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Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Podcasts in Careers! Please note: This is a special rerun of Episode 130. “You are not your past. You are all of it, your past, present, and future. So do the work to release the shame, the humiliation, and the negative judgments you have about yourself. Release yourself.” – Kathy Caprino Over the past several years on Finding Brave, I've offered some key information about what I've observed are the 7 most damaging power and confidence gaps along with key chapters from my latest book, The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths to Career Bliss. Some time back, I offered a series of 7 podcasts dedicated to these gaps that negatively impact 98% of professional women today, and 90% of men, preventing them from reaching their highest potential, and their happiest, most rewarding success and fulfillment. In this 7th installment of that series, I share the power gap that may be closest to my own heart and soul. I'm talking about how we unwittingly allow past trauma, pain and challenges that we've experienced to continue to shape and define us. And this unwanted pain and shame often brings to our lives unwanted experiences. I have lived this in such a deep way (and continue to work on it - as you'll hear in my upcoming interview, Episode #286 with Finnian Kelly - who helped me right on the show uncover a very painful trauma memory from when I was a teen, and connect that to some mindset (and behavioral) challenges I still have around money, work and safety. I never fully recognized this Power Gap (of how our past continues to shape and define us unless we gain fuller awareness of the trauma and pain events/experiences and work committedly to overcome and release them) until I became a therapist and started doing the work on myself and with others to help us heal. Unfortunately, life can hurt us badly sometimes and leave deep scars, and no one is immune. Every single one of us has experienced some form of pain, suffering, sadness, isolation, rejection, and trauma in our lifetimes. Many have experienced and witnessed things that alter how they see the world and operate within it. Sometimes, pain and hardship make us close down and stop trusting others. Other times, it makes us turn our pain into rage and violence against the world. Yet some people, while crushed by their pain for a time, are able to find a way to become more of who they really are at their core – more loving, compassionate, hopeful, helpful, generous, insightful, brave, committed, and resilient and joy-filled — through all of it. And some are fortunate to know exactly how to turn their emotional challenges into new ways to be of service in the world so they can uplift others while expanding themselves. I sincerely hope that my “The Most Powerful You” series (for content on the other 6 gaps, check out Episodes #124 through #129) is enlightening, and in conjunction with my book and video training program, can help you uncover any power and confidence gaps that may be holding you back at this very moment. As always, thank you for listening and I would be so happy to hear your feedback on not just this episode, but the entire series and The Most Powerful You book. Remember that tremendous success, joy, and reward aren't just reserved for a handful of people, but everyone, including you. You are worthy of an amazing life and career, and it's waiting for you. If you'd like to know which, if any, of the Power Gaps you may be facing today, take my quick Power Gap quiz. Highlights from this Episode: How trauma appears in our lives, and why it's so damaging to hold onto [4:10] What trauma really is, and how every single one of us has experienced it [4:45] How becoming aware of your trauma will benefit all aspects of your life including your career [6:50] A powerful example of someone who has transformed her trauma into growth and a life of service to others [8:40] The impact and harm your childhood can continue to have in your life as you get older [17:00] Why insight into our trauma alone isn't enough to overcome it and what is needed to move forward to healing [18:02] Examples of common workplace trauma that I often see in the people that I work with [18:20] What steps you can take to start getting on what I call “the brave healing path” [20:55] The specific questions to ask yourself as you embark on your own journey to awareness [33:30] For More Information: https://kathycaprino.com/ https://mostpowerfulyou.com/videotraining https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathycaprino https://www.facebook.com/ElliaCommunications