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While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true.  Today’s session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman’s journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared.   Tune in as she shares the struggles she faced with her narcissistic ex, and how while he never changed, she changed so much that she rarely feels anxiety around interactions with him.  Elle shares how she is living a peaceful and joyful life in spite of the fact that she has been divorced for 8 years, co-parenting / parallel parenting her school age child with his dad (and has many years left to go before her child is emancipated).  Elle shares specific tools and strategies she received from coaching that you too can use to minimize the stress and tension in your situation.   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

The psychological impact of living with a HCP crushes your self esteem often leaving you, the spouse insecure, reactive and bitter.  Dr. Gayle Reed shares how forgiveness is a healing balm for the spouse of the HCP.  She explains the traumatic impact of verbal and emotional abuse and the psychological defenses you use to manage the resulting anger, pain and confusion.     While forgiveness seems to be for the HCP, it is actually for you, the spouse. Forgiveness is not condoning, accepting, excusing or denying the abuse.  Gayle takes us through a 4 phase process that helps you to uncover the impact of unforgiveness, examine the benefits of choosing forgiveness, begin the journey to forgive and the healing that journey invites and ultimately, how forgiveness, healing and growth is the cornerstone for finding meaning in the struggle with the HCP.   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Today’s episode is dedicated to your healing journey. Those of us who marry HCPs have our part in the dysfunction as we discussed in episode 2 -  Divorcing A Narcissist: The Personality Disorders and Dysfunctional Dance of High Conflict Marriages.    We are excited to have Ross Rosenberg with us again today to share deeply effective strategies for healing from codependency, a self love deficiency disorder.  Ross speaks passionately about how vital it is to heal trauma from childhood to gain the self love that was ‘robbed’ from your childhood.     As the spouse of the HCP, the promise for your future lies in keeping the focus on your healing and in changing behaviors that have not benefited you.  If you struggle with this,we are here to support you.   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

As we began discussing in our last episode, communicating with a high conflict personality (HCP) is often frustrating and fruitless, and leaves us feeling angry, exhausted and unheard.   Today’s episode offers a unique and powerful approach to communicating with a narcissist that enables you to protect your interests without conflict or drama! This strategy neutralizes combative and emotionally charged power struggles and inspires the narcissist to cooperate. (Get ready to take notes!)   Special guest Lindsey Ellison, is the author of Magic Words, a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching.  As a result of struggling to communicate with her narcissist ex-spouse and support her clients to do the same with theirs, Lindsey brilliantly applied her experience from her previous marketing career to design a simple yet powerful 5 step strategy to get you what you want from a narcissist.    Need support? Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Today’s powerful episode gives you the strategies and tools needed to communicate more effectively with your spouse’s high conflict personality.  You have been struggling with criticism, deflection, blaming and black and white thinking.  You have doubted your own version of reality, lost your self esteem and tried time and again to reason with your spouse to no end.  What you didn’t know was that communicating with a HCP requires a very different approach.   HCPs do not respond to logic.  Their brains are wired differently which is why your reasoning was fuel to the fire of conflict you were trying to put out.  You continually get hooked into his/her reality, react is frustration or discouragement with nothing changing   Today’s guests, Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle are experts in high conflict disputes and explain why your reasoning approach has not worked and what you need to do to communicate more effectively with the HCP in your life.  Learn about the EAR and BIFF approaches that will forever change the way you interact and coparent with your HCP.

You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have ‘hidden’ it from them.  Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce.     Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning.  Figuring out how to parent in the ‘in between’ while still living together is another sensitive topic that needs to be handled carefully.  Then there is the possibility that you or your spouse may blame, criticize or bad mouth the other to the kids. This is always harmful to them and we discuss what you can do to minimize the damage.    Finally, the money earning parent may want to increase his/her time with the children. We discuss the importance of honoring and maintaining as much ‘normalcy’ as possible for your kids and handling any change with caution and clear communication, so they understand what is happening and why.  Parenting post divorce may be equally challenging. Tune in to hear options for decision making and shared parenting time that puts the kids first.

