Podcasts about Limerence

Welcome to Immersion, you have reached Strata 9Lust and Loins (Limerence)Limerence is a uniquely human phenomenon that new lovers, potential lovers, and sometimes even strangers, may experience. Limerence is a state of mind (not solely romantic) that typically includes persistent, sometimes depressing thoughts, and a deep yearning for the object of one's affection. It can be easily confused with love. Often human beings can find themselves addicted to these obsessive feelings and can easily be overwhelmed by adoration for another human being. Limerence cannot be turned on and off like a machine. It can come from nowhere and disappear without logic. The experience of this sensory state is proven to be inspiring, connective, unifying, disruptive, and even excruciating, yet it continues to mark the human trajectory of existence through time and place.'Good *dundeal Mr. Renyke Man.' said Flex excitedly.''We leave at dark, mind,' said Shabra. 'Take some time for food and rest. You might need your strength. I will get food.' Renyke watched her take weapons from the vehicle, knives and a small crossbow.The group is in an enclosure flanked by half-deconstructed concrete walls. There are large metal containers lying around with shrubbery and foliage trying to make a stand against the manmade environment. Tumbleweed played in the soft wind searching for a home.Maybeline scurried around searching for food and sniffing the air. She could smell something sinister, the scent of danger, as Renyke studied her movements.Flex kicked some redundant ashes by an upturned metal water tank. 'I can make us a fire,' he said, taking a pocket full of old rusty lighters and tinder from one of his huge pockets. His brightly coloured patchwork overcoat seemed to store an abundance of useful things. There were small pieces of mechanical paraphernalia, vintage innards from antique items, little motors, motherboards and old PC parts. There were secret pockets and compartments for weapons and a waterproof lining held everything together.‘Do you take this stuff everywhere you go?' asked Renyke.‘Yes sir-ee, some days *man'dun gotta make *swapsie-trade. .And other days, well, there are enemies and they kill for the fun of it. Everything has a use in the Zones brother. You learn that quick here.Maybeline found a water flow from a pipe tucked in the grass and took a long drink.Renyke began to pace, 'Shabra is taking her time,' he said, standing near the opening of the enclosure.‘She'll come, she is huntin' tis all my friend. You got attached already?'Renyke stared at Flex and mumbled, ‘We need that ride.'Then he checked POS whose signal was intermittent.'.......What are the signs of being attracted to somebody?'POS took a moment to compile a response……..……Do you mean human responses?'……yes, yes, of course ‘humans', Renyke replied.'POS continued…..nervousness around the subject of the attraction,…..extended thoughts about the subject,…..obsessive thoughts beyond normal curiosity about the subject,…..insomnia due to obsessive considerations of the subject,…..anxiety over possible outcomes of imaginary scenarios involving the subject,…..a desire to touch the intimate parts of the subject,…..dreams about the subject,…..fantasy building scenarios between the human and the subject,…..being overly concerned about….‘Enough,' said Renyke, irritated with the voice in his head.Finally Shabra returned.She carried two dead rabbits in her belt and washed a wide glinting blade under the water that flowed from the broken pipe.‘This water's good. Your rat is a good scout for provisions. We can fill up the tanks and flask before we go.'The new acquaintances are relaxed and considering preparation for the short but dangerous car journey to the *Edge.Shabra checked the vehicle mechanics, the doors and metal buttresses worked in perfect synch and there were six exhausts. She filled the water kegs and put them in the boot.‘Where is the vehicle from?' Asked Renyke.‘I built it,' answered Shabra, 'from scratch. 'Well, I had several wrecks and put my beaut together.Me n her, we like lovers. She drives me crazy with her vibes.'Shabra looked at Renyke parting her lips into a wry smile. They were oily from the fat of the meal.She winked through long dark lashes.Renyke felt a thump in his heart, a deep penetrating surge of something enthralling.Suddenly there is a distant high-pitched sound, like a siren or swarm. It seems to be getting louder when Flex and Shabra grab Renyke, throwing him into the vehicle.Seconds later they were surrounded by a marauding mass of screaming children. Some were made of broken body parts with human faces, others were small walking babies with burnt skin. Some had extra limbs and even two heads. They were crying and screeching, banging toy drums and chanting verses.One of them seemed to be the leader and he leapt onto Shabra's bonnet. The noise was deafening.  to be continued© 2025 Sarnia de la Mare

On this week's episode, Christine and Shelby dive into the dating scene and get into all the new terms and conditions of limerence, love and figuring out what are we? We get into the different types of daters and how they approach dating and relationships as well as the different stages of dating. Are you being love-bombed?? Christine and Shelby also discuss limerence and where that fits into the romantic landscape, and of course, the astrology of it all!In Relatable Content, Christine has a spicy emergency situation, the birth chart of the eternally sexy Lenny Kravitz, and on a more serious note, the continued effects of the United States' Pluto Return. We're talking protests and boycotts. As usual, Christine and Shelby share their Co-Star Chronicles and check in for the week! Join us for a fun show!For questions, comments, and chart readings, email us at suchapiscespod@gmail.com. And don't forget to follow us on Instagram and TikTok!