https://twitter.com/kathycaprino https://www.instagram.com/kathycaprino/ READY FOR A BIG CHANGE – AND HUGE BOOST – IN WHAT'S POSSIBLE FOR YOU – IN A REWARDING AND THRILLING CAREER YOU LOVE? Are you ready to elevate your career to new heights? Join me as I guide and coach you through proven steps and strategies to unlock your fullest career potential. And for a limited time only, take advantage of my exclusive offer for my podcast listeners: Take a 25% discount off both my 6-session private Career & Leadership Breakthrough coaching program and my Most Powerful You video training program that helps you address and close the 7 most damaging power and confidence gaps that negatively impact a staggering 98% of professional women today, keeping them from reaching the success, reward and fulfillment they deserve. And you can participate in both of these programs from the comfort of your own home, at your own pace. Transform your career trajectory now and become the leader you dream to be. Go ahead – grab the 25% discount, and let's work together to help you build a much brighter future. I can't wait to be of help! REGISTER NOW and use the 25% discount code FBRAVEPOD25 to save 25% on these programs TODAY! Career & Leadership Breakthrough 6-session program The Most Powerful You Self-Paced Video Training Program Resources Mentioned Today: The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths to Career Bliss Official Website (with Trailer) Order the book at https://kathycaprino.com/mostpowerfulyoubook to become the most powerful version of you and reach your highest, most thrilling potential. Kathy's Amazing Career Project Sign Up For Kathy's LinkedIn Newsletter, The Finding Brave Circle and her personal newsletter Her Power Gaps Survey & Her TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up Kathy's FREE Career Path Self-Assessment Survey Finding Brave podcast full series on The Most Powerful You - 7 Power and Confidence Gaps:Episode 124: Power Gap #1: Not Recognizing Your Special Talents and Abilities Episode 125: Power Gap #2: Communicating from Fear Not Strength Episode 126: Power Gap #3: Reluctance to Ask for What You Deserve Episode 127: Power Gap #4: Isolating from Influential Support Episode 128: Power Gap #5: Acquiescing Instead of Saying “Stop” To Mistreatment Episode 129: Power Gap #6: Losing Sight of Your Most Thrilling Dream Episode 130: Power Gap #7: Allowing The Past To Continue to Define You Lynn Carroll (The Therapy Space) Cheryl Hunter's Appearance on Finding Brave & Her TEDx Talk, Wabi Sabi: The Magnificence of Imperfection Fortier Public Relations American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy Kathy's Forbes Blog with Chip Conley, How Midlife Professionals Can Leverage Their Age, Wisdom And Experience More Powerfully At Work QUOTES: “The very first thing I want you to understand is that you're not silly, you're not foolish and you're not weak to be feeling what you feel. It's often trauma.” [6:05] “How you integrate what happens to you in your own identity is going to shape not just your personal life and relationships, but your professional life and your career success.” [6:59] “There are traumatic events that happen in our life, absolutely, but once they happen there are steps you can take to grab back control of your life.” [12:20] “It's one thing to have insight, but it's not enough. Insight doesn't change your life. Brave action does.” [18:06] “The problem with these “dirty little secrets” is that if you do not address them with your eyes wide open, they grow bigger and more destructive. They send you underground and they eat at you.” [24:54] “Often the Universe is doing you a favor by kicking you out of a horrible job and a toxic ecosystem.” [30:20] ——————— Sponsor Highlight I'm thrilled that Audible.com, Amazon Music and my own podcast production team - We Edit Podcasts - are sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today! Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer We Edit Podcasts - Click this special link http://weeditpodcasts.com/findingbrave to book your free call to explore working with them. They're a great team and make the podcast production process SO easy! Book your free call and Happy podcasting! Would like To Become a Sponsor? If you are interested in becoming a sponsor of Finding Brave, we'd love to hear from you! Please write to info@kathycaprino.com with your proposal and for more information. Watch the video of this episode!Now you can experience each Finding Brave episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my Youtube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up and subscribe if you like the show!
Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! “The goal of the conversation is not to convince. It's not to compel, and it's not to control. It's not to try to get the other person to think something different. As soon as we believe somebody is trying to control us in that kind of way, we resist. So the very effort to convince, it makes you less convincing.” – Joseph Grenny Contrary to how many people feel in our world today, it is possible to tell the truth and avoid alienating a friend or colleague or engendering terrible and painful conflict. With so much distrust among family, friends, colleagues and our leaders, it's vital to not to take the two standard approaches – being silent or violent — on core issues but instead, we need to learn the essential skills behind expressing yourself candidly yet cordially. Today's Finding Brave expert guest reveals how it's not having different opinions that's the problem in our conflicts, rather it's how and why we express those opinions, and the approach we take before even entering the conversation. Joseph Grenny is a four-time New York Times bestselling author, dynamic keynote speaker, and leading social scientist for business performance. Joseph has spoken at some of the world's premier leadership conferences. His books have been translated into 28 languages, are available in 36 countries, and have generated results for 300 of the Fortune 500. I had the honor of interviewing Joseph and David Maxfield in my Forbes blog in 2015 in a piece on Gender Bias Is Real: Women's Perceived Competency Drops Significantly When Judged as Being Forceful, on their groundbreaking research on gender bias, and I've often quoted the information that their research uncovered that proved gender bias is not imagined, it's real – and their research showed on how women's perceived competency and perceived worth drops exponentially more than men's when they are are perceived as forceful or assertive. I've featured their work in my TEDx talk Time to Brave Up, and in my new book The Most Powerful You and my Most Powerful You Course which is why I'm so excited to speak with Joseph today and bring you his expert insights and perspectives on navigating crucial conversations. This episode is part of our “Summer Pick series” which features a selection of the most popular and downloaded shows we've aired in the past several years. Highlights from this Episode: Why Joseph was first drawn to topics around communication and crucial conversations [5:36] The real reasons he feels that many of the conversations happening today are so volatile [9:01] Why your internal and external approach to a conversation will often be the key to achieving a successful outcome with the other person [12:57] The way that our fears, or the threats that we perceive, will impact how a conversation unfolds [15:22] A technique he recommends to disarm perceived threats by both parties [16:06] The 3 different types of stories we tell ourselves, and how to begin mastering them today [20:30] A time that Joseph made a stand to have his voice heard, and the role that setting ground rules beforehand had in doing this [23:44] What the goal of every conversation should be, and what we shouldn't be trying to do [27:24] How I was able to diffuse a difficult situation that I faced in my professional career [32:18] For More Information: https://josephgrenny.com/ www.vitalsmarts.com https://www.linkedin.com/company/vitalsmarts/ https://twitter.com/vitalsmarts https://www.instagram.com/vitalsmarts/ Resources Mentioned: Ready to become more confident, powerful and successful in work you love? CHECK OUT MY “MOST POWERFUL YOU” VIDEO COURSE! If you're tired of working so hard in a career that just isn't working for you, this is the course for you! This transformative 8-module training course, based on my bestselling book The Most Powerful You, will help you close the 7 most damaging power gaps that keep 98% of professional women from thriving at the highest level, and reaching their most thrilling potential. In the course, you'll be taught transformative actions, strategies and mindsets that will help you experience exponentially more positive power, self-mastery, confidence, communication skill, leadership, and influence over what transpires in your life, career and relationships (both at work and at home). Based on 16 years of coaching with thousands of women around the world, and from my own personal learnings in transitioning from unhappy corporate VP to therapist, to now globally-recognized career coach, speaker, writer and speaker, and with amazing strategies from over 30 of the nation's top experts in fields essential to our success, this course gives you a clear roadmap for the exact steps to take to become more confident and influential in work you'll love and feel proud of, with inspiring leaders, colleagues, and mentors who will help you thrive and keep growing for the duration of your professional life. If you're ready to close your power gaps and become the MOST POWERFUL version of you, CLICK HERE to learn more and register! Order Kathy's book The Most Powerful You today! In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here. If you enjoy the book, we'd so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon! ___________________________________________________________ Other resources mentioned: Joseph's Book, Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High & His Other Works Untangling the Mind: Why We Behave the Way We Do by Theodore George, M.D. Kathy's Forbes Blog with Joseph Grenny and David Maxfield, Gender Bias Is Real: Women's Perceived Competency Drops Significantly When Judged As Being Forceful Kathy's Forbes Post, What Is Feminism, And Why Do So Many Women And Men Hate It? Kathy's Power Gaps Survey, Support To Build Your LinkedIn Profile To Great Success & Other Free Resources Her TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up & Free Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy's Amazing Career Project video training course & 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz Sponsor Highlight I'm thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are now sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today! Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer QUOTES: “The only way norms get reset, and the only way that biases become apparent and addressable, is through conversation. That's the only mechanism that gives us any hope.” [4:00] “Time and time again, we've found that almost any area of pain within an organization, what kept those problems chronic and turned them from an incident into a pattern, is peoples' inability to confront, discuss and resolve [the issues].” [6:02] “All of us are really hardwired for failure around complex social dynamics. However, we have the software to learn. We have the capacity to rise above our thinking and our patterns, and to create new ones.” [10:25] “The words that come out of your mouth will have part of an effect, but if there's a contradiction between what I read from your face and what I read from your mouth, I'll trust the face.” [14:15] “There's a huge opportunity for us to de-escalate our own emotions, if we recognize that this is just a perceived threat, and not a real threat.” [16:03] “When you behave in a way that's inconsistent with their story, you help them dismantle it.” [34:41] Watch video versions of my interviews on Finding Brave! Don't forget – you can experience each Finding Brave interview episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my Youtube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show! Please share your positive ratings and reviews! 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Kristin O’Keeffe Merrick is the co-founder of Women Work F#%k*ng Hard, an annual networking event meant to highlight female entrepreneurs and their hard work. Currently working as a financial adviser at O’Keeffe Financial Partners, Kristin has quite a background in entrepreneurship and finance. Listen in as she breaks down stereotypes and assumptions about women in business and finance and how you can apply these lessons in your own ventures. Timestamped show notes 01:49 - Kristin is featured in InStyle’s Badass Top 50 Women for 2020 05:21 - As soon as COVID lockdown started, Kristin was helping business owners with financial 07:17 - Asking for help 09:21 - Perfection is a trap 13:19 - Financial advice for 2021 20:09 - Small businesses aren’t being represented 23:08 - Advice for struggling restaurant/small business owners 24:02 - Finding grants/loans 25:18 - Finding new opportunities 30:27 - Higher education moving forward 33:24 - We need different skilled workers 34:45 - Understanding debt 36:43 - Teaching finances to your kids 43:57 - Kristin’s playground hustle 46:10 - Kristin loves connecting people Links Kristin’s Forbes Blog: https://www.forbes.com/sites/kristinmerrick/ Kristin’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegirlwhosavesmoney/ Women Work F#%k*ng Hard: https://wwfh.norby.live/
Key Takeaways: [0:18] Today’s episode of Franchise Euphoria is brought to you by IndyFranchiseLaw.com, a leading resource in the franchise space. Head over to IndyFranchiseLaw.com learn more! [1:00] For today’s episode, Josh heads into the archives of early Franchise Euphoria to bring back an episode with esteemed business author, Carol Tice, who was featured on the third ever episode of Franchise Euphoria. [2:06] The flashback begins with Josh introducing Carol Tice, a franchise writer and blogger who has incredible insight on the risks associated with franchising. [3:20] Carol’s writing career really took off when she transitioned to reporting. She spent five years writing about home improvement--specifically lumber yards--which served as her introduction into the business world. [5:30] One of the big things you want to buy with a franchise is expertise and a proven model. Oftentimes, businesses start selling franchises quickly after opening their first location. This can be a red flag to anybody looking to purchase a franchise. [7:38] As a franchisee, you need to ask yourself what you are getting out of your franchisor in return for the royalty fee you pay them. [9:41] While you miss out on brand recognition by buying into the franchises, on the other hand, you are presented with ground floor opportunity. [10:52] Buying a franchise is kind of like a romance movie. People fall in love with the brand and commit to purchasing a franchise, but the problem is that they don’t do their due diligence. [12:00] Carol suggests that you ask yourself the following questions before you buy a franchise: (1) How many of these franchises have been sold off, closed, or changed hands in the past year? (2) Have you spent a day job shadowing an owner who operates their business? (3) Have you called up owners and asked them if they would buy the franchise again if they go could back in time? [14:53] Many people don’t realize that franchise failure happens behind the scenes. [19:04] Some people will really hate being franchisees because they want more freedom to do their own thing. [22:30] Franchising often appears as a safer option than starting your own “Mom & Pop” business, but Carol is not entirely convinced that is the case. [24:51] Carol suggests that something that new and potential franchisees don’t account for is how much money they will need to get over the hump of starting a new franchise location. [27:52] In franchising, once you sign your franchise fees, you never get that money back, so it’s all the more important to be very careful on the front end and do extra due diligence. [30:26] You have to realize that there is no guarantee for success when it comes to franchising, but you can increase your likelihood by doing some real research before getting yourself into that situation. [35:37] Thanks for listening, and please, reach out to Josh anytime through email at josh@franchiseeuphoria.com. If you enjoyed this interview, please leave us a review on iTunes. Mentioned in This Episode: josh@franchiseeuphoria.com www.franchiseeuphoria.com www.indyfranchiselaw.com Carol’s Forbes Blog www.caroltice.com
Today on the Larry Kudlow Show, Larry talks with Congressman Kevin Brady(R-TX). Also on the show is Peter Brookes, Senior Fellow, National Security Affairs at the Heritage Foundation. Robert Costa, National Political Report for the Washington Post joins the show. More great guests include Michael Farr, President of Farr, Miller, and Washington and author of "Restoring Our American Dream: The Best Investment" along with Andrew Busch of andrewbusch.com. Roger Stone, author of "The Man Who Killed Kennedy: The Case Against LBJ" joins the show. Dr. Scott Gottlieb, author of Forbes Blog "Medical Innovation" joins Larry. As always, the Money/Politics Panel of James Pethokoukis, Steve Moore, and John McIntyre. All this and much more on The Larry Kudlow Show!
