenow Join the Community group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1428012130828678/

About Tobin Zivon: Tobin Zivon has been a love, intimacy and sacred sexuality coach for over two and a half decades.      The author of The Art of Mindful Living, Tobin helps groups, couples and individuals blossom to their highest potential. His brilliance shines most brightly when working with men, women and couples in the realms of love, intimacy and sacred sexuality.  Tobin has been lovingly nicknamed the “couples whisperer” and has worked with thousands of individuals and couples to break through to a new, more fulfilling and connected love life.      (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.)     In this episode, Tobin Zivon and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  How to unlock repetitive frustration patterns and power struggles in relationships.  Why and how frustrating patterns start in the first place.  The “divine design” present in 99% of relationships.  Optimizing love and the two-step dance of embodying our true potential in the areas of love and intimacy.  Being armed with the skillful means and tools to get at the root of ourselves and our relationships is the second step.  The traumas and imprints within each of us and learning to live with and through them.   Common frustrations of the masculine and feminine and how they play into each other.  The surprising keys for dissolving power struggles (and what keeps them in place).      "If you have the capacity to, first and foremost, meet that [heat] with loving awareness – a willingness to feel - we are starting to drive a wedge into it in that moment. Any moment, any millisecond, that we are feeling, as opposed to letting it run the show or stuffing it down and pretending it doesn’t exist, then we are actually doing that alchemy; we are actually healing a part of our being that was imprinted from before this person who’s in front of us." —  Tobin Zivon     Mentioned:   Facebook: Tobin Zivon  Website: TobinZivon.com & Relationship-Mastery-Secrets.com  Instagram: @tobinzivon    Book: The Art of Mindful Living  Book Reference: A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose – Eckhart Tolle     Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com      If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.     Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.     Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.     Thank you!      If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.   

Have you ever felt beyond frustrated that your partner wasn’t living into their potential or wasn’t showing up in the way you needed in your relationship?    Have you or your partner ever closed down, shut down, or emotionally punished as a way to try to make him/her change?    This maddening dynamic is SO common in relationships. It can show up at different times and for different reasons, but the tension and pain loop is the same.    The good news is that you don’t have to stay in this painful tension pattern! It can be transformed! My guest today, Tobin Zivon, who has worked with thousands of couples, explains why the frustration cycle happens and shares the deep process to unwind, heal, and shake loose from it.   Tobin has been a practicing intimacy & relationship coach for over two decades and has so much wisdom to share. He also happens to be my partner :) This is our VERY FIRST episode together where I pick his brain on this area of his expertise and share some insights from my own process.    In this episode we discussed:    The love loop and enhancement cycle that’s possible in relationship The most common challenges and frustrations the feminine face in relationship What to do with the grief and disappointment when your partner isn’t showing up the way you want/need/ know is possible Why closure, anger, frustration, and shut down don’t work as tactics to change your partner or create the shifts you crave in your relationship What causes the common punishing / gripping contraction in the feminine  How to discern if the relationship is worth staying in The ways fantasy and being overly focused on potential can hurt your love life Common challenges and frustrations the masculine face in relationship The shadow that commonly arises for the masculine in relationship What causes the masculine to hide and check out in partnership   The Men’s Mastery Mentorship starts Oct 2019. Email TobinZivon@gmail.com to apply   CONNECT WITH TOBIN Website: www.tobinzivon.com Instagram: @tobinzivon Facebook: Tobin Zivon Couples Course (opens October 17th)  www.relationship-mastery-secrets.com ABOUT TOBIN  Tobin Zivon has been a love, intimacy and relationship coach for over two decades.  Tobin is the  author of The Art of Mindful Living and the upcoming book The Art of Awakened Relationship, Tobin helps groups, couples and individuals blossom to their highest potential. His brilliance shines most brightly in the realms of love, intimacy and sacred sexuality.  Tobin has been lovingly nicknamed the “Couples Whisperer”, and has worked with thousands of individuals and couples to help them break through stuck patterns and painful dynamics into a new, more fulfilling and connected life of love and sexual satisfaction. Having studied under some of the most well known tantra teachers, therapists, and spiritual leaders, Tobin has a deep and vital approach to relationships that brings your awakening directly into your relationship, and your relationship directly into your awakening. His extensive training includes 6 years in a Zen Center, 12 years in the Ridhwan School (under the direction of AH Almaas), a three-year apprenticeship with one of the foremost transpersonal psychotherapists in America, five years with Adyashanti, and a teacher-training program with the South African Tantra teacher Shakti Malan. Tobin offers private sessions to individual & couples, along with online relationship courses and mentorships for men. You can learn more at  www.TOBINZIVON.com BECOME AN INSIDER Sign Up to Receive Monthly Love Letters from Mackenzie https://www.kenzieeason.com/lovelettersignup   HAVE A QUESTION? DM Mackenzie on Instagram @_honeyintheheart_  

