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In this episode, Caitlin Liz Fisher shares valuable resources for building your anti-diet support system throughout the year. They talk about the importance of finding positive and affirming content on social media, inspiring Instagram account recommendations for amazing humans with fat bodies, as well as insightful body-positive books that challenge the status quo. Episode Highlights: - The advantages of removing accounts in your social media that trigger shame and guilt, and replacing them with body-positive content - Recommended Instagram accounts to follow for inspiration and body acceptance - Book recommendations for body positivity Noteworthy Quotes: "Fill your (social media) feed up with beautiful fat bodies doing amazing things, which proves to you that your beautiful fat body can do amazing things." "I get nervous that people aren't going to take me as seriously as an author or as a business owner because of my size. So for me, even seeing fat business owners who are willing to be so visible and so bright and loud and bubbly, that is exactly my jam. That is what I need to see. Evidence that that's for me too." Episodes that you'd love: Scrutinizing the ‘New Year New Me' Mentality Healing from People Pleasing Trauma You Are Enough - The Power of Self-Compassion Normalizing Asking for Help (as a Neurodivergent Person) Are You Suffering From Eldest Daughter Syndrome? How Disability Accommodations Should Work for You Resources mentioned in this episode: Fat people-friendly yoga accounts https://www.instagram.com/theunderbellyyoga/ https://www.instagram.com/mynameisjessamyn/ https://www.instagram.com/tiffanycroww/ Fat body image coach https://www.instagram.com/bodyimagewithbri/ Fat distance runner https://www.instagram.com/themirnavator/ Plus-size online movement classes https://www.instagram.com/intuitivefatty/ Fat exercise content https://www.instagram.com/chilltash/ The Body is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor https://www.instagram.com/sonyareneetaylor/ https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/books You Have The Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar https://www.instagram.com/virgietovar/ https://www.amazon.com/You-Have-Right-Remain-Fat-ebook/dp/B07CSHWZ5H/ Health at Every Size by Lindo Bacon, Ph.D. https://lindobacon.com/health-at-every-size-book/ The F*ck It Diet by Caroline Dooner https://thefuckitdiet.com/book More epic resources to check out: FREE: F*ck New Years Resolutions Workbook at bit.ly/fnyr  PAID: Stay Fat in 2024 Challenge!! Ready to reclaim your power and break free from toxic diet culture? Behold, the Stay Fat 2024 Program - a bold and empowering movement dedicated to celebrating self-love and body acceptance.  Join us on this transformative journey and make a statement that your size does not define your worth. For just $25, enroll in the challenge and take part in a vibrant & supportive community committed to embracing their authentic selves. Plus, $5 from each enrollment goes towards aiding Gazan refugees through Lifting Hands International, making your commitment even more impactful.  Let's stay fat, fierce, and fabulous in 2024! https://www.learn-caitlinlizfisher.com/f-ck-new-years-resolutions-challenge ________________________________________________________ Are you a neurodivergent creative aching to dismantle societal myths and pave the way for more inclusive, flexible, and fulfilling experiences through artistic expression?  Join the conversation and connect with others like you by subscribing to The Neurodivergent Creative Podcast, where folx make weird art AND talk about it! Hang out with us on Facebook in the Neurodivergent Creative Pod

Just when Virgie Tovar thought she had conquered her disordered eating and embraced body positivity, she discovered a powerful lesson in solidarity that she never expected. Virgie is an inspiring writer, activist, and influential voice in the fight against weight-based discrimination and body image issues. Creator of the popular hashtag, #LoseHateNotWeight, and author of the groundbreaking book "You Have the Right to Remain Fat," Virgie has been instrumental in raising awareness for body positivity and inclusivity. Virgie's personal journey as a large-bodied person of color in eating disorder recovery offers a unique and invaluable perspective, as she works tirelessly to promote the idea that weight discrimination is a human rights issue. Virgie has overcome her own struggles with disordered eating and developed a strong advocacy for fat acceptance, empowering others to do the same.In this episode, we dive deep into Virgie's journey and how a sense of solidarity and community helped her transform her life and recovery. SHOW NOTES - VIRGIE TOVAR'S UNAPOLOGETIC APPROACH TO BODY POSITIVITY & COMMUNITY IN RECOVERYCONNECT WITH VIRGIE TOVAR Instagram Website Books Forbes CONNECT WITH EQUIP Equip's Website Equip's Instagram CONNECT WITH RECOVERY WARRIORS

Virgie Tovar (she/her) is a well-known body positive and fat liberation activist. In this episode, she candidly shares her journey to activism from her traumatic and abusive childhood (that led her to go ‘no contact' with her family 5 years ago), to a boyfriend in her 20s who loved her exactly as she was, to her rebellious and loud activism, to now. As with all things Virgie, her storytelling, authenticity, and boldness are pure joy.Virgie Tovar is an author, lecturer, and leading expert on weight-based discrimination and body positivity. She is a contributor for Forbes where she covers the plus-size market and how to end weight discrimination at work. She started the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight in 2013 and in 2018 gave a TedX talk on the origins of the campaign.Tovar edited the anthology Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion and she's the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat, The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color and her new interactive book, The Body Positive Journal. Her Webby-nominated podcast, Rebel Eaters Club, is now in Season 3. Mentions in this episode: NAAFA, Flare Project, ED Parenting podcast, Moonology book, artist Gina Contreras.Please connect with Virgie on her website, Instagram, Forbes, and her newest book.This episode's poem is called “Let Me Begin Again” by Major Jackson.Hello lovely, Sophia here! Virgie Tovar is ah-mazing! And, there's bonus content for you through Apple Subscriptions or Patreon. Producing a weekly podcast takes time and resources from several wonderful people, and paid subscriptions will make continuing our work possible. My dearest wish is to also offer an honorarium to my guests, centering and supporting marginalized voices in this space. So, as you're able, please consider subscribing to “Some Extra Fat Joy: 10 Qs” where each guest answers 10 unexpected questions. Want to know what Virgie's biggest dream is?Please connect with Fat Joy on our website, Instagram, and YouTube (full video episodes here!). And please also give us a rating & subscribe.Our thanks to AR Media and Emily MacInnis for keeping this podcast looking and sounding joyful.

This week, Karin welcomes Virgie Tovar, author, lecturer, and leading expert on weight-based discrimination and body positivity, to the show for, ”You Have the Right to Remain Fat.”Tune in for a discussion on fat discrimination and oppression from diet culture, dissecting the meaning of fat phobia, weight discrimination facts, the ways body size shapes gender roles and stigma, self-hatred as a barrier to finding self-love, recovering from fat phobia in a culture steeped in stigma, behind-the-scenes of her 2018 TedX talk, and more!Virgie Tovar is an author, lecturer, and leading expert on weight-based discrimination and body positivity. She holds a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies with a focus on the intersections of body size, race and gender. She is a contributor for Forbes where she covers the plus-size market and how to end weight discrimination at work. In 2018, she gave a TedX talk on the origins of her #LoseHateNotWeight campaign.Virgie is the author of "You Have the Right to Remain Fat", "The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color", "The Body Positive Journal", and host of "Rebel Eaters Club". Begin your healing journey with Karin and her team now!

Why are women judged for their size? What if you decided that you had the right to remain fat? This episode explores: Our born desire to like ourselves as we are. How we get shamed out of that at such a young age, and so very quickly. How hard it is to re-learn how to like yourself. Why our cultural commitment to fat-phobia harms us all. A Discussion of the book You Have the Right To Remain Fat. Our guest is: Virgie Tovar, who is an author, activist, and a lecturer on weight-based discrimination and body image. She holds a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies with a focus on the intersections of body size, race and gender. She edited the anthology Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press, November 2012), is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat (Feminist Press August 2018), The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color (New Harbinger Publications 2020), and The Body Positive Journal (Chronicle Books 2022). She has received three San Francisco Arts Commission Individual Artist Commissions as well as Yale's Poynter Fellowship in Journalism. Our host is: Dr. Christina Gessler, a historian of women and gender. Listeners to this episode may also be interested in: Fatty Fatty Boom Boom, by Rabia Chaudry What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat, by Aubrey Gordon Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness, by Da'Shaun L. Harrison Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia, by Sabrina Strings The Body is Not An Apology, Second Edition, by Sonya Renee Taylor Welcome to The Academic Life! On the Academic Life channel we embrace a broad definition of what it means to lead an academic life. We view education as a transformative human endeavor and are inspired by today's knowledge-producers working inside and outside the academy. Find us on Twitter: @AcademicLifeNBN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

Why are women judged for their size? What if you decided that you had the right to remain fat? This episode explores: Our born desire to like ourselves as we are. How we get shamed out of that at such a young age, and so very quickly. How hard it is to re-learn how to like yourself. Why our cultural commitment to fat-phobia harms us all. A Discussion of the book You Have the Right To Remain Fat. Our guest is: Virgie Tovar, who is an author, activist, and a lecturer on weight-based discrimination and body image. She holds a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies with a focus on the intersections of body size, race and gender. She edited the anthology Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press, November 2012), is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat (Feminist Press August 2018), The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color (New Harbinger Publications 2020), and The Body Positive Journal (Chronicle Books 2022). She has received three San Francisco Arts Commission Individual Artist Commissions as well as Yale's Poynter Fellowship in Journalism. Our host is: Dr. Christina Gessler, a historian of women and gender. Listeners to this episode may also be interested in: Fatty Fatty Boom Boom, by Rabia Chaudry What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat, by Aubrey Gordon Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness, by Da'Shaun L. Harrison Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia, by Sabrina Strings The Body is Not An Apology, Second Edition, by Sonya Renee Taylor Welcome to The Academic Life! On the Academic Life channel we embrace a broad definition of what it means to lead an academic life. We view education as a transformative human endeavor and are inspired by today's knowledge-producers working inside and outside the academy. Find us on Twitter: @AcademicLifeNBN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/academic-life

Why are women judged for their size? What if you decided that you had the right to remain fat? This episode explores: Our born desire to like ourselves as we are. How we get shamed out of that at such a young age, and so very quickly. How hard it is to re-learn how to like yourself. Why our cultural commitment to fat-phobia harms us all. A Discussion of the book You Have the Right To Remain Fat. Our guest is: Virgie Tovar, who is an author, activist, and a lecturer on weight-based discrimination and body image. She holds a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies with a focus on the intersections of body size, race and gender. She edited the anthology Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press, November 2012), is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat (Feminist Press August 2018), The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color (New Harbinger Publications 2020), and The Body Positive Journal (Chronicle Books 2022). She has received three San Francisco Arts Commission Individual Artist Commissions as well as Yale's Poynter Fellowship in Journalism. Our host is: Dr. Christina Gessler, a historian of women and gender. Listeners to this episode may also be interested in: Fatty Fatty Boom Boom, by Rabia Chaudry What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat, by Aubrey Gordon Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness, by Da'Shaun L. Harrison Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia, by Sabrina Strings The Body is Not An Apology, Second Edition, by Sonya Renee Taylor Welcome to The Academic Life! On the Academic Life channel we embrace a broad definition of what it means to lead an academic life. We view education as a transformative human endeavor and are inspired by today's knowledge-producers working inside and outside the academy. Find us on Twitter: @AcademicLifeNBN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/politics-and-polemics

Despite the fact that Intuitive Eating is absolutely not a weight loss program, most people come into the practice holding out the hopes that they will lose weight. And that's okay! And because of how common this is, we wanted to dedicate an episode to addressing the nuances of why weight loss and Intuitive Eating don't go together, and why it's important to at some point start to unpack and let go of those weight loss hopes. Within this episode we're talking about: why it's so common to hold out hopes of weight loss when starting an Intuitive Eating practice; why unpacking our desires for weight loss is an integral part of Intuitive Eating work & how not addressing it in our work will hold us back; and some practical ways to address our hopes for weight loss.  Plus, don't miss Naomi's hot take on a popular Intuitive Eating saying about weight!Want to connect with us to deepen the conversation? Join us in our online community, The Satisfaction Space! Want to show the world that you love the pod? Get t-shirts, sweatshirts, mugs, stickers, totebags & more at Teepublic!You can stay up to date on all things Satisfaction Factor by following us on Instagram @satisfactionfactorpod!Here's where to find us:Sadie Simpson: www.sadiesimpson.com or IG @sadiemsimpsonNaomi Katz: www.happyshapes.co or IG @happyshapesnaomiReferenced in this episode:Fearing the Black Body by Sabrina StringsThe Body Is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee TaylorAnti-Diet by Christy HarrisonWhat We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey GordonYou Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie TovarBelly of the Beast by Da'Shaun HarrisonDecolonizing Wellness by Dalia KinseyWho Is Wellness For? by Fariha RoisinAVL Fatties RVA Fatties Chub Hub PDX Plus Raleigh CLT+ Bigger Bodies Boston Pittsburgh Fatties Social ClubFosnight Center for Sexual Health

