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Talking with friends about different dating and relationship topics, going through the ups and downs of the dating scene and relationships. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

Tony Stephan


    • Feb 16, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
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    • 57 EPISODES


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    54. Dating in my 20s vs 30s

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 16, 2025 43:01


    Went through questions that reflected on how my dating style changed from my 20s to 30s

    Family Dynamics in Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2025 25:14


    Bringing back the pod as a solo venture for now. I'm diving into questions about family dynamics within dating and relationshipsTopics discussed:Family InfluencePartner's FamilyCultural and Traditional ValuesCommunication and BoundariesSupport SystemsChallenges and ResolutionsFuture Aspirations

    52. Snip Snip (Vasectomy)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2022 24:14


    Took in questions from Twitter and friends, I'll answer questions about preparing for the snip, the surgery itself and some post surgery/miscellaneous ones as well --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    51. Meeting friends and family

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 1, 2022 92:16


    David joins the podcast as we shit talk and discuss meeting dates/significant others friends and family members --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    50. Dating in A New City

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2022 84:10


    Sam joins the podcast and talks about her experience of dating in NYC as I prepare my transition to moving to the west coast. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    49. Why Are People Jaded

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2021 73:26


    Setoiyo joins the show and we talk about many things such as why people are jaded, why we aren't that way anymore and just allowing things to happen if they do --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    jaded setoiyo
    48. Taking Accountability

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2021 100:17


    Nitasha joins the pod and we talk about the complexities of taking accountability, how it starts from childhood, leads to our work environment and relationships. We mention the apology languages and how we as people have to be okay with making mistakes and learning from them --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    47. ADHD

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2021 77:11


    Amanda joins the pod and we talk about the complexities that come from having ADHD and how it affects all types of relationships.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    46. COVID Dating

    Play Episode Listen Later May 25, 2021 63:52


    Chris joins the show and we discuss how COVID changed our thoughts of dating, which lead to his relationship during quarantine. His podcast can be found in this link: https://castingfortwo.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    45. F*ck Them Kids/ ChildFree

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2021 95:45


    Cory is back and we dive in to the reasons why we don't want kids and tackle the different stigmas that childfree people hear.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    44. Jealousy + Chaotic Audio

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2021 80:04


    The audio is all over the place with this episode there are times Dave and I end up talking on top of each other either way we talk about jealousy and other random topics. You can also find his music within his Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/davdwayne/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    43. Stay single instead of settling/ Dating as a Marketplace

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2020 91:48


    Andrea returns back to the podcast, we discuss how online dating feels like online shopping, we’re in no rush to settle. Also I was too lazy to put the questions together --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    42. Setting Boundaries

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 25, 2020 69:44


    Adrianna is another Twitter friend/ fellow TV enthusiast to join the podcast and we talk about dating and relationship boundaries. Also search for her podcast: First Gen Views --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    41. Talking Depression

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2020 100:52


    Cory- the first person to be on the podcast 3 times comes back on and we go on a deep dive talk about depression: how we deal with it, talk about it and much more --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    40. Complacency

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 11, 2020 65:53


    I call Savvy and we talk about why she's been complacent in previous relationships, why I've been complacent of my singleness and why people stay complacent in their love lives. Also places to sign petitions and donate for black lives matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    39. Red Flags

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2020 58:04


    I call Brittany up, another friend that I met on Twitter. We speak about the difference between red flags and deal-breakers and we go through some red flags many of us don't notice until it's too late.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    38. How family affect our relationship perspectives

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2020 114:32


    Dom joins the podcast, we talk about how our family and friends affect our dating and relationship perspectives. From a family of divorce and a family or successful marriage to friends who have relationship trouble and dating issues.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    37. When to settle

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2020 111:01


    Everyone has things they want to know before settling into a relationship. Paola and I talk about our need to knows such as wanting kids, communication styles and how considerate someone is --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    36. Perfectionism

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2020 77:21


    Called in Katelyn, another Twitter friend to make it on the podcast and we talk about the dangers of perfectionism in life, dating, and relationships. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    35. The Single Friend

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2020 109:12


    Liz returns to the podcast and we discuss the pros but more cons of being the single friend in a group of couples and even being the person with advice for both coupled and single friends.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    34. Rushing the healing of a break up

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2020 73:41


    Skip returns on the podcast after RTing a tweet I sent out. We talk about the need of therapy, and discuss why people need to enjoy the singleness, get through the healing of a break up and always don't rush in to a relationship. You can find him on all social media platforms -> @skipfrombk --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    Season 3 is coming

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2020 3:04


    Needed to publish something, new episodes are on its way --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    10 years and counting (Trailer)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2019 0:59


    --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    33. Logical + Emotional Daters

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2019 91:59


    Lauren returns to the podcast to talk about how emotional thinkers approach dating, realizing I'm not the logical thinker I thought I was. Taking quizzes, invoking awesome quotes and more... The goal is to use both logic and emotion but we're human and that's never as easy as it sounds. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    32. Codependent/Interdependent Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 3, 2019 118:01


    Chris joins the podcast to talk about his experience with codependent partners,  my reaching 12 years of independence from relationships and we find the middle in interdependent relationships. We used answers from my IG Story question and the article below as our resource for this conversation: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-build-a-relationship-based-on-interdependence-4161249 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    31: Dating Chemistry

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 30, 2019 48:32


    Samantha joins me on the podcast to talk about how people approach dating and how their search for chemistry can be confused with compatibility. Also she has her own pod called Sext in the City which can be found on: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sext-and-the-city/id1451563929 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    30: Self Sabotage

