Parent Tips w/Jonathan McKee

Jonathan confesses a little bit about how this tough year broke him down…right where God wanted him! And this led him to discover the most important parenting tip he’s ever experienced.

Experts say wait to age 13 or 14 to give your kids phones, but your 11-year-old is honestly the ONLY kid in his friend group without one. Should you give in? Here’s three important tips to consider...Links:https://smile.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-Social-Mobile-Devices/dp/1683223195www.gabbwireless.com/promo/SCREENWISEhttps://podcast.downloadyouthministry.com/when-social-media-hijacks-relationships-that-matter/

Jonathan’s daughter Alyssa gets vulnerable about how social media, specifically Instagram, began to hijack her relationships so she took a break from Instagram… for a year.Links:https://smile.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-Connections-Screen-Screen/dp/1643524682Keywords:Face-to-Facescreens

26. The Perfect Storm for PredatorsNever in our history has it been such a perfect time for predators to connect with our kids. Here are three winds of recent change influencing this perfect storm for predators, and ways moms and dads can respond to help protect their kids.LINKS:https://techcrunch.com/2020/06/04/nielsen-finds-connected-tv-viewing-remains-higher-than-pre-covid-19-levels-despite-lockdowns-lifting/https://www.nielsen.com/us/en/insights/article/2020/3-2-1-go-video-gaming-is-at-an-all-time-high-during-covid-19/https://www.commonsensemedia.org/sites/default/files/uploads/research/2019-census-8-to-18-full-report-updated.pdfhttps://techcrunch.com/2020/06/04/kids-now-spend-nearly-as-much-time-watching-tiktok-as-youtube-in-u-s-u-k-and-spain/https://www.samhsa.gov/data/report/2018-nsduh-detailed-tableshttps://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/databriefs/db352-h.pdfhttps://thesource4parents.com/parenting-help/mom-i-want-to-be-a-youtube-star/https://thefintechtimes.com/80-of-teenagers-want-to-be-self-employed-in-the-future-and-are-more-inclined-to-be-freelancers/https://smile.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-Social-Mobile-Devices/dp/1683223195

It’s everything our kids are seeing and experiencing in their world right now: anger, frustration, fear… so how can we talk with our kids about this and help them understand how to respond? Here’s three tips I’ve been learning on my personal journey that may be helpful to you, too.

Researchers have finally come to a consensus about the effects of screen time on the mental health of young people, and the overwhelming majority of them agree on two things… and if you have a daughter, you’ll want to tune in!LINKS:https://docs.google.com/document/d/1w-HOfseF2wF9YIpXwUUtP65-olnkPyWcgF5BiAtBEy0/edithttps://www.thefire.org/catching-up-with-coddling-part-two-trigger-warnings-screen-time-v-social-media-covid-19-and-the-continuing-decline-of-gen-zs-mental-health/https://smile.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-Social-Mobile-Devices/dp/1683223195https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/144/3/e20190187https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/134/3/e921

How do you respond when the most popular app kids want happens to dabble in vulgarity and proves to be a hotspot for predators? In this episode Jonathan McKee helps Moms and Dads navigate these difficult conversations. Links:https://thesource4parents.com/parenting-help/tiktok-offers-new-family-pairing/https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/parents-ultimate-guide-to-tiktokhttps://newsroom.tiktok.com/en-us/tiktok-introduces-family-pairinghttps://thesource4parents.com/parenting-help/mom-i-want-to-be-a-youtube-star/

