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ในคลิปนี้ คุณไลอ้อน The Library และคุณโส่ย ได้พูดถึงความรู้สึกของจิตใจมนุษย์ โดยแบ่งออกเป็นใจสีต่างๆ จำนวน 13 แบบ (โดยอ้างอิงจากการ์ตูนแม่มดสาวหัวใจกุ๊กกิ๊ก シュガシュガルーン ; Shuga Shuga Rūn สามารถดูรายละเอียดการ์ตูนโดยย่อที่อ้างอิงด้านล่าง)คุณไลอ้อนได้ตกตะกอนและสะท้อนจิตใจมนุษย์ออกมาเป็น 13 รูปแบบ และเบื้องลึกของจิตใจสีนั้นๆ รวมทั้งวิธีพัฒนาจิตใจให้ขึ้นไปในระดับที่สูงขึ้น โดยประกอบด้วย 1) ใจสีเทา (Pity, Dislike) 2) ใจสีเขียวขี้ม้า (Fear) 3) ใจสีเขียว (Friendship) 4) ใจสีเหลือง (Surprise) 5) ใจสีส้ม (Infatuation) 6) ใจสีรุ้ง (Amusement) 7) ใจสีชมพู (Limerence) 8) ใจสีแดง (Passionate Love) 9) ใจสีม่วง (Lust) 10) ใจสีน้ำเงิน (Respect) 11) ใจสีฟ้า (Family) 12) ใจสีดำ (Jelousy, Hate) 13) ใจสีขาว (Unconditional Love)[อ้างอิง: เรื่องย่อ Shuga Shuga Rūn : เรื่องราวของสองเพื่อนรักแม่มด ช็อกโกล่า (จอมแก่น) และ วานิลา (ผู้อ่อนโยน) จากโลกเวทมนตร์ ที่ต้องลงมายังโลกมนุษย์เพื่อแข่งขันเก็บหัวใจ (ความรู้สึก) ของมนุษย์ เพื่อชิงตำแหน่งราชินี (ใครสะสมหัวใจให้ได้มากที่สุด ใครชนะได้เป็นราชินี) โดยต้องเรียนรู้มิตรภาพและความรัก ท่ามกลางภารกิจการแข่งขันที่น่าตื่นเต้นและการเติบโตของหัวใจ)
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Temima Weissmann reads her poem "It Happened," and Dion O'Reilly reads her poem "It Is What It Is."Temima Weissmann is an eighteen-year-old poet from Passaic, NJ. She was the Editor-in-Chief of her high school literary journal Sambatyon, and was awarded The Hersh & Fannie Fluss Memorial Award for Excellence in Hebrew Literature at her high school graduation. Previously published in The Lerhaus, Temima's poetry explores the presence of religion and faith in everyday life.Dion O'Reilly is the author of Sadness of the Apex Predator (Cornerstone 2025), Ghost Dogs (Terrapin Books 2020); and Limerence, a 2025 finalist for the Floating Bridge Chapbook Competition. Her work appears in Cincinnati Review, Rhino, Alaska Quarterly Review, Gulf Coast, The Sun, and Rattle. A podcaster at The Hive Poetry Collective and co-editor of Ent•Trance Journal, she splits her time between California and Washington.
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We explore about “Limerence” as a trauma response.Our website is HERE: System Speak Podcast.You can submit an email to the podcast HERE.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE. Once you are in, you can use a non-Apple device or non-safari browser to join groups HERE. Once you are set up, then the website and app work on any device just fine. We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, movie groups, social events, and classes. Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us!Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general. Content descriptors are generally given in each episode. Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse. Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience. Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity. While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice. Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you. Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency. This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
Today, Kait and JJ dive deep into the world of limerence, breaking down what it really is, how it differs from infatuation and a crush, and offering practical wisdom for anyone struggling to break free from obsessive romantic fantasies! Need 1:1 support for your specific dating situation? Book a coaching call today! https://www.heartofdating.com/coaching Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en Interested in advertising on this show? Learn more here! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/16V_c91F1iIYNZOVvrEinrB9h2dsZq-kZFqYYEDQ4A60/viewform?edit_requested=true . . . . . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, we sit down with author Amanda McCracken to explore the "purity to limerence pipeline"—where religious expectations of "the one" collide with the addictive rush of romantic obsession. We discuss how waiting for a soulmate can inadvertently prime us for a life of chronic longing rather than real connection. Join us as we deconstruct the spiritual and feminist implications of choosing fantasy over the grounded, messy reality of being known.