    Play Episode Listen Later May 24, 2019 57:16


    I think everyone has self sabotaged in a relationship or in my case in my singleness. Venus and I talk about the way we and our partners have used this defense mechanism.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    29. Dating/Relationships in Media: The Sequel

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2019 54:05


    Now it's finally Round 2 of Ray's return.  After talking about movies we move over to TV Shows, more movies and books (and their adaptions) and more unrealistic expectations. We talk about love triangles and other typical tropes we find in media.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    28. Dating/Relationships in Media (Part 1) Movie Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2019 51:32


    Ray is back for Round 2.... 1.5. We're both movie nerds so the first half of this two parter focusing on us talking about the unrealistic expectations that are set by movies when it comes to sex, dating and relationships.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    27. Emotionally Unavailable

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2019 91:21


    Spending time in therapy has made me a more self aware person. Men are known to be emotionally unavailable so I decided to call up Savvy and talk about the difficulties of dating someone who is the complete opposite of her empathetic emotionally available self.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    26. Open Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2019 61:09


    25. We’re on a break...from dating

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2019 60:02


    Skip and I talk about the pros of taking a break from dating and relationships. It's time figure yourself out, enjoy your own space, don't be scared of vulnerable and clear that baggage. His social media (Twitter+IG) handle is @skipfrombk --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    24. Friends of the Opposite Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2018 72:17


    As being one of the few male friends to my female friends it’s always interesting how they approach introducing me and how awkward it can be. I’ve been friends with Jessica for about 23 years and what better person to bring on the show. She even asked some compelling questions for when I do get in to a relationship. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    23. Does dating need an end goal?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 4, 2018 64:08


    I wanted to speak about this question because I saw a tweet where someone said that if you've been in a relationship for 2 years and not planning to get married then what are you doing? I decided to ask Pam to come on the show because I officiated her wedding and figured what better person to ask about dating, relationships and even marriage. She also has this awesome podcast where she and her husband Scott (from the LDR episode) talk about fandoms: https://anchor.fm/theshed --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    22. 'Tis the Cuffing Season

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2018 46:40


    Cory comes back on the pod, this time we are both sober. We talk about her getting back to using dating apps to find a cuffer and also that dreaded 2/14 during the breezy season. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    21. Friends with Benefits

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2018 46:27


    Is FWB a kind of relationship? Do you need to be friends beforehand? What are the 4 stages of FWB? Alex and I talk about setting rules early and answering other questions about being in a friends with benefits. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    20. Why do people rush/jump into Relationships?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 23, 2018 54:59


    Dania and I start off year 2 going through Instagram stories and answering why is it that people rush in to relationships. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    19. Dealbreakers

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2018 80:25


    Traveled out to Chicago to drink wine with Cory and talk about dealbreakers such as wanting kids, not liking dogs and how can you not understand our humor. Changes of volume occur in: 10:44 18:14 21:04 49:40 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    18. Evolution of dating culture

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2018 61:09


    I ventured out to Long Island to speak with Jeff about the evolution of dating culture. Venturing to how dating culture changed from when our parents dated to during our college days to the current dating app culture. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    17. Defining short term/long term dating and relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2018 62:57


    Mercedes and I try to define what we consider short and long term dating/relationships. We also get to our experiences and the confusion of communicating one or the other. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    16. Dating in the Social Media era

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2018 62:12


    When do you follow someone you’re getting to know on social media? The complexity of being in a relationship when social media and the outside world plays a factor. Also Michelle asked me how I felt about sharing SM passwords.....

    15. The importance of Communi(Kate)ing

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2018 57:23


    Kate and I discuss the importance of communication when you’re getting to know someone and in relationships. How technology (texting and social media) plays a factor in the beginning. Also knowing that when you’re in a relationship you have to eventually talk about the difficult topics in order to grow as a couple. In order to contribute to the podcast Anchor included a Listener Support tab which can be found on Anchor.fm/sarcastony --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    14. Cheating (Emotional vs Physical)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2018 53:25


    Richard and I discuss an Instagram Story poll I ran where I asked what kind of cheating is worse: emotional or physical. We also discuss our experiences and how values factor into how people see cheating. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    13. Dating Life as a Single Parent

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2018 60:05


    I use the call in feature in Anchor to talk with Cynthia about what dating life is like as a single parent. Theres going to be some minor audio snafus in the episode. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    12. Setting Expectations

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2018 57:37


    Brian and I talk about the range of setting expectations, also where and when to draw the line of your expectations when dating and getting in to a relationship. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    11. Insecurities

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2018 57:41


    Trying the call in feature on Anchor. Jordan and I talk about the vast spectrum of our own insecurities in the dating realm. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    10. Opening up

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2018 93:43


    Made it to double digits. Ray and I talk about how difficult it is to open up your feelings with a significant other. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    9. LDR (Long Distance Relationships)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2018 27:54


    Scott and I talk about our experience with LDRs. You can find his podcast Fanboys in the hood here: https://soundcloud.com/user-322099689 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    8. Avoiding the talk

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2018 76:22


    Jasmin and I talk about avoiding talking about what people are looking for and not defining the relationship. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    7. Dating An Only Child

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2018 61:28


    Jaz and I talk about being only children and how complicated we are. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

    6. Staying friends with an ex

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2018 33:46


    Greg and I talk about the complexity of staying friends with an ex. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarcastony/support

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