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Letting God's Disruption Do It's Work First, a huge "thank you" for praying for my father. His operation to put a plate and pins in his fractured femur has gone well. I am still in Kent helping my mother (hence the late newsletter). It has been a challenge and a joy to be available to them both. Like much of life. A challenge and a joy! I took the picture above while on a morning prayer walk through the local farmland. The dewdrop's glistening glory drew my eye. In a metaphorically similar way, the current disruptive situation has drawn my heart to God. In what way? Let me illustrate. I'm reading three books on prayer at the moment: "Prayer: Finding the heart's true home" - R Foster; "How to pray", P Greig; "Praying the Psalms", W Brueggemann. All are having their profound effect on me, in their own very different ways. I read the section on the metaphors of 'pit' and 'wings' from the Brueggemann book this morning. He points out the reality that we are moving from 'pit' to 'wings' and vice versa: "Our lives always move between the pit and the wing, between the shattering of disorientation and the gift of life."* Pit: “You have put me in the lowest pit, in the darkest depths.” (Psalm 88:6 NIV11) Wings: “How priceless is your unfailing love, O God! People take refuge in the shadow of your wings.” (Psalm 36:7 NIV11) Is this your experience? It certainly is mine. If you want a good prayer-Psalm as a text through with to meditate/pray on the disruptions of life, you can do no better than Psalm 91. I prayed through it this morning.  Brueggemann identifies the following declarations from God: • I will deliver • I will protect • I will answer • I will be with • I will rescue • I will honour • I will satisfy • I will show** My father is still in hospital, my mother's disabilities are profound, my work is full-on, there are other challenges at hand and, to top it all, the broadband here in rural Kent is... Well. let's just say, we're right at the end of the pipes!  If you, like me, are finding the disruption tough, take some time to pray to appreciate the pit, and seek the wings. The pit is teaching us something valuable. The wings are where we will end up - no matter how many pits lie in our way in the meantime.  Upcoming projects and events for the next few days Publishing the fourth and final class in the series on prayer for the Thames Valley church (based on the Lord's prayer from Matthew 6). Next class based on Matthew 6:12-13. A quiet time coaching podcast on "forgive us our sins"  Continuing to working on some plans, together with some friends, for an event on the issues surrounding Christianity and race. Starting to host a branch of the Renovare (https://renovare.org/bookclub?ref=homepage) book club. We're beginning with Pete Greig's book, "How to pray (https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51OBY2ijFxL._SX311_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg) ". I've read the first two chapters. It's deep, but engaging. More on the book when I've had a chance to digest it. Uploading a video interview with Randal Porter, author of, "Evidence for conviction". Attending a meeting of the location leaders of Thames Valley to discuss what we are learning from lockdown times and looking forward to what God might have in mind for us between now and the end of the year. Solution focused coaching Many thanks to the person who agreed to let me coach them this week. Let me know if you would like some coaching. Sessions can be as short or as long as needed. I am currently looking for someone to help me with setting up a website for my coaching. Thank you to everybody who has already contacted me, but if you know someone or you would be interested in helping me with this please get in touch. Until the next time,  God bless, Malcolm *Brueggemann, Walter. Praying the Psalms, Second Edition: Engaging Scripture and the Life of the Spirit (p. 42). Cascade Books, an imprint of Wipf and Stock Publishers. Kindle Edition.  ** ibid. p40

Parable #1: “Who the Fuck Coaches You?” As a student and leader inside of many transformational trainings throughout his life, Demian had always been a seeker of growth and improvement at a fundamental level. However, once he found himself smack dab in the middle of the “trifecta of insanity,” aka a married businessman with children, it became apparent that what had been working was no longer working for him. Through the conversations, arguments, and collisions with his wife, it became clear to Demian that something needed to change and shift. Having been instrumental in the breakthroughs of hundreds if not thousands of others, one day, his wife asked him, “You coach everybody else, but who the fuck coaches you?”  QUESTION How do you open yourself up to coaching when you are the one usually doing the coaching? Parable #2: Rise & Remember When the conversation of Warrior entered Demian’s world, he had been dabbling in some old patterns and behaviors that weren’t at all serving him. On top of that, things were fizzling out sexually inside of his three-year marriage.  