I am SUPER excited to introduce this weeks guest - the fierce and fabulous Virgie Tovar! Virgie is an author of some really amazing books (which you'll find linked in the transcript below), activist, and expert on weight-based discrimination and body image. Virgie also has her own pod called ‘Rebel Eaters Club' and has her own column at Forbes, where she writes about plus size fashion and also how to end weight discrimination at work.This conversation went in a totally different direction than I had expected it to, but in a really interesting way! I'm super excited for you all to hear this one, but we do talk a little about childhood abuse and eating disorders so if you don't think you're up for it right now, maybe shelf this episode for another day. Find out more about Virgie here.Follow her work on Instagram here.Follow Laura on Instagram here. Can I Have Another Snack? is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.Here's the transcript in full.INTRO:Laura: Hey, and welcome to the Can I Have Another Snack podcast where I'm asking my guests who or what they're nourishing right now and who or what is nourishing them. I'm Laura Thomas, an anti-diet registered nutritionist, and author of the Can I Have Another Snack newsletter. Today I'm talking to Virgie Tovar, and for the 1% of my audience who don't know who Virgie is, she's an author, activist, and expert on weight-based discrimination and body image.She holds a master's degree in sexuality studies with a focus on the intersection of body size, race, and gender, and she's a contributor for Forbes where she covers the plus-size market and how to end weight discrimination at work. Virgie edited the anthology, Hot and Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion, and she's the author of You Have The Right to Remain Fat and The Self-Love Revolution, Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color, which I will 100% be featuring when I cover body-affirming books for teens on my newsletter.In this episode, we talk about the work Virgie is doing to heal her inner child. I really love how Virgie contextualizes this work as mothering work as part of her wider project of maternity, as she calls it. And that's where she's exploring whether she wants to be a biological parent and the layers of grief, social conditioning, and reconciling her own childhood that she has to go through in order to process.This is not at all what I thought we were gonna be talking about today. Virgie kind of took this in an unexpected but really interesting direction. I really hope you enjoy it, so much juicy stuff in here, and I think you're gonna love this episode. But just a heads up that there is some mention of childhood abuse and eating disorders. We don't go into lots of detail, but if you're not in a good place today, then maybe sit this one out and come back when you're feeling a bit more up for it. And while you're here, just a reminder that if you're not a fully paid-up member of the Can I Have Another Snack community then you're missing out on so many great benefits like our Thursday discussion threads, Snacky Bits, where we're having smart conversations away from the noise and the fat phobic trolls of social media.You'll also get access to my Dear Laura column where this month I'm answering a question from a stepparent about parenting a fat child. Plus you'll get access to my Anti Parenting Downloads Bonus podcast episodes and lots more. It's five pounds a month or 50 pounds for the year, and your support allows me to pay a podcast editor, a copy editor for my long-form essays, and it pays for the hours and hours of research and other labor that is required to produce thoughtful writing. I figured this out earlier and five pounds a month works out as paying me 55p per article. So if you think that these articles are worth at least 55p, then please consider becoming a fully paid-up member of the Can I Have Another Snack community. And if you already are, thank you so much.And if you fancy gifting a subscription to a friend, I would super appreciate that. Thank you. And if you need a comp subscription for any reason, then just email hello@laurathomasphd.co.uk with ‘snacks' in the email header, and we will hook you up - no questions asked.And one last favour to ask. If you're listening to this in Apple Podcasts, please go and leave a rating and review. We haven't had any reviews yet, which is a total bummer because it really helps more people find the podcast and hopefully feel held and supported by these conversations.And I know you all are listening, so please just drop a quick comment or leave five stars. I would really appreciate it. All right, team. Here's Virgie Tovar.MAIN EPISODELaura: Alright Virgie, can you tell us who or what you are nourishing right now?Virgie: When I think the, I mean, I think I'm nourishing a lot of things, but the first thing that comes to mind is, really nourishing my child self who is, has a, just has a lot of trauma and has a lot of, um, you know, like I, I started therapy about a year ago and it's been this really interesting kind of process of like almost trying to, you know, untangle something or figure out a puzzle or just like learn a whole new way of, of thinking, but it, it's just become really clear that my little Virgie self is super terrified. There's like all of these things that she doesn't like and she's really scared of and so just kind of not only understanding that she deserves and needs a lot of attention and care, but at right now, as, as a 40 year old person who is considering biological maternity, but probably not, not going to be a mother. Um, biologically, certainly. And I think kind of going through the grief process of letting go of that narrative, which is a cultural narrative. And it's also kind of an internal narrative and just recognizing that, you know, I think I learned this from a friend recently, or someone actually someone I follow on the internet who I'm hoping to work with on this topic. But, you know, really understanding that the project of that inner child who didn't really have a childhood, it is a legitimate form of maternity, is a legitimate motherhood project. And so I think it's like, what's what I'm nourishing is that kid, that inner kid. And also the sense that that in fact it is true, that raising her and caring for her is its own maternity project. And it's a legitimate maternity project, even if it's not recognized by the culture.Laura: Oh my God. I feel like I'm gonna cry. I was not expecting you to say any of that, but that is just, it's so beautiful and there's something in there I probably need to take to my own therapy, but it really resonates with me and I just love this idea so much of, of mothering. You know, I, I love any conversation that talks about mothering outside of the parameters that society has dictated for us, which are usually, as we were just talking about, off mic, you know, heteronormative relationships, between a, a cis man and a, a cis woman and, you know, da da da. We all know that story. And so, yeah, just to think about different ways of mothering and tending to, and caring for parts of ourselves as, as being encompassed within that. Like, that's just, I mean, I think that's just a stunning thing to think about regardless of, you know, whether or not you have biological children or, you know, are, are a parent in some other kind of like, however you became. . all of that was just to say, I love his idea. Like, tell me more. What is this work looking like for you? How are you nurturing, you know, little inner child Virgie?Virgie: Yeah, I mean, I, a lot of it is just slowing down, like giving her the time to have a feeling, and to recognize the feeling and to sort of ask like, what do you need right now? So I, I think I, the, the, the temporal piece is the piece that really stands out. I mean obviously we, we sort of, I think that we live in a world, at least I feel like I live in a world in the United States and California, where, time is, you know, time is considered sort of this extremely limited resource. And I think that there's a real, obviously a premium on productivity and things like that, but it's become really clear to me that emotional processes are happening on a totally different timeline. Like even just, I mean, noticing. So for example, the other day, I, this is kind of a, a, an inter, like, it's a bit of an involved story, but I think it's useful in sharing what the nurturing looks like.Laura: Yeah. Let's do it.Virgie: Because it's not exactly like what you'd expect maybe. Okay. So the other day I was out shopping and I ran into a neighbor and I said, Now how are you doing? And she said, You know, I'm honestly not doing really well. She was having a really hard time. Her apartment had gotten flooded and then the landlord was sort of, her landlord was trying to evict her and she takes care of her 81 year old grandmother with a chronic illness and there was a lot going. And so, and so what's happening as this is, um, so for me, like there's two sort of people in the room as I'm listening to my neighbor, there's grownup Virgie who's like having compassion, thinking about, what I can do to help thinking about what resources I can deploy and how I can help her feel comfortable and safe for even just a few minutes as we're together.And then there's little Virgie who is extremely parentified, who grew up with parents who were sort of, you know, essentially like emotionally immature. So I constantly had to take care of them. I constantly had to parent them. I constantly had to sort of worry about their emotional state, and that because it was an inappropriate role reversal, it was very traumatizing.So grownup Virgie is having a totally great, very, you know, I would say like adult appropriate response to hearing this from her neighbor. Little Virgie is like, terrified. Little Virgie is really, really, really scared that an adult is having a really difficult time and that she doesn't have all the resources she needs to save her from her situation, you know?And so I'm just sort of deeply aware of that, that sort of sense of terror is rising within me and so taking care of little Virgie in that moment looked like actually a number of different things. One was sort of being like, you know, recognizing, I know you're afraid. And there's sort of a term called flooding for people who have developmental trauma. It just, like flooding is really when all the emotion, they're just flooding in, you know? And it's really difficult to tell what your boundaries are, to tell what your needs are. And I sort of, you know, can have a difficult time separating myself from the person who's having little Virgie does.Um, so I'm like, Okay, little Virgie, you're totally afraid. And that's okay. And so I'm kind of, you know, as I'm listening to my neighbor and being present for my neighbor, there's also a part of me that's sort of like, Okay, don't worry. We're gonna take care of your boundaries. Let's think about it, cause little Virgie is like, Okay, so I'm terrified, but let's have her move into our apartment can bring her mom and her two dogs and, um, everything's gonna be fine. And you can just cook for her and clean for her and like, comfort her and make sure that she's not afraid. And, you know, and so like little Virgie's just trying to save her. And so, and I'm like, Okay, I know you wanna do that. Um, but actually, right, like let's only offer the resources that we know aren't going to threaten our ability to be okay because, And so I'm just talking to her and being like, What's another, instead of, instead of that little Virgie, like what are some other options?Like maybe we can drive her home, maybe we can check up on her over the phone in the next couple of days. Maybe we can ask our friends what they might do and they have some ideas and some of them work in fields where that might be useful. Um and what if, you know, like you actually have the resources to offer to pay for a hotel or to offer her some gift cards or whatever if she wanted to book an Airbnb, if it gets too rough, like, and little Virgie was like, Ah, yeah, that sounds way better than what I was thinking. Um, and so, and I think the next couple of days, cuz emotionally flooding is so overwhelming, I was like, little Virgie is gonna be exhausted, little Virgie is gonna take longer to do tasks.Like, it's just, she's just really tired because even though it was just like a seemingly small moment, you know, she is, she felt like it was a really big moment. Um, and so it's like, it's like all of those things are kind of, that's how that looks like, you know?Laura: Wow. I'm, yeah, I'm trying to even figure out where to go from here. There was so much in there that I kinda wanna go back to. I thought we were talking, I thought we were gonna talk about ballet, dude, like. But this is good. This is like, this is really good and. So I hear what I'm hearing you say is that little Virgie, because she was so used to having to care for people in a way that was so out of her depth, that was so, you know, beyond anything that should be asked of a child that that ended up becoming a traumatizing experience. And so whenever you encounter someone who's in crisis, or even if it's not crisis crisis, even if it's like things are a bit shit, then like little VIrgie sort of armors up and is like, All right, ready to go into battle, like, what do I need to do? And it takes like, you have to talk her down and remind her that she's safe. It's okay. We have other ways of dealing, like dealing with this that won't compromise yourself, that won't compromise your wellbeing, and your safety.Virgie: Yeah, a hundred percent. I mean, yeah, that, that's, that's exactly what, what's happening. And I think there's a lot of, you know, I mean, I just, again, going back to the, to the project of maternity, it really is like all of those little moments. I mean, you know, as a mom, like, you know, and that, obviously there's all of these little moments and I think children really do experience the world through, through emotion, you know?And so it's like, you know, just kind of being like, okay, like whenever there's, and again, the stakes sometimes are high, sometimes they're relatively low. And she's perceiving, right? And I think this is all connected to a conversation about food and body and all of this understanding, right, that like, at the end of the day, the stakes to her are acceptance, which is basically, you know, to a child, the difference between life and death.Right? And so I think that the stakes can feel extremely high, especially when you start getting messages about all kinds of things as a kid. Like, I mean, I was recently, this is, this is a little bit of a, of a, of a more, I think more specific to the, to the topic of the podcast. But like, you know, I've, I've had many moments where I'm realizing that the fat phobia that I also learned as a child at the age of like four or five years old, that, uh, you know, I'm, I was always a bigger kid and I'm a bigger adult.And so, you know, like being, being a fat kid and experiencing fat phobia, I still have to nurture that, that part of little Virgie too. Like, you know, I think about like the way that I learned fat phobia was that, you know, if you stop being fat, then you will be saved from other people's abuse.And the way that you become not fat is through restricting food. So to me, restricting food really did become connected to a sense that if I do this correctly or I do this hard enough, then I won't be abused by other people. And really at the end of the day, like this is kind of the dilemma that anybody who's experiencing or afraid of experiencing fat phobia, that's really the, the crux of what the equation and what the decision is really about, you know? And so learning those kinds of messages as a kid that I could, you know, hurt myself in order to be safe for, from people who were abusing me. I mean, it's the, like the, those are lessons that are still, like, even as somebody who's well practiced and anti diet and is more than 10 years into that work, there are still ways in which it kind of rears its head around self-harm essentially.Laura: Oh, again, like, just so many things I wanna, I wanna pick up on there. But I think what was coming up for me there, Virgie, is this idea that I know has been a, a critique of the anti diet space is just how we sometimes overlook, how deeply ingrained, or maybe not even deeply ingrained, but how much dieting is often used to seek out safety, to, because that has been a coping mechanism, from childhood to protect yourself from being vulnerable, from being hurt, from pain, physical, emotional pain. And yeah. So I, I really just wanted to thank you for kind of like pulling that thread out. And also I'm curious to hear, because I, I'm guessing that listeners are gonna be curious to know for you when, you know, when little Virgie is feeling the threat of anti-fat bias of fat phobia, how are you taking care of yourself? Like what again, would you, do you have like an example of what that looks like for you?Virgie: Yeah, I mean, I think, It kind of goes back to the temporality piece, kind of just like slowing way down. I mean, the example that comes to mind is actually, um, the start of the pandemic. And it brought up former anorexic behavior that, and anorexic thoughts in particular, that I thought were gone. I thought that those thoughts were sort of buried in the ground, in the past, whatever. But I mean, right. Like, you know, we don't, like humans don't kind of work like that, right? But obviously we, I think we get better at, practicing things that matter to us. I think that we get better at practicing things that we practice.Um, and I also think that we have realizations and are literally our mind and our spirit changes as we have these, as we do these behaviors, and we have these moments of, Oh wow, I did that thing differently and it really blew my mind. And so, but at the end of the day, right, I'm, I'm having this, I'm in, right, we're in the unknown. So, Right. Like, I'm literally the, the start of the pandemic for, for me and I think for a lot of us was, I'm terrified. I don't know what's going to happen and it doesn't seem that anybody else around me who's an authority person, seems to know what's happening. So I went right back to that child place of seeing food as fear objects. I learned as a child that food and abuse were connected, you know, Visa v fat phobia. And in this moment where there's a lot of the same conditions, right? Like I was being brutally emotionally abused as a kid for being fat. And it was obviously destabilizing, terrifying. And this sense that no point of authority was gonna step in and end it. So it's the same conditions, but it's a pandemic. And so I'm, my child brain was like, we just have to stop eating food. It's gonna contaminate us and it's bad and it's wrong and it's scary.And so I was just like, I allowed myself the time to be like, Okay, wow. I'm really surprised that, I mean, again, like this is all about slowing, slowing, slowing down. So like, I'm really surprised about how I'm reacting to this, but it's okay that I'm reacting like this. And then I was like, Okay, Virgie, what we're gonna do is like, I'm like, I hear you and I know that you're having this feeling and I know that you're scared.And I also know, as grown up Virgie, that if you don't eat food, you're gonna get even more anxious. And I know as adult Virgie and little Virgie, you can trust me when I say that food isn't bad and food isn't scary and food isn't going to contaminate us. It's actually really good and it tastes good and it's good for us.And so I just kind of was like, Okay, cool. So we had that pep talk. Amazing. So let's go into the fridge and Virgie, like pick the things that you love the most. Like only pick the things that are like the most delicious right now. It's like, whatever you're really excited about, that's what we're gonna put on the plate. So I let little, again, time to like do that discerning process, time to go through everything in the fridge and all that. Um, and she's like, Well, I want, you know, I think at that, on that, the day that I'm thinking of it was, I think it was mostly cheese and maybe a couple of other things. And then, and then I sat down. I was like, Great job. And here we go. Like, I'm so excited about this meal. It looks really delicious. So we sit down and little Virgie's having a really hard time eating at a normal pace. Eating at the pace that I'm used to eating at, little Virgie is like really? And so I'm just like, It's okay. We can take as long as we need. Like, if we need to take a few hours, that's okay. If we need to take a break, that's okay. The important thing is that we have food in our body and we're taking care of ourselves. So it took a very long time to eat this plate of food. I would normally eat that food in probably like five minutes, something like that. And it took like two hours or something to eat everything on the plate, just because she was really freaked out, you know? And so I was like, All right, like it again, it's just kind of like that sense of like, I know that you're having all, like, you're having all these feelings and this, but we're just gonna like, take our time and we're gonna do this scary thing together because it's the right thing to do. It's the meaningful thing to do. So I think, like, you know, that, I mean obviously that's a very specific example, but I think it's just kind of that it's like that non-judgmental parenting, you know, instinct or, I mean, and it's not even an instinct, right? I mean, We have to learn respectful parenting or like parenting that's about respecting desire and boundaries and stuff like that. Again, I don't have biological kids or any kids. Um, but I'm aware of the school of thought called Respectful Parenting. And I respectfully parent my inner child who has all this stuff going on. Um, and the respectful parenting thing to do would be like, what do you want? What are your limits? But you know, as the grown-up here, who's like looking out for your safety, you can trust me 'cause I've done the work. and I'm gonna tell you that like we need food to have thoughts and to feel okay to have like, you know, have better thoughts and to feel OKLaura: Yeah.Virgie: And so, you know, anyway, so it's like that, that's kinda like an example of what that looked like in that.Laura: Yeah. And I, I really connected with this idea that you of, of like respectful parenting your inner child, and I think there is something to pull out of that in terms of, How we parent our kids around food and bodies. And I want, I wanna kind of come back and talk about that in a second but before we get to that, I, I wondered if it would be okay to go back to something you said right at the beginning and it's around, you know, what you've called, like, the project of, of motherhood and kind of exploring what that's gonna look like and be like for you. And the word that came up right at the beginning was grief and that you're processing that. And I wondered if you'd be comfortable sharing a little bit more around, you know, where you're at with that.Virgie: Yeah, I mean, I think, you know, so I spent most of my life largely sort of like pretty comfortable with like, I'm not having kids. And I think there was, there was always a little part of me that was like, hmm, that was aware that this decision was informed to some degree, and I wasn't sure to what degree, by my own childhood and by how poorly I was mothered. And so, you know, I was like, Okay. I was like, okay, at the end of the day, maybe it doesn't really matter to what degree my experience, my childhood experience impacted this decision. Because at the end of the day, like I either have the desire or not, right? Um, and so, and I'm, I'm a believer in that overall philosophy. But I think that as when I turned 40, you know, as I, I think it probably started to happen, you know, really in my mid-thirties where I was starting to sort of, I, I, I noticed there was sort of a part of me that was looking for around me, like conversations about people who had gotten pregnant later in life. Like I started, I sort of started was I was looking for examples of, you know, let's say that I don't, that I don't wanna do this now, but at some point in the next decade, like, are there, do I have people around me who are getting pregnant when they're in their late thirties or their forties? So I started to notice that opening up in me and then when I turned 40 it was like this really interesting, the grief really came in, in a lot of different sort of ways. Like I think the first grief was, the potential that, uh, you know, that this might not, that bio maternity might not happen. And there's a part of me that's kind of sad because it's just sort of a cultural narrative and it's, it's sort of a gender narrative. And I also think the grief came around like still being a bit of a question mark.And I think, like, again, what was fascinating was my whole life I was like, I'm