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We explore about “Limerence” as a trauma response.Our website is HERE: System Speak Podcast.You can submit an email to the podcast HERE.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE. Once you are in, you can use a non-Apple device or non-safari browser to join groups HERE. Once you are set up, then the website and app work on any device just fine. We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, movie groups, social events, and classes. Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us!Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general. Content descriptors are generally given in each episode. Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse. Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience. Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity. While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice. Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you. Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency. This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
In this first episode of the ADHD IS… podcast (yes formerly the Corporate to Calm podcast) All C to C episodes are available across your preferred platforms. In this ADHD Podcast I'm sharing my real, unfiltered experience of living with ADHD as a late-diagnosed woman, ADHD mentor, business owner and parent. We talk about
"She's a ten to me and that's the part that matters." — Paul EastwickIf it's Valentine's Day, we must be talking about love. Paul Eastwick studies attraction and relationships at UC Davis, and his new book Bonded by Evolution takes aim at the "old science" that treated romance like a competitive market where everyone gets assigned a number. The incels, of course, ran with that research to compound their paranoia about the other sex. Eastwick says they got it wrong—and so, with the exception of Paul Eastwick, did most academics.When two people look at the same photograph and make a hot-or-not judgment, Eastwick explains, they only agree about 65% of the time. After they've known the person for months, agreement drops to barely better than a coin flip. So there isn't any universal hierarchy of desirability. What's real is that some people will think you're an 8 and others will think you're a 3—and that quirky disagreement explains most of what happens in the science of attraction. The problem is that dating apps make everything feel like they're in a market, thereby filtering out the "slow burn" people who need time to grow on you. Eastwick's advice, therefore, is forget swiping, reboot your social networks, throw candle lit dinner parties where nobody knows each other. It's more democratic, it takes longer, and it actually works. Happy V day everyone.About the GuestPaul Eastwick is Professor of Psychology at UC Davis, where he studies attraction and close relationships. He is the author of Bonded by Evolution: The New Science of Love and Connection (2026) and co-host of the podcast Love Factually with Eli Finkel.ReferencesConcepts discussed:● The mating market hypothesis treats attraction like an economic exchange where people are assigned desirability values and seek partners at their "level"—an idea Eastwick argues is far more limited than academics have assumed.● Limerence is the academic term for the intense, obsessive early stage of romantic attraction—what we might call infatuation or passion.● The Dunbar number (~150) represents the cognitive limit on stable social relationships—roughly the size of hunter-gatherer groups where our mating psychology evolved.● Pair bonding emerged in human evolution about two million years ago as brain size increased and children required longer periods of intensive parental investment.● Attachment theory describes the deep bonds that form when we trust someone to have our back, celebrate our successes, and support us through difficulty.Evolution and mating:● Human males became smaller relative to females and lost their sharp canines as women selected for men who were safe around babies—"the evolved male is the good caregiver and good dad."● Unlike gorillas with their harem-style mating, humans shifted toward pair bonding because helpless infants with expanding brains needed investment from both parents.● Polyamory research shows that people can form genuine attachment bonds with multiple partners—trust, wellbeing, and attachment levels match or exceed monogamous couples.Also mentioned:● Eli Finkel is Eastwick's co-host on the Love Factually podcast and author of The All-or-Nothing Marriage.● When Harry Met Sally (1989) depicts "one of the most beautiful friendships on screen," according to Eastwick, and holds up well on the friends-to-lovers pathway.● Baz Luhrmann's Romeo + Juliet (1996) was the subject of a recent Love Factually episode—"that MTV style of filmmaking" with Claire Danes and Leonardo DiCaprio.● The incel and manosphere communities have taken 1990s attraction research and "run with it in some strange and unjustified ways."About Keen On AmericaNobody asks more awkward questions than the Anglo-American writer and filmmaker Andrew Keen. In Keen On America, Andrew brings his pointed Transatlantic wit to making sense of the United States—hosting daily interviews about the history and future of this now venerable Republic. With nearly 2,800 episodes since the show launched on TechCrunch in 2010, Keen On America is the most prolific intellectual interview show in the history of podcasting.WebsiteSubstackYouTubeApple PodcastsSpotify
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We explore “Limerence” as a trauma response.Our website is HERE: System Speak Podcast.You can submit an email to the podcast HERE.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE. Once you are in, you can use a non-Apple device or non-safari browser to join groups HERE. Once you are set up, then the website and app work on any device just fine. We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, movie groups, social events, and classes. Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us!Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general. Content descriptors are generally given in each episode. Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse. Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience. Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity. While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice. Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you. Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency. This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
Tom Bellamy's new book, Smitten: Romantic Obsession, the Neuroscience of Limerence, and How to Make Love Last, is out now.
