Podcast appearances and mentions of jessica higgins

About this Episode What would happen to your family or loved ones if life threw an unexpected curveball tomorrow? Would they feel protected, supported, and prepared, or left to navigate a stressful maze of financial questions and paperwork on their own? In a world where change is the only constant, financial preparedness is an act of love that too often gets pushed aside for another day. But when the unimaginable happens, being unprepared isn't just stressful—it can have lasting effects on your sense of security, your relationships, and your peace of mind. In this episode, you'll discover how to take control and approach financial planning as a tool for caring for yourself and those you love. With honest stories from personal experience, practical checklists, and expert strategies for navigating life's transitions like widowhood, blended families, and sudden loss, you'll learn why clarity is the best gift you can give to your family. This episode offers actionable steps for organizing vital documents, starting tough conversations, and building the kind of foundation that keeps everyone cared for—no matter what the future holds. Donna Jean Kendrick is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ practitioner and founder of Sephton Financial. After losing her first husband suddenly in 2013, Donna navigated widowhood with three young children, inspiring her to support families in transition through financial planning. She is the host of the Wisdom and Wealth Podcast and author of A Guide to Widowhood, and A Guide for Blended Families. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  05:40 Navigating blended family dynamics and the process of adjustment. 13:25 How being financially organized eased the pain of loss. 14:38 The gift of clarity: Preparing financial documents for loved ones. 18:16 Facing the emotional side of financial planning in relationships. 21:57 Practical tips for document organization. 26:22 How to overcome overwhelm and take stock of your finances. 29:06 Building a financial foundation: Net worth, liabilities, and spending plans. 33:50 Finding your system: Partner roles and routines in managing finances. 36:00 Best practices for couples discussing and organizing their finances. 39:21 Joint vs. separate accounts: Customizing financial approaches for couples. 40:35 Planning for retirement and avoiding resentment. 46:07 Financial conversations for new couples and the value of prenuptial agreements. Mentioned A Guide for Blended Families (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) A Guide to Widowhood Workbook (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Don't Leave Your Loved Ones Without Answers (webinar link) Annual Credit Report Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Donna Jean Kendrick Websites: donnajeankendrick.com Facebook: facebook.com/DonnaJeanKendrick YouTube: youtube.com/@donnajeankendrick Instagram: instagram.com/donnajeankendrick TikTok: tiktok.com/@donnajeankendrick Podcast: open.spotify.com/show/27h7hxaS2YRb2JJz6R4K9I Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode When love turns toxic, it can be almost impossible to see clearly through the confusion, self-doubt, and emotional chaos that follow. If you've ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of hope, heartbreak, and uncertainty within a relationship, you're not alone—and there's a reason why breaking free can feel so overwhelming. The hidden dynamics of pathological partnerships and trauma bonds often keep people stuck, questioning their worth, and struggling to understand why things never seem to get better. In this episode, listeners are offered insight and validation as the conversation unpacks the complex nature of trauma bonds and toxic relationships. You'll discover how these destructive patterns form, what psychological traits might make someone more susceptible, and why distinguishing between harmful behaviors and truly pathological intentions is so important. With practical guidance and real-life examples, this episode shines a compassionate light on the path toward healing, empowerment, and, for those who need it most, a way out. Affectionately known as Dr. Nae, Dr. Nadine Macaluso is a therapist specializing in trauma healing and personal transformation. Her life inspired the character Naomi Belfort in The Wolf of Wall Street. After overcoming personal challenges, she earned a Master's degree in counseling and a Ph.D. in Somatic Psychotherapy. Dr. Macaluso helps individuals recover from trauma bonds, C-PTSD, and shame. She is also the author of Run Like Hell: A Therapist's Guide to Recognizing, Escaping, and Healing From Trauma Bonds. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  06:28 Dr. Nadine Macaluso's personal journey and the roots of her work on trauma bonds. 09:49 Defining trauma bonds and the role of intermittent reinforcement in toxic relationships. 13:35 Intent, power imbalance, and the pathological partner in trauma bonds. 16:11 Pathological intent vs. reactive behaviors and repair. 19:20 Understanding Cluster B personality disorders and their impact on relationships. 21:23 Empowering the victim over diagnosing the pathological partner. 24:11 Who is most susceptible to trauma bonds? 28:16 Questioning labels: Codependency, attachment, and rethinking victim narratives. 32:34 Attachment styles, developmental trauma, and their role in toxic relationships. 34:31 Cultural myths about love, media influence, and the hope that keeps people stuck. 37:20 Reducing shame, cognitive dissonance, and reconnecting with self. 42:47 The process of leaving: Safety, planning, and overcoming guilt. 44:30 Post-traumatic growth: Finding strength, hope, and empowerment after leaving a toxic relationship. Mentioned Run Like Hell (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Women Who Love Psychopaths (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Big 5 Personality Quiz  Essentia's website (*Affiliate link) Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) Classic REM5 Active Mattress – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Evolve in Love (program) Evolve in Love – Next level – Book Your Discovery Call Connect with Dr. Nadine Macaluso Websites: drnae.com Facebook: facebook.com/drnaelmft X: x.com/i/flow/login?redirect_after_login=%2Ftherealdrnadine YouTube: youtube.com/c/TheRealDrNadine Instagram: instagram.com/therealdrnadine LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/therealdrnadine TikTok: tiktok.com/@drnaelmft Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Are you truly alive in your relationships, or just going through the motions? In a world overflowing with distractions, many of us drift into autopilot—checking boxes, chasing benchmarks, and hoping real connection will fall into place. But without genuine presence and intention, lasting intimacy becomes elusive, leaving us depleted, disconnected, and wondering why meaningful fulfillment always seems out of reach. In this episode, discover how the science of connection can transform the way you approach your closest bonds. Through a blend of psychological insight and practical wisdom, you'll learn why authentic connection is at the heart of emotional well-being, how to bring mindfulness and curiosity into your daily interactions, and why appreciating yourself and those around you isn't just nice but vital. Tune in for actionable strategies to break free from autopilot, nurture deeper intimacy, and truly feel alive while you're living. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and host of the notable podcast SuperPsyched. He recently released his book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  08:43 The essential role of connection: Defining disconnection in mental health. 11:58 Cultural distractors and the brain's bias against authentic connection. 15:10 Making mindful choices: Savoring life's simple moments. 17:31 Beginner's mind in relationships: Staying curious with long-term partners. 22:18 Experiencing awe: microdosing wonder and expanding consciousness. 25:03 The power of appreciation: How gratitude fuels authentic connection. 27:21 Authenticity, integrity, and the impact on genuine presence. 33:12 The four circles of relating to self and others. 35:47 Aligning choices with your values. 37:39 Simple ways to reconnect with others. 41:26 Reclaiming joy and presence in everyday life. Mentioned SuperPsyched: Dr. Dorsay's Award-Winning Podcast Super Psyched (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Super Psyched (book page) Emotions: The Data Men Miss | Adam Dorsay | TEDxSantaClaraUniversity (YouTube link) (video) Friendships in Adulthood: 5 Things to Know | Adam Dorsay | TEDxSanLuisObispo (YouTube link) (video) How to Fall in Love with Questions (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love – Next level – Book Your Discovery Call Evolve in Love (program) Essentia's website (*Affiliate link) Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) Classic REM5 Active Mattress – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Adam Dorsay Websites: dradamdorsay.com Instagram: instagram.com/dradamdorsay Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Jessica is a Licensed Psychologist and Professional Counselor in Colorado with over 20 years of experience and advanced degrees in psychology. She specializes in helping clients transform confusion and heartache into clarity and deep connection. As the founder of Connected Couple, she offers a research-based program for couples at any stage. Jessica conducts video and phone sessions, workshops, and courses to empower individuals and couples. She also hosts the Empowered Relationship Podcast and writes a blog on conscious loving. Contact her here: Website: https://drjessicahiggins.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drjessicahiggins/ https://www.facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship     Additional Resources:

About this Episode Is your relationship quietly unraveling, and you're not sure what to do next? Facing the possibility of divorce can feel like your world has been turned upside down, leaving you trapped between fear, uncertainty, and the heartbreak of not knowing what comes next. Too often, couples get lost in a whirlwind of painful emotions, making rushed decisions that can have long-term consequences for themselves, their children, and their extended families. In this episode, you'll discover practical tools and compassionate insights designed to support couples sitting at the crossroads of staying together or parting ways. Learn how to recognize the early warning signs of relationship distress, approach difficult conversations with honesty and courage, and understand the deep-seated reasons why so many people struggle to speak their truths. You'll also find guidance on how to stabilize your emotions, slow down the decision-making process, and move forward, whether by rebuilding your connection or ending things as peacefully as possible. This episode offers hope, clarity, and a path to navigate one of life's toughest transitions with greater awareness and intention. Dr. Becky Whetstone is a writer, author, and marriage and family therapist obsessed with relationship dynamics since she was young. She writes in an entertaining and informative way, and after many of her life experiences, she wants to change how we handle marriage, separation, divorce, and post-divorce dynamics. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  03:58 Becky's story and why she cares about marriage crisis. 10:04 Why support is needed even when divorce is decided. 15:33 Why taking time to calm down matters. 20:19 Warning signs that a relationship is in trouble. 23:27 Hiding unhappiness can hurt a marriage. 25:24 Having hard conversations with your partner. 30:10 Why people avoid talking about problems. 32:49 Facing relationship problems like an adult. 36:20 How attachment styles affect marriage crisis. 39:29 The need for self-work and growing as a person. 42:06 How divorce affects everyone in the family. 46:58 Lessons learned from divorce. 51:01 Where to find help and resources. Mentioned I (Think) I Want Out (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Uncoupling (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Facing Codependence (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 373: How To Embrace Ambivalence When Making Big Relationship Decisions — An Interview With Rachel Zamore Evolve in Love (program) Evolve in Love – Next level – Book Your Discovery Call Essentia's website (*Affiliate link) Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) Classic REM5 Active Mattress – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Becky Whetstone Websites: MarriageCrisisManager.com Facebook: facebook.com/relationshipcrisismanager X: x.com/DoctorBecky YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCTB7JNDz6Uic8Xtdt_3YMhw Instagram: instagram.com/doctorbecky/# TikTok: tiktok.com/@drbeckyatgoodinside?lang=en Threads: threads.com/@doctorbecky Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Do you ever feel like intimacy and sexuality come with a set of rules no one can quite explain, and yet everyone expects you to follow? So many of us find ourselves struggling to meet society's expectations around relationships, sex, and what it means to be fulfilled, only to discover that the realities of our experiences rarely match the myths we've been told. From changing hormones to evolving desires and the pressure to fit into cultural norms, finding authentic connection while honoring our true selves can feel overwhelming and, at times, isolating. In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of redefining intimacy and sexuality beyond outdated scripts and rigid expectations. The conversation explores how our needs and desires naturally shift over time, why it's crucial to look inward and tune into our individual truths, and how to break free from patterns and pressures that simply don't serve us. Through lived stories, practical insights, and compassionate guidance, listeners are invited to reflect, challenge ingrained beliefs, and embrace the freedom to write their own definitions of love, connection, and well-being, whatever stage of life or relationship they're in. Dr. Erika Schwartz is the founder of Evolved Science in New York City, specializing in bio-identical hormone therapy for health optimization, disease prevention, and longevity. With over 30 years of experience, she advocates for a holistic approach to wellness, linking hormones with diet, sleep, and stress management. A best-selling author and expert in functional medicine, Dr. Erika frequently appears in major media and hosts the Redefining Medicine podcast. She is committed to empowering patients and transforming healthcare. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  04:43 The role of individual work in relationship dynamics. 08:06 Integrating holistic health and relationship well-being. 11:59 Challenging cultural myths about intimacy and sexuality. 15:03 Navigating life stages: hormones, relationships, and expectations. 19:48 Breaking away from conventional life paths. 21:06 Exploring sexual fluidity and honoring individual choices. 25:57 The importance of listening to your body and biology. 28:01 Complexities of tradition vs. authentic alignment. 34:59 Embracing change: Letting life and relationships evolve. 47:20 Rewriting relationship commitments and living authentically. Mentioned The Intimacy Solution (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Hormone Solution (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Redefining Medicine (podcast) Evolve in Love (program) Essentia's website (*Affiliate link) Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) Classic REM5 Active Mattress - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Erika Schwartz Websites: drerika.com | eshealth.com Facebook: facebook.com/drerika.schwartz | facebook.com/evolvedscience X: twitter.com/drerika YouTube: youtube.com/user/DrErika Instagram: instagram.com/drerikaschwartz | instagram.com/eshealth LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/erika-schwartz-md-987666 | linkedin.com/company/evolved-science Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Conflict in relationships isn't just inevitable—it's normal, healthy, and, perhaps most importantly, an opportunity. Yet, the tension between wanting deep connection and authentic acceptance, while also holding onto individuality, can feel like a tightrope walk. How do couples move beyond judgment and misunderstanding to experience radical acceptance and true intimacy, especially when old patterns, unresolved hurts, and competing needs seem to pull them apart? In this episode, listeners are guided through the complex terrain of navigating differences in long-term relationships. With practical strategies rooted in attachment science, trauma awareness, and mindful communication, this conversation dives into how curiosity, compassion, and proactive agreements can transform even the most challenging dynamics. Expect actionable insights on building repair after conflict, balancing “me” and “we,” and creating a thriving relationship where both partners—and the partnership itself—can grow. Whether you're in the thick of recurring arguments or simply seeking a deeper, richer connection, this episode offers real tools to help you rediscover joy, security, and growth together. Carolyn Sharp, LICSW, is an experienced couples therapist with 25 years of expertise in attachment, neuroscience, trauma, and mindfulness. She helps couples build vibrant, secure relationships through coaching, workshops, and retreats. Carolyn's passion and extensive training inspire her work in creating joyful, healthy connections. She is the author of FIRE IT UP: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  06:14 How Carolyn Sharp found her calling in couples therapy. 