Did It Feel Good?

Savannah says goodbye, for now! The girls catch up and check in before Savannah has a baby (VERY soon) and goes on maternity leave! This episode gets deeper then expected when Sam brings up both her place in Savannah's  life once the baby is here and the podcast's place. It's an episode we hope everyone listens to for the important reminder that just because your life is changing drastically doesn't mean the people and things you love have to go away. 

We're tired babes, there's a lot going on. Savannah is v pregnant, and booked and BUSY trying to get her life together before a baby shows up. Sam is surviving a sex injury. Also we're going on a girls trip this weekend! We're keeping it light this week (but we do touch briefly on the SCOTUS draft decision leak re: overturning Roe v Wade) and talk about some of our most and least favorite looks from the Met Gala. We also spend some time analyzing Kim K's particular sphere of celebrity, Marilyn Monroe, and why we probably shouldn't be celebrating disordered eating to fit into a 50 year old dress for a 10 minute walk down a red carpet. 

TW: domestic violenceThis week we're catching up! Savannah gives pregnancy updates and vacation plans, Sam fills us in on work and the girls talk about a very exciting concert they're going to in September. Then it's all things Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. We talk about the defamation case, the op-ed, Amber's psych eval, and the effect this case has on victims of DV everywhere. 

This week we talk about how fucking random co-star is and all about the infamous queen of provocation, Kenya Moore. Even if you don't love Real Housewives like we do we promise this is still a great listen, especially if you struggle to understand why grown adults act out for seemingly no reason at all (spoiler alert: it's because their inner child is DRIVING the bus, honey).

This week Sam tries to save her basil plant and Savannah hired a doula. Also Will Smith slapped Chris Rock at the Oscars and it was definitely NOT a joke. We talk about what we mean when we talk about violence, the long history of black women being ridiculed for their hair, and why we (as a society) can't move on from the infidelity in Will and Jada's marriage. We also talk about how white people, especially white women, understand interpersonal violence through the lens of privilege and why our gut reaction to things like “the slap” might be counterproductive to antiracism work/allyship. As always when we talk about systemic racism we do our very best not to continue harmful narratives and approach these conversations with our own privilege, identity, and position in mind. We don't always get it right but we always want to be accountable, always reach out if you think we can have these conversations in a better way. 

This week we're still talking about Kim and Kanye. We have THOUGHTS after Kanye publicly released the name of his kid's school (hi, this is so dangerous!). We continue the conversation about why rich men are allowed to get away with so publicly abusing the women they're with (spoiler alert: misogyny), have a side bar about Tori Lanez and Megan the Stallion, and have an important conversation about systemic racism. 

It's a long one because we've got a LOT to say after two weeks off. We talk about how spirit breaking it is to book travel using flight credit with your credit card company, best by dates on food (including a questionable yogurt smoothie Sam tried to drink), an update on podcast content, and FINALLY we delve into the Kim & Kanye divorce. We talk a lot about mental health and emotional abuse and how absolutely deeply misogynistic Kanye has always been. 

This week we're reviewing episode one of Shrill! We talk about representations of fatness in media (especially tv). The kind of treatment plus size women are expected to accept because they don't fit into conventional beauty standards. And why you probably shouldn't date anyone named Ryan. 

This week Sam gets ghosted? Or maybe her date lost his phone or got mugged or was kidnapped? Either way, she tells us about a great date followed by a true mystery. Savannah talks about navigating a difficult family situation as her most integrated self. And because we're talking about integration, we've got to talk about (and to) our inner child and how little Sam and little Savannah stay thriving in chaos (even though our adult selves would prefer a little peace!).

This week Savannah gives an update on her health including a new discovery and maybe finds an answer for the heart palpitations she talked about last week? Sam has zero work-life balance, literally, the hours she's working should be illegal. Then we talk about the best tool to use to break the cycle of dysfunction: boundaries! We give you some helpful ways to identify when you might need better boundaries, how to start setting up boundaries in your relationships, and we spill some harsh truths about why you need to stop victimizing yourself. 

This week, Sam is a third wheel, Savannah wears maternity jeans and tries to figure out how one even gives birth? We also talk about all things body hair: the internalized misogyny of needing to be hairless, Brazilian waxes, childhood trauma of learning to shave, turning into an Olympic gymnast to shave the backs of your thighs, and watching House while getting eaten out for the first time (you've gotta listen to the episode if you want to figure out how that relates to body hair…). 

This week, Sam has FOMO about not having Covid? Savannah tries to buy a stroller on Facebook and we're talking all about how pregnancy and other BIG life transitions makes everyone around you weird and kind of invasive? Savannah talks about how pregnancy has been triggering and how hard it is to navigate familial expectations when there's a new child joining the fam. 