Tobin Zivon is best known as a powerful catalyst for deep transformation, embodied awakening and for helping people make massive breakthroughs in their love relationships. He is the author of “The Art of Mindful Living: ‘You Can’t Stop the Waves, But You Can Learn to Surf,’ and has been teaching groups, couples, and individuals for over 20 years. His brilliance shines most brightly when working with men, women and couples in the realms of love, intimacy and sacred sexuality. Tobin has been described as “the ultimate Guide… An exquisite blend of therapist, coach, spiritual teacher and Tantra master all wrapped into one.” TobinZivon.com

What He Shares:      Some of the golden rules of healthy relating      The important ingredients to a flourishing relationship      How to reduce drama in your relationship, regardless of structure      His shift from ‘doing’ to ‘being’ What You’ll Hear:      Moving into authenticity and vulnerability to allow a genuine unfolding within a relationship      Discerning when to be vulnerable and when to respect your communication boundaries      Finding the living sweet spot of authenticity, vulnerability, and being transparent within each relationship      Having ruthless self-awareness toward yourself and your conditioning      Following the truth of your heart in your relationship structure      Discovering alignment, or not, with your partner      Ways to proceed with changes in your relationship dynamic      Celebrating your partner in their fullness      Healing your attachment styles, wounding, and imprints to have less drama in a relationship      Expanding beyond the paradigm of dichotomy      Showing up from a deeper conscious commitment to self, to source, and to each other      Finding full comfort in who you are and what you want      Living the fully embodied wholeness that you’re here to live      Loosening your scripts while maintaining togetherness      Finding a way to embody and transmit an experience of safety for you partner      Being based in love and integrity, not in impulses of conditioning      Recognizing the energetic shift post MeToo, and embracing the role of initiator as a woman      Meeting your partner at their emotional and communication belt levels

For millennia, women have been conditioned to suppress their anger, borne of well-founded consequences such as violence, exile, and even death. Most women carry not only a lifetime of our own rage, but the ancestral traumas of our foremothers. and yet, anger is a natural, healthy part of relating. When we suppress it, anger gets relegated to the “shadow” and wreaks havoc in our sexuality. Eva and Tobin share specific skills on how to bring it to the light for healing. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

For millennia, women have been conditioned to suppress their anger, borne of well-founded consequences such as violence, exile, and even death. Most women carry not only a lifetime of our own rage, but the ancestral traumas of our foremothers. and yet, anger is a natural, healthy part of relating. When we suppress it, anger gets […]

Women can be confusing and ask you to act in what seem like contradictory ways, at the same time. Tobin Zivon talks about how to "please" a woman without becoming a "pleaser" - a man who  lacks his own boundaries or spine! 

Women can be confusing and ask you to act in what seem like contradictory ways, at the same time. Tobin Zivon talks about how to "please" a woman without becoming a "pleaser" - a man who  lacks his own boundaries or spine! 

Women can be confusing and ask you to act in what seem like contradictory ways, at the same time. Tobin Zivon talks about how to “please” a woman without becoming a “pleaser” – a man who  lacks his own boundaries or spine! http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/what-women-want-Tobin.mp3 Show notes As a woman I humbly understand that women can be confusing. […] The post What Women Want That Men Often Overlook or Don’t Understand – Tobin Zivon appeared first on Shana James Coaching.

