Conversations With Yaya

Sometimes we just want the people in our lives to match our energy and be just as pissed as we are about something. There's a time and a place for positivity and support. I know you have my back and that you want this situation to turn around for me but sometimes your loved one just wants you to get mad with them!!!

Social media will have you believing that you can't trust anyone. I refuse to believe that. WHERE ARE YOUR PEOPLE?

I hear you complaining a lot about how messed up everyone treats you except for yourself.What about you? When are you going to take accountability for what you allow?

We all like to think we are special, but when you truly study someone's character you will quickly realize that they will treat you exactly how they treat everyone else, be it good or bad.So, if you ever been around someone that talks about someone as soon as they get up from the table or tells all of their business when they're upset with them, please believe you're next if you're not on the menu already.Don't let that go over your head.

Be good to yourself. There's no guarantee anyone else will.Protect your peace, honor your needs, and treat yourself with the same care you give everybody else.

I don't think healing makes you mean, I just think it makes you mean what you say. Let's talk about it nicely.

Some people will spend a lifetime on healing and deeply focused on self-improvement that they forget to live in the present. Don't let that go over your head.

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Be mindful of folks running to tell you what someone else said about you under the guise that they're looking out for you.Some folks are messy and want to see you hurt, more importantly they're too much of a coward to tell you how they feel about you, so they hide behind telling you what other people feel about you. Don't let that go over your head.

Mind your business sometimes! Some people just want attention for their situation not actual guidance and sound advice. You will be left feeling drained while they skip off into the sunset in blissful ignorance.

Apologize to yourself the same way you'd ask for forgiveness if you hurt someone else. You deserve your own grace, too. Forgive yourself for not knowing better before you learned better.

When someone tells you that you should be humble or when someone passive aggressively casts doubt on your confidence, please believe that he, she or they are not your tribe.

Talk To Me Nice Podcast hosted by Ayana Ellis is like therapy set to music.

If someone that hurt you spun the block and admitted to what they did and they sincerely apologize, is that enough to forgive? Discernment is always key in these situations but let's talk about it real quick.

They say healing makes you mean, I say healing makes you mean what you say.Don't worry about defending your name in rooms where people are hell bent on misunderstanding you.Be the Villain in their story and be a damn good one!

Friendship breakups are rough but sometimes necessary. Let's talk about it.

You will hear it time and time again that when you reach a certain age, you have no fux to give. I used to think it was a myth, well I'll be damned it's true!Press Play.

Sometimes you have to sit back and let people do what they need to do on their own. Alot of people really do need your help and advice while others just want attention and they end up wasting your time.Know when it's time to step back and mind your business.

We're at the big age now where you should be way past making these kinds of decisions. I'm not here to judge but ...baby what is you doing?Let's chat!

I have my theory on my mean girls turn into mean women. Let's talk about it shall we?

Sometimes we get so caught up in life, surviving, living, healing etc that we forget to live!!!!!!Next thing you know, years done went by and you don't even know who you are any more.But then one day you wake upAnd everything you went through is beautiful. If you can relate, this episode is for you.

Your life is worthy of praise, no matter how big or small the accomplishment. No matter who's clapping for you or not, make sure to clap for yourself, always!

Did you know that it's a scientific fact that the woman you hang around the most can affect you physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and financially?Let's have a ponderosa about the benefits of having great women around you and how you reaction around women says more about you than it says about them.

When you pray to God, "Show Me How Good It Can Get" be prepared for what he's going to give you but most importantly what he's going to take away. Certain paths or meant to be traveled alone. Come and talk to me!

Talk To Me Nice is unsolicited advice with music as the catalyst. Come join this party of one with Author, Ayana Ellis, Wednesdays at 4pm.

The way this generation finds it so funny when people get their heart broken and how they villainize the victim in the situation, is delusional and vile to me. I thought about this as I watched the entire internet tear Meg the Stallion down after she got her heart publicly broken. I have a theory....Press Play...

I'm giving this podcast thing one more try! And you know what? Hell yeah, I love it here! Join my party of one as I combine music and advice to get us through this thing called life! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts and Youtube! Tell A Friend!

Inspired by the horrible news of Tina Campbell's (Mary Mary) husband Teddy filing for divorce after 25 years a slave, I want to talk about why forgiveness is overrated and closure needs to stop being romanticized. When someone violates me, they become Persona Non Grata, period.

As a survivor and advocate for Domestic Violence Awareness, it's breaking my heart how week after week a black woman is being murdered by her partner. What in the world is going on? Please God....Week after week there's been a black woman in the news.... I'm beyond wrecked about this. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

I'm discussing Tina Campbell of Mary Mary's situation. If you're unaware, her husband of 25 years filed for divorce after she forgave him for cheating on her multiple times over the span of 25 years. Let's discuss the less respect you get the more you forgive. And why closure isn't necessary in most scenarios. Come and talk to me on Wednesdays for the full episode dropping at 4pm est!