09:25 The complexities of long-term relationships and the importance of learning healthy relationship skills. 12:16 Can couples truly grow together without losing themselves? 15:44 How curiosity becomes a secret weapon in relationships. 18:14 Navigating identity and boundaries: Individuality within relationships. 21:29 Understanding the origins of conflict: Attachment patterns and family system dynamics. 26:46 Proactive communication: The importance of planning and ‘owner's manuals' in relationships. 33:31 Relationship needs as a third entity: Maintaining the ‘us' in times of stress. 35:41 Repairing relationship injuries 39:30 Recognizing and addressing unresolved hurt: Signs and solutions. 42:21 Learning how to apologize and repair: Overcoming childhood patterns and building new skills. 47:59 How tiny moments of repair lay the foundation for lasting trust. Mentioned Fire It Up (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love (program) The Big Leap (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The SIL (Successfully in Love®) Podcast Essentia's website (*Affiliate link) Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) Classic REM5 Active Mattress - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Carolyn Sharp Websites: carolynsharp.com Facebook: facebook.com/carolyn.sharp.528 Instagram: instagram.com/secureconnectionscoaching LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/carolyn-sharp-2948407 TikTok: tiktok.com/@secureconnectionscoach Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Can you really have it all—an ambitious, thriving career while also nurturing a deeply satisfying romantic relationship? Or does chasing professional success mean sacrificing love and connection at home? For many high achievers, pursuing career goals brings unexpected loneliness, relationship strain, and an exhausting sense of self-abandonment. The pressure to perform at work often leaves little time or energy for building intimacy, leading countless professionals to quietly wonder: Why does succeeding at work come so much easier than succeeding at love? In this episode, listeners are invited to reexamine this all-too-common belief that career ambition and a fulfilling love life are mutually exclusive. Through frank discussion and real stories, this conversation unpacks the hidden patterns that cause us to disconnect from ourselves and our partners, amidst the demands of professional life. By exploring psychological frameworks, practical strategies, and embodied personal growth, the episode offers actionable insights to help you move beyond self-sabotage, redefine success, and create space for both professional achievement and authentic, secure relationships. Katarina Polonska is a Science-Backed Relationship Coach, Published Gender Dynamics Social Scientist (University of Oxford M.St), Founder of the Successfully in Love® Method, ex-Regional VP of a global Behavioral Science Firm, and Podcast Host with guests like John Gray, of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, NY Times Bestseller Marci Shimoff, and Christina Tracy Stein, daughter of world-renowned Brian Tracy. As an accredited coach since 2007, she helps ambitious professionals become Successfully in Love®. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  08:35 How high achievers self-abandon for success. 14:42 Debunking the “either/or” myth for career and love. 19:05 Finding balance: Shifting from sacrifice to flow. 27:41 Katarina's three pillars for relationship transformation. 36:48 Navigating growth: Solo vs. couples work. 43:47 Real-life example of creating change in marriage. 49:07 Resolving self-sabotage and expanding capacity. Mentioned How to Go From Second-Guessing Yourself, Avoiding Hard Decisions, and Feeling Disconnected To Trusting Yourself, Knowing Exactly What You Want, and Creating Freedom, Trust, Intimacy, and Connection - In 90 Days (video) Essentia's website Stratami™ Organic Mattress Classic REM5 Active Mattress - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) The SIL (Successfully in Love®) Podcast The Big Leap (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Katarina Polonska Websites: katarinapolonska.com Facebook: facebook.com/katarinapolonska Instagram: instagram.com/katarinapolonska LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/katarina-polonsky Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Ever feel like you're going through life with an invisible weight holding you back—old hurts, unspoken fears, or emotional “constipation” clogging your sense of connection with yourself and others? Many of us are conditioned to avoid our discomfort, stuff down our feelings, or simply muscle through, only to discover that real joy and closeness remain just out of reach. The struggle to feel truly seen, cared for, and emotionally vibrant isn't just personal—it's a modern epidemic. In this episode, you'll discover how to build emotional health and resilience by learning to recognize, honor, and skillfully process your feelings. Through practical analogies—like emotional “potty training”—and grounded, compassionate guidance, you'll explore why authentic emotional connection is the missing link to deeper relationships and personal well-being. Whether you're seeking more intimacy, healing old scars, or just want to feel more fully alive, this conversation offers real-world tools and gentle permission to let your feelings move—and gently transform your life from the inside out. Rachel Kaplan, MA, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and host of the acclaimed Healing Feeling Sh*t Show podcast. Kaplan has studied yoga, meditation, and hands-on healing practices in India and Nepal, earned a master's degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies, and trained in cutting-edge trauma modalities such as EMDR. Her “Inner Talks That Heal” TEDx talk explores the internal relationship between our loving and wounded parts. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  07:49 Rachel's personal journey of healing. 15:42 Avoidance, dissociation, and the societal struggle to stay present. 17:46 The importance of feeling both pain and growth. 22:52 How to recognize, accept, and let go of your emotions in a healthy way, instead of suppressing or avoiding them. 24:00 How emotional constipation develops: Childhood, suppression, and the need for emotional movement. 30:18 Practical steps to reconnect with and care for hidden or neglected parts of yourself. 37:50 How unmet needs and hidden parts show up with partners. 41:49 Self-responsibility in emotional processing: Navigating attachment styles and reactions. 45:37 Vulnerability, repair, and building emotional resilience in relationships. 51:42 Further resources: Rachel's book, podcast, and ways to continue learning. Mentioned Author Rachel Kaplan introduces FEEL, HEAL, AND LET THAT SH*T GO (*YouTube video) Feel, Heal, and Let That Sh*t Go (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Power of Your Other Hand (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 346: Accessing Relatedness & The Priority Of Connection — An Interview With Gabriel Kram ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Rachel Kaplan Websites: thefeelingsmovement.com Facebook: facebook.com/HFSSwithRachelKaplan YouTube: youtube.com/@thefeelingsmovement Instagram: instagram.com/healingfeelingshitshow LinkedIn: .linkedin.com/in/rachel-kaplan-ma-mft-68355436 TikTok: tiktok.com/@thefeelingsmovement Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Are you feeling disconnected from your own pleasure, physically present but emotionally absent during intimate moments? For many, the path to sexual fulfillment can feel blocked by a haze of stress, routine, numbness, or the pressure to reach a specific end goal. In a world where busyness and performance often take center stage, it's all too easy to lose touch with the authentic, embodied experiences that deepen intimacy and bring lasting joy to our relationships. In this episode, listeners are guided through the steps to rediscover and reclaim embodied pleasure in their sexual and relational lives. The conversation dives into practical, somatic approaches that help individuals and couples slow down, tune in, and get curious about what truly makes them feel alive—moving beyond goal-oriented sex to something richer and more connected. Expert insights and real-life stories illuminate how noticing sensations, embracing vulnerability, and practicing new skills can unlock not just sexual satisfaction but a greater sense of confidence, communication, and intimacy overall. Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, is a leading somatic sex therapist who helps couples deepen their intimacy and create lasting, fulfilling connections. With over 25 years of experience in somatic healing, she developed The Pleasure Keys Process™, a powerful approach to reigniting sexual and emotional harmony in relationships. After a personal awakening from a sexless marriage, Susan became passionate about helping others remove obstacles to pleasure, love, and orgasm. She is also the creator of the Pleasure Keys Retreats and host of the Sex Talk Café Podcast. When not working, she enjoys hiking and singing karaoke in the mountains of Western North Carolina. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  03:49 The role of somatic awareness in sexual connection. 09:18 Unlocking the first step toward pleasure. 13:53 Susan's personal journey from sexless marriage to full-body orgasm. 19:13 Overcoming tension and numbness to rediscover sexual sensitivity. 22:55 Redefining orgasm: Moving beyond the goal-oriented experience. 27:11 Embracing discomfort and obstacles to deepen intimacy. 35:29 Notice, name, negotiate: a framework for couples facing sexual mismatch. 37:45 Radical accountability and communication in sexual relationships. 43:09 Prioritizing pleasure: initiation, desire, and direct versus indirect routes. 47:30 How direct pleasure sensitivity impacts every area of life. 52:01 Understanding polarity, giving and receiving, and closing reflections. Mentioned The Pleasure Keys eBook (link) (ebook) ERP 287: How To Engage In The Art Of Giving And Receiving: Using The Wheel Of Consent – An Interview With Dr. Betty Martin Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Susan Taylor Websites: pathwaytopleasure.com Facebook: facebook.com/susantaylorma Instagram: instagram.com/susanmorgantaylor Podcast: sextalkcafe.net Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode In many relationships, there's an ongoing struggle to balance personal growth with relational harmony, often leaving couples feeling stuck and disconnected. The issue at hand is not just about communication or compatibility—it's about understanding and nurturing the deeper psycho-spiritual connection that binds two individuals. In this episode, we dive into the essential pillars that can positively transform your relationship from a psycho-spiritual perspective. We'll explore how being responsible for your own happiness sets the stage for healthier dynamics, the importance of viewing friction as an opportunity for growth, and how prioritizing your relationship can foster a secure, joyful bond. Moreover, by examining the potential for purpose both individually and as a partnership, this discussion offers tangible insights and spiritual practices to help you create a more meaningful and fulfilling connection with your partner. Rachel Glik is a licensed professional counselor with 30+ years as a couples and individual therapist in private practice. Since 2014, she has been a regular feature on the Fox 2 AM show in St. Louis as a relationship and mental health expert. She is the author of A Soulful Marriage: Healing Your Relationship With Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  03:40 Embracing personal growth and the role of spiritual guidance. 08:03 The four pillars framework: A path to self-relationship and personal responsibility. 12:18 Scientific meets spiritual: Harmonizing psychology and Kabbalah in relationships. 16:47 Unlocking personal power through vulnerability and self-awareness. 20:05 Exploring purpose and positive impact as a couple. 27:55 Spiritual practices and the journey towards Kabbalah. 30:39 Balancing personal growth with relational dynamics. 32:55 Creating a relational sanctuary: The art of sacred connection. 37:20 Transition from romance to synergy in long-term relationships. 39:21 Navigating threats and traumas by trust in relationships. 42:28 Destined growth and mutual support in spiritual partnerships. Mentioned A Soulful Marriage (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Dr. Rachel Glik Websites: drrachelglik.com Facebook: facebook.com/rachel.glik.7 X: x.com/rachelglik Instagram: instagram.com/drrachelglik Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with relationship and communication expert Dr. Jessica Higgins to unpack one of the sneakiest relationship saboteurs: criticism. Whether you're nitpicking over the garage door or bottling resentment until it explodes, criticism can quietly damage your emotional connection. Dr. Higgins breaks down why we criticize, how it's often tied to fear, insecurity, or control—and what to do instead. From revealing instead of blaming, to communicating needs without making your partner defensive, this episode is packed with powerful reframes and tools to shift from criticism to connection.Key Moments:·       2:00 – Why criticism is often an attempt to control, not connect·       6:00 – How to tell the difference between a complaint an emotional need·       12:20 – What your criticism is actually trying to say·       20:40 – How to turn a complaint into a “reveal or request”·       29:00 – The neuroscience behind why we misread our partner's silence·       38:00 – A hilarious hot tub story that'll test your jealousy triggersGolden Episode Nuggets:

About this Episode Pelvic floor health is a topic that's often shrouded in mystery and silence, yet it is fundamentally linked to our overall well-being, affecting everything from incontinence to intimacy. Many individuals, particularly those with female bodies, face the challenges of pelvic floor dysfunction post-pregnancy, during menopause, or even as athletes, without realizing that it is common but not normal and certainly not something they have to live with. Ignoring pelvic floor care can lead not only to physical discomfort but also strain in relationships due to issues like pain during intimacy or a lack of awareness surrounding one's own body needs. In this episode, we delve deep into the world of pelvic floor rehabilitation and prevention therapy to uncover the importance of addressing these issues head-on. Through holistic approaches, including exercises, education, and community support, listeners will learn about the often-overlooked muscles that play an important role in our bodily functions and intimate relationships. By shedding light on the resources and techniques available, listeners are encouraged to break the stigma, embrace their journey to healing, and ultimately improve their quality of life and connections with others. Patricia Siegel is a German native and Sports Scientist specializing in pelvic floor rehabilitation and prevention therapy. A former semi-professional track athlete, she is now the STRONG Fitness expert columnist regarding pelvic floor health. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  04:32 Understanding postpartum health: Pain, support, and recovery. 10:16 Hormone therapy alternatives during menopause. 11:45 Inspiring personal stories of fitness and overcoming challenges. 15:52 The benefits of regular exercise and fitness recommendations. 19:03 The role of breathing techniques in pelvic floor health. 20:27 Athletic performance and pelvic floor strength. 23:54 Navigating postpartum intimacy and emotional health. 29:12 Breaking the silence: Educating women on pelvic health. 32:56 Addressing trauma's impact on pelvic floor health. 36:37 Communication's role in postpartum relationships. 38:09 Developing a holistic program for pelvic health. 42:15 Promoting awareness and education on pelvic health issues. 