Podcasts about divorce coaching

Divorce negotiations can feel like a battlefield—two people locked in conflict, each fighting to protect what matters most. But what if you stopped viewing your ex as the enemy and started seeing the process as a strategic game—one where understanding, clarity, and emotional regulation could actually help you get better results? In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce podcast, I'm joined by Brenda Bridges—Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Divorce Coach, and Mediator. Brenda has not only helped countless clients navigate the financial and emotional complexities of divorce—she's lived it. After experiencing her own financially devastating divorce, she made it her mission to help others avoid the same mistakes by approaching divorce strategically instead of emotionally. Together, we explore how negotiating during divorce doesn't have to be driven by fear, anger, or reactivity. We talk about the importance of understanding your spouse's values—what they truly care about—and how using that insight can completely shift the way you approach settlement discussions. Whether it's financial security, time with the kids, or protecting their image, knowing what drives them can give you a surprising amount of leverage. We also dive into what it means to regulate your emotions, communicate with intention, and stay grounded during mediation or high-conflict negotiations. If you've ever felt stuck in a tug-of-war, always bracing for the next blow, this conversation offers a new perspective—one rooted in strategy, self-awareness, and the belief that you can walk away from divorce with clarity, confidence, and a future you're excited about. This episode is for anyone ready to stop playing defense and start negotiating from a place of strength and insight. Because when you understand the emotional and financial landscape of divorce, you can make smarter choices and protect what truly matters to you. Connect with Brenda: Website: https://bridgingdivorcesolutions.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bridgingdivorce Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BridgingDivorce/   "New Normal" Post Divorce Checklist: https://mailchi.mp/bridgingllc/jtzu34jo7l Resources Mentioned in this episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)The divorce coaching industry harbors a dangerous trend that's causing unnecessary harm to families across the country. In this eye-opening episode, Debra and Tracy tackle the phenomenon of "high-conflict divorce coaching" – an approach that frames every challenging divorce as a battle requiring warfare tactics rather than resolution strategies.We pull back the curtain on what legitimate professional divorce coaching actually is and contrast it with the predatory marketing of high-conflict approaches that capitalize on fear. These programs effectively encourage clients to spend more money on their divorce, complicate the process, extend timelines, and create lasting damage – all while promising to help them "win" against their ex.Through real-life examples, we reveal the staggering financial and emotional costs of choosing the high-conflict route. One client spent $80,000 on legal fees and was two years into her divorce without even reaching a temporary agreement – not because of complex assets or genuine safety concerns, but because both parties had adopted a battle mindset. We discuss how this approach operates on flawed assumptions: that you can change your spouse's behavior, that every difficult divorce involves a personality-disordered individual, and that being in constant "defense mode" is necessary.As an alternative, we outline what to look for in a divorce coach or training program: someone focused on resolution rather than winning, who emphasizes communication strategies, emotional regulation, and clear decision-making. The truth is that the outcomes are typically the same whether you take the high-conflict route or a more measured approach – the only difference is you haven't spent years in litigation or hundreds of thousands of dollars unnecessarily.Whether you're navigating divorce yourself, supporting someone who is, or considering becoming a divorce coach, this conversation provides crucial guidance for making choices that truly serve your long-term goals and your well being. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)When children become pawns in their parents' divorce battles, the emotional damage can last a lifetime. Triangulation—the process where children are drawn into parental conflict—affects over 80% of high-conflict divorces and significantly increases children's risk for anxiety, depression, and relationship difficulties well into adulthood.In this compelling deep dive, Debra and Tracy unpack the three distinct forms of triangulation that plague divorcing families. They explore how children become direct participants in conflict when used as messengers or interrogated about the other parent's home. They reveal the subtle yet equally harmful pattern where children feel caught in the middle even when parents believe they're shielding them from tension. And they examine the most damaging form—when parents deliberately draw children into coalitions against the other parent through criticism, loyalty tests, and false narratives.What makes this conversation particularly valuable is the practical coaching framework offered for helping parents recognize and break these destructive patterns. Through awareness-building questions, perspective-shifting exercises, and concrete strategies—from establishing direct adult communication to creating emotional safety zones—listeners gain tools to guide families toward healthier dynamics. The powerful question at the heart of this work resonates throughout: "Do you want to give your children a child-centered divorce or a divorce-centered childhood?"Whether you're a divorce professional working with high-conflict families or a parent navigating co-parenting challenges, this episode provides insight into transforming harmful patterns into opportunities for healing. Because when parents take accountability and keep children out of adult conflicts, they're not just breaking a cycle—they're building resilience that will serve their children for years to come. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

In this powerful episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, host Karen McMahon is joined by licensed marriage and family therapist, certified co-parenting coach, mediator, and award-winning author Aurisha Smolarski. Together, they explore effective co-parenting strategies after divorce, with a focus on creating stability and emotional security for your children. Aurisha shares actionable advice on how to shift from a romantic partnership to a cooperative co-parenting dynamic, while building a foundation rooted in communication, consistency, and connection. You'll also learn how attachment theory can influence your parenting approach and what it takes to maintain a healthy relationship with your ex for the sake of your kids. Whether you're newly divorced or years into co-parenting, this episode offers expert guidance to help you feel more empowered, supported, and aligned with your children's best interests. In this episode, my guest Aurisha Smolarski, LMFT—a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified co-parenting coach, mediator, and mother—shares her invaluable expertise. As the award-winning author of Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids: The Attachment Theory Guide to Raising Kids in Two Homes, Aurisha brings a wealth of knowledge and personal experience to the table. She specializes in helping co-parents move from conflict to cooperation, make child-centered agreements, and create a secure two-home family system. If you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed, Aurisha's insights will provide the guidance and support you need to navigate your co-parenting journey with greater confidence and peace.  Connect with Aurisha Smolarski: Free Communication Style Quiz: https://www.aurishasmolarski.com/ Buy the book Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids: https://www.aurishasmolarski.com/book/ Join Aurisha on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cooperativecoparenting/ Resources Mentioned in this episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Have you been pouring endless energy into social media with minimal return for your divorce coaching practice? It might be time to unlock the most powerful marketing tool you're probably neglecting—your email list.Trust serves as the cornerstone of the coach-client relationship, particularly when guiding someone through the emotional complexities of divorce. While social platforms broadcast your message widely, they lack the intimacy and privacy that email marketing delivers directly to your ideal client's inbox. As we often remind our coaching community, "If social media is the cocktail party, email marketing is meeting up for coffee."The statistics don't lie—email marketing consistently outperforms social media in conversion rates, especially for service-based businesses like divorce coaching. Why? Because your subscribers have already demonstrated interest by sharing their email address, creating a warm lead that's significantly more likely to become a paying client. Plus, you completely own this asset. No algorithm changes, no shadow bans, no disappearing followers—just a direct line to people who've expressed interest in your expertise.We walk you through creating compelling lead magnets that address specific pain points for divorcing individuals—from co-parenting communication guides to money-saving divorce checklists. The real magic happens in what follows: a thoughtfully crafted nurture sequence that builds trust, demonstrates your expertise, and gently guides potential clients toward working with you. Most importantly, we share how to confidently extend invitations to your services without coming across as pushy or sales-focused.Whether you're just starting your coaching practice or looking to grow your established business, this episode provides a clear roadmap for building an email strategy that converts interested prospects into paying clients. Take one action step this week—choose an email provider, brainstorm lead magnet ideas, or draft your first nurture sequence. Your future clients are waiting in your inbox! Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Have you ever found yourself wondering, “Is this emotional abuse… or just a hard relationship moment?” You're not alone. In today's episode, Dr. Zoe breaks down the crucial difference between emotional abuse and other common relational struggles—like conflict, insensitivity, emotional immaturity, or human imperfection. When you've grown up in dysfunction or carry the weight of Complex Shame™, it can be hard to trust your internal radar. This conversation is here to help you recalibrate. You'll Learn: What emotional abuse actually looks like—and why it's often so subtle How to distinguish between a painful moment and a toxic pattern The role of Complex Shame™ in how we interpret (and misinterpret) relationship dynamics Why clarity is essential to healing—and how to start finding it Resources Mentioned: [Free Download] Steps to Healing from Complex Shame™: here Are you a writer? Join me in person at the HopeWriters Writing Retreat—a beautiful weekend designed to help you craft, connect, and confidently step into your calling. For one week only, we're offering a Mother's Day special—your spot is just $97 with the code MOM2026. (Valid from April 18th - April 24th) Sign up here   Connect with me: Dr. Zoe Shaw on Instagram Dr. Zoe Shaw on Facebook Dr. Zoe Shaw Website

