I Am The Wife: From D-day to OK

Series 4, Episode 4: P and I read out two emails from listeners on two different topics and give our perspectives on both. One is about the ripple effect of infidelity affecting wider family members and in-laws. The other one is about the book "Leave A Cheater, Gain A Life" by Tracy Shorn. We're not experts and don't claim to solve anyone's problems, but speak from our own experiences.

Series 4, Episode 5: This is a topic that has been appearing in both P and I's lives recently. We see it in true crime, infidelity, relationships and communities everywhere. Today we discuss people whose image and reputation on the outside is upstanding, wholesome and full of integrity, yet are using this to hide more sinister and calculated intentions and behaviour, that people will find hard to believe because of the image they paint.

Series 4, Episode 3: In today's episode I share some upsetting news about my husband and P tells us about an experience she had with her ex-husband's ex! A very unexpected, but valubale part of P's healing from betrayal journey.

Series 4, Episode 2: P and I discuss how she's been feeling recently as my life has been consumed by a promotion at work. P recalls a photo she found on her phone and how befriending someone she finds attractive makes her feel.

Series 4, Episode 1: Pand I bring in the new year withe a big dose of healing for me and some welcome validation for her. I talk about what it was like going back to where I got married and P discusses some information that was passed onto her about her ex-husband.

Series 3, Episode 14: I had an emotional experience this week with my husband after we reached a huge transition in our life and P had a realisation about her ex-husband that helped her move on another phase. We also answer a listener question struggling with outbursts of anger.

Series 3, Episode 13: Finding time to talk has been so difficult these last few months. P and I catch upon how we are and where we are with our infidelity journeys.

Series 3, Episode 12: P and I welcome back my dear friend, Richi Watson, who I credit with a vast amount of my healing. He was the ONLY person I knew who could genuinely help me deal with the devastating and catastrophic emotions I was experiencing after d-day and I often say he saved my life. We discuss this in a lot more detail in an episode called Emotional Freedom that can be found in Series 1, Episode 27. On this episode we discuss why it's so hard for the unfatihful person to take responsibility for their actions and the value of honesty. We also mention how you can in touch with Richi and find out more about the amazing work he does. If you like what you hear and want him back, send me your questions for him to answer. www.richiwatson.com

Series 3, Episode 11: P and I have found it difficult to find time to record. We catch up with an issue about my friend crossing boundaries and we ask why should we always have to take the high road.

Series 3, Episode 10: P and I have had a really busy June, so it's been a while since we spoke. P has been on a date that's causing her to think and I read out some questions about how to recover from specific aspects of betrayal sent in by a regular supporter of our Insta and podcast. P and I do our best to answer.

Series 3, Episode 9: P and I discuss the future of our podcast and I respond to being called “toxic” because of my views on infidelity and my refusal to allow unfaithful husbands place the blame on the wife.

Series 3, Episode 8: P finds out her spidey senses were bang on when she discovers some news about her ex-husband. I go on a sweary rant about the tone deafness of how betrayed wives are treated by those who betrayed them.

Series 3, Episode 7: I sympathise with the “can't win” situation my betrayed wife friend is in dealing with her ex-husband's choices and P is still single but has a funny feeling her ex might not be for much longer.

Series 3, Episode 6: I fill P in on the developments with my friends. P realises she's hit a bit stage in her recovery process.

Series 3, Episode 5: P and I talk about the heaviness that is felt when people disappoint you and how crap it is when people are not who you thought they were.

Series 3, Episode 4: Both P and I are feeling better after such a low point last week. I got to speak my truth this week, with my unfaithful friend, and P's depression is lifting.

Series 3, Episode 3: Both P and I have been struggling with life at the moment and how recent occurrences have affected us. My PTSD has taken me out with a vengeance and P's had a string of let downs.

Series 3, Episode 2: Holy shit! This all literally happened over the last 2 weeks and culminated in yesterday being a d-day for my closest friends. Hear about how I helped to bust one of my best friend's affair and how I feel about him cheating on his wife. P has been by my side through it all.

Series 3, Episode 1: We've finally managed to record the first episode of 2024! The sound quality is a bit rubbish and kept cutting out, but we catch up on an emotional breakthrough I had, news of P'a divorce and we discuss whether we would have wanted someone to tell us what was going on.

Series 2, Episode 15: P and I round off the year and discuss where we are now and what we are hoping for the next stage of our journey. I discuss some weird text messages I received which threw me into a spin and P thinks about how she's going to get out there and meet new people.

Series 2, Episode 14: P and I discuss the video I posted on Instagram recently of myself back in 2020 and talk about a post I saw that resonated with me deeply.

Series 2, Episode 13: P and I talk about what we think and feel after watching David Beckham's recent documentary on Netflix, and what was said and not said about his alleged affair with Rebecca Loos.

