Your Confidence Reconnected

Have you ever wondered if you were doing all the right things? Are you worried about failing again? Do you know every failure is another opportunity to get it right? In this episode, I discuss the thoughts and feelings I've had over the past few weeks and how I show up for myself even when showing up feels like death...that may be a bit dramatic, but you get the idea. Life will ALWAYS be happening. No matter what, keep showing up for you. Listen as I talk about how prayer and work = success. Thanks for tuning in!

In this weeks episode I talk about the importance of catching a bad thought before it can take your focus. So often we let the "facts" determine how we will react or behave and many times we act in a negative way instead of a positive manner. If you let a "fact" get you to focus on an negative outcome, this will almost always result in feelings of anxiety, depression and anger. The good news? You have the power to stop that thought dead in its tracks! The more you repeat a bad cycle the more new skills you learn. In Skating, one of my favorite teachers, Myesha McCaskill says if you are not falling you are not learning. The same applies to life. Don't be discouraged if you keep messing up. Get grateful for the new lesson learned! I hope you enjoy this message. Happy Winning Wednesday!

So you've gotten sober, now what? Have you ever quit a bad habit and thought you would never walk down that path again? Have you fallen off the wagon and now are stuck in a state of guilt and condemnation? In this weeks episode I talk about the challenges that come with getting and staying clean. I discuss how I thought about going back to bad habits when life happens and the good times seem so far away. I hope this gives you a new perspective and helps you see that no matter what struggles you face, you too will be just fine.

Are you goal driven, but get stuck when things are not perfect? Do you let years pass by because all of your ducks are not in a row or the planets are not aligned just right? Are you holding your dreams hostage, because you are waiting to be ready? Let me be the first to tell you that you are ready now! Do you know why? Because "ready" is an illusion! Ready happens once you get started! In this weeks' episode we learn why sloppy progress is better than no progress at all. You may step forward and step in the mud but mud washes off! The mud only turns to cement when we stay stuck in it! Most of the time perfection is a symptom of fear and THAT is what needs to be addressed. What scares you is the real reason you yearn for perfection and once you conquer your fears you can step out on faith and start winning!

In this episode we talk about what to do when you do all right things and things still go left. No matter where you are or what happens to you, everything that is happening is an ingredient in the recipe that is your life! You are exactly where you are meant to be and all that is happening is a part of the process of becoming the you God created you to be. There is peace and victory on the other side of struggle! I am not telling you what I heard but what I know!! You are more than a conqueror!!

Are you a person that gets distracted with what those around you are achieving. Do you sometimes feel as though your hard work is not paying off soon enough? In this weeks episode we discuss the topic of comparison syndrome, what it is, and what to do if you feel it creeping into your psyche.

In this episode we discuss the revelation I received when talking about my love language with a friend. Could my love language actually be the result of a traumatic experience that needs healing? Listen in as I talk through the discovery and the breakthrough. I believe there is healing for all of us that need it, but first we have to acknowledge our wounds. After acknowledgment, comes acceptance and forgiveness. It is after we forgive others an ourselves that true healing begins.

Last week we were hit with the unexpected. My oldest son was admitted to the hospital and we didn't know if he would make it out. This situation caused us to lean more heavily on our faith and it taught a lesson about life, and time, what really matters and what things need to change. Listen in as I take you through my family's story of pain, triumph, and growth. Stop waiting for life to happen and create the life you want...get up and start today!

About 4 years ago, I was depressed and like many of you, I didn't go talk to anyone and I didn't go to see a Dr. I was not diagnosed and I was not dealing with it. I used weed and wine to self medicate, the only problem, is that was not real medication. Life got worse and I was hopeless. Using some brain hacks I learned and being intentional about changing my mindset, I slowly came out of it. I recognized that what I was dealing with was depression and learned a lot about myself. I also about others dealing with this sickness and developed a new compassion for those in there own storm of depression. My life changed, but not until I made the discovery and sought help.

