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I wanted to create a space where ordinary men can speak their minds and hearts without judgment. Men aren't allowed to express how they feel or think and thus create a generation of men who are unavailable. We need to break this cycle to be better men to ourselves and those around us; we, they deser…

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    Chat with Scott

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2022 122:36


    Recorded a conversation with my friend Scott; we talk about similar life experiences, interracial relationships, and a little bit about mental health. If this seems interesting to you carry on and listen; if not no worries!

    Bittersweet

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2022 31:59


    Here are the links that I've mentioned in the show, check them out! Especially the Bittersweet quiz, let me know what you score on it.10% Happier episode: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/susan-cain-480Susan Cain's TED talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_and_min_kym_the_hidden_power_of_sad_songs_and_rainy_daysBittersweet Quiz: https://susancain.net/bittersweet-quiz-intro/Brene Brown's podcast episodes: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/how-sorrow-and-longing-make-us-whole-part-1-of-2/https://brenebrown.com/podcast/how-sorrow-and-longing-make-us-whole-part-2-of-2/

    Revisit: Gratitude

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2022 38:19


    Here's the website I sort've mentioned in the episode:https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/Here's the podcast episode if you guys want to check it out:https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/podcasts/item/how_to_feel_less_lonely_and_more_connected

    Perfection

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 11, 2022 33:58


    Talking about perfection or rather than accepting our imperfections in life and my ongoing journey navigating through it.

    Therapy Update #7

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2022 40:13


    Here's the link that I used to find my therapist, definitely for listeners in the U.S.U.S.: https://www.psychologytoday.com/usHere are links for any of the international listeners out there! I hope you guys find these helpful. U.K.: https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/AU: https://psychology.org.au/There are definitely resources out there for you, try doing BetterHelp as I did for a couple of months to see if it's right for you. I wish you well on your healing journey, it takes time and space to process so give yourself some credit for taking the first step.

    Monogamous

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2022 33:57


    Sorry had to cough around the 17-minute mark,  I'm human.

    Revisit: Death

    Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2022 36:05


    Revisiting a topic that's been on my mind lately and I just want to talk about because why not?

    Burnout

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2022 36:30


    Burnout is something we all experience, today's episode is me sharing my own experience and how maybe we can get out of feeling burnt out.

    Time

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2022 39:03


    Here's the episode from 10% Happier that got me thinking about time; give it a listen to see if it helps you think about time differently. https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/ashley-whillans-repost-318★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Attachment Styles

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2022 36:35


    Here's some of the stuff I've researched about attachment styles, hope you find them helpful!https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-understand-and-adapt-your-attachment-stylehttps://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles/https://psychcentral.com/health/4-attachment-styles-in-relationships#secure-attachmenthttps://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/attachment-and-adult-relationships.htm★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Productivity

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2022 41:48


    Here's the VICE youtube clip about China's "996" work culture; give it a watch because it was definitely eye-opening for me. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8wWoQ3_F00Hopefully, you give yourself time and space to think about what being productive means to you and what you value in life.★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Therapy Update #6

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2022 43:16


    Here are some helpful links for you guys to hopefully find a therapist in your area!U.S.: https://www.psychologytoday.com/usI've also found some websites for UK and Australia since there's a good population of listeners from those regions as well. U.K.: https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/AU: https://psychology.org.au/Again try other resources like betterhelp, see if that helps you out if you're on budget but try out as many possible ways to improve your mental health as possible because you're worth it!★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Humor

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2022 36:22


    Here's the website that I found from the two guests from the podcast I was listening too. https://www.humorseriously.com/Check it out and take their humor quiz! Apparently, my humor is like a stand-up with a little sprinkle of "sniper". ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Revisit: Purpose

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2022 35:49


    Revisiting an earlier topic from the podcast about purpose, I've learned some new lessons along the way and want to share them with you.

