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Episode Notes This week on Live Like the World is Dying, we have another re-run episode. Margaret and Smokey talk about ways to go about mental first aid, how to alter responses to trauma for you self and as a community, different paths to resiliency, and why friendship and community are truly the best medicine. Host Info Margaret can be found on twitter @magpiekilljoy or instagram at @margaretkilljoy. Publisher Info This show is published by Strangers in A Tangled Wilderness. We can be found at www.tangledwilderness.org, or on Twitter @TangledWild and Instagram @Tangled_Wilderness. You can support the show on Patreon at www.patreon.com/strangersinatangledwilderness. Transcript LLWD:Smokey on Mental First Aid Margaret 00:15 Hello and welcome to Live Like the World is Dying, your podcast are what feels like the end times. I'm your host, Margaret killjoy. And, this week or month...or let's just go with 'episode'. This episode is going to be all about mental health and mental health first aid and ways to take care of your mental health and ways to help your community and your friends take care of their mental health, and I think you'll like it. But first, this podcast is a proud member of the Channel Zero network of anarchists podcasts. And here's a jingle from another show on the network. Margaret 01:52 Okay, with me today is Smokey. Smokey, could you introduce yourself with your your name, your pronouns, and I guess a little bit about your background about mental health stuff? Smokey 02:04 Sure, I'm Smokey. I live and work in New York City. My pronouns are 'he' and 'him.' For 23 years, I've been working with people managing serious mental illness in an intentional community, I have a degree in psychology, I have taught psychology at the University level, I have been doing social work for a long time, but I've been an anarchist longer. Margaret 02:43 So so the reason I want to have you on is I want to talk about mental health first aid, or I don't know if that's the way it normally gets expressed, but that's the way I see it in my head. Like how are...I guess it's a big question, but I'm interested in exploring ways that we can, as bad things happen that we experience, like some of the best practices we can do in order to not have that cause lasting mental harm to us. Which is a big question. But maybe that's my first question anyway. Smokey 03:12 I mean, the, the truth is bad things will happen to us. It's part of living in the world, and if you are a person that is heavily engaged in the world, meaning, you know, you're involved in politics, or activism, or even just curious about the world, you will probably be exposed on a more regular basis to things that are bad, that can traumatize us. But even if you're not involved in any of those things, you're going to go through life and have really difficult things happen to you. Now, the good news is, that's always been the case for people. We've always done this. And the good news is, we actually know a lot about what goes into resilience. So, how do you bounce back quickly and hopefully thrive after these experiences? I think that is an area that's only now being really examined in depth. But, we have lots of stories and some research to show that actually when bad things happen to us, there is an approach that actually can help catalyst really impressive strength and move...change our life in a really positive direction. We also know that for most people, they have enough reserve of resiliency that....and they can draw upon other resiliency that they're not chronically affected by it, however, and I would argue how our society is kind of structured, we're seeing more and more people that are suffering from very serious chronic effects of, what you said, bad things happening, or what is often traumatic things but it's not just traumatic things that cause chronic problems for us. But, that is the most kind of common understanding so, so while most people with most events will not have a chronic problem, and you can actually really use those problems, those I'm sorry, those events, let's call them traumatic events, those traumatic events they'll really actually improve your thriving, improve your life and your relationship to others in the world. The fact is, currently, it's an ever growing number of people that are having chronic problems. And that's because of the system. Margaret 06:19 Yeah, there's this like, there was an essay a while ago about it, I don't remember it very well, but it's called "We Are Also Very Anxious," and it it was claiming that anxiety is one of the general affects of society today, because of kind of what you're talking about, about systems that set us up to be anxious all the time and handle things in... Smokey 06:42 I think what most people don't understand is, it is consciously, in the sense that it's not that necessarily it's the desire to have the end goal of people being anxious, and people being traumatized, but it is conscious in that we know this will be the collateral outcome of how we set up the systems. That I think is fairly unique and and really kind of pernicious. Margaret 07:17 What are some of the systems that are setting us up to be anxious or traumatized? Smokey 07:23 Well, I'm gonna reverse it a little bit, Margaret. I'm going to talk about what are the things we need to bounce back or have what has been called 'resilience,' and then you and I can explore how our different systems actually make us being able to access that much more difficult. Margaret 07:47 Okay. Oh, that makes sense. Smokey 07:49 The hallmark of resiliency, ironically, is that it's not individual. Margaret 07:57 Okay. Smokey 07:57 In fact, if you look at the research, there are very few, there's going to be a couple, there's gonna be three of them, but very few qualities of an individual psychology or makeup that is a high predictor of resiliency. Margaret 08:20 Okay. Smokey 08:21 And these three are kind of, kind of vague in the sense they're not, they're not terribly dramatic, in a sense. One is, people that tend to score higher on appreciation of humor, tends to be a moderate predictor of resiliency. Margaret 08:46 I like that one. Smokey 08:47 You don't have to be funny yourself. But you can appreciate humor. Seems to be a....and this is tends to be a cross cultural thing. It's pretty low. There are plenty of people that that score very low on that, that also have resiliency. That's the other thing, I'll say that these three personality traits are actually low predictors of resiliency. Margaret 09:13 Compared to the immunity ones that you're gonna talk about? Smokey 09:16 So one is appreciation of humor seems to be one. So, these are intrinsic things that, you know, maybe we got from our family, but but we hold them in ourselves, right? The second one is usually kind of put down as 'education.' And there tends to be a reverse bell curve. If you've had very, very low education, you tend to be more resilient. If you've had extreme professionalization, you know, being a doctor, being a lawyer, well, not even being a lawyer, because that's the only...but many, many years of schooling, PhD things like that, it's not what you study. There's something about... Smokey 10:10 Yeah, or that you didn't. They're almost equal predictors of who gets traumatized. And then the the last one is kind of a 'sense of self' in that it's not an ego strength as we kind of understand it, but it is an understanding of yourself. The people that take the surveys, that they score fairly high....So I give you a survey and say, "What do you think about Smokey on these different attributes?" You give me a survey and say, "Smokey, how would you rate yourself on these different attributes?" Margaret 10:11 It's that you studied. Margaret 10:32 Okay. Smokey 10:59 So, it's suggesting that I have some self-reflexivity about what my strengths and weaknesses are. I can only know that because they're married by these also. Margaret 11:11 Okay. So it's, it's not about you rating yourself high that makes you resilient, it's you rating yourself accurately tohow other people see you. Smokey 11:18 And again, I want to stress that these are fairly low predictors. Now, you'll read a million books, kind of pop like, or the, these other ones. But when you actually look at the research, it's not, you know, it's not that great. So those..however, the ones that are big are things like 'robustness of the social network.' So how many relations and then even more, if you go into depth, 'what are those relationships' and quantity does actually create a certain level of quality, interestingly, especially around things called 'micro-social interactions,' which are these interactions that we don't even think of as relationships, maybe with storepersons, how many of these we have, and then certain in depth, having that combined with a ring of kind of meaningful relationships. And meaningful meaning not necessarily who is most important to me, but how I share and, and share my emotions and my thoughts and things like that. So, there's a lot on that. That is probably the strongest predictor of resilience. Another big predictor of resilience is access to diversity in our social networks. So, having diverse individuals tend to give us more resiliency, and having 'time,' processing time, also gives us more...are high predictors of resiliency, the largest is a 'sense of belonging.' Margaret 13:14 Okay. Smokey 13:15 So that trauma...events that affect our sense of belonging, and this is why children who have very limited opportunities to feel a sense of belonging, which are almost always completely limited, especially for very young children to the family, if that is cut off due to the trauma, or it's already dysfunctional and has nothing to do with the trauma, that sense of belonging, that lack of sense of belonging makes it very difficult to maintain resilience. So. So those are the things that, in a nutshell, we're going to be talking about later about 'How do we improve these?' and 'How do we maximize?' And 'How do we leverage these for Mental Health First Aid?' We can see how things like the internet, social media, capitalism, you know, kind of nation state building, especially as we understand it today, all these kinds of things errode a lot of those things that we would want to see in building resilient people. Margaret 14:28 Right. Smokey 14:28 And, you know, making it more difficult to access those things that we would need. Margaret 14:34 No, that's...this...Okay, yeah, that makes it obvious that the answer to my question of "What are the systems that deny us resiliency?" are just all of this. Yeah, because we're like....most people don't have...there's that really depressing statistic or the series of statistics about the number of friends that adults have in our society, and how it keeps going down every couple of decades. Like, adults just have fewer and fewer friends. And that... Smokey 15:00 The number, the number is the same for children, though too. Margaret 15:05 Is also going down, is what you're saying? Smokey 15:07 Yes. They have more than adults. But compared to earlier times, they have less. So, the trend is not as steep as a trendline. But, but it is still going down. And more importantly, there was a big change with children at one point, and I'm not sure when it historically happened. But, the number of people they interacted with, was much more diverse around age. Margaret 15:39 Oh, interesting. Smokey 15:40 So they had access to more diversity. Margaret 15:43 Yeah, yeah. When you talk about access to diversity, I assume that's diversity in like a lot of different axis, right? I assume that's diversity around like people's like cultural backgrounds, ethnic backgrounds, age. Like, but even like... Smokey 15:56 Modes of thought. Margaret 15:58 Yeah, well, that's is my guess, is that if you're around more people, you have more of an understanding that like, reality is complicated, and like different people see things in different ways. And so therefore, you have a maybe a less rigid idea of what should happen. So, then if something happens outside of that, you're more able to cope, or is this...does... like, because I look at each of these things and I can say why I assume they affect resiliency, but obviously, that's not what you're presenting, you're not presenting how they affect resiliency, merely that they seem to? Smokey 16:34 Yeah, and I don't know, if we know exactly how they affect, and we don't know how they...the effect of them together, you know, social sciences, still pretty primitive. So they, they need to look at single variables, often. But you know, we know with chemistry and biology and ecology, which I think are a little more sophisticated...and physics, which is more sophisticated. The real interesting stuff is in the combinations. Margaret 17:09 Yeah. Okay. Smokey 17:10 So what happens when you have, you know, diversity, but also this diverse and robust social network? Is that really an addition? Or is that a multiplication moment? For resiliency. Margaret 17:23 Right. And then how does that affect like, if that comes at the expense of...well, it probably wouldn't, but if it came at the expense of processing time or something. Smokey 17:33 Exactly. Margaret 17:35 Or, like, you know, okay, I could see how it would balance with education in that, like, I think for a lot of people the access to diversity that they encounter first is like going off to college, right, like meeting people from like, different parts of the world, or whatever. Smokey 17:49 I forgot to mention one other one, but it is, 'meaning.' Meaning is very important. People that score high, or report, meaning deep, kind of core meaning also tend to have higher resiliency. That being said, they...and don't, don't ever confuse resiliency with like, happiness or contentment. It just means that the dysfunction or how far you're knocked off track due to trauma, and we're, we're using trauma in the larger sense of the word, you know, how long it takes you to get back on track, or whether you can even get back on track to where you were prior to the event is what we're talking about. So it's not, this is not a guide to happiness or living a fulfilled life. It's just a guide to avoid the damage. Margaret 19:01 But if we made one that was a specifically a 'How to have a happy life,' I feel like we could sell it and then have a lot of money.Have you considered that? [lauging] Smokey 19:11 Well one could argue whether that's even desirable to have a happy life. That's a whole philosophical thing. That's well beyond my paygrade Margaret 19:22 Yeah, every now and then I have this moment, where I realized I'm in this very melancholy mood, and I'm getting kind of kind of happy about it. And I'm like, "Oh, I'm pretty comfortable with this. This is a nice spot for me." I mean, I also like happiness, too, but you know. Okay, so, this certainly implies that the, the way forward for anyone who's attempting to build resiliency, the sort of holistic solution is building community. Like in terms of as bad stuff happens. Is that... Smokey 19:58 Community that's...and community not being just groups. Okay, so you can, I think, you know, the Internet has become an expert at creating groups. There lots of groups. But community, or communitas or the sense of belonging is more than just a shared interest and a shared knowledge that there's other like-minded people. You'll hear the internet was great for like minded people to get together. But, the early internet was really about people that were sharing and creating meaning together. And I think that was very powerful. That, you know, that seems harder to access on today's Internet, and certainly the large social media platforms are consciously designed to achieve certain modes of experience, which do not lend themselves to that. Margaret 21:06 Right, because it's like the...I don't know the word for this. Smokey 21:10 It's Capitalism. Like, yeah, we're hiding the ball. The ball is Capitalism. Margaret 21:14 Yeah. Smokey 21:14 And how they decided to go with an advertising model as opposed to any other model, and that requires attention. Margaret 21:21 Yeah. Because it seems like when you talk about a robust social network, I mean, you know, theoretically, social network, like social networks, you know, Twitter calls itself a social network, right? And is there anything in the micro social interactions that one has online? Is there value in that? Or do you think that the overall...I mean, okay, because even like looking at... Smokey 21:46 I think there has to be value, I think, yeah, they did. I was reading just today, actually, about research, it was in England, with...this one hospital decided to send postcards to people who had been hospitalized for suicidal attempts. Margaret 22:09 Okay. Smokey 22:10 Most of them ended up in the mental health thing, some of them didn't, because they they left beyond, you know, against medical advice, or whatever. But, anyone that came in presenting with that a month, and then three months later, they sent another postcard just saying, "You know, we're all thinking about you, we're hoping you're all you're doing, alright. We have faith in you," that kind of thing like that, right. Nice postcard, purposely chosen to have a nice scene, sent it out. And they followed up, and they found a significant reduction in further attempts, rehospitalizations of these people, so that's a very, you know, there's no, it's a one way communication, it's not person-to-person, and it had some impact on I would guess one could argue the resiliency of those people from giving into suicidal ideation. Right. Margaret 23:13 Yeah. Smokey 23:14 So I think this is to say that, you know, we'd be...unplugging the internet, you know, that kind of Luddite approach doesn't make sense. There is a value to answer your question to the the internet's micro social interactions. It's just we...it's complicated, because you can't just have micro-social interactions unfortunately, but you need them. Margaret 23:44 Yeah. No, that that's really interesting to me, because yeah, so there's, there is a lot of value that is coming from these things, but then the overall effect is this like, like, for example, even like access to diversity, right? In a lot of ways, theoretically, the Internet gives you access to like everything. But then, instead, it's really designed to create echo chambers in the way that the algorithms and stuff feed people information. And echo chambers of thought is the opposite of diversity, even if the echo chamber of thought is like about diversity. Smokey 24:16 Yeah, I mean, it's set up again, almost as if it were to kind of naturally organically grow, we would probably have just as chaotic and and people would still just be as angry at the Internet, but it probably would develop more resilience in people. Because it wouldn't be stunted by this need to attract attention. The easiest way to do that is through outrage. Easiest way to do that is quickly and fast, so it takes care of your processing time. And relative anonymity is the coin of these kinds of things, you know, that's why bots and things like that, you know, they're not even humans, right? You know, they're just...so all these kinds of things stunt and deform, what could potentially be useful, not a silver bullet, and certainly not necessary to develop resiliency, strong resiliency. You don't need the internet to do that. And there are certain...using the internet, you know, there's going to be certain serious limitations because of the design, how it's designed. Margaret 25:42 Okay, well, so hear me out. If the internet really started coming in latter half of the 20th century, that kind of lines up to when cloaks went out of style.... Smokey 25:54 Absolutely, that's our big problem. And they haven't done any research on cloak and resiliency. Margaret 26:00 I feel that everyone who wears a cloak either has a sense of belonging, or a distinct lack of a sense of belonging. Probably start off with a lack of sense of belonging, but you end up with a sense of belonging So, okay, okay. Smokey 26:15 So I want to say that there's two things that people confuse and a very important. One, is how to prevent chronic effects from traumatic experiences. And then one is how to take care of, if you already have or you you develop a chronic effect of traumatic experiences. Nothing in the psychology literature, sociology literature, anthropology literature, obviously, keeps you from having traumatic experiences. Margaret 26:52 Right. Smokey 26:54 So one is how to prevent it from becoming chronic, and one is how to deal with chronic and they're not the same, they're quite, quite different. So you know, if you already have a chronic traumatic response of some sort, post traumatic stress syndrome, or any of the other related phenomena, you will approach that quite differently than building resilience, which doesn't protect you from having trauma, a traumatic experience. It just allows you to frame it, understand it, maybe if you're lucky, thrive and grow from it. But at worst, get you back on track in not having any chronic problems. Margaret 27:48 Okay, so it seems like there's three things, there's the holistic, building a stronger base of having a community, being more resilient in general. And then there's the like direct first aid to crisis and trauma, and then there's the long term care for the impacts of trauma. Okay, so if so, we've talked a bit about the holistic part of it, you want to talk about the the crisis, the thing to do in the immediate sense as it's happening or whatever? Smokey 28:15 For yourself or for somebody else? Margaret 28:18 Let's start with self. Smokey 28:20 So, self is go out and connect to your social network as much as you can, which is the opposite of what your mind and body is telling you. And that's why I think so much of the quote unquote, "self-care" movement is so wrong. You kind of retreat from your social network, things are too intense, I'm going to retreat from your social network. The research suggests that's the opposite of what you should be doing, you should connect. Now, if you find yourself in an unenviable situation where you don't have a social network, then you need to connect to professionals, because they, they can kind of fill in for that social Network. Therapists, social workers, peer groups, support groups, things like that they can kind of fill in for that. The problem is you don't have that sense of belonging. Well, with support groups, you might. You see this often in AA groups or other support groups. You don't really get that in therapy or or group therapy so much. But that is the first thing and so connect to your group. Obviously on the other side, if you're trying to help your community, your group, you need to actively engage that person who has been traumatized. Margaret 29:33 Yeah, okay. Smokey 29:35 And it's going to be hard. And you need to keep engaging them and engaging them in what? Not distractions: Let's go to a movie, get some ice cream, let's have a good time. And not going into the details of the traumatic experience so much as reconnecting them to the belonging, our friendship, if that. Our political movement, if that. Our religious movement, if that. Whatever that...whatever brought you two together. And that could be you being the community in this person, or could be you as Margaret in this person connecting on that, doubling down on that, and often I see people do things like, "Okay, let's do some self care, or let's, let's do the opposite of whatever the traumatic experience was," if it came from, say oppression, either vicarious or direct through political involvement let's, let's really connect on a non-political kind of way. Margaret 31:19 Ah I see! Smokey 31:21 And I'm saying, "No, you should double down on the politics," reminding them of right what you're doing. Not the trauma necessarily not like, "Oh, remember when you got beaten up, or your, your significant other got arrested or got killed by the police," but it's connecting to meaning, and bringing the community together. Showing the resiliency of the community will vicariously and contagiously affect the individual. And again, doesn't have to be political could be anything. Margaret 32:01 Yeah. Is that? How does that that feels a little bit like the sort of 'get right back on the horse kind of thing.' But then like, in terms of like, socially, rather than, because we 'get back on the horse,' might mean might imply, "Oh, you got beat up at a riot. So go out to the next riot." And that's what you're saying instead is so "Involve you in the fundraising drive for the people who are dealing with this including you," or like... Smokey 32:28 And allowing an expectation that the individual who's been traumatized, might be having a crisis of meaning. And allowing that conversation, to flow and helping that person reconnect to what they found meaningful to start with. So getting right back on the horse again, it's reminding them why they love horses. Margaret 33:02 Yeah. Okay, that makes sense. Okay, I have another question about the the crisis first aid thing, because there's something that, you know, something that you talked to me about a long time ago, when I was working on a lot of like reframing. I was working on coping with trauma. And so maybe this actually relates instead to long term care for trauma. And I, I thought of this as a crisis first aid kind of thing, is I'll use a like, low key example. When I was building my cabin, I'm slightly afraid of heights, not terribly, but slightly. And so I'm on a ladder in the middle of nowhere with no one around and I'm like climbing up the ladder, and I'm nailing in boards. And I found myself saying, "Oh, well, I only have three more boards. And then I'm done. I can get off the ladder. "And then I was like, "No, what I need to do is say, it's actually fine, I am fine. And I can do this," rather than like counting down until I can get off the ladder. And so this is like a way that I've been working on trying to build resiliency, you can apply this to lots of things like if I'm on an airplane, and