You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have ‘hidden’ it from them.  Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce.     Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning.  Figuring out how to parent in the ‘in between’ while still living together is another sensitive topic that needs to be handled carefully.  Then there is the possibility that you or your spouse may blame, criticize or bad mouth the other to the kids. This is always harmful to them and we discuss what you can do to minimize the damage.    Finally, the money earning parent may want to increase his/her time with the children. We discuss the importance of honoring and maintaining as much ‘normalcy’ as possible for your kids and handling any change with caution and clear communication, so they understand what is happening and why.  Parenting post divorce may be equally challenging. Tune in to hear options for decision making and shared parenting time that puts the kids first.

Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming.  For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality.   There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of transparency of one spouse, and the intimidation and bullying that repeatedly derails negotiations.  For the high conflict divorce, it can be enormously valuable to take advantage of the court’s ability to control the pace of the legal process, require a net worth statement and other financial documentation and include additional experts to help with custody and spousal support and asset distribution. Today’s episode is filled with vital information on how to hire the right attorney, what to expect throughout the process,  the do’s and don’ts of communicating with your high conflict spouse and the vital importance of setting realistic expectations around custody and finances. Information is power, today’s show will empower you to navigate your divorce with greater clarity and confidence.

Living with a narcissist is ‘crazy making’.  Understanding your role in the ongoing insanity is vital in order to create lasting change. In order to navigate your divorce effectively and strategically and emerge confident and renewed, it is essential that you keep your focus on that which you have power over...your thoughts, feelings and behavior. Today’s episode invites you into a ‘coaching experience’ where we validate your reality of fear and uncertainty, of your self esteem and confidence having been chiseled away in your dysfunctional marriage.  Tune in to access powerful strategies to begin to feel confident and empowered. Learn how futile many of your efforts of engaging with your spouse have been and how to let go of those behaviors. Receive new ways of thinking and being that lead you through your divorce with greater calm and clarity and invite you into a new and immensely more pleasing life experience. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

COVID-19 is impacting our lives in many ways. For many of our listeners, this virus is affecting their plans to divorce, or how they might be dealing with a past divorce. Topics in the program include: Filing for divorce during our current Covid-19 situation How to deal with visitation during these times Financial implications of divorce at the current time Could current spousal support orders be modified if your ex's income changes due to loos of work And more Join Steve Peck and attorney, Henry Gornbein for answers to these and other questions regarding the legal side of divorce during the coronavirus outbreak. For questions or comments, write: DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com

If you have lost yourself amidst your marriage with a narcissist, today’s show will reveal and explain much about the insanity you have been living with.  It is vital to understand the traits of the pathological narcissist and your role as a codependent in order to emotionally heal and change behaviors that have kept you stuck in your unhealthy marriage.  Our guest, psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg, coined the name 'Self Love Deficit Disorder' to explain codependency. Ross has invested significant personal and professional attention on understanding codependency, healing himself and helping others heal from codependency or Self Love Deficit Disorder.   In our conversation Ross explains why codependents attract pathological narcissists into their lives, the dysfunctional dance that takes place throughout your relationship and what you need to address in order to heal from your ‘self love deficit’ so that you never attract a narcissist into your life again.  Ross leaves you with a few powerful strategies to break the chains of engagement with the narcissist and encourages you that when you do this powerful work, you are not just recovered, but cured for good! Ross is the founder of www.selfloverecovery.com and author of “The Human Magnet Syndrome”. You can find him on Youtube sharing valuable wisdom around this topic. If you are divorcing a narcissist and need more personal support, this is our specialty and we are here to support you...  Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

High conflict personalities drive high conflict divorces. If you have been married to and are divorcing this type of personality, today’s show helps you to understand the traits common to this personality type. You will begin to understand your spouse’s inability to manage his/her emotions, their black and white thinking, extreme behaviors and tendency to blame are common to his/her personality and not about you. Our guest expert, Virginia Gilbert is a family and marriage therapist. She also sheds light on your part in the unhealthy dance of high conflict divorce. Most partners of high conflict personalities are caregivers or codependents, an equally unhealthy role in the relationship dynamic. We discuss the tendency of the codependent to want to change the HCP, keep the peace, be triggered and reactive and take the HCP’s behavior personally. Virginia speaks to the trauma of being married to such a personality and the impact it has on your nervous system and therefore your behavior. Learning to trust yourself, put your needs first and heal your broken sense of self are a few of the topics covered in today’s conversation. The good news is your high conflict divorce can be a catalyst to focus on yourself, develop healthy perspectives and behaviors, heal and become empowered and renewed.