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ (Ad)Damn, I love these reddit posts!That's actually a pretty lighthearted way to start such a heavy topic.But here's what those funny posts don't show you — the dark side of limerence.Because this isn't just a quirky crush or intense attraction.No, Limerence is actually a form of love addiction.And it can cause real emotional pain, self-abandonment, and obsession.So today, we're breaking it down. I created a roadmap for that. We'll start with the most subtle sign No 1…and end with the biggest — but also the most invisible No 10.And most importantly — throughout the signs, you'll also see how to recognize limerence, understand it, and begin to finally let it go. ► Links and Resources:Limerence & CPTSD Episode: https://youtu.be/LZ-IFevq90o?si=2UNR7TxqDv2PFpiaLimerence & Self-Regulation Episode: https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=vTLRifpT75jQXmvgHypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=LrXDwC8UDowCL_3VAnxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=HJYM3_IGuWfsAFtcMaladaptive Daydreaming Article: https://www.adhdcentre.co.uk/adhd-maladaptive-daydreaming-common-signs-of-adhd/Limerent Object Article: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence⁠► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:28 Limerence04:56 True Love07:33 Sign 1: You Feel High When They Text… And Crash When They Don't.08:52 Sign 2: You Fantasize More Than You Interact.10:06 Sign 3: You Ignore Red Flags Because The Fantasy Feels Too Good.11:29 Sign 4: You Overanalyze Everything They Say/Do.12:49 Sign 5: You Base Your Worth On Their Interest Or Attention. 14:27 Sign 6: You Feel Urgent Fear Of Losing Them - Even If You Barely Know Them.15:51 Sign 7: You Confuse Longing With Love.17:32 Sign 8: You Hold Onto Breadcrumbs, Not Mutual Care.19:04 Sign 9: You Don't Feel Safe - Just Addicted.20:29 Sign 10: You Lose Yourself In The Idea Of “Them”. ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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Scotland's newest folk hero Jacob Alon sat in on Léim Thart to share their stunning debut album 'In Limerence', released on the 30th May. With captivating otherworldly lyrics, and a voice that in the words of Annie Mac can crack the most cynical of hearts wide open, Jacob has been winning over audiences everywhere since first releasing music last autumn.Having recently finished a tour with Olly Alexander (Years & Years), they're now touring Europe with the album, arriving in The Workmans Club Dublin, upgraded due to demand, on the 11th June, tickets available now. Jacob will support Kae Tempest this autumn on tour.Watch this episode on YouTube HEREFollow Ruairí Egan / Léim Thart HERE

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking limerence, longing, and connection with our guest, Amanda McCracken, a journalist, speaker, and host of the insightful The Longing Lab podcast and author of the forthcoming book, When Longing Becomes Your Lover. Inside the episode, we breakdown limerence and the limerence cycle, and how this intense and often obsessive infatuation we may develop for someone ultimately keeps us from developing the connections and relationships we desire.  We'll also explore the neuroscience behind limerence and how our brains are wired to desire what we don't have, and why this longing can become a comforting distraction.  But that's not all, you all came through with questions and we've got answers, like how to break the limerence cycle? What if I just can't get over someone? I have a crush, how can I not go into limerence? What are some strategies for obsessive thoughts? What role does social media and the dating apps play in all of this? As we begin to wrap up the conversation, Amanda shares her decision to wait until 41 to have sex, which garnered national attention and sparked conversations about intimacy, self-worth, and the societal narratives that shape our romantic lives. Alright flirties, let's prepare to examine our desires and the stories we tell ourselves about love.  Time to meet Amanda! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Amanda McCracken is an award-winning journalist whose writing has been published in the New York Times, Washington Post, Guardian, NPR, Elle, National Geographic, Vogue, Runner's World, Outside and elsewhere. Her TEDx talk "How longing keeps us from healthy relationships" was one of only 200 talks chosen in 2023 as a TEDx editors' pick. She is now a TEDxCU speaker coach and a writing consultant at the University of Colorado. McCracken has been interviewed about her essays on intimacy by Katie Couric, the BBC World News, USA Today, and various podcasts. After over a decade of research and interviews with 100+ people, her hybrid memoir on limerence When Longing Becomes Your Lover will be published Februrary 2026, but the greatest result of her investigative journey was meeting her husband and having their daughter.  McCracken is also an endurance athlete and triathlon coach of 25 years. Learn more about her at www.amandajmccracken.com, on Instagram @amandajmccracken,  or discover more about the science and culture of longing at her podcast The Longing Lab. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?In a BPD on/off relationship? Are you wondering, can I change, like heal some Codependency, and have more energy and tolerance to make a BPD relationshipwork?Have you been ghosted and so want your BPD Ex back? Maybe you've beendiscarded, and you are emotionally terrified that you won't hear from that person ever again? What can you do to change? Anything? Can it work?https://ajmahari.ca/sessionshttps://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcast WebsiteThis podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

Dion O'Reilly first appeared on episode 173. Her new book, Limerence, is just out from Floating Bridge Press. She is the author of two previous poetry collections: Sadness of the Apex Predator, a finalist for the Steel Toe Book Prize and the Ex Ophidia Prize; Ghost Dogs, winner of the Pinnacle Book Achievement Award, The Independent Press Award for Poetry, and shortlisted for the Eric Hoffer Poetry Award and The Catamaran Poetry Prize. She is a podcaster at The Hive Poetry Collective, leads poetry workshops, and is a reader for Catamaran Literary Reader. She splits her time between a ranch in the Santa Cruz Mountains and a residence in Bellingham, Washington. Find more here: https://www.dionoreilly.com/ As always, we'll also include the live Prompt Lines for responses to our weekly prompt. A Zoom link will be provided in the chat window during the show before that segment begins. For links to all the past episodes, visit: https://www.rattle.com/rattlecast/ This Week's Prompt: Write a poem about a time you had to do someone else's job and found the result surprising. Next Week's Prompt: Write a poem about unrequited love for something other than a human. The Rattlecast livestreams on YouTube, Facebook, and Twitter, then becomes an audio podcast. Find it on iTunes, Spotify, or anywhere else you get your podcasts.