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We're pleased to welcome back Anne-Marie Cade, our DCA Director of Learning and Development for Australia. And she's here with some very exciting news.Anne-Marie along with fellow DCA certified divorce coaches Amy Voller, Tahli Fitzpatrick and Marg Doherty have launched the Divorce Coaches Institute Australia (DCIA).Alongside their international colleagues, they identified a critical need to establish a secure and ethically driven service for Australians undergoing separation or divorce. Recognizing the absence of regulations in the coaching industry, they were increasingly concerned about the lack of ethical standards and professional oversight and the absence of support for clients in the event of an unsuccessful coaching relationship.All coaches admitted to DCIA are vetted and have been certified through select reputable and approved international training providers. Their coaches adhere to professional standards and follow a code of ethics, which ensures the well-being of clients and maintains the integrity of our profession.Listen in to learn how Anne-Marie and her colleagues are raising the bar on professional standards in Australia.Learn more about DCIA and find a coach:Divorce Coaches Institute Australia website Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)In this episode, we're diving into a topic that shows up with almost every client at some point: that sticky, frustrating, and sometimes paralyzing feeling that this just isn't fair.Whether it's the division of assets, custody arrangements, or just the emotional fallout, so many clients come into the process believing they've been wronged—and they often have been! But here's the challenge: when someone is stuck in a story of injustice, it can completely block their ability to make empowered decisions. And that's where we come in.Today, we're going to unpack where that feeling comes from, what it does to your client's mindset, and offer these six coaching strategies you can use to help them move from frozen to forward.Normalize the feelingShift from fairness to empowermentReframe the narrativeUse future-focused visualizationIntroduce functional fairnessAnchor in core valuesRemember...You're not just helping your clients “get through” this. You're helping them build resilience, clarity, and agency in one of the hardest seasons of their lives.And that's powerful work. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Joining us today is Anne Wintemute, CEO of Aimee Says, an AI driven platform that empowers survivors of relationship abuse to recognize, respond, and recover.Anne is a dedicated and visionary leader, currently serving as the Co-Founder and CEO of Aimee Says. She is also the founder of A Garden Grows, a consultancy offering vital support services to women experiencing post-separation abuse. Anne is passionate about transforming the discourse around intimate partner violence and advocating for a narrative that holds perpetrators accountable.Aimee Says is a free tool to help clients recognize coercive control and abuse, manage communication, strategize and achieve better outcomes for themselves and their children.Listen in as Anne share all the ways Aimee can support both your coaching relationship and your client with confidential compassion and guidance. From identifying red flags to crafting responses to preparing for court, Aimee Says is the BFF survivors need to have in their back pocket. Aimee Says also encourages a collaborative team approach where clients can share their account with professionals who are supporting them.And for those of you in our DCA Coach Community, Anne will be joining us for a free Lunch & Learn on 7/23 at 12pm ET. Please mark your calendar to join us so you can see a demo of Aimee Says and ask all your questions. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Today we expand on a conversation we began in episode #134 by talking with a pioneer and leader in the area of restorative communication, Dr Will Bledsoe. Today he joins us to talk about how divorce may actually be an opportunity to save your relationship.Will is the author of The Restorative Way: Harnessing the Power of Restorative Communication to Mend Relationships, Heal Trauma, and Reclaim Civility One Conversation at a Time. He has been called a pioneer for his advancement of Restorative Communication principles and practices. He is an adjunct professor of communication and a consultant who advises thought leaders, institutions, corporations, school districts, the justice system, and families to help us turn our contempt into consideration and mutual respect by utilizing Restorative Communication.We dive into the difference between a punitive paradigm (focus on determining guilt and punishment) and a restorative one (determining and understanding needs). And we learn about the powerful 5 step process that can SHIFT anyone's emotional state from dysregulated to engaged.S = Spot the signsH = Hold SpaceI - Identify What They're FeelingF = Focus on What They Need in the MomentT = Take ActionRestorative communication is the key to a divorce that, when done right, may be the key to making the relationship with your ex healthier and more functional.If you're thinking about divorce and hope to minimize both the financial and relational impact, we encourage you to check out the coach locator at divorcecoachesacademy.com to find a DCA certified ADR divorce coach.Learn More About Dr Will Bledsoe and upcoming trainings:His Book : The Restorative WayHis Website: www.restorativeway.com Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Today Tracy and Debra are talking about all the internet clickbait content out there that is purposefully targeting people's fears just to get follows or sell coaching, courses, or books.We absolutely understand why this stuff is popular. It's attention grabbing, it raises alarm bells, it creates a sense of urgency, and it makes clients worry that they're not doing enough to protect themselves or their children.But we know that this fear-based content skews perspective and sets up the possibility that consumers absorbing this information could be making their divorces more expensive and more conflicted than they need to be.We'll cover the dangers of this type of marketing, why it works, and how to work with clients who may have taken the bait. And finally, we want to remind you that purposefully targeting your audience's vulnerability for your own gain falls outside our ethical guidelines. As professional, certified divorce coaches, we do not cause undue distress, manipulate emotions, or potentially cause psychological harm to sell our services. We commit to marketing practices that are effective and yet respectful of our audiences well-being. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)When a US based company like Divorce Coaches Academy enters the Canadian market during a time of trade tensions, it's a lot like navigating a complex divorce negotiation.Both involve high emotions, financial stakes, competing interests, and, most importantly, the need for skilled professionals to guide the process toward a fair and workable resolution.The reaction to the trade wars this week is eerily familiar to how we see clients in divorce. These trade wars have thrust Canadians, and many Americans, into uncertainty and worry. REAL worry about their finances and ultimately their families. The headlines warn of a certain recession in Canada.We talked a few weeks ago about how Canada is changing how divorce is handled. And that means even more need for professional, conflict resolution focused divorce coaches.The cross-border partnership that we have developed with our Canadian Director, Dori Braddell, is based on mutual respect and creating win-win scenarios for both of us. There's no war here when it comes to ensuring that Canadians continue to have access to the most robust, most professional divorce coach training on the market.At the end of the day, whether you're negotiating a trade agreement or a divorce settlement, the key to success is the same: clear communication, skilled guidance, accurate information and a focus on the future rather than the past.It really is all about finding common ground both in trade and divorce, right?It's not too late to join this Canadian cohort of DCA divorce coach training. Go to divorcecoachesacademy.com/divorcecoach to learn more and apply. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Divorce negotiations, whether working out financial settlements or parenting plans, can be filled with intense emotions and rigid perspectives. So today we are breaking down the reasons why flexible thinking is so crucial and we'll offer some strategies to help you negotiate more successfully.When people feel threatened or vulnerable, their instinct is to dig in and adopt an “all-or-nothing” or “my way or the highway" approach. And, we know that this positional thinking can lead to prolonged battles, increased legal costs, destroy relationships and cause greater emotional distress.John Wooden, a legendary basketball coach is known for saying that “flexibility is the key to stability”. The quote means that being flexible and ready to adapt to change can help people find stability and avoid stress.Flexible thinking allows us to:See multiple perspectives rather than just our own.Adapt to changing circumstances, which is crucial in any negotiation.Focus on long-term solutions rather than short-term emotional wins.Reduce stress by recognizing that not everything has to go exactly as planned. Listen in as we explore the science behind this idea of flexible thinking and how clients can use bamboo as inspiration for how to remain both flexible and resilient.--> Pre-Mediation Divorce Coach training begins March 3 Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

