Podcast appearances and mentions of elise pettus

A Classic RISK! episode from our early years! In the twentieth episode of our third season, Helen Hong, Steve Agee, Chris Castiglione, and Elise Pettus come face to face with their own cluelessness. • Pitch us your story! risk-show.com/submissions • Support RISK! through Patreon at patreon.com/risk or make a one-time donation: paypal.me/riskshow • Get tickets to RISK! live shows: risk-show.com/live • Get the RISK! Book and shop for merch: risk-show.com/shop • Take our storytelling classes: thestorystudio.org • Hire Kevin Allison as a coach or get personalized videos: kevinallison.com To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When your nicely-planned life and career take a turn for the unexpected, it's easy to let yourself get dragged down, crawl into a hole, and feel like a total failure. Or you could do like My Good Woman, Elise Pettus, and realize that the kind of support you need doesn't exist yet, find a dozen kindred souls, and start building the movement you know your people need. Elise is the Founder and Editorial Director of UNtied, an online community that connects women navigating separation and divorce so they can support and educate one another through the process.Elise took “the worst that could happen” and turned it into her inspiration and motivation to become a bold leader for the thousands of women in her community.In this episode, Elise and I discussHow Elise's divorce inspired her to found UNtied - now a thriving community with over 3000 members.How to be brave when you're shy, and why flipping your “leadership switch” can help you become more courageous on behalf of others. Growing a small gathering of women into a community of thousandsThis episode at a glance:[06:44] When the worst has already happened, it removes a lot of the fear that would otherwise stop you from taking risks and doing extraordinary things.[20:13] How growing a big movement can start small and organically - by filling a void and creating what your people tell you they need. [30:35] If what you want to offer (and what your people need) doesn't exist yet, build your model and pave your own road. [42:06] Giving people you work with permission to boss you around and use their “stern math teacher voice” to stop being in your head and get more and better things done. [44:02] Helping your people feel safe enough to be vulnerable around you lets you have open conversations about the best way to work together.[47:11] “Hard skills” directly impact revenue and move the needle. But a business is made up of people, and you need the “soft skills” to work with them effectively. [53:58] If Elise had a do-over, the only thing she'd change is to ask for help or find a strategic partner (or business coach) sooner. [53:58] The main element Elise loves to bring out in people is resilience. It's hard work but so worth it. [01:04:50] Elise's essential advice for women going through a divorce. Resources and links mentioned in this episode:Check out UNtied - The Thinking Woman's Divorce ResourceFollow Elise on Instagram (@Untiedllc), LinkedIn, and YouTubeRead the 2015 New York Times article that put UNtied on the mapTools Elise mentions: Asana, Google Drive, Dropbox, and ActiveCampaignGet the fantastic Year Task Planner that helps Elise get everything doneWatch Paris is Burning - the fabulous movie about the 1980s drag scene in New York.  Meet playwright, screenwriter, novelist, musician, and marvelous multitasker, Suzan-Lori ParksNever heard of the Pomodoro Technique? This article explains how you can use it to get into the zone and stay focused for 

Elise Pettus is the founder and Editorial Director of UNtied.net, an online community for NYC women navigating separation and divorce. UNtied hosts online panels each month featuring experts who provide assistance and resources to make the divorce process as smooth as possible and help members become their best selves. Elise joins Stacy Francis to talk about how women can relaunch their lives post-divorce and feel their best during the process. She shares her personal journey to find happiness and fun. When going through a divorce, it's better to let the grief for your lost relationship run its course. You can't skip it or run around it; trying to suppress or ignore your grief will only force it to become deeper and eventually so unmanageable that it will explode in your face. UNtied is a community of women who have experienced divorce. The purpose of the community is to provide a safe space for women to talk to other women who intimately understand their circumstances and can provide practical and emotional assistance. Having a community of people who accept, support, and encourage you is important, and even more so during a divorce. Separation is not easy, but it becomes easier to navigate when you have a team. Many women often forget that taking care of their mental health is critical and do not prioritize themselves. Self-care should be seen as a medical necessity; even something as simple as going for a massage is a good activity to indulge in. Resources Elise Pettus on LinkedIn UNtied.net  Stacy Francis on LinkedIn | Twitter Email: stacy@francisfinancial.com FrancisFinancial.com Reach out to receive a complimentary consultation! Contact Francis Financial at +212-374-9008 or visit Francis Financial today!