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The Pivot is real, it's scary, it takes confidence in yourself to reinvent yourself repeatedly.If you have a gift, fall in love with the pivot. Do it again and again and again!!!!I've found a million ways to pivot my career and this podcast, and I think I landed on my square for real this time. Thank you to all 2 of you that's been subscribed and listening. This time around I'm holding myself accountable to be consistent, because I have so much to offer and I have so much to share with you all. I'm excited for the new energy I'm bringing and my outlook and perspectives on life as a whole.  So, let's get into some things! Press play for my P.O.V on what the Pivot means to me and how it can possibly help you. If you can relate, leave a comment but remember...Talk to me nice!  

I was inspired by an interview that I saw with Denzel Washington and Spike Lee and was enamored by how Denzel stood on business about not needing validation from anything or anyone. I found the perfect song to fit the conversation because there's a song for everything. Here's one about letting go of the bullshi* and setting boundaries.If you enjoyed this, come again and bring a friend! Books by me on byayanaellis.com

"Don't nobody want no broke heart, don't nobody want no two-time loser... (oh nooo...wooh!)"Let's talk about letting go and letting things flow....(had my music up too loud, I was hype, please excuse the quality when the music plays)www.byayanaellis.com

Have you ever hit rock bottom so hard you had no hope of ever getting back up? Have enough courage to love one more time...and one more time again.-Maya Angelou

Brandy said, "I'm calling you now just to make it through, won't you hear my plea?"If you have a loved one in an abusive relationship, please do your best to be kind and supportive. If you or a loved one is in danger, please get to a safe location and call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFEVisit byayanaellis.com or Amazon for a copy of my 10th release, Full Circle - A Renewed History. My story of triumph and survival after leaving an abusive relationship.

I love this song and fell in love with it even more when I learned that Candi Staton made composed it after leaving an abusive relationship. Visit byayanaellis.com or Amazon for a copy of my 10th release, Full Circle - A Renewed History. My story of triumph and survival after leaving an abusive relationship. Byayanaellis.com Come again and bring a friend!

Say man...I get it, I do. But there has to some SOMETHING in your life that you are thankful for and feel blessed to have. Try focusing more on those things and nothing else. Don't let life whoop your azz.Leave a comment with what you feel most blessed about!!

When you're in an abusive relationship, even when it's all said and done, set yourself free and tell YOUR STORY. Don't let it fester or sit in your nervous system. AIR IT OUT!Full Circle - A Renewed Historywww.byayanaellis.com

This is my favorite motivational feel-good song. Because when the people around me are being azzholes, I've got myself...to remind me of love!Make sure you remind yourself that you are worthy of love YOU ARE LOVE!!!!!

For those of you that have a loved one in an abusive relationship, never, ever stop pouring into her. I know it's hard, I know her actions may make it seem as if it's all falling on deaf ears, but I promise you...she hears you.

Is it possible for a man and woman to have a solid FRIENDSHIP, if they were once in a sexual relationship?

The only people that are pissed that you set boundaries are the ones that benefit from taking advantage of you when you didn't have any. PROTECT YA NECK!Is it hard for you to set boundaries?

Let's kick the month off right, discussing a topic so near and dear to my heart. This month every Wednesday a song and conversation with yaya will be centered around the topic of Domestic Violence. This is an intro topic/episode, but let's discuss holding your loved one accountable when h/she is the abuser... I wrote a book about it.... Full Circle, A Renewed History. Available on my website www.byayanaellis.com or Amazon.

Woman to Woman, Shirley was doing way too much!The clothes on his back.The car he drives.Girl...get a grip!Leave your comments below.

You can be addicted to a certain kind of sadness. You deserve so much better than what has happened to you and you know it, so what are you going to do about it because newsflash:NOBODY'S COMING TO SAVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think Mary J. Blige said it so perfectly. Every lyric to this song is everything that needs to be said when it comes down to your life and how you show up in the world.When you're feeling down, you should never fake it! Leave a comment!

Say man... I know there are some things that are beyond our control and I'm praying for you all, praying for myself too. But outside of those things we all know that life got hands! BUT FIGHT BACK!!!!!!!! Abeg! Now go have the day you deserve.

Fucc You vs Forgiveness:Dare I say that I've reached a point in my life where I'm 90% sure that forgiving people is overrated. Folks know what they be doin!

Love after Domestic Violence is no easy fete. Lets talk about this like adults.

Reconciliation after being abandoned by a friend or loved one after you leave your abusive relationship. Should you or would you forgive them?Let's talk like adults.Full Circle-A Renewed History available on Byayanaellis.com and Amazon.