In this episode, Karen McMahon explores the outer journey of divorce—navigating the practical challenges and taking actionable steps toward your new life. From deciding whether to stay or go, to understanding your legal rights, managing overwhelming emotions, and creating stability in your home, Karen offers guidance for the road ahead. Learn how to build a supportive team, including legal professionals, financial experts, and divorce coaches. Explore different approaches to divorce like litigation, collaboration, and mediation, and find the path that works for you. Karen also shares tips for navigating negotiations with grace and dignity, and how to prioritize self-care as you rediscover yourself after divorce. Tune in for actionable advice and support as you move forward with confidence after divorce. Journey Beyond Divorce Resources: Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  A word from our sponsors: Soberlink is a revolutionary tool designed to support individuals in their journey to sobriety. As a leading provider of remote alcohol monitoring, Soberlink offers a secure and reliable solution that helps people stay accountable and transparent in their recovery process. We're grateful for Soberlink's commitment to enhancing the recovery process and providing valuable resources to our listeners. Learn more about how Soberlink can make a difference in your journey at www.soberlink.com/jbd ======= TalkingParents provides a comprehensive platform designed to simplify co-parenting and enhance communication between parents. With secure messaging, a shared calendar, and features for tracking parenting time, TalkingParents ensures that all important details and agreements are documented and accessible.  We're grateful for TalkingParents' support in simplifying co-parenting and enhancing communication for our listeners. Discover how TalkingParents can bring clarity and organization to your co-parenting journey at www.talkingparents.com/jbd

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Today, our Canadian Director Dori Braddell joins Tracy for a fascinating and timely discussion of the recent changes to the family justice system in Canada, including mandatory ADR, and what it means for dispute resolution and divorce coaching.Dori shares that in 2024, some provinces have made it mandatory for divorcing couples to make an ADR attempt first before they can have their matter heard in court. Couples can no longer go directly to a judge to decide their family matters. And in provinces where it's not mandatory (yet), she is seeing judges order couples into an ADR process or require it if either party requests it. This means that divorcing Canadians are more likely to participate in ADR, whether by choice or not, than ever before. And demand for professionals to support them will continue to grow. We know that one on one, individualized dispute resolution support from a Certified Divorce Coach can be the difference between a blown ADR attempt and a settlement agreement. Divorce Coaches are that secret weapon, the special sauce that exponentially improves the odds at succeeding in something you didn't have choice but to do. The next cohort of DCA divorce coach training for Canada begins the week of March 9 and Dori would love to chat with you about the opportunities that this new legislation opens up for properly trained divorce coaches. You can schedule a 1-1 call with her: Dori's Calendar Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Conflict is a topic that impacts every one of us at some point in our lives. A couple of weeks ago we talked about an important tip to reduce conflict in divorce and that was to stop expecting something different and accept that your partner will continue to show up with the same core personality traits they've always had.  As we were coming to the end of that conversation, Tracy really wanted to talk about the 3 primary sources of conflict. So as promised, today we're diving into that. One of the early theorists on conflict, American psychologist Daniel Katz, distinguished three main sources of conflict: EconomicValuesPowerAs you can imagine, all three are major contributing factors in divorce conflict. Understanding these sources helps us identify the root causes of a disagreement and approach it strategically. And strategy is key when it comes to divorce and co-parenting conflict if you want to spare your bank account and save your sanity.We explore these three primary sources of conflict and offer some strategies for how you can approach each one to resolve disputes more successfully. Whether you're facing a tough divorce, a workplace disagreement, or even family tensions, understanding these sources of conflict and the role of emotions can be a game-changer. Conflict is a natural part of life, divorce and co-parenting, but with the right tools and mindset, it doesn't have to be destructive.  Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

How can parents in high-conflict co-parenting prioritize their child's well-being? Michelle Dempsey-Multack—divorce coach, co-parenting expert, and best-selling author of Moms Moving On—joins host Evelyn Mendal on Help Them Bloom to discuss how divorcing or divorced parents can navigate challenges while prioritizing their child's well-being. Together, they address common fears, like whether divorce will “mess up” kids, emphasizing that it's not the divorce itself, but parents' actions, that shape a child's long-term health and happiness. Drawing on her personal experience as a child of divorce and a co-parent, Michelle highlights the power of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and focusing on the child's needs over personal conflict. The conversation explores managing emotions during the divorce process, supporting children's feelings, and cultivating critical thinking skills to help kids process their experiences. They also share strategies for maintaining neutrality in co-parenting, navigating high-conflict situations, and empowering parents to focus on what they can control.  Takeaways Parents often struggle with their emotions affecting co-parenting. Children's feelings about divorce are valid and should be acknowledged. It's crucial to support children's relationships with both parents. Healing from past trauma is essential for effective co-parenting. Children need to learn critical thinking skills to navigate their feelings. Validating children's feelings helps them process their experiences. Parents should avoid projecting their feelings onto their children. Managing discomfort in children is a key part of parenting during divorce. Consistent support from one parent can help children thrive. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Divorce Coaching and Co-Parenting 06:04 Emotional Impact of Divorce on Co-Parenting 11:58 The Role of Ego in Co-Parenting Dynamics 18:03 Supporting Children Through Divorce 23:52 The Importance of Validating Children's Feelings 30:03 Final Thoughts on Divorce and Co-Parenting