Have you ever found yourself caught in a whirlwind of infatuation, unable to discern between love and obsession? In this conversation, Dr. Alexandra and journalist and author Amanda McCracken discuss limerence, a state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings. Drawing from her compelling new book, When Longing Becomes Your Lover, Amanda shares her personal journey through the complexities of limerence, shedding light on how modern dating practices and social media amplify this intense emotional state. Beyond the macro/cultural factors, you will hear about the individual risk factors that can lead to patterns of limerence, such as painful early experiences and certain neuro-wirings/diagnoses, like ADHD and autism. You will also hear about how Amanda approached healing from her limerent patterns and opened herself up to a healthy, reciprocal intimate partnership.Resources worth mentioning from the episode:When Longing Becomes Your Lover: Breaking from Infatuation, Rejection, and Perfectionism to Find Authentic Love: A True Story of Overcoming Limerence by Amanda McCracken https://bookshop.org/p/books/when-longing-becomes-your-lover-breaking-from-infatuation-rejection-and-perfectionism-to-find-authentic-love-a-true-story-of-overcoming-limerence-a/ef0e30a5bd30e10b?aid=116429&ean=9781546008538&listref=2026-most-anticipated-memoirs-and-essay-collections&next=tLearn more about Amanda McCracken: https://www.amandajmccracken.com/Follow Amanda McCracken on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thelonginglabListen to The Longing Lab Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-longing-lab/id1606581375Dr. Tom Bellamy's Living With Limerence: https://livingwithlimerence.com/about/Reimagining Love episode Crushes, First Love, and Heartbreak: Supporting Teens Through Relationship Milestones with Lisa A. Phillips https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crushes-first-love-and-heartbreak-supporting-teens/id1588419386?i=1000704425459&l=ruContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Access Resources, like quizzes and courses: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's Loving Bravely newsletter: https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Delanie Fischer chats with neuroscientist and author of Smitten, Dr. Tom Bellamy, about limerence. They discuss the evolutionary roots of limerence, why only 50% of the population experiences it, guidance for those amidst infatuation (whether reciprocal or not), when it crosses the line into prolonged limerence, and practical tips for breaking the cycle of romantic obsession. Episode Highlights: Why Romantic Partners May Not Understand Your Feelings Dopamine: The Common Misconception and How It Really Works When Limerence Should Wear Off (And What If It Doesn't?) Prolonged Limerence: Why Eradicating Uncertainty is Key Limerence and Infatuation vs. Delusion and Stalking ____ A quick 5-star rating means a ton! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416 Get a bunch of free Self-Helpless goodies: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/ Ad-free episodes (audio & video) now on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com ____ Related Episodes: Cracking The Code To Behavior Change: Troubleshooting Tiny Barriers That Destroy Big Goals with Molly Maxwell: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24e651e8/cracking-the-code-to-behavior-change-troubleshooting-tiny-barriers-that-destroy-big-goals-with-molly-maxwell 7 Shocking Truths About Codependency And Addiction with Heidi Rain: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24c74079/7-shocking-truths-about-codependency-and-addiction-with-heidi-rain The Dark Side of Fetishization: Representation, Stereotypes, and Origins with Kaila Yu: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/3b8cfe65/the-dark-side-of-fetishization-representation-stereotypes-and-origins-with-kaila-yu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dr Kirk Honda interviews Dr Tom Bellamy about his book on limerence, Smitten: Romantic obsession, the neuroscience of limerence, and how to make love last. February 6, 2026This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com(By The Daily Telegraph. Copyright holders of the image of Madeleine at three are Kate and Gerry McCann. The age-progressed image was commissioned by Scotland Yard from forensic artist Teri Blythe for release to the public. Both images have been widely disseminated by the copyright holders, and have been the subject of significant commentary., Fair use, https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?curid=39861556)
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Why Confronting Your Spouse's Limerence Always Backfires (And What to Do Instead)If you've discovered your spouse is in an affair, your first instinct is likely to confront them, expose the truth, and demand they "wake up." But as many heartbroken spouses discover, this almost always pushes them further away. Why?In today's video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam explain the psychological "brain takeover" known as Limerence. When a spouse is in this state, they aren't just making a bad choice—they are experiencing a chemical addiction similar to OCD.Learn why your efforts to "fix" them are failing and how to shift your strategy to actually save your marriage.