Anna Runkle, also known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, is a trauma educator, Youtuber and an author. Why do some people fall so hard, so fast? It might not be love, but it could be limerence. So what exactly is limerence, what triggers it, and how do you handle it, whether you're experiencing it or the one receiving it? Expect to learn what limerence is and how it differs from infatuation or a crush, what the main emotions behind limerence is and what causes it, why some people get hardcore limerence and others don't, if limerence is a type of mental illness or if it can be caused by just good sex, how modern media depictions of functional and dysfunctional relationships contribute to limerence, if limerence if more common in women or men, and much more… Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get up to $50 off the RP Hypertrophy App at https://rpstrength.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM) Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: https://tinyurl.com/43hv6y59 #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: https://tinyurl.com/2rtz7avf #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: https://tinyurl.com/3ccn5vkp - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s the buzzword of the internet at the moment - LIMERENCE! But what is it? Where is the line between lust and limerence? How can we spot the difference between limerence and love? Joining the podcast today is Thais Gibson. Thais is a counselor, author, podcaster and co-founder of The Personal Development School. She has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities ranging from cognitive behavioural therapy to neuro linguistic programing. Thais is also a leading expert in attachment theory. We unpack: The key signs of limerence & what triggers infatuation How you can fall into limerence with someone outside of your relationship If we can’t get our needs met in the present, we get them met by fantasies of the future or memories of the past Pedestals, people pleasing and maladaptive behaviours caused by limerent relationships The 3 stages of limerence; infatuation, emotional addiction and dissipation phase Navigating different power stages with a partner Which attachment styles suffer from limerence the most What to do if you find yourself the object of someone else’s limerence Can limerence turn into stalking? Conscious dating and wired patterns You can find more from Thais: Website Instagram YouTube You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kate and Michelle talk about limerence (the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person) by answering a series of listener questions about the topic and discussing how DBT skills can help when this is being experienced.Support the showMagic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBTAPR20 by using code DBTAPR20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandmeOur book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandmeYou can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcastCheck out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)If you need support/have questions, email us at dbtandmepodcast@gmail.com

Episode Summary:Have you ever been completely obsessed with someone, someone who didn't treat you right or maybe isn't even in your life anymore?You might be dealing with Limerence.In today's episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on a term many women don't even realise they're living through. I dive into the signs of limerence, why it's not love, how it's tied to your emotional wounds, and how to finally break free from the fantasy.I'm sharing:

This week's episode is Patreon only. This was a long one so I am sharing 15 minutes of the episode and I highly recommend joining the Patreon and getting this episode.  In this episode: Ever heard of limerence? It's not quite love, not quite lust—but something way more intense, obsessive, and irrational. I'm taking a close look at this state of deep distress that starts with euphoric highs. I reference Dr. Dorothy Tennov's original research, what modern psychologists are debating now, and how hyperfocus, rejection sensitivity, and impulsivity all play a role in this heartbreaking, confusing experience. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Dr. Tom Living With Limerence Blog Dr. Tom Purposeful Living Psychology Today Who Is Vulnerable To Limerence Healthline ADHD Limerence Dr. Dorothy Tennov “Love and Limerence” Book

Over the past five years, after a lifetime of struggling and a lot of research, I've come to the conclusion that I probably have ADHD = Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. I'm self-diagnosed, so I invited my medically diagnosed friend Diamond Stylz to discuss all things ADHD and how it impacts our lives. 1:55 Growing up undiagnosed 12:21 What is ADHD? 15:54 Ableism & Stigma 20:18 Symptoms and lowkey hoarding 25:00 Procrastination and executive function/dysfunction 26:55 Diagnoses and medication 33:33 ADHD & depression 36:58 Hormones and ADHD 42:38 Anxiety, depression and environment 49:46 bell hooks and your home 55:59 Getting/hiring help 1:00:11 Love, Limerence & ADHD 1:05:10 Friendship & ADHD 1:10:38 Rejection Sensitivity (RSD) 1:14:18 Releasing shame & building community Episode credits, links & resources https://www.patreon.com/posts/icymi-theres-new-126784182?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/are-you-raw-adhd-125589631?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link teawithqueenandj@gmail.com SUPPORT Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj

This week Démar and Adriel discuss Lucy Dacus' fourth studio album “Forever is a Feeling” how the album is a tone setter for her post Boygenuius and how her lyrical longingness escapes being cheesy.Timecodes:3:25 Songwriter-type music  5:23 The reset button and how that affects their career8:42 The origins of this album9:24 Longing vibes12:46 Romanticizing her past13:28 For keeps17:15 Vacation boo20:51 Sex and the City Comparison28:21 Imagery is very explicit37:35 Accentuate the loneliness  38:21 How do these songs live on their own?43:06 What she said about writing Modigilani47:35 The cover   49:20 No skips  - too flat production-wise50:43 The ScoreFollow us:TikTok: Album Mode: https://www.tiktok.com/@albummodepodAdriel: https://www.tiktok.com/@adrielsmileydotcom Démar: https://www.tiktok.com/@godkingdemiInstagram:Album Mode: https://www.instagram.com/albummodepod/Adriel: https://www.instagram.com/adrielsmileydotcom/Démar: https://www.instagram.com/demarjgrant/Twitter:Album Mode: https://twitter.com/AlbumModepodAdriel: https://twitter.com/AdrielSmiley_Démar: https://twitter.com/DemarJGrant ===================================Démar's rating: 7 / 10 Adriel's rating: 6.5 / 10The Love List: Ankles, Limerence, Talk, Most Wanted ManLucy Dacus - Forever is a Feeling / 2025 / indie rock, folk, rock

Is it love or is it limerence?