In this episode Jonathan tackles one of the biggest issues parents are encountering today— when their kid wants to be a social media influencer. How realistic are these aspirations, what are the dangers, and most importantly, how can we respond to our kids desire without crushing their dreams?Links:https://thesource4parents.com/parenting-help/mom-i-want-to-be-a-youtube-star/https://www.cbsnews.com/news/social-media-influencers-86-of-young-americans-want-to-become-one/https://www.ypulse.com/article/2019/09/24/how-much-gen-z-cares-about-online-celebrities-in-5-stats/https://influencermarketinghub.com/how-much-do-youtubers-make/https://www.huffpost.com/entry/how-much-influencers-make_l_5dee68a6e4b05d1e8a556bbchttps://www.bls.gov/emp/chart-unemployment-earnings-education.htm?fbclid=IwAR1Lwz3wilBJpSRRFcf-0AUagkSxxAtP8MLbwSkKhGMl0A6tY1pR6oetEHwhttps://www.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-Connections-Screen-Screen/dp/1643524682

In this episode Jonathan shares some practical ideas for families who all of a sudden have waaaaaaaaaaaay too much time with each other. How much Netflix can a human being actually watch? What about screen limits? And are there ways we can dispel some of the fears and misinformation that might be contributing to our kids’ anxiety about all this?Links:https://thesource4parents.com/parenting-help/young-people-screens-coronavirus/https://www.who.int/emergencies/diseases/novel-coronavirus-2019/advice-for-publichttps://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0988741350https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1941555381

In this episode Jonathan confesses his fear of evangelism, but introduces us to someone who desire to share his faith is contagious to his kids…and to you!Links:https://www.dare2share.orghttps://www.dare2share.org/apps/

In this episode, Jonathan travels to Colorado Springs and asks Focus on the Family's "Plugged In" team some very direct questions about how we can teach our kids to think about the entertainment media they digest. Are we just telling them "yes" or "no"... or are we actually equipping them to make good decisions?Links:https://www.focusonthefamily.com/shows/the-plugged-in-show/

In this extremely helpful podcast Jonathan and Kara Powell, PhD dialogue about the spike in teen anxiety and practical ways parents can actually help!Links in the podcast:https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/07/12/a-growing-number-of-american-teenagers-particularly-girls-are-facing-depression/https://www.wsj.com/articles/the-lonely-burden-of-todays-teenage-girls-11565883328?mod=trending_now_5fulleryouthinstitute.org/anxiousworld

In this special Christmas Edition Jonathan offers one simple tip to parents during Christmas break when kids tend to retreat to their screens.

In this special live episode recorded at the Youth Specialties National Youth Workers Convention, Jonathan addresses moms and dads in ministry and takes their specific questions about parenting in youth ministry, then wrapping it up with a parent tip specific for those serving in ministry.

In this episode Jonathan unpacks Common Sense Media’s brand new 2019 report revealing exactly how much entertainment media and screen time 8- through 18-year-olds are soaking in each day and which media activities they enjoy the most!LINKS IN THIS PODCAST:https://www.commonsensemedia.org/sites/default/files/uploads/research/2019-census-8-to-18-key-findings-updated.pdfhttps://time.com/5555737/smartphone-mental-health-teens/https://thesource4parents.com/parenting-help/sensible-bare-minimum-screen-limits/

In a world where 72% of Generation Z wants to be on online celebrity, gathering as many followers as humanly possible, the overwhelming majority of young people are a little too quick to click ACCEPT to the random “friend" requests they receive from strangers. How can we equip our kids to create safeguards and recognize cyber predatory behavior?LINKS IN THIS PODCAST:https://phys.org/news/2018-10-link-social-media-sex-trafficking.htmlhttps://polarisproject.org/sites/default/files/A%20Roadmap%20for%20Systems%20and%20Industries%20to%20Prevent%20and%20Disrupt%20Human%20Trafficking%20-%20Social%20Media.pdfhttps://www.ypulse.com/article/2019/09/24/how-much-gen-z-cares-about-online-celebrities-in-5-stats/https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/5-myths-and-truths-about-kids-internet-safetyhttps://thesource4parents.com/parenting-help/digital-hurt/https://www.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-Social-Mobile-Devices/dp/1683223195