pretty much, I'm between 80 and 95% sure that this is a no for me. And I think that that varying degree of like 5% of doubt, 15, 20% of doubt, I was really comfortable with that because I thought really 80% is quite, is a quite compelling number, and that's your best day. But as I was turning 40, all of a sudden that margin sort of blew up in my mind. I was like, Wow, you know, that 5%, Like that sort of, it went from, I'm 80 to 95% sure that I'm a no to, like, wow. I'm still fine to 20% question mark. Yes. And think that the, the focus shifted from the yes side of the pie to the no side of the pie at 40, because it just sort of felt like the stakes had changed. Um, and I think, frankly, here's another funny part that I just realized. I'm also, so, yeah, again, it's the, the grief is complex. I'm kind of getting into sort of the texture, the motivation for the grief. So I would say another new part of the, a part of the grief that I just learned how to articulate was the grief of not having the option anymore.Laura: This is something like, I have a couple years until I'm 40, but it is definitely something that I think about, you know, that runs through my mind that like the, the, prospect of having anymore kids to just like shutting down and what, what name do we call that or give to that and yeah, how do we work through, um, yeah, the, the grief associated with that. So all of that was to say, like, I resonate with where you're coming from. Virgie: Yeah. I mean, and I think that going deeper into that specific brand of grief, it was like, I was like, Oh, I'm not, I'm grieving that I don't have, I'm grieving this sort of like the ability to postpone the decision that I had in my twenties and I had in my, in most of my thirties. Um, so it's like a very specific loss of not caring. It's like the grief of, the grief of losing, meh. I have, you know, I have a lot more time to think about it. And I think it was specifically also the grief of losing the sense that it was, it was, that I had the choice, you know, like that grief of like the loss of kind of a very specific kind of freedom that's associated with like bio maternity in particular. And so, there's that, and then I got deeper into like, I was like, What else is in here? Like, what other grief are you feeling? And it was really interesting that another part of the grief was actually specifically around being a fat woman in a fat phobic culture where, um, where like I, you know, for most of my life, I felt like a gender imposter, meaning I felt wasn't a quote unquote real woman.And I think that maternity, like, you know, pregnancy and having biological children is a way in our culture that you can affirm your gender if you are a woman. And so I think there was grief around like, You know, basically, basically like letting go of that really important social marker of femininity, which is a pain point for me as a fat woman. So like there's that component where it's like, okay, like what does it look to kind of stand in this decision and know that it's like yet another moment where you're feeling that sense of gender imposter hood or something like that. And then I think that there's other sort of like other, the other parts of the grief are, you know, a lot of them are really, truly, um, I'm, I'm aware that they're socialized. Like, I'm okay, you're grieving because you've been told this is how the story ends. You find a person. Right. And I think specifically as someone who has a lot of trauma, there is a really interesting, um, narrative journey that I think a lot of straight women around me go through where it's like, okay, you had a horrible childhood. You had this like addictive, you know, you had an eating disorder and you had unresolved addiction issues, unresolved mother wounds in your twenties. You go to therapy in your thirties and then of course you find like an amazing, wonderful, well partner. And then you realise after all this that you actually do want to be a mother. It's a very specific and very alluring narrative. And I think the other, another part of the grief for me, and I'm just, this is just me being really, honestly very vulnerable. But another part of it is like, I, I'm aware that I have a narrative in particular as like a fat woman of color. I've been able to kind of create my own career and a meaningful life and a happy life. And like, you know, I, I've, I've been able to do a lot of things frankly, that the culture really values and also breaking all of the rules, you know, And I think that that's a big part of my identity.And then this whole idea that this, like, this sort of, almost like the crown jewel, right? Of kind of, you know, like you're, you're getting what the culture wants, but not on the culture's terms in many ways. Again, I think if you're a straight, cisgender woman and I, and I am, um, that kind of baby piece is like the ultimate and being like, and then I had a baby and I also broke all the rules. And guess what, being a parent isn't hard. And guess what? I don't have to suffer and it isn't isolating. And all the stuff the culture said, that's not true. And this is obviously very, like, I can hear like, this is like my child, my little bratty child voice, right? And so I can hear it. And so like, it's like the, it's like the wounded part of me that's like you rejected me. Well guess what? I got all the stuff you guys are killing yourselves for and I got it my terms. It's like a very, you know, I mean it's like a very specific narrative around, uh, being marginalized and reacting to being pushed out of society. Right? So anyway, like the whole, the child piece is like kind of, you know, I think there is that, that allure to kind of like, You gotta finish the story. The story finishes with you being some kind of radical woods dwelling fairy mom who's like completely defying stereotype and expectation of motherhood and your kid is thriving and they're so happy and you all are so happy. Look at the pictures of you and this well dude that you met in your journey. You guys are like completing the picture of what the culture says success is, but you did it on your terms. And I think like, we're sort of resisting, resisting the allure of that is, um, really difficult. So like the grief of being like, you know, that whole rebel, hurt, hurt, marginalized person, fantasy, just, just like being like, Yeah, but that part doesn't work for me. Like, there's a lot of, there are culturally normative things that I do that I like, you know, like a meaningful relationship, like having a home that I like. These are also culturally normative things that I also happen to want, but this is one of those things where I'm like, this is not something that I want. And so letting go and, and grieving kind of the fact that that, again, that wounded fantasy isn't going to be complete in that very specific way that I'm not going to, you know, have that moment, um, culturally and I mean, frankly, right? Like, I don't even know, again, as a plus size person, as like a plus size woman of color. I'm not sure how many of those, like cultural touchstone moments around like, you know, being pregnant, being visibly pregnant, you know, having a child where I don't even know how much of that would be, in fact mediated by things like cultural and medical fatphobia. Um, because we don't really get to see much of that narrative in the public.So it's like, you know, all that to say like, I don't even know if, like the cultural piece were really motivating me to the point that I was acting on it. I don't know how much of those fantasy, quote unquote moments would even be happening because of the level of fat phobia and racism in our culture, you know?Laura: Yeah. Oh my God, again. Wow. Just knocking my socks off. I do wanna say for the record, Virgie, if for the fact that it weren't a trauma response, I would very much be here for your particular brand of radical parenting . Cause that is something I think the world would be a better place for because there are, as you know, like we were talking about, toxic mom, mommy culture tropes, before we started recording, there's, there are so few options available to people who want to become parents that aren't just, you know, a rehash of the same old story, the same old, you know, thing that has, has been prescribed to us, which is a very narrow portrayal of what parenting and motherhood is or can be. So yeah, like not that that's a good enough reason for you to go and have a kid, but yeah, that would, so that, that's just kind of a side note. But yeah, I'm hearing that the grief is, it's not one specific kind of grief. It's so layered and so textured as to, you know, all of the things that you're sifting through and unpacking.And what I'm, I'm really hearing as well is just you trying to parse out, okay, what is really for me and what I want and in line with my needs and my values and my wants, versus what is a narrative that I have internalized that actually doesn't belong to me and doesn't fit with the life that I am creating for myself.Virgie: Yes, a hundred percent. I mean, and I, I love that kind of, and I think for me also like. There's like, um, like I, I was telling a friend, I was talking to you with a friend about this the other day and um, you know, I was like, Okay, so, you know, if you have a question about whether or not motherhood is something that, I mean, I'm like, I'm someone who's like, does is bio maternity in line with my values, desires, and also my actual physical capabilities, right? Like my actual body can do. And I kind of, and I was like, you know, it was, it was interesting. I was like, Okay, so let's start the negotiation as we're deciphering whether or not, like, as we're sort of parsing through this question, let's start with the matter, the issue of sleep, right? I'm like, okay, I'm someone who's really, I do think that my ability to be the person I am in the way that I am, and like, I think there's certain, even like, I'm also very aware of, for me, sleeping, I mean for all of us. Like I'm very, I'm hyper aware for me that sleeping is very connected to some of the work my body is doing in healing various traumas, and other things that are going on. So I'm like, okay. I actually, I'm, I'm like a 10 to 11 hour sleeper, like I really do feel like my mental health and my quality of life begins to go down very rapidly after just two daysLaura: You are talking to the parent of a two year old right now.Virgie: Yes. I'm like just on that negotiation point alone, like, I'm like, am I willing to do the work to change that? No. Am I willing to make concessions? No. And I'm like, ok, we don't even need to go to any of the other negotiation points. Like we've already ended the negotiation internally. So it was just kinda, I'm just like, I'm thinking about, you know, specifically for me, I'm like, what do I need to be the person that matters to me? Like one of my values is being my best self and being able to enjoy the world fully in that space. And I'm like, that's probably my highest value. It's a higher value than parenting. And so it's just, it's just one of those things where it's like, it doesn't like, you know, I think there's a lot of, romanticism that gets kind of thrown into, and a lot of this is coming from cultural pressure, the romanticism that's sort of culturally produced about like basically the integral role of like the reproductive heterosexual family, to the reproduction of our society as we know it. Right. This is, this is not to say that like I think there are absolutely people for whom parenting is like a genuine, real desire. And or it's a very highly placed value, and I don't wanna de-legitimize that.I think for a lot of people who are on the fence, that what's thrown into the mix is this cultural pressure that is really like, it's really the romanticization of reproductive heterosexuality. And it's like, I think it's important to kind of like when, when you are on the fence to kind of break it down to its barest place. Where does the motivation to romanticize this very specific kind of existence, like, you know, parenting and bio parenting in particular. It really at its cultural core comes from a very fraught legacy and a very fraught idea of like creating a very specific kind of nation and a very specific kind of world. And so, and I, and I mean really con, I mean for me, contextualizing like, like I, you know, the United States, like I live in a culture in which there's a wage gap, in which there's no subsidized medical care in which, um, there's patriarchal norms that pervade how mothers are treated both by their children and by society and by their partner. I still live in a world in which women are the disproportionate, like food providers and caretakers of children. Like I'm literally, I would be entering this fully knowing that like I would be, this is under the context of capitalist hetero patriarchy, which is like a very, it's a compromise I think, and like obviously, All of us are already in this soup. Like I make decisions already, always in this soup. I think what matters is, like, what I'm thinking about is this for me, and I'm not sure, it's important for me to kind of recognize like, where am I getting gaslit about this issue? Where is the stickiness? Where is my pain point? And really going deep in that, like, why, what am I afraid of? And then just kind of going because, because, because, because I'm afraid of this, because this, I'm afraid of this because this, I'm afraid of this because this, and what really it comes down to, I think for, for me in particular, and my therapist is like, Would you do it if you were on a deserted island? Because if you, if you wouldn't do it on a deserted island, then that means it's cultural influence. It's probably like really in the mix here,Laura: That's such, is such a good like that. It's so simple. But that's such a great way of thinking about it and helping parse this out. And also I want your therapist number.Virgie: Yes. I mean, I love, I love the deserted island test of like all desires. But, yeah, I mean, I think like, and I think that there's a, there's a big question about desire and consent in all of it, right? And I think like, I, I mean, I don't, like, for instance, I don't know that if we lived in a less patriarchal culture or if we lived, if I lived in a country with subsidized medical care, if I wouldn't have a different decision or if I lived in a country that had like, or a world where there was less fat phobia, like all of these things are sort of floating around. And I think it's very specific to say in this very specific context, in this moment in time, considering what I know about the world and myself, this is where I land. And I think that that's a very grounded way to kind of approach a decision that you're not a hundred percent into. You know what I mean?Laura: Yeah, no, I, like, I, I'm, I kind of wish that we'd had this conversation like three years ago, . Not that it, not that it has changed my mind about having a child, but, what feels so kind of vital to me are conversations that kind of reinforce this idea that you can be a whole complete person, you know, with or without a child. Right. In both directions. Because I think there is also, you know, that narrative that when you have a kid. And, and some of it is true because of, of cultural programming that you have to give so much of yourself to the child that you don't get to have your own identity anymore or your identity gets reduced down to mother, which, you know, that's a whole thing in and of, in and of itself. There was something else. I was gonna say Virgie, but I've, I've.Virgie: No, we've covered so much ground. I think the last thing I wanna share that's like, I think just, just like a life tip, um, it's like, it's like, you know, I made the decision a long time ago because I think another big question mark in the conversation of motherhood for people who are, you know, having that questioning moment, um, really is like, will I regret the decision? And I basically, one of my, one of my life rules which I adopted many years ago, is never make decisions based on the anticipation of an emotion in the future that you may or may not have. So never make decisions based on anticipatory regret. That's like one of my, and honestly, right? Like, it has liberated me in so many areas of my life because that's such a cultural trope of like, you're gonna regret if you, if you do that thing, you're gonna regret it. Right? Like, and I, I really feel like there's this kind of almost, I mean, it really is almost like a religious shame induced, like kind of, um, Kind of like, I'm like, you should not be moti, you should not be making major life decisions based on a future self that you don't know, based on an emotion that you may or may not have. And so like that, that's a, that's a big one for me. Like that that one is like, um, I just wanted to put that out there as like, I just don't, don't make decisions based on the anticipation of regret. TheLaura: What you are basically telling is everyone is get the tattoo, dye your hair, do theVirgie: I meanLaura: Do the thing that you are wanting to do. Virgie, this has been incredible. There's, there's one other thing, there's one other like, sneak question, but hopefully it's a fun one to answer. Which is, what are you snacking on right now? And that can be a literal snack. It can be just something that you're really into at the moment. A book, a TV show, a podcast, like a thing, like anything. What are you kind of into right now that, like a recommendation that you wanna share? Virgie: Well, I mean, I'm basically like, I'm in, I'm so into fall and it's October right now, so I'm like snacking on anything fall like, so, like if it has a spice blend that includes like cinnamon or pumpkin or apples. I went apple picking the other day. And what's funny that apple picking is that you end up getting a lot of apples and you have to, and it's like, wow. I'm just like making, it's like, it's like another, another batch of apples, apple cinnamon muffins, you know, like, and so it's been so fun to basically have like this basket full of apples to make like endless amounts of spicy apple muffins. Um, so I feel like that's the thing. I've been snacking on so many muffins and so many like fall inspired muffins.And then I'm excited about something. I'm gonna like give one more thing, which like thing that I'm excited about snacking on is, This week I'm going to a spooky bakes little party. We're gonna watch Halloween Baking Championship and bring our spooky bakes, and I'm making like aLaura: Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. You're going to watch what?Virgie: It's called Halloween Baking Championship. It's so good. It's so fun.Laura: Oh my God. Is it like, is it, Is it on Netflix? Netflix. Do, can I watch it here?Virgie: Well here, it's on Prime.Laura: Oh, Prime. Okay.Virgie: Amazon Prime. Yeah.Laura: I generally don't condone anything to do with Jeff, Jeff Bezos, but I do have Prime.Virgie: Yes. Oh, I know. I mean, maybe you can get it from some other outlet, but it's really fun if you like Halloween and they have like all these creepy cakes and it's so good. So I'm making like a witch hand with like, with like cake pop eyeballs. And I'm going to be snacking on thatLaura: Oh my God. I wanna see pictures of that. First of all, I'm gonna link to that in the show notes if you've made it in time for this episode to come out. That sounds amazing. Okay, so my snack is gonna sound really, gonna sound pretty sad in person. It was also a little snack, but it was, so I don't think you're gonna get these in the US but, I found these, like they're basically honeycomb dipped in chocolate and, um, they're by Doisy and Dam and they're, for anyone who's like, has any allergies or is vegan, then they're a good option cuz they don't have any milk in them. I think they maybe have soy, but apart from that, they don't have any other allergens. And like I, they're just new and I tried them the other day and they were delicious, so that was gonna be my thing. But they, um, cake pop eyeballs sound way better. So let's go with that.Virgie: Ooh. But I love, I love a chocolate dipped honeycomb, this kind of, Yeah, yummy. I mean, I feel like my introduction of this was like in New Zealand where there's just a lot of honey products. Yeah.Laura: Um, yes. Yeah. And what I like about it as well is like, and this is like, just like a thing that I, that I have where, um, I like, like snack bag kind of like, sizes of chocolate. So there's like another one that's like all these like mini peanut butter cups that has just come out, that's a Pip & Nut one.Like this was a very good week for new chocolate in the UK. Um, so that you can like, you know, you can just like grab a couple of pieces, rather than opening a bar and then like dealing with the folding up of the bar and all of that stuff, like, I like the grab bag option and you can just dip in and out of it. That's my vibe.Virgie: Ooh. Yes. I love a snack bag. Yes. Grab bag,Laura: Yes. Okay. Virgie for the, like 1% of listeners who don't know, because really you are an icon in the body liberation space. So, but yes, tell us where we can find you and get more of you.Virgie: Yes, um, I am, I have a website, virgietovar.com. I'm also really active on Instagram @virgietovar. I have a podcast called Rebel Eaters Club, which you can find anywhere you get podcasts. We have three seasons, so you can just sort of do some, like, fun listening for a couple days or spread it out however you want. And we basically talk about, well, it's like a food-positive, fat-positive show about ending patriarchy one corn dog at a time, and I also have a column at forbes.com where I write about plus size fashion and also how to end weight discrimination at work. And I have, there's a few self-guided online classes that I've co-written with some amazing people. If you're interested in any of that, it's all virgietovar.com. You can find all my books and stuff like that. My most recent book came out earlier this year and it's called The Body Positive Journal. It has stickers, it has cute, like larger body people doing cute, fun things. And it's some of my, it's like about developing some of my favourite tools in changing our relationship to food and body.Laura: Yes, and I'm so excited to include that in an upcoming, like I've been doing roundups of books, like Body affirming books for different age groups and I'm, that one is gonna be top of the list for teens, so I can't wait for that. Um, Virgie, I'm gonna link to everything that you talked about in the show notes, like all the places to find you and your social media and all of that stuff. But thank you so much. Like totally unexpected conversation, but loved every second of it. And yeah, just really love you. So thank you for being here.Virgie: Oh, thank you for having me.OUTRO:Laura Thomas: Thank you so much for listening to this week's episode of Can I Have Another Snack? 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I've had a lot of chats on this podcast with people who've become friends after the show but rarely do I get to chat to a friend I had before getting them on the show (see my chat with Chavonne about Fierce Fattie or with Pascale about The Fat Lady Sings to see a couple I have done), but this episode is with a friend.  I met Haz Cady when my podcast was very new and we've had some great chats ever since (almost three years worth of chatting about books!).  This episode is basically an opportunity for you listeners to sit in with us as we talk about Fat on Film by Barbara Plotz.  I know you're going to love the relaxed vibe.  We talk about a lot of things, including:Haz's journey to fat acceptance (in three parts...like a book...get it?)Haz's eating disorder and what food means nowMelissa McCarthy and Rebel Wilson as our only fat representation (...and Queen Latifah but we talk about how her representation is different than the other two)Masculinity in film or how men have to walk a body image line tooFemininity in film or how femininity always comes back to menThe lines fat actors have to walkThe use of a larger body as an inherently funny body in comedyThe way the camera angles, the sound effects, the choreography allow for the audience to laugh at the actor's bodyIs there any attempt to soften the fat phobia in film?The trope of the fat person eatingA discussion about Harry PotterFat people as outsiders and deviations from the normFat, people of color in filmThe way this book has changed our film watching experiences FOREVER!Difference between film and theatre representationKeep Reading Everyone!Haz's LinksHaz's TwitterArchive of our Own PageFat Girl Book Club Podcast LinksFearless PodcastingFat Girl Book Club on IGEmail: fatgirlbookclubpod@gmail.comBook RecommendationsFattily Ever After by Stephanie YeboahYou Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie TovarEpisode LinksSadie Collins articleYou Should See the Other Guy PodcastUndead Girl Gang by Lily AndersonFat Girl on a Plane by Kelly DeVos

