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In 2019 Tristan went to Cancun for Swingset Takes Desire, along with Matie Fricker of Self Serve Toys. They recorded a live episode on the beach with audience discussion on accessibility for all bodies in sex spaces, creating community that intentionally welcomes everyone, navigating rejection, and what bisexual men's paradise looks like. Topics include: polyamory, swinging, sexual fantasy, body acceptance, self-love. (This is Part Two of the discussion which took place before the global pandemic.)
Last year Tristan went to Cancun for Swingset Takes Desire with Matie Fricker of Self Serve Toys. They recorded a live episode on the beach with audience discussion on body appreciation, struggling to be evolved, managing your triad, and more. Topics include: polyamory, swinging, sexual fantasy, body acceptance, self-love. (This is Part One of the discussion which took place in 2019, before the global pandemic.)
Sex-cation interview with Matie! This is a really fun episode with Matie Fricker of Self Serve Toys! It was recorded while we were at Desire Riviera Maya – a swinger resort. We were there on a takeover of the resort with The Swingset Takes Desire. We get deep in it and talk about so may sweet and sexy things. Self-Serve Toys was kind enough to give us a promo code: Exxxxtraordinary and listeners will get 20% off! Matie Fricker is a smut peddling sweetheart with a deep love for the odd and tender. She owns Albuquerque’s best sex shop, Self Serve Toys. Self Serve is a shiny bubble of love and safety for those seeking pleasure and joy in their lives. One of her proudest accomplishments was causing Rush Limbaugh to say “female orgasm” on-air multiple times. Matie has been awarded the 2008 Tough Cookie Award from the National Association for Women Business Owners, Best Sexy Shop in ABQ’s Alibi Weekly Newspaper for 13 years and Albuquerque Pride’s Outstanding Retail Store Award. http://selfservetoys.com Here’s the highlights! In finding her fat identity: Overcoming child sexual abuse Coming out as queer Touching a girl’s hand for the first time Learning to feel hunger for sex and eat again “I’m so sure that you’re wrong that your body is wrong. I am 100% confident that you’re wrong about hating your body” Mattie Fricker Virgie Tovar’s “You Have the Right to Remain Fat” https://www.feministpress.org/books-n-z/you-have-the-right-to-remain-fat “We deserve to be treated well” – Briana Cavanaugh The tension of “the good fatty role” v the “good activist role” Food is not poison. My relationship with my body has to be a practice. And my relationship with food has to be a practice. I love your feelings Secrets and being healthy or unhealthy Resources: The Body is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/books Not having to earn love. About Fat SEX! “Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds” by adrienne maree brown “Pleasure Activism” also by adrienne maree brown Standing up to a fat fetishist at sex party Mattie: I want somebody to tell me that I... they love how they love how heavy I am. They love how things feel. They love, they want to, they want to f^&*( me until I juggle… but respectfully. Care about having sex with fat people. Touch us and listen to us. Sex Out Loud podcast with Tristan Taormino http://tristantaormino.com/sex-out-loud/about/ All bodies are good bodies, deserving of love, exactly as they are. This is what my body looks like when it’s not aroused and you have to add arousal. It was so cool to use my body to teach. It was so cool to teach the whole time I was having an orgasm! We help each other feel safe. “Curvy Girl Sex” by Elle Chase: https://shevibe.com/curvy-girl-sex-by-elle-chase.aspx Matie is awesome! You can find Matie at https://www.selfservetoys.com/
I interview Mattie Fricker naked at Desire in Cancun! Sex-cation interview with Matie! This is a really fun episode with Matie Fricker of Self Serve Toys! It was recorded while we were at Desire Riviera Maya – a swinger resort. We were there on a takeover of the resort with The Swingset Takes Desire. We get deep in it and talk about so may sweet and sexy things. Self-Serve Toys was kind enough to give us a promo code: Exxxxtraordinary and listeners will get 20% off! Matie Fricker is a smut peddling sweetheart with a deep love for the odd and tender. She owns Albuquerque’s best sex shop, Self Serve Toys. Self Serve is a shiny bubble of love and safety for those seeking pleasure and joy in their lives. One of her proudest accomplishments was causing Rush Limbaugh to say “female orgasm” on-air multiple times. Matie has been awarded the 2008 Tough Cookie Award from the National Association for Women Business Owners, Best Sexy Shop in ABQ’s Alibi Weekly Newspaper for 13 years and Albuquerque Pride’s Outstanding Retail Store Award. http://selfservetoys.com Here’s the highlights! In finding her fat identity: Overcoming child