Send us a textCall it a crush, call it new relationship energy, call it infatuation. But if it becomes an addiction, then you can easily become your own drug dealer by retreating into fantasy.That's when it starts to become a very serious problem.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls Social Media Links Bluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.net Threads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsreal Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthor X https://x.com/richardnicholls
Heartbreak can feel like the end of everything, but it's often the beginning of healing. In this raw episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina shares the three biggest heartbreaks of her life and what they taught her about anxious attachment, abandonment wounds, limerence, and self-worth. From childhood trauma to toxic relationships and loss, this episode explores how heartbreak shapes our dating patterns and beliefs about love. If you're struggling with breakups or repeating unhealthy relationship cycles, this episode breaks down why heartbreak hurts so deeply and how healing actually begins. If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE! If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to https://Hungryroot.com/SABRINA and use code SABRINA Head to https://AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code SABRINA to get UP TO $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty Give your skin a rest with clean, clinically tested skincare from OSEA. Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SABRINA at https://OSEAMalibu.com Ready to quit for good? Go to https://quitwithjones.com/SABRINA to start your personalized quitting journey and get 15 percent off with code SABRINA ============================= Chapters 00:00 Heartbreak and Healing Journey 03:10 Childhood Trauma and Attachment 06:25 Emotional Neglect Core Wounds 09:40 How Trauma Shapes Dating Patterns 13:05 Limerence and Anxious Attachment 17:10 Toxic Relationships and Manipulation 21:45 Breakups, Grief, and No Contact 25:30 Losing Yourself in Relationships 29:00 Healing Core Beliefs and Self Worth 32:20 Choosing Emotionally Safe Love Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Limerence is an intense state of romantic preoccupation where someone takes over your thoughts and emotions. It can feel exhilarating and even spark new love. But it can also become unhealthy, especially when the feelings are unrequited, inappropriate, or tied to someone who is unavailable or toxic. In this episode, we explore when limerence becomes a problem, and how to work through it. I am joined once again by Dr. Tom Bellamy, a neuroscientist and honorary Associate Professor at the University of Nottingham. He has published over forty scientific works on neurophysiology. He runs the popular blog Living with Limerence and is author of the new book Smitten: Romantic Obsession, the Neuroscience of Limerence, and How to Make Love Last. Some of the specific topics we explore include: What keeps limerence going, and what do you need to understand before breaking the cycle? How do you shift into a recovery mindset? What practices help interrupt rumination? What should you look for in a therapist if you need help working through limerence? How does living more purposefully protect against limerence? You can check out Tom’s website to learn more about his work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! With Erika Lust, you get more than porn. You get real intimacy. Real stories. Get 45% off all subscription plans at erikalust.com when you use the code JUSTIN. Wrap the ones you love in luxury with Cozy Earth. Discover bedtime bliss with Cozy Earth’s bamboo sheet set and loungewear. Using code JUSTIN to get 40% off your purchase. Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.
The Love, Happiness and Success Podcast With Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
There's a particular kind of emotional stuckness that's hard to explain until you've lived it — the constant thinking about someone, replaying conversations, scanning for meaning in small moments, and slowly realizing that your inner world has begun to revolve around another person. That's the experience we're talking about today. In this episode, psychologist Orly Miller joins me for a thoughtful conversation about limerence vs love, and why intense longing can sometimes cross a line into something that feels more consuming than connecting. We talk about what limerence actually is, how it differs from healthy romantic attachment, and why it can be so difficult to move out of once you're in it. For anyone quietly wondering how to stop limerence, this conversation offers clarity, language, and relief without judgment. As you listen, I invite you to notice how uncertainty, hope, and emotional focus may be shaping your experience of love, and what might shift if more of that energy were returned to you, rather than staying fixed on someone else. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Loving Too Much: When Longing Becomes Painful 01:42 How Limerence Shows Up in Real Life 08:52 What Limerence Is (and What It Isn't) 11:00 Limerence vs Love: Why Healthy Love Moves Forward 17:55 The Three Ways Limerence Can Exist 20:47 Hope and Doubt: What Keeps Limerence Alive 22:34 When Limerence Becomes Unhealthy 33:06 Inside a Limerent Episode 42:52 Why Healing Isn't About the Other Person 44:54 Reclaiming Yourself and Moving Forward When patterns like these start to come into focus, it can bring relief, and also raise questions about what comes next. If this conversation stirred something for you and you'd like thoughtful support while you sort through it, I'd love to invite you to schedule a free consultation with me or a member of my Growing Self team. This is a private, secure space where you'll answer a few simple questions about what's been happening in your relationships and emotional life, and what you'd like to feel differently. From there, we'll help you get matched with the right counselor or coach so you can move forward with clarity, self-trust, and care, instead of staying stuck in patterns that no longer serve you. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast: Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. Working Genius — A powerful assessment that helps entrepreneurs and leaders focus on what they naturally do best. Get 20% off with code LHS at workinggenius.com
Have you ever been unable to stop thinking about someone? They're the first thing on your mind when you wake up and the last before you fall asleep. When they text, you're ecstatic. When they don't, you feel deflated. That experience has a name: limerence. In this episode, we unpack what it is, where it comes from, and why the brain can become so powerfully attached to another person. My guest is Dr. Tom Bellamy, a neuroscientist and honorary Associate Professor at the University of Nottingham. He has published over forty scientific works on neurophysiology. He runs the popular blog Living with Limerence and is author of the new book Smitten: Romantic Obsession, the Neuroscience of Limerence, and How to Make Love Last. Some of the specific topics we explore include: How is limerence different from lust and love? What happens in the brain during limerence? Why does uncertainty fuel romantic obsession? Is modern dating making limerence more common? What emotional needs or life circumstances make someone more vulnerable to limerence? You can check out Tom’s website to learn more about his work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! With Erika Lust, you get more than porn. You get real intimacy. Real stories. Get 45% off all subscription plans at erikalust.com when you use the code JUSTIN. Firmtech’s Tech Ring will help you to track your sexual health–and keep it up. Visit myfirmtech.com/justinlehmiller and use code JUSTIN15 for 15% off your purchase. Head to https://paired.com/JUSTIN and download the #1 app for couples to start maintaining your lasting love today. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.