In this episode we’ll not only discover the conflict phubbing can unleash on your family, but we’ll look at some helpful ways we can embrace face-to-face connection in a screen-to-screen world.LINKS IN THIS PODCAST:https://www.tvtechnology.com/news/nielsen-u-s-adults-spend-majority-of-waking-hours-interacting-with-mediahttps://www.commonsensemedia.org/research/The-New-Normal-Parents-Teens-and-Devices-Around-the-Worldhttps://www.gottman.com/blog/smartphone-might-sabotage-relationship/https://www.fatherly.com/news/study-phubbing-relationship-problems/https://www.baylor.edu/mediacommunications/news.php?action=story&story=161554https://thesource4parents.com/parenting-help/but-mom-i-really-need-my-phone-in-my-bedroom/https://www.amazon.com/Can-Have-Your-Attention-Constantly/dp/111939046Xhttps://www.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-Social-Mobile-Devices/dp/1683223195

In this highly informative episode Jonathan not only unveils the unprecedented increase in teen depression, but more importantly, he provides moms and dads with two parenting practices that will help them build their kids’ self esteem!LINKS IN THIS PODCAST:https://time.com/5555737/smartphone-mental-health-teens/ https://thesource4parents.com/parenting-help/but-mom-i-really-need-my-phone-in-my-bedroom/https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/09/has-the-smartphone-destroyed-a-generation/534198/https://www.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-Social-Mobile-Devices/dp/1683223195https://thesource4parents.com/music-discussions/

In this entertaining episode, Jonathan’s brother Thom joins him to share a little dirt on Jonathan and to share his perspective on parenting as a small town pastor, youth worker and parent!LINKS IN THIS PODCAST:http://www.thewalkingdeadgospel.com

In this episode Jonathan unveils brand new research about how many teens bring their screens to the bedroom and what experts are revealing as the consequences (hint: It’s more than just grumpy teenagers)LINKS IN THIS PODCAST:https://www.georgetownbehavioral.com/node/1767https://www.health.harvard.edu/newsletter_article/sleep-and-mental-healthhttps://health.usnews.com/health-care/for-better/articles/2018-07-02/the-importance-of-sleep-for-teen-mental-healthhttps://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/10/171019100416.htmhttps://thesource4parents.com/parenting-help/but-mom-i-really-need-my-phone-in-my-bedroom/https://www.commonsensemedia.org/research/The-New-Normal-Parents-Teens-and-Devices-Around-the-Worldhttps://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/how-to-turn-kids-phones-off-at-night-or-anytime-really https://www.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-Social-Mobile-Devices/dp/1683223195

In this episode, Jonathan interviews Focus on the Family President Jim Daly and Daily Show CoHost John Fuller about raising today’s teen guysLINKS IN THIS PODCAST:https://www.amazon.com/Guys-Guide-Battles-Every-Young/dp/1683229495https://youtu.be/_tGI5qWk_mk

in this episode Jonathan wrestles with the issue of “shaming” our kids, what that actually looks like, and explores four harmful side effects. Then he unveils what loving discipline can look like without resorting to shaming.LINKS IN THIS PODCAST:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/our-gender-ourselves/201304/dont-shame-children-in-pursuit-disciplinehttps://www.amazon.com/If-Had-Parenting-Do-Over-Changes/dp/1683220676

In a world where porn is becoming easily accessible from almost every screen we encounter, how is this affecting our kids, and more importantly, what can we do to help them navigate this temptation?LINKS IN THIS PODCAST:http://barna.org/research/porn-in-the-digital-age-new-research-reveals-10-trends/#.VxVQLj8lr6x https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/5-ways-to-block-porn-on-your-kids-deviceshttp://time.com/4277510/porn-and-the-threat-to-virility/?xid=homepage&pcd=hp-magmodhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201803/4-ways-porn-use-causes-problemshttps://thesource4parents.com/youth-culture-window/more-problems-from-porn/https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Matters-Jonathan-McKee/dp/0764222139/https://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Just-Talk-Go/dp/076421294X

