Conversations With Yaya

The only people that are pissed that you set boundaries are the ones that benefit from taking advantage of you when you didn't have any. PROTECT YA NECK!Is it hard for you to set boundaries?

Let's kick the month off right, discussing a topic so near and dear to my heart. This month every Wednesday a song and conversation with yaya will be centered around the topic of Domestic Violence. This is an intro topic/episode, but let's discuss holding your loved one accountable when h/she is the abuser... I wrote a book about it.... Full Circle, A Renewed History. Available on my website www.byayanaellis.com or Amazon.

Woman to Woman, Shirley was doing way too much!The clothes on his back.The car he drives.Girl...get a grip!Leave your comments below.

You can be addicted to a certain kind of sadness. You deserve so much better than what has happened to you and you know it, so what are you going to do about it because newsflash:NOBODY'S COMING TO SAVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think Mary J. Blige said it so perfectly. Every lyric to this song is everything that needs to be said when it comes down to your life and how you show up in the world.When you're feeling down, you should never fake it! Leave a comment!

Say man... I know there are some things that are beyond our control and I'm praying for you all, praying for myself too. But outside of those things we all know that life got hands! BUT FIGHT BACK!!!!!!!! Abeg! Now go have the day you deserve.

Fucc You vs Forgiveness:Dare I say that I've reached a point in my life where I'm 90% sure that forgiving people is overrated. Folks know what they be doin!

Love after Domestic Violence is no easy fete. Lets talk about this like adults.

Reconciliation after being abandoned by a friend or loved one after you leave your abusive relationship. Should you or would you forgive them?Let's talk like adults.Full Circle-A Renewed History available on Byayanaellis.com and Amazon.

The Cassie and Diddy case as it's been dubbed has of course brought up some thoughts about the backlash women get when they decide to tell their side of the story and why they stay silent for so long. Full Circle - A Renewed History available on byayanaellis.com and Amazon

Can we all agree that Chante was shady as hell in this song? lolIt's still eff Domestic Violence but let's have some fun!

Lets talk like adults.Carin had serious daddy issues and it affected her choice in men for a while.What about you? Do you think the way you're raised affects your decisions as an adult as it pertains to your personal life?Full Circle - A Renewed History available on Byayanaellis.com and Amazon

With knowledge and wisdom comes understanding. Let's talk like adults about the "why now" question when it pertains to partner abuse

let's discuss what happens the first time your abuser ... abuses you...and you forgive go back.let's talk like adults. based off my book Full Circle - A Renewed History available on Byayanaellis.com or Amazon

I saved the best for last. These women gave me my flowers and turned my booksigning into a much needed love fest that I didn't realize I needed.I heard youI RECEIVE IT❤️ I will play this video whenever I feel like giving up. Thank God for solid women.

Based off of my book Full Circle - A Renewed History, let's talk like adults about loving and supporting someone through their distress, shall we?It's not easy watching a loved one be in a relationship that isn't positive or healthy, especially if it's an abusive one. So, what do you do? How do you deal?

Why did I choose to remix a book from 15 years ago?Press Play To Find Out!Full Circle - A Renewed History available on Byayanaellis.com

I just released my 10th book based on my life ...back when I was in an abusive relationship....babyyyy last week was all church so I didn't even get to dive into the conversation like I thought I would but it's all good!!!We're gonna dive in now!Available on www.byayanaellis.com

Hey!So I wrapped up behind the books with my 9th book Daughters with chapters No Happy Holidays, Count On Me, Dear Mama, Whoop Shoop Shoop, Faded Pictures and Gotta Find My Way Back.Naomi is in deep deep deep trouble and if all else fails, Shantel will never ever forgive Jameela. But Shantel has other things going on and her mother has some serious questions to be answered!!!It may be too late for anyone in this book to reconcile with one another because the pain and the wounds are too deep.But that's what sequels are for!!Subscribe to my website to be the first to know about new book releases, new podcast episodes and new merch!www.byayanaellis.com Oh! Download the Daughters book Soundtrack!Linktr.ee/byayanaellis

What's done in the dark eventually comes to light over the next few chapters.When Jameela's man is finally exposed in front of everyone, he claps back by revealing conversations they had during "pillow talk" costing her, to lose her most meaningful relationships.Shantel and Yusef struggle with the reality of their past coming back.Naomi finds herself alone and in a dark scary space in life.

Naomi reaches a turning point in her personal life and decides to end things with one of her sex partners after an uncomfortable encounter

Author Ayana Ellis discusses the premise of her 9th book Daughters and catches you up on the chapters she's discussed so far.Daughters available on AmazonSubscribe to Byayanaellis.com for updates on new releases and merch.