Dr Kirk Honda continues his lecture on limerence. January 23, 2026This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com(By The Daily Telegraph. Copyright holders of the image of Madeleine at three are Kate and Gerry McCann. The age-progressed image was commissioned by Scotland Yard from forensic artist Teri Blythe for release to the public. Both images have been widely disseminated by the copyright holders, and have been the subject of significant commentary., Fair use, https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?curid=39861556)
First comes lust, then comes limerence... then comes a big fat therapy bill! That's how the saying goes right? There's nothing more messy than the wants of the heart, but how do you decipher lust from love? How do you know if you've been in love? How do you break the cycle of limerence with that one situationship that you KNOW could be great if he'd just commit? These are all the questions answered on this week's episode of Not the Girl Next Door & more.Want an extra dose of tough love? Sign up for the Snail Mail ClubFollow on InstagramFollow on TikTokSubscribe on YouTubeAll Links
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What does “going with the flow” actually mean in dating, and why does it so often lead to situationships, resentment, and self-abandonment? In the final episode of the Clarity Series, Sabrina breaks down how passivity, fear of asking for more, and chasing chemistry over availability keep people stuck in almost-relationships. This episode explores the psychological and nervous system reasons we suppress our needs, tolerate ambiguity, and confuse flexibility with emotional safety. You'll learn the difference between dating with intention versus dating from control or fear, how to identify your real non-negotiables, why situationships persist, and what it actually looks like to stop auditioning for love and start choosing yourself. If you're tired of waiting to be chosen, afraid of being “too much,” or stuck in cycles of undefined connections, this episode gives you the framework to leave self-abandonment behind and date with clarity, confidence, and self-trust. If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code SABRINA to get UP TO $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty Right now, Merit Beauty is offering our listeners their Signature Makeup Bag with your first order at MeritBeauty.com Get started with Stich Fix today at stitchfix.com/sabrina to get $20 off your first order—and they'll waive your styling fee. Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SABRINA at https://www.oneskin.co/SABRINA #oneskinpod ============================= Chapters 00:00 – Why “Going With the Flow” Is Quiet Self-Abandonment 03:20 – The Clarity Series Recap: From Rumination to Intention 06:40 – Why We Suppress Our Needs to Avoid Being Left 10:05 – Situationships: How Ambiguity Keeps You Stuck 14:45 – Chemistry vs Availability (And Why We Choose Wrong) 18:55 – Intention vs Control in Dating 23:30 – Non-Negotiables: What You Actually Walk Away Over 27:10 – Limerence, Fantasy Relationships, and Dopamine Loops 31:45 – What to Leave Behind and What to Bring Into 2026 35:10 – Tool of the Week: Dating With Real Intention Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!The shocking termination of Michigan head coach Sherrone Moore has dominated the headlines, but beneath the sports scandal lies a profound psychological phenomenon: Limerence. In this video, we break down the reports from USA Today and Sports Illustrated to analyze the behavior leading up to Moore's firing. From the alleged years-long affair to the reports of stalking and the "kitchen scissors" incident, we look at these events through the lens of relationship psychology. Was this just a lapse in judgment, or was it the destructive cycle of limerence?What You'll Learn in This Video:The 3 Stages of Limerence: Understanding Infatuation, Crystallization, and Deterioration.Why Good People Make Bad Decisions: How brain chemistry changes during an obsessive affair.The Reality of Stalking in Limerence: Why the person "left behind" often resorts to desperate, unrecognizable behaviors.Hope for Marriage Recovery: Can a marriage survive a public scandal and limerence? (The answer might surprise you).