In this episode, Karen McMahon explores the emotional challenges of high-conflict divorce and the vital inner journey that accompanies it. She dives into the intense emotional turmoil, self-doubt, and fear many face, offering practical guidance for navigating this difficult time with resilience and self-awareness. Karen discusses how to shift from victimhood to empowerment, overcome limiting beliefs, and move from resistance to proactive solutions. She emphasizes the importance of conscious responses over reactive behaviors and encourages listeners to lean into their faith or beliefs for strength. With a focus on building self-confidence and cultivating curiosity, Karen shows how divorce can be a transformative experience, offering opportunities for profound personal growth. She invites listeners to invest in their inner journey, working with a skilled divorce coach to emerge from the process as stronger, more resilient individuals. Journey Beyond Divorce Resources: Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  A word from our sponsors: Soberlink is a revolutionary tool designed to support individuals in their journey to sobriety. As a leading provider of remote alcohol monitoring, Soberlink offers a secure and reliable solution that helps people stay accountable and transparent in their recovery process. We're grateful for Soberlink's commitment to enhancing the recovery process and providing valuable resources to our listeners. Learn more about how Soberlink can make a difference in your journey at www.soberlink.com/jbd ======= TalkingParents provides a comprehensive platform designed to simplify co-parenting and enhance communication between parents. With secure messaging, a shared calendar, and features for tracking parenting time, TalkingParents ensures that all important details and agreements are documented and accessible.  We're grateful for TalkingParents' support in simplifying co-parenting and enhancing communication for our listeners. Discover how TalkingParents can bring clarity and organization to your co-parenting journey at www.talkingparents.com/jbd

We're kicking off the year with a refreshed website, new programs, and a wealth of resources designed to help you navigate the toughest divorce challenges. Whether you're dealing with narcissism, manipulation, or other complex relationship dynamics, Journey Beyond Divorce is here to support you every step of the way. In this episode, co-founder, Karen McMahon, reflects on the lessons learned in 2024 – a year filled with uncertainty and personal challenges.  You can expect to hear about the new direction Journey Beyond Divorce is taking in its focus on high-conflict divorce support. We'll discuss how to identify the key warning signs of being in a high-conflict divorce and the value of specialized support to help you navigate emotional and legal challenges. You'll also learn about the variety of programs and resources available to assist you at every stage of your divorce journey, as well as how to access free resources like coaching calls and helpful gifts. Plus, we'll give you a sneak peek at upcoming events, including free “taste test” sessions for our new support and training groups. Visit the NEW Home Page of Journey Beyond Divorce: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/homenew Free gifts for each stage of divorce: On the Fence: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/onthefence Just Starting: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/juststarted In Negotiations: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/innegotiations Moving On: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/movingon

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)If you want to get more clients, you don't need to make more Instagram reels or write a ton of blog posts.  You need to clean up your language. In this episode Tracy and Debra reveal the truth bomb that successful divorce coaches aren't selling divorce coaching. They sell a goal plus a result.The #1 mistake we see new coaches make is using “coachy” language in their marketing materials and in their consult calls. And "coachy" language just doesn't resonate with potential clients or referral sources.Your potential clients don't want to hear about the coaching process or what you think they need - they want to hear how you'll help them solve their problem and what it looks or feels like when they've reached that goal.Listen in as we deconstruct a typical divorce coaching pitch and show you how to define results that will make any prospect want to invest in working with you.If you'd like some help to clean up your marketing language, please consider joining our DCA Case Consultation Group where you can meet bi-monthly to share, connect, and get feedback on your business. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)In this episode we explore the "Big Five" - those core personality traits that tend to be consistent over time and circumstance. PLUS, we share a secret mantra that just may help you and your clients experience less stress when dealing with the difficult people in their lives.We consistently hear clients express disappointment, frustration, and even rage when their spouse, ex or co-parent doesn't act or behave in the way they think they should. And we get it. It's incredibly distressing to have to be on the receiving end of someone else's less than stellar behavior. But we have to ask…is this really surprising? While people's personality traits may get exaggerated during the divorce process, they typically aren't radically different than the way that spouse behaved during the marriage. And clients continue to suffer when they continue to expect their partner or co-parent to radically transform during divorce.Understanding these 5 personality traits can help anyone going through divorce or co-parenting conflict stay grounded in the reality of who their partner is. And that gives them the freedom and agency to decide how to respond. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Divorce coaching can transform your experience when navigating high-conflict separations, especially with a narcissistic or difficult ex. Learn why proactive coaching is more effective than crisis-mode reactions, how to build resilience during calm periods, and the practical strategies that can save you emotional and financial strain.In this episode, I share real-life success stories, highlights the role of divorce coaching alongside legal and therapeutic support, and discusses how it prioritizes the well-being of your children while minimizing conflict. Whether you're facing custody battles or seeking to co-parent effectively, this episode offers insights and actionable advice to help you thrive through the process.Eye-Opening Moments PodcastEye-Opening Moments are stories of adversity, encounters, and perspectives. They are...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Divorce can feel like an overwhelming and never-ending process, but what if there were ways to make it go faster while ensuring a smoother transition to your new life? In this episode, we dive deep into strategies for speeding up your divorce without skipping the essential healing and personal growth needed for a successful new beginning. While it may seem like the ultimate goal is simply to sign the divorce papers and be done with it, the real work lies in how you handle the emotional and psychological aftermath. If you rush through the process without addressing your underlying issues—like people-pleasing, shaky boundaries, or ineffective communication—those struggles will only follow you into your post-divorce life. We discuss how you can make your divorce go quicker by not avoiding the hard work of healing, setting firm boundaries, and learning how to communicate effectively with your ex. It's about doing the inner work so that, when you finally reach the other side, you're not just free legally, but emotionally and mentally as well. Tune in for actionable tips on how to accelerate your divorce process while evolving into a stronger, healthier version of yourself. Journey Beyond Divorce Resources: Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce A word from our sponsors: Soberlink is a revolutionary tool designed to support individuals in their journey to sobriety. As a leading provider of remote alcohol monitoring, Soberlink offers a secure and reliable solution that helps people stay accountable and transparent in their recovery process. We're grateful for Soberlink's commitment to enhancing the recovery process and providing valuable resources to our listeners. Learn more about how Soberlink can make a difference in your journey at www.soberlink.com/jbd ======= TalkingParents provides a comprehensive platform designed to simplify co-parenting and enhance communication between parents. With secure messaging, a shared calendar, and features for tracking parenting time, TalkingParents ensures that all important details and agreements are documented and accessible.  We're grateful for TalkingParents' support in simplifying co-parenting and enhancing communication for our listeners. Discover how TalkingParents can bring clarity and organization to your co-parenting journey at www.talkingparents.com/jbd

In the United States, 41% of first marriages end in divorce. For those who have experienced divorce, you know it can turn your whole world upside down. While your lawyer plays a critical role in the process, their support typically covers only about a third of what you truly need. That's where a divorce coach becomes invaluable. Ksenia Muench founded Thrive Again Divorce Coaching after enduring a harrowing divorce herself. She understands that it takes a village, and as your divorce coach, she serves as the quarterback, ensuring you have the full team of support you need. In this episode, we discuss the many layers and complexities of ending a marriage and starting anew, as well as her fascinating journey from Russia to California. Along the way, she has worn many hats, including concert pianist, teacher, translator, insurance broker, and now entrepreneur dedicated to helping other women thrive.

