All Inclusive

It's the lesbian episode! Zoe joins Kenna and Brianna on the podcast to share insight into the nuances of the lesbian experience, and how it is different from that of other queer people. The pressures to perform for men even as a lesbian, the exclusion of lesbians in queer and feminist spaces, and the interesting history of gender in the community are all discussed on the final episode of this season of All Inclusive.   Below you can find a glossary of jargon-y terms we might've said on the show. Asexual: Describes a person who experiences little or no sexual attraction to others. Asexuality is not the same as celibacy and exists on a spectrum with varying relationships and feelings towards sex.  Bisexual: A sexual orientation that describes a person who is emotionally and sexually attracted to people of their own gender and people of other genders. Butch: A specific identity to describe masculine gender expression and is almost exclusively used by lesbians.  Compulsory heterosexuality/Comphet: The idea that heterosexuality is forced upon specifically lesbians by a culture that expects women and feminine people to please and center men in their life. It highlights an intersection between patriarchy and heteronormativity that often impacts lesbians in the discovery and acceptance of their identity. Other queer people may experience similar feelings, which is usually describes as heteronormativity, however that heteronormativity mixed with patriarchy is what makes it specific to lesbians. Femme: A specific identity that highlights the intersection between femininity and queerness. It holds a specific historical significance for the lesbian community where it originated from and works to capture the lesbian relationship to gender and femininity. Heteronormativity: Relating to a world-view that promotes heterosexuality as the assumed, normal or the preferred sexual orientation. Lesbian: A sexual orientation that encompasses women and nonbinary people who are exclusively attracted to other women and nonbinary people. Sometimes shortened to non-men attracted to non-men, though there has been significant discourse as to how to make an inclusive and all encompassing definition for an identity that exists at a very complex spot culturally. Masc/Fem: Abbreviation of the adjectives masculine and feminine; often describe gender expression for people of all identities.  Patriarchy: A societal structure in which men hold power over women and other genders. It also works to describe structures within societies that work to oppress and exploit non-men. Special thanks to:  Planned Parenthood Staff: Paola Ferst, Kelsey Hunt-Dolan, and Nan Morgan Audio Editor: Martin Pelaez Music: Rascal Miles with the song “Imagination.” Also check out their new project Tailor-Made at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhJDNtkZTYI  Cover Art: Brianna Nelson 

[Content Warning: discussion of eating disorders and body dysmorphia] If you, like our co-hosts, are also “violently online,” then you have spent a lifetime being exposed to imagery of diet culture and disordered eating. On this week's episode, Brianna and Kenna are joined by Alex, who shares their experience as a nonbinary person who has recovered from an eating disorder, the connection between dysphoria and dysmorphia, and the importance of implementing body positive education into modern sex ed curriculums.  Below you can find a glossary of jargon-y terms we might've said on the show: Binge eating: A type of eating disorder characterized by eating a large mass of food to the point of discomfort and loss of control. Body Dysmorphia: Inaccurate perceptions of one's own body that do not match with reality Body neutrality: The lens that one should accept their body as it is while recognizing that one's value does not come from how they or others see their body.  Diet culture: The belief that thinness should be achieved at any cost over an individual's health and wellbeing. It assigns moral significance to weight and demonizes those who exist outside of the acceptable level of thinness.  Disordered eating: Specific unhealthy eating behaviors such as restricting, preoccupation with weight, and over exercising, for example. When these behaviors become a distressing and damaging pattern, they can become an eating disorder.  Eating disorder: Patterns of abnormal eating behavior which often ignore natural hunger and satisfaction cues that interfere with one's life, health, and lifestyle.l Gender dysphoria: Describes the distress, unhappiness, and anxiety that transgender people may feel about the mismatch between their bodies and their gender identity. Gender non-conforming: A person whose gender expression is perceived as being inconsistent with cultural norms expected for that gender. Not all transgender people are gender non-conforming, and not all gender non-conforming people identify as transgender.  Nonbinary: Non-binary is an umbrella term for gender identities that are neither male nor female‍—‌identities that are outside the gender binary.Words that people may use to express their nonbinary gender identity include “agender,” “bigender,” “genderqueer,” “genderfluid,” and “pangender.”Top surgery: A surgery, sometimes pursued by trans men and nonbinary people, that removes the breast tissue to create a flatter and more masculine chest. Transgender: A general term used to describe someone whose gender expression/gender identity are different than the sex assigned at birth. Sometimes shortened to trans.   For more information about the resources we talked about in this episode, check out the links below: National Eating Disorder Association: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/ NEDA Hotline: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline The Alliance for Eating Disorders Awareness: https://www.allianceforeatingdisorders.com/   Special thanks to:  Planned Parenthood Staff: Paola Ferst, Kelsey Hunt-Dolan, and Nan Morgan Audio Editor: Martin Pelaez Music: Rascal Miles with the song “Imagination.” Also check out their new project Tailor-Made at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhJDNtkZTYI  Cover Art: Brianna Nelson 