In this weeks episode I talk about the negative effects of procrastination and why it is important to overcome it if you want to walk in your life's purpose. Procrastination negatively impacts your self esteem, your confidence and your health! You are too great to procrastinate. You are a Superhero and procrastination is the kryptonite to your superpower!

On this weeks episode of Your Confidence Reconnected we are talking to Jabrita Shelton, the author of Mind Your Madness and the creator of the Mind Your M.A.D.N.E.S.S. method. Join us as we discuss how she overcame traumatic events in her life and how she I using her Mind Your M.A.D.N.E.S.S. program to help others do the same.

In this weeks' episode, I discuss the tips and tricks I use to shift my mindset from negative to positive. We all have moments when we want to give in to our feelings, but our feelings ain't loyal! Learn to control your feelings and do what you have to do in order to seize the day because every day is a gift if you believe it is.

In this weeks episode of Your Confidence Reconnected I sit with Bernadette Jackson and discuss what it means to be a fatherless daughter. We talk about how unresolved "daddy issues" effect the women we become and that it is never too late to heal. Bernadette uses her own journey as an example of true resilience and hope to help other with similar struggles over come and arrive at a place of triumph. Bernadette's story is sure to impact many women and will shed new light on the challenges of daughters deemed fatherless.

In this Episode I speak with Ana Ramirez, a former weed addict and we discuss how she and I both overcame a 20+ year addiction to smoking weed. We talk about what led us to try weed in the first place and uncover the layers of unresolved trauma that played a major part in us becoming addicted to weed. We talk about what helped us overcome and how we now choose to get high off of life. Now we establish healthy meaningful relationships and reach for people, not pot.

In this weeks' episode, we discuss Superwoman Syndrome and the negative impact it can have on our lives. Being a Superwoman can often be a a cape we wear proudly that is slowly killing us. In an attempt to do all some of us end up crashing and that is what I want to help you avoid. We talk about the real root of Superwoman Syndrome and how it can wreak havoc if left unchecked.

In this weeks episode we talk about how changing my circle of influence encouraged me to step out of my comfort zone and boldly chase my dreams. As a child I told myself I was average and surrounded myself with people that had the same narrative and helped me stay "comfortable". It was not until I took a leap of faith and stepped out of my comfort zone that my life began to change. In 12 short weeks I overhauled my circle of influence and now I can confidently say I am walking in my purpose. There were many things that contributed to this, the main one being a change in my circle of influence.

Have you ever been in a meeting and felt like you didn't deserve to be there? Have you ever looked around a conference room and felt like a fraud because no one looked like you or came from a background similar to yours? Did you purposely keep busy, working on your off days so you could look like the picture of success? On this weeks episode, we address the lie of Imposter Syndrome. I talk about the ways imposter syndrome crippled me and how I was able to overcome it. I expose the lies I would often tell my self and kill them so that I could walk and lead in confidence. Are you tired of working non-stop but barely moving the needle? Are you using food alcohol or drugs to cope with the stress that comes with work that never ends? Are you able to accept that you are exactly where God wants you to be? Are you ready to claim your rightful seat at the table?

Meet Ben Barnes, top Magician in Chicago and my brother. In this episode we will discuss how siblings can grow up in the same household and one have a scarcity mindset and the other grow up with the mindset of abundance. Ben will share with us tips how he was able to guard his dreams when everyone around him told him they were impossible and how he became the #1 Magician in Chicago.

This episode addresses how our thoughts, words, and behaviors create our reality and what it took for me to get unstuck. 

In this week's episode, I discuss the negative effect gossip had on my friendships. I will address how my reckless speech ended some of my most fond friendships. I will also talk about the revelation I received so that I could be delivered and walk in God's truth.

In this episode we meet with Chicago's own Myesha McCaskill (aka Smooth Goddess) as she talks about how she defied the odds and broke out of her comfort zone to become one of the top JB Skaters in Chicago and the founder and CEO of Inspired by Favor.