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)When it comes to buying real estate, the saying is location, location, location. When it comes to negotiating a divorce settlement or parenting plan, we say strategy, strategy, strategy. And whether you're negotiating at the kitchen table, participating in mediation, or working through attorneys, the same principles apply.In Getting to YES: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In, William Ury tells us that “standard strategies for negotiation often leave people dissatisfied, worn out, or alienated - and frequently all three”. That's because most of us have only learned how to negotiate using a style called positional bargaining.In positional bargaining, parties simply try to outwait, overpower, or out argue each other until someone finally gives enough. They may reach agreement, but it isn't satisfying for either one of them. Principled negotiation, on the other hand, allows for mutual satisfying solutions and wise agreements.Listen in as Tracy and Debra review the elements of principled negotiation and discuss the reasons working with a DCA certified divorce coach is the best way to become informed, develop skills and create a strategy so you can negotiate in a way that both aligns with your desired outcomes and minimizes conflict. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Who among us wouldn't like to be a better problem solver? Well, that's the topic of our conversation today. We discuss the 4 general types of problems most of us face, offer some help for identifying the type of solution that's right for each, and apply these tips to divorce and co-parenting.  When it comes to solving problems and making tough decisions, people love plans, so they tend to make a lot of checklists, to-do lists, and timelines. And because they want the perfect plan, they often want more and more data to help them create a plan that will give them a sense of certainty. We see this so often when clients get stuck preparing to divorce. Why all the planning? Because uncertainty feels uncomfortable. Our tendency is to think that more information and a rock solid plan will give us control over future events. But the truth is, the ‘perfect plan' doesn't exist.When faced with a problem or a decision, experts tell us that any action is better than no action; it doesn't matter what you do, it just matters that you do, in order to learn and move forward.Instead, having a decision making framework can give you the confidence that a solution will arise. And with the support of a certified divorce coach, you can gain insight and skills to handle difficult situations with less fear, less stress, and less conflict. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Are you exhausted from putting everyone else's needs above your own, especially in a relationship that feels like an emotional battleground? If you're a people-pleaser navigating a high-conflict marriage or heading into divorce, you're likely feeling stretched thin, frustrated, and maybe even a little lost. It's a familiar story for those of us who, often without realizing it, start to sacrifice our own happiness for the sake of “keeping the peace” or avoiding conflict. But here's the truth: the peace you're trying to preserve comes at a cost – the cost of your own inner stability, self-worth, and sometimes, your identity. As you face divorce, these tendencies to prioritize others can become a heavy burden. High-conflict divorces often mean intense emotions, drawn-out negotiations, and high-stakes decisions. And if you've been used to compromising your needs for the sake of someone else's comfort, standing up for yourself now can feel overwhelming. In this process, the same patterns that held you back in marriage – fear of confrontation, the need for validation, and a habit of shrinking yourself – can make it challenging to truly advocate for your needs. The path out of this cycle isn't easy, but it's absolutely possible. This is where Nancy Levin comes in. Nancy is a Master Coach, bestselling author, and the founder of Levin Life Coach Academy. She's here to help you take center stage in your own life. Through her own experiences and the insights she's gained as a former Event Director at Hay House, Nancy understands what it means to move from people-pleasing to authenticity, especially during life-changing events like divorce. In this episode, she's sharing her wisdom and powerful strategies to help you break free from the need to please and reclaim your power, so you can begin living life on your own terms. Connect with Nancy: Website: www.nancylevin.com FREE GUIDE: Becoming Aware of Your Shadow: Recognize, Reconcile & Reveal the True You: https://nancylevin.com/aware/ Follow Nancy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nancy_levin/?hl=en Journey Beyond Divorce Resources: Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce A word from our sponsors: Soberlink is a revolutionary tool designed to support individuals in their journey to sobriety. As a leading provider of remote alcohol monitoring, Soberlink offers a secure and reliable solution that helps people stay accountable and transparent in their recovery process. We're grateful for Soberlink's commitment to enhancing the recovery process and providing valuable resources to our listeners. Learn more about how Soberlink can make a difference in your journey at www.soberlink.com/jbd ======= TalkingParents provides a comprehensive platform designed to simplify co-parenting and enhance communication between parents. With secure messaging, a shared calendar, and features for tracking parenting time, TalkingParents ensures that all important details and agreements are documented and accessible.  We're grateful for TalkingParents' support in simplifying co-parenting and enhancing communication for our listeners. Discover how TalkingParents can bring clarity and organization to your co-parenting journey at www.talkingparents.com/jbd  

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)These days we seem to be living in a society defined by us versus them, black and white thinking, intolerance, fixed mindsets, and lack of curiosity. Not only is conflict remaining unresolved, but our interactions (especially online) seem to pour more gasoline on the fire rather than cooling it off. We see conflict spiraling and escalating at an alarming rate and there seems to be less interest in trying to find common ground or solutions. It's almost like people are itching for a fight.We've seen family members stop speaking to each other, long time friendships disintegrate and workplaces become minefields.The question is…where can we go from here? Are we just destined to continue down a path of divisiveness or is there a way to move toward relationship and restoration? We believe that whether it's politics or divorce and co-parenting, we can apply the same aspects of conflict resolution to both politics and divorce.Listen in as we explore 6 lessons grounded in the electoral process's emphasis on structure, fairness, and engagement, and how we can adapt them to personal and professional conflict resolution scenarios as well. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Welcome to another episode of Journey Beyond Divorce, where we tackle the often overwhelming journey of navigating through a high-conflict divorce. Today, we dive deep into the theme  of Divorce and  Uncertainty. Divorce inevitably brings a whirlwind of emotions and uncertainties, leaving many feeling lost and overwhelmed. This episode is dedicated to helping you embrace these feelings and transform them into opportunities for growth and self-discovery. We will explore how to face your fears head-on, recognize the areas of uncertainty, and challenge the negative what-if thoughts that often plague our minds during this tumultuous time. In this episode, we will guide you through practical steps to shift your perspective from loss to possibility. By examining the worst-case scenarios and daring to dream about the best outcomes, you'll learn to play with positive what-if thoughts and believe that everything happening is ultimately for your growth. Join me as we embark on this journey of turning fear into fuel, and discovering the potential for a brighter, more empowered future beyond divorce. Journey Beyond Divorce Resources: Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce A word from our sponsors: Soberlink is a revolutionary tool designed to support individuals in their journey to sobriety. As a leading provider of remote alcohol monitoring, Soberlink offers a secure and reliable solution that helps people stay accountable and transparent in their recovery process. We're grateful for Soberlink's commitment to enhancing the recovery process and providing valuable resources to our listeners. Learn more about how Soberlink can make a difference in your journey at www.soberlink.com/jbd ======= TalkingParents provides a comprehensive platform designed to simplify co-parenting and enhance communication between parents. With secure messaging, a shared calendar, and features for tracking parenting time, TalkingParents ensures that all important details and agreements are documented and accessible.  We're grateful for TalkingParents' support in simplifying co-parenting and enhancing communication for our listeners. Discover how TalkingParents can bring clarity and organization to your co-parenting journey at www.talkingparents.com/jbd

