The Kid Code Playground

Want to turn down the volume on the stress you feel around your problems. Take a minute to learn this simple technique and another one to implement it—and stress loses its power.Remember to spread the love, it's for your wellbeing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you feel an upset arise, save yourself a lot of trouble, by asking yourself, “How can I respond to this in a way that makes me feel good?” “Is there a decent way for me to respond to this?”It's for our wellbeing.Show Notes:No, sorry. This is less than a few minutes long. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Imagine going from mad or sad to happy in a matter of a few seconds. There might be nothing better on earth than that! Doing this technique several times a day accumulates peace in your inner banking system.It also directs you, instantly, to your beautiful inner self and then you can share that with the world.It's for your wellbeing.Show NotesNot yet. The podcasts are three minutes long! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you have a voice in your head you'd like to adios? Listen to find a simple way to exorcise it once and for all! It involves a stuffed animal or a coffee mug and some humor.Let me know how it goes for you: Brenda@TheKidCode.caRemember to spread the love. It feels good. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You've probably heard about this; have you ever tried it?Would you like to try an experiment with your life? Could you commit to thinking, speaking and acting in a way that you want others to think, speak and act towards you—for one week and see what happens.Let me know how it goes for you: brenda@thekidcode.caRemember to spread the love. It feels good. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Talking about change again. It's easier than we think it we don't overthink it and just do it. Do you have one thing you'd like to change in the way your parent?Pick one thing:I don't want to be huffy when I talk with my kidsI don't want to holler anymoreI want to take more time for me and spend more time with my kidsWhatever it is, think of that one thing that causes you stress as a parent or even as a partnerListen to see if this might work for you!Let me know how it goes for you: brenda@thekidcode.caRemember to spread the love. It feels good. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My dad used to remind me to always look for the best in other people because it calls forth the best in them. I noticed that calling each other by this affectionate, humorous name, “Genius” brought out the best in us.How can you bring the best out in your kids and your partner using an affectionate name or some other strategy?Let me know how it goes for you: brenda@thekidcode.caRemember to spread the love. It feels good. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Every morning, at noon and every evening, remind yourself of what you're going to change and how you're going to feel when you change. What do you want to change as a parent. How will you feel when you change that? Like a champion!!For me it's helpful to remind myself that my behaviors and words aren't serving me when I act out. It motivates me to change. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This razor helps me so much—to move me out of my comfort zone with less stress. Outside of our comfort zones is where we learn the big lessons and get really wise!How can you use this razor for yourself and for your kids. I remind myself that I'll learn something every single time I go outside of my comfort zone—if I pay attention.Remember to spread the love! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This simple razor inspires you to step up your game to get 7 years of output in one year!How can you use this one to help your kids? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

These ‘razors' help you and your kids get smarter, wiser! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Replace regret (when speaking or acting from a highly charged emotional state) with a simple statement that keeps you from digging a hole you have to humbly climb out of.Think and thrive, and remember to spread the love.Show NotesSorry, no. Still needing to spend most of my energy healing from cancer so I can continue doing what I love! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Want to help your kids find their genius? Introduce them the clear thinking and nudge out confusion using the Philosophical Razors.Try one of these razors with your family applied to a local or global issue and let me know what you find! brenda@thekidcode.caShift your thinking and thrive—and remember to spread the love! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This Harvard study shows how powerful the mind is in affecting the functions of the body. See what happens when you simply think about being 20 years younger. Maybe you'll have all the energy you need to parent those awesome kids of yours!Show Notes:https://www.harvardmagazine.com/2010/08/the-mindfulness-chronicles Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When things start to go south, reverse thinking and make it into a fun adventure. Your kids will love you for it. And you'll be pretty happy with yourself too! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If the news, the neighbors or the nuts do our thinking for us, we're easily manipulated and can't connect the dots we need to, to make good decisions, and to feel at ease.Remember to spread the love. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you know that dancing, even when you're not “good” at it has benefits that outweigh even an exercise bike…among other things! Get your kids to dance, here's some ideas.Show NotesMaybe never. I don't know. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you know that playing can help relationships and improve brain function? And it does so much more for us! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Even if you're not good at it, there are so many benefits to singing, it's like a magic pill. It doesn't just make you feel good, it even helps fight infections, who'd have thought? Want to have a sing-along with your family tonight?Show NotesNot yet. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Even if we don't feel like being positive, even if we're tired of everyone preaching about it, even if it seems hard to achieve—and we'd like to stomp on the idea when we're feeling grouchy…research shows that people who have three positive thoughts to one negative thought have a better chance of human flourishing.That is a fascinating, simple, and inspiring formula for human flourishing.Show NotesSorry, nope. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How would your life change if your brain produced feel-good hormones when you are positive-obsessing vs. how you feel when you are negative-obsessing and producing stress chemicals?How can you become positive-obsessed?Spread the love.Show NotesSorry. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Listen to learn a simple question to boot us out of a ‘thinking-box' we can sometimes gravitate towards. This question kicks us into solution-oriented thinking and out of problem-obsessing!Remember to spread the love.Show NotesNot yet. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Asking a simple question can stop an unwanted desire. Studies show that with no resistance, we act on 70% of our desires and with resistance, we act on 17% of them. Show Notes:This article demonstrating percentages on resistance was created by Hugo Alberts (Ph.D.) and Lucinda Poole (PsyD). https://pro.positivepsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/Increasing-Self-Control-through-Repeated-Practice-2.pdf?utm_source=ActiveCampaign&utm_medium=email&utm_content=%5B5-Bullet+Friday%5D+The+Secrets+of+Self-Control%3A+Overcoming+Instant+Gratification+%28%2B+Science-Based+Tool%29&utm_campaign=%5B5-Bullet+Friday%5D+Instant+Grat Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Since your family or friends are still going to be around more than usual for a few more days, in this podcast I share my favorite ways to dissolve my important impatience and return myself back to the decent person I want to be.Show NotesEver hopeful. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to downgrade stress and upgrade peace, harmony and fun!Show NotesSorry! I'm still healing from this cancer that I plan on beating, so I'm making it easy on myself with really short podcasts. xoBrenda Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

No matter what we think, we will never find happiness by controlling others, even if it seems like if we control things, all will be right in the world.Find out how to dissolve the painful impulse to control with a few simple silent statements!Show NotesI wonder if I'll ever do them again? Probably not when the podcasts are so short. Should I? Please let me know if they matter to you: brenda@thekidcode.ca Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Jordan Peterson has a simple, respectful way to help you communicate with and understand your kids or anyone else, and—to help them learn to articulate—and that helps them to become clearer in their thinking. This is tremendously helpful in the world we live in today. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Isn't it strange that we do things we don't really want to—like react negatively towards our kids? This podcast helps us see that we can correct our own course with a simple question.Show Notes:Eliot Hoppe, Serene Hypnotherapy Health and Wellnesshttps://www.serene-hypnosis.com403-498-8884eliot@paramountlearning.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're talking about how to ask a few simple questions to go from making decisions that lead to some degree of destruction to making decisions that come from a place of collaboration—and way less internal stress.Show NotesEliot's contact info:Eliot Hoppe, Serene Hypnotherapy Health and Wellnesshttps://www.serene-hypnosis.com403-498-8884eliot@paramountlearning.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We can take our instructions from a negative thought or ask ourselves a simple question or two to change course! That sounds too easy. Try it and see!Show Notes:Eliot Hoppe, Serene Hypnotherapy Health and Wellnesshttps://www.serene-hypnosis.com403-498-8884eliot@paramountlearning.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This simple secret is like taking a feel-good tranquilizer without the side effects when stress arises around the never ending ‘to-do's'! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Who are you grateful for? Why? How did that change you? How can you use that to help your kids and others?Contemplating how your life changed and how you can help others feel peaceful instead of panicky or paranoid is a good life-skill. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

With this recap of our Kindness Series you are invited to take the joy-causing strategies into your future with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Princess, Lady Diana, and The Pauper, Mother Teresa both led lives that were blessed in some ways and impoverished in others—what they had in common—and spread around themselves, was kindness. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dedicate your day to kindness with a simple affirmation in the morning when your eyes pop open—and silently count how many times you can be kind to yourself and others each day—for the next week. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Were you born lovable? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Regulate yourself out of unkindness and cruelty before the urge materializes—with one simple statement. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you know that when, on autopilot, we judge another person, we are doing it to make ourselves feel superior, feel better? The cure for the unkindness of judging another human being is in providing ourselves with inner security. Listen to see how. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you (unconsciously) gain by not forgiving yourself? Are there any more good reasons you can find for not forgiving yourself? Can you see that it's actually ludicrous to not forgive yourself? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Making a mistake is not a good enough reason to not forgive yourself, withhold love from yourself, be unkind to yourself. Making a mistake that's not remedied causes guilt and that causes suffering. This simple strategy will guide you to the freedom of forgiving yourself! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A quick reminder and simplified version of ridding yourself of guilt over how you've treated your kids and others awaits! If we want to be truly free to naturally be kind, we have to dissolve the learned parts of ourselves that hold on to the idea that we're bad and should feel guilt. Our job is to blossom ourselves, not devalue ourselves and if we've been mean to someone, it will store in the unconscious mind and guilt will arise to haunt us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Self-honesty, a few minutes, and 6 simple steps to letting go of guilt and finally giving ourselves the kindness of forgiveness. This is one of the most helpful exercises I've ever done to dissolve guilt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What are the stumbling blocks to giving yourself kindness? You can't hate yourself into being a better person, so that thinking needs to go. Believing that you're not good enough, or believing you're bad because bad things have happened to you isn't a good reason to withhold kindness. We shouldn't be forgiven because we've done bad things also isn't a logical argument for not giving ourselves kindness. We could recognize we have done bad things because we were ignorant, and be kind to ourselves and others as atonement! That means, in case it wasn't clear, be kind is the atonement, being kind is making up for being unconscious that we were hurting ourselves and others. See how it's true that we are worthy! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Take a couple of minutes to think about what kindness means to you when you demonstrate it to your kids and other people. Is it kind to show patience, compassion, playfulness (when your kids want to play, for example), etc. What else can you do to show kindness to the people in your life? Can you think of someone who is kind and see how and why you would like to live like that? Can you give that same kindness to yourself—so that you are giving yourself a dose of love-flooding, pain-reducing, upset-dissolving ‘feel good hormones?' Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There is a remarkable physical and mental phenomenon that happens when kindness is given and when it's received. It can pull you out of an upset in an instant, and put you into a blissful state that overrides pain. Listen in to see how you can use this to your benefit and of course, for the benefit of your kids! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you're feeling snappy and crappy, ask yourself, “Right now, is there a good reason not be kind to other people or to myself?” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Six minutes of ideas to find peace when your partner's ex is a bee in your bonnet! No one is worth your peace—choose one or two of these ideas and use them every time you get stung!Show NotesNot yet. Maybe never. These are short, short podcasts with quick and effective ideas to self-regulate into joy. Go!xoBrendawww.thekidcode.ca Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is anybody or anything worth your peace? If you have 13 minutes to spare, you can gain insight into how to lead the charge out of protest against your ex and into peace for yourself, learn why people lash out, and discover 6 quick tips to dissolve your resentment and anger towards your ex. While you definitely won't like all of these at first glance, if you do them, you'll love the result and so will your kids. Parent-up and get doing this. Just a suggestion.Show NotesNope.www.thekidcode.ca Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The subtitle says it all: I don't like them, but I want them to like me.Why do we want the other to like us, approve of us, agree with us, fawn all over us?Why?To make us feel important, valued, needed, wanted, accepted, indispensable, and superior to name a few false gains from this way of living. Would you rather be peaceful, kind, and playful or important, valued, accepted, needed, wanted, indispensable and superior? That's easy: most people have replied they'd like to be peaceful, but how? That's what we're here today to work on. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Anyone can use this strategy, but you'll have to hold on and wait for the wisdom of it to resonate with you. You will have to use it and have the personal experience of it helping you regulate yourself from protest into peace when your kids or your partners kids are acting out.Wanting what the other wants for themselves doesn't mean we don't have wants and needs that need to be met. It means we cause ourselves less stress by not controlling others.Support runs both ways. We want others to support us, and they want us to support them. Can we do that and find peace?By understanding that we have two natures operating us and driving our behaviors, we can learn to be okay with others (our kids and partners kids) acting out and not engaging.As Rumi says, There are two lives being lived. Stay in your heart by using a strategy like HeartMath or any of The Kid Code strategies when your kids or your partners kids are acting out and when you achieve the superpower of wanting what they want in the moment and giving consequences from a place of wanting well-being for them, you are a peaceful, positive parent. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you have a fifteen-minute drive you're taking today? Have a listen to see if you can use some of these strategies like ‘the complaint fizzle', making stories up while doing jobs to make jobs more fun, the solution oriented family conflab once a week meeting, calming down to communicate so we don't teach that being upset is the way to be heard, and transition days techniques to help with shared space success.What ideas do you have to make your house a shared space success? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.