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Introduction topicRebooting the showUpdate on what’s been happening during the hiatusExplaining the new formatTopicWhat Are Values?“a person's principles or standards of behavior; one's judgment of what is important in life” - Google DictionaryWe use our values to make judgements, particularly judgements of good and bad or right and wrongChase’s perspective on valuesPersonal constitution or bill of rightsValues (In Combination with Morals and Ethics) form a personal doctrine by which to liveAffects all decisions in LifeMuch like Laws, can be changed but it is a difficult processWhere Do Our Values Come From?ParentsPeersFriendsRelationship partnersSocietySociety at largeSubcultures we participate inTypes of ValuesFear-based valuesValues based on fear are those that cause you to take action in order to avoid somethingThink “have to”Common fear-based valuesSafety / SecurityAbsence of painAvoidance of conflict/confrontationPhysical appearancePower/ControlPrivacyReligousity (fear of hell)Recognition / RespectKnowledge (based in fear of the unknown)Consciousness-based valuesWhat do we mean by consciousness?Consciousness is your awareness of who you *really* are, as opposed to the “you” that you believe yourself to be, or the you that you were taught you were supposed to beConsciousness-based values are those that cause you to take action to bring something desirable into your worldThink “want to”Common consciousness-based values:Pleasure/sensuality (as opposed to absence of pain)Freedom (as opposed to security)“Those who would give up essential liberty to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety.” - Ben FranklinAchievementVs recognition (internal to self)LeadershipVs. control/management(lead self before leading others)Adventure/noveltyAutonomySpirituality (vs. religiousity, internal/external)Chase Wolf: Notes on his experiences growing up in a religious household and finding spirituality outside of that setting.Personal growthIntimacy (vs privacy)CommunityA metavalue; valuing others who share your valuesImportant to know what your values are and what those of your community are to know whether it’s a good fitIf a conflict in values are present:Accept paying the “price of admission” to be part of the community and tolerate the differenceExamine your values, and decide whether yours should changeChoose not to be a part of the community, and find a community that is a better fit for youChase Wolf: Notes on changes in the Gamer Community values and the impacts thereof.Self-expressionFulfillmentTruthJusticeKnowledge (based in curiosity, as opposed to fear of the unknown)Chase Wolf: Notes on his curiosity in understanding the ABDL/Baby-Fur community allowing a shift in opinionHaving fear-based values is not necessarily a bad thing, but as a general rule, happier people tend to hold more consciousness-based values than fear-based valuesChase Wolf: Often, fear-based values are those instilled in us by friends, family, and society.Choosing Your ValuesThink of each new moment as a fresh opportunity to decide who you want to be; the greatest freedom is the freedom of choice“It is better to follow the voice inside and be at war with the whole world, than to follow the ways of the world and be at war with your deepest self” - Counselor and educator Michael PastoreWhat are your values?What situations or conflicts make you highly emotional, either positively or negatively?Think about what value was respected in the situations that made you feel positivelyThink about what value was not respected in the situations that made you feel negativelyEmpowering questions to ask yourself:What am I unwilling to tolerate?What am I unwilling to give up?What recharges my batteries?What really makes me feel excited?What experiences or activities have the most meaning for me?Why do I “need” the things I tell myself I need?When do I compromise my values? Why?What keeps me going when times get tough?Where is there a gap between who I am and who I really know myself to be?Why choose new values?When different values conflict with one anotherReconciling values with a relationship partner or a communityWhen acting according to a certain value just doesn’t feel rightWhen you realize a value is coming from outside, and isn’t something you really care aboutWhen a particular value is constantly transgressed, to the point that it is draining your energy and emotional bandwidthWhen failing to live up to a value is causing you great deals of shame, guilt, anger, anxiety, or fearHow Chase changed his values to serve him betterHow changes in Chase’s values allowed him to overcome issues in his lifeValues Assessment Toolhttps://www.dropbox.com/s/qg8hegtswsullwk/Values%20Assessment.doc?dl=0FeedbackNone for this weekQuestion(s)Subject: Mates now metamoursMy two mates recently broke up with each other leaving me in the middle. One mate is desperately clinging to me and the other is constantly offering advice on how to keep my other relationship healthy. How do I just let things happen without the other thinking they had a hand in it?Received via contact form (anonymous)CloserContact