About this time, a video on Facebook caught Demian’s attention showing men in extreme conditions who were being called to “rise and remember that you are a king.” Over sushi one evening, he shared this with his wife – an intuitive – who blurted out, “That's it! Sign up right now!” What Demian experienced in the next 45 minutes was a foreshadowing of the wild, life-altering adventure yet to come. QUESTION Describe your intro to Warrior. Parable #3: Buried Alive It was during one of the evolutions at Warrior Week 49 that Demian came face to face with one of his greatest fears. After being blasted with water while reciting Invictus, Demian was immediately taken to a plot of ground where he was instructed to dig his own grave. His greatest fear? That of being buried alive. And yet, that is exactly what happened next as dirt began covering him, and men started piling on top of him, all the while a muzzled German Shepherd began barking ferociously in his face. At that moment, in order to survive, Demian disconnected from the chaos and panic. What happened next proved what would be a pivotal moment for him. QUESTION What is one of your greatest fears? Parable #4: That One Time in India… During his travels to India ten years ago, Coach Sam had a very unusual and memorable experience. As he sat on a park bench one morning, he suddenly heard all of this laughter and set out to find out where it was coming from. Imagine his surprise when he discovered a group of people being led in a laughter meditation! After joining in the contagious laughter, Sam asked the guru a question that had been burning inside of him for a while. The guru answered Sam’s question by sharing an unforgettable story. QUESTION What burning question do yoi have inside of you? Parable #5: Discover the Gift In 2011, Demian’s movie, “Discover the Gift,” screened at the Sundance Film Festival. During the Q&A that followed, Demian heard a loud noise followed by someone suddenly standing up and abruptly leaving the room. A few minutes later, as Demian stood outside the theater, a large, tall man wearing an intense expression on his face came barreling towards him. Demian instinctively raised his hands to protect himself. But as the man drew closer, he noticed tears running down the stranger’s cheeks as he asked Demian, “What did you do to me?” QUESTION How did you feel when you heard Demian recall this story? Parables from the Pit“ “You truly don’t know another man if you don’t know his pain.” —Sam Falsafi “…as your father, I will always love you. As your king, I command you to rise! Rise..and rise again!” –Demian Lichtenstein   warriorweeknow.com

Welcome to today’s episode of Parables from the Pit with your host and head Warrior coach, Sam Falsafi, and Warrior Week 51 graduate, Daniel Giordano. In this revealing conversation, they uncover the new language of man, unveil the modern currency, and discuss the reality that in a world of connection through technology, disconnection and the feeling of being alone is at an alarming all-time high. Parable #1: F-Bombs About five years ago, Daniel saw his first Warrior video featuring Garrett J White. He thought it was actually someone at the church he attended and wondered why the guy suddenly had a “potty mouth.” Keeping his language in check was important to Daniel at the time, so the Warrior videos became an instant ‘no view’ due to all of the F-bombs Garrett was dropping. With the passing of time, however, circumstances changed and Daniel was re-introduced to Warrior via Kings Kit. He knew it was time to make some changes in his life and figured since Garrett was still going strong, he must have something figured out. QUESTION Where in your life do you let your judgments about a person dismiss the actual message?   Parable #2: Just Like Dad From the firsts moments of the initial Kings Kit webinar, Coach Sam reminded Daniel of his dad because he was “screaming all the time,” which triggered the hell out of Daniel to the point where he had no desire to talk to Coach Sam for the Warrior Week interview. At the time, Daniel felt unworthy as a father and felt he had fucked up a lot of shit in his life. Deep inside, he knew it was time to do something different. The strong pull towards Warrior Week was completely undeniable. QUESTION Describe an experience or situation where you felt the undeniable pull to move forward with something.   Parable #3: A Time of Uncertainty A few years back, Daniel awakened one morning and said ‘fuck you’ to everything. He was tired and found himself falling asleep in the middle of the day. After getting tested, it was determined that Daniel had low levels of Testosterone. He began a regime that would ultimately bring those levels back up within the normal range. During this time, Daniel’s marriage nearly ended. “Things started to get ugly and I got to the point where I slept at my office for three months. To make matters worse, when we started to work on our marriage, we’d go out to dinner, have too many drinks, and things would get even uglier.” QUESTION How do you resonate with Daniel’s experiences? Parable #4: Daniel’s Pit Inside the Pit on the first day of Warrior Week, Daniel faced something that had taken place years before when he and his wife first got together. “We made some poor choices and she decided to have an abortion. It just killed me. We knew it wasn’t the right thing to do, but we did it because of what other people would think at the time.” His experience of facing this in the Pit “was freeing because I didn’t realize it was the big barrier between me and my wife.” Daniel was able to let go of the guilt and shame and turn his focus to his wife to see how he could help her deal with her feelings about it. QUESTION What have you been able to face and let go of?   Parable #5: Silence: The New Language Coach Sam: In a world of technology that enables us to be so connected, we are so fucking disconnected and so alone. How is that possible? If we’re all connected and have the technology to leverage that, how is it that we are more disconnected than ever before? As men, we’re alone, we’re afraid and constantly hiding what we feel. The new language has become silence where we don’t have the energy to put into others or into ourselves. Somewhere inside of our lives, we have forgotten ourselves and have been forsaken. QUESTION What is one thing you can do today begin opening up yourself to share another’s pain and joy?   Parables from the Pit: “You awaken to a new reality of what is and what you want it to be… and you remember what was, in order to continue to become.” —Sam Falsafi “If you’re struggling inside of your relationships and feel spiritually lost, get plugged into Warrior with a group of guys who genuinely want you to have it all. Show up, step up, be willing to fight for what you want, and start doing things differently.” -Daniel Giordano.