Author, speaker, apologist and dad Sean McDowell tackles the question, “What if my teenager doesn’t believe in God?” How can moms and dads actually respond when our kids express doubt?MENTIONED IN THIS PODCAST:https://seanmcdowell.orghttps://www.amazon.com/Next-Generation-Will-Know-Challenging/dp/1434712281https://www.str.orghttps://www.reasonablefaith.orghttps://coldcasechristianity.comhttps://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Carpenter-Josh-McDowell/dp/1414326270

A recent federally funded survey of teenagers found that 60 percent of high school seniors say they think marijuana is safe. So is it? Consider the perspective of young people today. Lawmakers are legalizing it, their role models are advocating it… why shouldn’t I try it? That’s what we’ll explore in this eye-opening episode of the Parent Tips podcast. Links in this podcast: https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2014/02/25/282631913/marijuana-may-hurt-the-developing-teen-brain https://www.amazon.com/Guys-Guide-Battles-Every-Young/dp/1683229495 https://www.cnn.com/2013/08/09/health/weed-potency-levels/ https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320984.php https://imprimis.hillsdale.edu/marijuana-mental-illness-violence/

Teens love screens, tweens love screens, adults love screens… but how much is too much? In this episode of the Parent Tips podcast we explore a little bit about the effects of screen time on all of us, and focus on the good news: 65% of teens wish they were better able to limit the amount of time they spend on their phones! Here’s some ideas on how to use that.Links in this podcast:https://tappable.agency/millennials-rather-lose-a-finger-than-smartphones/https://techcrunch.com/2019/01/28/screen-time-inhibits-toddler-development-study-finds/http://www.pewinternet.org/2018/08/22/how-teens-and-parents-navigate-screen-time-and-device-distractions/

Parents love it, kids can't get enough of it, some of us even binge it... but what do we do if our kids are watching innappropriate content on it? We're talking about Netflix this episode! For more reading: The Teen's Guide to Social Media and Mobile Devices, Chapter 14-- Dissect your entertainment Media: https://www.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-Social-Mobile-Devices/dp/1683223195

Even the best kids will disobey. They might sneak, or download an app they shouldn’t, or come home late… something that requires us to lovingly correct. But what does that actually look like?If I Had a Parenting Do Over: 7 Vital Changes I’d Make https://www.amazon.com/If-Had-Parenting-Do-Over-Changes/dp/1683220676

Should I give/have given my kid a smartphone? It's one of the biggest questions we hear from parents today, "What age should I give my kids a smartphone?" Find out what the research reveals, and what you can do if your kids already have them!True story of kid breaking into homes for WiFi password: https://www.ozy.com/presidential-daily-brief/pdb-88315?utm_source=pdb&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=07272018&variable=88d23c246a2e7a2ebf0e701d71abc39b#article88355Spike in teen anxiety, depression and suicide: https://thesource4parents.com/parenting-help/3-ingredients-catalyzing-the-spike-in-teen-depression/Silicon Valley parents not letting their own kids have devices: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/10/26/style/phones-children-silicon-valley.htmlAverage age of phone ownership 10.3 years old: https://techcrunch.com/2016/05/19/the-average-age-for-a-child-getting-their-first-smartphone-is-now-10-3-years/New Common Sense Media report revealing 89% of teenagers have smartphone: https://www.commonsensemedia.org/research/social-media-social-life-2018New Pew Research report revealing 95% of teens have access to smartphones: http://www.pewinternet.org/2018/05/31/teens-social-media-technology-2018/COPPA: https://searchcrm.techtarget.com/definition/COPPAJim Steyer, president of Common Sense Media, what age?: https://www.nytimes.com/2016/07/21/technology/personaltech/whats-the-right-age-to-give-a-child-a-smartphone.htmlBill Gates, what age? https://www.inc.com/melanie-curtin/bill-gates-says-this-is-the-safest-age-to-give-a-child-a-smartphone.html