A Classic RISK! Singles episode! A story that Elise Pettus first shared on the podcast in March of 2012 about a night of babysitting gone wrong.

This week Elise Pettus, creator of Untied.net joins us to share her divorce journey and how it brought her to create a dynamic site and community full of resources and support for divorced women.

In the midst of difficult life transitions like divorce, it is human nature to reach extreme, self-defeating conclusions: I’m incapable of love! All men are sociopaths! The world is unspeakably cruel! How can we take a closer look at what happened in our relationship and expand the narrative to something a little more nuanced, a little more balanced, a little closer to the truth? One strategy that works is to tell the story of your divorce in writing. Steve Friedman is the award-winning author of seven books, and his essays on relationships have appeared in anthologies like Modern Love and The Bastard on the Couch. Steve’s work has appeared in a number of national publications, including Esquire, GQ and The Washington Post, and he was the writer of the first Modern Love column in The New York Times. Steve teaches the popular writing course Divorce, Breakups and New Beginnings: Telling Your Story through the organization UNtied. Today, Steve joins Katherine to discuss how writing helps people make difficult life transitions. He explains how the demands of storytelling impose order in a chaotic world and afford us a more nuanced perspective of divorce. Steve also shares the value of exploring separation in the context of a writing workshop and walks us through some of the exercises he uses to examine a story from different perspectives. Listen in for insight around what Steve has learned about love through teaching and writing about relationships and learn how telling the story of your divorce can help you move forward! Topics Covered How writing helps people make difficult life transitions Using storytelling to impose order in a chaotic situation Why women are more inclined to take writing classes The value of exploring divorce in a workshop setting The ground rules of Steve’s divorce writing workshop • No judgement • Accountable for telling truth Creating space to reach new conclusions with writing The cathartic nature of journaling through difficult times Exercises for seeing a narrative from different perspectives Steve’s surprise at the blame women take on in divorce The relief that comes from realizing you’re not alone Why instant chemistry doesn’t ensure a happy marriage Steve’s insight that no one is the ANSWER for anyone else Connect with Steve Friedman Steve’s Website: http://stevefriedman.net/ Books by Steve Friedman: https://www.amazon.com/Steve-Friedman/e/B000AR7YFC?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_11&qid=1559662805&sr=1-11 Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Bastard on the Couch: 27 Men Try Really Hard to Explain Their Feelings About Love, Loss, Fatherhood, and Freedom edited by Daniel Jones: https://www.amazon.com/Bastard-Couch-Explain-Feelings-Fatherhood/dp/0060565357 Modern Love: True and Extraordinary Tales of Desire, Deceit, and Devotion edited by Daniel Jones: https://www.amazon.com/Modern-Love-Extraordinary-Desire-Devotion/dp/0307351041 Modern Love in The New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/column/modern-love UNtied: https://untied.net/ UNtied Events: https://untied.net/upcoming-events/ Elise Pettus on Divorce Dialogues EP030: https://divorcedialogues.com/a-community-of-women-navigating-divorce-with-elise-pettus/

This week Nina and Hillary talk about all things divorce. Elise Pettus (founder of UNtied) stops by to talk about her own divorce experience and offer some helpful resources for anyone in the thick of it.  

It doesn't matter who it is, best-friend, niece, cousin ... who wants to go to an event celebrating a marriage when your own marriage is falling apart or if you're in the middle of all the legal wrangling or even when you're just starting out on your own again?Can you say no to wedding invites?Can you go solo, even before you and your spouse have gone public?Who else can you take as a plus one?How do you handle those awkward questions from extended family members?Joining Mandy for this Conversation is Elise Pettus, founder of Untied.net, an online magazine and real-life community based in New York, for women going through divorce. Pettus says weddings are the perfect opportunity to push yourself out of your comfort zone and to start exploring the next phase of your life and she has plenty of suggestions for keeping them fun.Check out Mandy's Since My Divorce blog for a synopsis of the show. 

