Spill The Chai with Rabya & Rida

Spill The Chai Is Back ! Shehzad Ali Khan joins us for a super juicy episode talking everything from food, identity, home, belonging, queerness and being accepted. So yes, juicy, funny and full of our usual honesty! You must follow Shehzad everywhere! Here are his links for  Instagram and TikTok

What is a legacy to you? What legacy do you hope to leave behind? Today's episode has us thinking about those questions, we discuss how excited we are for Ms Marvel and throw a whole heap of stuff in the bin for fool of the week. And as always, you can find us on: Rida: Instagram and Patreon Rabya: Instagram and Patreon Shownote Links: Aja Barber's book can be bought at all good bookshops, we recommend bookshop.org.  Nuffield Report - Resource Justice - https://resourcejustice.co.uk/what-we-do/ Shehzil Malik - https://www.instagram.com/shehzilm/ Polyester Zine - Nepotism Post

Maryam Wahid, an award winning photographer and artist who explores her identity as a British Pakistani Muslim woman, joins us in this wonderful chat all about connecting with the idea of home, belonging, being multifaceted women and the importance of portrait photography. Plus we have all of the usual giggles, deep thoughts, fool of the week and what we're loving. You're going to wonder where the hour went with this episode! So grab that cuppa chai or pop out in the Spring sunshine and take us along.  You can find Maryam on Instagram and on her website . Her first solo exhibition just closed at the MAC in Birmingham but you can still find information and some photos on both her instagram and website. Maryam also has  And as always, you can find us on: Rida: Instagram and Patreon Rabya: Instagram and Patreon 

Nestle in loves, for an introspection and exploration of how we honour our inner child and how from that self exploration, we have been able to heal certain wounds.  Show notes: https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/inner-child-healing https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/inner-child-healing#acknowledge https://cptsdfoundation.org/2020/07/27/reparenting-to-heal-the-wounded-inner-child/ https://www.forbes.com/sites/womensmedia/2021/09/02/5-self-soothing-tips-to-heal-your-inner-child/?sh=675576322f32 And as always, you can find us on: Rida: Instagram and Patreon Rabya: Instagram and Patreon 

*Sigh* Friendship break ups, we know you've been through them, you've been through them, but they're never really spoken about right? Romantic relationships as ever are prioritised over platonic relationships; so in this episode we explore the complicated feelings around friendship break ups, our personal experience and yeah, grab a cuppa, nestle in and get vulnerable with us.  Link to the Vogue, And Just Like That article: https://www.vogue.in/fashion/content/sex-and-the-sari-investigating-the-diwali-episode-debacle-in-and-just-like-that Some articles exploring friendship break ups/how to heal/deal with them: https://ideas.ted.com/how-to-get-over-a-friendship-breakup/ https://www.refinery29.com/en-au/friendship-breakup-stories https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/prisons-and-pathos/202106/how-handle-friendship-breakup https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/apr/21/like-having-limb-cut-off-pain-friendship-breakups https://gal-dem.com/queeries-how-do-i-get-over-a-friendship-breakup/ And as always, you can find us on: Rida: Instagram and Patreon Rabya: Instagram and Patreon 

This was such a lovely episode to record last summer! We know, it's been a while! But hey ho, this podcast is for you and for us and not made for the capitalist timelines and push to keep producing! Rida says "I actually do talk about reality tv on my Instagram now, lol!" Our wonderful guest and sweet sister friend, Emi Ito can be found on instagram ! Links from the show below: Twilight TikTok(s) decided to link a few more because phew! There are a whole bunch! https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMLDF8fAF/ https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMLDjon8e/ https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMLD6FEt1/ https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMLD6Jg8U/ Jasika Nicole's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jasikaistrycurious/?hl=en Everyday Racism post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CRMnsnjsGdx/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Find us on: Rabya: Instagram and Patreon Rida: Instagram and Patreon

A little catch up with your hosts Rabya and Rida. What we've been up to since the last season, the things that have been bringing us joy, silly bits and a new section we're calling meethi sweeti! for our listeners' shout outs! (Like on the radio but slow) Find us on: Rabya: Instagram and Patreon Rida: Instagram and Patreon

A little nostalgic look back at the season and our favourite bits! We did it Rabya....what a year! What a time! Season 1 ? Done! Find us: Rida: Instagram and Patreon Rabya: Instagram and Patreon