I'm afraid of flying or something I can, instead of being like, "Five more hours and then we're there. Four more hours and then we're there," instead of being like, "It's actually totally chill that I'm on an airplane. This is fine." And basically like telling myself that to reframe that. Is this....Am I off base with this? Is this tie into this, there's just a different framework? Smokey 34:27 That is what the individual should be trying to do is connect the three different things, keeping it simple. One, is to the community which gives them nourishment. On a plane or on your roof, that's not going to happen. Margaret 34:44 Yeah. Smokey 34:45 Though, actually, to be honest. If you're nervous and you have...go back to your roof example, which I think is a pretty good one. Let's say that you had more than three boards. Let's say it was gonna take you a couple hours to do that. But it's something you're nervous about, connecting to somebody in your social network, whether you, you have your earphones on, and you're just talking to them before or during...after doesn't help. That does one way. Or the other is connecting to what you were doing, which is connecting to kind of reframing or your own internal resilience. I've done something similar like this before. This is not something that is going to need to throw me, it is what's called pocketing the anxiety. Margaret 35:45 Okay. Smokey 35:45 Where you're other-izing it, being like, it's coming from you too, right? being like, "Hey, you could fall. This plane could go down," right? That that's still you, you're generating that. You're not hearing that over to, and you're saying, "Okay, but I'm going to try, you know, give primacy to this other voice in my head. That is saying, "You've got this, it's all right, you've done things like this before."" So that's the second thing. And that's what you were doing. So you could connect to your community, you could connect to kind of a reserve of resiliency. And to do that is allow that one to be pocketed. But be like, "Hey, I want to hear from what this core thing has to say. I want to hear from what the positive person on the front row has to say." You're not arguing with that one. You're just listening. You're changing your, your, what you're attuned to. And then the third one is, if you can, you connect to the meaning. What is the meaning of building the house for you? Where are you going on your flight? And why is it important? Margaret 37:03 Yeah. Okay, Smokey 37:05 And that anxiety and the fact that you're doing it, you want to give again, the primacy to the importance, that "Yeah, I'm really nervous, I'm really freaked out about this, but this thing is so important, or so good for me, or so healthy for me to do this. This must mean it's going to be really important. And I'm connecting to why it's important and focusing on that. So those are the three things that the individual can do. The helping person or community is engagement. The second one is the same, reconnecting to the meaning. Why did you love horses in the first place? Okay, don't have to get back on the horse. But let's not forget horses are awesome. Margaret 37:58 Yeah. Smokey 37:58 And Horseback riding is awesome. Margaret 38:01 Yeah. Smokey 38:01 And you were really good at it before you got thrown. But you know, you don't have to do it now, but let's, let's just let's just share our love of horses for a moment and see how that makes you feel. And then the third one is that kind of drawing upon, instead of drawing upon the individual resilience, which you were doing, like, "Hey, I got this," or the plane, you know, you were, you're hearing from other people, you're drawing upon their individual resilience. "Smokey, tell me about the time you did this thing that was hard." And I tell ya, you're like, "Well, Smokey can fucking do that I can do it. You don't even think...it doesn't even work necessarily consciously. Margaret 38:50 Right. Smokey 38:51 So you could see that what you're doing individually, the helper or the community is doing complementary. Margaret 38:59 Yeah. Smokey 39:00 And now you can see why a lot of self care narrative, a lot of taking a break a lot of burnout narrative, all these things, at best aren't going to help you and at worst, in my opinion, are kind of counterproductive. Margaret 39:17 Well, and that's the, to go to the, you know, working on my roof thing I think about...because I've had some success with this. I've had some success where I....there's certain fears that I have, like, suppressed or something like I've stopped being as afraid of...the fear is no longer a deciding factor in my decision making, because of this kind of reframing this kind of like, yeah, pocketing like...And it's probably always useful to have the like, I don't want to reframe so completely that I just walk around on a roof all the time, without paying attention to what I'm doing, right?Because people do that and then they fall and the reason that there's a reason that roofing is one of the most dangerous jobs in America. So a, I don't know I yeah, I, I appreciate that, that you can do that. And then if it's a thing you're going to keep doing anyway, it becomes easier if you start handling it like, carefully, you know? Smokey 40:17 Well, you don't want to give it too much. So why do we? Why is it natural for us to take anxiety or fear and focus on it? It's somewhat evolutionary, right? It's a threat, right? It's supposed to draw your attention, right? It's supposed to draw your attention. And if you're not careful, it will draw your attention away from other things that are quieter that like that resiliency in the front row you need to call on, because they're not as flashy, right? So I don't think you have to worry about threat....You're right. You don't want to get to the point where you and that's why I say 'pocket it,' as opposed to 'deny it, suppress it, argue with it. demolish it.' I think it's good to have that little, "Beep, beep, beep there's a threat," and then being like, "Okay, but I want to continue to do this. Let's hear from resiliency in the front row. What? What do you have to tell me too?" You have to not...what happens is we go into the weeds of the threat. Oh, so what? "Oh, I fall off and I compound fracture, and I'm way out here in the woods, and no one's going to get me. My phone isn't charged." That's not what the original beep was. Original beep like, "You're high up on a ladder, seems unstable. This seems sketchy," right? Okay. Got that. And then resilience is, "Yeah, you've done lots of sketchy stuff. You've written in the back of a pickup truck. That's sketchy, so seatbelt there, nothing, you know, let me remind you that that you can overcome." And, but by going into the anxiety, going into the fear, you're forcing yourself to justify the thing. And then it becomes more and more elaborate, and it gets crazier and crazier very quickly. You know, all of sudden, you're bleeding out and you're cutting your leg off with a pen knife. It's like, "Wow, how did all this happen?" Margaret 42:38 Yeah, well, and that's actually something that comes up a lot in terms of people interacting with the show and about like preparedness in general. Because in my mind, the point of paying attention to how to deal with forest fire while I live in the woods, is not to then spend all of my time fantasizing and worrying about forest fire. But instead, to compare it to this ladder, if I get this "Beep, beep, the ladder is unstable." I climb down, I stabilize the ladder as best as I can. And then I climb back up and I do the thing. And then when I think about like, with fire, I'm like, "Okay, I have done the work to minimize the risk of fire. And so now I can stop thinking about it." Like, I can listen to the little beep, beep noise and do the thing. And now I can ignore the beep beep because just like literally, when you're backing up a truck and it goes beep, beep, you're like, yeah, no, I know, I'm backing up. Thanks. You know, like, Smokey 43:35 Yeah, it's good to know, it's good to know, you're not going forward. Margaret 43:39 Yeah, no. No, okay. That's interesting. And then the other thing that's really interesting about this, the thing that you're presenting, is it means that in some ways, work that we present as very individual in our society, even in radical society, is actually community based on this idea, like so conquering phobias is something that we help one another do, it seems like, Smokey 44:02 Absolutely. I mean, the best stuff on all this stuff is that people reverse engineering it to make people do dangerous, bad things. The military. Margaret 44:18 Yeah, they're probably pretty good at getting people to conquer phobias. Yep. Smokey 44:21 They have a great sense of belonging. They have a great sense of pulling in internal resilient, group resilient, connecting to meaning even when it's absolutely meaningless what you're doing. It's all the dark side of what we're talking about, but it's quite effective and it literally wins wars. Margaret 44:47 Yeah, that makes sense. Because you have this whole... Smokey 44:50 Literally it changes history. And so, the good news is, we can kind of reclaim that for what I think it was originally purposed to do, which is to protect us from the traumas that we had to go through in our evolutionary existence. So we couldn't afford to have a whole bunch of us chronically disabled. Meaning unable to function, you know, they've just taken it and, and bent it a little bit, and learned very deeply about it, how to how to use it for the things that really cause, you know, physical death and injury. And, and, you know, obviously, they're not perfect, you have a lot of trauma, but not, not as much as you would expect for what they do. And every year they get better and better. Margaret 45:51 Hooray. Smokey 45:53 We have to get on top of our game. Margaret 45:56 Yeah. Smokey 45:57 And get people not to do what they do. I'm not suggesting reading...well maybe reading military, but not...you can't use those tools to make people truly free and resilient. Margaret 46:17 Yeah. Smokey 46:18 In the healthy kind of way. Yeah. Margaret 46:22 Okay, so in our three things, there's the holistic, prepared resiliency thing, then there's the immediate, the bad thing is happening first aid. Should we talk about what to do when the thing has, when you have the like, the injury, the mental injury of the trauma? Smokey 46:42 Like with most injuries, it's rehab, right? Margaret 46:45 Yeah. No, no, you just keep doing the thing, and then hope it fixes itself. [laughs] Smokey 46:53 My approach to most medical oddities that happen as I get older, it's like, "It'll fix itself, this tooth will grow back, right? The pain will go away, right?" Yeah, just like physical rehab, it does require two important aspects for all physical, what we think of when someone says I have to go to rehab, physical rehab, not not alcohol rehab, or psych rehab, is that there's two things that are happening. One, is a understanding, a deep understanding of the injury, often not by the person, but by the physical therapist. Right? That if they know, okay, this is torn meniscus, or this is this and I, okay, so I understand the anatomy, I understand the surgery that happened. Okay. And then the second is, short term, not lifelong therapy, not lifelong this or that. Short term techniques to usually strengthen muscles and other joints and things around the injury. Okay. And that's what, what I would call good recovery after you already have the injury. It's not after you've had the traumatic experience, because traumatic experience doesn't necessarily cause a chronic injury, and we're trying to reduce the number of chronic injuries, but chronic injuries are going to happen. chronic injuries already exist today. A lot of the people we know are walking around with chronic injuries that are impacting their ability to do what they want to do and what in my opinion, we need them to do, because there's so much change that needs to happen. We need everybody as much as possible to be working at their ability. So wherever we can fix injury, we should. So so one is where do I get an understanding of how this injury impacts my life? And I think different cognitive psychology, I think CBT, DBT, these things are very, very good in general. Margaret 49:22 I know what those are, but can you explain. Smokey 49:22 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. These all come out of cognitive psychology from the 50s. Our techniques, but most therapists use versions of this anyway. So just going to therapy, what it is doing initially, is trying to, like the physical therapist, tell you, "This is the injury you have. This is why it's causing you to limp, or why you have weakness in your arm and wrist. And what we're going to do is we're going to give you some techniques to build up, usually the muscles, or whatever else needs to be built up around it so that you will be able to get more use out of your hand." And that is what we need to do with people that have this chronic injury. So, one, is you need to find out how the injury is impacting. So, I'm drinking more, I'm getting angry more, or I'm having trouble making relationships, or I'm having, and there's a series of, you know, 50 year old techniques to really kind of get down and see, okay, this injury is causing these things, that's how it's impacting me, and I don't want to drink more, or I want to be able to sleep better, or I want to be able to focus, or I want to be able to have meaningful relationship with my partner or my children or whatever, whatever that is, right? And then there are techniques, and they're developing new techniques, all the time, there's like EMDR, which is an eye thing that I don't fully understand. There DBT, dialectical behavioral therapy, has a lot of techniques that you kind of practice in groups. As you know, we have mutual aid cell therapy, MAST, which is also a group where you're sharing techniques to build up these different things and resilience. So, community, and meaning, and all those...reframing all those kinds of things. So, but they shouldn't, despite the length of the injury, how long you've been injured, how long you've been limping, and how much it's affected other parts of your psychic body in a way. These are things that still should be able to be remediated relatively quickly. Smokey 49:31 That's exciting. Yeah. Smokey 50:10 But this is not a lifelong thing. Now, that doesn't mean, if you're traumatized as a child for example, it's sort of like if you've completely shattered your wrist bone, and they've put in pins and things like that, that wrist, may never have the flexibility, it did, the actual wrist bone, you know, the bones in the wrist. But by building muscles, and other things around it, you could then theoretically have full flexibility that you had before, right? But it's not the actual wrist bone, but that that injury is still there. You've built up...Sometimes it's called strength-based approach or model where you're building up other strengths, you have to relieve the impact that that injury, so like, a common thing with with trauma is trust. My trust is very damaged. My ability to trust others, or trust certain environments, or maybe trust myself, right, is completely damaged. So if, if my...and that may never fully heal, that's like my shattered wrist bone. So then, by building up, let's say, I don't trust myself, I did something, really fucked up myself, you know, psychologically, traumatically, but by building up trust in others, and then in the environment, or other things, that can mediate that damage or vice versa. Margaret 53:53 You mean vice versa, like if you? Smokey 53:59 Like, if my problem is a trust of others, or trust with strangers, or trust with friends, you know, I've been betrayed in a really traumatic way by my mother, or my father or uncle or something like that then, you know, building up my friendships to a really strong degree will reduce and eventually eliminate, hopefully erase the impact of that injury on the rest of my life. I'm not doomed to have dysfunctional relationships, lack of sleep, alcoholism or whatever are the symptoms of that traumatic event, that chronic traumatic event. Margaret 54:54 Okay, so my next question is, and it's sort of a leading question, you mentioned MAST earlier and I kind of want to ask, like, do we need specialists for all of this? Do we have people who both generalize and specialize in this kind of thing? Are there ways that, you know, we as a community can, like, get better at most of this stuff while then some of it like, you know, obviously people specialize in and this remains useful? Like... Smokey 55:22 You need. I wouldn't say...You need, you do need specialists, not for their knowledge, per se so much as they're there for people that the injury has gone on so long that the resiliency, all those other things, they don't have a social network, they haven't had time, because the damage happened so early to build up those reserves, that that person in the front row, the front row, the seats are empty. That is, it's really great we live...Now, in other cultures, the specialists were probably shamans, religious people, mentors, things like that, that said, "Okay, my role is to," all therapy is self therapy. That was Carl Rogers, he was quite correct about that. The specialist you're talking about are the kind of stand in for people who don't have people to do that. I would argue all real therapy is probably community therapy. It's relational. So if you have friends, if you have community, if you have a place, or places you find belonging, then theoretically, no, I don't think you need....I think those groups, and I think most specialists would agree to actually, those groups, if they're doing this can actually do a much better job for that individual. They know that individual and there's a natural affinity. And there there are other non specifically therapeutic benefits for engaging in re engaging in these things that have nothing to do with the injury that are just healthy, and good to you. So sort of like taking Ensure, Ensure will keep you alive when you're you've had some surgery, you've had some really bad injury, or if you need saline solution, right? But we're not suggesting people walk around with saline bags. There are better ways to get that, more natural ways to get that. I'm not talking alternative, psychiatric or, you know, take herbs instead of psychiatric medication. But there are better ways to do that. And I think, but I'm glad we have saline. Margaret 58:08 Yeah, Smokey 58:08 I think it saves a lot of people's lives. But, we would never give up the other ways to get nutrients because of other benefits to it. You know, sharing a meal with people is also a really good thing. Margaret 58:21 And then even like from a, you know, the advantages of community, etc. I'm guessing it's not something that's like magically imbued in community. It's like can be something that communities need to actually learn these skills and develop like, I mean, there's a reason that well, you know, I guess I'm reasonably open about this. I used to have like fairly paralyzing panic attacks, and then it started generalizing. And then, you know, a very good cognitive behavioral therapist gave me the tools with which to start addressing that. And that wasn't something I was getting from....I didn't get it from my community in the end, but I got it from a specific person in the community, rather than like, everyone already knows this or something. Smokey 59:03 Well, I think what we're doing right here is, is....I mean, people don't know. So they read....People were trying to help you from your community. Undoubtedly, with the right. intentions, and the right motives, but without the information on what actually works. Margaret 59:27 Yep. Smokey 59:28 And that's all that was happening there. Margaret 59:30 Yeah, totally. Smokey 59:31 So, it's really, you know, as cliche as it sound. It's really about just giving people some basic tools that we already had at one time. Margaret 59:44 Yeah. Smokey 59:45 Forgot, became specialized. So you know, I'm throwing around CBT, DBT, EMDR. None of that people can keep in their head. They will....The audience listening today are not going to remember all those things. And nor do they have to. But they have to know that, you know, reconnecting to the horse, but not telling people to get back on the horse, that kind of tough love kind of thing isn't going to work, but neither is the self care, take a bubble bath... Margaret 1:00:19 Never see a horse again, run from a horse. Smokey 1:00:21 Never see a horse, again, we're not even going to talk about horses, let's go do something else, isn't going to work either. And I think once we...you know, it's not brain science...Though it is. [laughs] It is pretty, you know, these are, and you look at how religions do this, you know, you look at how the military does this, you look at how like, fascists do this, you know, all sorts of groups, communities can do this fairly effectively. And it doesn't cost money. It's not expensive. You don't have to be highly educated or read all the science to be able to do that. And people naturally try, but I think a lot of the self help kind of gets in the way. And some people think they know. "Okay, well, this is what needs to happen, because I saw on Oprah." That kind of thing. " Margaret 1:01:26 Yeah, Well, I mean, actually, that's one of the main takeaways that's coming from me is I've been, I've been thinking a lot about my own mental health first aid on a fairly individual basis, right? You know, even though it was community, that helped me find the means by which to pull myself out of a very bad mental space in that I was in for a lot of years. But I still, in the end was kind of viewing it as, like, "Ah, someone else gave me the tools. And now it's on me." It's like this individual responsibility to take care of myself. And, and so that's like, one of the things that I'm taking as a takeaway from this is learning to be inter-reliant. Smokey 1:02:06 There isn't enough research on it, again, because of our individualistic nature, and probably because of variables. But there's certainly tons of anecdotal evidence, and having done this for a long time talking to people and how the place I work is particularly set up, helping others is a really great way to help yourself. Margaret 1:02:30 Yeah. Smokey 1:02:31 it really works. It's very, I mean, obviously, in the Greeks, you know, you have the 'wounded healer,' kind of concept. Many indigenous traditions have said this much better than the Western. And I believe they have...and they needed to, but they had a much better kind of understanding of these things that we're we're talking about. You know, it. So, where people can...and I've heard this podcast, your podcast too, talking about this ability to be, you know, have self efficacy. But it's more than self efficacy. It's really helping others. Margaret 1:03:22 Yeah. Smokey 1:03:23 And that, that is really powerful. And there's not enough research on that. And I think that's why support groups, I think that's why, you know, AA, despite all its problems, has spread all over the world and has been around for, you know, 75 years, and is not going to go away anytime soon. Despite some obvious problems, is there's that there's that... they hit upon that they they re discovered something that we always kind of knew. Margaret 1:03:59 Yeah. Okay, well, we're coming out of time. We're running out of time. Are there any last thoughts, things that I should have asked you? I mean, there's a ton we can talk about this, and I'll probably try and have you on to talk about more specifics in the near future. But, is there anything anything I'm missing? Smokey 1:04:15 No, I think I think just re emphasizing the end piece that you know, for people that have resources, communities, meaning, social network, you know, that is worth investing your time and your energy into because that's going to build your...if you want to get psychologically strong, that is the easiest and the best investment, Put down the self help book. Call your friend. You know, don't search Google for the symptoms of this, that, or the other thing. Connect to what's important to you. And then lastly, try to help others or help the world in some way. And those are going to be profound and effective ways to build long lasting resilience as an individual. As a community, we should design our communities around that. Margaret 1:05:35 Yeah. All right. Well, that seems like a good thing to end on. Do you have anything that you want to plug like, I don't know books about mutual aid self therapy or anything like that? Smokey 1:05:46 I want to plug community. That's all I want to plug. Margaret 1:05:50 Cool. All right. Well, it's nice talking to you, and I'll talk to you soon. Smokey 1:05:54 Yep. Margaret 1:06:00 Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed this podcast, please tell people about it. Actually, I mean, honestly, if you enjoyed this episode, in particular, like think about it, and think about reaching out to people, and who needs to be reached out to and who you need to reach out to, and how to build stronger communities. But if you want to support this podcast, you can tell people about it. And you can tell the internet about it. And you can tell the algorithms about it. But, you can also tell people about it in person. And you can also support it by supporting the, by supporting Strangers In A Tangled Wilderness, which is the people who produce this podcast. It's an anarchist publishing collective that I'm part of, and you can support it on Patreon at patreon.com/strangersinatangledwilderness. 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THE SHIFTING BALANCE OF FEAR IN IRAN Colleague Malcolm Hoenlein. As the regime faces potential implosion, discussions involve a return of the Shah's son as a symbolic figurehead, though no clear path to collective leadership exists. Revolutionaries are now tagging the homes of officials, signaling that the balance of fear has shifted from the people to the leadership. NUMBER 61866 TEHRAN

