Better Men Podcast

Recorded a conversation with my friend Scott; we talk about similar life experiences, interracial relationships, and a little bit about mental health. If this seems interesting to you carry on and listen; if not no worries!

Here are the links that I've mentioned in the show, check them out! Especially the Bittersweet quiz, let me know what you score on it.10% Happier episode: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/susan-cain-480Susan Cain's TED talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_and_min_kym_the_hidden_power_of_sad_songs_and_rainy_daysBittersweet Quiz: https://susancain.net/bittersweet-quiz-intro/Brene Brown's podcast episodes: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/how-sorrow-and-longing-make-us-whole-part-1-of-2/https://brenebrown.com/podcast/how-sorrow-and-longing-make-us-whole-part-2-of-2/

Here's the website I sort've mentioned in the episode:https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/Here's the podcast episode if you guys want to check it out:https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/podcasts/item/how_to_feel_less_lonely_and_more_connected

Talking about perfection or rather than accepting our imperfections in life and my ongoing journey navigating through it.

Here's the link that I used to find my therapist, definitely for listeners in the U.S.U.S.: https://www.psychologytoday.com/usHere are links for any of the international listeners out there! I hope you guys find these helpful. U.K.: https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/AU: https://psychology.org.au/There are definitely resources out there for you, try doing BetterHelp as I did for a couple of months to see if it's right for you. I wish you well on your healing journey, it takes time and space to process so give yourself some credit for taking the first step.

Sorry had to cough around the 17-minute mark,  I'm human.

Revisiting a topic that's been on my mind lately and I just want to talk about because why not?

Burnout is something we all experience, today's episode is me sharing my own experience and how maybe we can get out of feeling burnt out.

Here's the episode from 10% Happier that got me thinking about time; give it a listen to see if it helps you think about time differently. https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/ashley-whillans-repost-318★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Here's some of the stuff I've researched about attachment styles, hope you find them helpful!https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-understand-and-adapt-your-attachment-stylehttps://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles/https://psychcentral.com/health/4-attachment-styles-in-relationships#secure-attachmenthttps://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/attachment-and-adult-relationships.htm★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Here's the VICE youtube clip about China's "996" work culture; give it a watch because it was definitely eye-opening for me. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8wWoQ3_F00Hopefully, you give yourself time and space to think about what being productive means to you and what you value in life.★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Here are some helpful links for you guys to hopefully find a therapist in your area!U.S.: https://www.psychologytoday.com/usI've also found some websites for UK and Australia since there's a good population of listeners from those regions as well. U.K.: https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/AU: https://psychology.org.au/Again try other resources like betterhelp, see if that helps you out if you're on budget but try out as many possible ways to improve your mental health as possible because you're worth it!★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Here's the website that I found from the two guests from the podcast I was listening too. https://www.humorseriously.com/Check it out and take their humor quiz! Apparently, my humor is like a stand-up with a little sprinkle of "sniper". ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Revisiting an earlier topic from the podcast about purpose, I've learned some new lessons along the way and want to share them with you.

Hey ya'll here's the book I was reading during my time off. https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Calling-Fortune-Favors-Brave/dp/0593191676/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1TI83IJKFNQEH&keywords=ryan+holiday&qid=1643003797&sprefix=ryan+holid%2Caps%2C565&sr=8-1hope you guys are all staying safe out there!★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Merry Christmas, happy holidays, Happy New Year! I hope you all take some time to rest and reflect on this past year. Cheers to hopefully a better year!★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Revisiting the topic of friendship but focusing more about friendship with the opposite sex and how that can bring more insight than I thought.

Representations of our identities is important to us, I think it sends a bigger message than what we believe it to bring. I'll talk about my thoughts on this topic in today's episode.

If you're interested in finding a therapist this is how I found mine.1) go to: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us2) At the top of the page, click on "Find a Therapist"3) Put in your City/zipcode4) Then search! See what comes up but put on filters to see if you want a therapist who you resonate with.Here's also the book I mentioned in the episode: https://www.amazon.com/Chatter-Voice-Head-Matters-Harness/dp/0525575235/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=chatter+ethan+kross&qid=1636865258&sr=8-1★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Talking about touch and how it is a human need to want and express it but can we feel safe to express it to other people especially men?