sexual abuse Coming out as queer Touching a girl’s hand for the first time Learning to feel hunger for sex and eat again “I’m so sure that you’re wrong that you’re body is wrong. I am 100% confident that you’re wrong about hating your body” Mattie Fricker Virgie Tovar’s “You Have the Right to Remain Fat” https://www.feministpress.org/books-n-z/you-have-the-right-to-remain-fat “We deserve to be treated well” – Briana Cavanaugh The tension of “the good fatty role” v the “good activist role” Food is not poison. My relationship with my body has to be a practice. And my relationship with food has to be a practice. I love your feelings Secrets and being healthy or unhealthy Resources: The Body is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/books Not having to earn love. About Fat SEX! “Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds” by adrienne maree brown “Pleasure Activism” also by adrienne maree brown Standing up to a fat fetishist at sex party Mattie: I want somebody to tell me that I fucking love my fat pussy and they love my rolls. And they love how they love how heavy I am. They love how things feel. They love, they want to, they want to fuck me until I juggle… but respectfully. And I fuck feminists who won’t say things like that. Care about fucking fat people. Touch us and listen to us. Sex Out Loud podcast with Tristan Taormino http://tristantaormino.com/sex-out-loud/about/ All bodies are good bodies, deserving of love, exactly as they are. This is what my body looks like when it’s not aroused and you have to add arousal. It was so cool to use my body to teach. It was so cool to teach the whole time I was having an orgasm! We help each other feel safe. “Curvy Girl Sex” by Elle Chase (link on website) Matie is awesome! You can find Matie at https://www.selfservetoys.com/
Show & Tell Sex is a podcast that provides a fun & comfortable space to show & tell our sex, relationship & body stories. Produced by Self Serve Toys and KUNM.Welcome to the very first episode of Show & Tell Sex. A podcast that will dive into topics often left unspoken. Join co-hosts Matie Fricker and Hunter Riley to learn more about sex-positive education, why talking about sex can feel scary or uncomfortable, and why we're passionate about changing that. This mini-episode will help you get acquainted to who we are, and why we do what we do in our feminist & body positive sex toy shop in Albuquerque NM.We love and appreciate your feedback on our show. Email us at info@selfservetoys.com to send your feedback via email. Or call us at (505) 585-5538 to leave us feedback in an audio comment. Make sure to find us social media sites to stay up to date with what we’re doing Instagram, Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here.Our music was created by Lazarus Letcher.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Show & Tell sex is a podcast produced by Self Serve Toys in collaboration with KUNM, a public radio station in Albuquerque NM. Self Serve toys is a feminist sex shop in Albuquerque New Mexico, specializing in body-safe, non-toxic toys with a health and education focus. Find us online at selfservetoys.com. We’ll show the parts that so often get left unsaid. We will show the parts that we have silenced. We will tell our secrets. We will be brave together. And we’ll have some fun--because show and tell was always fun.
Show & Tell Sex is a podcast that provides a fun & comfortable space to show & tell our sex, relationship & body stories. Produced by Self Serve Toys and KUNM.Welcome to the very first episode of Show & Tell Sex. A podcast that will dive into topics often left unspoken. Join co-hosts Matie Fricker and Hunter Riley to learn more about sex-positive education, why talking about sex can feel scary or uncomfortable, and why we're passionate about changing that. This mini-episode will help you get acquainted to who we are, and why we do what we do in our feminist & body positive sex toy shop in Albuquerque NM.We love and appreciate your feedback on our show. Email us at info@selfservetoys.com to send your feedback via email. Or call us at (505) 585-5538 to leave us feedback in an audio comment. Make sure to find us social media sites to stay up to date with what we’re doing Instagram, Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here.Our music was created by Lazarus Letcher.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Show & Tell sex is a podcast produced by Self Serve Toys in collaboration with KUNM, a public radio station in Albuquerque NM. Self Serve toys is a feminist sex shop in Albuquerque New Mexico, specializing in body-safe, non-toxic toys with a health and education focus. Find us online at selfservetoys.com. We’ll show the parts that so often get left unsaid. We will show the parts that we have silenced. We will tell our secrets. We will be brave together. And we’ll have some fun--because show and tell was always fun.