How can we manage hazardous attitudes in ourselves and others?The FAA in the US has identified five hazardous attitudes that are present in human caused airline crashes. These five attitudes are anti-authority, impulsivity, invulnerability, macho and resignation. These attitudes can negatively impact judgment in any risk-taking situation.In this episode Geoff Powter shares how we can manage these hazardous attitudes in ourselves and others.Geoff Powter is a retired psychologist, an experienced climber, writer, and adventurer from the Canadian Rockies. He served as editor of the Canadian Alpine Journal for 13 years and has won 9 National Magazine Awards.Geoff has authored several books, including Strange and Dangerous Dreams, which won the Jury Prize at the 2006 Banff Mountain Book Festival and was adapted into a radio series. His second most recent book, Inner Ranges, won the Climbing Literature Prize at the Banff Festival in 2019 and the National Outdoor Book Award in the USA. His most recent book Survival Is Not Assured: The Life of Climber Jim Donini, is the Winner of National Outdoor Book Award in the USA.This is the second episode of two where Geoff, Jordy and Chris explore the five hazardous attitudes that can impact decision making and risk taking.Key TakeawaysHow to manage hazardous attitudes in ourselves and others:Anti-authority: Is the “do not tell me what to do,” mindset.To manage this, recognize that rules, guidelines and best practices exist to help us and follow them! To manage it in others, explain the reason why rules exist, give people control when you can, and involve people in decision making as much as possible.Impulsivity: Is the “do it quickly,” mindset.To manage this, be methodical, follow all the steps, and slow things down when we feel the need to rush into things.Also, make others aware of the risk of rushing into things and encourage them to follow systems and processes without skipping steps. This reduces the chance of errors and missing information. It also ensures everyone knows what to do.Invulnerability: Is the “It won't happen to me,” mindsetTo manage this, remind yourself that bad outcomes can happen to anyone. For others, try to personalize the fact that bad outcomes can happen to anyone by highlighting mishaps that have happened to people they may know. This can include sharing your own stories of misadventure involving negative outcomes. This can help to make things more real.Macho: This is the “I can do it,” mindsetTo manage this, look for signs of overconfidence. Celebrate humility and model an objective approach to decision making that involves accepting that some things may be beyond our capabilities and that's normal.Resignation: This is the “what's the use,” mindset.To manage this, believe that you have the power to change or influence the situation you are in. Involve everyone in decision making and ensure everyone is heard. Acting on concerns or suggestions can also demonstrate to others that they do have the power to change their situation.Guest BioGeoff is a retired psychologist, an experienced climber, writer, and adventurer from the Canadian Rockies. He served as editor of the Canadian Alpine Journal for 13 years and has won 9 National Magazine Awards.Geoff has authored several books, including Strange and Dangerous Dreams, which won the Jury Prize at the 2006 Banff Mountain Book Festival and was adapted into a radio series. His second most recent book, Inner Ranges, won the Climbing Literature Prize at the Banff Festival in 2019 and the National Outdoor Book Award in the USA. His most recent book Survival Is Not Assured: The Life of Climber Jim Donini, is the Winner of National Outdoor Book Award in the USA.In 2012 Geoff was the recipient of the Summit