This episode is dedicated to the Free Palestine movement. This Summer we've seen an increase in awareness of how the right wing settler colonialists Israeli government continue to rule by genocide and apartheid. In this episode Rabya interviews Rida, who has long been a supporter of the movement and of BDS - Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions. She retells her awakening moment, and we contextualise the conversation against the backdrop of continuing to decolonise and fight oppressive systems.  We hope you feel embolden to add your voice to this much needed movement and find the information useful in your ongoing education. Here are the links we spoke about: BDS Movement https://bdsmovement.net/ Freedom Is A Constant Struggle by Dr Angela Davis https://www.waterstones.com/book/freedom-is-a-constant-struggle/angela-davis/frank-barat/9781608465644 Friends of Al-Aqsa https://www.foa.org.uk/ Al-Jazeera vids https://www.instagram.com/tv/CP0eMVYHla6/?utm_medium=copy_link https://www.instagram.com/tv/COs6SGipGAd/?utm_medium=copy_link Brands that L'Oréal own - brands to divest from https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/L%27Oréal Better Help: https://www.betterhelp.com/

In this plump and wonderful episode , if we do say so ourselves, we chat about longing, our ancestors and what culture is and means to us, whales, Eid and a whole lot else. Cosy in and enjoy. We refer to the following posts:Roshni @roshnigoyatehttps://www.instagram.com/p/CHWG9Gznrha/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_linkSandeep Kaur most recent posthttps://www.instagram.com/panjabimg/?hl=enAshley @allotmentcafehttps://www.instagram.com/allotmentcafe/?hl=enDecolonise The Gardenhttps://www.instagram.com/decolonisethegarden/?hl=enSui @thetemperategardenerhttps://www.instagram.com/thetemperategardener/?hl=enAnd of course you can find us as below:@sheflourished_@beforeandagain_

In this episode Rabya and Rida ask each other quickfire questions, when I say quick I mean R&R quick! It's a bit of fun lighthearted banter.As we ever we talk ful of the week; yes we're throwing the latest race and ethnic disparities commission report in the trash can. https://www.theguardian.com/world/2021/mar/31/deeply-cynical-no-10-report-criticises-use-of-institutional-racismWe also talk about what we're loving at the moment too:Dhee x Arivu: Enjoy Enjaami: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eYq7WapuDLULine of Duty: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p00yzlr0Lil Nas X: Montero (Call Me By Your Name) Lil Nas X - MONTERO (Call Me By Your Name) (Official Video Matt Bernstien: https://www.instagram.com/mattxiv/?hl=en

Although it is a week after International Women’s Day, it is still Women’s History Month and the horrific events of the past week, past months and throughout history have only highlighted the way in which folks have banded upon IWD as a way to exercise their performativity, make money (capitalism) and co-opt a movement which is rooted in socialism and indeed protest. Show notes links - Aja Barber - Pre-order book: https://www.waterstones.com/book/consumed/aja-barber/9781914240041Kevin Morosky’s More Time A Short Fundraiser:https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/more-time-a-work-culture-mockumentary?create_edit=true#/Kelechi Okafor : Podcast https://open.spotify.com/episode/6wyFC97QXheczFqMt483kY?si=Dc_MyiQyT2CJUXmHvRhP8APatreon https://www.patreon.com/KelechiokaforWingspan: https://www.diceanddecks.com/board-games-c1/wingspan-p38137

Kristabel Plummer joins us to spill the chai on being a blogger, content creator and how Dragrace has been helping her through this ongoing pandemic. With years of being an established content creator we are super honoured to have Kristabel as our guest for this episode where she shared her insights and experience. We touch on racism in the influencer world, the impact of #BLM uprising last summer in the Instagram influencer space and oh we talk Dragrace!You can find Kristabel on:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/iamkristabel/ Website: http://iwantyoutoknow.co.uk/ I Want You To Know - London Fashion, Travel & Lifestyle BlogKristabel’s Savage tiktok: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMe8mqE8E/Rabya’s posts:#EachForEqual : Allyship Means Action — https://www.sheflourished.com/life/2020/3/6/eachforequal-allyship-means-action #InfluenceInclusivity — She Flourishedhttps://www.sheflourished.com/life/2019/5/11/influenceinclusivity Arooj’s Done With Diversity: https://instagram.com/donewithdiversity?igshid=1h4qec0fuk1p5