infoContact Viro:t.me/viroscicollietwitter.com/viroscicollieContact Chase:twitter.com/Chase_WolfBTGwolf4life.bandcamp.comFeral Attraction Twitter:twitter.com/feralattractfmFeral Attraction Facebook:facebook.com/feralattractfmFeral Attraction Contact Page:feralattraction.com/contactCoaching Services now available!As our audience has grown, many of our listeners and advice column readers have asked to speak with Viro or Metriko in a one-on-one setting so as to get help with resolving relationship issues or overcoming stumbling blocks that can trip us up on life's journey. Until now, it was not possible to offer such one-on-one attention, simply because of time constraints. Fortunately, Viro is now offering this kind of individualized attention as a service!For more information, visit feralattraction.com/coaching.Other businessPatreonJoel Kreissman is a published author of anthropomorphic science-fiction in his Para-Imperium universe. His first novel, The Pride of Parahumans, was published with Thurston Howl publications in 2017 and he has more free stories on his blog at https://paraimperium.wordpress.com/

There's a community that Life on the Swingset hasn't spoken about or to much: the polyamorous furry community. Tonight, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Mike Joseph invite Metriko Oni and Viro the Science Collie, of the Feral Attraction podcast, to talk about the fandom and to how we can find more common ground and more common spaces, more often.   You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!   Intro Music: SLANDER - Happy Now Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix) Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA) Outro Music: Didrick - Rewind (feat. MIRAMIS)   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!   Our episode introduction featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 4 Guitar Playthrough titled: Toad Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.     Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph

Hello Everyone!We open this week's episode with an actual retrospective of the show. As it is our 100th episode we wanted to take some time to reflect on the show. We talk about why we started the show, how we've grown in doing the show, and how we've seen the fandom (and culture in general) change in the two years we've been doing the show. We then talk about the future of the show and our personal futures and what plans we have coming up.We then launch into the main topic for this week, difficult decisions. In an average day we make 70 active decisions, and oftentimes we find ourselves overburdened with the choices we make. Metriko talks about his decision making process and how he's worked to improve and streamline it to be manageable and more helpful than stressful.For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello Everyone!We open this week's show with a discussion of MFF. We wanted to talk about our panel, our party, what went right, and what the plans moving forward for future conventions will be. As MFF is now the world's largest furry convention we wanted to spend a little bit of time talking about it and having Viro share his experiences in lieu of a serious top of the show.We then dive headfirst into our eighth all questions show. We cover topics from choosing between potential lovers, to divorce, to handling jealousy when your partners find more sexual outlets than you do in your open, polyamorous relationship. We also open up a bit about our lives and ways that we've overcome obstacles that many of our questioners are currently facing.We close out the show with some feedback from the questioner in Episode 094 as well as a voicemail feedback on topics discussed in Episode 093.A minor correction: Metriko talks about a strip club in Tampa named 2001 Odyssey, however in the episode he refers to it as Sex Odyssey 3000. Mea culpa.For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello Everyone! Metriko here! On this week's show Viro had a schedule conflict, so I'm solo-hosting. I open with a discussion on passion. I had a conversation late last week with my roommate about why I do this show (when it takes up a majority of my time) and I realized that all-too-often we downplay or apologize for the things we are passionate about. I talk about never apologizing for your passions and how to balance a work/life ratio to ensure you don't neglect your well-being. My main topic this week is on Pick Up Artists (PUAs). I wanted to talk about them because I think they are unethical assholes, and the methods that they offer prey not only on misconceptions, but also the vulnerable. With the fandom being a wonderful, liminal experience, it becomes important that we speak about unethical behavior when it comes to finding dates and fuckbuddies. While PUAs are primarily males that want to have sex with females, it is important to note that the techniques and skills that they practice are used in the LGBTQ+ community as well. I talk in generalities about what they practice, what they teach, and why all of this is bad in the short and long run. I talk about the fallacies of the law of