How do children really experience their parents' separation? In this episode, Thom explores why children are often far more adaptive to a family separation than adults assume, and how they unconsciously mirror the emotional state of their parents. Drawing on the Vedic worldview, Thom explains why change is evolutionary, why staying together “for the children” can be harmful, and how honoring the other parent protects a child's sense of self. A compassionate and clarifying perspective for any parent navigating relationship change.You can also watch this episode on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/YRsKT1togKwEpisode Highlights[00:45] Children Tend to be Peacekeepers[03:28] Involve a Third Party for the Child to Speak With[07:01] Protecting Children's Emotions[09:26] Don't Stay Together “For the Children”[12:57] Change is Evolutionary[15:18] Avoid Speaking Ill of Each Other[18:00] Honor the Other ParentUseful Linksinfo@thomknoles.com  https://thomknoles.com/https://www.instagram.com/thethomknoleshttps://www.facebook.com/thethomknoleshttps://www.youtube.com/c/thomknoleshttps://thomknoles.com/ask-thom-anything/

Today, we’re bringing you the best from the KUOW Newsroom… We’ll start with a story about a local family who self-deported to Guatemala earlier this week. The family of 3 and their cat left on Wednesday after losing their asylum case. Casey Martin has the story. Our other story comes from Bellingham. The city of Bellingham is conducting an internal investigation after evidence was uncovered that a staffer may have rigged a bidding process for a city contract to favor one vendor over another. What is new, though, is that the city employee allegedly used ChatGPT to skew the outcome. At least one expert says it may be the first time AI has been at the center of this kind of scandal. KNKX reporter Nate Sanford talked about it with KUOW’s Kim Malcolm in a recent interview. We can only make Seattle Now because listeners support us. Tap here to make a gift and keep Seattle Now in your feed. Got questions about local news or story ideas to share? We want to hear from you! Email us at seattlenow@kuow.org, leave us a voicemail at (206) 616-6746 or leave us feedback online.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Many leaders mistake exhaustion for a sign to quit. This episode shares practical leadership resets that restore clarity, control, and energy without leaving the role.Host: Paul FalavolitoConnect with me on your favorite platform: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, TikTok, LinkedIn, Substack, BlueSky, Threads, LinkTree, YouTubeView my website for free leadership resources and exclusive merchandise: www.paulfalavolito.comBooks by Paul FalavolitoThe 7 Minute Leadership Handbook: bit.ly/48J8zFGThe Leadership Academy: https://bit.ly/4lnT1PfThe 7 Minute Leadership Survival Guide: https://bit.ly/4ij0g8yThe Leader's Book of Secrets: http://bit.ly/4oeGzCI

In this episode, Brian Miller and Chad Hall discuss three essential behaviors that help coaches build a thriving practice: Networking, Nurturing, and Negotiating. They explain how these behaviors create a natural flow from awareness to relationship to partnership—and why skipping steps leads to awkwardness and frustration. Using real examples from their own coaching businesses, Brian and Chad illustrate how to operationalize each behavior in ways that fit your personality, your clients, and your local or distributed context. Key Highlights The 3 N's Framework: Networking (they know you), Nurturing (you know them), and Negotiating (you work together)—a clear progression for building a client base. Fit your strengths: Networking doesn't mean schmoozy cocktail parties; it can be teaching, podcasting, or community events—whatever authentically connects you. Patience is vital: Like farming, you can't force growth; you can only create the conditions—plant, water, and cultivate relationships. Tools shift by context: A podcast might be networking for CAM but nurturing for a local firm; the purpose defines the behavior. Bring your team along: Involve your staff early so clients build trust with the organization, not just with you personally. Takeaways Map your client journey. Identify who's on your radar, who you're networking with, who you're nurturing, and who you're negotiating with. Track without strangling. Systems help—but don't overmanage relationships; stay organic and human. Do what you enjoy. Choose networking and nurturing methods that energize you so consistency feels natural. Partnership multiplies momentum. Pair with people whose strengths complement yours—networkers, nurturers, or closers. Relationships create readiness. The best clients often come from long-term nurturing; trust builds quietly before opportunity emerges.

Have you ever wondered whether your eating disorder behaviors have shifted from coping and self-regulation into self-harm? In this solo episode, Dr. Marianne Miller explores the overlap between eating disorders and self-harm and explains how eating disorder behaviors can gradually become harmful even when they begin as attempts to cope. She examines eating disorder recovery through a trauma-informed, neurodivergent-affirming, and liberation-focused lens and offers clarity without shame or blame. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Dr. Marianne explains how eating disorders can function as self-harm and how trauma, dissociation, sensory overwhelm, and chronic stress shape eating disorder behaviors. She discusses neurodivergence and eating disorders, including how autistic and ADHD individuals may rely on eating patterns for regulation. She explores common self-harm behaviors that often co-occur with eating disorders, including cutting, scratching, burning, and other forms of injury, and explains the shared emotional logic behind these behaviors. She clarifies the difference between self-regulation and self-harm and explains how eating disorder behaviors can shift between these roles over time. She outlines how to recognize when an eating disorder moves from regulation into harm by identifying warning signs such as rigidity, shame, dissociation, physical consequences, and isolation. She also describes what breaking the cycle can look like by focusing on safety, agency, and flexible coping rather than punishment or control. THIS EPISODE MAY RESONATE WITH YOU IF You question whether your eating disorder behaviors feel punishing or unsafe. You live with a long-term or chronic eating disorder. You experience self-harm urges alongside an eating disorder. You identify as neurodivergent and struggle with sensory or interoceptive overwhelm. You want a trauma-informed, non-shaming approach to eating disorder recovery. KEY TOPICS This episode explores eating disorders and self-harm, eating disorder recovery, self-harm behaviors and eating disorders, trauma and eating disorders, neurodivergence and eating disorders, dissociation and eating disorders, restriction and binge eating, ARFID and sensory overwhelm, building safety in eating disorder recovery, and trauma-informed eating disorder therapy. CONTENT CAUTION This episode includes discussion of self-harm, including cutting and other forms of injury, eating disorders, trauma, dissociation, and suicidal thinking. Please listen with care and take breaks as needed. RELATED EPISODES Autism & Anorexia: When Masking Looks Like Restriction, & Recovery Feels Unsafe via Apple & Spotify. Recovering Again: Navigating Eating Disorders After a Late Neurodivergent Diagnosis (Part 1) With Stacie Fanelli, LCSW @edadhd_therapist via Apple & Spotify. Minding the Gap: The Intersection Between AuDHD & Eating Disorders With Stacie Fanelli, LCSW @edadhd_therapist via Apple & Spotify ABOUT DR. MARIANNE Dr. Marianne Miller is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in eating disorders, including ARFID, binge eating disorder, anorexia, and long-term eating disorder patterns. She takes a neurodivergent-affirming, trauma-informed, and liberation-focused approach and hosts the Dr. Marianne-Land podcast. WORK WITH DR. MARIANNE Dr. Marianne offers eating disorder therapy in California, Texas, and Washington DC, and provides coaching worldwide. Learn more at drmariannemiller.com.