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. December 16, 2025This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
You were told to chase green flags.You were never taught how some of them hide the biggest red flags of your life.In this episode, Marvyn Harrison pulls five “perfect” green flags apart and shows the shadow side underneath: limerence, trauma bonds, emotional shutdown, manipulation and cruelty dressed up as “being real”. Across romantic relationships, friendships, family and work, Marvyn unpacks:Intense Chemistry From Day OneThe “we could marry right now” energy that feels like destiny.Why you feel deeply connected on almost no information.Limerence: the repeat pattern of getting obsessed, acting like it's real and only understanding it years later.How trauma bonds, nervous system chaos and mirroring can feel like soulmate energy while your body is actually in crisis.Why neurodivergent people often feel this intensity and believe it's “how love is supposed to feel.” People Who Respectfully Hate Everybody But You“They're just honest, they see through everyone” – the seductive packaging.The contempt, gossip and dehumanising that's actually rehearsing how they'll later talk about you.The difference between feedback, sharing and constant judgement.Why “it's us against the world” often means “you're next when the honeymoon ends.”Extreme Independence And Having ‘No Needs'“I'm low maintenance, I'm drama free” as a brand.Emotional shutdown disguised as maturity.The triple problem: they can't ask, can't receive and can't repair.How fear of abandonment sits behind “I don't need anything from anyone.”You end up doing all the emotional labour, while they quietly protect a chaotic inner world they don't want you to see. Total Overlap In Values, Opinions And Tastes“We're literally the same person, we never argue” – why that feels like winning.People-pleasing and mirroring as manipulation: pre-written caring responses, no behavioural change.Why genuine adults have differences, and why tolerating disagreement is actually intimacy.The truth about “peaceful” relationships that never argue: someone gave up bringing their full self.Brutal Honesty With Zero Empathy“I just tell it like it is, I keep it 100” as a personality costume.Cruelty cosplaying as truth.Why timing is a core part of empathy: the film-premiere example where “honesty” is actually violence. How real friends hold their feedback, let the moment pass, then come back with thought, care and context.Why brutal honesty is often laziness and emotional illiteracy, not integrity.Marvyn closes by turning the lens back on you:Why you keep choosing intense chemistry, “low maintenance” partners or brutally honest friends.Why you might secretly want spontaneity, chaos and “life of the party” energy, then demand they calm down once you've got them.How to notice the patterns you recreate, instead of taking internet advice “cold” and blowing up relationships that could be repaired with awareness and conversation. This is not a call to go home and dump everyone.It's a call to see what's really happening underneath your favourite “green flags” and work out whether you're genuinely safe, genuinely seen – or just addicted to the chaos you were never taught to name.Content WarningsThis episode includes discussion of:Trauma bonds and nervous system dysregulationEmotional shutdown and abandonment fearsManipulation, people-pleasing and cruelty in relationships Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. December 10, 2025This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.00:00 Obsessive and abusive love15:33 Are these examples of limerence?Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. December 9, 2025This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. December 8, 2025This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.00:00 Fictional examples of limerence 16:38 Somatic symptomsBecome a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. December 3, 2025 (Intro)This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.00:00 Refining qualifiers & the cycle16:08 Was Kendra displaying limerence? Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence.December 2, 2025This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. December 1, 2025This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.00:00 Intro01:45 intrusive thoughts23:12 Daydreaming & fantasyBecome a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
Have you ever longed for someone who didn't feel the same way? If you have a deep infatuation or an obsessive pull toward a person, you may be experiencing limerence. In this episode, host Gretta is joined by Kati Morton, LMFT, author, public speaker, and creator of a popular mental health YouTube channel, to unpack the emotional complexities of limerence.Discover:The difference between limerence and healthy loveLimerence and how it relates to anxious attachment, BPD, and OCDWhy manifestation won't change a limerent objectSupportive ways to move through limerenceAnd more!If limerence is something you're experiencing, this conversation will help you reclaim your time, your calm, and your peace of mind.Connect With Gretta❤️
CYBER MONDAY OFFER: FREE Somatic Attachment Healing Course for Life! Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course FREE for life when you start your 7-day trial of the All-Access Pass. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-11-29-25&el=podcast Can a Dismissive Avoidant actually become secretly obsessed with you? In this vulnerable episode, Mike opens up about a real-life limerence experience, revealing what Dismissive Avoidant infatuation truly looks like from the inside. If you've ever wondered whether a Dismissive Avoidant is thinking about you more than they let on… this episode will give you clarity, compassion, and surprising insight. Today we're diving into the 6 key signs a Dismissive Avoidant is secretly obsessed with you and why dismissive avoidants can experience deep limerence even when they appear emotionally distant. Mike shares a personal story of unexpected intense infatuation, how unmet needs and repressed traits triggered limerence, and the subtle ways Dismissive Avoidants try to connect without revealing too much. We also break down the psychology of limerence, why it hits so hard, and which attachment style tends to experience celebrity-crush limerence the most. Dismissive Avoidants do experience limerence, often intensely, but privately. Dismissive Avoidant limerence is usually triggered when someone reflects their deeply repressed traits or meets long-standing unmet needs such as acceptance, attunement, and emotional support. Signs of Dismissive Avoidant obsession often show up indirectly (liking all your posts, asking deep questions early, staring from a distance, subtle attempts to “bump into you”). Limerence becomes soothing for Dismissive Avoidants, a way to experience emotional intensity without vulnerability. Dismissive Avoidant women are the most likely group to develop strong celebrity-crush limerence. True connection requires moving from fantasy to authenticity and learning to meet your needs more directly.