Send us a textDo you ever feel crazy? like your thoughts are spinning out of control over someone? That intense, obsessive longing where every little thing they do feels like a sign? You might be experiencing limerence. It's more than just a crush - it's an all-consuming obsession that can feel like an addiction to this person. It feels crazy - but I assure you you're notIn this episode Carly Ann give 3 major signs of limerence, how it differs from real love, and how people are healing. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of longing and obsession, this one's for youOther useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025) FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

New Relationship Energy (NRE) can make everything feel like a shiny object. We get it, we love that feeling too! If you're practicing non-monogamy, you might actually find yourself feeling NRE in multiple places. We made this episode in response to a listener question—what do I do with all these feelings and expectations? How do I prepare for when this chemical cocktail starts to fade?Even though it's really exciting, this noisy emotional environment requires thoughtful navigation to maintain balance and authenticity. In this episode we're helping you navigate everything from the big picture emotional questions to the practical, day-to-day questions like how to manage your schedule.We're breaking down:— The neurochemical nature of NRE— How NRE can lead us to project our desires onto new partners rather than seeing them clearly— The difference between NRE (new relationship energy) and limerence, and why understanding this distinction matters— Why NRE often causes us to mute our own boundaries and bottom-line requirements— The challenge of maintaining authenticity when we're caught up in the newness of relationships— How to recognize when you're abandoning yourself, your established partners, or your friendships during intense NRE periods— The importance of explicit conversations about expectations rather than just "going with the flow"— Strategies for pacing yourself and managing your energy when experiencing multiple NREs— The transition from NRE to ERE (established relationship energy) and how to nurture deeper connections— Why comparing your relationships is less valuable than examining how you show up differently in each oneResources mentioned in this episode:— Episode 153: Limerence vs. New Relationship EnergyJOIN The Year of Opening® community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at ⁠⁠www.TheYearOfOpening.com⁠⁠Learn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart wayAre you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.comGet the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything hereMusic: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions

Encore episode Romance: what does it mean?? Sarah, Alex and Jess talk about their favorite romantic movies on the hottest day of the year. And finally answer the question: what IS romance? Or, do they just come up with 5,000 new questions? Listen to the end to find out! This episode first aired in August 2024. Mentioned in the episode: Say Anything (Cameron Crowe, 1989) | The Graduate (Mike Nichols, 1967) | Wayne's World (Penelope Spheeris, 1992) | John Mahoney | Limerence on Wikipedia | In Your Eyes mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by eroyn franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

On this weeks deep dive we recap Wish You Were Here, a movie based on the novel by Renee Carlino AND Julie Styles directorial debut. Yes, that Julie Styles, we checked. Courtney is a big fan of this tragic tale of love and losing, and Renee Carlino in general. Would you throw yourself into a doomed, short term relationship just to end up heartbroken in the end? Charlotte sure does. Maybe it was the dumplings, maybe it was smile, who knows. 

It always starts out so good, right? The butterflies, the excitement, the electric pull. But what happens next? In this episode, Louise takes you on a deep dive into the psychology and biology of love—from the euphoric highs of initial lust and those heart-racing fanny flutters to the more grounded, regulated, and lasting stages of falling and being in love (yes, there's a difference!) and then falling out of love. She's breaking down every stage of the love cycle, exploring attachment, hormones, and subconscious patterns that shape our relationships. If you're currently obsessing over someone new or wondering ‘Is this still working for me?', this episode is for you so you can get clear on all stages of the love cycle.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Is your marriage at risk because of limerence? In this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes break down the science behind limerence—what it is, how it differs from romantic love, and why it can be so destructive in marriage.You'll learn:✔️ The key differences between limerence and true love✔️ How to tell if you or your spouse are experiencing limerence✔️ A powerful tool to assess if boundaries have been crossed✔️ What to do if limerence is threatening your marriageIf you're struggling in your marriage, don't wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Ever found yourself obsessing over someone who doesn't make you feel secure? Struggling with long-distance dynamics or wondering if you're stuck in limerence? This episode is your reality check. Sabrina sits down with the unapologetically honest Ali Jackson, creator of @findingmrheight, to answer YOUR burning questions straight from the trenches. From navigating long-distance situationships to decoding mixed signals and handling the dreaded “I'm not ready for a relationship” talk, we're cutting through the noise with raw, unfiltered advice. What You'll Learn: Long-Distance Reality Check: Is it worth it? What signs should you never ignore? Limerence vs. Genuine Connection: Are you truly into them or just the fantasy? How to Bring Up Exclusivity: Without feeling like you're 'ruining' anything. When to Walk Away: Spotting red flags in situationships and casual flings. The Truth About Waiting for Someone: (Hint: Stop.) Get Involved: Got a question for Sabrina? Send your dating dilemmas, screenshots, or situationships to inthetrenches@sabrinazohar.com for a chance to be featured in the next episode. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can't control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Advocate for your health today. Get 23andMe for 10% off HERE! Total Health membership includes services initiated and performed by third-party clinicians and lab providers through the 23andMe platform. Additional terms and conditions also apply. See 23andme.com to learn more. Total Health Membership not available to residents of HI, NJ, NY, RI and US territories.  Get $10 off and FREE shipping at Nutrafol HERE! Code is SABRINA Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

Welcome to the Extended Poetically Yours Podcast. This month's featured artist is Kim Dower.