Join Steve and Toni in this week’s episode of Being Single Live from the “D” as they discover what it takes to develop confidence and work your way from Fearful to Fabulous with Author, Confidence Coach and Divorce Recovery expert Fiona Eckersley. On this episode of Being Single: Confidence Coach Fiona Eckersley discusses moving on from a surprise divorce and unlocking personal power Discovering a new normal of personal choices Creating new and positive self-talk How trauma can lead to new perspectives and create new personal experiences How gratitude can create daily satisfaction and positive thoughts Follow our Guest: Website: http://www.FindfabulouswithFiona.com YouTube: Fiona Eckersley Contact: CallfabFiona.as.me   Follow Being Single on Facebook at: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio Instagram: @BeingSingleRadio Contact Us: DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com Bookings:Beingsingleradiotoni@gmail.com

Join Steve and Toni as they continue the journey of understanding and connection with Personal Development Coach and Author, Jonathon Aslay.  On this episode of Being Single: Mid-Life Dating and Relationship Coach Jonathon Aslay discusses self-love Setting intention with online dating profiles The inside scoop on what men really want How women can take the lead when reaching out to men- Be “NICE” Toni learns a lesson on judgment and expectations How silently sending love creates better experiences Follow our Guest: Website: http://www.jonathonaslay.com Twitter: @JonathonAslay Follow us on Facebook at: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio Instagram: @BeingSingleRadio Contact Us: Bookings:Beingsingleradiotoni@gmail.com

Toni and Steve are back with the 1st episode of 2020. Steve and Toni recently decided to start dating after years of knowing each other through hosting this show together. This episode highlights Steve spending Christmas in Chicago and meeting Toni's family, and then traveling back to Detroit for New Years with Toni meeting Steve's family.  Meeting the family of someone you just began dating can be quite interesting, to say the least. Thanks for listening and being part of our Being Single family.  We wish our listeners a healthy and happy New Year!  (Follow us on Facebook at: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio or Instagram at: @BeingSingleRadio.)

The Anatomy of An Affair series with David Feder continues with Being Alone for The Holidays in Episode #7. For many the significance of the Holiday Season is a combination of religious significance, gift-giving and reconnecting with friends and family.  But after an affair, what once seemed easy is now more complicated.  What is the right kind of gift to buy and what message do I want to give are now questions that need to be considered?  While we once looked forward to spending time together this year we worry about how to manage the awkwardness that may exist.  And what about the kids, don’t they deserve to have a good Holiday Season?  This is the time of year when some anticipate the arrival of Santa Claus, they look forward to spending time with parents, extended family and friends and they wonder whether the gift they so desire will be waiting for them. How you spend time is not an all or nothing proposition and it is often best to give each other permission to have some alone time apart from one another.  Of course this requires trust that the partner who cheated is not going to use that their alone time to visit with their affair partner.  If this is still a concern then spending time together may not be a good idea and you should reconsider whether spending any time together during the holiday season is a good idea. David offers advise and hope in this episode or The Anatomy of An Affair.   For more on David, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com.  Make the best of your holidays.  We wish you the best.  For more programs on divorce and life after divorce, visit www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.

Your Divorce Settlement has been negotiated and agreed upon.  Now it is time to step off the divorce battlefield take off your ‘coat of armor’ and begin the task of coparenting post divorce.  The good news is that much of the ongoing stress and tension around the negotiations quickly melts away which provides you with the opportunity to be fully present in attending to your children’s needs. But old habits die hard...so today we are going to highlight some of the most important Coparenting Do’s and Don’ts.  You and your ex were unable to cohabitate.  You have differences that are so extensive that you were unable to mend your marriage.  These differences will undoubltedly show up in how you each parent. The task and challenge in every situation is putting your children before your need to be right or better.  Today’s show intended to help you set yourself on the right path. For more info, visit Journey Beyond Divorce.

As we continue our post divorce series, today is all about you guys!  As you enter your new life chapter, we will guide you on how to refresh and reinvent yourself through style and image. Today’s guest will share tips on how to become your most authentic, magnetic and powerful self. Grab a pen and begin to explore how to hone in on the deeper blocks keeping you from attracting your dream woman! For more info, visit: Journey Beyond Divorce.