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Signe talks to Virgie Tovar about why anger is an integral part of self-acceptance, boundaries as the most powerful B-word, tips for bad body image days (BBIDs) and body positivity as a relationship value. Virgie Tovar is an author, activist and one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on weight-based discrimination and body image. She holds a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies with a focus on the intersections of body size, race and gender. She is a contributor for Forbes where she covers the plus-size market and how to end weight discrimination at work. Tovar is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat,The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color, her new book The Body Positive Journal, and she's the host of the Rebel Eaters Club podcast, just starting season 3. Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, Tech Insider, BBC, MTV, Al Jazeera, NPR, Yahoo Health and the San Francisco Chronicle. She lives in San Francisco. To learn more about Virgie Tovar, visit https://www.virgietovar.com

I talk to Jator Pierre about the psychology of why people remain fat - even when they don't want to be. Find Jator Pierre Here ---------------------------------------------------- Website: https://wehlc.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jatorpierrewehlc/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/explorewithjator/?hl=en Find Eugene Trufkin Here ---------------------------------------------------- Website: https://www.trufkinathletics.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evgeny.trufkin Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/trufkin_athletics/?hl=en Books: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=evgeny+trufkin&ref=nb_sb_noss_2

Thanks for joining us again for Part 2 of our conversation on Unlearning! In this episode we talked about unlearning things like fat-phobia, wellness culture and more. We wanted to add some suggestions of books and resources that align with the topics we covered this week: Fearing the Black Body by Sabrina Strings, PhD You Have a Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar Anti- Diet by Christy Harrison Untamed by Glennon Doyle Leaving the Fold by Marlene Winell, Ph.D Keep Moving by Maggie Smith Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad You Are Your Own by Jamie Lee Finch The Wisdom of Your Body by Hillary Ann McBride As always we hope you enjoy and follow us on Instagram @donutmindifwedo_pod to hear about our upcoming episodes!

In today's episode we explore the topic of fat discrimination and oppression by diet culture with author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat and expert on body justice and fat activist, Virgie Tovar.   In this episode we discuss: Virgie's story of how she became an expert in fat discrimination and sexuality studies What is fat phobia and how to recognize it How diet culture is a form of oppression Ways that diet culture is bigotry How we can be better allies for fat acceptance What is internalized inferiority and ways to recognize how you may feel inferior in your everyday life   Virgie Tovar is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat and one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body justice. In 2018 she was named one of the top 50 most influential feminists by Bitch Magazine. She is the founder of Babecamp, a 4-week online course designed to help women who are ready to break up with diet culture. She started the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight and in 2018 gave a TedX talk on the origins of the campaign. She is a contributor for ForbesWomen and Bedsider. Her new book, FLAWLESS: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color,comes out in March 2020 from New Harbinger. She holds a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies with a focus on the intersections of body size, race and gender. In 2018 she was the recipient of the Poynter Fellowship in Journalism at Yale. Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, Tech Insider, BBC, MTV, Al Jazeera and Yahoo Health. She lives in San Francisco.    Links: Babecamp: www.virgietovar.com/babecamp.html IG: www.instagram.com/virgietovar ForbesWomen: https://www.forbes.com/sites/virgietovar/#c72bcd75ef92 You have the right to remain fat book: https://www.amazon.com/You-Have-Right-Remain-Fat/dp/1936932318   Resources for you: Learn more about our services at Nourishing Minds Nutrition. Read testimonials from our amazing clients here.   Let's hang out! Connect with Victoria and staff: Victoria's Instagram Victoria's Website Nourishing Minds Nutrition Instagram Nourishing Minds Nutrition Website