In this episode of SoundPractice, Matthew Mazurek, MD, assistant professor of anesthesiology at Yale School of Medicine discusses his new book, Sexual Misconduct, Harassment, and Discrimination in Healthcare by the AAPL. Mazurek reveals sexual misconduct in healthcare occurs on multiple levels: - Confidential surveys show the problem remains significantly underreported. - Social media has created new avenues for inappropriate behavior, particularly among younger staff members. - Healthcare workers face harassment from patients more frequently than in other STEM fields due to physical touching and power dynamics. For healthcare leaders conducting investigations, Mazurek recommends: - Use two-person interview teams to avoid "he said, she said" situations while preventing respondents from feeling ganged up on. - Strip away who is telling the story and focus objectively on what happened. - Involve risk management early in high-stakes cases. - Maintain consistency in questioning and look for corroboration. Reality check: Lack of standardization across 50 state medical boards contributes to delays in addressing misconduct, with some physicians maintaining long histories of violations before consequences. Mazurek emphasizes prevention over investigation expertise: - Leadership must model appropriate behavior — executives engaging in misconduct set a tone of tolerance. - Training programs should use case studies in small groups to help staff feel the emotional impact, not just understand it intellectually. - Address microaggressions through comprehensive education on bias and stereotypes. - Create policies expressly covering social media interactions with colleagues as part of the work environment. The bottom line: Healthcare organizations must balance their duty to provide safe environments for staff with their obligation to care for patients, even when patient behavior crosses lines. Learn more about the American Association for Physician Leadership at www.physicianleaders.org.

Send us a textFeeling burned out, used up, or overwhelmed as the year ends? You are not alone.In this Christmas Eve episode, Vanessa wraps up the “12 Gifts of Christmas” series with the final three gifts every teacher needs heading into a new year: 

In this inspiring episode of the Authors On Mission Podcast, host Danielle Hutchinson sits down with Larry O'Nan to explore the heart of his book Intentional Living and Giving. Larry shares how living with purpose and viewing resources as entrusted gifts can reshape the way we write, give, and connect with others.He dives into his writing journey, emphasizing the importance of capturing ideas (“if it's not in writing, it doesn't exist”), and how personal stories can illustrate principles that resonate deeply with readers. Along the way, Larry offers practical tips for aspiring writers:✍️ Write across multiple mediums—blogs, proposals, books—to refine your voice.

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Air Date 12/14/2025 The sad ease with which we manage to ignore some atrocities, even while paying much attention to others, has to do with how visible or invisible to us the systems are that are propping up those events. Nothing happens in a vacuum and in our world, if you're willing to dig deep enough, you'll always find how we're all connected - across both time and geography. Be part of the show! Leave us a message or text at 202-999-3991, message us on Signal at the handle bestoftheleft.01, or email Jay@BestOfTheLeft.com Full Show Notes Check out our new show, SOLVED! on YouTube! BestOfTheLeft.com/Support (Members Get Bonus Shows + No Ads!) Join our Discord community! KEY POINTS KP 1: Will the International Community Act Preschool Massacre & Large Piles of Bodies in Sudan Part 1 - Democracy Now! - Air Date 12-10-25 KP 2: Sudan Civil War the Terrifying Escape From El Fasher - Global News Podcast - Air Date 12-1-25 KP 3: Can Trump Help Sudan Part 1 - Today, Explained - Air Date 11-19-25 KP 4: The War In Sudan with Khalid Medani Part 1- American Prestige - Air Date 5-10-24 KP 5: South Sudans Failed Peace Deal with Joshua Craze Part 1 - American Prestige - Air Date 5-27-25 KP 6: Decolonise Sudan - The Sages Cabin - Herbs & Liberation - Air Date 11-6-25 (00:45:33) NOTE FROM THE EDITOR On the past 20 years of politics DEEPER DIVES (00:50:08) SECTION A: VIOLENCE NOW (01:12:13) SECTION B: HISTORICAL ROOTS (01:51:58) SECTION C: OUTSIDE INTERFERENCE (02:12:01) SECTION D: RESOLUTION AND SOLIDARITY HOW IMAGE CREDITS Description: Photo of Sudanese refugee women, one with her baby, standing in line for food aid in Chad carrying bags, and boxes. Credit: "24 January 2025, Adre, Chad. Sudanese refugees who have fled the conflict in Sudan register for food aid in neighbouring Chad." by Foreign, Commonwealth and Development Office (UK), Flickr | CC BY-SA 2.0 | Changes: Cropped   Produced by Jay! Tomlinson Visit us at BestOfTheLeft.com Listen Anywhere! BestOfTheLeft.com/Listen Listen Anywhere! Follow BotL: Bluesky | Mastodon | Threads | X Like at Facebook.com/BestOfTheLeft Contact me directly at Jay@BestOfTheLeft.com

In this week's edition of Everything Fast Pitch by Fast Pitch Prep, Coach Tory and Coach Don celebrate their 401st episode and reflect on the significant milestone of having 700 total podcast episodes including mini-pods and prediction shows. They express gratitude to listeners, patrons, and contributors, particularly during the busy holiday season. The program highlights include 'Did You Know' on upcoming city announcements by AU Softball League, 'City of the Week' Las Vegas, 'Player of the Week', and a question on whether it's worthwhile to get a glove re-laced. Key segments include an interview with Steve Dickey from Better Ballgame, who discusses the complexities and challenges of youth sports, particularly in fast pitch softball, with topics like long-term development, the importance of having strong female role models, and the crucial role parents play. The episode concludes with the Action Coach coaching tip of the week, emphasizing the importance of involving players in charitable activities to help those less fortunate and foster better team unity.Support the show

How do you coach at scale - and still achieve measurable results? In this practical and results-driven episode, join us as Nicole Jansen sits down with Will Linssen, globally recognized leadership coach, CEO of Global Coach Group, and author of Triple Win Leadership Coaching. With his approach impacting over a million leaders across more than 30 countries, Will Linssen shares how leadership coaching can be scaled to deliver measurable results - not just for individual leaders, but for teams and organizations as a whole. Discover the revolutionary "triple win" methodology - an approach that ensures the leader wins, the team wins, and performance outcomes win. Explore why traditional coaching models fall short, how involving coworkers in the coaching process is a game changer, and how organizations can build a culture where everyone levels up together. Tune in as Will Linssen unpacks his journey from engineering to process-driven leadership development, offers data-backed strategies for coaching at scale, and reveals how AI is reshaping the future of leadership. Whether you're a coach, HR leader, or organizational executive, this conversation will reshape how you think about leadership transformation. What We Discuss in This Episode What is "triple win" leadership coaching and why does it matter? Why do most organizations fail to scale effective coaching—and how can that change? The pivotal roles of measurement, consistency, and co-worker feedback What truly drives sustainable leadership growth across an organization? How can coaches create structured AND customized programs for maximum impact? Will Linssen's journey: From industry insider to global coaching influencer The process mindset: Borrowing best practices from other business domains Where coaches, consultants, and organizations are missing the mark (and practical ways to fix it) Leveraging technology and AI for 21st-century leadership development Specific, actionable guidance for coaches growing their practice or impact in companies Podcast Highlights and Timestamps 00:00 – Leadership Is Not About Me, It's About We 01:08 – Scaling Coaching for Real Results 02:06 – Challenges and Solutions 04:00 – Why Classic Coaching Models Fail 05:37 – The Power of Stakeholder Feedback 08:27 – Customizing Leadership for Every Team Member 10:39 – Modeling a Feedback-and-Growth Culture 11:14 – From Industry Frustration to Process-Driven Coaching 13:20 – Building Leaders by Design 16:11 – The Art of Impactful Coaching 19:20 – Training Coaches for the Triple Win 23:33 – A Mindset Shift for Coaches and Organizations 26:43 – The Future of Leadership in the Age of AI Top 10 Takeaways for Triple Win Leadership Coaching Triple win coaching ensures leaders, teams, and business results all improve together. Most traditional coaching fails to deliver measurable, recognized improvement—only 18% of coworkers see change. Involve coworkers in setting leadership goals and gathering feedback for greater engagement, relevance, and results. Structure (a process-driven approach) is essential; it enables, not restricts, customization for every leader and situation. Regular measurement, action planning, and coworker feedback are vital for sustained coaching success. Coaches need both coaching skills and business frameworks - a program that addresses both sets up long-term impact. Leadership transformation is not just for leaders - it must cascade to teams and become part of culture. The process of developing leaders can borrow best practices from operations and project management, ensuring scalability. AI is changing what leaders and coaches need to do - the key shift is leveraging data and feedback to put ideas into action. Lasting transformation depends on taking action. Favorite Quotes On True Leadership: "Leadership is not about the leader. It's not me, it's about we. The more leaders understand that, the more they see coworkers need to be involved." On Results-Based Coaching: "At the end of the day, we're selling results. There's a lot of coaching people sell process, but people want to buy results." On Involving Teams: "If the leader gets better and the team doesn't get better, we're missing the point."  Episode Resources: https://leadersoftransformation.com/podcast/leadership/549-triple-win-leadership-coaching-building-extraordinary-leaders-teams-and-results-with-will-linssen/ Check out our complete library of episodes and other leadership resources here: https://leadersoftransformation.com ________

In many ways, the ancient story of Christmas has been lost amidst the modern season of Christmas. In today's message, pastor Dan explains how we can enjoy the holiday without idolizing it. -- GIVE: Visit www.connectcalgary.ca/give to help share #LifeOverflowing across Canada.

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Erik Cooper on Integrating Faith and Work — A Theology of Vocation for the Next Generation In this episode of the Young Adults Today podcast, hosts Josiah and Micah Kennealy welcome guest Erik Cooper for an inspiring conversation about the integration of faith and work. Drawing from both personal experience and biblical wisdom, Erik explores how our everyday jobs can be a vital part of God's purpose and mission—not something separate from our faith. Key Topics Discussed: Breaking the “sacred/secular” divide: Why everyday work matters to God The four chapters of the Bible's meta-narrative—creation, fall, redemption, and restoration—and how they shape our view of vocation How to find purpose (and Gospel impact!) in every assignment, from administration to ministry to marketplace Overcoming the sense of purposelessness or disconnection in your career Lessons from Tim Keller and other leaders who connect faith and vocation Unique challenges and opportunities for Gen Z in the rapidly changing workforce How church leaders and pastors can better equip their congregants to live out faith Monday through Saturday Practical tips for sharing your faith at work—without feeling “preachy” or risking HR trouble Avoiding the trap of “busyness” and idolatry in work and ministry Encouragement for young leaders on building real influence and prioritizing dependence on Jesus Notable Quotes: “Work was always part of God's plan. It's not separate from our calling.” “Purpose comes from understanding our role in God's bigger story.” “Don't confuse fame and following with Gospel influence.” Action Items: Pray for availability to serve and encourage co-workers Involve young adults in church mission and leadership Prioritize rest and accountability to avoid idolizing productivity Listen in for practical wisdom and fresh encouragement on how you can bring your whole self—faith and all—to your daily work, and help others do the same! Resources Mentioned: “Every Good Endeavor” by Tim Keller Don't forget to share this episode with someone seeking greater purpose in their career! — Subscribe to youngadultstoday for more interviews exploring leadership, ministry, and digital innovation Learn more about youngadultstoday: www.youngadults.today Give to the mission of youngadultstoday: https://tithe.ly/give?c=5350133 Resources: Free eBook "10 Steps to Starting a Successful Young Adult Ministry: https://www.youngadults.today/book/starting-a-successful-young-adult-ministry Join our FaceBook Group Community with 2500+ leaders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/796270437396021 

Ever wonder what it takes to walk away from a successful career and start over from scratch? Adam Drucker went from IT executive to dishwasher, then built something extraordinary.In this episode, I speak with Adam Drucker, founder of Doctor Dough. His Reinvention story is great. After a thriving career in IT, Adam walked away from the keyboard in 2010 to start over as a dishwasher at Paradise Cove. He worked his way up into management, landed at Border Grill with celebrity chefs Susan Feniger and Mary Sue Milliken managing their food truck business, then launched his own restaurant, Big Mango Cafe, which expanded to two locations before he exited just ahead of COVID. The pizza he makes now is phenomenal. I've tasted it myself, and it's the real deal.From Takeout to Doctor DoughAdam grew up in a household where his mom, bless her heart, couldn't cook. He tells this hilarious story about coming back from college breaks and hearing all his friends rave about their mom's cooking, while all Adam wanted was takeout. Those sleepovers at friends' houses showed young Adam there was a whole world of flavor out there. It planted a seed. During lockdown, with zero interest in splurging on a backyard pizza oven, Adam set out to create truly great pizza dough for a standard home oven. His wife Rita—who is one of my favorite humans—said, "Hey, maybe other people would want this." What began as a quest for the perfect crust became Doctor Dough. Today he's curing the world's pizza ills through dough sales, private catering, pop-ups, and markets.What You Can LearnHere's what you can take from Adam's story: Start where you are. Adam started as a dishwasher without culinary school. If you've got an idea that won't leave you alone, lean into it. He spent nearly two years perfecting his dough recipe because he believed in what he was creating. Take the leap even when you're terrified—Adam still asks Rita, "Is this right?" There's fear and uncertainty, but he feels fulfilled, and that matters. Involve the people you love. Adam talks about pizza-making as a family activity, flour everywhere, creating memories that matter. That's what Reinvention is really about.The Doctor Will See You Now Ready to cure your pizza cravings? Connect with Adam and get your hands on some Doctor Dough:Doc Dough Instagram https://www.instagram.com/doc_doughOrder Your Dough! https://www.docdough.com/ THE RE:INVENTION EXCHANGE - for more Inspired Content, Blogs, Podcasts, RE:INVENTION Virtual Chats, or to buy a copy of my book RE:INVENT YOUR LIFE! WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? by Kathi Sharpe-Ross, visit https://www.thereinventionexchange.comIG: https://www.instagram.com/kathisr_chief_reinventor/FB: https://www.facebook.com/kathi.sharpeross/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathisharpeross    Twitter: https://twitter.com/ReinventionExch