averages, and why the skills they have may not pay the bills. I don't close out with a question this evening, but try to tie everything together with some feedback about denying interest or passion and how a listener was able to move forward with pursuing their interests thanks to the show. Next week, to compensate for the lack of a question, we have our seventh all questions show. For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello Everyone! On this week's show we start with Metriko talking about transparency, politics, relationships, and the honesty and vulnerability required to make your life a more genuine, fulfilling one. We make fun of Scarmucci, Streisand, and the fallacy of transparency equating to absolution. Our main topic is on First Times. Continuing our summer of conversation and introspection we discuss our first times and how they went great (but, really, how awful they were). We also give some advice on what the best practices are for a positive first time experience. Part whimsical, part sentimental, and entirely too much information, it promises to be a a fun trip down memory lane.  We close out the show with some feedback on murrsuit care as well as a question on how to break up with a clingy past relationship partner who refuses to dampen the flame of their desire for you.  For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello everyone! On this week's show we open with the segment that Viro had on the Savage Lovecast with Dan Savage. We discuss why Metriko was not involved (it's okay) and what our intended points were. Thanks again to Dan Savage and his team for allowing us to air this content for you to enjoy. Our main topic is on murrsuits. We discuss the practicality and the acceptability of the murrsuit. We discuss the difference between modified fursuits and murrsuits, whether they should be worn in public, and how to take care of your suit. It's another dive into the deep end as we go into one of the more popular (and scandalous) fetishes in the furry fandom. We close out the show with two questions: one on dating if you are neurologically atypical, the other on how to date someone who comes from a traditional family that does not approve of your relationship-- at what point should you dump your bride to be when their family is abusive? For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello Everyone! This week we open with a conversation on weed. Many people think that it is strictly for relaxation or for creativity, but are there applications for marijuana in the bedroom as an aphrodisiac? We look at a study and try to remove the stigma from sativa.  Our main topic is a relaxed show. In response to last year's episode on our relationship mistakes, many people think that we are masters of sex. This is not the case. We talk about problems, errors, mistakes, and negative situations we've come across in our sex play throughout our life? Want to hear about the time that Viro had his dick pepper sprayed? About the time a guy laughed at a commercial and voided all over Metriko's bed? Want to take pleasure in our past miseries? This is your episode! We close out the show with two questions: one on getting over negativity, the other on finding affordable sex toys and fetish gear.  For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello Everyone! On this weeks episode we open with a discussion on rape culture. A recent article nods to the fear of false rape accusations as being a reason why millennials are having less sex. We discuss, and Metriko steps on his words a bit, at the top of the show.  Our main topic is on disclosure. We go over the primary reasons and ways to disclose information, whether it's infidelities, diseases, or bad credit. Failure to disclose is, oftentimes, one of the reasons relationships fail. We discuss this, as well as ways we have failed at disclosure, so you can avoid relationship anxieties from this area. We close out the show with a question from someone in an open relationship. He wants a more poly-style relationship, but his partner is hesitant. What should he do? For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello Everyone! On this week's episode Metriko is alone as Viro was stuck on an airplane that wouldn't leave thanks to a few tornadoes. Viro made it to Furry Weekend Atlanta and will be back for next week's episode. With that in mind, this episode is slightly more personal and an intimate discussion with Metriko, so please enjoy! We open this week with a discussion on sex in America. Studies are showing that we are having less sex now than we were in 1989: could this be due to stress and working more in this shitty economy? Is Netflix and chill a lie and used solely for marketing (seriously though it's only $9.99). We look at why social media might be impacting your sex life. Our main topic is on shame. Last week we discussed what happens when you grow up with shame and choose to keep that subject secret and hidden from others. This week we discuss what happens when you reveal that shame and live life "openly". Metriko talks about his life when he was outed and how that was not the end of his quest for