If you've ever second guessed yourself, hated yourself or harmed yourself because you weren't a certain number on a scale.  If you've ever been humiliated because of your size or praised when you shed kilograms in a hope to fit in and be good enough.  If you've ever deluded yourself that living a life of deprivation makes you somehow more virtuous, more desirable, more worthy - then you've absolutely landed at the right episode.Virgie Tovar started life as an effervescent, confident child who adored her body until the word, the insult, the denigration of being FAT was poured all over her like a torrent of shame.   Well, she's taken back the word.Virgie is a fat activist; podcast host of Rebel Eaters Club; the author of 'You Have the Right to Remain Fat' & 'The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color'; and she's one of America's leading experts and lecturers on weight-based discrimination and body image.Virgie received the Yale University's Poynter Fellowship in Journalism; famously started the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight and in 2018 gave a ground-breaking TedX talk on the origins of the movement.Virgie's making a real difference in a world that tells our children every second of their lives that they'll be more acceptable in society if only they tweak this, or shed this, or enhance this.This is Virgie's storyBUT BEFORE YOU GOFind out more about Virgie hereListen to Virgie's Podcast hereFollow Virgie on TwitterFollow Virgie on InstaBuy Virgie's remarkable book “The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color” hereBuy Virgie's remarkable memoir “You Have the Right to Remain Fat” hereFind out more about Tam hereFollow Tam on InstaFollow BRAVE JOURNEYS on InstaJoin the conversation and chat about the episode hereNEED MORE INSPIRATION?Find other BRAVE JOURNEYS episodes hereCREDITS:Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Tammi FaradayWith thanks to my special guest: Virgie TovarAudio Editor: Zoltan FecsoWith very special thanks to George Weinberg. BRAVE JOURNEYS acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we record this podcast on, the Yaluk-ut Weelam Clan of the Boon Wurrung who are part of the Kulin Nation. We pay our respect to their Elders, both past, present and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cu

Virgie Tovar speaks on her experience with the negative effects of weight discrimination, discovering self-love, and balancing health with body acceptance and positivity. Tovar holds a master's degree in Sexuality Studies with a focus on the intersections of body size, race, and gender. She's a contributor for Forbes where she covers the plus-size market and how to end weight discrimination at work. She started the hashtag campaign #losehatenotweight. In 2018, Tovar gave a TEDx talk on the origins of the campaign. Tovar is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat, and The Self Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color. She's also the host of the podcast, "Rebel Eaters Club." "Plus sized women in particular, tend to get funneled into more physically laborious, lower paying jobs, care, jobs that involve caring for children, caring for elders, etc. And thin women tend to are likely or more likely to be funneled into jobs that are client facing and more sedentary, that involve a better higher paying." In this episode, you will learn about: negative effects of weight discrimination balancing health and self-acceptance Tovar's book, "Self-Love Revolution" Keynotes: [0:56] Tovar talks about experiencing "fatphobia" from others growing up. [2:02] She explains how she discovered "fat activism," and her experience with data methods society uses to keep people a certain size. [4:29] The negative consequences of weight discrimination at the doctor's office. [6:31] Tovar talks about black women experiencing racism and sexism at the doctor's office. [7:51] Plus-sized people experience weight discrimination at work and school. [9:31] Tovar explains how society is structured regarding weight expectations, especially with people of color. [11:45] How weight discrimination affects a person, physiologically and physically. [13:07] The data behind "a normal weight," and accepting that data. [17:11] Tovar talks about her book, "The Self-love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color." Connect with Virgie Tovar! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/virgietovar/ Twitter https://twitter.com/virgietovar?lang=en Website https://www.virgietovar.com/ Podcast https://www.rebeleatersclub.com/ Connect with Yumlish! Website https://yumlish.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/yumlish_/ Twitter https://twitter.com/yumlish_ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/yumlish/?tn-str=k*F LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/company/yumlish/ Go to the Yumlish Facebook and Instagram to enter into the giveaway of Virgie Tovar's latest book, "The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color." Check her out on Amazon and order her book today! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/yumlish/message

So many of us have been getting through this year by watching movies at home by ourselves, or with friends on Zoom, inventing new ways to grieve and to hope, to keep ourselves laughing, all through the simple act of watching stories unfold on our screens. Movies have the power to unearth the many layers of our identities; to help us answer the question: Who am I? And that is what we trace, by way of a few beloved movies including The Color Purple, The Fly, and Blockers, in this episode.Danez Smith — is a Black, queer, HIV-positive writer and performer from St. Paul, Minnesota. They are the author of Homie and Don’t Call Us Dead, which was a finalist for the National Book Award.Tony Banout — is the Senior Vice President of Interfaith Youth Core. He holds a PhD from the University of Chicago, where he studied at the Divinity School and was a Martin Marty Center and Provost fellow.Shea Serrano —  is an author, journalist, and former teacher whose work has been featured in The Ringer and Grantland. He’s the author of The Rap Year Book, Basketball (and Other Things), and Movies (and Other Things).Emily VanDerWerff — is a writer and the Critic at Large for Vox.Virgie Tovar — is an author, activist, and one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on weight-based discrimination and body image. She is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat and The Self-Love Revolution, and hosts the podcast Rebel Eaters Club.Find the transcript for this show at onbeing.org.

In this episode, we share a *very brief* overview of diet culture. We touch on… -The definition of Diet Culture (as stated by Christy Harrison, MPH, RD, CEDRD) -The racist roots & oppressive nature of diet culture -Diet culture being the sea we all swim in, with or without consent -“Wellness culture” as a sneaky mask for diet culture -The harm in before/after pictures -Fatphobia, BMI, medical mis-information -Health At Every Size (HAES) …and more! Given that this is intended to be just an overview, we have listed resources for further exploration and learning which we highly recommend. Books: “Fearing the Black Body” by Sabrina Strings “You Have a Right to Remain Fat” by Virgie Tovar “Anti Diet” by Christy Harrison “Health at Every Size” by Lindo Bacon “Body Respect” by Lindo Bacon and Lucy Aphramor “The Body is Not an Apology” by Sonya Renee Taylor (Pre-order) “Food Isn't Medicine” by Dr. Joshua Wolrich We also recommend listening to any and all of Christy Harrison's podcast “Food Pscyh” for additional information on diet culture. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Real Women Have Curves tells the story of a young Mexican American woman walking between two worlds, trying to please her immigrant family and be true to herself. Ana, played by America Ferrera, dreams of leaving Los Angeles and going to college. But even as she wants out, she yearns for her family’s blessing and acceptance. This in-betweenness — and Ana’s radical acceptance of her body as it is — was powerful to Virgie Tovar, a writer and body image activist. She says the movie showed her that she could ask for what her body needs, no matter its size.Virgie Tovar is an author, activist, and one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on weight-based discrimination and body image. She is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat and The Self-Love Revolution, and hosts the podcast Rebel Eaters Club.Find the transcript for this show at onbeing.org.

Writer, fat activist and podcast host Virgie Tovar teaches us about the roots of fatphobia and the many pitfalls of diet culture. She and Laverne cover everything from discrimination to health care, white supremacy and social policing. Even if you've never been on a diet a single day in your life, this is for you, too.  Virgie Tovar is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat and The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color. She is a contributor for Forbes.com, where she covers the plus-size market and how to end weight-based discrimination at work. Her podcast, Rebel Eaters Club, investigates the North American relationship to food and body.  Rebel Eaters Club podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rebel-eaters-club/id1495401238 You Have the Right to Remain Fat audiobook: https://www.audible.com/pd/You-Have-the-Right-to-Remain-Fat-Audiobook/B08G1T4LGZ The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color https://www.amazon.com/Self-Love-Revolution-Radical-Positivity-Solutions/dp/1684034116 Babecamp: Break Up with Diet Culture E-Course https://bodypositiveschool.teachable.com/p/babecamp  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

Today on the podcast I have the incredible Virgie Tovar! Virgie is an author, activist, podcaster, TedX Speaker and one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on weight-based discrimination and body image. Virgie is the woman behind the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight, the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat and The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color and the amazing podcast Rebel Eaters Club. Virgie and I have an epic conversation on: Weight discrimination Fatphobia Diet culture Body positivity Radical Self-Love Plus much more. You won't want to miss this one! If you enjoyed this episode please be sure to rate and review! For more on Virgie Tovar Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/virgietovar/ Website: https://www.virgietovar.com/ Podcast Rebel Eaters Club (New Season Jan.5, 2021): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rebel-eaters-club/id1495401238 TedxTalk Lose Hate Not Weight: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hZnsamRfxtY Victoria Evans Intuitive Eating and Body Image Coach To apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://www.victoriaevansofficial.com/coaching To sign up for my NEW FREE Food For Thought Daily Email Program: https://www.victoriaevansofficial.com/food-for-thought-sign-up To follow me on Instagram: @victoriaevansofficial https://www.instagram.com/victoriaevansofficial/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/victoriaevans/support

Virgie Tovar has been a leader in the anti-diet culture movement, and it is a total honor to get to bring her on the show today for this in-depth and juicy interview.We cover her path to self love, rebelling against diet culture, the intersection of fatphobia, racism, capitalism, and the patriarchy, how we can fulfill ourselves in real ways, and so SO much more.Virgie Tovar is author of The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color (New Harbinger 2020) and You Have the Right to Remain Fat (Feminist Press 2018). She is the host of the podcast, Rebel Eaters Club (Transmitter Media NYC). She is a contributor for Forbes.com where she covers the plus-size market and weight discrimination at work. She has been named one of the 50 most influential feminists by Bitch Magazine, and received Yale's Poynter Fellowship in Journalism. Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, Tech Insider, BBC, MTV, Al Jazeera and NPR. She lives in San Francisco.****Www.virgietovar.com@virgietovarNew audiobook version of You Have the Right to Remain Fat, just released!Rebel Eaters Club PodcastBabecampSelf Love Revolution****Did you enjoy this episode? Be sure to hit SUBSCRIBE + leave A REVIEW and tell me why! Thank you for your support!

Growing up as a fat girl, Virgie Tovar believed that her body was something to be fixed. But after two decades of dieting and constant guilt, she was over it―and gave herself the freedom to trust her own body again. Ever since, she’s been helping others to do the same. Tovar is hungry for a world where bodies are valued equally, food is free from moral judgment, and you can jiggle through life with respect. In concise and candid language, You Have the Right to Remain Fat (Feminist Press, 2018) delves into unlearning fatphobia, dismantling sexist notions of fashion, and how to reject diet culture’s greatest lie: that fat people need to wait before beginning their best lives. Virgie Tovar is an author, activist and one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body image. She is the founder of Babecamp, started the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight, and edited the groundbreaking anthology Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press 2012). Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, MTV, Al Jazeera, NPR, the San Francisco Chronicle, the Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, and BUST. Dr. Christina Gessler’s background is in women’s history, anthropology and literature. She works as a historian and photographer. In seeking the extraordinary in the ordinary, Gessler writes the histories of largely unknown women, and takes many, many photos in nature. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Growing up as a fat girl, Virgie Tovar believed that her body was something to be fixed. But after two decades of dieting and constant guilt, she was over it―and gave herself the freedom to trust her own body again. Ever since, she’s been helping others to do the same. Tovar is hungry for a world where bodies are valued equally, food is free from moral judgment, and you can jiggle through life with respect. In concise and candid language, You Have the Right to Remain Fat (Feminist Press, 2018) delves into unlearning fatphobia, dismantling sexist notions of fashion, and how to reject diet culture’s greatest lie: that fat people need to wait before beginning their best lives. Virgie Tovar is an author, activist and one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body image. She is the founder of Babecamp, started the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight, and edited the groundbreaking anthology Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press 2012). Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, MTV, Al Jazeera, NPR, the San Francisco Chronicle, the Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, and BUST. Dr. Christina Gessler’s background is in women’s history, anthropology and literature. She works as a historian and photographer. In seeking the extraordinary in the ordinary, Gessler writes the histories of largely unknown women, and takes many, many photos in nature. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Growing up as a fat girl, Virgie Tovar believed that her body was something to be fixed. But after two decades of dieting and constant guilt, she was over it―and gave herself the freedom to trust her own body again. Ever since, she’s been helping others to do the same. Tovar is hungry for a world where bodies are valued equally, food is free from moral judgment, and you can jiggle through life with respect. In concise and candid language, You Have the Right to Remain Fat (Feminist Press, 2018) delves into unlearning fatphobia, dismantling sexist notions of fashion, and how to reject diet culture’s greatest lie: that fat people need to wait before beginning their best lives. Virgie Tovar is an author, activist and one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body image. She is the founder of Babecamp, started the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight, and edited the groundbreaking anthology Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press 2012). Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, MTV, Al Jazeera, NPR, the San Francisco Chronicle, the Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, and BUST. Dr. Christina Gessler’s background is in women’s history, anthropology and literature. She works as a historian and photographer. In seeking the extraordinary in the ordinary, Gessler writes the histories of largely unknown women, and takes many, many photos in nature. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Lindsey Elmore Show, Lindsey and her guests tackle one of the biggest issues that women face: lack of self acceptance. First, Lindsey talks with Virgie Tovar, author of The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color and You Have the Right to Remain Fat. These books help to uncover unconscious biases against fat people and help people to accept the body they are born in, no matter the size. Virgie brings her own journey of radical self acceptance to the table, challenging people to rethink how they many see the world. Then, Lindsey sits down with Dr. Komal Pandya, who defied her family's expectations of her while still maintaining an excellent relationship with them. She learned how to accept herself and defined what she wanted her own life to look like, despite some of the rigid expectations her parents may have had of her. She talks how therapy, confidence and open communication can greatly encourage acceptance of self. Finally, Lindsey talks with Dayna Mott, author of Kinky Locks about how people with textured hair can care for it without exposing themselves to harsh chemicals that are often marketed to African Americans. She talks about the necessity of seeing textured hair in the media, saying an absence of textured hair only encourages young African American girls to believe they need to change something about themselves, instead of promoting self acceptance.

If I could have a Fat Girl Dinner Party and I could invite anyone I wanted to, Virgie Tovar would be top of my list. I have heard her on so many podcasts and I have watched her YouTube video but this book, You have the Right to Remain Fat, changed the way I looked at everything. This week on Fat Girl Book Club, Jenna Donovan from The Self-Compassion Project and I get into all the ways diet culture and fat phobia intersect with racism, classism and sexism. Some of the other things we talked about include: -Jenna’s Health at Every Size journey -How fitness and health clash -Moving your body to feel good and not for weight loss. A discussion of jiggling -The wonderful world of napping -You don’t have to change your body -How women are educated to be women. What rom-coms, Sex in the City and The Babysitters Club taught us. -How fat phobia has affected her life -How diet culture has affected our lives -Whether or not bootstrapping is just an American ideology or if it has seeped into Canadian culture -The intersections between diets culture and sexism -The internalization of inferiority -The importance of language and how its being used against us -Classism and racism in diet culture -Why privilege is misunderstood Enjoy this discussion and let me know your thoughts!