As we get deeper into the holiday season and winter holidays, many parents start to wonder — how do we keep holiday magic alive while helping our kids understand what's real? Jacqueline Woolley, Professor of Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, studies how kids understand fantasy, reality, and belief itself. She joins us to explore and support curiosity, belief, and cultural traditions with grace by sharing her own stories and tactile advice to answering one of parents' biggest questions around the holiday season — should we tell our kids about Santa? Key takeaways for parents: Allowing your kids to believe in a white lie does not make you a bad parent.Kids can and will still trust their parents, even after discovering the truth about Santa Claus.Take note of where you hear information, and whether it's coming from a trusted source.Involve your older kids in creating the magic for their younger siblings or family members. Use the holidays as an opportunity to explore different cultural or religious traditions.⏱️ Timestamps:Keep the conversation going at home with our FREE Conversation Kit companion guide: https://delivery.shopifyapps.com/-/c06eaff29157c7b6/a0a4264ebe521ffbFollow Jacqueline Woolley: https://www.instagram.com/jacquelinewoolleyNew episodes every Tuesday:YouTube: https://swap.fm/l/P8iCjNFnIWI7kTmU0vmkApple: https://swap.fm/l/kCnCRNdWkpuYYbyzyE77Spotify: https://swap.fm/l/SOQe4gSHh3vVIwPGFDetOr wherever you get your podcasts.

Most recruiting playbooks are either too vague to matter or too corporate to inspire. In this episode of Recruiting Conversations, I break down how to create a magnetic recruiting playbook; one that does more than document steps. It attracts the right talent, builds deep community, and creates retention that scales. We'll cover three powerful pillars: marketing that feels human, community that creates belonging, and retention that builds belief. This isn't theory. It's a rhythm that reinforces your leadership at every level. Episode Breakdown [00:00] Introduction – Why most playbooks fail and how to build one that magnetizes people to your team [01:00] What a Playbook Really Is – Not a document, but a lived rhythm that reflects the culture of your team [02:00] Part 1: Marketing That Connects Define your content pillars: What should you be known for? Build a cadence: Weekly posts, monthly updates, quarterly events Show your leadership: Let the market feel what it's like to be led by you Involve your team: Shared wins and team content multiply your message [03:30] Marketing Is Not About Going Viral – It's about being consistently visible with real value [04:30] Part 2: Community That Retains Outline rhythms of connection: Weekly calls, celebrations, shout-outs Systematize belonging: Notes, gifts, personal coaching Teach peer-to-peer support: Real community isn't top down, it's side to side [05:30] Community Has to Be Structured to Scale – Templates, calendars, and shared docs bring this to life [06:00] Part 3: Retention That Lasts Four keys: Clear expectations, consistent coaching, visible progress, emotional connection Define onboarding rhythms Track growth, give feedback, build relationship Retention isn't about comp or ops, it's about belief [07:00] The Gift of Documenting the Gaps – Writing your playbook reveals where you're winging it, and that's how you get better [07:30] Final Challenge Create three sections: Marketing, Community, Retention List five things you already do and five you want to start doing Build templates, assign owners, and create checklists over the next 30 days Key Takeaways A Playbook Isn't a PDF. It's a System That Lives and Breathes – Build rhythms, not just resources Marketing Should Be Personal and Predictable – Stop trying to go viral. Start being visible Community Doesn't Happen By Chance – It happens by design and weekly repetition Retention Is Built, Not Hoped For – It requires coaching, celebration, and belief Your Playbook Makes You Scalable – It moves your leadership from your head into the hands of others You don't need to build something flashy. You need to build something real, something that grows with you, attracts the right people, and keeps your team aligned. Want help building your own magnetic recruiting playbook? Subscribe to my weekly email at 4crecruiting.com or book a session at bookrichardnow.com. Let's turn your leadership into a system that multiplies.

Parenting a child who goes from calm to chaos in seconds can feel exhausting. You try everything—deep breaths, gentle words, even walking away—and still, the meltdowns come. You're not alone.When kids struggle with big emotions, there's often a hidden root cause inside the body—and minerals play a much bigger role than most parents realize.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Aaron Hartman to unpack the powerful connection between minerals, mitochondria, and meltdowns—and how nutrition, lifestyle, and nervous system regulation can help your child regain balance and calm.Why does my child melt down when they're “just tired or hungry”?When your child seems to unravel at the smallest thing, it's not bad behavior—it's biology. Mineral imbalances directly affect how their nervous system fires.Low magnesium or zinc deficiency can make the brain more reactive to stress.When blood sugar drops from skipping meals or eating too many processed foods, the body burns through nutrients fast—leading to irritability, anxiety, or panic attacks.A deficient diet full of additives and low in whole foods affects serotonin, dopamine, and other key neurotransmitters.When we calm the brain first and nourish the body, meltdowns start to fade.Takeaway: A balanced diet rich in real food, protein, and calming minerals helps stabilize your child's emotions and energy.Need quick relief while you work on those root causes? Try Quick Calm—my proven method to calm the brain fast so you and your child can reset and start fresh.Could my child's mood swings be linked to mineral deficiencies?Absolutely. Research continues to show how essential minerals affect mental well-being and brain function.Here's what parents need to know:Zinc deficiency is linked with attention deficit disorder (ADD/ADHD), depression, and poor immune function.Magnesium supports relaxation and sleep by calming overactive neurons.B vitamins and vitamin D play a critical role in serotonin production—affecting mood and focus.Too much copper or exposure to heavy metals can worsen anxiety, aggression, and brain fog.HTMA testing (Hair Tissue Mineral Analysis) can reveal these hidden imbalances, helping you target the root cause instead of chasing symptoms.

Happy Thanksgiving! If you're dreading your family's impending political feuds over turkey and dinner rolls, we're here to share an episode that just might help guide you. In August, Osita Nwanevu, a progressive and the author of “The Right of the People: Democracy and the Case for a New American Founding,” joined Ross for a respectful debate about how we should be interrogating the democratic system the country is built on — without yelling or threats.5:21 - What's wrong with our democracy? 10:43 - Our undemocratic founding 18:36 - The case for more U.S. states and a new constitution25:27 - Where economic reform fits into this problem 30:54 - Does Trump represent the will of the people?38:50- What Trump's presidency says about democracy42:06 - The elusive Bernie Sanders moment 48:05 - The mystical element of our politics(A full transcript of this episode is available on the Times website.)Thoughts? Email us at interestingtimes@nytimes.com. Please subscribe to our YouTube Channel, Interesting Times with Ross Douthat. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.

This week, the ladies from the Africalypso Podcast - Matilda & Imanma join us for a roller coaster episode. Getready as we crack open the biggest scandal on the internet — The Danish Deception. which is no different from a real Nigerian Danish container, because what we found inside was not what anybody ordered. From Olympic-sized lies to luxury illusions, we unpack the entire saga: the romance, the red flags, the receipts, and the wild plot twists accompanied by Our own hot takes, jokes, and chaotic commentary.Please leave comments, or send us a fam mail HERE. We definitles want to hear your thoughts, Involve us. Bonus points if you can count how many times Imanma said "6K”Hit play — let's open this Danish container together.(5:26) - Meet Our Neighbors(9:50) - Mental Check in(15:28) - Africalyso Pod gets its flower(25:00) - It starts in Croatia (47:19) -  She still stayed !!(1:23:08) - You cant con Imanma (1:31:23) - So are we building or nah?(1:36:30) - Stream Summer Walker's Album(1:46:46) - What's Biscoff

PREVIEW — Rick Fischer — Chinese Strategy to Break Out of the South China Sea and Defense Preparations in the Okinawa Chain. Fischer details potential Chinese operational plans for a breakout past Japan, which could involve deploying concealed tactical nuclear weapons to rapidly impose a blockade of regional shipping lanes. Japan and the U.S. are rapidly fortifying Yonaguni Island, located approximately 70 miles from Taiwan, into a forward air base. Both nations are conducting exercises establishing expeditionary refueling bases for F-35B fighters and plan to deploy THAAD missile systems to counter Chinese H-6 bombers. 1966

In today's episode, we break down why a clear sales process is the backbone of consistent sales results—and why most teams struggle without one. After 25 years working with thousands of salespeople, the message is clear: every salesperson operates differently, which makes your job as a leader harder… unless you anchor everyone to a simple, proven, repeatable sales process.You'll learn the five core steps of an effective sales process used successfully across countless construction, industrial, and trade-based organisations. You'll also discover why involving your team in building the process is the secret to long-term buy-in and execution.Key Takeaways:A consistent sales process creates certainty—for you, your team, and your customers.Five steps are all you need: Lead Gen → Meet & Greet → Quote → Close → Post-Sale.Involve your team to increase adoption, buy-in, and performance.Consistency beats talent when it comes to achieving scalable, predictable sales growth.Start NOW: Add a meeting to your calendar, involve your team, and map your first version.Time Stamps:0:00 Intro1:17 Importance of a Sales Process4:47 Lead Generation5: 25 Meet and Greet5:59 Quote6:48 Closing Out The Deal7:25 Post Sale or Key Account Management8:30 Tips to Nail the Sales Process9:32 Wrap-up11:01 Call to Action11:24 OutroTo learn more about our Coaching Program that is seriously growing our Customers sales: https://strongersalesteams.com/program/To book a time to Meet with Ben directly: https://strongersalesteams.com/strategy/This podcast helps the entrepreneur, founder, CEO, and business owner in the trade, construction and industry segments, regain focus, build confidence, and achieve measurable results through powerful sales training, effective sales strategy, and expert sales coaching—guiding every sales leader, sales manager, and sales team in mastering the sales process, optimizing the sales pipeline, and driving business growth while fostering leadership, balance, and freedom amidst overwhelm, stress, and potential burnout, creating lasting peace of mind and smarter decision making for every California business and Australia business ready to scale up with excellence in sales management.