We're back, Happy New Year!In this episode we share our journeys of growth, of divorcing and diverging away from capitalist structures.  It's deep, nuanced and as ever there is laughter!We're throwing Modi and the BJP into the trash can, and sending a heap of love to the kisaan farmers and workers, the incredible women and minority groups protesting in India.We're loving poetry and hopefully you will feel nourished and see by the end of this episode.In this episode we reference: Rida’s post on beyond binaries https://www.instagram.com/p/CIi7gioJQUl/?igshid=1ek5obbv3f778 Rida’s post on language The Language of Empowerment — Before & Again Add Yazzie, Ravideep, Sikh Expo https://instagram.com/standforhumanity?igshid=54bhlp9h4hps  https://farmerprotests.carrd.co/# https://instagram.com/sikhexpo?igshid=19s2jyg6qg6j2   https://instagram.com/ravideepkaur_?igshid=25lhma2erd5q And Rupi Kaur https://instagram.com/rupikaur_?igshid=1lixabc26gcqi If you've loved this don't forget to leave us a review and as ever come find us on instagram and tell us what you though of today's episode:Rabya @sheflourished_Rida @beforeandagain_@ridaandrabya 

Welcome back! In this episode we talk about our experiences of Christmas growing up with multicultural and ethnic identities. We also talk about decentering Christmas in schools. As ever we cover what we’re loving, and what we want to put in the bin! And yes there’s a Christmas theme to that too!We mention @javaholicandtheboy - they’re a brilliant photographer https://instagram.com/javaholicandtheboy?igshid=ixbr5454dw0fWe talk about @brithawthorn post on decentering Christmas https://www.instagram.com/p/CIRdoDchK-J/?igshid=1gzjnktma8ehk

We are rejoined by the amazing Lucy Lucraft! Woohoo! And we talk about what it feels like to constantly have your name mispronounced, made fun of and generally bastardised! Then we have a heart felt rage at the dehumanising, evil Tory policies. The lady who Rida refers to is Mercy Baguma , a CW of mortality/poverty/Black women dying https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2020/aug/28/friends-paint-fuller-picture-of-mercy-baguma-she-was-a-rainbowChimamanda Ngozi Adichie - hailing her daughters name and affirming her https://www.instagram.com/p/CFoTuZNAYXC/?igshid=kmg5zw0senegLeata-Mae post https://www.instagram.com/p/CGw5NCFAVU6/?igshid=klx7m7qi6re6Seohyun’s blog post https://doseofrose.com/blogs/dose-of-rose/my-name-is-seohyun-hanYou can find us on Instagram: @lucylucraft @beforeandagain_@sheflourished_ 

This week we explore what it means when we talk about self care and the over celebration of the mediocre white man! We put a whole lotta things in the bin with our “Ful of the Week”We also discuss these awesome songs:  Buju Banton - Blessed  Tobe Nwigwe - Eat  Koffee - Toast  Pongo - Uwa We will add them to our Spotify playlist that we started for our Gxlentines event: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4e4Qn8EUoKjvqzPSZitFtZ?si=BkOx4FHmRcGpANnjw-FHKw As always thanks to our amazing podcast producer @lucylucraft 

In today’s episode we talk Cultural appropriation , our experiences and what we’ve witnessed where language has been co-opted.  We shout at Gwen Stefani for wearing a bindis in the 90s!We also just laugh an awful lot - it’s a bit more lighthearted after our rather vulnerable first episode! We hope you throw your head backs in laughter too, and enjoy.Come find us on Instagram:@sheflourished_@beforeandagain_@lucylucraft@ridaandrabyaIf you loved this episode please rate and review us on iTunes so that more folx can discover us! xx

Welcome! It is our first full episode! And phew is it a juicy one!! We open up about the complexities of growing up mixed race, our experiences of assimilation at school and in life. It’s quite a raw and vulnerable episode that we hope you’ll lean into. A slight content warning too regarding mention of sexual harassment.  Apologies for the slight echo, our mics were picking up each other’s sound which we didn’t realise. You can find us as follows: Lucy Lucraft : @lucylucraft Rabya Lomas : @sheflourished_Rida Suleri-Johnson : @beforeandagain_Home of Spill The Chai: @ridaandrabya 

A little introduction to your hosts and talk of actual chai.