Your new life chapter provides an opportunity to reinvent yourself from the inside out.  You have stepped off the ‘battlefield of divorce’ and now is your time!  A time to refresh, renew and decide how you want to present yourself to the world.  It helps to understand what looks best on your body type and how to go through your closet to get rid of those items that don’t make you feel good about yourself.  We look at the new you and how to dress to feel confident, empowered and sexy.     Today’s guest is Diane Pollack is a fashion aficionado with over 20 years in the fashion industry and founder of Stylempower.  Diane educates women to create outfits that make them feel empowered and that enable them to radiate confidence. Listen in as Diane walks us through her client process and shares fun and effective tips for sorting through your wardrobe and creating a look that fits the new you!

Once your divorce is final, you are so relieved for it to finally be over, that it is easy to miss the crucial steps that can only be taken after your divorce is final.  This vital step allows you to secure and protect what you received in the settlement and sets you up for financial stability post divorce.  In today’s show Aviva Pinto helps review everything from closing accounts shared with your ex to retitling your policies, investments and accounts to changing your beneficiaries, drafting a new Will and taking care of your estate planning.  Regardless of the amount of money you are working with, the advice and guidance from today’s guest will enable you to launch into your post divorce life with a sense of financial security and peace of mind. Bronfman E.L. Rothschild, LP is a registered investment advisor (dba Bronfman Rothschild, Bronfman Rothschild Wealth Advisors, and Bronfman Rothschild Plan Advisors). Securities, when offered, are offered through an affiliate, Bronfman E.L. Rothschild Capital, LLC (dba BELR Capital, LLC), member FINRA/SIPC. For more on Karen visit Journey Beyond Divorce.

The business of sorting through years of stuff when divorcing can be overwhelming. The bigger your home, the more space you have to stuff stuff!  Now it’s time to purge...but you get stuck in every box, free falling down memory lane and getting little accomplished.    Today’s guest, professional organizer, Sarah Grace has a new and invigorating way of looking at your stuff.  She helps you to tap into the emotions embodied in your belongings and guides you to let go of that which does not serve your new life and to honor those items that are special to you.    She further explains the importance of a support network, the value of systems and the necessity of storage spaces when it comes to paperwork, bills and necessary but seldom used items etc. You will emerge from today’s show with a revitalized plan to sort through your stuff and reclaim your space!         Click here for more information on Journey Beyond Divorce.   Click here for more information on Sarah Grace.                   

The conversation and decision around what to do with the marital home can be an emotional minefield. For many, your home is your largest financial investment and the  foundation of stability in our lives, it is a hot trigger for most divorcing couples  Today’s guest, Divorce Real Estate Specialist, Kathy Broddock takes us through her process for assisting you in determining what RE professional to work with which is a vital first step.    Kathy helps you determine if you can stay or must sell, what you can you afford and if renting or buying is a better choice.  Together we explore how you can best decide where to live, and the importance of ensuring that you get something special, that you never had before, in your new home. Kathy’s expertise and approach is a beacon as you begin to entertain housing options for the next chapter of your life.    For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce Click Here.

Join Steve in a special conversation with Los Angeles based Casting Producer, Lindsay Spaulding, as they discuss an exciting casting opportunity for Season 2 of HGTV's Unspouse My House. This Home Renovation show, hosted by Orlando Soria, is searching for Los Angeles Homeowners who are looking to refresh their living space post-breakup. Lindsay and the casting team are seeking newly single/divorced (within 10 years) Los Angeles homeowners who are ready to renovate the home they once shared with their ex. If you live in Los Angeles, own your home, and are ready to clear out the emotional baggage and lingering memories of your ex, then this is the show for you! For more info or to apply, please email: lindsaycasting@gmail.com or unspoused@wyldsidemedia.com (put ATTN: Lindsay in the subject of email)

Today’s show acknowledges the tender emotions you experience while negotiating custody.  We encourage you to notice the nightmare stories that create fear and tension, derailing your negotiations. Our guest, Josh Hecht, shares strategies to cut through the acrimony, negotiate for both the current and the long term needs of your children, and insure that you consider the nitty gritty details to guarantee a rock solid agreement.  This is one of the most stressful aspects of your divorce negotiation, listen in, take notes and make sure your attorney understands that the emotional health of your children is your #1 priority. For more on Karen and Journey Beyond Divorce visit: JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