Autumn is here on the Talking Heads podcast - as the last vestiges of Summer in the garden dodge the wet and windy weather while trying to give the last hurrah before that inevitable but pleasantly seasonable slide into the hibernation of winter. But gardeners never sleep so Lucy and Saul are still out and about in their plots plying the horticultural trade they both love. So join them both for more horti-waffle and insights into the life of the modern, professional gardener.Balancing clients, weather, school runs and shifting workloads is all part and parcel of the professional gardener's lifestyle, so Lucy lets us listen in on her teabreaks this week to reveal exactly what her diary involves. Whether she's judging tide times on Mersea Island, dodging rainclouds in her village or dashing across town to help out her smallholder parents, there's never a dull moment and each week poses different challenges. But, of course, there's always time for a much-loved biscuit (or mince pie, or jam doughnut, or slice of lemon drizzle, or....).Instagram link:Lucy lucychamberlaingardensLinkedIn link:Saul WalkerIntro and Outro music from https://filmmusic.io"Fireflies and Stardust" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com)License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)Support the show

Teachers naturally want to manage everything that happens in their classrooms and handle student behaviors independently. But when the tension between wanting to do it all yourself and knowing you've reached your limit starts to spill over, you've reached that pivotal moment every teacher faces, when you wonder, "Is this something I handle, or is it time to bring in admin?" In today's episode, I'm walking you through how to confidently know what you can and should manage in the classroom, and the red-flag moments that signal it's time to involve admin. Show Notes: https://www.drlorifriesen.com/blog/involving-admin  Classroom Management Club Waitlist: https://www.drlorifriesen.com/membershipwaitlist Subscribe to the Beginning Teacher Talk YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@beginningteachertalk Grab a copy of my book, Dear New Teacher, Here's Exactly What to Do: Your 5-Step R.E.A.D.Y. for School Roadmap for Elementary Classrooms: https://amzn.to/3w3zZJ7 Lung Cancer Free: One Couple's Journey Through a "Lungs in a Box" Double Lung Transplant: https://www.lungcancerfree.com/ Check out Lori's TpT store (Beginning Teacher Talk): https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Store/Beginning-Teacher-Talk  Connect with Lori on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drlorifriesen/ Connect with Lori on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beginningteachertalk If the Beginning Teacher Talk podcast is helping you in your teaching and if you're feeling extra loving, I would be so grateful if you would leave a positive review for the show! Your kind words mean the world to me. Just click here to leave your review now (and be entered into our draw for a $25 Amazon Gift Card)! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beginning-teacher-talk/id1456137677 I hope you have a wonderful week, and remember - just because you are a beginning elementary teacher, there is no need for you to struggle like one. Xo Lori P.S. Do you have your copy of my FREE Ultimate Classroom Management Checklist? Get yours by clicking here now! https://www.drlorifriesen.com/ultimate-classroom-management-checklist

AOT2 and Ugochi discuss GTBank Fashion Week, the British invasion of the Oyo Empire, Regina Daniels and Ned Nwoko's viral buzz, the upcoming 2026 Michael Jackson biopic, and other stories that made the rounds this week.OUTLINE00:00 - Introduction05:00 - Fan mails37:30 - Catch Up59:00 - X of the week01:08:40 -  Believe it or not01:22:40 - Weekly essentials01:33:20 - Once Upon a time 01:58:00 - Prop and Flop of the week02:05:20 - Sign out--------------------------------------------234 Essential on Twitter and Instagram.Write us: fanmail@234essential.comDonate to 234 Essential: https://donate.stripe.com/bIYfZw6g14juf1m8wxNewsletter: https://234essential.com/

Tired of dating that feels confusing, inconsistent, or halfway holy? Here's what godly people actually do differently — so you can finally date with clarity, confidence, and peace.We've been married for 7 years now, but we didn't start out doing it right. We dated the world's way first — and it left us broken. God had to reteach us how to build love His way.In this episode, we're breaking down 7 things godly people do in dating that changed everything for us — and can change everything for you too.What You'll Learn:- How to pray about your relationship (and hear God, not just talk)- The right way to set boundaries (time, emotions, physical, spiritual, and money)- Why community and accountability protect your heart- What pursuing purity actually means (presence over performance)- How to communicate clearly — no ghosting, gaslighting, or confusion= What it looks like to honor each other in dating- How to date with marriage in mind — without rushing the processThis episode will help you date with confidence, peace, and direction — no more guessing if your relationship honors God.CHAPTERS:0:00 – Stop dating on vibes0:49 – Welcome + why couples copy1:56 – Is there a formula for godly dating?2:25 – The 7 things godly couples do3:38 – It's not perfection, it's intention5:38 – Our story: dating without direction6:32 – Loving God isn't enough6:38 – Pray about the relationship8:13 – How Pauline heard God13:35 – Set boundaries that guide you16:22 – Positive boundaries that build17:06 – Involve community18:37 – Pursue purity22:04 – Communicate clearly24:48 – Honor each other28:13 – Date with marriage in mind33:01 – Recap: 7 markers of godly dating33:57 – What's next + subscribeTjos For You If...You love Jesus but you're tired of guessing what a godly relationship actually looks like.You want to keep it fun and holy, but you also want something real — not just another situationship with Christian language.We're Tim & Pauline Wheeler, helping you build fun & holy relationships that last.New episodes every week on faith, dating, and building godly love that actually works.Tags: christian dating tips, godly dating advice, christian singles, faith-based relationships, dating with intention, christian couple advice, purity culture, godly love, christian relationship goals, christian dating boundaries, biblical dating advice, how to date as a christian

In this episode, we are once again joined by a friend of the show (Nyawanga) as we talk about the new discovery of less men going out as well as some hot takes. Enjoy!

"OKRs are really a feedback mechanism… it's a two-way street rather than a command-and-control mechanism.”Allan Kelly Top Five Tips For Working With Objectives and Key Results 1. Feedback mechanism: OKRs are a feedback mechanism rather than a order giving mechanism2. Involve as many people as possible in setting OKRs3. OKRs are not a to-do list, they describe a desired outcome4. Decide where Business as Usual fits in5. Ambition or predictable? TIME STAMP SUMMARY01:36 Setting OKRs based on proximity to the customer and understanding of the technology.10: 50  Success measured in tangible changes 12: 24  Balancing new products while maintaining existing products17:00 Clear communication manages expectationsWhere to find Allan?LinkedIn                           https://uk.linkedin.com/in/allankellynetWebsite                             https://www.allankelly.net/Book Link                         https://amzn.to/3EK08kOAllan Kelly BioWelcome to Allan Kelly's home on the internet. Home to Allan and his company, Software Strategy Ltd. Let him take up the story:Once upon a time I was a programmer, people I worked with thought I was quite a good one. I was part of a team building a hand-held PC, which was a big deal in 1991. I worked on electricity modelling, I wrote programs for railway timetables, software for banks and real-time data feeds for Reuters. I built secure e-mail systems and mobile phone network diagnostic tools.The code was not the problem, the problem was the way the team was set up, the problem was the way we were asked to work, or the way work reached us. To fix that problem I needed to become a manager… but I didn't want to be a foolish manager like all the ones I'd worked for before, so I got myself a management qualification. And while I was getting that qualification, I discovered that modern management thinking was very close to the then newly emerging field of “agile software development.” When I look back at my experiences so much of the good times matched the thing, we call agile.I still love software, I love coding, but I don't code any more. (Actually, I do code a little, for love.) I devote my time to helping make software better. In my mind when I'm teaching, advising, coaching, consulting I'm helping the person I used to be. When I see programmers at work I see my younger self. And I want them to do a great job, I want them to be able to do a better job than I ever did.Today I call myself an Agile Guide – I guide people and organizations to greater agility. I provide coaching and direct advice on agile working to leaders and teams creating digital products (software!). The companies I work with come from many fields as different as healthcare and surveying. However, they all depend on software to deliver for their customers. Without software they are nothing. Yesterday… I started coding in 1982 on a Sinclair ZX81. By 1986 I was earning money as a regular contributor to BBC Telesoftware – PDP, PDR, Eclipse, Fonts, Demon's Tomb, EMACS (no, not that emacs), Snapshot and Femcoms to name a few, mostly in 6502 assembler. In 1989 I was a system administrator with Nixdorf Computer. In 1991 I was a software tester at DIP in Guildford building the Sharp PC-3000. Even as an undergraduate I was hired by the University to help teach other undergraduates and occasionally post-graduates.

When life forces you to slow down, sometimes that’s exactly what your family needs. In this raw, real “I’ll Do Better Tomorrow,” Justin and Kylie share how a tough week - complete with surgery, surf trips, and kids cooking dinner - led to surprising moments of growth and gratitude. It’s a gentle reminder that slowing down doesn’t mean falling behind. KEY POINTS Why stepping back can strengthen your family The hidden power of sharing the load Teaching kids responsibility through real contribution The mindset shift that turns “I can’t” into “We can” QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Sometimes it’s okay to lay flat on your back and let somebody else carry the load. They usually can—and the world won’t fall apart.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Minted Kids podcast with Nicole Peterson McKinnon Boys by Dr Justin Coulson (coming 2026) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Let someone else lead for a day. Involve kids in cooking or chores—real, meaningful help. Reflect: where can you slow down before the season speeds up? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Parents often worry that if they introduce signs, PECS, or an AAC device, their child will “never talk.” In this episode I share Julianna's story—how she lost language, how we taught functional communication with signs, and why that actually accelerated her spoken words. I unpack what changed for her brain, her motivation, and our relationship, and I cite research showing AAC does not block speech and can increase it.Key TakeawaysAAC (signs, PECS, devices) gives a child a reliable voice now, reducing frustration and building the language foundation that supports speech later.High-quality studies show AAC does not delay speech. Many children make gains in spoken language once they can communicate successfully. PubMed+1The “unlock” isn't only mechanical. It is social and motivational. For Julianna, the first sign proved she understood us, pulled her out of her private world to find us, and created pride and belonging—fuel to work for speech.How To Start (Practical Steps For Parents)Pair a respectful AAC option (signs, PECS, or SGD) with natural routines and powerful motivators.Model language. Speak to your child as you normally would while honoring their sign/picture/button presses as real communication.Keep AAC available everywhere. Success breeds more attempts.If one system isn't a fit (e.g., card-stimming), pivot—signs or a device may reduce competing sensory pull.Involve your SLP/BCBA to individualize and to target functional requests first.Resources MentionedKasari Communication Intervention with SGDs (JAACAP RCT, 2014). PubMedSchlosser & Wendt Systematic Review (2008). PubMedMillar, Light, & Schlosser Meta-analysis (2006). PubMedFlippin, Reszka, & Watson PECS Meta-analysis (2010). PubMedGanz et al. AAC Meta-analysis (2014). PubMedAAP: “Beyond Spoken Words: AAC for Kids” (myth-busting).

In this episode, Ray Sclafani discusses the critical importance of having a well-defined compensation philosophy in financial advisory firms. He highlights the common pitfalls of compensation planning without a clear strategy and emphasizes the need for a structured approach that aligns pay with performance, culture, and profitability. The conversation covers the essential building blocks of a strong compensation philosophy, how to implement it effectively, and the impact it has on employee engagement and trust in leadership.Key TakeawaysMore than half the industry lacks a clear compensation strategy.Clear pay philosophies lead to lower turnover rates.Transparency in compensation processes fosters trust among employees.Regularly review and adapt your compensation philosophy to align with business changes.Involve team members in defining key performance metrics.A strong compensation philosophy reflects the firm's values and leadership style.For more information click here to visit the Best in the Business Blog.Find Ray and the ClientWise Team on the ClientWise website or LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeTo join one of the largest digital communities of financial advisors, visit exchange.clientwise.com.

This week's Inside Politics podcast with Hugh Linehan explores what a united Ireland would actually involve, Irish Times columnist Fintan O'Toole and Belfast Telegraph journalist Sam McBride have written a new book that addresses the case both for and against Irish unity.The structure of the book is unusual. Each journalist writes two long chapters: one arguing for unity, and one arguing against. O'Toole says the aim is to “give people a sense of what a decent argument looks like”. Too often, he suggests, the subject becomes a referendum about identity rather than a discussion of consequences. McBride agrees, saying most people “don't get beyond the binary of are you for or against it” even though “none of us know what it would mean”.Practical questions run through the book: healthcare integration, welfare harmonisation, education, taxation and policing. McBride stresses the range of possible constitutional models. Northern Ireland could remain semi-autonomous within a united Ireland; or the island could adopt a more federal structure. “We don't even know the most basic elements of this,” he says.Their conclusion is that everyone on the island will soon need to make an informed choice. And that requires informed understanding, not simplistic assumptions.For and Against a United Ireland is published by the Royal Irish Academy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In the latest episode of Parents & Professors Podcast, Dr. Marjorie Dorime-Williams and Dr. Michael Steven Williams dive deep into one of the most sensitive yet essential topics in co-parenting: finances.

Sam and Roop are back this week with a quick look ahead to 2026, where it's pretty clear that the biggest marketing shifts will build on what defined 2025, AI-assisted tools becoming more sophisticated and in more widespread use. The difference now? We're moving from experimentation to execution. The future is here.If 2025 was about learning to use AI, 2026 will be about proving it can actually deliver.So join the gang as they discuss three of the marketing trends they think will define 2026, including AI getting practical, AI ethics becoming a brand differentiator, and the rise of human-led content. Authenticity will outweigh polish, and subject matter experts, not just influencers, will define credibility. — Sam, Roop and ClaudiaTell us what you think!