Coach Sam welcomes Christian Davidson to the show today where their in-depth conversation leads them to share stories & experiences that uncover destructive patterns and behaviors of men in today’s society. Parable #1: Turning Points Christian was initially introduced to Warrior when he received a text from his friend that read, “You’ve got to check out this video! This guy’s crazy!” Christian found Garrett’s message riveting & compelling and wanted to feel the certainty and fire that Garrett was displaying. His buddy suggested they do Warrior Week together but in the end, it was Christian who ultimately reached out to Coach Sam, forever altering the trajectory of his life. ASK YOURSELF Describe a significant turning point in your life.   Parable #2: Freedom & Fire In the years leading up to his immersion into Warrior, there were areas of Christan’s life that he felt had slipped and fallen; where he experienced subtle change and erosion over time due to his choices and stories. This brought with it heaviness, disappointment, and guilt that built up and clogged his energy. After Warrior, Christian experienced freedom and fire as he used the tools of Warrior, coupled with the accountability he found within the brotherhood. ASK YOURSELF Where in your world have you awakened to and noticed subtle erosion over time?   Parable #3: Stacking Obstacles As a teen, Christian had established a strong foundation in certain areas of his life through his choices and daily disciplines which continued through his 20s. In his 30s, as he took on more responsibility with marriage, children, and business, those disciplines shifted. Like many men, Christian began feeling shame and guilt as he started moving away from those disciplines and moved deeper into a pit. How does this happen? How do we find ourselves suddenly out of a routine that has been working so well for us for many years?   ASK YOURSELF What daily routines & disciplines did you change or give up once you entered into your marriage? Why?   Parable #4: Define Your Outcomes When men get married, most begin focusing on their business and body at the expense of their relationships and spirituality. Why? Because the hustle of business and body can be easily measured, while results in the areas of relationships and spiritually are built around assumptions and comparisons. In the 90 days post-Warrior, Christian was able to define for himself what successful outcomes looked like in all four areas of his life, including the oft-times difficult to define areas of relationships and spirituality, a practice he continues to find life-altering. ASK YOURSELF How do you define success in all areas of your life? What are those definitions based on?   Parable #5: Isolation Twenty years into his marriage, Christian experienced a divorce. His feelings of self-worth had dropped, and looking back, he felt he didn’t handle circumstances well at the time. “When I should have been communicating more, I communicated less.” When things inside of his business began crashing, instead of slowing things down and opening up to his wife about their circumstances, he doubled down on work and kept it all inside to try to protect her and their four children from the stress of it all. ASK YOURSELF What do you keep from your spouse in order to “protect” them? Parables from the Pit: “You’re uncomfortable in the presence of truth because you’re a fucking liar. What if you began to practice the art of telling the truth?“ —Sam Falsafi “Wake Up Warrior is a unique tribe of powerful men, unlike anything we normally associate with in our day-to-day associations & connections; a tribe of truth hunters who are seeking expansion in every area of their life.“  -Christian Davidson

Master Stephen Co is Coach Sam's special guest in this week's edition of Warrior Week: Parables from the Pit. Master Co is an expert in Pranic Healing and Arhatic Yoga and is the co-author of the books, “The Power of Prana” and “Your Hands Can Heal You." Since 1988, he has been traveling the world teaching and sharing energetic techniques based on ancient spiritual principles that can be applied immediately to transform one's life.   Parable #1: An Inspired Encounter Master Co has been traveling the world with Tony Robbins for the past two years sharing the Eastern traditions with the Western minds, something he finds most gratifying. Nearly a year ago, during Warrior Week 43, Coach Sam began writing “I AM THAT I AM” on a whiteboard, setting into motion a series of events orchestrated by the Universe, leading him down a divine path to an inspired encounter with Master Stephen Co. QUESTION Where in your world have you seen the hand of God or the Universe orchestrating events in your life?   Parable #2: Learn, Live, Teach Coach Sam: There comes a time when a man needs to identify a spiritual mentor because the idea of “I’m going to do it alone” is limited. What I have been learning from Master Co, I have been giving away to those whom I teach. Master Stephen Co: The more you know, the more you realize how little you know. As a man, a lot of times our ego tells us, “I know everything.” Humility, on the other hand, gives a person the self-confidence to say, “I want to be better; therefore, I will seek someone who has accomplished more.” QUESTION Who is your spiritual mentor?   