This week, Stacy is joined by Elise Pettus. Divorced mom and founder of UNtied, Elise created an online network to connect fellow divorced women and help them re-discover their confidence, post-divorce. In this episode, you will gain insight on:   ü  Conquering the process of divorce and coming out the other side “financially ever after” ü  Pre-divorce tips and help with the grieving process ü  Building a team, including an attorney, specific to your needs   Elise emphasizes that women need both professional and social support during this transition. She recommends that women not look at their split as a tragedy, but rather as a challenging and meaningful opportunity to create a new chapter.   Elise Pettus | W: www.untied.net P: (917) 797-6465 E: elise.pettus@gmail.com   Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: Stacy@francisfinancial.com

This week, Stacy is joined by Elise Pettus. Divorced mom and founder of UNtied, Elise created an online network to connect fellow divorced women and help them re-discover their confidence, post-divorce. In this episode, you will gain insight on:   ü  Conquering the process of divorce and coming out the other side “financially ever after” ü  Pre-divorce tips and help with the grieving process ü  Building a team, including an attorney, specific to your needs   Elise emphasizes that women need both professional and social support during this transition. She recommends that women not look at their split as a tragedy, but rather as a challenging and meaningful opportunity to create a new chapter.   Elise Pettus | W: www.untied.net P: (917) 797-6465 E: elise.pettus@gmail.com   Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: Stacy@francisfinancial.com   Elise Pettus, Francis Financial, Stacy Francis, Divorce, Free Divorce, Advice, Divorce Source, Radio, Steve Peck, Women

‘How you go through this forest determines, to great extent, who you are when you come out of it.’ Getting divorced can feel a lot like being lost in the woods. And no matter how much information you have gathered from the experts, you probably still feel very much alone. What if there was a community of women making their way through that same forest that you could go to for support and guidance? Elise Pettus is the founder and Editorial Director of UNtied, an online and real-life community for women navigating separation and divorce. UNtied is a membership organization based in Brooklyn that hosts panels and workshops on a variety of topics, from hiring a lawyer to co-parenting to blending families. A graduate of Columbia Journalism School, Elise wrote on marriage, health and family for New York Magazine, Healthy Living, and the Huffington Post, among many others, before shifting her focus to UNtied full-time. UNtied currently boasts more than 1500 subscribers, and the organization prides itself on connecting divorcing women with the most experienced and competent professionals in the field. Today, Elise sits down with Katherine to explain why she created UNtied and how it serves as a support system for women navigating separation and divorce. She discusses her organization’s intent to spread the word regarding process choice and offers her insight on how to choose the right option for you and your family. Elise shares her take on the top concerns women have early in the divorce process, addressing the importance of making the first phone call to get educated about the process. Listen in for information on UNtied’s curated events and learn how—with the right support—the divorce process can help you identify who really you are and what you need out of life. Topics Covered How UNtied provides a community for women to connect with each other UNtied’s intent to provide its members with process choice options • Mediation, collaborative and litigation How to overcome ‘the fear of the first phone call’ Elise’s take on the top two concerns of women early in the divorce process • Financial security • Safety, welfare of children Elise’s advice for people contemplating divorce • Get educated around choices • Avoid needless hostility Elise’s insight on choosing a process based on the relationship’s power dynamic How the collaborative process manages anger rather than ignoring it The topics of UNtied’s monthly panel evenings How divorce can be positive in the end if given the right support Connect with Elise Pettus UNtied: The Thinking Woman’s Divorce Resource: https://untied.net/ UNtied on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/UntiedNYC/ Email elise@untied.net Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765

Helen Hong, Steve Agee, Chris Castiglione, Mike Amato and Elise Pettus come face to face with their own cluelessness.