Self-love can take on many meanings. It can convey self care, nurturing self-confidence, embracing selfishness, or it can even taken on a sexual meaning. For Self Serve owner Matie Fricker, these meanings are fluid and interconnected. After ten years of owning and running a successful adult shop and resource center while always working to make… The post https://wellwomanlife.com/058show/ (058 How to Love Yourself When You Feel Unlovable with Matie Fricker) appeared first on https://wellwomanlife.com (Well Woman Life). Support this podcast
This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Enrollment for the 2017 Explore More Summit is OFFICIALLY open. The summit is free, runs for ten days, and features interviews with SOO many incredible thought-leaders. You can sign-up at exploremoresummit.com. It's been incredible creating these talks, so I hope you'll check it out. It all starts March 8th, 2017. This week, I'm so excited that Matie Fricker and Hunter Riley from Self Serve Sexuality Resource Center are here. We talk about community sex education, sex toy testing fatigue, and how they make their sex store welcoming and empowering. Matie goes deep into toxic toys and what happened when they gave customers a choice between toxic and non-toxic toys. Plus, their testers have to fill out an 8-page survey about each and every product the store carries. We also dive into bad sex toy design, the ONE product that Matie has been searching for for 10 years and has not found a decent one, orgasm stuckness and toy loyalty and why that can inhibit pleasure, and my frustration with sex classes... why do blowjob classes consistently sell out at stores across the country but not cunnilingus classes? Yeah. Let's name it. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources mentioned in this episode Hunter's blog post all about the drama at UNM's sex week That Travel & Leisure article on hotel sex that I mentioned in the intro. About Matie Fricker Matie Fricker is a smut peddling sweetheart with a deep love for the odd and tender. She owns Albuquerque’s best sex shop, Self Serve Toys. Self Serve is a shiny bubble of love and safety for those seeking pleasure and joy in their lives. One of her proudest accomplishments was causing Rush Limbaugh to say “female orgasm” on-air multiple times. Matie has been awarded the 2008 Tough Cookie Award from the National Association for Women Business Owners, Best Sexy Shop in ABQ’s Alibi Weekly Newspaper for 9 years and Albuquerque Pride’s Outstanding Retail Store Award. About Hunter Riley Hunter Riley is the manager of operations and outreach at Self Serve, a sex educator, speaker and social media maven. She helps young adults find their voice and comfort level around conversations about sex and sexuality. After earning degrees in psychology, Spanish and journalism, she moved on to teaching classes in English and Spanish about pleasure, sex toys, communication, safer sex, consent, oral sex, kink, non-monogamy, birth control and more! She has authored several sex columns for newspapers and online media outlets in New Mexico including the Daily Lobo, the Santa Fe Reporter and Albuquerque Free Press. She has partnered with organizations like Planned Parenthood, the University of New Mexico, UNM Hospital, Enlace Comunitario, Santa Fe Care Center and more. Anyone interested in hiring Hunter or learning more about the services she provides can contact Hunter via email: hunter@selfservetoys.com for more information. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)
The owner of Self Serve Toys, Matie Fricker, and not one but TWO awe inspiring dancers, Honey Grinder and Eve, joined Lola on stage at the Guild Cinema in Albuquerque, New Mexico for Pornotopia’s opening night event on November 12, 2015. Sex Ed A Go-Go journeyed to the Land of Enchantment to kick off the [...]
Sex shop talk! Owners of Self-Serve Toys/Sexuality Resource Center Molly Adler and Matie Fricker chat about starting and running a progressive, sex-positive adult business in Albuquerque. They also share the history of Pornotopia, the adult film festival they founded in 2007, and what's on the bill for this year's fest which starts Nov. 13! Keif Henley, owner of The Guild Cinema, also joins us to talk about hosting Pornotopia and the legal drama that went on for years — with a recent victory for Pornotopia in the New Mexico Supreme Court! AND—as if that's not enough—Inga Muscio, author of Cunt: A Declaration of Independence, calls in to chat with Molly and Matie about sex ed and how to nurture healthier sexuality. Hot!