Parable #3: Stepping Stones Thirty years ago,  Master Co’s wife fell fourteen feet onto solid concrete and broke her hip.  The doctors told them it would take 3 1/2 months for her to heal and to be able to walk again. Master Co searched for alternative solutions, which eventually led him to his mentor. He put into practice what he learned from his mentor – which is what he teaches today –  and in two weeks, his wife was walking; in five weeks, she was running. QUESTION How has finding alternative solutions changed the course of your life?   Parable #4: I AM I AM is the mover of the body, the creator of feelings, and the thinker of thoughts. If you don’t know who this I AM is, you become a slave to your body, to your emotions, and to your thoughts. By knowing who the “I AM” is, you regain your power and the inner strength to deal with life. To be emotionally stable, mentally clear, and to have inner peace is the desire of most human beings. If someone is not experiencing this in their life, they are in need of healing. QUESTION How do you live when you feel power and strength?   Parable #5: The Energy of Happiness Happiness is a feeling, a state; it’s a certain frequency of energy. When you’re with a person who radiates happiness, you begin feeling uplifted. And if you can keep generating that energy, you can permeate yourself and infect other people with that energy. When you’re happier, it’s easier to be compassionate. When you’re not happy, it’s going to be harder, but you can choose to be compassionate. In the end, it’s always a choice. QUESTION What is your experience being around happy vs angry people? How do you feel?     Parables from the Pit: “You never arrive at I AM. You find yourself in its presence, but there’s no arrival.” –Sam Falsafi  “Being a true man is being able to master yourself.” –Master Stephen Co

Coach Sam Falsafi and Marine Corps Vet Deric Keller have an amazing conversation in this week's episode, where they share stories of war, anger, decisions, turning points, and liberation. Parable #1: Anger Suppression Sam: When we’re kids, we're given this checklist of what to do and what not to do, and part of that checklist is how we're not supposed to be angry at our parents. As children, there are emotional events and incidents that take place where we involuntarily adopt certain patterns and behaviors that are associated with that event or situation, which patterns unconsciously stay with us for years. If anger is a feeling that takes place as a result of that event or situation, since I'm not "supposed' to show my anger towards my parents, I begin sedating and suppressing it. Eventually, at some point later in life, that anger will show up because I'm never been given the frame of collision. QUESTION: What emotional event took place when you were a child that you have been suppressing for years? Parable #2: Shattering the Armor Coach Sam: When we deal with anger in whatever ways we learn to process it, the feelings of blame, guilt, and shame get forged into a type of armor that we carry for the rest of our life, until we go through the process that breaks the fucking armor with a hammer, and we suddenly feel 300 pounds lighter. Deric: I went through similar instances having shame and guilt with my kids. I used to sit on the couch and watch tv, then when it was time for punishment, "dad" would react. Today, we're in constant communication to where when it’s time for me to be the disciplinarian, it’s in a completely different way. QUESTION: What has been your experience surrounding shame and guilt? Parable #3: Child of War Sam: Between the ages of 8 and 10, my family and I lived inside of a Civil War. I saw things I should not have seen and witnessed so much pain. I would go to school and see the empty chairs of my friends whose homes had been bombed during the night. I didn’t know what the fuck was happening. For me, this was normal because I didn’t know anything else. There was no television or social media exposing us to another world, no education exposing us to another possibility. When we left the country and went to Canada, war was never spoken of again. I didn't talk about it, I suppressed it; I suppressed anything that symbolized war. QUESTION: What reality were you previously unaware of but can now clearly see? What happened? Parable #4: Worm On a Hook Deric: We called ourselves worm on a hook. Basically, we were bait. On April 4, 2003, we got attacked by militia as we were headed into Southern Baghdad. We had a new lieutenant with bright blue eyes who ended up getting killed on that mission. Until an evolution at Warrior Week, for 14 years all I could see were his bright blue eyes staring at me each night went to sleep. It’s not that we’re leaving it all over there, the majority of our feelings don’t hit us