    Courage

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2022 38:36


    Hey ya'll here's the book I was reading during my time off. https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Calling-Fortune-Favors-Brave/dp/0593191676/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1TI83IJKFNQEH&keywords=ryan+holiday&qid=1643003797&sprefix=ryan+holid%2Caps%2C565&sr=8-1hope you guys are all staying safe out there!★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Reflection: 2021

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 27, 2021 34:25


    Merry Christmas, happy holidays, Happy New Year! I hope you all take some time to rest and reflect on this past year. Cheers to hopefully a better year!★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Revisit: Friendship

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2021 33:50


    Revisiting the topic of friendship but focusing more about friendship with the opposite sex and how that can bring more insight than I thought.

    Representation

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2021 33:38


    Representations of our identities is important to us, I think it sends a bigger message than what we believe it to bring. I'll talk about my thoughts on this topic in today's episode.

    Therapy Update #5

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2021 39:00


    If you're interested in finding a therapist this is how I found mine.1) go to: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us2) At the top of the page, click on "Find a Therapist"3) Put in your City/zipcode4) Then search! See what comes up but put on filters to see if you want a therapist who you resonate with.Here's also the book I mentioned in the episode: https://www.amazon.com/Chatter-Voice-Head-Matters-Harness/dp/0525575235/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=chatter+ethan+kross&qid=1636865258&sr=8-1★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Touch

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2021 31:24


    Talking about touch and how it is a human need to want and express it but can we feel safe to express it to other people especially men?

    Anger

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2021 43:50


    Well, this one was an unexpected long episode, hopefully, it was helpful! Though here are some helpful links I've found on my little researching escapade.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/angerhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/200807/what-your-anger-may-be-hidinghttps://www.apa.org/topics/anger/recognize★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Revisit: Masculinity

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2021 42:34


    Here's the article from the website psyche.co that I'm subscribed too, would encourage you to check out more of their material too! https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-be-a-man-who-has-inner-strength-and-emotional-resilienceCNN piece: https://www.cnn.com/videos/tv/2021/04/20/amanpour-mens-mental-health-andrew-reiner-michael-mccarthy.cnnMen's app "Tethr" trying it out personally right now, I'll let you know how it goes. https://www.tethr.men/Men's groups: https://evryman.com/https://mensgroup.com/https://mankindproject.org/Hope these help you and please if you're considering suicide give the national hotline a call: 800-273-8255 for the U.S. I'm not sure in your own country, might need to double check. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Perspective

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2021 31:13


    Here's some links I've found out perspective-taking that could be helpful for you!Remember! Be responsive, not reactive. Look to understand first before being understood.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-power-personal-narrative/201906/the-power-perspective-takinghttps://ampcreative.com/what-is-perspective-taking/#:~:text=It%20has%20been%20defined%20as,and%20emotionally%20to%20the%20situation.%E2%80%9D★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Authentic

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 9, 2021 37:53


    "Be your authentic self." What does that even mean? I'll be sharing my own thoughts about being my authentic self.

    Trauma

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 26, 2021 37:58


    Here's the link to the psychology today page on trauma: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/trauma★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Therapy Update #4

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 12, 2021 33:44


    Here's the link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/usPut in your zip code and find a therapist near you! I had some specific filters on because I wanted someone who can understand what I've experienced in life and would encourage you to do the same. Find a therapist who cares and is willing to be there for you, therapy is a sacred space and you should feel heard and seen in there if you're not you need to find a new therapist. Don't forget to ask if they do a sliding scale to help those who may not be in the best financial situation.Also, check out mental health apps, I personally tried them first to see if I liked it but ended up finding that the time and money was better spent on in-person therapy, it could be different for you but you never know unless you try. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Emotions

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2021 41:25


    RULER - Recognize, Understand, Label, Express, Regulate.Here's the book I mentioned in the episode: https://www.amazon.com/Permission-Feel-Emotional-Intelligence-Well-Being/dp/1250212839/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=permission+to+feel&qid=1624855755&sr=8-1If you ever want to check out the mood meter simply googling "Mood Meter" the pictures will show you the 4 quadrants I mentioned.Here's also a link to the app if you want to download it and track your mood on your phone. https://moodmeterapp.com/★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Values

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 14, 2021 35:23


    Talking about some of my personal values in today's episode in hopes to get you thinking about your own.

