Building Resilience

The last episode of this prevention series features Kat Monusky, the Prevention & Social Change Manager at Washington Coalition of Sexual Assault Programs (WCSAP) who leaves us with an understanding of how each and every one of us can use conversations as tools for sexual assault prevention. We know that sexual violence is 100% preventable, and we each have a role to play in ending it. Resources Mentioned: adrienne maree brown - Emergent Strategy (book) KCSARC's 100 Conversations Moving Toward Prevention: A Guide for Reframing Sexual Violence. National Sexual Violence Resource Center and Berkeley Media Studies Group, 2018 Where We're Going and Where We've Been: Making the Case for Preventing Sexual Violence. RALIANCE and Berkeley Media Studies Group, 2018 Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

In 2016, KCSARC started “WordWatch,” a project that enlisted the help of volunteers in gathering data about the language that was used to discuss sexual violence in criminal legal cases. From those findings, KCSARC staff created a series of resources and trainings to help professionals and community members alike understand how our conversations about sexual assault impact the way that it is perpetuated and perceived in our society. Mary Laskowski, formerly of KCSARC, and currently with the Children’s Justice Center of King County, shares the implications of the WordWatch study and why she’s such an advocate for using language that accurately depicts sexual assault: by using accountable language, and not minimizing the impact or implying consent.Resources Mentioned: Claudia J. Bayliff, Esq. "Raped or ‘Seduced’? How Language Helps Shape Our Response to Sexual Violence KCSARC's WordWatch Language Guide

In the midst of a global pandemic, Green River College’s Relationship & Sexual Violence Prevention (RSVP) Peer Educator program formed, with the goal of providing student-led violence prevention education to the students, faculty, and staff of GRC, a diverse college located in King County, WA. In the second of two episodes, we hear from the Kelsey Barrans, Assistant Director of Violence Prevention at Green River College, on the behind the scenes of their peer education program. Connect with us: Visit our website at https://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

In the midst of a global pandemic, Green River College’s Relationship & Sexual Violence Prevention (RSVP) Peer Educator program formed with the goal of providing student-led violence prevention education to the students, faculty, and staff of GRC, a diverse college located in King County, WA. In this first of two episodes, RSVP Peer Educators share a bit about what peer education is, why they do what they do, and their thoughts on violence prevention’s place in higher education. Next week, we hear from the facilitator of the program and the work behind building a team of peer educators. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

Hear from two of the preventionists behind Team Up Washington, Rebecca Milliman of Harborview Abuse & Trauma Center, and Ilene Stohl of Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence, whose mission it is to empower high school athletes to become leaders in ending violence. Team Up Washington provides free training to high school athletic coaches, mentors, and survivor advocates to implement violence prevention programming with high school sports teams. Find out more here: https://www.teamupwa.org/ Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

Sexual violence is often viewed as a stand-alone problem in our society, but we know that the work of preventing it is inseparable from all forms of equity work. Mo Lewis, the Prevention Specialist at the National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC) explains why sexual violence prevention must change larger systems that continue to perpetuate oppression in all forms. Resources Mentioned: The African American Policy Forum’s “Under the Blacklight” podcast series Black Women’s Blueprint CDC’s Connections Selector Tool NSVRC “Risk & Protective Factor” infographic NSVRC “Sexual Violence and Oppression” infographic NSVRC’s COVID & Health Equity podcast series Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

"Building Resilience" is back with a second series of episodes featuring stories of how violence prevention looks in our day-to-day lives. This first episode spotlights the impactful work of the West Seattle High School's Intersectional Feminism Club to forefront the conversation about sexual violence. Hear from club alum Betel Tadesse, Olivia Efird, and Karson Drew about the club's efforts, what they learned along the way, and some messages that they have for others doing the work of ending sexual violence. Resources Mentioned: Planned Parenthood's Consent FRIES Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

Building Resilience will be taking a short break as we prepare for our upcoming series of episodes featuring various violence prevention efforts that are taking place both locally and across the country! We know that it can be really difficult to imagine a world where sexual violence doesn’t exist, so we’ll be highlighting some of the work that folks are doing, and some tools that you can use in your everyday life. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

After a traumatic experience, it is normal to experience uncomfortable things like flashbacks and anxiety. KCSARC Therapist Chris Johnson shares some grounding techniques that can help bring you back into the moment. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

What if you could spend the day with your favorite celebrity—who would you choose? The “What if?” game is a helpful tool that KCSARC’s Family Services Specialists recommend to parents and caregivers (and also use themselves, as parents!) to start conversations and to build strong decision-making skills. You can use scenarios and hypotheticals to have fun, silly conversations, or more serious talks about interpersonal skills and preparation for any challenging issues your child may encounter. Check out https://www.kcsarc.org/100conversations for more useful tools on how to start conversations with young folks about healthy relationships and sexuality. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

We’ve heard from KCSARC's Family Services Specialists, and we’ve heard from parents of child sexual abuse survivors. As our first series of “Building Resilience” winds down, we share a conversation with Cindy. Cindy experienced sexual abuse as a child and utilized KCSARC services, and is now working at KCSARC to ensure that survivors have access to support and services 24/7. CW: child sexual abuse, mental and emotional manipulation Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