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)In this episode, we dive into the significant, but often unrecognized role of ego in divorce conflict. In William Ury's book "Possible", he identifies how ego plays a significant role in escalating conflicts.But this really shouldn't come as much of a surprise. When we focus on being "right" or protecting our pride, we may very well lose sight of the larger goals. This is what we refer to as an inner conflict and there is a critical connection between resolving inner conflict and addressing external conflict. Part of working to resolve inner conflict often involves setting aside ego-driven impulses to prioritize constructive solutions.We know that divorce can be one of the most challenging experiences in life, and understanding how ego plays into the dynamics can be a game-changer. So, whether you're going through a divorce yourself or supporting someone who is, listen in as we explore some insights and strategies to help navigate this emotional minefield. Divorce is never easy, but understanding the role of ego in the process can help you navigate it with more clarity and grace. By recognizing when ego is driving reactions, one can choose healthier responses that prioritize resolution and well-being over pride and resentment.Divorce coaching can offer clients support to identify when ego is creating obstacles to conflict resolution. Learn more about training to become a certified divorce coach or find a divorce coach at divorcecoachesacademy.com Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Tracy and Debra are taking the week off to enjoy holiday time with family so we're taking this opportunity to share an episode from the back catalog about the importance of working on a divorce exit strategy. Since many people begin thinking about divorce during the holiday season but wait util January to take any action, we thought it might be helpful to review the steps that clients can take in advance to set themselves up for a better divorce process. In this episode we share that most of our clients would say their top priorities are:minimize impact on the childrenfeel confident that the settlement they're agreeing to is fairkeep divorce costs downget through the process without losing their mindsWe hope you were able to spend some time with friends and family over Thanksgiving and we hope you enjoy this episode where we discuss about the 5 ways working on an exit strategy can pave the way for a good divorce if things go well and protect clients in the event that things go poorly. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

With over 20 years of experience as a therapist, teacher, and school counselor, Cari D'Angelo has witnessed the impact of divorce on families. Having gone through two divorces herself, she understands the emotional and co-parenting challenges. After struggling with mediation and legal expenses, she found peace in single parenting. This, along with her professional background, led her to become a Certified Divorce Coach. Cari's mission is to help parents and children navigate divorce more smoothly, minimizing emotional and legal challenges for the best outcomes.They discuss the challenges and realities of single parenting, the emotional journey through divorce, and the transition into coaching. Cari shares her insights on co-parenting dynamics, the importance of putting children first, and the unique challenges faced by single parents. The conversation emphasizes the need for support networks and the role of coaching in navigating divorce and parenting.TakeawaysEnsure stability for your children.Build a reliable support system.Prioritize emotional validation.Timestamps00:00 Met Carrie D, experienced therapist and counselor.04:09 Single parents face different challenges than married parents.09:40 Natural progression: Teacher to school counselor transition.12:39 Coaches offer diverse expertise for different needs.15:52 Help parents prioritize children, not control them.20:05 Started as 35/65 custody split, then moved.23:04 I make decisions; prefer a partner's involvement.26:10 Readiness to start is key in coaching.27:07 Consider options and build your divorce team.30:20 Clients from Google, directory, and Instagram.

This week on The Relaxed Male, we have a special guest, Dawn Wiggins, host of the podcast Dear Divorce Diaries. We dive deep into the world of marriage counseling and explore what couples can expect from therapy. Dawn shares insights on how to navigate the painful journey of divorce and offers strategies to prevent it by fostering healthier relationships.We discuss the concept of conflict avoidance, a common issue many men face, and how it impacts relationships. Dawn explains the importance of emotional processing and the dangers of becoming "comfortably numb" through distractions like work, screens, and substances. We explore how men can step into conflict constructively and create relationships worth fighting for.Dawn shares her experiences with homeopathy and its impact on emotional well-being, offering a fresh perspective on alternative medicine. We also touch on the importance of grounding oneself in a belief system and how it can provide stability during conflicts.Throughout the episode, we emphasize the significance of self-acceptance and understanding repetitive patterns in relationships. Dawn provides practical advice for men to improve their connections with their partners by observing and addressing deeper issues.Join us for an enlightening conversation that challenges traditional views on masculinity and offers actionable steps for personal growth and relationship improvement.Information on Our GuestDawn Wiggins TherapyShe specializes in EMDR, Tapping, Marriage therapy, and psychotherapy. With her offices based in Florida, she does in-person and online sessions. Dawn also is a divorce coach helping women learn to process their thoughts and emotions so that they are able to grow from their experience.Divorce Coaching - https://mycoachdawn.com/Dawn's Therapy Website - https://www.dawnwigginstherapy.com/Podcast: Dear Divorce Diary- https://mycoachdawn.com/divorce-podcast/Dawns Social MediaFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawnX - https://x.com/dawn_wigginsInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dawnwiggins/Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@DawnWigginsLMFTBocaRatonThreads - https://www.threads.net/@dawnwiggins