Welcome back to The Fattest Girl in the Room. This is a podcast about being a fat girl in a not so fat-friendly world. I'm your host Tae, plus-size fashion and fat girl lifestyle blogger at Hello Taee, and this episode of the podcast is all about self-care and money problems amidst the current situation. In this episode we're covering:What is self care?How to practice self care during a crisis (and in general)Ideas for practicing self careHow to deal with money issues during a crisisAnd before you listen to the podcast, don't forget to subscribe to our brand new Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/3173634169367852/?source_id=110466840438943In this episode I have a few 'Something You Love' Recommendations:During this episode, I made a few recommendations for things you can do when you take time to yourself for self care activities. Here's the info:BooksShe Means Business by Carrie Green (for budding entrepreneurs)You Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie TovarElevator Pitch by Linwood Barclay (fiction thriller)Check out my book reviews for more book recommendations ☺️PodcastsThe Lady DicksTrue Crime ObsessionThe Last Podcast on the LeftTrue Crime JunkieFilmKnives OutTV ShowsShrillAvenue 5The OrvilleIn this episode, I referenced an article from PsychCentral.com called What Self-Care Is — and What It Isn't by By Raphailia Michael, MA.You can find this episode page on the HelloTaee blog at: https://hellotaee.com/5-self-care-stuck-at-home-money-sht/_____Thanks for joining me at The Fattest Girl in the Room, I'm glad you decided to join us. We don't have tee-shirts yet, but one day soon we will

Sex-cation interview with Matie! This is a really fun episode with Matie Fricker of Self Serve Toys! It was recorded while we were at Desire Riviera Maya – a swinger resort. We were there on a takeover of the resort with The Swingset Takes Desire. We get deep in it and talk about so may sweet and sexy things.   Self-Serve Toys was kind enough to give us a promo code: Exxxxtraordinary  and listeners will get 20% off!    Matie Fricker is a smut peddling sweetheart with a deep love for the odd and tender. She owns Albuquerque’s best sex shop, Self Serve Toys. Self Serve is a shiny bubble of love and safety for those seeking pleasure and joy in their lives. One of her proudest accomplishments was causing Rush Limbaugh to say “female orgasm” on-air multiple times. Matie has been awarded the 2008 Tough Cookie Award from the National Association for Women Business Owners, Best Sexy Shop in ABQ’s Alibi Weekly Newspaper for 13 years and Albuquerque Pride’s Outstanding Retail Store Award. http://selfservetoys.com Here’s the highlights! In finding her fat identity: Overcoming child sexual abuse Coming out as queer Touching a girl’s hand for the first time Learning to feel hunger for sex and eat again “I’m so sure that you’re wrong that your body is wrong. I am 100% confident that you’re wrong about hating your body” Mattie Fricker Virgie Tovar’s “You Have the Right to Remain Fat” https://www.feministpress.org/books-n-z/you-have-the-right-to-remain-fat “We deserve to be treated well” – Briana Cavanaugh The tension of “the good fatty role” v the “good activist role” Food is not poison. My relationship with my body has to be a practice. And my relationship with food has to be a practice. I love your feelings Secrets and being healthy or unhealthy Resources: The Body is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/books Not having to earn love. About Fat SEX! “Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds” by adrienne maree brown  “Pleasure Activism” also by adrienne maree brown  Standing up to a fat fetishist at sex party Mattie: I want somebody to tell me that I... they love how they love how heavy I am. They love how things feel. They love, they want to, they want to f^&*( me until I juggle… but respectfully. Care about having sex with fat people. Touch us and listen to us. Sex Out Loud podcast with Tristan Taormino http://tristantaormino.com/sex-out-loud/about/ All bodies are good bodies, deserving of love, exactly as they are. This is what my body looks like when it’s not aroused and you have to add arousal. It was so cool to use my body to teach. It was so cool to teach the whole time I was having an orgasm! We help each other feel safe. “Curvy Girl Sex” by Elle Chase: https://shevibe.com/curvy-girl-sex-by-elle-chase.aspx Matie is awesome! You can find Matie at https://www.selfservetoys.com/

This week Seth is joined by Fat Activists Isy Abraham-Raveson and Edith Bernier for a discussion about hot to talk to kids about Fat Positivity and Fat Liberation!  Show Notes: 4:53- Grossophobie.ca 5:08- The Plus Size Backpacker 14:53- Jes Baker 58:38- Your Fat Friend 1:03:37- Next In Fashion 1:18:09- Lizzo 1:19:22- Steven Universe 1:20:04- Diets Don’t Work/Ditch Diet Culture 1:20:15- Bodyposipanda 1:20:47- Virgie Tovar 1:20:55- Shrill by Lindy West 1:20:57- Shrill, show on Hulu 1:22:03- Cher Corps, Je T’aime (Love Your Body), by Jessica Sanders 1:22:37- Lammily Dolls 1:23:34- Mattel Dolls Diverse  1:23:44- Creatable World Dolls Some Extra Recommendations for Adults: (Thank you Isy!) -The Fat Studies Reader edited by Esther Rothblum and Sondra Solovay -Fearing the Black Body: the Racial Origins of Fat Phobia by Sabrina Strings -Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls by Jes Baker -Health at Every Size by Linda Bacon -You Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar -The Body is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor -Fat Activism: A Radical Social Movement by Charlotte Cooper -Caleb Luna (https://www.caleb-luna.com/writings-1) -Sonalee Rashatwar (https://www.instagram.com/thefatsextherapist/?hl=en) -Melissa Fabello [focused on thin privilege] (http://www.melissafabello.com/#writing) Example articles: https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/10/lets-talk-about-thin-privilege/ and https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/01/concern-trolling-is-bullshit/ -The Body is Not an Apology (https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/tag/weight-size/) -Ericka Hart (http://www.ihartericka.com/#contact) -Other books: https://www.romper.com/p/13-books-every-body-pos-woman-should-read-8550 -Fat Heffalump (https://www.facebook.com/FatHeffalump/) CW Eating Disorders: 2:30-3:40 15:53-16:29 47:28-50:16  52:37-53:07 59:20-1:00:28   CW Suicide: 1:15:55-1:16:33   Find us on the web! www.radchildpodcast.com Facebook Twitter Instagram Contact us: radchildpodcast@gmail.com Be a guest Donate Buy Rad Merch

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Not in the mood for self-help books this new year? We've got you covered! Lizzy, Melody, and Maren chat about their latest narrative nonfiction reads and offer some great recommendations! In this episode we discuss: "The Family Romanov: Murder, Rebellion, and the Fall of Imperial Russia" by Candace Fleming "The Miracle and Tragedy of the Dionne Quintuplets" by Sarah Miller "Terrible Typhoid Mary: A True Story of the Deadliest Cook in America" by Susan Campbell Bartoletti "If You Lived Here You'd Be Home By Now: Why We Traded the Commuting Life for a Little House on the Prairie" by Christopher Ingraham "You Have the Right to Remain Fat" by Virgie Tovar "Rough Magic: Riding the World's Lonliest Horse Race" by Lara Prior-Palmer "Unfollow: A Journey from Hatred to Hope" by Megan Phelps-Roper Access these books: https://countycat.mcfls.org https://wplc.overdrive.com https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ https://www.hoopladigital.com Follow us: #northshorebookchat https://www.facebook.com/northshorelibrary/ https://www.instagram.com/northshorelibrary/ E-newsletter: eepurl.com/c_TXMD *Recording equipment provided by the River Hills Foundation. Special thanks for their generous donation.

I interview Mattie Fricker naked at Desire in Cancun! Sex-cation interview with Matie! This is a really fun episode with Matie Fricker of Self Serve Toys! It was recorded while we were at Desire Riviera Maya – a swinger resort. We were there on a takeover of the resort with The Swingset Takes Desire. We get deep in it and talk about so may sweet and sexy things. Self-Serve Toys was kind enough to give us a promo code: Exxxxtraordinary  and listeners will get 20% off!  Matie Fricker is a smut peddling sweetheart with a deep love for the odd and tender. She owns Albuquerque’s best sex shop, Self Serve Toys. Self Serve is a shiny bubble of love and safety for those seeking pleasure and joy in their lives. One of her proudest accomplishments was causing Rush Limbaugh to say “female orgasm” on-air multiple times. Matie has been awarded the 2008 Tough Cookie Award from the National Association for Women Business Owners, Best Sexy Shop in ABQ’s Alibi Weekly Newspaper for 13 years and Albuquerque Pride’s Outstanding Retail Store Award. http://selfservetoys.com   Here’s the highlights! In finding her fat identity: Overcoming child sexual abuse Coming out as queer Touching a girl’s hand for the first time Learning to feel hunger for sex and eat again “I’m so sure that you’re wrong that you’re body is wrong. I am 100% confident that you’re wrong about hating your body” Mattie Fricker Virgie Tovar’s “You Have the Right to Remain Fat” https://www.feministpress.org/books-n-z/you-have-the-right-to-remain-fat “We deserve to be treated well” – Briana Cavanaugh The tension of “the good fatty role” v the “good activist role” Food is not poison. My relationship with my body has to be a practice. And my relationship with food has to be a practice. I love your feelings Secrets and being healthy or unhealthy Resources: The Body is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/books Not having to earn love. About Fat SEX! “Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds” by adrienne maree brown  “Pleasure Activism” also by adrienne maree brown  Standing up to a fat fetishist at sex party Mattie: I want somebody to tell me that I fucking love my fat pussy and they love my rolls. And they love how they love how heavy I am. They love how things feel. They love, they want to, they want to fuck me until I juggle… but respectfully. And I fuck feminists who won’t say things like that. Care about fucking fat people. Touch us and listen to us. Sex Out Loud podcast with Tristan Taormino http://tristantaormino.com/sex-out-loud/about/ All bodies are good bodies, deserving of love, exactly as they are. This is what my body looks like when it’s not aroused and you have to add arousal. It was so cool to use my body to teach. It was so cool to teach the whole time I was having an orgasm! We help each other feel safe. “Curvy Girl Sex” by Elle Chase (link on website) Matie is awesome! You can find Matie at https://www.selfservetoys.com/

Popaganda’s GLAMOUR season is finally here—and in the first episode, host Carmen Rios charts the course toward a feminist future without diet culture. Tune in to hear from The F*ck-It Diet founder Caroline Dooner; Sabrina Strings, author of “Fearing the Black Body;” Kimberly Dark, author of “Fat, Pretty and Soon to Be Old;” and Virgie Tovar, author of “You Have the Right to Remain Fat” on the steps all of us can take to escape from diet culture, and to start building a world without one.

Virgie Tovar is an author, activist and started the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight. In 2018 she was named one of the 50 most influential feminists by Bitch Magazine. She is the founder of Babecamp, a 4-week online course designed to help women who are ready to break up with diet culture. In 2012, Tovar edited the anthology Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion and in 2018 The Feminist Press published her manifesto, You Have the Right to Remain Fat, which was placed on the American Library Association's Amelia Bloomer List. Her new book, FLAWLESS: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color, comes out in Spring 2020 from New Harbinger. She holds a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies with a focus on the intersections of body size, race and gender. She is a contributor for Forbes and was awarded the Poynter Fellowship in Journalism at Yale. Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, Tech Insider, BBC, MTV, Al Jazeera and NPR. She lives in San Francisco.

Today I’m talking with Angelina Moles, a Critical Fat Studies theorist and performance artist with a Master of Art's degree in Communication Studies. They use both she/her/ hers and they/them/theirs pronouns when being referred to. Angelina is a fat activist whose work is centered in critiquing/unpacking white supremacy, thin privilege, and the medical industry for their creation and contribution to fatphobia and anti-fat stigma.    She is currently working on creating a website dedicated to discussing fat liberation and is dipping their toes into burlesque dancing. Angelina is a performance artist who creates pieces that discuss and focus on the fat body and the way it is policed in a thin society. They have performed all over the Bay Area and the country.   Listen in as Angelina gives us a crash course in fat studies exploring how fat bodies are medicalized and feared, the racist roots of fatphobia, and how the medium of performance communicates complex ideas in novel ways.   Show Highlights:    Often fatness gets looked at as a choice. Fatness is not like other oppressions because of the narrative that people can permanently change. We blame fat people for not fitting into public spaces when the problem is structural. Fat studies takes fatness out of the medicalized lens. Unpacking all the connotations that are associated with the word “fat” Body size, race, and gender are often not talked about in the classroom. Internalized fatphobia can impact fat students and make them uncomfortable. How the “obesity epidemic” isn’t real. Explains the history of BMI which is rife with racism and misogyny. Fatphobia is directly connected to racism. Explaining that having thin privilege doesn’t mean you never struggled. How troubling it is to call fat people “brave” or “courageous” when they wear crop tops. How she had to learn how to save energy by not arguing with those who don’t get it. Body positivity is a lot different than fat positivity. How she thought she was being a good fat person by trying not to be fat.   Links & Resources   FAT!SO? : Because You Don't Have to Apologize for Your Size by Marilyn Wann You Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia by Sabrina Strings Fat Studies Reader  The Fat Sex Therapist @nataliemeansnice - Natalie Hodge Roxane Gay The Body Is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor  Fat Lip Podcast Fierce Fat Femme on Instagram and YouTube  Fatty Goes Oink