[Content Warning: mentions of trauma] Kenna and Brianna stray from the norm for one episode to host their lovely Peer Ed advisor and professional sex educator Paola to discuss the importance of viewing the world through a trauma-informed lens, its relevance to young people in sex education, and how we all can use these principles to better care for each other.  Below you can find a glossary of jargon-y terms we might've said on the show.  Askable Adult: An adult who has the tools and comfort to be a resource for questions about bodies and sex for the young people in their life. Buzzword: A common phrase, oftentimes jargony, that is frequently misunderstood due to its repetition. Promotores Model: A model, commonly used in Hispanic and LatinX communities, where a community member is trained to provide basic health education to the community while not being a medical professional or something similar.  Trauma: Trauma is the physiological or emotional response due to previous events or experiences. These events are often distressing and shape someone's actions and decision making long past the initial trauma. Trauma-informed: A lens used in various fields such as education, and policing that seeks to acknowledge the way that people's personal experiences and traumas shape their circumstances. It also recognizes that trauma is more common than one may originally think and addresses sensitive issues with that care and respect. Trigger: A trigger is a component of trauma, where certain words, senses, or events cause a recall of a traumatic experience.   Special thanks to:  Planned Parenthood Staff: Paola Ferst, Kelsey Hunt-Dolan, and Nan Morgan Audio Editor: Martin Pelaez Music: Rascal Miles with the song “Imagination.” Also check out their new project Tailor-Made at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhJDNtkZTYI  Cover Art: Brianna Nelson  

This week, Brianna and Kenna have Emily on the podcast to talk about her experiences growing up and leaving the Mormon church. Bringing her unique perspective to the show, they discuss Mormon values, the importance of keeping sex ed values-neutral, and the aspects of religion that stuck with her through the years.  Below you can find a glossary of jargon-y terms we might've said on the show. Mormonism: A religion that incorporates many aspects of Christianity with its own interpretations based on the work of its originator, Joseph Smith and other texts such as the Book of Mormon. Many Mormons do consider themselves Christians as well, as they share many beliefs about morality and the story of Jesus Christ. They have specific distinctions in lifestyle and belief such as strict rules regarding consumption of alcohol, coffee, tea, and tobacco, specific clothing and a priority for modesty, as well as incorporating American history into seminal stories of the Bible.  Values neutral: Values neutral refers to systems of education that do not assume certain shared beliefs, instead working to provide information which individuals can analyze and implement selectively taking into account their own beliefs, priorities and values. In the context of religion, it can mean not assuming certain shared beliefs about morality, sexuality, etc. and instead recognizing the diversity of beliefs and priorities across religious groups and individuals.   Special thanks to:  Planned Parenthood Staff: Paola Ferst, Kelsey Hunt-Dolan, and Nan Morgan Audio Editor: Martin Pelaez Music: Rascal Miles with the song “Imagination.” Also check out their new project Tailor-Made at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhJDNtkZTYI  Cover Art: Brianna Nelson  