A concept that has come up in multiple episodes thus far is “grooming,” or the deliberate effort to create a trusting relationship with a child and community with the ultimate intent of sexual abuse. It’s work that is manipulative and gradual, and often very subtle. And though it can be extremely challenging to identify the actions of a potential offender, it is helpful to understand commonalities between the choice methods of offenders. KCSARC’s Family Services Specialists and Prevention Services Coordinator discuss five common behaviors that appear in the grooming of a child and community before a sexual abuse occurs. CW: child sexual abuse, mental and emotional manipulation Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

Stephanie is a former KCSARC client, and a parent of three child survivors of sexual abuse. Years ago, her then very young children disclosed that a family friend was abusing them, and Stephanie and her family have been working together to heal from the abuse. In this episode, Stephanie shares her experience of caring for herself and her family, and how gaining more knowledge about sexual abuse and trauma has both empowered her and helped her with the healing process. CW: suicide ideation, depression, child physical and sexual abuse Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

This episode is the second half of a conversation with KCSARC Speakers Bureau member, Heaven. In this conversation, Heaven talks about the ongoing healing process for her and her family following her daughter’s disclosure of sexual abuse. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

Meet Heaven: KCSARC Speakers Bureau member, the mother of survivors of abuse, and an outspoken advocate for sexual assault awareness. Seven years ago, Heaven’s daughter disclosed that she was experiencing sexual abuse by her father for years, and since then, Heaven has worked to support her family through the healing process. In this first part of a conversation with Heaven, she will share her story and a message for others who are parenting survivors of child sexual abuse. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

As a parent or caregiver, learning that your child has been sexually abused is likely one of the most difficult things to go through, and it’s absolutely understandable that you wouldn’t know how to respond or react to a disclosure. KCSARC’s Family Services Specialists share a set of tips to help parents and caregivers respond to a disclosure of sexual abuse from a child. Through the acronym BASES, you’ll learn what key things to do, and why they are so valuable to a child survivor: Believe, Affirm, Support, Empower, and Safety. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

Studies are showing that the social restrictions of the COVID pandemic have been especially harmful for teens; even prior to the pandemic, mental illness and teens have been a large public health concern. It’s a time in one’s life that is full of growth and development, making a caring, nonjudgmental, support system crucial. We know that it can be challenging for parents and caregivers to know how to support a teenager, especially while juggling all of life’s other demands. KCSARC’s Family Services Specialists and Preventionist discuss how parents can support the teens in their lives, what’s typical adolescent behavior, and what could be a concerning red-flag. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

This Tangible Takeaway is so important that it needed to be spotlighted: it’s the art of active listening. KCSARC’s Family Services Specialists share why actively listening to your child is so important, but it’s a skill that all of us should practice in all of our relationships. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

As we’ve learned a year into a global pandemic, living in uncertainty is really exhausting. Similarly, when it comes to parenting, being consistent in adhering to values, agreements and guidelines is a game-changer. Consistency allows everyone to feel a sense of security and emotional safety. KCSARC’s Family Services Specialists and Preventionist talk about where the line is between being flexible and being consistent. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

Similar to the previous episode on PRIDE Skills, PLAIN Talk is another handy set of communication tools, geared toward speaking with older youth and adults. This episode dives into the five communication skills that make up the PLAIN acronym: Praise, Listen, Attitude, Initiate, and Negotiate. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

KCSARC’s Family Services Specialists and Preventionist share one of their favorite parenting tools: “PRIDE skills,” which is a component of Parent/Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT). This episode covers the five communication skills that make up the PRIDE acronym: Praise, Reflect, Imitate, Describe, and Enthusiasm. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: “Blue Skies” by Silent Partner

People love to read horoscopes, take personality quizzes, and read up on their Enneagram type, yet many of us don’t consider the fact that there are also many different communication styles. Identifying your own communication habits, as well as those around you, can help you to avoid conflict and adapt to best reach others. KCSARC’s Family Services Specialists and Preventionist discuss communication styles and what we’ve found works well in our lives. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: "Blue Skies" by Silent Partner

When we practice setting and respecting personal boundaries, we are building healthier relationships and healthier individuals. KCSARC’s Family Services Specialists and Preventionist discuss how parents and caregivers can empower their young ones to set and respect boundaries. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you. Intro & Outro Music: "Blue Skies" by Silent Partner

King County Sexual Assault Resource Center (KCSARC) is excited to introduce a project as part of our violence prevention efforts: the Building Resilience podcast! This show has the purpose of equipping people with what they need to end sexual violence. Each episode will focus on a topic under the larger umbrella of sexual assault, with specific steps someone can take to change the culture in their everyday life. Our first season will feature conversations with KCSARC Family Services Specialists and Preventionist focused on communication tools and building healthy relationships with the youth in our lives. Connect with us: Visit our website at http://kcsarc.org Email the show at education@kcsarc.org Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @kcsarc If you or a loved one have experienced sexual assault or abuse, you are not alone; there are resources to support you in your healing process. Visit http://RAINN.org to find support near you.