In today’s episode we explore the topic of fat discrimination and oppression by diet culture with author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat and expert on body justice and fat activist, Virgie Tovar.   We discuss: Virgie’s story of how she became an expert in fat discrimination and sexuality studies What is fat phobia and how to recognize it How diet culture is a form of oppression Ways that diet culture is bigotry How we can be better allies for fat acceptance What is internalized inferiority and ways to recognize how you may feel inferior in your everyday life   Virgie Tovar is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat and one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body justice. In 2018 she was named one of the top 50 most influential feminists by Bitch Magazine. She is the founder of Babecamp, a 4-week online course designed to help women who are ready to break up with diet culture. She started the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight and in 2018 gave a TedX talk on the origins of the campaign. She is a contributor for ForbesWomen and Bedsider. Her new book, FLAWLESS: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color, comes out in March 2020 from New Harbinger. She holds a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies with a focus on the intersections of body size, race and gender. In 2018 she was the recipient of the Poynter Fellowship in Journalism at Yale. Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, Tech Insider, BBC, MTV, Al Jazeera and Yahoo Health. She lives in San Francisco.    Links: Babecamp: www.virgietovar.com/babecamp.html IG: www.instagram.com/virgietovar ForbesWomen: https://www.forbes.com/sites/virgietovar/#c72bcd75ef92 You have the right to remain fat book: https://www.amazon.com/You-Have-Right-Remain-Fat/dp/1936932318   Resources for you: Learn more about our services at Nourishing Minds Nutrition. Read testimonials from our amazing clients here. Join our FREE tribe for like-minded women, the Nourishing Minds Tribe.   Let’s hang out! Connect with Victoria: Victoria’s Instagram Victoria’s Website Nourishing Minds Nutrition Instagram Nourishing Minds Nutrition Website

Episode 7: BelleJanel interviews @OompaFupaLoompa about her experience as a weight lifting enthusiastic. Yes, a fat girl that lifts. Get into it! Follow her on IG here: https://instagram.com/oompafupaloompa?igshid=i33c7idk5jcb Again, my apologies for the overlapping in our speaking. It is due to the recording. I was not intentionally over talking her :) This week's Fat Ass Baddie of the Week: @lovelizaashe from @goodcurvy. Find her on IG here: https://instagram.com/goodcurvy?igshid=yg5u1pu17q5e https://instagram.com/lovelizaashe?igshid=f2xlb2d5fni5 You Have The Right to Remain Fat: https://www.amazon.com/You-Have-Right-Remain-Fat/dp/1936932318

Jenn and Andrea share some life updates, comment on recent news articles and answer listener questions related to Health at Every Size (HAES™️) advocacy, managing kids' requests for sweets, and navigating cravings in the process of relearning Intuitive Eating. Show notes: Smash the Wellness Industry in The NYT: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/08/opinion/sunday/women-dieting-wellness.html What Does Intuitive Eating Even Mean The Cut: https://www.thecut.com/2019/06/what-is-intuitive-eating-a-guide-to-intuitive-eating.html Nike UK Plus Size Mannequin: https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2019/06/235033/nike-plus-size-mannequins-controversy HAES Research: Weight Science: Evaluating the Evidence for a Paradigm Shift (Linda Bacon and Lucy Aphramor): https://nutritionj.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/1475-2891-10-9 Books: - The Body is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Not-Apology-Radical-Self-Love/dp/1626569762 - Landwhale by Jess Baker and Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls by Jess Baker : http://www.themilitantbaker.com/ - You Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar: https://www.amazon.com/You-Have-Right-Remain-Fat/dp/1936932318 -Happy Fat: Taking Up Space in a World that Want to Shrink You by Sofie Hagen: https://www.amazon.com/Fat/dp/0008293872/ref=sr_1_1?crid=30JAOR817GCPJ&keywords=happy+fat+sofie+hagen&qid=1564404744&s=books&sprefix=happy+fat+%2Cstripbooks%2C144&sr=1-1 - Hunger by Roxanne Gay: https://www.amazon.com/Hunger-Memoir-Body-Roxane-Gay/dp/0062420712/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1UV4887G1BPZ4&keywords=hunger+roxane+gay&qid=1564404581&s=books&sprefix=hunger+rox%2Cstripbooks%2C145&sr=1-1 To take to your healthcare provider's office -- Health Care Providers: Providing Sensitive Care for People of All Sizes (PDF from Linda Bacon's website) https://lindabacon.org/HAESbook/pdf_files/HAES_Providing%20Sensitive%20Care.pdf Division of Responsibility, Ellyn Satter Institute: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/how-to-feed/the-division-of-responsibility-in-feeding/ Blog post on Intuitive Eating and Cravings: http://www.streetsmartnutrition.com/faq-cravings/

 Virgie Tovar of #LoseHateNotWeight spoke with me in 2012 as she was editing "Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love & Fashion." Founder of Babecamp, a course to help you break up with diet culture, Virgie's been named one of the 50 most influential feminists of 2018 by Bitch Magazine and will tell us about "The YAY Scale!" Virgie's manifesto "You Have the Right to Remain Fat" is out now & "FLAWLESS: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color" comes out Spring 2020. Virgie's books are on point for"Too Much Woman SF" June 8th & 9th, 2019 (this weekend!) Join Sexploration with Monika, Gina Hatzis, Lucia Pavone and more ambitious womxn who are ready to explore their leadership beyond the ordinary paradigm.

No matter where you live in America, the marginalization of people - based on their appearance, age, beliefs - persists, and distorts the way we treat one another. Virgie Tovar, the author of “You Have the Right to Remain Fat,” is seeking to change that. Virgie travels all over the country speaking about body image and the effects of weight based discrimination, as well as providing online and in-person mentoring. Virgie also happens to be a fan of what she calls “Ye Oldie cannabis.” In this episode we're going to learn about how the history of fat activism curiously parallels the cannabis industry, hear some of Virgie's wild experiences with cannabis and discover how it influences both her work and her identity. “What weed does is it allows me to kind of like settle into my body and as a fat person who has been taught to feel disembodied, it's a powerful experience," she says. For more information about Virgie's work, including her online course Lose Hate Not Weight Babecamp, her Camp Thunder Thighs retreat and her upcoming book Flawless: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color, check out https://www.virgietovar.com/

Listen on: Apple Podcasts | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Spotify | Pandora May is Mental Health Awareness Month, and this week we're devoting the entire hour to personal stories about how food and the food industry can impact our mental health. Restaurateur David McMillan, of Joe Beef in Montreal, talks candidly about his challenge with sobriety in the restaurant world and how it changed the way his restaurants function. Playwright and screenwriter Stephanie Covington Armstrong, author of Not All Black Girls Know How to Eat, tells us her powerful story about eating disorders and the dissonance it has as a black woman. And, body image activist Virgie Tovar talks about the mental health implications of fatphobia, fat discrimination, and the diet culture; her latest book is You Have the Right to Remain Fat. If you are in need of mental health resources or help, see the links on our page splendidtable.org/mentalhealth. Broadcast dates for this episode: May 17, 2019

It’s our 75th episode! and we discuss some of our Recent Favourites. We talk about magic in outer space, fiction about dating animals, underground civilizations, jigsaw puzzles, and more! You can download the podcast directly, find it on Libsyn, or get it through iTunes, Stitcher, Google Play, Spotify, or your favourite podcast delivery system. In this episode Anna Ferri | Meghan Whyte | Matthew Murray | RJ Edwards | Jessi Things We Liked! Jessi The Adventure Zone, vol. 1: Here There Be Gerblins by Clint McElroy,  Griffin McElroy, Justin McElroy, Travis McElroy, and Carey Pietsch The Adventure Zone (podcast) Everything is Horrible and Wonderful: A Tragicomic Memoir of Genius, Heroin, Love and Loss by Stephanie Wittels Wachs Baba Is You Trailer Counterfeit Monkey (text game about removing letters from words) Matthew Fantastic Four: Unstable Molecules by James Sturm, Guy Davis, and Robert Sikoryak A Big Ship at the Edge of the Universe by Alex White BioWare: 18% play Mass Effect FemShep Dice Friends: Bylaw & Order Episode 1 (D&D game) Meghan Food for Thot (podcast) Invisible: How Young Women with Serious Health Issues Navigate Work, Relationships and the Pressure to Seem Just Fine by Michele Lent Hirsch You Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar Ottawa Swordplay Anna The Buried Life by Carrie Patel Criminal Minds Matthew Gray Gubler The Thrilling Adventure Hour (featuring Beyond Belief) The Diary of a Bookseller by Shaun Bythell Everyday Madness: On Grief, Anger, Loss and Love by Lisa Appignanesi RJ My Boyfriend Is a Bear by Pamela Ribon and Cat Farris Hey Riddle Riddle (podcast) Ravensburger 759-Piece Escape Puzzles Arithmomania: “European folklore concerning vampires often depicts them with arithmomania, such as a compulsion to count seeds or grains of millet.” I’m the Best! by Lucy Cousins Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse Links, Articles, and Things Victory by Monplaisir (Celebration music) Zoom, Zoom, Zoom: Storytime Song Suggest new genres! Fill out the form to suggest genres! Check out our Tumblr, follow us on Twitter or Instagram, join our Facebook Group, or send us an email! Join us again on Tuesday, May 7th when we’ll be talking about the genre of Fairy Tales/Fables/Legends/Myths/Folklore! Then on Tuesday, May 21st we’ll be discussing books that haunt us and changed our lives!

Activist and author Virgie Tovar returns! We discuss her newest book, You Have the Right to Remain Fat; the intersections between fatphobia, sexism, and diet culture; how dieting is a form of oppression and assimilation; the influence of American history on diet culture; body liberation as a collective movement; and so much more! Plus, Christy answers a listener question about how to navigate the dating pool while working to accept your body and maintain your feminist values. Virgie Tovar is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat and is one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body image. She is the founder of Babecamp, a 4-week online course designed to help women who want to break up with diet culture. She started the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight and in 2018 gave a TedX talk on the origins of the campaign. She pens a weekly column called Take the Cake on Ravishly.com and is a contributor for Forbes.com. Tovar has been featured by Tech Insider, The New York Times, NPR, Al Jazeera and Self. Find her online at VirgieTovar.com. This episode is brought to you by the Be Nourished Body Trust® Provider Certification training program. Learn more and sign up at benourished.org. This episode is also brought to you by Nurx, the game-changing company that’s here to make getting birth control easier. Go to nurx.com/foodpsych for a $20 credit. This episode is also brought to you by Blinkist. Go to blinkist.com/foodpsych to start your free 7-day trial. Grab Christy's free guide, 7 simple strategies for finding peace and freedom with food, to get started on the anti-diet path. If you're ready to break free from diet culture once and for all, join Christy's Intuitive Eating Fundamentals online course! Ask your own question about intuitive eating, Health at Every Size, or eating disorder recovery at christyharrison.com/questions. To learn more about Food Psych and get full show notes and a transcript of this episode, go to christyharrison.com/foodpsych.

We are excited to have Virgie Tovar on the pod today! Virgie is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat. She is one of the nation’s leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body image. We talk with Virgie about her experiences with fatphobia,  the long road to radical self acceptance, intersections between diet culture and sexism, race, and classism, how fat people can advocate for themselves in medical settings & MORE! Catch the full post at: foodheavenmadeeasy.com/podcast    Thanks to our sponsors: Poshmark invite code: FOODHEAVEN Thrive Market

After each struggling with negative body image (and generally negative relationships with their bodies), these three soul sisters each charted their own paths toward a more positive relationship to their bodies. In the process? They got back a whole lot of happiness, a whole lot more time to do truly meaningful things ... and a passion for helping others find their own body peace. Resources for more research include: Intuitive Eating, by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch: https://amzn.to/2StgOzz Intuitive Eating (the workbook): https://amzn.to/2StDEqR Big Girl, by Kelsey Miller: https://amzn.to/2Rn5YxH Landwhale, by Jes Baker: https://amzn.to/2LLyYtS Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls, by Jes Baker: https://amzn.to/2CGTR6h The Body is Not an Apology, by Sonya Renee Taylor: https://amzn.to/2LHa2DH You Have the Right to Remain Fat, by Virgie Tovar: https://amzn.to/2ApJkeg Health at Every Size, by Linda Bacon: https://amzn.to/2BPr7Xz The Beauty Myth, by Naomi Wolf: https://amzn.to/2RqhU1J Shrill, by Lindy West: https://amzn.to/2StiwAZ Rachel Cole (Feast program): http://rachelwcole.com/ Christy Harrison's intuitive eating fundamentals e-course: https://christyharrison.com/intuitive-eating-online-course Jes Baker's ginormous list of resources: http://www.themilitantbaker.com/p/resources.html

On today's episode, Jill and Adam look back at how they're doing on their 2018 reading resolutions, discuss the different ways they handle depression and provide a bunch of different ideas for setting 2019 reading goals.     Books Adam and Jill have read lately:   The Last Black Unicorn by Tiffany Haddish   The Greatest Love Story Ever Told by Megan Mullally & Nick Offerman   The Murder of Roger Ackroyd by Agatha Christie   Forest of a Thousand Lanterns by Julie C. Dao   The Dark Descent of Elizabeth Frankenstein by Kiersten White   Fraternity by Alexandra Robbins   Pledged by Alexandra Robbins   Born to Run by Christopher McDougall   North by Scott Jurek   Marathon Man by Bill Rodgers   Hunger by Roxane Gay   LandWhale by Jes Baker   You Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar   Charlotte's Web by E. B. White   The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Welcome to the sixth episode of Matter of Fat: a body positive podcast with Midwest sensibilities! Co-hosts Cat Polivoda and Saraya Boghani highlight community voices with a lens on body size, body positivity, & fat liberation. This episode, Cat and Saraya update each other on what's happening in the Twin Cities and their lives during The Fat Dish, hear about their guest Virgie Tovar’s story as a matter of fat, and dive into the Dirt and Discourse. This episode was released on October 31st 2018. The Fat Dish is chock full of the ladies waxing poetic about trick or treating. Cat shares her dream of turning a flu shot into a romantic comedy, living her best audio book life, and a stellar yoga session. Saraya also enjoyed the yoga class through the Radical Health Alliance, mentioned her work costume contest exploits, and a literal and wonderful hollering experience. Both hosts are excited to announce the first pod event coming up on December 4th at Spaces in North Loop. Upcoming local events: Alok Vaid Menon’s performance “Beyond Gender” on November 3rd and voting on November 6th. Check out links below to see who is on your ballot and learn more about attending the performance. This episode’s interview is with Virgie Tovar. Virgie is a fat activist, scholar, author, and style icon. Her recent book You Have the Right to Remain Fat is a beautiful narrative of growing up fat and realizing that you don’t need to wait to live your best life. Her interview is joyous and thoughtful. Make sure to check out her horror movie recs regardless of the season! Fair warning - Virgie's interview is a bit quiet so just another reason to crank up the volume on this rad babe's work. In Dirt + Discourse, Cat and Saraya receive a question about Health at Every Size and how reliable (or unreliable) BMI is as an indication of health. Many thanks to you for listening and reading, Michael for the question, KFAI and Mason Butler for supporting Matter of Fat, Allison Anne Design + Create for our logo, and Kyle Werstein for composing and producing our theme music. Find us! Website: www.kfai.org/matteroffat FB: www.facebook.com/matteroffatpod/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/matteroffatpod/?hl=en Twitter: twitter.com/matteroffatpod Email: matteroffatpod@gmail.com Mentioned in this episode: Radical Health Alliance Yoga https://www.facebook.com/RadicalHealthAllianceMN/ Minnesota Secretary of State What’s on my Ballot https://www.sos.state.mn.us/elections-voting/whats-on-my-ballot Alok Vaid-Menon Event “Beyond Gender” https://events.umn.edu/Online/default.asp?BOparam::WScontent::loadArticle::permalink=event_b&BOparam::WScontent::loadArticle::context_id=871E3EBF-7BB0-4F61-B58A-EDE85378E233 Event on FB https://www.facebook.com/events/708347672876960/ Virgie Tovar https://www.virgietovar.com/ You Have the Right to Remain Fat https://www.feministpress.org/books-n-z/you-have-the-right-to-remain-fat Health at Every Size https://lindabacon.org/health-at-every-size-book/ BMI https://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=106268439