Kenna and Brianna meet with their friend Libby to talk about the unique intersection of sexuality and ADHD, a connection that isn't often made when discussing sex education. From the way medication and ADHD affects sex drive and relationships, to the parallels seen in the lack of female-focused sex ed and ADHD research, there is plenty to be discussed on this episode. (And for what is probably the thousandth time, we beg you NOT to use Wattpad fanfiction as your primary source of sex ed.)  Below you can find a glossary of jargon-y terms we might've said on the show: ADHD (Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder): A disorder marked by an ongoing pattern of inattention and/or hyperactivity. Symptoms vary from person to person and manifest in different ways based on sex assigned at birth, age, or other factors.  DSM: Stands for Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, and is the handbook used by mental professionals to help in diagnoses of mental disorders. Rejection sensitive dysphoria: An intense emotional response caused by the perception that you have disappointed others in your life.   Special thanks to:  Planned Parenthood Staff: Paola Ferst, Kelsey Hunt-Dolan, and Nan Morgan Audio Editor: Martin Pelaez Music: Rascal Miles with the song “Imagination.” Also check out their new project Tailor-Made at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhJDNtkZTYI  Cover Art: Brianna Nelson 

One more time for the people in the back: inclusive sex ed benefits everyone! This week, Brianna and Kenna are joined by Keaton, a fellow Peer Educator who shares some words of wisdom and good one-liners about how to make sex ed more inclusive for LGBTQ+ folks, navigating transitioning and sexuality, and which of his sex ed experiences were helpful versus harmful. Apparently reading those American Girl books was a universal experience? Who knew!  Below you can find a glossary of jargon-y terms we might've said on the show. Asexual: Describes a person who experiences little or no sexual attraction to others. Asexuality is not the same as celibacy and exists on a spectrum with varying relationships and feelings towards sex.  Autism: Refers to a variety of developmental disabilities that can cause social, communication, and behavioral challenges. Autism looks different from person to person and ranges the amount of support they need based on how their autism affects them. Barrier methods: A form of birth control that acts as a physical barrier to prevent the sperm from reaching the egg during sex and that works to prevent sexually transmitted infections by limiting skin-to-skin contact and exposure to body fluids. Examples include condoms and dental dams.  Bisexuality: A sexual orientation that describes a person who is emotionally and sexually attracted to people of their own gender and people of other genders. Cisgender: Those who identify and present as the gender they were assigned at birth. In its simplest terms, cisgender describes someone who is not transgender. Consent: Explicit agreement to engage in a sexual activity with someone. Neurodiverse: Inclusion of differences in individual brain functions and behavioral traits Pansexuality: A sexual orientation that describes a person who is emotionally and sexually attracted to people regardless of gender Transgender: A general term used to describe someone whose gender expression/gender identity are different than the sex assigned at birth. Sometimes shortened to trans.  For more information about the resources we talked about in this episode, check out the links below: Rose Dynasty Foundation: https://www.rosedynastyfoundationinc.org/ GLSEN: https://www.glsen.org/ TSER: https://transstudent.org/gender/  Special thanks to:  Planned Parenthood Staff: Paola Ferst, Kelsey Hunt-Dolan, and Nan Morgan Audio Editor: Martin Pelaez Music: Rascal Miles with the song “Imagination.” Also check out their new project Tailor-Made at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhJDNtkZTYI  Cover Art: Brianna Nelson 

This week, Tiffany joins the show to share her insight on how the Internet, stereotypes, and racism have shaped her perception of herself and the world around her. She also plugs her middle-school LGBTQ+ Instagram meme account, and yes, Brianna and Kenna scroll through it while they are recording.   Below you can find a glossary of jargon-y terms we might've said on the show: Bisexual:  A sexual orientation that describes a person who is emotionally and sexually attracted to people of their own gender and people of other genders.  Pansexual: A sexual orientation that describes a person who is attracted to people regardless of gender. For many pansexual people, this can be described as feeling ‘gender blind' where gender isn't a factor in deciding a partner.  Polysexual: A sexual orientation that describes a person who has attraction to many, but not necessarily all, genders. Queer: An umbrella term that is used to describe identities that do fall under straight and/or cisgender. Many LGBTQ+ people use queer as a label for their sexuality or gender and some people prefer it to express that their label does not cleanly fall into other specific identities under the LGBTQ+ umbrella. Also important to note that in the past it has been used as a slur against LGBTQ+ people, however many people have worked to reclaim the term though it is not universally perceived as a positive term. Racial fetishization: The practice of placing an unreasonable amount of importance onto race in romantic and sexual relationships. It places undue emphasis on racial stereotypes as sexually desirable which can reinforce racist ideas and dilute an individual to their race alone. “Yellow fever”: The racial fetishization of Asian people, and specifically women, on the basis of incorrect stereotypes of submissiveness, passivity, and quiet demeanor. Resources: Naked Truth: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/planned-parenthood-southwest-central-florida/community-and-education-programs/peer-education Special thanks to:  Planned Parenthood Staff: Paola Ferst, Kelsey Hunt-Dolan, and Nan Morgan Audio Editor: Martin Pelaez Music: Rascal Miles with the song “Imagination.” Also check out their new project Tailor-Made at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhJDNtkZTYI  Cover Art: Brianna Nelson 