Breakups are hard enough on their own, but they can become even more painful when your ex responds with anger, cruelty, or mean-spirited behavior. It's natural to feel confused and hurt, wondering why someone who once cared about you is now acting this way. Understanding their behavior can provide clarity, help you process your emotions, and guide you in making the best decisions moving forward. Get Coach Lee's $7 Reunion Blueprint at https://ReunionBlueprint.com to get your ex back - even if it seems hopeless! Why Is Your Ex Mean After a Breakup? The answer often lies in a combination of emotional immaturity, guilt, and unresolved feelings. When someone ends a relationship, they may feel a mix of relief and discomfort. If their decision hurt you, they're likely aware of it on some level, even if they don't openly admit it. Facing that guilt can be difficult, so instead, they deflect it through anger or cruelty. 1. Immature Defense Mechanism One common reason your ex is mean after a breakup is that they're using cruelty as a defense mechanism. They might see your pain and feel guilty about being the cause of it. Instead of acknowledging this guilt, they react defensively, getting angry at you for showing emotion. It's their way of avoiding the discomfort of facing what they've done. In today's society, we often struggle with how to handle someone else's pain. Rather than sitting with it and providing support, some people try to ignore or dismiss it because it's uncomfortable. Your ex's anger or harshness might not be about you at all but rather about their inability to cope with your emotions. This behavior becomes even more likely if their reasons for breaking up with you were weak or selfish. For example, if they claimed they needed to “find themselves” or “work on themselves,” they might feel a lingering sense of guilt for ending the relationship. Seeing you hurt reminds them of that guilt, and they'd rather lash out than take responsibility. 2. Persistence Can Backfire Another factor that might contribute to your ex's anger is persistent communication. After a breakup, it's natural to want to keep the lines of communication open, especially if you're hoping for reconciliation. However, persistence can be misinterpreted as pressure. When your ex feels pressured, they might respond with frustration or cruelty to create distance. This is particularly true if they've already started justifying the breakup in their mind. Your attempts to reach out may challenge their narrative, which can cause them to react negatively. In extreme cases, they might escalate their meanness as a way to push you away completely. Rather than trying to explain yourself or win them back through persistence, it's often more effective to step back and respect their space. Giving them time and distance can help de-escalate the situation and prevent further harm to your connection. Get Coach Lee's $7 Reunion Blueprint at https://ReunionBlueprint.com to get your ex back - even if it seems hopeless! 3. Emotions Over Logic Breakups are emotional, and emotions can cloud judgment. Your ex's harsh behavior may stem from their inability to process their own feelings rationally. When someone says their “feelings faded,” it often means they're experiencing the natural decline of limerence—the intense infatuation that characterizes the early stages of a relationship. Limerence isn't designed to last forever. It fades as the relationship matures, making way for deeper forms of love, like commitment and companionship. Unfortunately, many people misinterpret the end of limerence as the end of love. When their emotions take over, they might act impulsively, choosing to leave the relationship rather than working through this phase. If you've tried to reason with your ex or convince them to stay, their emotions may override their ability to hear you. Instead of responding logically, they react defensively or with anger because they don't want to confront the complexities of their feelings. 4. Cruelty Is Often Temporary The good news is that your ex's meanness is often temporary. Once the initial emotions of the breakup settle, they may start to reflect on their actions. They might realize that their behavior was unfair and even feel regretful. In many cases, an ex will reach out to apologize once they've had time to process everything. When this happens, it's important to manage your expectations. An apology doesn't necessarily mean they want to get back together. More often, it's an attempt to alleviate their own guilt. Accept their apology graciously, but don't read too much into it. 5. The No Contact Rule The No Contact Rule is one of the most effective strategies for addressing an ex's anger and protecting your own emotional well-being. By cutting off communication, you give both yourself and your ex the space to process the breakup. No contact disrupts their defensive patterns. When you're not actively engaging with them, they have no reason to maintain their anger. Over time, this silence can spark curiosity and reflection. Your ex might start wondering why you've stopped reaching out, which can lead to moments of clarity about the relationship. This period of no contact isn't just for them—it's for you too. It allows you to focus on your healing and gain perspective on what you truly want. Whether or not reconciliation is possible, the No Contact Rule helps you regain your emotional footing. Moving Forward Understanding why your ex is mean after a breakup can help you navigate the situation with clarity and strength. Their behavior is often more about their own emotions and struggles than about you. By stepping back, respecting their space, and focusing on your own growth, you create the best opportunity for healing—whether that means moving on or eventually reconnecting. Get Coach Lee's $7 Reunion Blueprint at https://ReunionBlueprint.com to get your ex back - even if it seems hopeless!  

Limerence is an addiction-level romantic obsession with someone you can't have. It can get so bad that you're checking out of reality, isolating and fantasizing that the person you love loves you back. It's common in people who were emotionally neglected as kids, and it can rob you of any chance of truly loving someone and being loved in your life, because limerence takes up that space where anyone real, could really be with you. In this video, I respond to a follow-up letter from a man who wrote to me last year, immobilized with limerence. Now, his life is healing, and he shares how he did it. The first letter from Daniel, "How Shame Drives You to Obsess on Someone You Can't Have": https://youtu.be/9XjJFLThpRw Do You Struggle to Connect with People?: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3LcjDD8

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Dr. Rick and Forrest begin the mailbag by exploring limerence – an obsessive form of romantic attraction – and offer practical recommendations for working with one-sided infatuation. They then discuss what to do when romantic vulnerability feels unsafe, and how we can rebuild trust in others after traumatic experiences. The episode also tackles managing career transitions, dealing with social anxiety around positive interactions, and maintaining boundaries without being consumed by anger.  You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 0:50: What can I do when I experience limerence, or compulsive romantic attraction? 18:00: How can I learn to trust my partner and embrace the experience of happiness in my relationship? 26:50: How can I best think about the inherent uncertainty in the 2-3 years of preparation for a new career path? 37:55: How can I learn to “take in the good” when good experiences feel uncomfortable for me? 44:55: How can I maintain important boundaries in a way that doesn't lead to me feeling too much anger? 56:40: Recap I am now writing on Subståack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Head to acorns.com/beingwell or download the Acorns app to start saving and investing for your future Use promo code hanson at the link below to get an exclusive 60% off an annual plan at incogni.com/hanson. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Get 15% off OneSkin with the code BEINGWELL at https://www.oneskin.co/  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It was such a pleasure to meet with Kim Dower and discuss her upcoming release: "What She Wants: Poems on Obsession, Desire, Despair, Euphoria" Now Available! "Obsessive love has never been so much fun! What She Wants: Poems on Obsession, Desire, Despair, Euphoria is a powerful tribute to the intensity of obsessive love, told through the trademark humor and heartbreak of bestselling poet Kim Dower." "Following the commercial and literary success of her bestselling poetry collection, I Wore This Dress Today for You, Mom: Poems on Motherhood, Kim Dower delivers What She Wants: Poems on Obsession, Desire, Despair, Euphoria—turning her keen eye, vibrant imagination, trademark insight, and humor to the intensity of obsessive love. These steamy and provocative poems, combining humor and heartache, run through the four phases of Limerence, the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person: Infatuation, Crystallization, Deterioration, and Ecstatic Release. From the opening poem, “She'll do anything for food,” to the sexy title poem, “What She Wants,” the painfully funny, “His Other Girlfriend,” to the longing in “Visiting Baudelaire,” and the sad, sweet final poem, “Fish's Lament,” Kim Dower captures the essence of what it means to be stuck on someone—even on a squirrel! Her eclectic, growing readership will savor these poems that can be read in one sitting, like a story with an arc, or separately, each one recalling the moment of falling in or out of love, the moment our hearts skipped a beat." https://redhen.org/book_author/kim-dower/