    Body

    Play Episode Listen Later May 31, 2021 37:15


    Here are the three articles I've found that could explain a little more on Body Dysmorphia Disorder.1) https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1121529/#:~:text=Men%20with%20body%20dysmorphic%20disorder,or%20shape)%2C%20or%20genitals.&text=The%20preoccupations%20are%20difficult%20to,consume%20many%20hours%20each%20day.2) https://americanaddictioncenters.org/male-eating-disorders/body-dysmorphia3) https://bddfoundation.org/muscle-dysmorphia-body-image-in-men/★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Revisit: Identity

    Play Episode Listen Later May 17, 2021 41:19


    Here's the book that I'm currently reading if you're interested in reading it youself.https://www.amazon.com/Big-Little-Man-Alex-Tizon/dp/1328460142/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=big+little+man&qid=1621231821&sr=8-1First autobiography of an Asian male that I've read, might not be the last tbh.★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

    Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2021 39:31


    Sex is a pretty taboo topic, though I want to share my own thoughts on this topic with this episode.

    Doubt

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2021 39:32


    Sharing my thoughts and experiences with doubt on today's episode, hope you enjoy it!

    Therapy Update #3

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2021 35:11


    This will be a reflection of what I've learned in therapy in the past couple of months and my thoughts on going to therapy for a year.

    Revisit: Race

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 22, 2021 33:36


    Talking about race, this time about Asian Americans and my own experience growing up as one.

    Cannabis

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2021 40:01


    Cannabis has a stigma surrounding it, today I talk about my own experience with it and why I use it.

    Singlehood

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2021 41:51


    Singlehood is a journey to reconnect with ourselves. When was the last time you felt alive?

    Connection

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2021 36:34


    Connections are important to us, especially during times like these, are you feeding that part of yourself with those you care about?

    Reflection: 2020

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 28, 2020 44:20


    The last episode of 2020, I give a little reflection of my own on how the year went and what I've learned from it.

    Aging

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 14, 2020 34:59


    As we age, things start to break down, our mind gets a little slower, it's noticeable, it's scary though on the flip side it has some positives too. I talk about my own thoughts on aging as my birthday gets closer.

    Therapy Update #2

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 30, 2020 51:04


    The second update on my therapy journey, I hope you have some takeaways from my own experiences in therapy.

    Family

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2020 37:50


    Holidays are around the corner, I wanted to take some time to talk about Family and what it means to me.

    Social Media

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2020 43:10


    We need to talk, there's a problem with Social Media. It's not keeping us "connected" but quite the opposite.

    Empathy

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2020 46:46


    Empathy, how it brings connectedness between people and deepens relationships.

    Gratitude

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2020 39:12


    Building upon previous episodes, felt like gratitude is one of those topics to help us during tough times.

    Mindset

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2020 35:05


    Do you have a "fixed" or "growth" mindset? I'll be talking more about that in today's episode.

    Resilience

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 8, 2020 35:38


    Building on last week's episode on Mindfulness, I wanted to talk about resilience and how building that muscle can help get us through tough times.

    Mindfulness

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 24, 2020 40:00


    Today's episode is about mindfulness and my own journey with it, I hope you find this beneficial for yourself to practice mindfulness.

    Therapy: Update #1

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 10, 2020 36:08


    First, updated episode on my journey with therapy. I hope these episodes will normalize therapy and get rid of the stigma behind therapy.

    Revisit: Vulnerability

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2020 36:08


    The first topic we're revisiting and it's about Vulnerability. After some recent revelations, I've decided to talk about Vulnerability again.

    Intention

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 13, 2020 36:07


    What are intentions? This episode I talk about how I used my intentions in some aspects of my life and hopefully got you thinking about yours as well.

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