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)At DCA, we share a vision that couples would have the ability to rearrange and restructure their relationships and their families in a way that leads to wholeness and happiness. Divorce is often seen as an end—an ending to a marriage, an ending to a chapter of life. But what if it didn't have to be a painful, adversarial process? What if divorce could be approached with intention, healing, and collaboration, with the goal of not just separating, but rebuilding lives in a healthy, sustainable way?In today's episode, we explore the idea of restorative divorce—an approach that focuses on healing, mutual respect, and long-term well-being for both partners. We'll dive into how this process works, how it differs from adversarial divorce, and why we believe it's a better way forward.We wrestle with the concept that divorce creates a broken home, discuss the recent addition of CAPRD (Child Affected by Parental Relationship Disorder) to the DSM IV, and outline the six elements of a restorative divorce process. As opposed to traditional divorce that focuses on winning, a restorative divorce process is an alternative that can reduce harm, encourage positive outcomes, and support healthier post-divorce relationships for everyone involved. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We're taking a detour from our planned topic today because we think it's time critical to talk about the implications of eliminating no-fault divorce. Based on this week's election results, as divorce professionals we need to be thinking about, discussing, and preparing for another potential shift in the landscape of divorce.No-fault divorce has been around for decades, but there's been a growing push in some places to repeal it. But what would happen if we eliminated no-fault divorce? How would it change the dynamics of marriages, families, and even the legal system? Well, that's what we're exploring today.Tracy and Debra talk through the potential implications of reinstating fault divorce including the impact on conflict, cost, our court systems and children.The debate is complex, and there are no easy answers. But it's important to keep discussing it and to think critically about the consequences—for the individuals and families involved, for you as a divorce professional, and for society as a whole. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We've talked previously about the problem cycle (see episode #69), but recently learned about the 3 poisons in Buddhism and they seem particularly applicable to some of the issues we see in divorce and co-parenting. In his early teachings, the Buddha identified “three poisons” or three negative qualities of the mind that cause most of our problems—and most of the problems in the world. Attachment: we want to attract and hold on to what is good for us (also called greed or lust).Aversion: we want to repel what is bad for us (also called aggression or anger).Ignorance: we are indifferent to what doesn't affect us personally (also called delusion).  So in this week's episode, Tracy and Debra are going to see if we can't use some of this ancient wisdom to gain insight into shifting clients out of the problem cycle or suffering, into a mindset more grounded in acceptance and action. Listen in as we discuss how these 3 poisons show up in divorce and ways to apply the antidotes. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)One of the most emotional and difficult parts of divorce can be negotiating parenting plans - especially for co-parents who are experiencing a high degree of conflict. We shared a statistic last week that 80% of the family court calendar is taken up by custody matters and frankly that breaks our hearts. Because we know that parental conflict is the #1 reason children are negatively impacted in the divorce process.Today, we discuss why we believe a thorough and detailed parenting plan is the most effective way to help conflicted co-parents prevent future disagreements and future litigation.An effective parenting plan goes well beyond just parenting time schedules and expense sharing, but encourages parents to discuss the many details of raising children together. Regardless of how parents feel about each other, the fact is that they will be family for life. As anyone with adult children knows, parenting doesn't stop when a child turns 18.We often hear that attorneys push back on discussing or documenting any agreements that aren't supported by the legal statutes. The typical response is “That's not enforceable”.  And we get it - lawyers are focused on the legal aspects of a divorce case. But as divorce coaches, we take a more holistic approach and are interested in helping families transition so they are able to co-parent effectively. Listen in as we chat about why we believe that changing the experience of divorce for families means moving beyond the legal minimum requirements and developing a comprehensive plan that works for each family. Conflicted Co-Parenting Training Begins Nov 4 --> Learn More and Enroll Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We consistently say that all divorce involves conflict. Even in the most amicable divorce, couples aren't likely to agree on everything. But one area that seems to spur the most conflict is co-parenting. We recently read that 80% of the court's time is taken up by custody matters which tells us that co-parenting and making decisions about children is a hot button topic.So today we're exploring one aspect that contributes heavily to co-parenting conflict and that's when people have difficulty transitioning from stakeholders in each other's lives to business partners. Moving from being a couple to being co-parents is a shift that can take time and requires both parents to focus on what's best for their children instead of what's important to them. We get into common triggers and obstacles, talk a bit about gatekeeping and alienation, and walk you through a real life client scenario.If you're a certified divorce coach and want to learn more about supporting co-parents who are having difficulty, we'll be starting a 6-week co-parenting intensive beginning the week of November 4.Learn more about becoming a DCA® Conflicted Co-Parenting Divorce Coach Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)When we talk with prospective students and new students, we get a lot of questions about what's it's really like to start a career as a professional divorce coach. So today, Christina Stone is going to give us all a behind the scenes look at what that journey is really like.Christina is a Certified ADR Divorce coach and if that name sounds familiar, it's because she also happens to be our Operations Coordinator here at DCA so you may have been in communication with her at some point. Today Christina and Debra are sharing some truth and busting some myths about starting a career as a divorce coach. It is truly a viable career, but as Christina will tell you...it takes persistence, patience and a plan.While there are exceptions, the majority of new divorce coaches do not make $60 or $70k their first year out and anyone who tells you something different has an agenda. But you can get there by staying focused on your goals, being part of a divorce coaching community, and continuing to learn and hone your skills.We hope you enjoy getting to know Christina and we are thrilled to have her as part of the DCA community and team.You can find Christina at:Email: cnfewcoaching@gmail.comWebsite: cnfewcoaching.netInstagram: c.n.fewcoaching Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)One thing that seems to be certain in divorce is that no one gets everything they want. Most walk away feeling like they had to give up more than their share in order to get to a final agreement.  Rarely do we hear a client say they thought the settlement was 100% fair and equitable. Most everyone feels like they got the short end of the stick.So in this episode we dive into this idea of “fairness” and talk about how it can cause problems or create obstacles when it comes to getting to a final resolution. And we offer some coaching strategies for working with clients who get stuck in their own definition of "fairness".Many clients start out saying “I just want what's fair”. The trouble is that rarely will their spouse have the same definition of fair. We joke that “fair” is the 4-letter F word in divorce because what you think is fair, what I think is fair, and what the legal system thinks is fair can be wildly different. Listen in as Tracy and Debra discuss the concept of fairness and justice and how expanding our definition of what's "fair" may be the key to finally reaching an agreement everyone can feel OK about. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Divorce is hard enough with all the emotional turmoil, big challenges, and important decisions. It's even more difficult when your partner is intentionally working against you. But even more troublesome is when clients are working against themselves, so in this episode we're talking about self-sabotage. We discuss how to recognize it, and more importantly, how to support clients who are engaging in self sabotaging behavior that may be preventing them from reaching their desired goal or outcome.Self-sabotage is a completely normal human behavior and shows up frequently in divorce and co-parenting as a result of fear of the unknown, perfectionism, lack of self belief, resistance to change, or learned behaviors.Overcoming self-sabotage requires a combination of self-awareness, self-compassion, and intentional effort - all things divorce coaches are great at supporting our clients with.Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk through why self-sabotage happens and how you can work with clients in self-destruct mode to get them on a better path. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Good storytelling is a powerful tool for creating connection, building trust, and communicating ideas and concepts. However, when it comes to divorce coaching, storytelling can be a mixed bag. And a common mistake we see coaches make is oversharing about their own personal experiences.In this episode, we discuss when and how it is appropriate to share personal stories with clients. While it's well-intentioned, it's also important to be mindful about when and how we share personal stories with clients.Our words of caution...there are two ways storytelling can muddy the waters when it comes to our coaching relationships. First, sharing too much from our personal lives can take the focus off the client and put the spotlight back on the coach. And second, clients look to us as the expert so those stories might be interpreted as directive or advice giving. Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk about why intention matters when it comes to storytelling in divorce coaching. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