If you are in a bicultural marriage and are facing divorce this show is for you!  As if divorce is not overwhelming enough, those facing ‘international divorce’ complexities encounter an entirely unique and complex set of challenges which are even further intensified if there are children involved.     Join us as we speak to matrimonial attorneys Nicole Centracchio and Brian Reed who specialize in international divorce.  They share valuable tips on how and when to make the decision to file for divorce, the importance of choosing jurisdiction and how to protect your children’s ability to have access to both parents. They discuss the importance of understanding and navigating differing value systems including cultural, religious, schooling and child rearing.  Get your pen ready, it will be like sipping from a fire hose!   For more on Journey Beyond Divorce Click Here.

The 10th episode of Being Single is over 2-hours of all things sex with a few other topics thrown in for good measure. Join Steve & Toni for their weekly coffee talk with special guest Dr. Edward Lichten.  Dr. Lichten is a gynecologist and anti-aging medicine specialist and no leaf is left unturned in this conversation.   From Menopause and vaginal dryness to condoms, orgasms, what women really want and girl's boy toys, this show has it all. And as with all Being Single shows, the conversation is tongue-in-cheek and a lot of fun. We realize you're probably not going to listen for over 2-hours at one time but that's what the pause button is for.  This is your weekly Toni and Steve fix.  Enjoy! Please "Like" our Facebook page and join our community at www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio.  Feel free to write with thoughts, comments and suggestions at: DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com.  For more programs on divorce and life after divorce, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com. 

The wide array of logistical details and emotional tensions surrounding co parenting post divorce can be a minefield for unnecessary conflict. It’s hard enough to parent while living under the same roof due to all the details of our children’s busy lives.  When parenting under separate roofs, managing all the details of your shared parenting schedule, tracking extracurricular activities along with who's picking up and dropping off, plus tracking expenses, who’s paid and who owes and needing a plethora of medical, educational and social information and contact numbers can send a co parents into a tailspin of blame and accusation.  There is a great solution available via modern technology.  Today we are introducing you to a platform called Our Family Wizard which buffers reactions and streamlines communication enabling you to co parent with greater ease. Tune in as we speak to CEO of Our Family Wizard, Jai Kasoon. For more on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

Raising special needs children has a unique set of gifts and challenges.  When negotiating divorce, it is essential that you can advocate for the support they will continue to need.  Guest, Randi Karmel specializes in this area and discusses the pitfalls inherent and possibilities available through the negotiation process.  Randi shares negotiation danger signs to be aware of as well as resources, organizations and advocates ready to assist you, financial support available for schooling and what you need to do to receive it. This is a must listen show for anyone entering divorce with special needs children. For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

In today’s show we discuss how to choose the best legal approach with your children’s mental and emotional health front and center. Children can experience significant emotional damage as a result of divorce, but they don’t have to.    While it is understandable that you want to fight for your fair share of time with the kids, we want you to understand the risks that accompany a legal fight wherein children are dragged through the court process and strangers make parenting decisions for you.  Our guest, Larry Sarezsky, discusses the choices available and the impact of those decision when fighting for custody during the legal process. We cover both a standard divorce as well as the challenges in a high conflict scenario.   Fore more information on Karen McMahon visit Journey Beyond Divorce.  For more programs on divorce and life after divorce visit Divorce Source Radio.

In the first episode of Beyond Divorce, Susan Pease Gadoua discusses dating and sex post divorce. Dating and sex after divorce can be a challenge.  Pondering what to wear on a date, where to go, who pays, not to mention how you even find people to date in this brave new world of Internet match-ups, is getting over your reluctance to take a stab at it. Why is it so hard? The post-divorce period can also be a time of new sexual discoveries and these sexual experiences can be absolutely fabulous-and very different from what you were used to, especially as your marriage deteriorated. Susan helps us prepare for the next chapter of our new life in this program. Topics in the program include: When is it the right time to begin dating after divorce? How to find a date Representing yourself honestly during the dating process Pitfalls of dating to watch out for New sexual relationships Being upfront regarding a STD And much more.