Today on the Larry Kudlow Show, Larry talks with Congressman Kevin Brady(R-TX). Also on the show is Peter Brookes, Senior Fellow, National Security Affairs at the Heritage Foundation. Robert Costa, National Political Report for the Washington Post joins the show. More great guests include Michael Farr, President of Farr, Miller, and Washington and author of "Restoring Our American Dream: The Best Investment" along with Andrew Busch of andrewbusch.com. Roger Stone, author of "The Man Who Killed Kennedy: The Case Against LBJ" joins the show. Dr. Scott Gottlieb, author of Forbes Blog "Medical Innovation" joins Larry. As always, the Money/Politics Panel of James Pethokoukis, Steve Moore, and John McIntyre. All this and much more on The Larry Kudlow Show!
Today on the Larry Kudlow Show, Larry talks with Congressman Kevin Brady(R-TX). Also on the show is Peter Brookes, Senior Fellow, National Security Affairs at the Heritage Foundation. Robert Costa, National Political Report for the Washington Post joins the show. More great guests include Michael Farr, President of Farr, Miller, and Washington and author of "Restoring Our American Dream: The Best Investment" along with Andrew Busch of andrewbusch.com. Roger Stone, author of "The Man Who Killed Kennedy: The Case Against LBJ" joins the show. Dr. Scott Gottlieb, author of Forbes Blog "Medical Innovation" joins Larry. As always, the Money/Politics Panel of James Pethokoukis, Steve Moore, and John McIntyre. All this and much more on The Larry Kudlow Show!
Today on the Larry Kudlow Show, Larry talks with Steve Entin, Senior Fellow at the Tax Foundation. Also on the show is Dr. Scott Gottlieb, Forbes Blog author: Medical Innovation. Jim Iuorio, managing director TJM Institutional Services, along with Don Luskin, Author: "I Am John Galt." Also, Rick Santelli, CNBC on-air editor. Reports daily from the Chicago Board of Trade. Lastly, the Money/Politics Panel with James Pethokoukis, Guy Benson, and Steve Moore. All this and much more on The Larry Kudlow Show!
Today on the Larry Kudlow Show, Larry talks with Steve Entin, Senior Fellow at the Tax Foundation. Also on the show is Dr. Scott Gottlieb, Forbes Blog author: Medical Innovation. Jim Iuorio, managing director TJM Institutional Services, along with Don Luskin, Author: "I Am John Galt." Also, Rick Santelli, CNBC on-air editor. Reports daily from the Chicago Board of Trade. Lastly, the Money/Politics Panel with James Pethokoukis, Guy Benson, and Steve Moore. All this and much more on The Larry Kudlow Show!
Today on the Larry Kudlow Show, Larry talks with Steve Entin, Senior Fellow at the Tax Foundation. Also on the show is Dr. Scott Gottlieb, Forbes Blog author: Medical Innovation. Jim Iuorio, managing director TJM Institutional Services, along with Don Luskin, Author: "I Am John Galt." Also, Rick Santelli, CNBC on-air editor. Reports daily from the Chicago Board of Trade. Lastly, the Money/Politics Panel with James Pethokoukis, Guy Benson, and Steve Moore. All this and much more on The Larry Kudlow Show!