In this episode, we dive into the powerful influence of archetypes and constraints during divorce. We'll explore how inherited beliefs and societal expectations can hold you back, and discuss practical ways to break free from these limitations. Whether you're struggling with financial, emotional, or time constraints, this episode offers insights and divorce support to help you navigate this challenging time and start rebuilding your life with confidence. Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.For additional divorce support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We like to think that we actively have our fingers on the pulse of the divorce industry and the application of divorce coaching nationally and around the world. But recently, we have been hearing some noise about the need for divorce coaches to have training in areas such as trauma and post separation abuse. Yet, at the same time, we're hearing cries for divorce coaches to stay in their lane. We are finding this dialogue confusing - not only for professional practicing divorce coaches but for consumers who are looking to learn more about working with a divorce coach or how divorce coaching can help them. The reality is that any good, professional divorce coach is trauma sensitive in the way they approach their work with clients. The difference is that we do not venture into the arena of DV advocacy, legal advice or therapy. We remain firmly grounded in the ABA definition of divorce coaching as a form of dispute resolution.A trauma-informed approach to conflict in divorce recognizes and addresses the impact of trauma on individuals' behaviors, emotions, and interactions. This approach is rooted in understanding the pervasive effects of trauma and emphasizes safety, trust, empowerment, and collaboration.We endeavor to minimize further harm by helping clients get through their divorce process with the least amount of damage to their bank account and their mental health. Because the only way out is through. In order to recover from the negative experience of the marriage, our clients need support to get to the other side where they can be free to heal and build a new life. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)One thing we've noticed this year is that the Olympians we admire most have some lessons to teach us about divorce and co-parenting including sportsmanship, teamwork, and how to handle stress, victory and defeat.Let's take Katie Ledecky for example. She is widely regarded as the greatest female swimmer of all time and one of the greatest Olympians of all time. At just 27 years old, she has won eight Olympic gold medals and 21 world championship gold medals. What sets Ledecky apart from her competitors is her incredible work ethic and unyielding determination.And Ledecky is just one of thousands of athletes who are showing us this level of dedication, sacrifice, and commitment to excellence and teaching us important lessons about teamwork, collaboration, managing stress, sportsmanship, the role of coaching, the importance of goals, and knowing when to retire.Listen in as Tracy and Debra chat about the 12 divorce and co-parenting lessons they're taking away from the Olympic athletes. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Join Kristen as she shares her powerful journey from Ivy League success and Wall Street prominence to navigating the complexities of narcissistic abuse and co-parenting. After stepping away from her career to raise their children, Kristen found herself isolated and facing the challenges of parenting alongside a narcissistic ex-husband. Through this tumultuous period, she rediscovered her self-confidence and learned to accept her ex's behavior as a co-parent. Now, several years post-divorce, Kristen enjoys her weekends of freedom while her children are with their father. She has built a new social circle and embraced life with a renewed sense of purpose. Kristen's story is one of resilience, growth, and finding joy after overcoming adversity. Journey Beyond Divorce Resources mentioned in this episode:Soberlink:  www.soberlink.com/jbdBook a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com 

Welcome to Tender Talks, where we explore navigating children through divorce amidst conflict. In today's episode, we delve into effective communication strategies with children during divorce. Join us as Dr. David S. Marcus, Ph.D., a renowned Clinical Psychologist with over 40 years of expertise in family therapy and child advocacy, shares essential insights. Discover practical advice on supporting children through this challenging transition and fostering a stable environment. Guest Introduction: Dr. David S. Marcus, Ph.D. Overview of Dr. Marcus's extensive expertise in Clinical Psychology, specializing in family therapy and child advocacy for over 40 years.Highlighting his role as a respected figure in Cincinnati and beyond for his compassionate approach to supporting families through divorce and conflict. Episode Highlights Effective Parent-Child CommunicationStrategies for navigating conversations about divorce with children.Impact of divorce discussions on children's emotional well-being. Avoiding Harmful PracticesWhat parents should avoid when discussing ex-partners and their families.Importance of maintaining a soothing presence for children during the divorce process. Guest Spotlight:  Dr Marcus, Ph.D. Who is Dr. Marcus: Dr. David S. Marcus's extensive expertise and commitment to improving the lives of individuals and families have made him a highly respected figure in the field of Clinical Psychology. With 40 years of experience in treating families under stress, he is a sought-after clinical and legal resource in the Cincinnati area, particularly on the topics of parent-child communication and child advocacy. His deep understanding and compassionate approach have helped countless families navigate the difficult terrain of divorce and conflict.Thank you for joining us on this insightful episode of Tender Talks, where we've explored the critical topic of guiding children through divorce amidst conflict. We hope the expertise shared by Dr. David S. Marcus, Ph.D., has provided valuable insights and practical strategies for navigating this sensitive conversation with your children. Remember, prioritizing effective communication and maintaining a soothing presence can significantly support children during this challenging time. Resources Mentioned:Email: dsmarcusphd@gmail.com Journey Beyond Divorce Resources mentioned in this episode:Soberlink:  www.soberlink.com/jbdBook a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Boundary Bootcamp: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/boundarybootcamp

Going through a divorce is a challenging journey, and it becomes even more complex when both parties continue living under the same roof. This episode explores practical strategies for setting boundaries and managing conflicts during this transitional period. Understanding Conflicts and Boundaries: Conflict Dynamics: Living together post-divorce can lead to clashes over shared spaces, routines, and social interactions.Communication and Clarity: Effective communication and clear boundaries are essential to maintaining peace and stability at home.Emotional Challenges and Setting Boundaries: Fear and Uncertainty: Recognizing and addressing fears and uncertainties during this phase is crucial for personal growth and stability.Emotional Well-being: Setting boundaries isn't just physical; it's about protecting emotional well-being and fostering a healthier living environment.Living Differently During Divorce: Redefining Personal Spaces: Practical tips for redefining personal spaces and establishing rules that respect both parties' privacy.Support and Mediation: The role of support networks and mediation in navigating difficult conversations and setting boundaries effectively.As you navigate divorce, setting boundaries is a proactive step towards managing conflicts and promoting emotional healing. By establishing clear guidelines and seeking support when needed, you can pave the way for a healthier transition and future interactions. Journey Beyond Divorce Resources mentioned in this episode: Divorce 101: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/divorce101JBD Team Talks: Nesting - what is it and is it right for you?: https://journey-beyond-divorce-podcast.simplecast.com/episodes/jbd-team-talks-nesting-what-is-it-and-is-it-right-for-youSoberlink:  www.soberlink.com/jbdBook a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  

Ann Margaret shares her struggles around faith and family when deciding whether or not to seek a divorce from her spouse of 19 years. As a devout Catholic, she needed to be 'right with God' and sought to understand if and how her desire to leave her marriage was aligned with her deep faith. She goes on to share her concerns for the impact the divorce would have on her children, the challenges of living under the same roof during Covid and keeping the 'secret' of the impending divorce from her kids until the school year ended. Finally, Ann Margaret had a huge fear of being alone and shares the unfolding journey of her dating and relationship life after divorce. Ann Margaret describes her divorce as amicable and post divorce co parenting relationship as respectful. She offers great wisdom and guidance around the power of coaching and the importance of tuning into and listening to the soft voice of intuition that is there to guide you. Journey Beyond Divorce Resources mentioned in this episode:Soberlink:  www.soberlink.com/jbdBook a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com