We all have them—sexual taboos. And usually, they’re our biggest turn-ons. Why is “The Forbidden” so erotic? Taboo rules most religions; it’s launched wars, divorces, and probably some of the best sex you’ve ever had. Acclaimed sexologist, Eva Clay and, spiritual teacher and therapist, Tobin Zivon unravel the allure and share their perspectives on how to playfully (and skillfully) incorporate taboo into a relationship so you keep the turn-on, but skip the damage. Learn as we explore how to turn the parts of ourselves that we’re afraid of and nervous about into power. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

We all have them—sexual taboos. And usually, they’re our biggest turn-ons. Why is “The Forbidden” so erotic? Taboo rules most religions; it’s launched wars, divorces, and probably some of the best sex you’ve ever had. Acclaimed sexologist, Eva Clay and, spiritual teacher and therapist, Tobin Zivon unravel the allure and share their perspectives on how […]

Sometimes a whole pattern or strategy in life can be set into motion in one moment. Growing up a raging introvert, acclaimed sexologist Eva Clay was always nervous during family gatherings and would sit during the whole gathering with this book open pretending to read it. It gave her incredible comfort and set into motion a way that she hid which is behind intellect. Eva reveals that when she gets anxious or feels unsure or disconnected in any way, she often reverts to knowledge and what she knows. For spiritual teacher, therapist and tantra master Tobin Zivon, it’s this up and out thing where he blows up and out and he’s in a realm of either excitement or expounding articulation amazement. Tobin says where you’re usually good at something is where you hide. Your superpower is your shield. Learn how you can truly connect with yourself and being truly in your body to show up in life and run it optimally as Eva and Tobin take a closer look at how we hide from the world and the reasons behind it. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Sometimes a whole pattern or strategy in life can be set into motion in one moment. Growing up a raging introvert, acclaimed sexologist Eva Clay was always nervous during family gatherings and would sit during the whole gathering with this book open pretending to read it. It gave her incredible comfort and set into motion […]

Today our guest is Tobin Zivon. Some of what he shares includes: qualities of an amazing lover for both men and women, beyond masculine and feminine, attracting a partner that is in alignment for you, maintaining playfulness and appreciation in long term partnership, when you may be trying to hard to make a relationship work, common obstacles in the intimate realm and moving from division to greater Love, Life. http://tobingiblin.com/  

EP2: Tobin Zivon on Relationship and Intimacy Games Tobin Zivon is a longtime friend and soul ally of mine. He is also an accomplished spiritual teacher and counselor, and a man I trust to share the masculine perspective with the Magamama community.  He authored the Art of Mindful Living: You Can’t Stop the Waves, But You Can Learn To Surf, and has been teaching groups, couples and individuals for over 18 years. His brilliance shines most brightly when working with men, women and couples in the realms of love, intimacy and sacred sexuality. For over two-and-a-half decades, Tobin has been wholeheartedly dedicated to spiritual awakening and to serving others in the flowering of their highest potential. His extensive training includes 6 years in a Zen Center, 12 years in the Ridhwan School (under the direction of AH Almaas), a three-year apprenticeship one of the most transpersonal psychotherapists in America, five years with Adyashanti, and a teacher training program with the South African Tantra teacher Shakti Malan. This episode is for those of you who are in a rut, who are bored with the sex you are having, who feel like things have become boring or routine. You love your partner. It may have been great at some point, or maybe you married someone that you never had amazing chemistry with, but you are just not sure how to get things more spicy and interesting. I have to say that as deep and wise as Tobin is, these kind of intimacy hacks might be his untapped specialty. What You’ll Hear: What do you do when you’re not having the sex that you want to have? (3:30) Separate requests from judgment or shaming (7:00) What happens if you don’t know what you want? (19:00) Organismic field of present desire (24:00) “Small audio problem (26:30)” Great lovers know how to ask great questions (27:00) Habitual patterns and playfulness and curiosity (29:00) What does a man really need from a woman? (33:00) www.Tobinzivon.com