Series 2, Episode 12: It's been a while! P and I have found time differences and schedules pretty challenging the last few months. We finally get a chance to catch up and chat about what's been going on. P's divorce is almost final and I got a surprising phone call from a friend.

Series 2, Episode 11: P is still feeling the effects of her breakup and pending divorce, while I reflect on a weekend that gave me a real lift.

Series 2, Episode 10: I invited my friend Karen to share her infidelity story. It involves a much younger woman, court cases, stolen money and deceit which almost bankrupted her. But she survived and is here to let us know how she got through it.

Series 2, Episode 9: A lot has happened since P and I last spoke. I thought my husband and I broke up and had an intense break down, while P talks about what's going on in her relationship. Whatever's going on, we're still there for each other and we're still ok.

Series 2, Episode 8: P tells me about an experience she has with a married man this week. I discuss my niggling insecurities and an event which reignited my mama bear rage.

Series 2, Episode 7: After an incredibly stressful week and emotional interaction with my husband, I finally get some validation I have been needing for a very, very long time. P was there to listen and support as always.

Series 2, Episode 6: P has moved for work and is adjusting being away from her daughter and girlfriend. I visit with some old Army friends which brings up conversations about the affair and its effects.

Series 2, Episode 5: I had a big row with my son that triggered a flashback so this week P and I discuss PTSD and how it's effected our life since d-day.

Series 2, Episode 4: Don't worry, everything's fine. P and I have just been dealing with life's ups and downs the last few weeks. My husband's been away saving lives in Turkey and P has made a bold move concerning her job.

Series 2, Episode 3 - apologies in advance for the whining! P and I both had difficult weeks. Emotions all over the place, trying to work through what ends up in front of us. This was was a tough one.

Series 2, Episode 2: P and I are both dealing with meltdowns that accompany trying to move on after infidelity. I am freshly out of a very recent trigger and P is realising how being betrayed is affecting her new relationship.

Series Two, Episode 1: P and I can't believe we're still here recording podcasts. We discuss where we are with our recovery journeys and what topics we have on our list for series 2. If you have any suggestions or anything you'd like to hear, get in touch! Email: thewife@iamthewife.com

Episode 38: P's first date since she split with her husband opened a whole load of emotions for both of us. We talk about this and then have a real laugh about her husband's latest indiscretion.

Episode 37: Not a lot of time this week, so P and I talk about the many emails we have received and how it feels knowing this is happening to so many people. P also leaves us all on a cliff hanger about her life!

Episode 36: P and I reflect on our previous episode and the responses we received. P realises she has some regretful feelings she needs to work through and we discuss the role of remorse in the healing process.

Episode 35: Today we allow P to talk about a part of her life she wanted to be honest and transparent about. We have talked about it a lot between us and understand it may be controversial and provoke mixed reactions, so it's very brave of her to put it out there. I am supporting her every step of the way.

Episode 34: I find an old journal that I started before I wrote my blog. P and I read some of it and reflect on how we both felt back then and how we feel now.

Episode 33: It's exactly four years since my d-day weekend and four years since I've seen my sister, who was here when it all went down. We talk about what it was like for her and how it's affected our family. Plus, P has some uplifting news about her ex you won't want to miss!

Episode 32: P talks about her daughter's birthday party with her ex and we get into a long discussion about an affair that ended in a murder/suicide.

Episode 31: After putting a call out on Instagram, P and I read out and discuss real comments that real betrayed wives have heard since their d-day. The most unhelpful and the most helpful.

Episode 30: I have had an exhausting week of anxiety, emotions and meltdowns and P is reminded not everyone is sympathetic to affairs.

Episode 29: P and I broach a topic we've been avoiding as it's so delicate and difficult. We talk about how it made us feel knowing our husbands had had sex with someone else.

Episode 28: P and I reflect on our episode with Richi last week and how it uncovered feelings I still need to process.

Episode 27: Today is a feature length episode! After saying it multiple times, P and I finally chat with the man who I credit with a huge amount of my healing. He was there in my hour of need and with his skills and knowledge helped me navigate the year after d-day. If you like what you hear, you can follow his work on Facebook http://www.fb.com/freedomrichi

Episode 26: This week P's had some realisations of her own about her ex husband and I try to explain some realisations I had about the ups and downs of my emotions this week. It's often hard to explain properly and I feel like I'm talking too fast!

Episode 25: After our episode last week where we discussed feelings towards the AP, we follow on this week by chatting about the thin line between anger and bitterness.

Episode 24: P fills me in on a new man that appeared in her life and, after some common comments and messages we re-visit the topic of the various feelings felt towards the affair partner.

Episode 23: I have been plagued with nightmares this week, so P and I talk about the permanent unwanted ailments of infidelity, how that makes us feel and how we deal with it.

Episode 22: P and I discuss how I faced my shame head on this week on Instagram and we answer a listener's question about where we get our strength from.