Dear Young Person

Cutting people off is trendy.But maturity knows how to navigate people.In this episode of Dear Young Person, we talk about something uncomfortable: not everyone you fall out with is a villain. Sometimes they're just human.You are the villain in someone's story, too.We unpack:The difference between boundaries and bitternessWhy “protecting my peace” can sometimes mask unforgivenessWhy cutting people off should be a last option, not a first reactionHow to change access without creating enemiesWhy burning bridges can quietly cost you future opportunitiesPeople can be difficult without being dangerous. Discernment is knowing the difference.If you've been quick to cut people off, this conversation might challenge you.#DearYoungPerson #Boundaries #HealthyRelationships #EmotionalIntelligence #ConflictResolution #PersonalGrowth #ProtectYourPeace #ChristianLiving #Forgiveness #SelfDevelopment

Over-productivity is real. And it can quietly destroy you.In this episode of Dear Young Person, I talk about something I had to learn the hard way: you can hit your goals, tick every box, and still be deeply exhausted.For a long time, I was running on my to-do list. I loved the feeling of productivity — finishing tasks, achieving goals, moving forward. On the outside, it looked like progress.But my body wasn't having it.My mental health started struggling.And I realised I wasn't just productive — I was overproductive.In this conversation, we unpack:

Some decisions don't just affect a season—they can redirect your entire life.In this episode of Dear Young Person, we talk about how to make life-changing decisions and how to know whether you're following your gut—or following God.Choices around marriage, career, faith, relationships, and where you live can either build your future or quietly derail it. Yet many young people are pressured to decide quickly, emotionally, or based on vibes alone.“Experience is the best teacher” doesn't mean it has to be your experience.This episode is for the young person who:Feels the weight of big decisionsIs afraid of getting it wrong Wants to trust God but also be practicalNeeds clarity without panicBecause faith isn't passive. And trusting God doesn't mean abandoning wisdom.If you're standing at a crossroads, this conversation is for you.

Before you take that job, you need clarity, not just excitement.In this episode of Dear Young Person, we talk about why accepting a job offer without asking the right questions can cost you your peace, growth, and long-term direction.So many young people are grateful just to be chosen—but gratitude shouldn't replace discernment. A job is more than a salary; it's where you'll spend most of your time, energy, and mental bandwidth.In this conversation, we unpack the career questions you should always ask before saying yes, including:How this role contributes to the organisation's missionHow performance and KPIs are measuredWhether professional development and growth are actually supportedPolicies around sick days, vacation, and flexibilityHow managers support, motivate, and respond to failureHow this role interacts with customers, users, and other teamsWe also talk about one of the most overlooked questions of all:What will I be expected to accomplish in the first 90 days?This episode is for the young person who:Keeps saying yes out of fear or pressureHas accepted roles that didn't align with their valuesWants to grow without burning outIs learning that boundaries apply to careers, tooBecause it's okay not to know exactly what you want yet—but you should always know what you don't want.Before you take that job, pause. Ask questions. Choose wisely.

Saying yes to everything isn't kindness; it's self-abandonment.In this episode of Dear Young Person, we talk about why constantly bending over backwards for others often comes from an unhealthy need to be liked, and how that pattern slowly erodes your peace, identity, and joy.I share my own struggle with being a “yes-man”, saying yes out of fear of disappointing people, overextending myself, and ending up unhappy while everyone else stayed comfortable. Over time, I learned that setting boundaries isn't selfish, it's necessary.This episode is for you if you:feel guilty saying noovercommit out of fear of rejectionare exhausted but don't know how to stopthink boundaries make you a bad personIf you've been saying yes at the cost of yourself, this episode is for you.