In this podcast of BEYOND INFIDELITY, David Feder introduces us to what he believes is a critical phase of his recovery program.  David calls this phase of treatment, PRE-RECOVERY and he states that “it is one of the most important predictors of treatment outcome.”  David continues that “if the participating partner completes the pre-recovery phase successfully, the potential for a successful treatment outcome goes up considerably.  However, the opposite is also true because if the tasks in this phase are not completed well, the potential for a successful treatment outcome drops considerably. You won’t want to miss this podcast as it can predict the future of your relationship. 

In this episode of The Smart Divorce, our guest is Boyd Lemon, a retired lawyer, who reinvented himself as a writer, discusses his memoir Digging Deep:  A Writer Uncovers His Marriages.  This memoir is written with brutal honesty about the process of coming to understand himself and the failure of his marriages.  Boyd’s coming of age as a highly paid lawyer provides insight  into the Mad Man like excesses of the seventies.  Topics in this program include: Mistakes and lessons learned from each marriage and three divorces How the children were affected by each divorce Sex, drink and rock n’ roll – the impact on marriage and divorce The importance of introspection                                                                                                      Exploring the relationships of ex wives

Steve speaks with Dr. David Rendelstein regarding unhealthy weight gain during divorce in this episode. Dr. Rendelstein lost over 100 pounds in 6 months using the very system he now uses to help clients lose the weight they have been battling for years. Join our community at: www.Facebook.com/DivorceSourceRadio or www.Facebook.com/BeinSingleRadio. 

Toni and Steve are back in Being Single V 2.1, discussing everything from what's the best pizza, to who's the worst partner. If you've ever been in a relationship with an addict, you need to hear this episode. As always, these shows are presented in a tongue and cheek way, making them fun to listen to.  Please join our Being Single community by visiting: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio. 

Today's show focuses on your children and how you can parent through divorce in a way that protects them from the animosity between you and your spouse and honors their rights. We talk with Dr. Mark Banschick, a child psychiatrist who share the negative impact and long term affects children experience when parents do not protect them from the hostility. Dr. Banschick discusses why we tend to act out and react without filters in front of our children and how hard this season is for mom's and dad's to navigate consciously. After explaining why it makes sense, he offers specific strategies for curbing destructive conversations with your kids. Dr. Banschick provides us with a Child's Bill of Rights to guide us. Tune in and you will also receive his free eBook which includes the bill of rights and other tips and strategies. If you have kids, you do not want to miss this show!

Once the decision to divorce has been made one of the greatest daily difficulties is how to live under the same roof with your STBX and all the contention that you are each feelings.  The most effective way of approaching this stage is refining your communication and problem solving skills.   Dr. Dan Thomason explains how easy it is to get caught in arguments about how you are communicating and lose the opportunity to actually communicate effectively. He shares a tool he has created to help couples stay on topic, solution oriented and effective in traversing difficult and triggering topics. Dr. Dan also offers listeners a free eBook that outlines his communication tool, so make sure to tune in!   For more information visit Journey Beyond Divorce.

Steve and Toni discuss how attachment styles affect your relationships, and how trauma has affected your relationships. Other topics include; Strange Dating Sites National Dating and Taco Day Whats It's Like To Be In Therapy For a Man Why Being Alone Is So Important to Being Happy With Future Relationships Follow Toni & Steve on Facebook @ www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio or Instagram @BeingSingleRadio

In the early stages of divorce we experience a powerful emotional sting. Coming to terms with the fact that divorce IS part of your reality often happens when you begin to tell others about it. Today we discuss telling your spouse, children, family, friends and others. We look at the fears and resistance that arises and the questions that you want to ask yourself prior to telling.   Being clear on what you want to say and who you are ready to tell and what your boundaries are around discussing this tender topic will enable you to take this step with greater ease. Everyone will have their own emotional reaction. Preparing for that as well is key to managing your own needs and peace. Throughout the process, being aware, making conscious decisions and setting an intention for how you want your divorce to unfold will enable you to feel empowered, stay calm and negotiate effectively. Tune in today!   For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com. For more programs on divorce and life after divorce, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.