A very loose cover of Limerence by Yves Tumor using emulated OPL instrumentation. 2025 Creative Commons Copyright All rights reserved

Today we're joined by Nicole Matusow, a psychoanalyst who's going to take us on a deep dive into the fascinating world of limerence - that overwhelming, obsessive state of romantic infatuation that can completely take over our lives. With her extensive background in psychoanalysis, Nicole will help us understand the unconscious mechanisms driving this intense experience, from the early attachment patterns that set the stage to the role of fantasy and emotional regulation. We'll explore why some of us are more prone to limerence than others, how early experiences shape our romantic patterns, and most importantly - what we can actually do about it. Whether you're currently experiencing limerence or supporting someone who is, I hope this conversation will be useful to you. ImiAbout Nicole: Nicole Matusow is a New York City psychotherapist practicing in the Flatiron area. She sees both individuals and couples/family members, taking a contemporary psychoanalytic and feelings-based approach. Her practice addresses limerence, judgmental self-talk, people-pleasing, difficulties in conveying thoughts and feelings, and familial ruptures.She offers both in-person and teletherapy services.https://www.nicolematusow.com Eggshell Therapy and Coaching: eggshelltherapy.com About Imi Lo: www.imiloimilo.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/eggshelltherapy_imilo/ Newsletters: https://eepurl.com/bykHRzDisclaimers: https://www.eggshelltherapy.com/disclaimers Trigger Warning: This episode may cover sensitive topics including but not limited to suicide, abuse, violence, severe mental illnesses, relationship challenges, sex, drugs, alcohol addiction, psychedelics, and the use of plant medicines. You are advised to refrain from watching or listening to the YouTube Channel or Podcast if you are likely to be offended or adversely impacted by any of these topics. Disclaimer: The content provided is for informational purposes only. Please do not consider any of the content clinical or professional advice. None of the content can substitute mental health intervention. Opinions and views expressed by the host and the guests are personal views and they reserve the right to change their opinions. We also cannot guarantee that everything mentioned is factual and completely accurate. Any action you take based on the information in this episode is taken at your own risk.

FULL TEXT: https://eggshelltherapy.com/bpd_limerence/Limerence is an experience unlike any other. It is beyond pure infatuation, but an all-consuming experience that can bring us to the highest ecstasy and the lowest depths of despair. It floods our brains with neurons and turns everything into a breathless roller coaster ride. However much we 'know' it is irrational, and try to shake it off, we cannot seem to escape the constant loop of hope and disappointment, longing and devastation.  This state of all-consuming romantic obsession is what Dorothy Tennov termed as limerence in her groundbreaking 1979 work.Limerence is a complex and often painful experience for most people, as few of us would choose to have our whole sense of being taken over by intrusive thoughts and fantasies. But it is never as simple as a conscious choice. Behind these overwhelming feelings lies a deeper story—one that begins in our earliest experiences of love and loss and speaks to the very heart of how we learn to attach and bond with others.The picture gets even more complex for those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) in limerence. When you have BPD, your emotional thermostat is already set at a different level, and with limerence in the mix, it can become truly unbearable chaos.In this piece, we shall explore the underlying psychological mechanisms of limerence and how these dynamics take on unique dimensions for those with BPD. By understanding these patterns more deeply—from both psychoanalytic and neurobiological perspectives—we can hopefully help you chart a path forward that honors the intensity of your experience and your capacity for healing. Eggshell Therapy and Coaching: eggshelltherapy.com About Imi Lo: www.imiloimilo.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/imi_lo_/ Newsletters: https://eepurl.com/bykHRzDisclaimers: https://www.eggshelltherapy.com/disclaimers Trigger Warning: This episode may cover sensitive topics including but not limited to suicide, abuse, violence, severe mental illnesses, relationship challenges, sex, drugs, alcohol addiction, psychedelics, and the use of plant medicines. You are advised to refrain from watching or listening to the YouTube Channel or Podcast if you are likely to be offended or adversely impacted by any of these topics. Disclaimer: The content provided is for informational purposes only. Please do not consider any of the content clinical or professional advice. None of the content can substitute mental health intervention. Opinions and views expressed by the host and the guests are personal views and they reserve the right to change their opinions. We also cannot guarantee that everything mentioned is factual and completely accurate. Any action you take based on the information in this episode is taken at your own risk.

Limerence is a weapons-grade obsession with other people you can't actually be with. It blocks you from real love, and holds onto you like an addiction. People say limerence is a projection of who YOU really are, or a projection of the divine – but sometimes I think that toxic cloud of limerence might be generated by the ABSENCE left by your parents' failure to truly see or love you. In this video I respond to a letter from a man who grew up in a family paralyzed by shame; now he's struggling to form a romantic relationship. The Signs of Limerence: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3PbqblT