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. November 26, 2025 This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.00:00 Intro05:37 The signs of experiencing limerence18:22 The functional impact 28:53 How does limerence disrupt life?46:43 How is it different from a crush?1:06:43 Is it possible to have a healthy relationship?Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. November 25, 2025 This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.00:00 Dr. Kirk's definition of limerence09:14 Exploring terminology of limerence12:30 What types of relationships involve limerence? 21:48 Clarifying the state of limerence24:59 A 'bad' definition31:05 Reacting to TikTok takesBecome a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. November 24, 2025 This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.00:00 What is limerence? 08:1 How did Dr. Kirk get here?22:48 What does the current research and discourse look like?48:02 An exercise for limerenceBecome a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
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In this episode of The Light Inside, we delve into the intricate dynamics of limerence and its connection to attachment trauma. Joined by licensed psychotherapist Leah Marrone, author of Serial Fixer: Breaking Free of the Habit of Solving Other People's Problems, we explore how unresolved attachment imprints shape our behaviors and relationships.Limerence, often mistaken for intense longing, is revealed as a response to old wounds, manifesting as hypervigilance, overfunctioning, and a compulsive need to fix or rescue others. These patterns, while appearing as care, often mask deeper fears of abandonment and a struggle for self-worth.Leah shares insights on how early attachment experiences condition us to regulate anxiety by overcommitting to others' needs, often at the expense of our own well-being. We discuss the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and the power of validation in creating healthy, balanced relationships.Throughout the conversation, we emphasize the need for practitioners and caregivers to recognize their own patterns of overfunctioning and to cultivate self-trust and resilience. By doing so, we can better support others without falling into the trap of serial fixing.Tune in to learn how to navigate these complex dynamics and foster genuine connections that allow for mutual growth and healing."Serial Fixer: Breaking Free of The Habit of Solving Other People's Problems"Timestamps:00:00:00 - Introduction to Limerence and Attachment Trauma00:01:15 - Mint Mobile Advertisement00:02:19 - Limerence and Attachment Patterns00:03:04 - Introduction of Guest: Leah Marrone00:03:42 - Childhood Conditioning and Over-committing00:06:02 - Hyper-responsibility and Nervous System Safety00:08:10 - Emotional Suppression and Connection00:10:39 - Threat and Safety in Emotional Responses00:12:48 - Recognizing Somatic Cues00:15:02 - Differentiating Roles in Relationships00:18:09 - Supporting vs. Solving in Therapy00:21:03 - Invisible Labor and Emotional Interactions00:24:01 - Urgency and Shame in Fixing Behavior00:27:04 - Effective Listening and Present Moment Awareness00:30:19 - Building Resilience and Self-trust00:33:04 - Vulnerability in Guiding Conversations00:36:09 - Holding Space and Managing Tension00:38:46 - Monitoring Unconscious Over-resourcing00:41:15 - Social Stigma and Mental Health00:43:57 - Self-martyrdom in Caregiving Roles00:45:36 - Personal Reflection on Fixing Behavior—CreditsFeatured Guest: Leah MaroneHost: Jeffrey BeseckerExecutive Program Director: Anna GetzProduction Team: Aloft Media GroupMusic: Courtesy of Aloft Media GroupConnect with host Jeffrey Besecker on LinkedIn.Music by Aloft Meade and Jeffrey Besecker“Anxiety Effect” by Aloft Media“Falling Down” written by Aloft Media“Wanting and Waiting” by Aloft Media
It's time for Part II of our deep dive into the world of Limerence. If you felt called out last week, hang in there- we're not done with you yet. Grab a snack and a drink because somehow this one was longer than the last. We'll get through it together! Thanks to this week's sponsors! Cancel your unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster with Rocket Money. Go to http://RocketMoney.com/ladies today. Get a daily detox with Chlorophyll Stick Packs. Nature's Sunshine is offering 20% off your first order plus free shipping. Go to http://naturessunshine.com and use the code LADIES at checkout. https://www.skims.com/ladies If you're 21 or older, go to https://indacloud.co and use code LADIES for 40% off your first order plus free shipping. Go to https://www.amentara.com/go/lt22 and use code LT22 for 22% off your first order. RESOURCES-https://www.attachmentproject.com/love/limerence/ WE'RE GOING ON TOUR - https://www.ladiesandtangents.com/live-show WE'RE ON CAMEO - https://www.cameo.com/ladiesandtangents WE'RE ON PATREON - patreon.com/ladiesandtangents MERCH - https://ladiesandtangents.kingsroadmerch.com/ *NEW* SUBMIT YOUR STORIES - landtstories@gmail.com FOLLOW ALONG WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA - @ladiesandtangents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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We're diving into our own psyche's again in this episode to see how this weeks favorite tiktok word relates to us. We're opening up our past and present personal lives to the internet once again in the name of *healing.