Sailing through infidelity and Sail beyond infidelity tell the story of Valentina and Mark recovering from his affair and gaslighting after twenty years of marriage. Books available on Amazon. Author reads for free here.
It is possible to feel in love after infidelity. How I'm feeling three and a half years past DDay and what new AHA moments I've had since recording an episode as a guest in The Meaningful Life podcast by Andrew G. Marshall
Honesty helps you heal post infidelity discovery, it helps overcome challenging feelings and it is a healthier choice to strengthen mental health.
Being in love and letting go acquire new meanings after betrayal by a spouse. The difference between distraction and empowerment.
June 2021 blog articles have been about how communication has improved from our personal growth post infidelity.
How changing the narrative can help your recovery from betrayal. There is hope after infidelity. Do more of what makes you happy.
Make sense of how to deal with suffering in your life. Lay your own rules and boundaries to enjoy every day you are given beyond infidelity.
Sharing an AHA moment about focusing the attention on what is worth it: you.
Final episode of the series to mark two years past DDay.
A marriage and family therapist based in LA, Dr Madden talks about recovering from your spouse's betrayal: causes and consequences and tips to live a happier life beyond infidelity.
Listen to the UK's best known Marital Therapist talk about life beyond Infidelity.
Special episode on the two year mark of my affair recovery process.
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Triggers at month 17 past discovery, what hope really means and disembarking beyond infidelity. Bonus article May 2020
What to do if a friend confides in you about their spouse's betrayal, attention quality is very telling, facing triggers twenty months past Dday.
Seventeen months past Dday I was much better because of all the work we had done. Here are some practical ways to cheer up when you fall in the emotional dip.
What does it mean when the betrayers hide info to “avoid pain” , an example of a recovery timeline and acknowledgement of your progress through facts
We carry our ancestors traumas too, reminders to get out of the emotional dips, appreciating routine and grieving the old self after infidelity
Why it is never a good idea to have an affair with a coworker. New mantra at fifteen months past Dday.
When to stop counting the days, talking about the WHY of the betrayal and waiting for an unapologetic unremorseful spouse.
A podcast suggestion, transfer of vigilance, forgiving is a verb. Helen Tower on Social media.
Gratitude for what was made possible celebrate instead of mourn on Dday1, Secrets and infidelity, find your own recipe for recovery.
How do you trust again? Review of Andrew G Marshall's book. Guidelines to keep going.
Accepting you and your feelings, books to help you recover and ancient wisdom principles to revisit.
Being with friends who don't know about the affair is tricky. Your needs are not your partner's. Probation periods can help in recovery.
Write down what you want to communicate before frustration takes over. A letter to the Other Woman, should you send it?
Use neuroscience to recover from betrayal, when the unfaithful becomes defensive, deadlines and triggers during affair recovery.
Romantic love is not real. Labeling the pain to find hope. Infidelity as an intentional disaster.
Concluding: Infidelity makes you stronger, about the author and introducing the sequel.
When is it enough? When do you stop seeking compensation for having been betrayed?
A letter to the other woman, seven steps to navigate the anger loop, labels and memories taking a new meaning post Dday.
Three months since Dday and we found a crossroads, got help, made decisions, were criticized by those we love and dealt with slips.
Resources to navigate infidelity included here, breaching security boundaries during recovery. Letters to him and to the Other Woman.
Midlife crisis, twenty years married, catching up with BFFs, facing reality, children, moving out.
Once Valentina had proof of the affair, she discovered the identity of the other woman and proceeded to implement what she had planned in case Mark was ever unfaithful.
Meet Valentina, the elephant in the room, discovering and gaslighting.