This week we discuss children’s programming, #IWeigh, and our favorite fat books of 2018.   This episode of She’s All Fat is sponsored by TomboyX. She’s All Fat listeners get an extra 15% off by entering code “SAF2018” at checkout on tomboyx.com.   We are an independent production. If you’d like to support the work we do,  you can join our Patreon by visiting patreon.com/shesallfatpod.  When you pledge to be a supporter, you’ll get all sorts of goodies like our Patreon-only Facebook Group and extra content.   If you are interested in the perks available to our Patrons but you are not able to afford the monthly contribution, apply for our Patreon Scholarship! If you are a member of the Fatmily interested in becoming a sponsor, contact us here.   Need advice? Email/send voice memo to fyi@shesallfatpod.com.   Follow us! Twitter / Instagram / Get updates!   You can find us on: Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Stitcher / Google Play / Pocket Cast / PlayerFM / CastBox   Need something else? Check out our site: shesallfatpod.com   Download an SAF Wallpaper here!   Mentioned in this episode:   I’m Obsessed: H.E.R. New Single. Barbie Dreamhouse Adventures. Monster High. Good and Mad by Rebecca Traister. Akata Witch.   The Meat of It: My Life as a Goddess by Guy Branum. You Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar. Samantha Irby. Landwhale by Jes Baker. Body Positivity Power by Megan Jayne Crabbe. The Body is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor. Reclaiming Beauty Journal & Wisdom Deck by Heidi Anderson with Illustrations by Leah Joy. Julie Murphy. Julie Murphy on Instagram. Leah on the Offbeat by Becky Albertalli. Dietland by Sarai Walker. Summer of Jordi Perez by Amy Spalding. The Belly Book by Fran Manushkin. Diverse Books. Book Riot. Bet Me by Jennifer Crusie. Talia Hibbert. Dana Series. Suzanne LaFleshe.

Episode 2: Zoe Hollomon Welcome to the second episode of Matter of Fat: a body positive podcast with Midwest sensibilities! Co-hosts Cat Polivoda and Saraya Boghani highlight community voices with a lens on body size, body positivity, & fat liberation. We check in on Twin Cities events during The Fat Dish, talk with our first guest interviewee Zoe Hollomon about her story as a matter of fat, and dive into the Dirt and Discourse. This episode originally aired August 1st 2018. In the Fat Dish and our interview, we talk about the local synchronized swimming team Subversive Sirens and how they will be participating in the Gay Games in Paris from August 6th, 7th, and 8th. Zoe also referenced a tank top that has a wonderful Audre Lorde quote. Check out them rocking the tanks in link below. Fattitude the movie will be screened on August 19th. It’s being hosted by the Radical Health Alliance at the Marcus Theater in Oakdale. Minnesota primary elections will be held on August 14th. There are many ways to get your vote in! The MN Secretary of State is a good place to start with any questions. Cake Plus Size Resale is hosting a Fat Splash Pool Party on Saturday, August 12th. It’ll be a great way to celebrate summer and have a good time. The Gamut Gallery will be holding the Dangerous Fatty event on August 25th that will have fat community art and Virgie Tovar will be doing a reading from her new book You Have the Right to Remain Fat. Netflix’s Insatiable was the focus of this week’s Dirt + Discourse. More than 200,000 people have now signed the change.org petition to cancel the release of the show. Vulture has a quick review of what we covered. Many thanks to you for listening and reading, KFAI and Mason Butler for engineering and supporting Matter of Fat, Allison Anne Design + Create for our logo, and Kyle Werstein for composing and producing our theme music. Find us! Website: www.kfai.org/matteroffat FB: www.facebook.com/matteroffatpod/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/matteroffatpod/?hl=en Twitter: twitter.com/matteroffatpod Email: matteroffatpod@gmail.com Mentioned in this episode: Subversive Sirens www.facebook.com/The-Subversive-S…349108475437607/ Audre Lorde Tank www.facebook.com/349108475437607/photos/a.496908387324281.1073741828.349108475437607/640812592933859/?type=3&theate Fattitude the Movie fattitudethemovie.squarespace.com/about/ Radical Health Alliance www.facebook.com/RadicalHealthAllianceMN/ Cake Plus Size Resale www.cakeplussize.com Gamut Gallery www.gamutgallerympls.com/ Vulture article about Insatiable www.vulture.com/2018/07/netflix-has-finally-responded-to-backlash-over-insatiable.html

Minisode: Dangerous Fatty + MN State Fair Welcome to a Matter of Fat Minisode! Co-hosts Cat Polivoda and Saraya Boghani talk about attending Dangerous Fatty with Virgie Tovar presented by Flyover and going to the Minnesota State Fair. This minisode originally aired on September 12, 2018. Virgie Tovar’s Dangerous Fatty event at Gamut Gallery as part of her book tour for You Have The Right to Remain Fat. This event was presented by Flyover and sponsored by Cake Plus-Size Resale. (Shoutout to Haley from Flyover for her planning of the event!) Amazing artists, vendors and all-around greats included Meg Brown, Theo Nicole Lorenz, Shelby Bergen, Radical Health Alliance, & Cake Plus-SIze Resale. Also noteworthy - Saraya passed her KFAI board certification program!! That means Saraya can now be the primary sound engineer for our podcast. Learn more about volunteering and resources at KFAI.org. Finally, Cat and Saraya visited the Minnesota State Fair! Check out their Instagram post for fair highlights! They especially enjoyed the llama costume contest. (Check out some of the costumes in this article. However, none of them are on the level of this clever crabby llama.) Thanks for listening and reading, Saraya to editing the episode, KFAI’s Mason Butler for supporting Matter of Fat, Allison Anne Design + Create for our logo, and Kyle Werstein for composing and producing our theme music. Find us! Website: www.kfai.org/matteroffat FB: www.facebook.com/matteroffatpod/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/matteroffatpod/?hl=en Twitter: twitter.com/matteroffatpod Email: matteroffatpod@gmail.com Mentioned in this minisode: Virgie Tovar www.virgietovar.com Flyover www.helloflyover.com You Have the Right to Remain Fat www.amazon.com/You-Have-Right-Remain-Fat/dp/1936932318 Meg Brown www.etsy.com/shop/megbrownceramics Theo Nicole Lorenz http://nicolelorenz.com/ Shelby Bergen www.shelbybergen.com Llama Contest Article https://www.twincities.com/2018/08/30/check-out-these-llamas-and-alpacas-all-cute-in-costume-at-the-minnesota-state-fair/ Crabby Boi https://www.google.com/search?q=minnesota+state+fair+llama+costume+contest&rlz=1CAACAV_enUS786US786&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjFyOKvsardAhXvIDQIHeUWBK0Q_AUICigB&biw=1536&bih=719#imgrc=Lwqpn6MGlvyybM:

Virgie Tovar is an author, activist and a leading expert and lecturer on fat discrimination and body image. She is the founder of Babecamp, an online course designed to help women who are ready to break with diet culture, and she started the hashtag #LoseHateNotWeight. Virgie talks to Róisín about her manifesto, You Have the Right to Remain Fat, the link between gender and fat shaming and the silent epidemic of women living in fear of food and their bodies.

Wobble, a podcast about happiness and body confidence. Because we ALL Wobble.Presented by Jules Von Hep and Sarah PowellOn this episode of Wobble, Sarah speaks to Virgie Tovar. Virgie is an author, activist and a leading expert on fat discrimination and body image. She has just published her book, You Have the Right to Remain Fat, a manifesto calling for women to embrace their bodies and understand prejudices imbedded within society. On this chat Virgie talks about her body, how she learned to love who she was as well as how fat phobia affects us all.In association with Isle of Paradise. ***For information about all kinds of mental health then please visit Mind, the mental health charity See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This week we discuss thin allyship, Mitski, and routing for everybody black.   This episode of She’s All Fat is also sponsored by 1 Second Everyday, a video diary app that helps you create, remember, and share your life story, 1 second at a time. The app is free in the Google Play Store and $4.99 in The App Store. Start capturing memories today! Future you will thank you.   We are an independent production. If you’d like to support the work we do,  you can join our Patreon by visiting patreon.com/shesallfatpod.  When you pledge to be a supporter, you’ll get all sorts of goodies like our Patreon-only Facebook Group and extra content.   If you are interested in the perks available to our Patrons but you are not able to afford the monthly contribution, apply for our Patreon Scholarship! If you are a member of the Fatmily interested in becoming a sponsor, contact us here.   Every week, Sophie and April listen to a pump up song to get them ready to record! Listen to this week’s pump up song here.   Need advice? Email/send voice memo to fyi@shesallfatpod.com.   Follow us! Twitter / Instagram / Get updates!   You can find us on: Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Stitcher / Google Play / Pocket Cast / PlayerFM / CastBox   Need something else? Check out our site: shesallfatpod.com   Mentioned in this episode:   I’m Obsessed:  Ariana Grande's Sweetener.. Black Lightning. Mitski. Meaty by Samantha Irby.   The Meat Of It: MD Spicer-Sitzes. MD’s Upcoming Workshop (Oct 20th)! The Body Positive. Building Allies. Quartz. NPR on BMI. No Weigh! You Have the Right to Remain Fat. The Infamous Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack. How to Tell the Difference Between Real Solidarity and ‘Ally Theater’. Kimberle Crenshaw’s TedTalk.   MD’s Instagram Recommendations:

A manifesto for the fat revolution: You Have the Right to Remain Fat. Growing up as a fat girl, Virgie Tovar believed that her body was something to be fixed. But after two decades of dieting and constant guilt, she was over it—and gave herself the freedom to trust her own body again. Ever since, she’s been helping others to do the same. Tovar is hungry for a world where bodies are valued equally, food is free from moral judgment, and you can jiggle through life with respect. In concise and candid language, she delves into unlearning fatphobia, dismantling sexist notions of fashion, and rejecting diet culture’s greatest lie: that fat people need to wait before beginning their best lives. Tovar is joined in conversation by Sarai Walker, author of the novel Dietland.

In many doctors' opinions, weight loss is the only treatment for fat patients regardless of their health concerns. But now, many plus size women are speaking up to say, "I have the right to be fat and healthy." In this episode, we interview Charlotte Zoller about her personal journey to find a fat-positive doctor who wouldn't just tell her to lose weight. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This week I’m talking to author and fat activist Virgie Tovar about her new book You Have the Right to Remain Fat. Tune in as Virgie shares her manifesto for standing up to diet culture. Virgie Tovar is an author, activist and one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body image. She is the founder of Babecamp, a 4-week online course designed to help women who are ready to break up with diet culture, and started the hashtag campaign #LoseHateNotWeight. Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, Tech Insider, Al Jazeera and NPR. She pens a weekly column called Take the Cake on Ravishly.com. She edited the ground-breaking anthology Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press, November 2012) and her latest non-fiction work, You Have the Right to Remain Fat (published August 2018 by Feminist Press). Follow Virgie Website | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook --- Body Kindness study: Want to help advance research on body image healing? I’m co-investigator of a new study with Dr. Jennifer Webb Director of the Integrative Positive Psychology Research Lab in Mindfulness, Body Acceptance, Culture & Health (MIND-BATCH) at UNC Charlotte. We’re looking for female Body Kindness readers living in the U.S. who are either pregnant OR who have at least one child 5 years or younger to complete a survey. Visit www.BodyKindnessBook.com/research to learn more and find out how you can get a free e-book and web-based resources. --- Support the show Thank you to our generous supporters! We are working toward our goal to fund the full season. Can you donate? Please visit our Go Fund Me page. --- You can subscribe to Body Kindness on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify and iHeartRadio. Enjoy the show? Please rate it on iTunes! - http://getpodcast.reviews/id/1073275062 Are you ready for Body Kindness? Get started today with my free e-course and on-demand digital training. Learn more - http://bit.ly/2k23nbT The New York Times Book Review calls Body Kindness 'simple and true'. Publisher's Weekly says it's 'a rousing guide to better health.' http://bit.ly/2k228t9 Watch my videos about why we need Body Kindness on YouTube. https://youtu.be/W7rATQpv5y8?list=PLQPvfnaYpPCUT9MOwHByVwN1f-bL2rn1V --- Enjoy the show? Please subscribe and rate it. Have a show idea or guest recommendation (even yourself!) E-mail podcast@bodykindnessbook.com to get in touch. Join us on the Body Kindness Podcast Facebook group where you can continue the episode conversations with the hosts, guests, and fellow listeners. See you there! Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.