* Limerence sounds cute, sweet, bright and sunny but that too happens to just be a made up story in my head, it's actually a mental trap that far too many of us fall into. Come back next week when we figure out how to get out and gather tools to prevent us from going down the rabbit hole again! THANKS, SPONSORS- Get better sleep, hair and skin with Blissy and use LADIESPOD to get an additional 30% off at http://blissy.com/LADIESPOD Get your first month on us when you head to http://acornsearly.com/ladies or download the Acorns Early app. Head to http://moshlife.com/LADIES to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on the Best sellers Trial Pack or the NEW plant-based trial pack. Download Cash App Today: https://click.cash.app/ui6m/0hxmsp1v #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. RESOURCES- https://www.attachmentproject.com/love/limerence/ WE'RE GOING ON TOUR - https://www.ladiesandtangents.com/live-show WE'RE ON CAMEO - https://www.cameo.com/ladiesandtangents WE'RE ON PATREON - patreon.com/ladiesandtangents MERCH - https://ladiesandtangents.kingsroadmerch.com/ *NEW* SUBMIT YOUR STORIES - landtstories@gmail.com FOLLOW ALONG WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA - @ladiesandtangents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Dr Jacob Ambrose is an ADHD expert and clinical psychologist with a vast knowledge of ADHD. With years of experience specialising in ADHD, Dr Jay understands the complex struggles of ADHD and he's here to help you understand yourself. 00:00 Trailer 02:27 How ADHD affects self esteem 04:40 Jacob's mission 08:19 The emotional consequences of overwhelm 12:17 The shame of ADHD 15:04 How women internalise shame 17:10 Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria 25:08 Tiimo advert 26:43 Does an ADHD diagnosis help 28:48 How ADHD people attach to others 30:35 Unmasking in romantic relationships 32:38 RSD in relationships 36:14 Obsessing over someone (Limerence) 41:47 Differences between female and male ADHD 43:13 Signs of an anxious attachment style 49:09 Common ADHD stereotypes 51:22 Jacob's ADHD item 53:56 Audience questions 59:29 A letter to my younger self Find Dr Jay on Instagram
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In this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating, and often painful world of limerence, that intense, all consuming infatuation that feels like love but can actually be emotional obsession. Discover what limerence really is, how it differs from healthy love, and why so many people find themselves trapped in these powerful emotional cycles. I'll share the signs and symptoms of limerence, how it develops, and practical strategies to heal from obsessive love and reclaim your emotional balance. Whether you're currently experiencing limerence, recovering from a one sided relationship, or simply curious about the psychology of attraction, this episode will help you understand your emotions on a deeper level. Join me as we talk about self-awareness, emotional healing, and how to move from attachment and fantasy to authentic love and connection. Contact me https://www.melissaoatman.com Free Guided Meditation for Healing Grief https://mailchi.mp/f9c87a649084/guided-meditation-for-healing-grief Purchase my book Beautifully Broken: https://www.audiobooks.com/audiobook/beautifully-broken-the-spiritual-womans-guide-to-thriving-not-simply-surviving-after-a-breakup-or-divorce/459896 https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/beautifully-broken-melissa-oatman/1136174371?ean=9781989579060 https://www.amazon.com/Beautifully-Broken-Spiritual-Thriving-Surviving/dp/198957906X https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50977070-beautifully-broken Follow me on social media: tiktok.com/@melissaoatman https://www.facebook.com/groups/awakenyourhearttopurpose/ https://www.facebook.com/reikiwithlissa/ http://www.instagram.com/melissaoatman222 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQPtU9hPeEWjbHr62LxuEXA https://www.twitter.com/MelissaOatman Your energetic gifts are very much appreciated! Donations can be made to my channel through Venmo or PayPal, Venmo @Melissa-Ann-161 PayPal: melissaoatman77@gmail.com
Why does falling for someone so often feel like a painful obsession? In episode 144 of Overthink, Ellie and David discuss the unspoken difficulties of limerence, or the state of falling in love. What is the difference between love and limerence, and why do we confuse them so frequently? How does social media fuel limerent reactions? And is limerence inherently selfish? They discuss how limerence can be formative to our personal identities, whether a limerent object has ethical obligations to those who obsess over them, and how modern dating norms might direct us all towards limerence rather than love. In the Substack bonus segment, your hosts get into the relationship between self-worth and limerence and whether it's possible to have reciprocal limerence.Works Discussed:Tom Bellamy, Smitten: Romantic obsession, the neuroscience of limerence, and how to make love lastStendhal, De l'amourDorothy Tennov, Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in LoveCrazy Ex-Girlfriend (2015-2019)Enjoy our work? Support Overthink via tax-deductible donation: https://www.givecampus.com/fj0w3vJoin our Substack for ad-free versions of both audio and video episodes, extended episodes, exclusive live chats, and more: https://overthinkpod.substack.com/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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