This week we reflect on the chaos and growth! we had in 2021. We also talk about what we're working on in 2022, namely leaving Covid behind. 

We're back and better than ever, besties! This week we fill you in on why we just…disappeared (sorry about that) and what we've been up to since you last heard from us.

This week, Samantha and Savannah chat about the phenomenon of Imposter Syndrome. The ladies also speak the name Mark one final time on the show, and throw it back to Jersey Shore? Savannah fills us in about her new job and how overwhelming it has been going back to corporate America as well as starting a role in an unfamiliar field. The ladies end the episode with a sneak peak of some topics to come and for our fellow raging feminists, you definitely don't want to miss this! 

This week Sam revisits her situationship with Mark and takes her niece to Legoland, Savannah celebrates a birthday, leaves the country for the first time in two years, and receives hard news about a family member. The girls also talk about all things self-care (and we don't mean face masks and reality shows) including setting boundaries, unfollowing people on Instagram, responding to triggers, and cutting people out of your life. Also going to the doctor! Your physical health is just as important as your mental health, besties.Love you, mean it.

This week we talk about how social media can be kind of a cesspool for toxicity. The girls read out their screen time for Instagram/TikTok in real time, have a conversation about transparency on the internet (including a LONG discussion about the Kardashians), and how gross it is when people get entitled about knowing everything a celebrity does with their private life. 

This week we're talking about codependency. What it is, how it manifests (includes a side convo about Savannah being a narcissist), how it effects you/your relationships, how to start recognizing you might be codependent and how to take baby steps in confronting it. We believe in you, besties! 

TW: rape, incest, abortion, loss of pregnancyThis week we're talking about Texas and abortion access (and the other shitty bills that Greg Abbott signed into law). It's an hour of one topic, no check in on our week, no best friend shit; just some cynicism and a lot of pain and rage. Take care of yourselves, we love you besties even it's dark af out there. we are one by scottholmesmusic.com

We have absolutely zero time (but all the energy) for people who choose to remain unvaccinated against Covid-19 because they believe in baseless conspiracy theories. We love science! And seeing our families for the holidays, and travel, and joy! Get vaccinated, it's safe and recently fully approved by the FDA. 

This week we have a special guest! Joining us is Courtney Shav, founder of The Spicy Studios, a production company that creates content about healthy and educated conversations around sex through a comedic lens. We talk all about sex, consent, advocating for yourself in bed, and how to break taboos around kink (and so much more tbh). For more about The Spicy Studios, follow @thespicystudios on Instagram. P.S. this episode is our most explicit yet and may not be suitable for little ears. "we are one" by scottholmesmusic.com

TW: this episode mentions sexual harassment and sexual assault. Please put yourself first and avoid anything that might cause you undue emotional pain, we'll be here when you're ready. love you, bestie.In case the title didn't give it away, this week we're talking about Andrew Cuomo (please note: we recorded this before his resignation or else we would have made sure to cover it). "We Are One" by scottholmesmusic.com 

This week the girls talk about Simone Biles. 

This week Sam shares happy and sad news (TW: loss of a family pet), Savannah shares about how "re-entry" post self-discovery trip to the desert is going, and then the girls talk about how awful, demoralizing, and also rewarding the job search process can be. A great listen if you're in the middle of a search and it feels exhausting, you've just gone through a search, or if you've ever had to navigate uncertainty. 

Savannah teaches Sam about tabouleh (kind of poorly) and waxes poetic about the co-op in Santa Fe that she is going to miss VERY much. Sam talks about the kind of companionship she's looking for (spoiler alert: she's single and ready to mingle), leading to a convo about the value we find in different types of companionships. Savannah continues to receive STRONG and spooky messages from the universe. And finally, the girls have a PASSIONATE conversation catcalling and the male gaze, including a story where Savannah just straight-up lies to some dude about where she's from to stay safe because we're staying sexy and not getting murdered. Also, Sam talks about how she low key loves to catfish men she meets at clubs.we are one by scottholmesmusic.com

Savannah gives an update about her time in Santa Fe and all of the growth and self-realizations she's had so far. Some of it is awe-inspiring and some of it is downright spooky. Sam makes some comparisons between bungee jumping and self-love and the women give a shout out to a special listener! 