On this episode, Kenna and Brianna are joined by Lauren who shares her experience growing up biracial and bisexual, providing insight on beauty standards for Black women, the importance of disrupting heteronormativity in sex education, and her growth in her comfort with her identities. Basically, they have Lauren's Peer Ed interview on the podcast.  Below you can find a glossary of jargon-y terms we might've said on the show: Biracial: A person who identifies as coming from two races, or a person whose biological parents are of two different races or are mixed race themselves. Bisexual: A sexual orientation that describes a person who is emotionally and sexually attracted to people of their own gender and people of other genders. Colorism: Prejudice towards individuals with darker skin or preferential treatment towards those with lighter skin.  Eurocentric: Reflecting a tendency to interpret the world in terms of European/Anglo-American values. Specifically can apply to beauty standards in preferring ‘European' facial features in small noses, straight hair, light skin, etc.   Fetishization: The practice of placing an unreasonable amount of importance onto something. In the context of racial fetishization, it places undue emphasis on racial stereotypes as sexually desirable which can reinforce racist ideas and dilute an individual to their race alone. Heteronormativity: Relating to a world-view that promotes heterosexuality as the assumed, normal or the preferred sexual orientation. Heterosexuality: A sexual orientation describing women who are attracted to men and men who are attracted to women, also referred to as straight. Hyperpigmentation: Small patches of darker skin caused by excess melanin production. These can be caused by acne scars, sun damage, or hormone fluctuations. They can happen to people of any race and can be cause of insecurity or discomfort for some.  Light-skinned: A term used by people of color, and specifically Black people, to describe people with a lighter skin tone.  Microaggression: Subtle, ambiguous, and often unintended slights that undermine someone of a stereotyped group. For example, making assumptions about someone based on their group or making ambiguous comments that may reflect bias. Common microaggressions may be asking people “where they really are from” which assumes they are outsiders, saying to someone that they are “so articulate” which assumes that people of a certain racial group are unintelligent or don't speak well. (For more information: https://sph.umn.edu/site/docs/hewg/microaggressions.pdf)   Special thanks to:  Planned Parenthood Staff: Paola Ferst, Kelsey Hunt-Dolan, and Nan Morgan Audio Editor: Martin Pelaez Music: Rascal Miles with the song “Imagination.” Also check out their new project Tailor-Made at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhJDNtkZTYI  Cover Art: Brianna Nelson  