46:52 Practical tips for maintaining pelvic floor health. Mentioned Squatty Potty ERP 125: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love The McKibbin Brothers (YouTube Channel) ERP 071: How To Use Sexual Energy To Improve Your Health & Relationship – With Sarina Stone A Beginner's Guide to Mula Bandha (Root Lock) ERP 459: How To Support Sexual Desire In Relationship – An Interview with Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Patricia Siegel Websites: thefitpelvicfloor.com Instagram: instagram.com/thefitpelvicfloor Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode One common struggle many face in a relationship is the challenge of getting off the emotional roller coaster. The highs and lows, misunderstandings, and unresolved conflicts can create a cycle of emotional upheaval, leaving partners feeling disconnected and frustrated. But what if we could find a way to smooth the ride and create deeper intimacy? If you've ever felt caught in a whirlwind of emotions in your relationships, you're not alone, and there are ways to navigate this complex terrain. In this episode, we delve into strategies and insights aimed at helping listeners break free from these patterns. With expert guidance, the discussion illuminates ways couples can enhance their emotional intelligence, communication skills, and conflict resolution abilities. By exploring both the individual and relational aspects of these dynamics, the conversation provides tools for transforming the way partners interact with each other. This episode offers a chance to learn how to nurture a relationship's foundation while navigating life's inevitable challenges, ultimately creating a more harmonious and enduring partnership. Susan Thau, Ph. D., Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, wife, mother and grandmother treats individuals, couples and families, working intensively with emotional states. Along with Sondra Goldstein, Susan studied in a consultation group with Alan Schore, becoming interested in attachment and affect regulation. Dr Thau began as a parent educator, later Kaiser Permanente, and eventually private practice in Los Angeles where she specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy. Sondra is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice for many years in Los Angeles. She is a former Clinical Associate Professor, UCLA Department of Psychology. Past study with Allan Shore, PhD, enhances her understanding of neuro-psychobiology in the processing of emotion in couples. Her study of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps in understanding emotional dynamics in couples therapy. Sondra is also a wife of 53 years, a mother, and a grandmother. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  03:56 Understanding the framework of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). 09:39 Meeting the authors: a journey of professional collaboration. 10:51 The power of vulnerability and emotional connection. 15:36 Coregulation and the impact of presence in therapy. 18:09 Navigating emotional triggers and attachment styles. 21:44 Challenges of vulnerability and the role of the therapist. 25:54 The importance of repair and building resilience. 28:30 Acknowledging individual differences in processing. 31:45 Demystifying therapy: The role of the therapist as a stranger attractor. 34:12 Developing a secure base: The journey of earned security. 39:20 Processing stress: Sensitive emotional and aggressive responses. 41:15 Dealing with differences and building a strong relationship foundation. 46:10 The role of curiosity and connection. 49:16 Resources and guidance for relationship growth. Mentioned Living Love That Lasts (Youtube) (video) The Roller Coaster of Emotion in Couples Therapy (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Drs. Susan Thau & Sondra Goldstein Websites: susanthauphd.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Struggling to find deep, lasting connection in your relationship? You're not alone. Many couples experience cycles of miscommunication and emotional distance, leading to frustration and loneliness. But what if these challenges could become stepping stones to greater intimacy and understanding? Unlock the potential for a more fulfilling partnership by exploring new dynamics that foster empathy, understanding, and emotional intelligence. In this episode, we dive into the intricacies of intimate relating, exploring how individuals can develop new dynamics to nurture a lasting, caring relationship. You'll gain insights into recognizing and addressing underlying patterns and cycles that may be keeping you and your partner in a state of continuous conflict. With practical advice and expert guidance, this episode offers actionable steps to help you create a secure and supportive bond where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued. Join us as we explore the art of balancing individual growth with relational strength, paving the way for deeper connection and fulfillment. Dr. Mark Gregory Karris is a licensed marriage and family therapist in full-time private practice in San Diego, California. He specializes in couples therapy, religious trauma, and men's issues. He is a husband, father, and recording artist. Mark is also the author of the best-selling books Religious Refugees: (De)Constructing Toward Spiritual and Emotional Healing and Beyond Fairy Tales: A Couple's Guide to Finding Clarity, Doing the Work, and Building a Lasting Relationship. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  04:46 Exploring the intersections of couples therapy and religious trauma. 10:40 Understanding the role of attachment styles in relationships. 14:07 Navigating the challenges of relationship cycles. 17:47 Differentiation and personal growth in partnerships. 20:51 The power of vulnerability in bridging connection. 23:06 Creating a safe space for open communication. 26:14 Embracing acceptance and grieving expectations. 31:19 Acknowledging community's role in relational support. 33:09 Balancing independence while fostering connection. 38:46 The importance of reflective empathy. 40:30 Caring for partner's unique needs and priorities. 43:23 Fostering intentional partnership practices. 46:30 Resources and insights for cultivating lasting relationships. Mentioned Beyond Fairy Tales (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Free Chapter from Beyond Fairy Tales (pdf) Finding Wholeness for an Integral Age They're Not Gaslighting You (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Let Them Theory (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Transformative Couples Therapy® ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson ERP 372: How To Work Together In Relationship For A Strong, Secure Connection — An Interview With Dr. Stan Tatkin ERP 323: One Of The Most Important Relationship Skills – Being Relational — An Interview With Terry Real ERP 089: How to Use Love Languages to Strengthen Connection RP 281: How To Use The 6th Love Language In Your Relationship ERP 282: How To Use The 6th Love Language In Your Relationship – Part 2 Evolve in Love (program) Connect Dr. Mark Gregory Karris Website: markgregorykarris.com YouTube: youtube.com/@Dr.MarkKarris Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Every relationship experiences moments of disconnection. These instances, often referred to as ruptures, can feel alarming, especially when they seem to happen all too frequently. But what if conflict wasn't something to dread but rather an opportunity for growth and deeper connection? The problem many face is not the rupture itself but the lack of repair. Learning how to artfully navigate these reparative processes can transform conflicts from mounting resentment to meaningful growth. Are you ready to redefine how you view and handle conflicts in your relationships? In this episode, we delve into the heart of using a trauma-informed approach to repair relationships. Through a blend of therapeutic insights and practical techniques, the conversation sheds light on the dynamics of conflict and the importance of repair to foster genuine connection and intimacy. By tapping into our own inner resources and acknowledging our shared vulnerabilities, listeners can learn to transform challenges into powerful moments of healing, growth, and reconnection. Esin Pinarli is a holistic psychotherapist and relationship expert specializing in IMAGO therapy, brainspotting, Internal Family Systems (IFS), somatic practices, and psychodrama. Through an integrative experiential approach, she helps individuals and couples suffering from anxiety, depression, addiction, codependency, trauma, and relational attachment issues to navigate life's challenges so they can become fully alive, supported, and whole. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  07:16 Understanding rupture and repair in relationships. 10:11 The role of conflict and repair in intimate connections. 13:38 Navigating disconnection using a trauma-informed approach. 17:06 Recognizing trauma response patterns in relationships. 23:28 Importance of reflecting and regulating responses. 25:43 Mirroring and attuning as steps in the repair process. 30:54 Nurturing vulnerability for deeper intimacy. 34:27 Cultivating empathy and understanding within partnerships. 35:24 Collaboration and accountability in healing relationship dynamics. 39:20 Handling simultaneous activation in partner dynamics. 42:47 Techniques for achieving regulation and calm. 45:56 Exploring creative solutions in conflict resolution. Mentioned Huberman Lab ERP 276: Understanding The Need For Both Self-Regulation And Co-Regulation In Relationship – An interview With Deb Dana Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Esin Pinarli Websites: eternalwellnesscounseling.com Instagram: instagram.com/esinpinarli_lcsw Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Are you finding it difficult to maintain a fulfilling and harmonious relationship amidst the daily hustle and bustle of life? It's a common struggle that many people face: balancing personal growth with the demands of nurturing long-term intimacy. How do we rise above the noise and negativity that often cloud our interactions, both with others and within ourselves? In this episode, we delve into transformative strategies for enhancing your life's happiest moments and boosting the quality of your relationships using a Heliotropic Approach. This insightful conversation explores the power of being a more uplifting force—focusing on kindness, gratitude, and generating positivity. Stay tuned as Dr. Harry Cohen and Dr. Jessica Higgins break down simple yet profound practices to help you navigate challenges and transform them into opportunities for deepening intimacy and personal development. Join in as the conversation strives to create more positive, energizing connections in life and relationships. Dr. Harry Cohen, Ph.D. Psychologist, Executive Coach, Restauranter and Author of Be The Sun, Not The Salt, a short, straightforward yet profound guide for being your best self, uplifting others, and behaving in a manner that draws others toward you and makes you happier and more effective. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  06:16 Introducing Dr. Harry Cohen and his multidisciplinary background. 07:45 The heliotropic effect and embracing kindness. 12:46 Being present and heart-centered in interactions. 15:18 The power of words and self-reflection. 19:23 Feeding the right wolf: the power of choice. 21:40 Creating positive narratives in everyday life. 25:35 The impact of positivity on our relationships and environment. 26:44 Navigating negativity bias and fostering positivity. 31:48 The significance of gratitude and presence in practice. 34:54 Responding to crisis with grace and equanimity. 39:46 Lighting up relationships: deep listening and positive interactions. 44:57 The importance of acknowledgment in relationships. 46:06 Practical advice: apologizing and remembering who you are. Mentioned Be the Sun, Not the Salt (*Amazon Affiliate link) (audio book) Breńe Brown Ethan Kross ERP 123: Forgive For Love With Dr. Fred Luskin ERP 089: How to use Love Languages to strengthen connection Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Dr. Harry Cohen Websites: bethesunnotthesalt.com Instagram: instagram.com/bethesunnotthesalt Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/be-the-sun-not-the-salt/id1713906591 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Is communication the roadblock in your intimate relationships? Misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and emotional escalations can often make navigating partnerships seem like a daunting task. The challenge lies in the fact that our lives are intertwined with others who have their own unique experiences and perspectives. What if embracing life's uncertainties and the practice of presence could transform these relational dynamics into something more harmonious and fulfilling? In this episode, we explore the art of deep listening and presence as powerful tools to enhance your relationship dynamics. Through enriching conversations, we'll delve into practices that can help you reconnect not only with yourself but also with your significant other. You will gain insights into how embracing vulnerability, understanding emotional activations, and learning to listen deeply can open the door to more profound connections. Whether you're aiming to resolve conflict or simply want to deepen intimacy, this episode offers the guidance needed to transform challenges into opportunities for growth and connection. Dr. Shahrzad Jalali, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist with expertise in trauma resolution, psychoanalysis, and relational dynamics. She guides clients in transforming emotional challenges into growth opportunities using a holistic approach that combines psychological, existential, and body-based techniques. Grounded in Jungian psychology, Dr. Jalali emphasizes cognitive restructuring and somatic healing to address trauma at its roots. Her upcoming 2025 book explores these themes, providing readers with practical insights into self-empowerment and resilience. Dr. Shahrzad Jalali identifies as Iranian-American, with a cultural background that blends Persian heritage with American influences. Her work integrates multicultural perspectives, enriching her therapeutic approach and fostering a deep understanding of diverse cultural experiences. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  05:44 How misunderstandings and emotional clashes in relationships often stem from individual differences in coping with life's challenges. 08:53 The importance of metacognition and shifting perspectives to help navigate difficulties and develop partnership resilience. 14:11 The cultural differences in emotional expression and the unrealistic societal expectation of constant happiness. 19:11 The art of truly listening to oneself and others as a crucial step toward emotional understanding and connection. 23:32 The illusory nature of control and how embracing vulnerability and curiosity can lead to deeper connections and personal growth. 32:32 The cultural and personal barriers that impede meaningful dialogue and how societal pressures influence our interactions. 36:10 Incorporating practices of emotional and psychological hygiene to navigate the complexities of daily life more effectively. 42:55 Recognizing and evaluating the personal and societal beliefs that shape our behavior and emotional responses. 44:22 Tools and approaches are discussed for identifying and reframing insecurities and fears to foster healthier relationships. Mentioned From Pain to Purpose (book) (*soon to be published) Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Dr. Shahrzad Jalali Websites: drjalaliandassociates.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/shahrzad-jalali-psyd-2b547320 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Ever feel like your romantic relationship is a swirling mystery of emotions, expectations, and challenges? At the heart of every partnership lies the quest for acceptance—a profound sense of being valued and understood, just as you are. Yet, the path to achieving this in our closest relationships can often feel fraught with misunderstandings and unmet needs. How can we navigate these turbulent waters to foster deeper connection and a lasting bond? In this episode, our experts delve into the transformative power of acceptance and its pivotal role in strengthening intimate relationships. With insights drawn from decades of experience in counseling and relationship coaching, this conversation explores how to break free from entrenched patterns and embrace acceptance as a cornerstone for emotional intimacy. Listeners will come away with practical strategies to rekindle their relationship's safety and vulnerability, ultimately leading to a more profound and enduring love. Jon is the founder of Growing Love Network, a nonprofit dedicated to revolutionizing relationships for lifelong love. He has conducted more than 170 marriage intensives for struggling couples, and couples in crisis. He has worked directly with thousands of couples and individuals through counseling and therapy and trained hundreds to facilitate effective marriage courses. He has been married to his wife, Joanna, since 1985. They have 3 grown children and 6 grandchildren. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  05:25 Acceptance and power: Roots of relationship dynamics 07:26 Maslow's hierarchy of needs. 12:54 Building a foundation of acceptance in relationships. 14:14 The shallow end vs deep end dynamics in relationships. 17:45 Establishing safety in partnerships: Shallow-end conversations 21:47 Creating structured conversations for safety and acceptance. 24:38 The role of quality time and affirmations in building acceptance. 28:09 Effective listening: a key to acceptance. 32:27 Prioritizing goodwill and understanding in relationships. 34:48 The power of positive focus: Shifting perspectives in relationships. 40:10 Navigating conflicting perspectives: The cul-de-sac analogy. 44:08 Inching back to vulnerability: Steps from shallow to deep end. 47:45 The importance of day-to-day intimacy and acceptance. 49:06 Insight into couple intensives: Accelerated progress in relationship therapy. Mentioned The Acceptance: What Brings And Keeps Lifelong Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Jon Anderson Websites: GrowingLoveNetwork.org Facebook: facebook.com/jonrandersonmarriagespecialist Instagram: instagram.com/jonrobertanderson Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Conflict is an inevitable aspect of any relationship, but how we handle it can make all the difference in the world. Whether you're finding that your disagreements escalate quickly or that issues get swept under the rug and resurface later, understanding your and your partner's conflict style can be a game-changer. How do you transform these clashes into opportunities for growth and deeper connection? The key lies in recognizing the patterns and learning the skills to navigate through them effectively. In this episode, we dive deep into the dynamics of different conflict styles—volatile, validating, and avoidant—and offer insights into how these patterns play out in relationships. You'll discover the importance of understanding not just your style but also your partner's, and how mismatched styles can be addressed for better harmony. With practical guidance and real-world examples, this discussion aims to equip you with the tools to foster a more resilient and connected relationship, even in the face of disagreements. Tune in to explore how you can create a new positive dynamic in your relationship by embracing and working with your unique conflict styles. Dr. Don Cole is the Clinical Director of The Gottman Institute and a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Washington. Along with his wife, Dr. Carrie Cole, he founded The Center for Relationship Wellness. With over 30 years of experience, he has worked with individuals and couples in various areas, including marital therapy, affair recovery, depression, anxiety, trauma recovery, parenting, and personality disorders. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 05:55 The three conflict styles: volatile, validating, and avoidant. 14:38 Conflicts arise in mismatched styles: the validator vs. the avoidant. 17:17 Understanding conflict styles: it's not about maturity or emotional intelligence. 19:34 Examining the volatile style: comfort with high energy and emotions. 26:06 The validator style: problem-solving and seeking understanding. 33:56 Managing conflict with avoidant partners: strategies for understanding. 35:37 Using the Gottman Rapoport style for effective communication. 43:46 Tools and resources: books, workshops, and psychoeducational materials. 45:56 Normalizing conflict: learning to accept and grow through differences. Mentioned Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love (link) (program) Connect with Dr. Don Cole Websites: centerforrelationshipwellness.com Facebook: facebook.com/TheCenterForRelationshipWellness X: x.com/i/flow/login?redirect_after_login=%2FCtrRelWellness YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCmdTIdlzy6gAz1j7f4ggk_A LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/center-for-relationship-wellness Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Why do some relationships fizzle out while others seem to stand the test of time? We've all heard about the honeymoon phase—those butterflies in the belly, the excitement, and the dopamine rush—but what happens when that stage inevitably wanes? Relationships often hit a crossroads where familiarity sets in, and the novelty fades, posing a significant challenge for couples striving to maintain passion and deep connection. How can we make love last when our biology seems to be working against us? In this episode, we delve into the profound insights shared by a renowned biologist who explores the complexities of love from a biological standpoint. From understanding the chemicals that drive our attraction and attachment phases to practical strategies for reigniting excitement and intimacy, this conversation offers invaluable advice. Learn how to navigate the intricacies of your own love life by leveraging scientific knowledge to foster long-lasting, healthy relationships. Whether you're in a new relationship or have been with your partner for years, these insights can help you strengthen your bond and keep the spark alive. Dr. Liat Yakir is a distinguished biologist, writer, and lecturer specializing in the biology of emotions and human behavior. She advises organizations on neuro-management (also known as neuro-leadership), leveraging cutting-edge insights from brain research to cultivate exceptional leadership skills and practices. Dr. Yakir earned her Ph.D. and completed postdoctoral studies in molecular genetics. She also holds a master's degree in hormone research. With years of experience in science education and communication, she has made significant contributions at the Davidson Institute for Science Education, the educational arm of the Weizmann Institute Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 06:40 Understand love through a biological lens. 09:00 The three stages of love. 13:03 Attachment styles and their impact on relationships. 19:15 Why initial attractions can be misleading. 22:28 The conflict between stability and novelty in love. 30:08 The genetics of monogamy and polyamory. 32:53 Increasing dopamine levels to enhance relationships. 36:03 The role of jealousy and status in attraction. 38:11 Maintaining passion and intimacy in long-term relationships. 44:28 Overcoming sexual scripts and routine through play. 46:06 The importance of communication and appreciation in relationships. Mentioned A Brief History of Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep--Love ERP 287: How To Engage In The Art Of Giving And Receiving: Using The Wheel Of Consent – An Interview With Dr. Betty Martin Evolve in Love (link) (program) Connect with Dr. Liat Yakir Websites: en.liatyakir.com Facebook: facebook.com/liatyakir5976 Instagram: instagram.com/dr_liatya Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Money can be a daunting topic, especially when societal pressures and differing personal values come into play. How do we break free from these external expectations while fostering a healthy financial dynamic within our relationships? This episode delves deep into the intricate psyche of our monetary interactions, examining how they can reflect broader themes of security, belonging, and self-worth. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the financial expectations placed upon you or worried about aligning your monetary habits with those of a partner, you're not alone. In this episode, we explore practical strategies and thoughtful exercises to help partners cultivate a healthier relationship with money. We discuss the importance of defining wealth beyond mere numbers and how to recognize and address our individual money patterns. Through meaningful dialogues and engaging practices like the wealth mandala and satiation challenge, listeners are guided to become more conscious of their spending habits and financial goals. By the end of this episode, you'll gain a new perspective on managing money in a way that aligns with your values, fosters trust, and promotes a sense of fulfillment within your relationships. Elizabeth Husserl is a registered investment advisor representative, financial advisor, highly sought-after speaker, and cofounder of Peak360 Wealth Management, a boutique wealth planning firm. She does nonprofit work throughout the Americas and has led workshops at major tech companies, including Airbnb, Unity, and Google. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband and daughter. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 07:19 The importance of psychological perspectives in financial advisory. 11:13 Defining wealth beyond monetary value. 18:14 Examining personal relationships with money. 28:29 Addressing trust and transparency in financial relationships. 31:16 Comparing consumer choices within community contexts. 34:16 Recognizing societal pressures and redefining success. 37:54 Building mindfulness and playfulness in financial conversations. 40:38 Exploring belonging and fulfillment without excess consumption. 49:23 Encouraging shared financial inquiry and practices for couples. Mentioned The Power of Enough (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Smart Couples Finish Rich (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love (link) (program) Connect with Elizabeth Husserl Websites: elizabethhusserl.com Instagram: instagram.com/elizabethhusserl LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/elizabethhusserl Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Do you ever find yourself caught in repetitive patterns that hinder the growth and intimacy of your relationships? Whether it's a recurring conflict, a deep-seated trauma, or simply the inability to stay fully present, many of us struggle to break free from the habits and thoughts that get in the way of true connection. Imagine how transformative it could be to learn the strategies and skills that foster psychological flexibility, enabling you to navigate life's complexities with grace and authenticity. In this episode, we delve deep into the science and practice of psychological flexibility, exploring how openness, presence, and active engagement can revolutionize not just how we relate to others but how we relate to ourselves. Through expert insights and practical examples, we will uncover the smallest set of principles that do the most good in fostering a meaningful, connected life. So, get ready to learn how to align your actions with your deepest values, respond effectively to life's challenges, and unlock the full potential of your relationships. Steven C. Hayes is a Professor Emeritus at the University of Nevada, Reno. An author of 48 books and over 700 scientific articles, he originated Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. His book Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life was the best-selling self-help book in the US, and his TEDx talks and blogs have been seen or read by 4 million people. He is among the 30 most cited psychologists in the world. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 04:53 Exploring the origin and philosophy of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). 16:07 Integrating science and spirituality within ACT. 17:06 Understanding the nature of learning and vulnerability. 21:42 The role of humility in relationships and life. 23:38 Using psychological flexibility to navigate intimacy. 28:55 Embracing a beginner's mind in everyday life. 30:05 Active engagement and personal responsibility in values-driven actions. 36:22 The importance of validation and accountability in relationships. 37:45 Aligning values with actions for intentional living. 41:34 Breaking down the components of psychological flexibility. 45:28 Tuning into life's demands through psychological flexibility. 48:19 Continuous learning and personal growth: available resources. Mentioned Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Doing What Matters in Times of Stress (*World Health Organization link) Evolve in Love (link) (program) Connect with Dr. Steven Hayes Websites: stevenchayes.com Facebook: facebook.com/drstevenchayes X: x.com/stevenchayes YouTube: youtube.com/@StevenCHayes-yo7di Instagram: instagram.com/drstevenchayes LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/stevenchayes Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Significant life changes, such as perimenopause and menopause, can often be overwhelming. These phases can bring insecurities, misunderstandings, and health challenges that strain relationships. The emotional toll of these changes can be especially difficult when open dialogue and sound advice are scarce. So, how can we foster understanding and support within our relationships during these transformative years? In this episode, we dive deep into the intricacies of how hormonal changes impact both relationships and individual well-being. We explore the crucial role of exchanging masculine and feminine energies, the importance of proactive medical dialogues, and the benefits of clear communication. Using analogies like the Argentine tango, we highlight the need for both flexibility and defined roles in relationships. Practical advice on hormone therapy and maintaining vaginal health provides actionable steps. Additionally, listeners will discover valuable resources and programs designed to celebrate the wisdom and opportunities that come with aging. By addressing these topics, this episode aims to empower listeners to navigate midlife changes with confidence and resilience. Dr. Liz Lyster is an OB/GYN medical doctor, best-selling author and speaker, and an expert in perimenopause and menopause. In her private practice in the San Francisco Bay area, she helps women and men in midlife and beyond lose weight, have more energy, increase their motivation and drive, and generally feel great. She graduated from Cornell University, went to medical school at UC Irvine, and got her Masters degree at UCLA in Community Health Education. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 03:46 The Importance of education and communication in navigating menopause. 09:47 The balance of masculine and feminine energies in relationships. 14:24 Dr. Lyster emphasizes the need for women to proactively engage in medical discussions, advising preparation, and persistence in addressing sensitive health topics. 18:24 Launching the Miracle of Menopause online community. 22:59 Understanding testosterone's role in stress and productivity. 35:39 Addressing discomfort during sex with proper estrogen treatment and the importance of openness with partners to enhance intimacy and support. 38:34 How modern environmental stressors and nutrient issues are influencing the onset and experience of menopausal symptoms in women. 41:37 The debate on hormone therapy and bioidentical hormones. 46:09 How hormonal imbalances can affect emotional intimacy and communication within relationships, and the role of different hormones in maintaining well-being. 49:47 Societal perceptions, hormonal symphonies, and aging. Mentioned Go For Great!: Dr. Liz's Guide to Thrive at Every Age (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Go For Great (link) (e-book) Dr. Liz's Easy Guide to Menopause (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love (link) (program) Connect with Dr. Liz Lyster Websites: https://drlizmd.com Facebook: facebook.com/DrLizLyster YouTube: youtube.com/user/thedrlizlyster Instagram: instagram.com/drlizlyster LinkedIn: instagram.com/drlizlyster Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Are you feeling disconnected in your relationship, particularly in the realm of sexual desire? Many couples struggle with mismatches in sexual needs and desire levels, leading to feelings of frustration, guilt, and even rejection. This disconnection can strain relationships, making intimacy seem like an elusive goal instead of a fulfilling part of life. But what if there were ways to bridge that gap and reignite the flame, regardless of societal pressures and personal insecurities? In this episode, we delve deep into the complexities of sexual desire within relationships. We explore the psychological, physiological, and emotional factors contributing to low desire and how cultural expectations shape our intimate lives. We offer practical advice on communicating about sexual mismatches, utilizing mindfulness to enhance connection and the importance of understanding different desire patterns. Whether you're dealing with the impacts of medication, past trauma, or shifting dynamics over time, this conversation provides insights and tools to create a more passionate and connected relationship. Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D. is a Sexologist, Sociologist, Relationship Coach, Author, and International Speaker. A radical force for self-expression, Dr. Jenn has spent the last 20+ years tearing down social stigmas and shame around sexual expression. A celebrated author, Dr. Jenn is the writer of From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women, a self-help guide designed to liberate women and help them reclaim passion and pleasure both in and out of the bedroom. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 05:59 Exploring the complexities of low sexual desire. 14:11 Mismatched desires: Cultivating intention and understanding. 21:12 Mindfulness and sexual desire: Enhancing presence in intimacy. 24:17 Navigating body image concerns and their impact on desire. 27:21 Challenging outdated sexual norms for greater fulfillment. 31:23 The power of flexibility and creativity in sexual experiences. 35:48 Sustaining Long-term relationships through adaptation. 37:38 Using erotic stories and technology to enhance arousal. 41:44 Embracing new erotic concepts and understanding desires. 46:16 Prioritizing communication and vulnerability in relationships. 51:06 The crucial role of mindfulness and dialogue in sexual health. Mentioned 15 Best Audio Erotica Apps and Spicy Stories for Pleasure (link) From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Podcast - Sex Talk with Clint & the Doc Female sexual shame hurts us all | Jennifer Gunsaullus | TEDxPhoenixville (*YouTube link) (video) ERP 334: How to Practice Mindful Intimacy — An Interview With Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus ERP 362: Understanding & Increasing Sexual Desire — An Interview with Dr. Lori Brotto ERP 444: A Major Block To Sexual Desire and Sexual Intimacy In Long-Term Relationship — An Interview With Irene Fehr ERP 287: How To Engage In The Art Of Giving And Receiving: Using The Wheel Of Consent – An Interview With Dr. Betty Martin ERP 314: How To Work Through The Complexities Of Sexual Desire In Relationship — An Interview Martha Kauppi ERP 211: How To Get Rid of Shame to Increase Pleasure In The Bedroom – an Interview with Ian Ferguson Evolve in Love (link) (program) Connect with Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus Websites: drjennsden.com Facebook: facebook.com/jennifer.gunsaullus X: x.com/DrJennsDen YouTube: youtube.com/user/drjennsden LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjennsden Pinterest: pinterest.com/drjennsden Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Breakups—few life events are as universally painful and disorienting. They can make even the strongest among us feel powerless, consumed by obsessive thoughts and emotions. When relationships feel addictive, their end can trigger a withdrawal-like experience, leaving us caught in a whirlwind of grief and longing. But how do we distinguish between healthy attachments and these addictive patterns? How can we navigate the heartache while reclaiming our sense of self and stability? In this episode, we delve deep into the intricacies of love addiction and breakups, offering listeners tangible strategies to handle these challenges. Through enlightening conversations, we discuss how to recognize and manage obsessive post-breakup thoughts, differentiate between healthy and addictive relationship tendencies, and understand the underlying psychological mechanisms at play. By equipping listeners with cognitive and behavioral tools, the episode aims to provide a roadmap for moving forward, emphasizing personal growth and self-awareness as key components of healing. Cortney is a Board-Certified Clinical Psychologist. She received her Ph.D. in Psychology from Texas A&M University in 2006 after completing her internship at McLean Hospital/Harvard Medical School. Cortney is an expert in eating pathology, addictions, self-deception, and cultural diversity in Psychology. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 07:52 Identifying love addiction symptoms and who it affects. 10:50 The process of breaking free from addictive relationships. 14:40 Differentiating between healthy attachment and love addiction. 17:21 The reality of relationship phases and their emotional impact. 20:28 How breakups can trigger obsessive focus on ex-partners. 24:52 Recognizing love addiction in high-functioning individuals. 28:37 How early childhood influences love addiction patterns. 33:07 Dr. Warren's personal journey toward relationship health. 35:26 How therapy and self-awareness help overcome relationship dysfunctions. 40:45 The concept of love as a necessary human experience. 43:57 Strategies for managing emotional distress post-breakup. 47:09 The role of cognitive-behavioral interventions in handling breakup symptoms. Mentioned Letting Go of Your Ex (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) TEDx Talk Honest Liars: The Psychology of Self-Deception (*Youtube) (video) Evolve in Love (*Dr. Jessica Higgins program) (link) Connect with Dr. Cortney Warren Websites: drcortney.com/dr-cortney-warren Facebook: facebook.com/CortneySWarren X: x.com/DrCortneyWarren YouTube: youtube.com/playlist?list=PLQGXD7Ms5oR3GzsPZl3Tjl_9qj71MezHj Instagram: instagram.com/drcortneywarren/?hl=en LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drcortney TikTok: tiktok.com/@drcortneywarren?lang=en Google Scholar: scholar.google.com/citations?user=Ka7bam4AAAAJ&hl=en Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Are you struggling to foster a deeper emotional connection with your partner? Relationship intimacy can be one of the most challenging yet rewarding aspects of a partnership. Many couples find themselves at a crossroads, wondering how to balance the demands of everyday life with the need for emotional and physical closeness. The pressure to maintain intimacy often leaves partners feeling disconnected and frustrated, particularly when unmet needs and unspoken expectations come into play. But what if there was a way to bridge this gap and intentionally build a relationship filled with clarity, connection, and mutual satisfaction? In this episode, we delve into practical strategies for enhancing vulnerability and emotional intimacy within your relationship. We'll explore how learning to meet each other's needs can transform your partnership, offering insights into overcoming common challenges such as gender stereotypes and differing intimacy styles. By embracing a holistic approach to intimacy, you can cultivate deeper connections and foster a more fulfilling, proactive relationship. Whether you're looking to redefine intimacy beyond just sex or seeking ways to communicate more effectively, this episode provides valuable guidance to help you intentionally design a thriving relationship. Pulling from their experiences personally in their 13+ years of marriage and professionally as a licensed counselor and certified coach, Angela and James Mitchell developed Love Intentionally to help couples design, implement, and sustain a conscious relationship rooted in depth and intimacy. Angela has been in the counseling field for over 20 years, working with abuse survivors, children, families, and couples. James is a transformational coach and lifelong entrepreneur, having helped hundreds of clients to live their best lives. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 08:56 Sharing the journey of opening up emotionally and strengthening connection. 12:12 The balance of emotional and physical intimacy to overcome gender stereotypes. 16:29 How a personal retreat evolved into DIY marriage retreats for intentional connection. 18:38 Exploring the importance of flexibility and openness in various forms of intimacy. 21:03 Understanding the holistic approach to intimacy, focusing on both emotional and physical closeness. 25:30 Introducing a key communication strategy called the "story in my head" technique for clearer dialogue. 27:34 The concept of creating a relationship North Star for maintaining a strategic partnership mindset. 31:39 Redefining intimacy beyond sex by exploring diverse intimacy styles. 34:08 The benefits of intentional planning by combining counseling principles with strategic life planning. 38:46 Addressing the challenges of balancing life's priorities while maintaining relationship focus. 43:57 Programs and methods for deepening intimacy. Mentioned ERP 211: How to Get Rid of Shame to Increase Pleasure in the Bedroom – An Interview with Ian Ferguson ERP 089: How to Use Love Languages to Strengthen Connection ERP 090: How To Use Love Languages To Strengthen Connection – Part Two ERP 303: How To Create Safe Conversations — An Interview With Drs. Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt ERP 323: One Of The Most Important Relationship Skills – Being Relational — An Interview With Terry Real Evolve in Love (*Dr. Jessica Higgins program) (link) Connect with Angela and James Mitchell Websites: loveintentionally.com Facebook: facebook.com/loveintentionally.co Instagram: instagram.com/loveintentionally.co Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Have you ever felt like the internal turmoil you're battling is invisible to the rest of the world? Like no one truly understands the gravity of what you're experiencing because you appear calm and composed on the outside? The struggle to manage anxiety while maintaining healthy relationships is a complex and often misunderstood journey. The challenge lies not only in dealing with the anxiety itself but also in finding ways to communicate your needs to those around you effectively. In this episode, we delve deep into the real-life experiences of someone who has navigated the tumultuous waters of anxiety for over seven years. It covers practical tools and resources for managing anxiety, the crucial distinction between everyday stress and anxiety disorders, and the importance of clear and compassionate communication in relationships. From innovative coping strategies and supportive skincare lines to courses designed to aid in the post-therapy journey, this discussion offers a plethora of actionable advice and relatable insights to help listeners better understand and manage their anxiety while nurturing their relationships. Dr. Jeanne Retief is the founder of FIGGI Beauty Skincare and The Anxious Calm E-Learning platform for those seeking to peacefully coexist with their anxiety. After her panic disorder diagnosis, she left behind her career in international human rights to find balance in her new normal. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 05:29 Jeanne Retief's seven-year journey and finding balance. 08:05 The importance of hope and living in the present. 10:51 Introduction to figgy beauty and anxious calm resources. 14:31 Differentiating everyday stress from anxiety disorders. 19:37 Using code words for emotional communication. 22:52 The hidden turmoil of anxiety. 25:01 The reality of panic attacks. 27:32 Anxiety and its misrecognition. 32:18 Struggling with stigmatization and seeking help. 34:45 Relational dynamics and open communication. 38:30 Supporting each other during anxiety. 43:28 Explaining anxiety to children. 45:26 Discovering and embracing high sensitivity. Mentioned Evolve in Love (*Dr. Jessica Higgins program) (link) Connect with Jeanne Retief Websites: figgibeauty.com | docjeanne.com Facebook: facebook.com/p/FIGGI-100075876828370/?paipv=0&eav=AfZJP7s4XjYP5eyIQKhkqlwpntG2pmLZtGWGUf_YVwVHncu6yHjrr1cOqWCuOxrdLAU&_rdr Pinterest: uk.pinterest.com/figgibeauty LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dr-jeanne-retief Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Have you ever found yourself in the heat of an argument, only to later regret words spoken in anger? Or perhaps you have felt a simmering resentment beneath the surface, unable to express it constructively. Anger can be like a storm, sudden and tumultuous. It's a potent emotion that, when mismanaged, can wreak havoc on even the most loving relationships. Anger is often seen as the villain, but beneath it lies a complex tapestry of emotions that, when understood, can lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. In this episode, we delve into strategies for managing anger and improving communication in relationships. You'll learn how to identify the warning signs of anger, take constructive time-outs, and engage in active listening to better understand your partner's perspective. Additionally, we explore the underlying emotions that often fuel anger and discuss how awareness and empathy can help break the cycle of conflict. By understanding and addressing these deeper feelings, you can foster a more harmonious and supportive relationship. Alastair Duhs is an anger management expert. Over the last 30 years, he has taught over 15,000 men and women how to control their anger. He is the founder of The Complete Anger Management System, a transformative coaching program that helps people control their anger in as little as 30 days. Alastair is the host of the Anger Secrets podcast, where he shares insights and strategies for effective anger management. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 07:43 Understanding the root of anger in relationships. 11:39 Developing effective communication strategies. 13:44 Gender differences in expressing emotions. 16:55 Exploring different forms of abuse. 22:35 The impact of emotional immaturity and resentment. 27:43 Recognizing and addressing avoidance in conflicts. 33:34 Short-term strategies for managing anger. 38:51 Long-term strategies for managing anger. 40:18 The role of stress management in healthy relationships. 42:59 Seeking help and the challenges involved. 46:54 Witnessing change through group therapy sessions. Mentioned Breaking The Anger Cycle (free training) (link) ERP 018: How to Deal With Feelings of Anger in Relationship ERP 450: How to Develop a Healthy Relationship with the Emotion of Anger — An Interview with Bronwyn Schweigerdt The 31-Day Kindness Challenge (free guide) (pdf) Connect with Alastair Duhs Websites: angersecrets.com Podcast: angersecrets.com/podcast Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Are you truly being yourself, or are you performing roles shaped by survival mechanisms and societal expectations? This thought-provoking question invites us to pause and reflect on our authenticity, encouraging a journey toward discovering our true selves and aligning our actions with our intrinsic purpose, not just external achievements. In this episode, we explore the journey to discovering one's authentic self and aligning actions with that inner truth. We delve into the difference between traditional relationships, which may be rooted in outdated values, and spiritual relationships that encourage personal growth and genuine emotional expression. By emphasizing self-talk, introspection, and breaking free from past experiences, this conversation aims to guide listeners toward more fulfilled, purposeful living and deep, meaningful connections. As a life and relationship coach since 1995, Dr. Ray Doktor has empowered over 6,000 clients to break through limiting beliefs and overcome life's challenges, significantly enhancing their confidence, self-trust, and happiness. Holding a doctorate in clinical psychology, a master's in counseling psychology, and a bachelor's in human behavior, Dr. Ray combines his extensive expertise with advanced techniques like hypnotherapy, EMDR, NLP, and ancient practices such as qigong and meditation to offer a holistic approach to mental well-being. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 08:27 Discovering authenticity: Aligning actions with true self.  12:15 The impact of survival mechanisms on personal and relational satisfaction.  18:16 Embracing spiritual relationships for sustainable personal growth.  21:01 Healing childhood patterns to enhance relationship dynamics.  23:28 Defining and nurturing a spiritual partnership.  27:47 Balancing masculine and feminine energies within relationships.  31:37 Overcoming gender role limitations in modern relationships.  34:31 Integrating spiritual beliefs into everyday life and relationships.  37:57 The importance of trust and vulnerability in fostering emotional intimacy.  41:23 Techniques for developing deeper connection and self-awareness.  44:19 Moving beyond traditional norms to achieve relational fulfillment.  47:59 Understanding one's needs and expectations in a relationship.  50:45 Authentic relating games: Tools for self-discovery and emotional growth. Mentioned All It Takes Is One (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) All It Takes Is One (book order page) The Seat of the Soul (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 277: How to Cultivate More ‘Authentic Relating' in Relationship – An Interview with Sara Ness The 31-Day Kindness Challenge (free guide) (pdf) Connect with Dr. Ray Doktor Websites: raydoktor.com Facebook: facebook.com/raydoktor YouTube: youtube.com/raydoktor Instagram: instagram.com/drraydoktorcoaching TikTok: tiktok.com/@raydoktor Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Navigating the tumultuous seas of grief and maintaining long-term relationships is no small feat. Whether it's dealing with the loss of a loved one, experiencing the invisible wounds of unacknowledged grief, or simply trying to find a balance between independence and partnership, many find themselves overwhelmed. How does one transition from anger to trust, from isolation to intimacy, while respecting the complexities of their emotions and relational dynamics? In this episode, we'll explore practical strategies and heartfelt insights to help you navigate these challenging waters. Discover how personal spirituality, a scientific mindset, and philosophical wisdom can intertwine to provide guidance and support on your journey. Learn about the life reentry process, understand the concept of invisible losses, and gain valuable advice on shifting perspectives to unlock the potential for fulfilling relationships and personal growth. Through real-life experiences of overcoming profound grief and the transformative power of vulnerability, this episode offers a beacon for those seeking a path from survival to thriving in their emotional and relational lives. Christina Rasmussen is an acclaimed grief educator and bestselling author of Second Firsts (Hay House, 2013), Where Did You Go? (Harper One, 2018), and Invisible Loss (Sounds True, 2024). In 2010, four years after her spouse passed away from Stage 4 colon cancer, she created the Life Reentry process. Christina holds a master's degree in guidance and counseling (University of Durham). She is finishing her master of fine arts degree in painting and drawing (Academy of Art). Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 9:49 Christina's journey from the corporate world to grief author. 14:33 The role of intuition and the universe's support. 19:23 Navigating new relationships after loss. 27:05 How people often remain in survival mode after trauma, not recognizing the potential for a fulfilling life beyond their past hardships. 28:20 Identifying and addressing invisible losses. 37:51 The complexities of balancing financial independence and trust in new relationships. 43:42 Long-term relationship dynamics continuous growth and understanding within marriage. 48:59 The concept of invisible loss: Unseen griefs and their impact on life progress. 50:33 Hope and transformation through life reentry: Shifting perspectives and embracing future possibilities. Mentioned Invisible Loss (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Second Firsts (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Where Did You Go? (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Life Reentry (website) The 31-Day Kindness Challenge (free guide) (pdf) Connect with Christina Rasmussen Websites: christinarasmussen.com Facebook: facebook.com/Secondfirsts X: x.com/Secondfirsts Instagram: instagram.com/christinarasmussen7 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

As the winter season unfolds and the holidays bring their usual whirlwind of activity, it's easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Amid the gift shopping, party planning, and packed schedules, the essence of connection and kindness often gets overshadowed. Yet, this time of year offers a unique opportunity to refocus on the deeper values that make life meaningful. In 2017, a 5-part series titled "How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love" introduced a new take on the traditional Advent calendar, encouraging readers to practice one small act of kindness each day in December. This season, the focus returns to kindness—not just as a gift to others, but as a transformative practice for self-compassion and relationship growth. Research shows that the key to lasting, fulfilling relationships isn't extravagant gestures—it's simple acts of kindness and generosity. Studies reveal that kindness, along with emotional stability, is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in relationships. What's more, giving kindness often benefits the giver even more than the receiver. In this episode, we dive into the power of kindness and how it creates a ripple effect, spreading positivity and inspiring goodwill. We'll explore how kindness strengthens relationships, nurtures emotional well-being, and can be cultivated like a muscle to improve our connections and our lives. Join us as we reflect on how kindness can be the greatest gift we give this holiday season—and beyond. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 06:31 Making a habit of spreading good vibes. 08:08 How kindness benefits both the giver and the receiver significantly. 14:51 Understanding emotional awareness in relationships. 19:26 The impact of gentleness and compassion in communication. 21:26 Navigating intimate dynamics with increased mindfulness. 27:21 How kindness transforms perspectives and priorities. 32:56 The science behind kindness and personal Well-being. 38:41 Kindness as a path to sustainable happiness. 41:40 Strategies for integrating kindness into daily life. Mentioned ERP 125: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love ERP 128: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Two ERP 129: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Three ERP 130: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Four ERP 131: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Five The 31-Day Kindness Challenge (free guide) (pdf) Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Emotional wounds from early relationships often cast long shadows over our adult lives, manifesting in unexpected ways. Whether it's feeling an inexplicable sense of burnout not tied to work, struggling with co-dependency, or recognizing recurring patterns of avoidance and anxiety in relationships, these issues are all too familiar but profoundly challenging. However, the road to healing and understanding these ingrained patterns doesn't have to be walked alone. In this episode, we delve deep into how early family dynamics and childhood experiences shape our emotional and physical well-being as adults. You'll learn how unaddressed attachment issues can trigger stress responses and lead to health problems, the importance of setting boundaries, and the power of emotional attunement in fostering healthier relationships. Additionally, through real-life stories and professional insights, you'll discover strategies to overcome these deep-rooted challenges, nurture personal growth, and ultimately, build more resilient and fulfilling relationships. Jen and Karden are seasoned mind-body practitioners who have experienced chronic pain and fatigue. Jen is an expert in the field of treating psychophysiological disorders and Karden specializes in somatic trauma therapies. Together, they co-founded the esteemed healing collective SOMIA where they have helped thousands of individuals regulate their nervous systems and heal. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:54 Exploring the impact of relational dynamics on healing and nervous system regulation. 18:54 Navigating attachment styles and emotional triggers in collaborative healing. 34:43 Embracing accountability: How self-awareness and validation promote relational healing. 43:02 The importance of setting healthy boundaries within oneself as a means of emotional regulation, particularly in the context of parenting. 49:53 How awareness with others impacts relationships and friendships. 52:49 How subtle childhood experiences can shape adult triggers and unmet needs in relationships. 58:15 The Secret Language of the Body. Mentioned The Secret Language of the Body: Regulate Your Nervous System, Heal Your Body, Free Your Mind ****(*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Jennifer Mann and Karden Rabin Websites: somiainternational.com Instagram: instagram.com/iamjenmann | instagram.com/kardenrabin Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

We've all been there—feeling misunderstood, hurt, or betrayed by those closest to us, which can lead to bottled-up resentment or explosive outbursts. But what if anger wasn't just a destructive force, but a powerful signal pointing us toward deeper healing and understanding? Let's dive into how embracing and channeling our anger can transform our relationships and emotional well-being. In this episode, we explore how viewing emotional experiences as a spectrum can unlock the door to more genuine vulnerability and meaningful connections. Techniques from the attachment EFT framework will guide you in expressing your deepest feelings in constructive ways. We'll also delve into understanding anger as both a primary and secondary emotion, uncovering its roots in betrayal and rejection, and offering practical exercises to help you process and validate your emotions. By the end, you'll have tangible tools and insights to nurture healthier, more empathetic relationships, while fostering continuous personal growth. Bronwyn Schweigerdt is a licensed psychotherapist, podcaster, and anger expert. She has a master's in counseling and another master's in nutrition. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 07:14 Understanding the spectrum of emotional experiences and their impact on relationships. 10:31 Understanding anger: Primary vs. secondary emotions. 12:49 The importance of recognizing and constructively expressing anger before it builds up to an outburst. 16:08 How to discern safe individuals from unsafe ones based on their response to feedback or emotional vulnerability. 21:48 How past betrayals and childhood experiences influence adult emotional responses. 30:42 Exploring the connections between anger, betrayal, and healing in adult relationships. 42:41 Distinguishing personal triggers from external behaviors. 45:04 Strategies for supporting a partner who is expressing anger but may not be using it as an opportunity for self-awareness or growth. 48:45 Exploring self-discovery: Insights from the podcast Angry at the Right Things. Mentioned Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Bronwyn Schweigerdt Websites: angryattherightthings.podbean.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Ever feel like there's a gap between your potential and your reality? Perhaps you sense there's more to your interactions than simply going through the motions, more depth to be uncovered in your personal and professional relationships. Imagine what could be possible if you harnessed the power of resilience and brilliance—attributes that allow you to not just survive but to truly thrive in every interaction. What if you could tap into your innate creativity, intelligence, and confidence while navigating challenges with grit and perseverance? The potential for growth and transformation in your life could be limitless. In this episode, we explore how honing relational skills can radically improve your business, life, and relationships. Discover how a blend of perseverance, creativity, and confidence can unlock new levels of personal success and organizational progress. We'll dive into the science behind emotional alignment and the critical role it plays in leadership and effectiveness. Hear compelling personal stories about mending strained relationships through emotional support and consistency. Learn practical strategies for building stronger connections and fostering environments where everyone can shine. Tune in for insights that can help you unleash your true potential and transform your interactions with others. Simon T. Bailey is a leading expert on the topic of Brilliance. His groundbreaking research, State of Working America Report – Thriving in Resilience and Brilliance, solidifies his insights in his 11th book, Resilience@Work. Bailey left an indelible mark on 2,400-plus organizations in 54 countries and has made a remarkable impact on 120,000 professionals who've experienced his courses in LinkedIn Learning. He was also recognized in Success magazine's Top 25 and leadersHum Top 200 Power List. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 07:43 What defines resilience for working Americans? 10:43 How congruence and alignment enhance leadership influence and effectiveness. 15:10 How do unresolved issues affect future relationships? 18:41 How does conscious awareness serve others? 20:48 Nurturing relationships through mindful connection. 25:48 The importance of sharing personal stories in the healing process 29:50 Learning to manage mental health through meditation, exercise, diet, and sleep (MEDS); using apps for meditation and journaling. 33:29 How prayer can shift attention from personal desires to serving others. Mentioned Resilience @ work: How to Coach Yourself Into a Thriving Future (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shift Your Brilliance: Harness the Power of You, Inc. (Brilliant Living) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Resilience is a Superpower (website) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Simon T. Bailey Websites: brilliantu.co | simontbailey.com Facebook: facebook.com/BrilliantSimonT X: twitter.com/SimonTBailey YouTube: youtube.com/c/SimonTBaileyIntl Instagram: instagram.com/simontbailey LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/simontbailey TikTok: tiktok.com/@simon.t.bailey Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Navigating emotional turbulence in relationships often feels like weathering a storm without an umbrella. When emotions swell and reach a boiling point, they can cloud our judgment, leading to misunderstandings and disconnection with loved ones. But what if anger and emotional flooding could serve as gateways to deeper understanding and genuine connection rather than barriers? In this episode, we delve into the roots and triggers of emotional flooding, offering essential tools and insights to help you manage overwhelming emotions. By exploring concepts like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS), we aim to help you identify the vulnerabilities beneath anger and develop healthy ways to process your emotions. Practical strategies for emotional regulation, curiosity, and effective communication are shared to foster healthier relational dynamics and navigate the complexities of intimacy and personal triggers. Whether you're dealing with stressors from past experiences or facing present-day challenges in your relationships, this episode provides valuable guidance on building a more resilient and emotionally attuned partnership. Gayane Aramyan, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles, specializes in perinatal therapy, guiding women and couples through pregnancy, postpartum, and parenthood. She has additional training in Anger Management, EFT for Couples, Grief Processing, ACT, and IFS. Featured in Women's Health, CNBC, Forbes, The Los Angeles Times, and HuffPost, she empowers clients through life transitions and the challenges of parenthood. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 06:59 How Gayene Aramayan began her journey to helping couples understand each other's evolving selves. 09:05 What is emotional flooding and how does it manifest in relationships? 14:51 How suppressing emotions in childhood lead to struggles with managing feelings in adulthood? 20:59 Strategies to help recognize emotional triggers and core feelings beyond anger. 25:31 How can couples handle strong emotions constructively? 30:51 How is our inner child impacting marriage? 38:57 Identifying and dissecting couples' emotional interaction cycles. 44:04 How does writing transform your thought process? 47:06 Awareness and preparation for perinatal depression and anxiety. 48:29 The importance of identifying your emotional hotspots? Mentioned What is Internal Family Systems? (*IFS Institute website) (link) What is EFT? (*ICEEFT website) (link) ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson Identify The Cycle (free pdf document) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Gayane Aramyan Websites: therapywithgayane.com Instagram: instagram.com/therapywithgayane Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Criticism, defensiveness, and emotional withdrawal can become major roadblocks, making the journey toward a fulfilling relationship seem almost unattainable. How do couples navigate these natural challenges and cultivate a deeper, more enduring connection? In this episode, listeners will discover practical tools and mindful practices intended to transform criticism into connected communication. By exploring specific appreciation techniques, scheduled sharing practices, and innovative exercises like "caring and sharing" sessions, couples can nurture a safer emotional environment. With insights into balancing playfulness with constructive dialogue and creating conflict-free zones, this episode aims to equip partners with the skills needed to cultivate lasting intimacy and emotional security in their relationships. Warren Farrell, PhD, has coached couples and psychologists worldwide in couples' communication for the past 30 years. His popular course is "Role Mate to Soul Mate: The Art and Discipline of Love." Dr. Farrell has been chosen by the Financial Times of London as one of the world's top 100 thought leaders. His books are published in 19 languages, and include The New York Times bestseller Why Men Are the Way They Are, international bestseller The Myth of Male Power, and 2018's The Boy Crisis. His previous book on couples' communication, Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say, was a selection of the Book of the Month Club. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 06:20 From gender awareness to relationship transformation: A journey of advocacy and education. 10:50 Overcoming defensive listening with caring practices. 17:45 The importance of creating a safe environment for couples to handle criticism by regulating their nervous systems. 22:41 Cultivating deep connections through specific appreciation and conflict management. 32:48 How partners can effectively respond to critical comments while prioritizing thoughtful communication. 39:23 Enhancing relationship dynamics through awareness and accountability. 45:58 The importance of play and teasing in strengthening couple dynamics. Mentioned Role Mate to Soul Mate: The Seven Secrets to Lifelong Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say: Destroying Myths, Creating Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Why Men Are the Way They Are: The Male-Female Dynamic (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Myth of Male Power (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Why Men Earn More (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Warren Farell Websites: warrenfarrell.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Infidelity—it's a word that can send shockwaves through even the most stable relationships. In our tech-driven world, the boundaries and expectations surrounding loyalty and commitment seem more convoluted than ever. Without clear communication and defined agreements, even the most well-meaning partners can find themselves entangled in misunderstandings and unanticipated crises. In this episode, we dive deep into the complexity of infidelity within contemporary relationships. We explore the importance of having candid conversations about monogamy and other expectations with your partner, guided by insights from experienced relationship experts. By examining real-life scenarios and discussing therapeutic concepts such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we aim to equip you with practical tools for handling betrayal. Additionally, we delve into the nuanced process of forgiveness, self-compassion, and the potential for growth and transformation that can arise from relationship challenges. Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over thirty years. Through his teaching, consulting, and books, his ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists. Together with his wife Judy Alexander, Dr. Chalmer hosts the podcast “Couples Therapy in Seven Words.” His most recent book is "Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again.” Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 06:41 Dr. Bruce Chalmer's profound exploration of forgiveness and betrayal in relationships. 10:31 How infidelity's evolving definitions complicate relationship expectations. 13:52 What forgiveness truly means: Accepting reality without condoning actions. 23:29 Three steps to forgiveness. 34:01 Struggles with emotional connection due to trauma. 40:53 How attachment system impacts security and emotional responses. 47:15 Communication issues often indicate deeper underlying conflicts. 49:16 Why only one partner can be upset simultaneously. 55:16 Why assigning good or bad is often misleading. Mentioned Betrayal and Forgiveness (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) My Stroke of Insight (*TED Talks link) (video) Crucible Institute by Dr. David Schnarch (website) Intimacy & Desire by Dr. David Schnarch (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Resurrecting Sex by Dr. David Schnarch (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Passionate Marriage by Dr. David Schnarch (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 110: How to Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs in Relationship ERP 015: Do You Have a “Unity” or “Journey” Mindset in Relationship? ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson The Gottman Institute (website) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer Websites: brucechalmer.com | couplestherapyinsevenwords.com Facebook: facebook.com/drbrucechalmer YouTube: youtube.com/user/brucechalmer LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/bruce-chalmer-95ab70305/ Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/couples-therapy-in-seven-words/id1517231158 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Anxiety can seep into our lives like an uninvited guest, disrupting our relationships, altering our moods, and even impacting our physical health. The struggle to recognize and address the roots of this pervasive issue often leaves us feeling overwhelmed and helpless. What if we could reframe our understanding of anxiety, seeing it not as a problem to be suppressed, but as a messenger of deeper, underlying issues? Could this shift in perspective transform not only our personal well-being but also our interpersonal connections? In this episode, we dive deep into the nuances of anxiety, exploring its complex relationship with our bodies, minds, and interactions with others. We discuss practical strategies for setting personal limits to prevent burnout, share insights from groundbreaking research on anxiety and trauma, and introduce step-by-step algorithms that empower you to uncover and heal root causes. You'll discover how integrating biological and psychological knowledge can lead to a more holistic approach to mental health, paving the way for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Tune in to learn how you can turn your symptoms into powerful access points for healing and personal growth. Nicole Cain, ND, MA, is a pioneer in integrative approaches for mental and emotional wellness. With a degree in clinical psychology, training in EMDR, and being licensed as a naturopathic physician in the state of Arizona, her approach to mental health is multidisciplinary: medical, psychological, and holistic. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 08:03 Can anxiety be healed or just managed? 12:34 How medications like SSRIs and Benzodiazepines can impact relationships. 21:45 How trauma triggers persistent protective responses. 25:06 High-functioning individuals often mask internal struggles. 32:17 How understanding anxiety as data can transform healing and relationships. 36:48 How emotional adaptations from trauma protect us but can also cause issues. 40:08 Identifying root causes rather than just treating symptoms. 46:20 Expert guidance for calming the nervous system and optimizing health recovery. 55:49 Reflecting growth in relationships: Navigating subjective feedback and personal reactions. Mentioned Panic Proof: The New Holistic Solution to End Your Anxiety Forever (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson Connect with Dr. Nicole Cain Websites: drnicolecain.com Facebook: facebook.com/DrNicoleCain YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCe-hcFYhi5QMmXcR_kNippQ Instagram: instagram.com/drnicolecain Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/holistic-inner-balance-natural-mental-health-podcast/id1506869161 | drnicolecain.com/podcast Pinterest: pinterest.com/drnicolecain Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Have you ever felt that your sensitivities in a relationship are misunderstood or undervalued? Are you struggling with maintaining sexual desire in a long-term relationship, particularly amidst the chaos and demands of daily life? Often, highly sensitive individuals find it challenging to balance their emotional and physical needs, leading to a decline in intimacy and connection over time. Understanding and addressing these unique sensitivities are essential for nurturing a fulfilling and passionate relationship. In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of how highly sensitive people interact with intimacy and sexuality. We explore various models of sexual desire, emphasize the importance of context and emotional connection, and offer practical solutions for managing overstimulation. With insights on daily practices, de-armoring needs, and creating intentional connection time, this episode provides a holistic approach to reviving sexual desire and intimacy in long-term relationships, ultimately fostering deeper emotional bonds and mutual understanding. Irene Fehr is a Sex & Intimacy Coach and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner who helps couples make love & sex work in a long-term relationship and bring sex and passion into sexless ones. Weaving together somatic coaching, mindfulness, emotional communication work, and experience with the dynamics of highly sensitive women's sexual desire in a long-term relationship, Irene has developed and successfully applied her holistic "Connection Sex" framework to turn her client's relationships around toward more passion, connection, and love. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:24 Irene Fehr's personal journey and insights on highly sensitive people. 09:25 Understanding overstimulation and emotional disconnect in relationships. 13:19 Exploring the differences in sexual desire: Spontaneous vs. Responsive models and the role of high sensitivity. 23:21 How high sensitivity impacts male sexual desire and performance in relationships. 28:31 The importance of creating space for highly sensitive individuals in relationships, especially in sexual dynamics. 38:49 The importance of emotional and physical de-armoring for intimacy in Long-term relationships. 45:21 Balancing sexual desire in relationships: Overcoming expectations and building daily connection. Mentioned Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Highly Sensitive Person Test ERP 211: How to Get Rid of Shame to Increase Pleasure in the Bedroom – An Interview with Ian Ferguson ERP 257: A New Paradigm for Understanding True Sexual Connection and Intimacy – An Interview with Diana Richardson ERP 287: How to Engage in the Art of Giving and Receiving: Using the Wheel of Consent – An Interview with Dr. Betty Martin ERP 314: How to Work Through the Complexities of Sexual Desire in Relationship — An Interview Martha Kauppi Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Irene Fehr Websites: irenefehr.com X: twitter.com/ignitedwoman YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCR09-jgEvU89NH9CwoJ2I1Q LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/irenefehr Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Are you feeling the strain in your long-term relationships, whether it's with a partner or a friend? As time passes, staying engaged and committed can become a challenge, especially amid the demands of daily life, aging, or the shadow of global disruptions like the COVID-19 pandemic. Maintaining vibrant, nurturing connections can sometimes feel like an uphill battle, leaving many wondering how to inject new life and meaning into these cherished bonds. As we grow older, the importance of these relationships only intensifies, impacting our health, happiness, and overall lifespan. So, how do we keep the flame alive and foster relational longevity amid life's inevitable changes? In this episode, we explore innovative and meaningful practices designed to rekindle and sustain the depth of our relationships. From the ritual of vow renewal to annual relationship debriefs you'll discover inspiring ways to continually recommit to your loved ones. Insights from experts discuss the social and health benefits of these rituals, and how they can fortify not just marriages, but friendships and broader social networks. Whether you're looking to enhance your romantic life or invigorate your friendships, this conversation offers practical tools and evidence-based strategies to help you create an enduring and life-affirming connection. Dive in to learn how celebrating milestones, maintaining personal interests, and fostering intentional social ties can significantly elevate the quality of your relationships and your life. Maddy Dychtwald is an internationally acclaimed author, public speaker, and thought leader on longevity, aging, the new retirement, and the ascent of women. She co-founded Age Wave, the world's leader in understanding and addressing the far-reaching impacts of our aging population, and has led numerous acclaimed studies on women and money. Her recently published book, “Ageless Aging: A Woman's Guide to Increasing Healthspan, Brainspan, and Lifespan” was a USA Today bestseller and a Publishers Weekly bestseller. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:05 Maddy Dychtwald's four decades of passion in aging, longevity, and retirement. 10:08 The power of mindset and social connections for a healthier, longer life. 26:55 How couples keep their relationship vibrant through regular communication and annual vow renewals. 38:51 Navigating aging in relationships: Balancing different attitudes towards health and longevity. Mentioned Ageless Aging: A Woman's Guide to Increasing Healthspan, Brainspan, and Lifespan (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 110: How to Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs in Relationship Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Maddy Dychtwald Websites: maddydychtwald.com Facebook: facebook.com/maddy.dychtwald X: twitter.com/Maddy_Dychtwald Instagram: instagram.com/maddydychtwald LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/maddydychtwald TikTok: tiktok.com/@maddy_dychtwald?lang=fil-PH Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Is your relationship running on autopilot, devoid of the meaningful conversations that foster growth and intimacy? Relationships often suffer when we avoid crucial conversations that could foster deeper connections and understanding. The problem is not the lack of desire but rather the missing know-how to navigate these uncharted waters effectively. Imagine a world where curiosity, vulnerability, and intentionality are the cornerstones of your relationship, transforming mundane interactions into meaningful, intimate moments. In this episode, we dive deep into the often-overlooked conversations that can create positive change in relationships. Learn about practical exercises designed to enhance intimacy, tools to build curiosity and engagement, and the importance of creating rituals within daily routines. From mindfulness exercises to reframing thoughts and leveraging curiosity, this discussion illuminates the pathway to a more connected and fulfilling relationship. The goal is to provide you with actionable insights and strategies that can immediately impact how you relate to your partner, helping to turn those awkward silences into moments of genuine connection. Zach Brittle is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Gottman Therapist, and Certified Relational Life Therapist. He is also the author of The Relationship Alphabet and the Marriage Therapy Journal. Laura Heck is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, and Sex Therapist in private practice working exclusively with couples to manage conflict and deepen intimacy and pleasure. Zach and Laura are the co-hosts of the podcast Marriage Therapy Radio where they bring wit and wisdom while tackling the most common complaints every relationship experiences. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:15 How this dynamic duo brings humor and expertise to relationship advice. 12:04 How actively engaging in the process leads to real relationship growth. 21:02 How curiosity can transform relationships and deepen connection. 26:47 Exercises for cultivating vulnerability and emotional intimacy in relationships. 32:38 Building lasting connection through rituals and intentional practices in relationships. 45:37 Aligning values with intentional practices for a more fulfilling relationship. Mentioned Reconnect: A Marriage Counseling Workbook (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Atomic Habits (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Smart Couples Finish Rich (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 420: The Importance of “Turning Towards” in Relationship — An Interview with Laura Heck ERP 396: How to Recognize Unhelpful & Misguided Relationship Advice — An Interview with Zach Brittle ERP 216: What to Know about Loneliness and Relationship ERP 110: How To Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs In Relationship Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Zach Brittle & Laura Heck Websites: marriagetherapyradio.com Facebook: facebook.com/marriagetherapyradio X: twitter.com/forbetter_us Instagram: instagram.com/marriagetherapyradio Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-therapy-radio/id1295458667 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you tired of constantly facing conflict in your relationships?Do you struggle to communicate your needs without resorting to criticism or complaints?In this empowering episode, our dynamic hosts EJ and Tarah, alongside the incredible Dr. Jessica Higgins, embark on a transformative journey through the labyrinth of criticism in relationships. Get ready to unlock the secrets to fostering deep understanding, forging unbreakable connections, and nurturing unwavering support!Discover the WHY behind the often pesky presence of criticism in your most cherished relationships. Explore how criticism can sometimes become a stubborn roadblock on the path to secure, loving connections with your partner. Dr. Jessica Higgins, a true luminary in psychology, will draw you into her own personal odyssey, sharing her profound experiences of conquering criticism and wielding it as a mighty tool for effective communication.Through riveting stories and heartfelt anecdotes, she'll guide you through the powerful process of self-inquiry and self-reflection. You'll uncover the hidden emotions lurking beneath the surface, steering criticism's course. And what's more? Dr. Jessica will empower you with the wisdom to provide feedback that nourishes growth and enhances understanding.Learn more about Dr. Jessica HigginsLink to the Shifting Criticism guide: https://drjessicahiggins.lpages.co/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication/Empowered Relationship Podcast link: https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/Website link: https://drjessicahiggins.com/Our Sponsors:* Get $120 Off Across 4 Boxes, Plus Free Shipping at gobble.com/RELATIONSHIPS!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever wondered why certain patterns seem to repeat in your relationships, leaving you feeling unfulfilled or misunderstood? Many of us carry the hidden scars of unmet childhood needs into our adult partnerships, often without realizing it. These unresolved emotional wounds can create barriers to giving and receiving love, often manifesting as conflicts and struggles in intimacy. Understanding and healing these deep-seated issues is crucial for building healthier, more fulfilling relationships. In this episode, we delve into the profound impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior and relationships. We'll explore how understanding and internalizing these early life influences can help recognize and address the missing emotional elements from one's upbringing. The discussion sheds light on the importance of processing past traumas, engaging in healing conversations, and employing therapeutic techniques like role-playing and letter-writing to reconcile unresolved feelings. By emphasizing the intertwined nature of individual and relational growth, this episode offers practical strategies to help listeners navigate the complexities of maintaining a strong sense of self while fostering fulfilling, intimate relationships. Talia Bombola, The Confidence & Assertiveness Specialist™, is a Certified Psychodynamic, Licensed Psychotherapist, and Relationship Mentor for Women. Her work centers around helping anxious women feel secure by increasing self-worth, confidence, and assertiveness & rewiring beliefs about themselves, men, and relationships. She helps you heal the "not enoughness" that is blocking you from living a life overflowing with satisfaction and self-worth. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:06 Talia's journey from personal development to professional practice. 11:20 The dangers of tying self-worth to external achievements and goals. 14:45 Understanding the importance of developmental stages in shaping a person's sense of identity and self-worth. 18:56 The role of psychodynamic therapy and reparenting in healing childhood wounds. 29:03 Exploring the benefits of reconnecting with parents to address unresolved childhood experiences. 41:38 The importance of maintaining one's individuality and sense of self within relationships, particularly when faced with disapproval or differing opinions from loved ones. 46:57 Balancing closeness and autonomy: Navigating conflict and personal growth in relationships. Mentioned Rewire Your Relationships (online program) Triangular Theory of Love True self and false self (*Wikipedia link) (article) Eriksons Stages of Psychosocial Development (*National Library of Medicine link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Talia Bombola Websites: taliabombola.com Facebook: facebook.com/taliabombola Instagram: instagram.com/taliabombola TikTok: tiktok.com/@taliabombola Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/heal-through-humor/id1657508931 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

If you constantly feel criticized by your partner in your relationship or you're trapped in your own judgement towards them-  this episode is for you. Kate has a powerful conversation with Dr Jessica Higgins, the host of The Empowered Relationship Podcast - and they unpacks what's causing this cycle, how to reprogram this self-defeating behaviour and how to deepen your intimacy through your triggers with vulnerability.  The number one thing that erodes relationships overtime is overt or covert criticism, and in this episode - you'll learn how to turn your critical patterns into an opportunity for growth.     About the Guest: Dr. Jessica Higgins holds two graduate degrees in psychology, two coaching certifications, and over 20 years of experience helping clients achieve successful results.  As the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, she helps people navigate the terrain of long-lasting intimacy more skillfully and mindfully. Through her coaching and online course, clients transform pain into love and connection. Website: https://drjessicahiggins.com/  Podcast: Empowered Relationship Podcast with Dr. Jessica Higgins Free Gift: Download Dr. Jessica's free guide "SHIFTING CRITICISM FOR CONNECTED COMMUNICATION" here https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication   Social media links: https://www.facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationshiphttps://www.linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins/https://www.instagram.com/drjessicahiggins/https://in.pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation/https://twitter.com/DrJessHiggins  AVAILABLE COURSE:  Shifting Criticism Into Connected Communication: https://empoweredrelationship.com/shifting-criticism/    About the Hosts: Catherine Danieli is a love and relationship educator helping women heal fear-based relationship patterns so that they can experience radical self love and healthy, extraordinary romantic relationships. She not only cares about helping women find love but learn the skills and tools to make love last. She is incredibly passionate about conscious relationship and empowering people to create healthy relationships in their lives. She believes healthy relationships are what will heal the world. After overcoming her own painful journey through love addiction and codependency, and seeing so many people in pain over love, she has devoted her life to teaching women how to transform, heal and have new experiences in partnership. She works with women 1:1, leads workshops and retreats as well as couples' intensives.  http://www.CatherineDanieli.com 1:1 Work - https://hello.dubsado.com/public/form/view/5efa0d4b1b74266574a0e48e Waitlist for the Invitation   Kate Harlow is the Owner & Creator of The Unscript'd Woman - a mission to liberate women all over the world to throw away the script and create a life that lights up their own soul. She mentors women to have a healthy, thriving relationship within themselves - so they can experience vibrant, expansive, growth based relationships in their lives. Kate has coached and mentored thousands of people for almost 15 years - facilitating life changing love talks, workshops and retreats globally. She's fiercely committed to helping women break free from the old, outdated, fantasy based paradigm of love - so they can experience real, liberated love in every facet of their lives.   Website:  https://www.theunscriptdwoman.com/   Kenya Luxury Safari Retreat November 16-23, 2024 https://travelsoulsisters.com/the-kenya-experience   The Immersion in Corfu, Greece  April 26- May 3, 2025 https://www.theunscriptdwoman.com/the-immersion   Thanks for listening! It means so much to us that you listened to our podcast! If you would like to continue the conversation with us, head on over to our Facebook group, the New Truth Movement at https://www.facebook.com/groups/209821843509179/ With this podcast, we are building an international community of The New Truth Movement. If you know someone who would benefit from this message or could be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Follow the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can follow the podcast app on your mobile device. Leave us a review We appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value-adding part of your day. Ratings and reviews from our listeners not only help us improve, but also help others find us in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on Apple Podcasts goes a long way! Thank You!

Does the way society has dictated gender roles affect the dynamics in your relationship? Many of us are conditioned from a young age to adhere to certain gender roles, often seeking validation and traits from our partners that we feel we lack within ourselves. This deep-rooted socialization can result in an unhealthy dynamic, impacting the harmony and health of our relationships. How can we reclaim and integrate these vital energies within ourselves to create stronger, more authentic connections? In this episode, we explore how traditional gender conditioning influences our expectations and behaviors in relationships. Through a deeply insightful discussion, this episode offers practical strategies for recognizing and integrating both masculine and feminine energies in everyday life. Reflecting on personal experiences, societal dynamics, and spiritual perspectives, this episode provides tools to foster emotional maturity, authenticity, and harmony in your relationships. Join us to understand the importance of inner balance and discover how to step into a more empowered version of yourself. Dené Logan, AMFT, is a marriage and family therapist, spiritual teacher, and author of Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within. She is cohost of the weekly podcast Cheaper Than Therapy, which gives listeners a behind-the-scenes look at coaching sessions with actual clients, interviews with thought leaders in the field of mental health and wellness, and a bird's-eye view into two therapists hashing out their current life struggles and perspectives on various hot topics. She lives in Los Angeles. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:35 Deńe Logan's journey: From being a spiritual seeker and yoga teacher to becoming a therapist who specializes in couples work. 13:05 Redefining relational success and embracing the spiritual journey in relationships. 23:26 Balancing masculine and feminine energies in modern society. 46:51 Healing relationships through inner child connection and energy awareness. Mentioned Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles" (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dené Logan Websites: denelogan.com Instagram: instagram.com/dene.logan Podcast: denelogan.com/podcast Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Relationships are complex and often fraught with misunderstandings, conflicts, and a sense of disconnection. The journey to nurturing deep, meaningful connections can feel overwhelming, especially when traditional advice falls short. How can we cultivate intimacy and trust in our relationships? What if the answer lies not just in psychology but also in the intriguing world of quantum physics? Imagine approaching your relationships with the same awe, curiosity, and flexibility physicists use to understand the universe. In this episode, we dive into the fascinating interplay between quantum physics and relational skills, offering fresh perspectives that challenge conventional thinking. The discussion explores the delicate art of deep listening, the transformative power of acceptance, and the importance of vulnerability. Learn about the stages of cultivating intimacy and the skills needed at each phase. We also touch on the importance of humility, adaptability, and approaching conflicts with a soft startup rather than with a harsh startup. By integrating these principles, you'll discover new ways to strengthen your connections and pave the path to more fulfilling and resilient relationships. Dr. McMillan is a clinical community psychologist who has 40+ years of experience providing people with tools and insights they can use in their personal relationships, communities, and society at large to heal divisions and find ways to work together. He developed and authored the Sense of Community Theory, the most influential research on the psychological sense of community. Dr. McMillan is also the author of several highly-rated books, including Create Your Own Love Story. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:41 Defining the social glue: Understanding sense of community theory. 9:22 The four elements of a sense of community and their parallel in relationships. 16:35 How principles from quantum physics can inform relationship dynamics. 26:47 How observation influences reality in relationships. 35:52 The transformative power of emotions: From fear and anger to healing and growth. Mentioned Create Your Own Love Story: The Art of Lasting Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Dr. David McMillan Website: drdavidmcmillan.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Navigating the complex terrain of romantic relationships can often feel like walking through a maze with no clear exit in sight. Fear, disguised as stress or anger, can become an invisible barrier that hampers our ability to foster intimate connections and develop relational skills. But what if we understood our deepest fears, attachment styles, and the ways we can reclaim our emotional maturity and personal empowerment within our relationships? Imagine transforming stress and conflict into opportunities for deeper connection and understanding. In this episode, we delve deeply into the complexities of attachment styles and their impact on relationships. Discover how different attachment styles manifest fear and the importance of recognizing these patterns in both yourself and your partner. We discuss practical strategies for managing negative thoughts, the role of nonverbal communication, and the power of physical touch in creating a secure bond. Furthermore, understand how emotional regulation, personal empowerment, and vulnerability can transform relationship dynamics. Charisse Cooke, an attachment-based psychotherapist and author, brings over twenty years of experience in relationship dynamics. With 7000+ clinical hours, including roles in three clinical facilities and private practice in London, she specializes in understanding relationship patterns. Rooted in adult attachment theory, her compassionate approach aims to transform relational dynamics. Through online courses and social media, Charisse educates on fostering secure, authentic connections, empowering individuals to mend relationships, and building emotional resilience. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:00 From fascination to practice: Charisse Cooke's journey in understanding relationships. 8:55 The power of embracing acceptance and curiosity in relationships rather than immediately viewing unexpected situations as problems. 11:55 Balancing active participation and surrender in relationships. 16:08 Navigating fear and control in committed relationships. 22:03 Strategies for avoidant attachments and building secure bonds. 35:48 Cultivating emotional resilience: Balancing immediate and long-term regulation strategies. Mentioned 10 New Behaviours That Will Transform Your Relationship in Under 10 Weeks (course link) ERP 410: What Are the Signs of Emotional Immaturity in Relationship? Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Charisse Cooke Websites: charissecooke.com X: twitter.com/CharisseCooke3 YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCsTpiVcJCs65GYnITSkSAbQ? Instagram: instagram.com/charissecooke LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/charisse-cooke-08157845 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Do you find it difficult to negotiate differing perspectives without sacrificing your own identity or creating deeper rifts? How do we balance our own needs with those of our partner? How do we stay connected even when conflict arises? Relationships can be a delicate balancing act, where the yearning for closeness and the need for autonomy often collide, leaving couples in a state of disconnection and frustration. In this episode, we delve into this very dilemma, exploring the concept of becoming "relationship visionaries," emphasizing the importance of prioritizing the relationship's higher intention over individual desires. Through compelling stories, visual models, and actionable advice, you'll learn how to take turns, communicate effectively, and make decisions that foster intimacy and connection. By embodying these principles, you can navigate conflicts with greater understanding and kindness, ensuring a resilient and deeply satisfying partnership. Join us as we uncover the essence of successful relationships and offer tools to elevate your love life to new heights. Jessica Myers-Adams is a licensed clinical social worker and certified relationship coach and is an author and speaker whose words resonate with authenticity. Her widely acclaimed book, "What To Do When You Do Give a F*ck," has been hailed for its unabashed counsel on breathing life back into waning relationships. Through her coaching initiative, Couples Speak, Jessica has facilitated countless couples in healing fractured ties and revamping the love connection. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 8:29 The common struggle of balancing the desire for intimacy with the need for personal boundaries. 12:17 Mastering effective listening and embracing relationship vision. 24:21 Steps to negotiation, validation, and intimacy in relationships. 37:10 Cultivating curiosity and flexibility in relationship decision-making. 44:33 Explore resources and programs to enhance your relationship skills. Mentioned What to Do When You Do Give a F*CK (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Jessica Myers-Adams Websites: couplesspeak.com Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100084765327582 Instagram: instagram.com/jessicarelationshipvisionary LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/jessica-myers-adams-865136134 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Do you find yourself repeatedly falling into patterns of insecurity, sabotaging your relationships and sense of self-worth? Many of us are haunted by memories from the past that influence our current thoughts, emotions, and sensations—creating a cycle of negativity that feels impossible to break. But there is a way out. Through compassionate self-awareness and targeted self-compassion, you can learn to transform these self-defeating cycles into empowering pathways for growth. In this episode, we delve into practical strategies to help you transform your relationship with yourself and others. We'll explore the powerful STEAM model—sensations, thoughts, emotions, actions, and mentalizing—as a guide to building self-awareness and self-compassion. By reflecting on past patterns and practicing compassionate self-awareness, you'll learn how to separate recurring thoughts and feelings, fostering growth and self-acceptance. Additionally, we'll uncover insights into attachment styles and how they shape your perceptions and interactions, providing you with the tools to improve your sense of worthiness and lovability. Tune in to discover methods for cultivating emotional resilience, empathy, and connection, paving the way for healthier relationships and a more grounded sense of self. Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps is dedicated to helping people understand themselves and what they need to do to become emotionally and psychologically healthy. She is in private practice, hosts a YouTube channel, and is a prolific writer. She has authored The Insecure in Love Workbook, Insecure in Love, and Bouncing Back from Rejection. She also writes the Authentically You blog and the Making Change blog on Psychology Today. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:29 Leslie's passion for helping people and how her career has evolved. 9:37 Understanding attachment theory and its impact on well-being. 13:54 How early experiences influence adult relationships and attachment styles. 22:00 The importance of understanding one's attachment styles and the concept of self-awareness in fostering healthier relationships. 30:55 Differentiating between thoughts and emotions to gain greater self-awareness and break the cycle of insecurity. 34:24 Using steam to break the cycle of insecurity and self-sabotage. 46:49 A comprehensive resource for relationship growth. Mentioned The Insecure in Love Workbook (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Insecure in Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Bouncing Back from Rejection (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Insecure in Love [large print edition] (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Insecure in Love Workbook (*New Harbinger Publications Affiliate link) (book) ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson ERP 261: How to Strengthen Your Relationship from a Polyvagal Perspective – An Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps Websites: drbecker-phelps.com Facebook: facebook.com/DrLeslieBP YouTube: youtube.com/c/LeslieBeckerPhelpsPhD LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/leslie-becker-phelps-ph-d-7221b155 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.