CH 14: Somethin Somethin Just Aint RightJameelas eyes is now open to what her girls were saying in earlier chapters. Shes livid when her man doesn't come home after a night out with the boys.CH 15 I ApologizeThe girls reluctantly meet Jameela for brunch to hear her out after the disrespect she spewed over dinner months ago. Boundaries are set and true emotions are revealed.

Hey y'all hey! Here's what you'll find out in Chapters 11-13 1. Somebody spun the block and got married. 2. We finally meet Jameela's "man" Gerrod and boy is he something else!!! 3. Nasty Work has happened and sets the tone for what's to come! Daughters by Ayana Ellis available on Amazon

In this chapter we meet Jameelas parents and the very reason why she is the way that she is with men. But is it just a cop out?

Chapter 8: Stranger In My House Shantel confronts Yusef about his infidelities but after a while she takes him back but at what cost? Time goes by and after a get together at her home, Shantel comes across some deplorable information in Yusefs laptop. Chapter 9: Friends Naomi and Jameela show up at Shantels house for moral support but in a surprising twist they blame her for Yusefs cheating. Naomi suspects Yusef had something deeper that he's hiding.

My apologies for the light static. So! Jameela finally makes time for the girls but her attitude sucks! Naomi had some fun We meet Jameelas husband and her parents, both her father and husband are addicts. But what kind of addicts? Daughters by Ayana Ellis available on Amazon

Naomi falls into a deep depression after being blindsided by Cory. Shantel and Jameela step in to support and remind her of her worth.

Let me take you on a journey through my 9th book Daughters, available on ⁠Amazon⁠, get your copy today! Naomi comes home from a girls trip to an empty home, her suspicions confirmed, but she has no idea how deep it goes.

Let me take you on a journey through my 9th book Daughters, available on ⁠Amazon⁠, get your copy today! Naomi goes on a work-related trip to Miami where she has a whirlwind affair with Cory...but she has her suspicions, so she seeks advice from the men in her life who assure her that she's over thinking.

Let me take you on a journey through my 9th book Daughters, available on Amazon, get your copy today! Naomi is late for a standing mani/pedi appt with the girls because of a rendezvous. Shantel comes off as judgmental toward Naomi's sexcapades. Jameela doesn't show up at all once again, causing Naomi's and Shantel to question the motives of the new man she's with.

Yaya and friends discuss getting older and how it affects your vagina. #Shenanigans Enjoy!

Let's discuss if the 90-day rule is fool proof.

When you haven't heard from a friend or a loved one in a while and they ask, "We good? Everything alright with us?" That's a red flag.... at least to me it is...

Our need to be loved, heard and seen by those that simply does not want to give that to us needs to be studied.

Sometimes we can be overprotective and extra passionate about our loved one's affairs. But how much is too much...and when does it become an issue?

Me and some friends got together a few years back to discuss the benefits of dating a "Good Guy" who for the sake content we named "Earl" and the "Bad Boy" who we named "Ty'Kwan" What do you guys think of the Good Guy/Bad Boy debacle? This conversation is straight up shenanigans. Enjoy!

New York Minute w/Yaya Stop building walls to see who will jump over it to see about you. Weez tired boss!!!

It's not that they're acting funny. They don't fuc* with you the way that you fuc* with them! Press Play!

The messed-up thing about finding out someone is surveillance and not support is that you only find out after you've shared so much private and precious information with them.

New York Minute with Yaya What's the point of having soldiers if you can't use 'em? - Rico Camron in Paid In Full

Support the Elevation of those you love and stop taking it personal. You might learn something.

Gossip dies when it hits a wise person ears! Stop people in their tracks when they come to you with what someone told them about you!

What do you do when you have a gift that you feel bad about using?

It's not always about cutting people off. Maybe you and your friends need a do over. Why not be the one to get it done!

This was one of my first episodes and I enjoyed having a conversation with myself out loud for you all. LOL I plan to do more of that so stay locked in and tell a friend!

I went behind the lyrics of Silly before but I don't think you heard me. I've also renamed the song. Listen to the full video to find out the new name. Ladies we gotta do better! When you no better you do better!

I loooooooooooooooooove Frankie Beverly and Maze. Happy People, followed by We Are One are two of my favorite songs in the world! But come on yawl. You know Frankie did this lady so wrong the way he broke up with her at the BBQ. Let's go behind the lyrics!

My friends and I were having a candid conversation about how far we were willing to go for love. Can you be a pick me, even if you are married? When it comes to sex, is there something you are not willing to do for love? This is a loaded convo. Let's go behind the lyrics!

My friends and I tell stories of when we had enough of no love. Do you remember when you had enough?

This was one of my first round of episodes two years ago. Bringing it back for newbies to Behind The Lyrics. Inga rapped the ghetto girl gospel, period. Holla at me when you ready to spend or I ain't fuc*n with you. Let's Go Behind The Lyrics of Foxy Brown's classic f/Total. I Can't Rock With You No More!