Well, this one was an unexpected long episode, hopefully, it was helpful! Though here are some helpful links I've found on my little researching escapade.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/angerhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/200807/what-your-anger-may-be-hidinghttps://www.apa.org/topics/anger/recognize★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Here's the article from the website psyche.co that I'm subscribed too, would encourage you to check out more of their material too! https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-be-a-man-who-has-inner-strength-and-emotional-resilienceCNN piece: https://www.cnn.com/videos/tv/2021/04/20/amanpour-mens-mental-health-andrew-reiner-michael-mccarthy.cnnMen's app "Tethr" trying it out personally right now, I'll let you know how it goes. https://www.tethr.men/Men's groups: https://evryman.com/https://mensgroup.com/https://mankindproject.org/Hope these help you and please if you're considering suicide give the national hotline a call: 800-273-8255 for the U.S. I'm not sure in your own country, might need to double check. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Here's some links I've found out perspective-taking that could be helpful for you!Remember! Be responsive, not reactive. Look to understand first before being understood.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-power-personal-narrative/201906/the-power-perspective-takinghttps://ampcreative.com/what-is-perspective-taking/#:~:text=It%20has%20been%20defined%20as,and%20emotionally%20to%20the%20situation.%E2%80%9D★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

"Be your authentic self." What does that even mean? I'll be sharing my own thoughts about being my authentic self.

Here's the link to the psychology today page on trauma: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/trauma★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Here's the link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/usPut in your zip code and find a therapist near you! I had some specific filters on because I wanted someone who can understand what I've experienced in life and would encourage you to do the same. Find a therapist who cares and is willing to be there for you, therapy is a sacred space and you should feel heard and seen in there if you're not you need to find a new therapist. Don't forget to ask if they do a sliding scale to help those who may not be in the best financial situation.Also, check out mental health apps, I personally tried them first to see if I liked it but ended up finding that the time and money was better spent on in-person therapy, it could be different for you but you never know unless you try. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

RULER - Recognize, Understand, Label, Express, Regulate.Here's the book I mentioned in the episode: https://www.amazon.com/Permission-Feel-Emotional-Intelligence-Well-Being/dp/1250212839/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=permission+to+feel&qid=1624855755&sr=8-1If you ever want to check out the mood meter simply googling "Mood Meter" the pictures will show you the 4 quadrants I mentioned.Here's also a link to the app if you want to download it and track your mood on your phone. https://moodmeterapp.com/★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Talking about some of my personal values in today's episode in hopes to get you thinking about your own.

Here are the three articles I've found that could explain a little more on Body Dysmorphia Disorder.1) https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1121529/#:~:text=Men%20with%20body%20dysmorphic%20disorder,or%20shape)%2C%20or%20genitals.&text=The%20preoccupations%20are%20difficult%20to,consume%20many%20hours%20each%20day.2) https://americanaddictioncenters.org/male-eating-disorders/body-dysmorphia3) https://bddfoundation.org/muscle-dysmorphia-body-image-in-men/★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Here's the book that I'm currently reading if you're interested in reading it youself.https://www.amazon.com/Big-Little-Man-Alex-Tizon/dp/1328460142/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=big+little+man&qid=1621231821&sr=8-1First autobiography of an Asian male that I've read, might not be the last tbh.★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Sex is a pretty taboo topic, though I want to share my own thoughts on this topic with this episode.

Sharing my thoughts and experiences with doubt on today's episode, hope you enjoy it!

This will be a reflection of what I've learned in therapy in the past couple of months and my thoughts on going to therapy for a year.

Talking about race, this time about Asian Americans and my own experience growing up as one.

Cannabis has a stigma surrounding it, today I talk about my own experience with it and why I use it.

Singlehood is a journey to reconnect with ourselves. When was the last time you felt alive?

Connections are important to us, especially during times like these, are you feeding that part of yourself with those you care about?

The last episode of 2020, I give a little reflection of my own on how the year went and what I've learned from it.

As we age, things start to break down, our mind gets a little slower, it's noticeable, it's scary though on the flip side it has some positives too. I talk about my own thoughts on aging as my birthday gets closer.

The second update on my therapy journey, I hope you have some takeaways from my own experiences in therapy.

Holidays are around the corner, I wanted to take some time to talk about Family and what it means to me.

We need to talk, there's a problem with Social Media. It's not keeping us "connected" but quite the opposite.

Empathy, how it brings connectedness between people and deepens relationships.

Building upon previous episodes, felt like gratitude is one of those topics to help us during tough times.

Do you have a "fixed" or "growth" mindset? I'll be talking more about that in today's episode.

Building on last week's episode on Mindfulness, I wanted to talk about resilience and how building that muscle can help get us through tough times.

Today's episode is about mindfulness and my own journey with it, I hope you find this beneficial for yourself to practice mindfulness.

First, updated episode on my journey with therapy. I hope these episodes will normalize therapy and get rid of the stigma behind therapy.

The first topic we're revisiting and it's about Vulnerability. After some recent revelations, I've decided to talk about Vulnerability again.

What are intentions? This episode I talk about how I used my intentions in some aspects of my life and hopefully got you thinking about yours as well.