Deirdre Dyment is an interior designer who believes in designing an overall experience at home that leaves you spiritually energized and equipped to live your life passionately.  Deirdre knows all too well, there’s much more involved in leaving the matrimonial home than packing a suitcase and signing a lease. When she separated from her husband in 2007, she, unusually, helped him get set up in his new place, from stripping the floors and painting the walls to measuring and ordering furniture. They also got their two kids involved in creating their bedrooms. The experience has since motivated Dyment to launch a novel service – post-divorce decorating – that assists in feathering the nests of newly single men in particular, whether it’s coordinating their renovations or sourcing and installing art to enliven their empty walls. Topics in this program include: • What are the different things can be done to make transition easier and less disruptive for children • The emotional strain of leaving the family home; where to live, how much to spend and do you rent or purchase.   • Creating an environment that will inspire and get the individual that has moved excited about the next chapter of their life.   • Creating a space that reflects your personality and happiness. http://www.deirdredymentdesign.com

  Create your Future NOW -  Divorce offers you the Chance to Create the Life You Want and Deserve! Although it might be hard to see if now, your divorce has many hidden gifts in the form of life lessons and deep wisdom that will evolve you as a human being and allow you to move forward into a new and vibrant life. Create the Vision of a New Life and Your Future To create a new way of being, you must have a clear vision of who you are becoming and the life you choose to live.  Identifying what matters to you now and what your passions are is the starting point.  Visualizing that Future Self and your New Life allows us to work backwards from that vision, so that we can begin taking action steps today towards your goal. In this episode of Divorce Recovery, Shelley Stile helps you create a vision of your future self. Shelley discusses how to find what truly has meaning for you and what you are passionate about. Once you are clear about your priorities, you are then free to create a vision of your future; a future that you know will give you the gifts of a life well lived. Creating a new life concentrates on the positive act of creating, not the negative act of problem solving. Problems, or challenges, will always arise in any journey but it is how we handle these challenges that will be the mark of our character. The real work is in the act of creation. Begin creating your new life and future today with the help of Shelley Stile.

Your finances are certain to change during and after divorce and therefore raise fear in just about everyone facing this transition.  Today we speak with Elizabeth Polizzi, a financial expert who specializes in strategizing around the finances of divorce.  She discusses how vital it is to be informed and educated in order to negotiate the best possible settlement.     In this straightforward talk, Elizabeth elaborates on the 5 Keys to preparing financially for your divorce.  She invites you to examine in great detail what you have, what you owe, what you need and what you want and offers valuable tips and the best way to negotiate your settlement.     For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

One of the most important decisions you make in the early stages of divorce is the legal approach that will be most effective for your circumstances.  You may find that each attorney you interview states that their approach is the right one for you.  It can be overwhelming and scary to sort out what the different legal avenues are and how to discern what is best for you and your spouse.   Today we talk with Bill Laufer, a 40 year veteran attorney in the matrimonial law arena whose firm specializes in family law and handles all 4 legal approaches: litigation, arbitration, mediation and collaboration.  Listen as Bill walks us through the pro’s and con’s of each and how to make the best choice given the personalities and circumstances you are facing. For more on Karen and Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com

Toni and Steve are back with episode #5 in Season 2 and discuss the need for becoming indifferent to your ex.  That means you no longer love or hate them.  In fact, it's the place where they no longer take up space in your brain. You just don't think about them anymore.  Congratulations!  You have become indifferent! Other topics include: Detroit, Michigan is the NEW "D"! Toni's Dog Sitting Gone Wrong Break-up Songs with An Edge. "F-U!" Blocking Communication With An Ex Doing Your Personal Work After a Break-up Men Are From Mars Happy Birthday Liana! Follow our Being Single Facebook page at: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio Follow us on Instagram at: @BeingSingleRadio Thanks for listening!

Are you being alienated from your children? Do you understand what Parental Alienation is and what do you do if you find yourself the targeted parent and your children torn from our life.  Our show titled is named after the book A Family's Heartbreak - A parent's guide to parental alienation, and today I'm going to speak with the author, Michael Jeffries, to help families better understand Parental Alienation, and it affects. The definition of parental alienation is heartbreakingly simple—one parent deliberately damages, and in some cases destroys, the previously healthy, loving relationship between the child and the child’s other parent. Parental Alienation is harmful to our children's well being. I believe we can stop this destructive behavior if we can just recognize the warning signs and make a choice to not act this way. Get counseling to help work through issues of accepting your current situation and learn to move on to a healthier future. For more programs, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com