until we’re back stateside. We’re processing things at a different level and a different manner. Over there, you just keep moving. You’re losing people and people are falling off to the wayside, but you’re constantly moving forward. QUESTION: What emotional event has haunted you for years? Parable #5: The War Within Never Ends Sam: For the past four years, I’ve lived and taught the Warrior’s Way and have been living in the greatness of being a dad. Inside of 24 hours, I have become the most shitty dad - twice. That’s proof that the war within never fucking ends. The old self? He’s always fucking there. The minute I believe he’s no longer there, he takes over. But if I acknowledge he’s there, from time to time I can be a shitty man, husband, father, or leader. If I don’t acknowledge that, then all I’m fucking searching is this imaginary game of perfection that doesn’t exist. I’m chasing something that is telling me to fail every time I chase it. QUESTION: How long have you been chasing the imaginary game of perfection? Parables from the Pit: "You’re a man of war, I’m a child of war. Here we sit side by side. Although we can say the war within is not fucking over, we’ve won some major fucking battles and we’re at peace right now. But we know for sure that the war within never fucking ends." -- Coach Sam Falsafi "I didn’t realize that I was trying to hide that I had PTSD because to me it was a weakness. I didn’t want everyone to judge me. I had a vision of guys with PTSD living in gutters or my uncle living in a VA home. That’s how I envisioned PTSD. So when I was labled with it, I did everything in my power to make sure people didn’t know. I was scared. I didn’t understand that I could still function." --Deric Keller

Coach Sam Falsafi has a conversation with Warrior Week 37 graduate Chad Ulmer. Parable #1: The Pit Chad grew up in a small town in Iowa where he lived a pretty sheltered life. He joined the Marines to get out of that situation and served for four years. Once he left the Marines, he married rather quickly. Eight years later, he got divorced and eventually remarried. With every step, he was burying himself deeper and deeper into his pit. "I was in a very bad place and my marriage was falling apart. I felt dismissed and rejected on a daily basis with my wife. This all came to a head before our six year anniversary where I imploded and nearly ended everything in my life in just one hour. At this point, Garrett popped into my head, and that night I contacted Coach Sam." QUESTION: What's coming up for you as you listen to Chad's story? Parable #2: The Gap Chad: It's one dimensional in the military: to kill or not to kill. You learn to listen and obey, you give 110%, and then they say "good luck" when you get out. You're in a pit, you're lost, and without a support system, you start drifting and can’t get out. Coach Sam: You were trained and guided in a system to attack, kill, and kill your fucking emotions. The missing piece of the puzzle is the re-education of the transition back to civilian life, how to deal with your feelings, and how to lead your wife and children. QUESTION: What has been your experience with transitioning out of the Military? Parable #3: Power, Praise, and Purpose Chad: I have never felt such a powerful shift than when I joined the Brotherhood. When I do the work, I feel the power, and I feel there is such capacity for possibility. The availability of success snowballs and is almost exhausting. How great would it be if Wake Up Warrior could be integrated into the military? Coach Sam: Warrior Week awakens you to new patterns and habits.When you live the Warriors Way, you belong to something. Most men want to belong. They want two things: praise and purpose. When we are praised and have a purpose, life becomes meaningful. You can have a purpose but if you're not praised for it, it dies. QUESTION: What was your awakening at Warrior Week? Parable #4: Chaos to Panic After four years of hearing Sam say he was going to organize his closet, his wife decided to hire a personal organizer to do the job for him. All of his Warrior t-shirts, along with other t-shirts that held with special meaning for him, were taken out and given away. Needless to say, this did not go well with Sam. "Most of our modern men live in a chaotic world between work, business, family, and home. I spent five hours with my mind being hijacked in a state of panic for no fucking reason. I cursed my wife, our babysitter, and my son. I drove like a maniac cutting people off, projecting my anger into my driving. For what? Some gdamn fucking t-shirts." QUESTION: How does Sam's experience resonate with you? Parable #5: Awaken and Remember Chad: The Warrior wristband is what keeps me safe and helps me remember my awakening at Warrior Week when I fall into a drift of guilt and shame from not doing the work and Stacking. Coach Sam: When you wear a symbol of Warrior, it’s a reminder of the work you have done and a remembrance of how you awakened. When you begin to shift, it acts as an awakening. QUESTION: What token do you wear that reminds you of an awakening or turning point in your life? Parables from the Pit: "You are not alone." -- Coach Sam Falsafi ""I came out of Warrior feeling young and excited, like I was just out of high school. Things that used to worry and panic me, I don’t even think about anymore."" --Chad Ulmer