validation, and what it took for him to realize that he was living a lie. We go on a journey together to discover what it's really for. We close out the show with some feedback from Snares (one of our friends and Patrons)! He wants to know how our response from the Playboy article was, and if it contrasts at all with the feedback he got when he was interviewed for an article himself! Check out the show notes for a link to his interview. Metriko speaks for the show and reminds everyone that if you would like to have us appear in your publication to get into contact with us. For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello Everyone! On this week's show we open with a discussion on five different theories as to why we get jealous in non-monogamous relationships. We go over theories from Freud to Labriola and get to the root to what we personally think on Feral Attraction and why jealousy might not be as bad as we make it out to be. Our main topic is on Pups and Handlers. We bring on friend of the show Pup Powder to talk about his experience with the pup community. He delves into various areas, like who the pup community is right for, what to look for (and look out for), various terms used within the pup community, and addresses why the pup community gets along so well with the furry fandom. He also talks about Rubbout and why it's awesome. We close out the show with some Feedback on how much Metriko talks in an episode and a question on reconciling polyamory with Christianity (or any religion, really).  For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello Everyone! We open this week's show with a discussion on how self-control is just you empathizing with your future self. We look at an article that discusses your brain (with words that Metriko barely can pronounce) and how empathy and self-control are merely two sides of the same coin. It's an interesting lead in because- Our main topic is on Commitment versus Autonomy in a relationship. As a relationship develops and enters the longer-term, a constant struggle can happen between its parties on how to maintain their independence without sacrificing the intimacy in the relationship. We discuss the definitions, pitfalls, and tribulations that are often encountered in such encounters, and ways that you can work with them to help stabilize your relationship. It's a real romp of a topic and one to get 2017 off with a running start! Our closing question is from a bisexual guy who has issues emotionally connecting with ladies and problems performing anal with men. Is he doomed to be a straight player or is this just latent homophobia. We unpack this question and offer some less accusatory suggestions to his questions. For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello Everyone! We open this week's show with a discussion on how Sex Addiction should not be considered a mental disorder. We look at Debra Soh's article in Playboy Magazine on how the science and support of individuals who have hypersexual libidos has shifted and should continue to shift in the future. Our main topic is on Sex Drive Mismatches. We've spoken about this in previous Advice Articles, however we wanted to devote a show to this topic as we frequently receive questions concerning this area. We redux our previous article and talk about what to do if you have a lower sex drive (like Metriko), a higher sex drive (like Viro), and ways you can reconcile the two and move forward in your relationship in an ethical, open and honest way. We close out this week with a question from someone who is attracted to twinks, but no matter how hard he tries he just can't seem to get twinks to like him back. We talk about monoliths, hivemind, and rounding up to one. For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello everyone! We open this week with a discussion on how to have the best headspace for making important decisions in your life. All too often we make choices in our life when we're in an emotional state (breaking up when you're having an argument, agreeing to plans when you're in a good mood, etc...) that end up backfiring on us. We discuss some research on how to make the best, rational decisions for yourself and your life. Remember-- never go grocery shopping on an empty stomach! Our main topic is on monogamy. While Feral Attraction exists primarily as a podcast to detain non-traditional and non-monogamous relationships and lifestyles, monogamy is still the relationship style of choice for much of the public. While the furry fandom might be uniquely enriched with individuals exploring alternatives to monogamy, we did want to dedicate an episode to monogamy as it does carry its own unique challenges and difficulties to prosper. We discuss the benefits of monogamy and why many people choose (or never deviate from the cultural norm) to be monogamous. We also discuss some of the challenges and pitfalls that people who are monogamous might experience, both in their relationships in general and in the fandom at large. We also have two questions this week, one on whether or not it's a good idea to invite a third into the bedroom, and another on what to do if you