Open Enrollment Reactivation: How Clinics Turn Past Patients into Six-Figure Months (with Jeremy Dupont) In this episode, Doc Danny Matta sits down with Jeremy Dupont (founder of Patch) to break down the most reliable campaign in cash PT: Open Enrollment. They cover simple and advanced playbooks for reactivating past patients, the offers that convert (and why), how to mobilize your team, and what realistic results look like for a growing clinic. Quick Ask Help us move toward our mission of adding $1B in cash-based services to physical therapy—share this episode with a clinician friend or post it on your Instagram stories and tag Danny. He'll reshare it! Episode Summary Low-hanging fruit: Reactivation beats cold lead gen. Past patients already know, like, and trust you—bring them back with a clear, time-bound offer. Timing that works: Run Open Enrollment mid-September to early November to avoid competing with Black Friday and holiday noise. Proven offers: Classic 12 for 10 pack (two “free” visits or a clear $-savings) and a higher-commitment 24 for 20 pack (often on a 3-pay plan) to grow LTV and stabilize MRR. Clinical cadence: Frame packages for twice-monthly visits (habit & outcomes), not “stretch it for a year.” Families often share bigger packs. FSA nudge: “Use it or lose it.” Encourage spending FSA dollars before year-end; HSA rolls, FSA often doesn't. Manual > fancy: Individual reach-outs (text, call, in-person) outperform gimmicks. Emails nurture; humans convert. Team power: Involve providers in personalized follow-ups. Incentives like a Christmas week off can crush goals. Results you can expect: A clinic with an owner + two staff PTs commonly sells 20–30 packages when they execute well. Lessons & Takeaways Offer clarity wins: Know exactly what you're selling and how you'll message savings and value. Context is king: Choose channels and scope based on capacity. Don't flood a full schedule. Nurture all year: A warm list responds; a cold list ignores asks. Give value before you ask. Plan the calendar: Open Enrollment → Black Friday → Holidays → New Year. Map campaigns, staffing, and hiring to demand. Mindset & Motivation It's an ecosystem: Reactivation is part of your hiring, space, continuity, and cashflow strategy—not a one-off promo. Follow-up is a skill: Segmented, human follow-up turns “maybe later” into revenue now. Give, give, ask: Consistent education builds reciprocity. Then earn the right to sell. What Works (Tactical) Simple path (solo or lean): Pick one clear offer (12 for 10), email your list, text/call past patients, and have providers invite current patients who are nearly out of visits. Advanced path (bigger teams): 5–6 email drip over 2–3 weeks, landing page specific to Open Enrollment (not your contact page), track opens/clicks and manually follow up with “warm” engagers. Personalization buckets: Current patients with 2–3 visits left, past patients who finished care recently, old leads who inquired but didn't buy—each gets tailored copy and a direct ask. Motivate the team: Group goals (e.g., hit X packages = Christmas week off). Time off > small cash bonuses. Avoid time wasters: Fancy video email “personalization” tools didn't move the needle. In-person and 1:1 messages did. Notable Quotes “Reactivation is the lowest hanging fruit—people who already trust you just need a clear reason to come back.” “If the last time you emailed your list was last Open Enrollment, don't expect fireworks.” “Less is more: pick the right window, keep the offer simple, and follow up like a pro.” Pro Tips for Owners Define the offer: Choose 12 for 10 or 24 for 20 (with 3-pay). Set the clinical cadence (2x/month). Own the landing page: Dedicated Open Enrollment page with a single CTA—don't dump traffic on a generic contact form. Mine your analytics: Build manual follow-up lists from people who opened multiple times or clicked the CTA. Right-size promotion: If you're at capacity, keep it tight (email + in-clinic). If you're feeding 6–7 PTs, amplify everywhere. Think families: Position bigger packs for active households who'll share visits across the year. Action Items Pick your Open Enrollment dates (target mid-Sept to early Nov) and one offer. Spin up a simple landing page with FAQs and a clear “Talk to Us” form. Segment lists: current (low visits left), past 3–6 mo, old leads. Draft 3 tailored scripts. Schedule a 5-email drip and build warm-engager follow-up tasks for your team. Set a team goal & reward (e.g., holiday week off) and daily scoreboard. Programs Mentioned PT Biz Part-Time to Full-Time 5-Day Challenge (Free): Get clear on your numbers, choose your path to full-time, and build a one-page plan. Resources & Links PT Biz Website Free 5-Day PT Biz Challenge Patch (Strategy Calls & Implementation) Follow Jeremy on Instagram: @_jeremydupont (marketing deep dives & Open Enrollment tips) About the Host: Doc Danny Matta—physical therapist, entrepreneur, and founder of PT Biz and Athlete's Potential. He's helped over 1,000 clinicians start, grow, and scale successful cash-based practices across the U.S.

In this episode of BRAVE COMMERCE, hosts Rachel Tipograph and Sarah Hofstetter speak with Andrea Steele, Area Vice President (AVP) eCommerce & Customer Marketing at Kraft Heinz.Andrea shares her framework for embedding digital and eCommerce capabilities across large organizations, and how true transformation starts upstream, in brand strategy, product development, and core business processes.She breaks down five steps to make digital change stick, from aligning on strategy to measuring success and celebrating wins. Andrea also discusses balancing change management with team wellbeing, fostering collaboration across functions, and driving long-term transformation while keeping pace with an industry and audiences that move at lightning speed.Key takeawaysLead with strategy: Tie every digital effort to a clear business goal before investing in tools.Embed early: Bake eCommerce into brand planning and product development to make change stick.Align cross-functionally: Involve legal, finance, and supply teams early to remove bottlenecks and speed up execution. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Shoot us a Text.Episode #1175: It's Q4 Strategy Week on The Automotive State of the Union! Paul and Kyle sit down with Patrick Abad of Beaver Toyota and Mazda to talk about leading your team through the holidays — when emotions run high, sales run hotter, and leadership matters most.Show Notes:The holiday season brings both family time and the busiest sales stretch of the year — and great leaders have to balance both.Involve your people in event planning (like Black Friday or end-of-year sales) so they feel ownership, not obligation.Find the influencers in each department — not necessarily the managers — and include them in decision-making.When you go for a holiday event or promotion, go all-in. Half-efforts kill momentum and trust.Give your team breathing room earlier in the month so they can give their all when it counts.“You can't ask your people to give everything at the end of the year if you haven't given them anything along the way.” — Patrick AbadJoin Paul J Daly and Kyle Mountsier every morning for the Automotive State of the Union podcast as they connect the dots across car dealerships, retail trends, emerging tech like AI, and cultural shifts—bringing clarity, speed, and people-first insight to automotive leaders navigating a rapidly changing industry.Get the Daily Push Back email at https://www.asotu.com/ JOIN the conversation on LinkedIn at: https://www.linkedin.com/company/asotu/

Are you ready to see how AI is transforming sales forever? In this episode of the CPO Rising Series hosted by Products That Count Resident CPO Renee Niemi, , Involve.ai CPO Saumya Bhatnagar will be speaking on the future of sales development and AI-powered SDR agents. Saumya shares her groundbreaking insights on how artificial intelligence is reshaping sales strategies, reducing manual work, and enabling teams to focus on relationship-building and strategic growth.

Clinical psychologist Dr. Dana Harron joins me to discuss how couples can approach difficult conversations about eating disorders with honesty, care, and mutual respect. Together we explore what makes these conversations emotionally charged, how to prepare for them, and how partners can support each other without taking on the role of therapist or monitor. Dr. Harron offers practical guidance from her book Loving Someone With an Eating Disorder and her work at Monarch Wellness & Psychotherapy. You'll learn what helps these conversations go more smoothly, how to create safety before and after hard talks, and when to bring in a therapist who understands both eating disorders and couples dynamics. Content Caution This episode discusses eating disorders, disordered eating behaviors, and relationship stress that can arise during recovery. Some listeners may find certain details activating. Please take care of yourself while listening, and pause or skip ahead as needed. About Our Guest Dana Harron, PsyD is a clinical psychologist and founder of Monarch Wellness & Psychotherapy in Washington, D.C. She specializes in trauma, parenting, and eating disorders. She is the author of Loving Someone With an Eating Disorder: Supporting, Nurturing, and Connecting With Your Partner and is currently writing Parenting Beyond Trauma. You can find her work at monarchwellness.com and on Instagram at @monarchwellnesspsychotherapy. What You'll Learn How to prepare before opening up about your eating disorder to a partner Why I-statements and emotional honesty matter more than having all the answers The best times and places for difficult conversations about food and body image What to say when your partner asks questions you cannot answer yet How to plan a follow-up discussion and build routine check-ins Why post-conversation decompression helps the nervous system reset What couples therapy can look like when one partner struggles with an eating disorder How to balance support and autonomy without creating a power differential Conversation Highlights Dr. Harron shares how her book was inspired by the lack of resources for partners of adults with eating disorders. Tips for partners on when to speak, when to listen, and how to avoid meal-time conversations about food behaviors. The importance of humor, co-regulation, and small moments of levity in recovery. How systemic patterns in relationships can reinforce eating disorder behaviors. Why “honesty” in recovery is about emotional congruence, not just full disclosure. Key Takeaways for Couples Prime the moment: Let your partner know a sensitive topic is coming and ask for what you need—listening, reassurance, or space. Avoid high-stress times: Skip conversations around meals or when one partner is emotionally depleted. Plan ongoing conversations: Short, consistent check-ins build predictability and reduce tension. Use shared recovery language: I-statements and gentle curiosity create safety and understanding. Involve professionals: A therapist or dietitian trained in eating disorders can guide communication and prevent relational burnout. Related Episodes You're Not Too Much: Setting Boundaries & Asking for What You Need in Eating Disorder Recovery on Apple & Spotify. "Boundaries, Therapy While Black, & Eating Disorders" on Apple & Spotify Work With Dr. Marianne If you or your partner are navigating eating disorder recovery and want support that honors both of your needs, I offer therapy in California, Texas, and Washington, D.C., and global coaching for couples and individuals. My approach is neurodivergent-affirming, sensory-attuned, trauma-informed, and consent-based. Learn more or schedule a consultation at drmariannemiller.com. Learn With Me Explore my ARFID & Selective Eating Course to understand sensory challenges, reduce distress around meals, and improve communication within your household. Episode Credits Host: Dr. Marianne Miller, LMFT Guest: Dr. Dana Harron, Monarch Wellness & Psychotherapy (@monarchwellnesspsychotherapy) If this episode resonates, share it with a partner, therapist, or loved one who may benefit from a more compassionate way to talk about eating disorders and recovery.

In this episode of Honest Money, Warren Ingram and Pieter de Villiers discusses essential financial considerations for new parents. The conversation covers a checklist of must-haves for parents, including income protection, the importance of having a will, understanding life insurance needs, managing short-term risks, and preparing for the financial impact of parenthood.TakeawaysParents must have a financial checklist in place.Income protection is essential for family security.A will is crucial for asset distribution after death.Life insurance is a cost-effective way to protect your family.Medical expenses can increase significantly with children.Proactive planning is better than reactive measures.Teaching children financial responsibility is vital.Involve children in financial discussions early on.Understanding your insurance needs is key to financial security.Budgeting for a child's future is necessary. Learn more about how Curate Investments can help you here.Send us a textHave a question for Warren? Don't forget to voice note your questions through our WhatsApp chat on (+27)79 807 8162 and you could be featured in one of our episodes. Follow us on Twitter, LinkedIn and subscribe to our YouTube channel for more Financial Freedom content: @HonestMoneyPod

This week on Newsroom Robots, host Nikita Roy sits down with Vilas Dhar, President of the Patrick J. McGovern Foundation, one of the world's foremost philanthropies advancing AI for public good. Dhar leads a $1.5 billion endowment that has committed over $500 million to projects spanning climate action, public health, education, and democratic governance. He has served on the UN Secretary-General's High-Level Advisory Body on AI, is the U.S. government's nominated expert to the Global Partnership on AI, and was named a World Economic Forum Young Global Leader in 2022.Across philanthropy, policy, and technology, Dhar carries one central conviction: technology may accelerate, but the future of journalism and society must remain human-centered. Dhar introduces a three-part framework for ethical AI deployment (responsible data, clear boundaries, and transparency) and explains how to translate abstract principles into concrete newsroom decisions. He unpacks his LISA framework (Listen, Involve, Share, Assess) for audience-centered AI design, and tackles the hardest questions facing newsroom leaders: Should we buy or build AI tools? How do we balance innovation with environmental sustainability? What happens to human creativity when machines can create?But perhaps most powerfully, Dhar challenges a deeply held belief in journalism: that media organizations can remain ‘just' media companies in an AI-driven world. There is no way to be a media organization today without also being a technology organization, he argues, and that shift requires not just new tools, but a fundamental reckoning with organizational identity and purpose. This epiosde covers:00:31 – Introducing Vilas Dhar and his human-centered AI vision: Why technology should serve dignity, equity, and democracy—not just profit02:17 – The three-part framework for ethical AI: Responsible data, clear boundaries, and transparency as actionable principles07:08 – Questions leaders must ask before deploying AI: Who's involved? Who's accountable? Who has editorial control over AI use?10:16 – The LISA framework: Listen, Involve, Share, Assess to turn AI experimentation into behind-the-scenes reporting that builds public trust13:30 – Navigating ethical dilemmas around AI-generated content13:51 – The three phases of newsroom AI adoption18:54 – Why "we're not a tech company" no longer works23:12 – Organizational reckoning in an 18-month transformation cycle25:23 – Why smaller, targeted models and collective action matter more than massive systems29:14 – Fighting misinformation with AI34:13 – What journalism is missing compared to other industries37:01 – The evolving role of human creativity and agency39:33 – The McGovern Foundation's North Star44:23 – How Vilas uses AI personallySign up for the Newsroom Robots newsletter for episode summaries and insights from host Nikita Roy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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