On this episode: Nate and Aaron end 2024 with hope. Aaron feels it in his chest. Nate revisits old recovery. Nate predicts the best national retreat ever, and Aaron may hula. Our Guest: Dr. Tom Bellamy is from the UK and an expert on the topic of limerence. He explains that limerence has properties similar to drugs and expires fairly quickly. He discusses the history and how to recognize the limerence type of love. Dr. Tom also gives help on how to end it, and even how to prevent it in the future.  Links:   Book: Smitten: Romantic Obsession the Neuroscience of Limerence, and how to Make Love Last Book: Living with Limerence: A Guide for the Smitten Living With Limerence Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Are you caught in the throes of what feels like love at first sight? You might be experiencing limerence, a powerful emotional state that can mimic true love. In our latest podcast episode, we dive deep into the world of limerence, exploring its addictive nature and how it differs from genuine love. Join Brannne Davis-Gantt as she shares her personal journey and offers insights into breaking free from this cycle. Discover the signs of limerence and learn how to cultivate real, lasting connections. Tune in now for an enlightening discussion that could change your perspective on love._____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email secretlifepodcast@icloud.com_____SECRET LIFE'S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to secretlifepodcast@icloud.com) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne's Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a fawning submissive process their latent attachment and limerence for their former Dominant after a recent breakup.Support the show Support this Podcast Watch on YouTube Read the Blog Follow on TikTok Follow on Insta Follow on X

What Is Your Ex Thinking If They're Dating Someone Else? After a breakup, seeing your ex dating someone else can be incredibly challenging. You might wonder what's going through their mind and whether this new relationship is a rebound or something serious. Here are key insights into what your ex might be thinking if they've moved on to someone else and how this dynamic can evolve. Emergency Breakup Kit at https://MyExBackCoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit  1. The Stages of Grieving the Breakup Can Be Delayed If your ex begins dating someone shortly after your breakup—or even before it officially ended—they might not have fully processed the breakup yet. Their new relationship could be in the limerence stage, also known as the “honeymoon phase.” During limerence, people feel a heightened sense of excitement, passion, and novelty. This stage is often chemically fueled by dopamine, which can create an illusion of perfection in the new relationship. However, this phase doesn't last forever. Limerence lacks deeper aspects like commitment, companionship, and the feeling of family that sustain long-term relationships. While they may feel “madly in love” now, those intense emotions are not permanent. 2. No Contact Minimizes Limerence If you're in no contact with your ex, you're taking a powerful step to avoid fueling the limerence of their new relationship. Often, when an ex sees their previous partner trying to intervene or win them back, it creates an “us versus the world” mentality. This dynamic can deepen their bond with the new partner as they unite against a perceived threat. By staying silent, you remove yourself from the equation, leaving their new relationship to face its own natural challenges. Additionally, your lack of communication can intrigue your ex, shifting their focus away from their current relationship and back toward wondering about you. 3. They Will Miss Intimacy With You Once limerence fades—and it always does—your ex may begin to miss the intimacy you shared. This includes emotional closeness, shared experiences, and mutual understanding built over time. Their new relationship is in its early stages, meaning it lacks the depth and history that your relationship had. If your relationship lasted for six months or longer, you had time to develop a connection that went beyond surface-level attraction. Your ex may find themselves comparing the new partner to you and longing for the emotional safety and familiarity you provided. No contact strengthens this effect by withholding any updates about your life, leaving them curious and uncertain. They might start imagining you thriving, enjoying life, and potentially moving on—all of which can create a sense of fear of missing out (FOMO) in their mind. 4. Comparisons Start to Surface As the honeymoon phase of their new relationship ends, your ex may begin comparing you and their new partner. These comparisons can be in your favor if you were a kind, thoughtful, and emotionally supportive partner. They might remember the way you showed affection, the fun moments you shared, or even small gestures that made them feel loved. While their new relationship lacks the time and experiences necessary to develop such memories, your history with your ex becomes a unique advantage. Familiarity, shared stories, and inside jokes can outweigh the fleeting excitement of a new relationship. 5. A Secret Contact With You Can Undermine Their New Relationship If your ex reaches out to you while dating someone else, it's a significant sign. They are likely keeping this communication secret from their new partner, creating an intimacy with you that they don't share with them. This secrecy can subtly erode trust and closeness in their new relationship while reigniting a connection between you and your ex. When they confide in you about old times or current feelings, it rekindles the bond you shared. If this happens, avoid being cold or confrontational. Instead, be polite and open, allowing them to share without judgment. This can deepen the connection and make them realize what they're missing in their new relationship. Final Thoughts While it's painful to see your ex with someone else, understanding these dynamics can help you navigate the situation. Stay composed, maintain no contact, and focus on your growth. By doing so, you allow your ex to process their new relationship naturally, giving them the space to reflect on your time together. Whether or not they return, prioritizing your emotional well-being ensures that you'll emerge stronger and more confident in your future relationships. Emergency Breakup Kit at https://MyExBackCoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit 

Aşk mı bağımlılık mı saplantı mı? Birisini aklından çıkaramamak, hep onu düşünmek; Limerence'i ve çözüm yollarını anlattım.

You might THINK you are ready for real love but if you're pouring ALL your emotional and romantic energy into someone who is stringing you along, not available, and has been clear they DON'T want a relationship, it's time to wake up. My letter today is from a woman who is aputting a giant wall between herself and the possibility of love. How to Tell if Someone is Partner Material?: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3YBwKkj

Your mind plays tricks on you when you fall in love with someone who says flat out they don't want a relationship. This absent character, present only as an electronic voice or a digital image but never as a real person at your side who loves you -- can be the perfect blank canvas for lament fantasies. “If only we could be together…” that's what the limerent thinks, never doing the math to understand that the person clearly, openly strongly tells you that will never happen. In this 4-video compilation, I share four of my most popular videos where I answer letters from people struggling with obsessive love and limerence. The Signs of Limerence: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3PbqblT