Collaborative divorce is the newest ‘kid on the block’ when it comes to divorce.  It is a process in which you and your spouse commit to staying out of the court system and working in a spirit of creative problem solving, transparency and trust.  Beth Dalena, Esq. shares what a Collaborative Divorce looks like and who is a good couple candidate and who is not.  We also explore the emotional, legal and financial benefits of divorcing outside the court system. For more on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

Most people considering divorce expect that they will have to ‘litigate’ in order to legally divorce.  There is also a lot of criticism around the litigation process.  Listen in as Wendy Samuelson, Esq. shares the benefits and protections of working within the courts to divorce.  Wendy shares what litigating means, how the process typically unfolds and when and how it can offer protection and support.  We also explore how to hire a litigating attorney that is a good fit for you. For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

In this episode of Divorce Recovery with Shelley Stile we discuss the need to change the perspective of your situation which in return caan help alter your attitude in a positive manner. Fear of our future after divorce keeps us stuck in the pain of the past. This fear prompts our mind chatter to paint a bleak picture of an uncertain future, which in turn creates a disempowering and negative attitude towards life. A negative attitude on life becomes all pervasive and leaves us powerless and depressed. If we stop and think about it, the future is totally unpredictable and unknowable. We simply cannot know what the future holds. Thus it is our perspective about the future that will lay the foundation for what is coming around the bend. If we want our future to look a certain way then we need to take charge. Uncertainty is always part of the process of taking charge and moving on. Courage to me is living with uncertainty. Our perspective or attitude on life not only changes the way we think but also changes our reality. Our attitudes do shape our future and the attainment of our goals and in this program, Shelley shows you how to make a positive change in the way you see yourself and your future.

Award winning writer/producer Arlene Sarner has written for every major movie studio including. Arlene is a talented and engaging writer who shares her story about forgiveness, personal transformation and moving on.  Arlene shares her very powerful story of turning years of acrimony and hostility towards her ex husband, into a now peaceful and civil relationship and says” So don't lose hope--even the most rancorous relationships with exes can eventually shift into civility” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/arlene-sarner/an-ex-passover-guest_b_852318.html?ref=tw Topics in this program include: • The Lunch with the ex and how it changed everything • Forgiveness, the power to forgive and letting go • How letting go of anger changed a family

Understanding the Divorce Landscape takes a big picture look at what you are facing as you enter the world of divorce.  We share tips that support you to effectively take control of your part of the divorce process, the one part of the process that you have direct control over.  You will hear what to educate yourself about in advance of making significant decisions, the importance of prioritizing your efforts, and how to maintain your sanity by focusing on those things you have the ability to influence.  This show and those that follow it are designed to dovetail with our 12 Step Divorce Recovery Podcast series by helping you understand the general territory of divorce, discern what aspects of it apply to your particular situation, and prepare for the many stages and phases so you will be able to effectively negotiate the bumps and bends ahead with grace and dignity.  For more on Journey Beyond Divorce, visit: JourneyBeyondDivorce.com

Toni and Steve are back, and this time, looking into relationship attachment styles, and what creates them. (Childhood Trauma) To learn more about attachment styles, visit: https://youtu.be/d8yhFBqipk0 The dynamic duo also chat about: How breakups become easier over time Over protecting your kids YouTube stars and social media Guy drives his car into a Chicago mall, while Toni's Daughter there shopping with friends! Be sure to follow Being Single with Toni and Steve at: Facebook: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio Instagram: @BeingSingleRadio To email Toni & Steve, send to: DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com Thanks for listening and following!  

One of the most common questions newly divorcing people have for me is, "how long will it take before I'm over this divorce ordeal?" How long it takes to "recover" from a divorce depends on a number of factors, including how long you were together, how good the relationship was and how committed you were to your spouse, whether the divorce was a surprise to you or not, whether you have children together, whether you or your spouse are involved in a new relationship, your personality, your age, your socio-economic status and on and on. In addition, grief has a life of its own and you are done when your grief process is done, and not a minute before. There is no magic formula and no way to get through your grief on the fast track. But you can do things to slow your process down. In addition, grief has a life of its own and you are done* when your grief process is done, and not a minute before. There is no magic formula and no way to get through your grief on the fast track. But you can do things to slow your process down. In this episode of Beyond Divorce, Susan Pease Gadoua discusses this topic and includes the top ten list of Don'ts for divorce recovery and much more.