We jokingly refer to this episode as an “emotional rollercoaster,” but that's not an entirely inaccurate description of life for a lot of queer youth. Kenna and Brianna have Jamie on the podcast to talk about dealing with internalized transphobia, how to be safe when coming out, the influence of the Internet on trans youth, and the importance of having a support system.  Below you can find a glossary of jargon-y terms we might've said on the show: Binder: A tool used oftentimes by some transmasculine and nonbinary people to flatten the chest area and more accurately reflect the body they identify with and oftentimes to alleviate gender dysphoria. Cisgender: Those who identify and present as the gender they were assigned at birth. In its simplest terms, cisgender describes someone who is not transgender. Coming out: The process of LGBTQ+ people disclosing their sexuality or gender identity to others. Gender dysphoria: Describes the distress, unhappiness, and anxiety that transgender people may feel about the mismatch between their bodies and their gender identity. Internalized transphobia: The feelings of shame, discomfort, and hatred of trans identity even if one is trans that is instilled through societies preference for cisgender people, discrimination against trans people, and strict expectations of gender conformity. Passing: Refers to when a trans person is perceived as a cisgender by others. Sometimes a controversial term as to if it should or even can be an obtainable goal by all trans people. Queer: An umbrella term that is used to describe identities that do fall under straight and/or cisgender. Many LGBTQ+ people use queer as a label for their sexuality or gender and some people prefer it to express that their label does not cleanly fall into other specific identities under the LGBTQ+ umbrella. Also important to note that in the past it has been used as a slur against LGBTQ+ people, however many people have worked to reclaim the term though it is not universally perceived as a positive term. Transgender: A general term used to describe someone whose gender expression/gender identity are different than the sex assigned at birth. Sometimes shortened to trans or trans*.  Special thanks to:  Planned Parenthood Staff: Paola Ferst, Kelsey Hunt-Dolan, and Nan Morgan Audio Editor: Martin Pelaez Music: Rascal Miles with the song “Imagination.” Also check out their new project Tailor-Made at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhJDNtkZTYI  Cover Art: Brianna Nelson 

It's about time we desexualize conversations about sex. This week, Kenna and Brianna are joined by fellow Peer Educator and all-around cool human Tacs to talk about what it's like to be asexual in sex ed. circles, the abstractness of gender, and the importance of vocabulary, community, and communication. Below you can find a glossary of jargon-y terms we might've said on the show. AFAB: Acronym meaning Assigned Female at Birth. AFAB people may or may not identify as female some or all of the time. AFAB is a useful term for educating about issues that may happen to these bodies without connecting to womanhood or femaleness.Androgynous: Having physical elements of both femininity and masculinity, whether expressed through sex, gender identity, gender expression, or sexual orientation. AMAB: Acronym meaning Assigned Male at Birth. AMAB people may or may not identify as male some or all of the time. Asexual: Describes a person who experiences little or no sexual attraction to others. Asexuality is not the same as celibacy and exists on a spectrum with varying relationships and feelings towards sex. Aromantic: Sometimes abbreviated as "aro," the term refers to an individual who does not experience romantic attraction. Aromantic people exist on a spectrum of romantic attraction and can use terms such as gray aromantic or grayromantic to describe their place within that spectrum. Aromantic people can experience sexual attraction. Cisgender: Those who identify and present as the gender they were assigned at birth. In its simplest terms, cisgender describes someone who is not transgender.Gender dysphoria: Describes the distress, unhappiness, and anxiety that transgender people may feel about the mismatch between their bodies and their gender identity.Gender non-conforming: A person whose gender expression is perceived as being inconsistent with cultural norms expected for that gender. Neopronouns: A neopronoun can be a word created to serve as a pronoun without expressing gender, like “ze” and “zir.” Nonbinary: Non-binary is an umbrella term for gender identities that are neither male nor female‍—‌identities that are outside the gender binary.Words that people may use to express their nonbinary gender identity include “agender,” “bigender,” “genderqueer,” “genderfluid,” and “pangender.”Pansexual: A sexual orientation that describes a person who is emotionally and sexually attracted to people regardless of gender.Transgender: A general term used to describe someone whose gender expression/gender identity are different than the sex assigned at birth. Sometimes shortened to trans or trans*.For more information about the resources we talked about in this episode, check out the links below.Planned Parenthood website: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/Planned Parenthood of Southwest and Central Florida: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/planned-parenthood-southwest-central-floridaRose Dynasty Foundation: https://www.rosedynastyfoundationinc.org/Planned Parenthood Textchat: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/online-tools/chat or text PPNOW to the number 774636 (PPINFO)Special thanks to: Planned Parenthood Staff: Paola Ferst, Kelsey Hunt-Dolan, and Nan MorganAudio Editor: Martin PelaezMusic: Rascal Miles with the song “Imagination.” Also check out their new project Tailor-Made at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhJDNtkZTYI Cover Art: Brianna Nelson