Coach Sam Falsafi welcomes Cullen Talley to the podcast in this week’s episode of Parables from the Pit. Parable #1: Grumpy Men Wearing Masks Cullen: You put out so much energy faking it around people in business and in public that by the time you are around your family, you are exhausted, you let your guard down and it all comes out on them. Nothing's left in the container except leftover shit for your family. Coach Sam: I used to give myself permission to snap at my family. It was ok for me to be grumpy at home because that was the standard. But not at the airport, in business meetings, with clients, at the gym, or even at Starbucks. You learn to mask like a pro in public, then when you get home you remove that mask and put on the mask of a fuckin liar. QUESTION: In what ways do you resonate with this conversation? Parable #2: Searching For Significance Before Warrior, Coach Sam approached the future with the attitude of "I guess we'll see what happens." He was conditioned to put work above everything else, and although he had the foundation of love for his family, they came last in his priorities. He was constantly searching for significance inside the business world, rather than within himself. Cullen had chased significance for years. Once he reached the place in life that a few years earlier would have seemed so incredible to him, he looked at his life and knew he was fucked because, despite all of his achievements, he was still miserable. QUESTION: Where do you place your family in your daily priorities? Parable #3: Achievers Who Ultimately Lose Coach Sam: When you hear of a guy that says it’s easy for him to make millions of dollars but he finds it hard to connect with his wife and kids, it’s not necessarily that he doesn’t know how to do it, it’s that he’s paralyzed. The cognitive dialogue of the internal energy that has been running all day has left nothing for him, and often he numbs himself with alcohol, tv, or drugs just to find relief. Cullen: Many men are thinking "If I get to this point, I will turn, I will change." The problem with this is that when they "arrive," they find that their families are shattered because they have plugged themselves into a bullshit fantasy story that they chased and achieved, but lost everything in the process. QUESTION: What important relationships do you find yourself sacrificing or putting on hold? Parable #4: Embrace Power Cullen: I have done many endurance events where there is a level of power and aggression associated with them, which power I had pushed down. On the mountain in Warrior Week,  I recognized that I could call upon this power and then I stepped fully into it. Coach Sam: There is an audience listening to this that are looking for physical significance. But, deep down inside, they’re looking to process the pain that they may or may not even be aware of. They're running all over the place trying to find a level of significance in these physical events. QUESTION: Where are you searching for significance? Parable #5: From Start to Finish Cullen: In preparation for my 15th Ironman, I wanted to see if it was it possible for me to create a result that allowed me to continue to invest in all the areas of my life and not have it get out of whack again like I had done every other time. I had created great results in other races, but I had neglected other things along the way. I showed up whole, divinely connected, grateful for my family and producing in my business. I showed up as a whole man not needing to prove anything to myself. I’m prouder of the man at this finish because I didn’t sacrifice myself, my connection to god and my family, and my production. QUESTION: How are you showing up in the four areas of your life? [Body, Being, Balance, Business] Parable from the Pit: "You will find excuses to justify your patterns and behaviors by washing the guilt with positivity." -- Coach Sam Falsafi "With my family I was showing up as the suit of a man - totally checked out, nothing left inside of me, the energy and intention fucking non existent." --Cullen Talley