find yourself falling for your Master/Dom/Domme in a D/s relationship. Buckle in-- it's a long ride this week with Metriko and Viro! For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello Everyone! We open this week's show with a discussion of how one in ten youth in Britain reports a distressing sexual problem in recent times. Is Brexit anxiety to blame, or could it be a far more simpler explanation? Our main topic is on setting Healthy Expectations. Many people in life struggle with setting healthy expectations and this can impact how they find others to date, enter into relationships, or even their day to day decisions and ideas. Your hosts open up about our lives, our struggles, and why there is a car circling Metriko's house. We have a question sexual agency and whether you can deny someone sex if they don't show you their latest STI testing results. We also have some feedback on last week's show and whether or not we can address Anal Sex from a top's perspective. For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

Hello Everyone! On tonight's show we open with a discussion about what happens when a sex-positive comic goes, perhaps, a bit sex-negative. We discuss anecdotal reactions to fursuiting sex, Metriko mispronounced Dr. Nuka's IRL name (sorry about that), and we discuss how furries and non-furs view pornographic material within the fandom. Watch that space. Our main topic is on how to find a mate. Last week we discussed how to be Single and Happy. This week, we address the idea that not everyone wants to be single. We go over what you should do for yourself, various resources that exist for dating within the fandom, and how to keep your head up in the face of rejection. We close out with a question on whether you should look up a date's social media on the internet before meeting them before the first time. Could this be our first disagreement? Please note that this episode does have slightly different audio quality due to a cross-country move and setting up new studios. We are working on improvements and ensuring that Metriko's whistling s's don't kill your eardrums in the future, and we appreciate your patience and hope you enjoy the episode nonetheless! For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, Be Well!

Take a close look behind the scenes of the Furry Fandom. Yiffing, fur suits, and relationships.

Take a close look behind the scenes of the Furry Fandom. Yiffing, fur suits, and relationships.

Hello Everyone! We open tonight's show with a discussion on whether or not BDSM Power Exchange relationships are valid, or are submissives who seek out these relationships mentally ill. We source a few materials and reference some of our own Advice Column articles in this discussion, but it's also a discussion on a situation that happened on Twitter where those of us on Feral Attraction were attacked for our position on this matter. This was a personal topic for us on the show, as Metriko has been in several relationships centered around d/s, and Viro and Koji are in a long-term committed relationship with heavy d/s mechanics negotiated and in play. We discuss the situation in depth, what we can glean from it, and how to discuss relationship styles you may not agree with. Our main topic is on our own personal take on d/s relationships: how do we personally identify in the d/s scheme of things, and what do we find works and does not work for long-term happiness. We also address some stray questions and offer some clarifications on topics or terms we might have glossed over previously in this month. We close out the show with a listener question that asks whether you can be in a successful bisexual polyamorous relationship. The questioner identifies as pansexual and genderblind, and is doubtful as to whether or not this type of arrangement would be successful for them. This is also our first question via audio recording, so that's pretty awesome too! For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode. Thanks and, as always, be well!

On tonight's episode we open with a discussion on a science article that shows how HIV can prematurely age the cells in your body by 5 years. Viro puts his PhD to use and gives a breakdown of what that means. Our main topic is on Social Anxiety; what is social anxiety, is it healthy or unhealthy, and what are ways you can mitigate against and treat it? We answer these questions as well as give examples in our own lives of how we have overcome severe social anxiety issues and learned to embrace our own shortcomings. This episode closes out our mental health month and we hope that you have been able to learn valuable tools to improve yourself and, in turn, your relationships as a whole. Remember-- if you can't love yourself how in the hell can you love somebody else? (Thanks RuPaul!) We close with a question on how to tell someone in an open relationship that you are only interested in their partner. Viro gives examples in his own life and Metriko talks about what happens when you don't talk about these things (hint: it's bad). For more information, including a list of topics by timestamp, see our Show Notes for this episode.