Love is in the air! Better put on a respirator so you don't catch it. Limerence written by Shelby Novak TRIGGER WARNINGS AVAILABLE AT BOTTOM OF SHOW NOTES. MAY CONTAIN SPOILERS. Click here to ask me anything anonymously LinkTree for all of my social media, YouTube, Patreon etc. Leave me a voice mail! ‪(323) 546-8764‬ Ad Free version available on Patreon You can send your stories to: scareyoutosleep@gmail.com Music by Epidemic Sound and Co.AG TW: suicidal ideation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Love is in the air! Better put on a respirator so you don't catch it. Limerence written by Shelby Novak TRIGGER WARNINGS AVAILABLE AT BOTTOM OF SHOW NOTES. MAY CONTAIN SPOILERS. Click here to ask me anything anonymously LinkTree for all of my social media, YouTube, Patreon etc. Leave me a voice mail! ‪(323) 546-8764‬ Ad Free version available on Patreon You can send your stories to: scareyoutosleep@gmail.com Music by Epidemic Sound and Co.AG TW: suicidal ideation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Part two of the Headnoise ep. On this ep we go through your VOICEMAILS!! I love getting these as it feels like almost a conversation! I cover 4 amazing and different questions and get very emotionally invested and passionate (as usual). ENJOY!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is the second half of my conversation with one of my favorite authors, Melissa Broder. She is the author of several novels, the essay collection So Sad Today, and five poetry collections. She's appeared in the New York Times, Elle, Harper's Bazaar, VICE, and New York Magazine. In Part 2, we talk about grief, losing a parent, writing her most recent novel Death Valley, our favorite grocery stores, how to tell people what's going on in the midst of a changing and challenging situation, finding humor, the messiness of bodies and aging, advice to write consistently, the journal prompts she uses daily, and questions from a previous guest. If you missed Part 1 last week, we talked about about everything from wellness culture and mental health to limerence, long-term relationships, and her writing process.  Show notes:- Find Melissa  on Instagram- Her books: So Sad Today, Milk Fed, The Pisces, Superdoom,  Last Sext & her newest, Death Valley- Find me on IG: @letitouttt + @katiedalebout | Substack- PIVOT zine: sign up for my paid Substack & we'll mail you a copy- The Self-Compassion workbook Melissa mentions- Speechify (the text-to-speech app I use to edit my writing) If you liked this episode, try out from the archive:Episode 407: Bad Thoughts with Nada Alic (part 2 of 2)Episode 308: Writing, Feelings & Friendship with Leah Clancy

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Unlock the secrets of navigating the intricate web of limerence with insights from Coach Jared, Membership Fulfillment Manager at Marriage Helper. Imagine the subtlety of a simple compliment spiraling into something more consuming; that's where Jared takes us. In this episode, he reveals the often unnoticed progression from casual interactions to a deeper, concealed connection. Jared's compelling narrative illustrates how easily one can slip into limerence without realizing it, and the potential emotional entanglement it brings. You won't just understand the theory; you'll witness its unfolding through an engaging story that highlights the thin line between innocent admiration and emotional captivity.As the episode unfolds, Jared provides invaluable guidance on recognizing and addressing the warning signs before they escalate. With vivid examples, listeners gain a firsthand perspective on how small actions can lead to significant emotional consequences. By the time the episode reaches its turning point, you'll be equipped with strategies to maintain transparency and integrity in your relationships, ensuring those wispy chains of limerence don't bind too tightly. This episode offers a thought-provoking exploration of emotional awareness and relationship dynamics, promising to leave you with a deeper understanding of this complex feeling.Want to have the proven, practical steps to save your marriage?Click here to sign up for our Save My Marriage Membership today!

This week, I spoke to one of my favorite authors, Melissa Broder. She is the author of several novels, the essay collection So Sad Today, and five poetry collections. She's appeared in the New York Times, Elle, Harper's Bazaar, VICE, and New York Magazine. I'm splitting this one up into two parts… Today you'll hear the first half of our conversation where we talked about everything from wellness culture and mental health to limerence, long-term relationships, and her writing process.Next week, in Part 2, we talk about grief, losing a parent, writing her most recent novel Death Valley, our favorite grocery stores, how to tell people what's going on in the midst of a changing and challenging situation, finding humor, the messiness of bodies and aging, advice to write consistently, the journal prompts she uses daily, and questions from a previous guest. Show notes:- Find Melissa  on Instagram- Her books: So Sad Today, Milk Fed, The Pisces, Superdoom,  Last Sext & her newest, Death Valley- Find me on IG: @letitouttt + @katiedalebout | Substack- PIVOT zine: sign up for my paid Substack & we'll mail you a copy If you liked this episode, try out from the archive:Episode 406: Bad Thoughts with Nada Alic (part 1 of 2)

Obsessive love tends to kick up when your life is bleak, and you have frail connections with people and activities you love. Limerence is when that feeling becomes like an addiction, but sometimes, the obsession can drag you into a deeper mental health crisis. In this video, I respond to a letter from a woman who finally caught feelings for someone, but now her life is falling apart. The Signs of Limerence: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3PbqblT

Join us in our live Sunday broadcast as we addressed questions on mental, emotional and relationship health, helping believers to experinece healing and freedom in their life. I start off addressing a question sent in about the need to be seen, attention seeking and how that impacts online interaction. Also, are some people just too […]

J&J are joined by Olivia O'Brien ahead of the release for her upcoming EP, “Love and Limerence,” but before they get started, Jordana and Olivia fill Jared in on what limerence means. Then, Olivia shares the struggles with being vulnerable in her songwriting and dating other public figures, and Jared can relate for why he's cautious with the real experiences he puts into his work. Plus Olivia shocks J&J with the aftermath of her song with gnash, “i hate u, i love u,” blowing up on the charts in 2016, they talk double standards of women being vulnerable, the difference in LA and NYC social scenes, and why Gen Z might be more open to casual relationships. The episode ends with answering a listener's email about being on the hook and not knowing whether she should just walk away before she gets hurt. She's been happily seeing someone for two months, but he's now up for a job that would take him overseas indefinitely. They have yet to DTR, but she's certain she doesn't want to juggle a long-distance situation. Jared, Jordana and Olivia weigh in. For more from our guest, listen to “Love and Limerence” by Olivia O'Brien (@oliviaobrien) on June 21. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices