Podcast appearances and mentions of Tyler J Vanderweele

SHOW NOTES: On this show…our goal is to find forgiveness so that we may flourish, embracing healing and growth. We've all heard it before, holding onto a grudge hurts you more than the other person. Anger begets more anger, and forgiveness and love lead to more forgiveness and love. But forgiving, even ourselves, is no easy business. The seeds of hurt run deep and many make the act of forgiveness but never truly let go and move forward. Fortunately, there is a path and a roadmap to freedom. Start by acknowledging the hurt and your feelings about it. Then, try to understand the perspective of the person who hurt you or your capabilities and accountability. The next step is a decision, decide to forgive, letting go of resentment, and the desire for revenge. When you see the clearing, work on rebuilding trust and moving forward with a focus on healing and growth. Pain is inevitable: suffering is optional. Forgiveness is complex which is both frustrating and assuring. I say this because if taken lightly, we are leading lukewarm lives. With great love comes great sorrow. To be hurt deeply you have to feel deeply so in this it is both a blessing and a curse.  I hold no grudges. I can seriously say that. It might be purely selfish but it takes too much energy and focus to hold onto anger. Oh sure, I've been wronged, at least it felt that way but then what… If you can't get the satisfaction of an authentic apology and penance then how do you move forward? You just do because without a satisfactory resolution, it's a choice to move on without it. It's important to understand that people are just people, flawed, imperfect, hopefully evolving and growing at their own rate. Not everyone is going to be on your page, respond as you respond, and do as you do. If you didn't already know that, let me reiterate, move on! Waiting around for this type of utopia is a worthless vigil.  "Passion and a zest for life are not defined by extremes; even in moments of lukewarm feelings, choose to be slow to anger and quick to forgive, embracing a balanced and compassionate approach to living." Dr. Tyler J. VanderWeele shares The Power of Forgiveness found at psychologytoday.com Douglas A. Smith, author of the best-selling book – Happiness: The Art of Living with Peace, Confidence and Joy teaches Mastering the Skills of Forgiveness on his blog. Roger Gabriel walks us through 13 Steps That Lead to Forgiveness found at chopra.com Acknowledge the mistake: Recognize and accept that you made a mistake or hurt yourself or others. Feel the emotions: Allow yourself to feel any guilt, shame, or regret that may arise from the mistake. Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, recognizing that everyone makes mistakes and that you are worthy of forgiveness. Reflect and learn: Reflect on the mistake and consider what you can learn from it to avoid repeating it in the future. Apologize if necessary: If your mistake hurt others, consider apologizing and making amends to those affected. Let go of perfectionism: Accept that you are human and that making mistakes is a natural part of life. Focus on the present: Instead of dwelling on the past, focus on the present moment and how you can move forward in a positive way. Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist about your feelings and experiences to gain perspective and support. Forgiving yourself can be a challenging process, but it is an important step toward healing and moving forward in a positive way. CHALLENGE: Forgiveness is a transformative act that can profoundly impact your well-being. By releasing resentment and anger, you free yourself from emotional burdens, leading to increased mental clarity and peace. Embrace forgiveness to cultivate healthier relationships, promote inner healing, and pave the way for a more fulfilling life. I Know YOU Can Do It!  

What makes for a flourishing life? A five-year longitudinal data collection and research collaboration measures global human flourishing across six areas: happiness and life satisfaction, mental and physical health, meaning and purpose, character and virtue, close social relationships, and material and financial stability. Dr. Tyler J. VanderWeele, professor of epidemiology at Harvard University and director of the Human Flourishing Program, and Byron Johnson, director of the Institute for Studies of Religion and distinguished professor of the social sciences at Baylor University, join the podcast to discuss The Global Flourishing Study.

(00:00-9:35): Brian welcomed guest co-host Steve Coble! Steve is the Pastor of Teaching, Discipleship, and Spiritual Formation at Renewal Church of Chicago. Learn more about Steve at renewalchicago.com (9:35-26:54): Dr. Alan Noble, Associate Professor of English at Oklahoma Baptist University, Cofounder of Christ and Pop Culture, and Leadership Council Member for the AND Campaign, joined Brian and Steve to talk about his new book, “You Are Not Your Own: Belonging to God in an Inhuman World” Learn more about Alan and his book at oalannoble.com and connect with him on Twitter at @TheAlanNoble  (26:54-35:35): Brian and Steve reflected on Tish Harrison Warren's New York Times opinion article, “What I Believe About Life After Death.”  (35:35-41:54): How can we be contributors at church instead of consumers? Brian and Steve talked about this and commented on Tyler J. VanderWeele and Brendan Case's Christianity Today article, “Empty Pews Are an American Public Health Crisis.” (41:54-50:58): Brian and Steve shared pastoral encouragement on doubt.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Interview with Tyler J. VanderWeele, PhD, author of Religious Service Attendance and Deaths Related to Drugs, Alcohol, and Suicide Among US Health Care Professionals

Interview with Tyler J. VanderWeele, PhD, author of Religious Service Attendance and Deaths Related to Drugs, Alcohol, and Suicide Among US Health Care Professionals

Tyler J. VanderWeele, PhD, is the John L. Loeb and Frances Lehman Loeb Professor of Epidemiology at the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health. He shares about his research into being involved with organized spiritual activities, especially going to church, and how it effects the health of children as they grow and mature.