Your host Sam Falsafi has Warrior Guest Kevin Voisin join him this week in speaking about the impact that one's word has on their loved ones. There's great power between men when they're willing to share the power of learning how to be spiritual, and that all comes through listening to the Voice within and then acting on it.   Parable #1: Broken and Unspoken Coach Sam: So many men feel that their freedom has been violated: the freedom to feel, be and live. Yes, we have the basic freedoms here in this country, but there are a lot of men that are not free in their heart. They ask themselves questions like: Why did I get married? Am I even real inside this relationship? Why does this seem like it's a program that I need to be part of?  Life goes on for them and they pretend that one day things will be good for them. Kevin: When I first saw the videos for Warrior Week, I was trying to copy them for my business. But in order to copy them, I had to watch them. Three minutes into the video, I’m fucking crying and I’m connecting with something that’s from my past. Everything that Garrett was talking about, described the pain and the trap that I was in.   QUESTION: Have you ever felt that your life is some sort of a program that you are living inside of? Parable #2: Perfection is a Liar's Game Kevin: My response to an abusive mother was to keep trying to be good enough. If I excel at everything, then she’ll have to accept me, she’ll have to know I’m good enough. Between that and my strong religious background, I was pushed into this perfection game and I was fucking good at it. When you play the perfection game to win, you play to lie. Coach Sam: There is no perfection in your leadership at home.   QUESTION: Where in your life are you playing the Perfection Game? How is that working for you? Parable #3: The Checklist Kevin: When I met my ex-wife, there was this new form of gravity around her. The next step was to get married and have kids. Suddenly, there was this list we were supposed to start living: I stopped living who I really was and became the list, fragmenting myself into little pieces of Kevin to check off all of the boxes. The actual me? I was fucking all alone. Coach Sam: You are brought up under certain religious instruction, which is beautiful - and inside of that, you get married. It’s not your feelings that drive your life, it's a checklist: certain laws must be in place in order for your feeling to rise. And obviously, that’s an impossibility because your feelings are going to go against this checklist.   QUESTION: What checklist is driving your life? Parable #4: Cheating: A Family Affair Sam: I don’t know how you operate when you cheat, what pain you can cause, or how it can impact your family because I haven’t done it.  When you have an agreement and there’s a violation to that agreement, it's never going to be the same. Nobody wants to fuckin' feel violated, yet when you bring a lie into your home, everyone feels it. Kevin: I admit I took the coward's path when I cheated on my wife. Many guys who cheat on their wife also lose their relationship with their kids. With every unexplained emotion in the house, the kids will either think it’s their fault or that it's their job to fix it.   QUESTION: What lies are you bringing into your home and putting on a silver platter for your kids as truth? Parable #5:  I Knew You Would Come When Kevin’s ex wife moved herself and the kids nine hours away, it was in that moment he really became a father, realizing that what he had had right down the hall was now nine hours away - which distance he has been traveling every two weeks for the past nine years to see them. Love for his kids is what drives him to do whatever he needs to do in order to be with his kids and to always show up in their lives. Coach Sam to Kevin: That connection is healing your heart. That connection is Divine. It's not based off some check list or what you are 'supposed to do.' Inside your soul, inside of your identity, there is a man committed to love. Inside Warrior, there are men modeling your love because that is their truth. There are too many men who are carrying similar pain who are not speaking about it QUESTION: What actions are you willing to back your commitments with?   Parable from the Pit: "You will never put this Shuilt on me - it’s this shame and guilt. You will not put that on me and you won’t put it on Kevin. It’s not that we are some fucking super heroes, it’s because we have learned the skills of not navigating the invisible maze that goes nowhere and is feeding some other mother fucker’s interest. - Coach Sam "In the words of Malcolm X,  'No man can give you freedom; if you’re a man, you take it.'  I’m not afraid to take it anymore. I will have my freedom. I will love my children, I will love my wife, and I will do it the way I want to and I make no apologies. I think the fundamental difference between me now and when things weren’t right is, I don’t give a fuck about the invisible rules that you put on me. If I put it on myself, great. If I don’t? It’s not mine and I won’t own it." - Kevin Voisin   ________________________________   Every week, your host Sam Falsafi will be speaking about what it means to live the Warrior's Way, a belief system taught with Wake Up Warrior for married businessmen to live a life of having it all through what is know as the Core 4 within themselves: Body, Being (spirituality), Balance (family) and Business. Coach Sam Falsafi is a lead trainer within Wake Up Warrior and will be joined by co-host Garrett J White, the founder of Wake Up Warrior as well as guests from within Warrior that provide witnesses and case studies on what has occurred within their own lives.      http://warriorweek.com