AI can do almost everything now, but should it be doing your thinking too?In a time where AI can write, design, edit, and think on our behalf, it's easy to slowly outsource our minds without even realising it. Convenience is rising, but so is mental laziness. Fulfilment, clarity, and meaning don't come from consumption alone; they come from creation.In this conversation, I talk about why everyone is a Creative, even if you don't paint, sing, or design. Creativity isn't limited to the arts; it's how you think, how you solve problems, how you interpret the world, and how you express what lives inside you.I also get honest about my own experience using AI for work and personal projects. I started using it to write, and slowly became so reliant on it that I used it for everything. AI is a powerful tool, but when it becomes a crutch, it dulls your instincts. In a world where algorithms can do most things, we have to ask ourselves: Should you really be outsourcing your thinking, your curiosity, your voice?This episode challenges you to make a conscious effort to read and to create, whether privately in a journal or publicly online. The goal isn't visibility; it's vitality. Creation is how you keep your mental muscles active, how you stay human in an automated age.If you've been feeling unfulfilled, uninspired, or mentally numb, this might be your sign. Create something, anything and do it intentionally.#Creativity #AIandCreativity #CreateMore #FutureOfWork #ArtificialIntelligence #ContentCreation #CreativeThinking #AItools #CreatorsInTheAIera #ThinkForYourself #DigitalMinimalism

Everyone wants to be seen, but your beginning phase is not for lobbying; it's for locking in.In a world that rewards noise, speed, and visibility, it's easy to feel behind when others seem to be moving faster. This episode is a reminder that slow and steady still wins, and that consistency compounds, even when it looks like nothing is happening.In this conversation, I talk about why so many young people are tempted to lobby too early, chasing access, validation, and proximity, when what they actually need is focus, depth, and discipline.So many people quit quietly, not because they weren't capable, but because the process felt too long. If you're still standing, still trying, still showing up, that alone is worth honouring.This episode is a call to:Keep your head down Stay in your laneLock in on your craftTrust the processBecause when you truly lock in, you don't need to lobby. You become the kind of person the right people want to talk to.If you're in your beginning phase, this message is for you.

The Dear Young Person by EhnTee podcast is backkkk. It's been quite a hiatus, but we're back and better. Here's a little update on what I've been up to since the last episode

In this episode, I talk to Pelumi Oshilagun aka Posh about what life is living with your parents and not doing a conventional 9-5 job. You will enjoy this one, trust me. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dearyoungperson/message

I recently went on a Girls' Trip to the Benin Republic and while we had a swell time sightseeing, relaxing by the beach, and trying new dishes in a foreign country, we spoke about the fate of young people in Nigeria, the need to vote, and to japa or not to japa. Enjoy! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dearyoungperson/message

Your 20s are considered the building phase of your life, but what happens when you get overwhelmed? Those moments when you hit a rut and can't see a way forward. No matter what has happened, what will happen, and what happens, Dear young person, you're doing well. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dearyoungperson/message

Adulting is such an arduous process made even harder when you're broke. The worst part is that you can't get out of it. You practically have to adult till you die. How do you navigate this terrain? How do you stay sane? What works? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dearyoungperson/message

Life itself is full of situations that will cause you to blame yourself at some point. It could be something you did wrong or something that wasn't even your fault to start with. Regardless of what the case may be, be sure to extend grace to yourself. Dear young person, learn to forgive yourself. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dearyoungperson/message

Whoosh! This was a year we won't forget in a hurry. Here's an audio recap of what happened to/for me this year. Hope you enjoy listening. See you next year! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dearyoungperson/message

You have to critically analyze your relationships (platonic and otherwise) so you know how much of yourself you're giving and how much of your energy is being matched. As you try to give your best in relationships, be sure that it's being reciprocated. A well that is constantly drained and not refilled WILL run dry. You don't want to be a dry well, do you? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dearyoungperson/message

The people you walk with today will go a long way in determining your trajectory for the future. Are you creating relevant networks? Or are you just "going with the flow"? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dearyoungperson/message

The things you desire won't come to you just because you desired them. Life will only give you what you're willing to fight for. In other words, the diem won't Carpe itself. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dearyoungperson/message

A new mantra, a word to keep you going in this trying time. Whatever it is to you, one thing holds true: For this life ehn, God no go shame us! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dearyoungperson/message

Life can get overwhelming and you can be stressed beyond human imagination BUT find time to rest, cause life is short. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dearyoungperson/message

When someone sees you, really sees you and lets you know that, does it spur you to do more? Are you encouraged when someone acknowledges the good work you're doing? Are you the type of person that encourages other people? Let's get into it

We keep struggling to achieve goals that we've set by ourselves to put pressure on ourselves. Life is short, quit the rat race. Stop and smell the roses. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dearyoungperson/message

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