This week Savannah gives an update on the activities she's doing in Santa Fe while she works on finding herself, Sam gives an update on her new apartment and an update on her situationship with Mark (IYKYK). Then the girls talk about bullying from the perspective of a former bully (Savannah) and a former victim of bullying (Sam). The conversation is nuanced, complex, empathetic, emotional and mostly a beautiful episode where two people come to the table determined to give each other their best while also being true to themselves.we are one by scottholmesmusic.com

TW: familial sexual assault.This week we're picking up a thread from Episode 11: "Trauma Responses" and dive deeper into generational trauma. Savannah shares the exact nature of the generational trauma that exists in her family and talks about why it was so difficult to share publically. This leads to a conversation about how one of the most toxic parts of generational trauma is feeling like we have to carry our abuser's shame for the harms they've committed even though it isn't ours to carry. Sam gives a glimpse into her childhood and shares some really valuable insight into how we break generational trauma. we are one by scottholmesmusic.com

TW: mention of self-harmThis week Savannah talks about trying to survive in the desert without air conditioning, Sam talks about a sexy date night, and then discuss how we're trying to recover from the unhealthy ways we've previously dealt with our unresolved trauma. It's a heavy one but we know there are people out there who will benefit from hearing two besties talk about how they're trying to survive childhood trauma that they definitely didn't ask for. 

It's episode 10! This week Sam waxes poetic about living alone for the first time, Savannah is going away to Santa Fe for a month to find herself. We also talk about a recent fight we had which leads to a conversation about fighting with friends and how sometimes it's more painful than fighting with an S.O. 

This one is a little chaotic because our lives are a little chaotic rn, sorry about it besties. This week we're just chatting! Sam gives us an update about her living situation, explains what it's like to try and move into a co-op in NYC, and updates us on some recent job applications. Savannah has had four therapy sessions in a week, meets Elizabeth Warren, teaches Sam about using Peyote (not from experience), gets sexually harassed, and horribly injures her big toe trying to avenge herself! Oh also, she's dog-sitting her parent's dog who definitely makes his presence known in this episode. Sorry in advance for the barking. We also talk about our Gen Z queen, Olivia Rodrigo.  It's brutal out here, babes. "we are one" by scottholmesmusic.com

TW: we briefly mention weight loss in this episode as it relates to body neutrality. The girls give an update on the podcast and talk about a very slight tweak to the format/theme of "Did It Feel Good?". Sam updates Savannah on her housing situation and being  on the edge of homelessness. Savannah tells Sam what she learned about her past life from a psychic, gives an update about a very exciting doctor appointment, spoiler alert she's getting smaller titties soon which prompts a conversation about body neutrality vs body positivity and Sam talks about why Lizzo inspires her. 

TW: this episode contains brief mention of sexual assault which may be triggering to some listeners.TBH this episode might be us at our best or at least our most passionate. This week we talk about the weird phenomenon of men being obsessed with taking virginity, how harmful virginity as a social construct is to young girls (and boys!), and we tell the stories of having penetrative sex for the first time. Also includes a couple of cute asides about how men ain't shit, forgiving people who did something shitty to you, and how all we can aim for is doing it differently in the future. "we are one" by scottholmesmusic.com

This week we talk about closure, powerlessness, RHONJ, self-trust, and give a couple life updates. Hint: one of us got fired.This is a great listen if you're going through (or gotten through) one of those times where life feels really fucking hard for no reason.we are one by scottholmesmusic.com

This week Savannah and Samantha are joined by their first guest, Taylor Chapman to discuss the movie Promising Young Woman. We talk about rape culture, imaging a world where women are free from violence, men's suffering as art form, how patriarchy is the *worst*, and whether or not PYW delivers on the revenge fantasy it promised. Please note that this week we talk about sexual assault and rape. We want you to take care of yourselves first and if for any reason you aren't in a place to engage with this week's episode, that's ok! Come back when you're ready. We Are One by scottholmesmusic.com

Part two of our episode on vulnerability! We repair a rupture, talk about coming home to yourself, how to be more aware of the reflex to rescue other people, and how to stop breaking your own heart. Also, Savannah gets a little emotional and might even cry? There is also some bonus content at the end where we explain our car driving/map holder metaphor. “we are one” by scottholmesmusic.com

This week Sam and Savannah talk about vulnerability. There's some Taylor Swift, a conversation about situation-ships  (and whether or not they're good for you), some affirmations, and maybe even some conflict between co-hosts? “we are one” by scottholmesmusic.com

This week we're talking all things consent. Including why men aren't entitled to anything just because they have d*cks, the belief that you get to change your mind about sex no matter where you are in the process, consent in the context of losing your virginity* as an almost 30 year old and why your high school gym teacher probably isn't the best person to teach you about enthusiastic consent.*we think virginity is a social construct but don't get into that conversation in this episode.“we are one” by scottholmesmusic.com

Sam and Savannah introduce themselves, talk about Sam's love of oatmeal raisin cookies, their mutual love of therapy, and what they hope this podcast accomplishes. “we are one” by scottholmesmusic.com