Podcasts about Modern Love

Baltimore's harbor is calm, but resident artist Joan Cox is gathering momentum. Since her last appearance with NOT REAL ART, she's been named a finalist for the Baker Artist Award, recognized among London's Top 100 International Artists, and seen her intimate portraits circulate through exhibitions and publications. A past NOT REAL ART grant winner (2022), Joan is known for capturing the “energy field” of love between women. Now, her work takes center stage in NOT REAL ART's Modern Love exhibition, running online at notrealart.com this spring.In conversation with host Scott “Sourdough” Power, Joan reflects on the work of recording contemporary queer intimacy. She describes her process, from asking strangers to sit for her, to searching for the subtle charge that passes between couples, all while managing the demands of a full-time career and raising a middle-schooler.Her canvases are lush and unscripted, dense with narrative detail—bedroom Buddhas, floral wallpaper in the corner of a bar. Beneath the surface, each painting offers an act of correction, adding a page to art history where overlooked couples are seen, valued, and, at last, collected.Where to Connect & ExperienceSee Joan Cox's latest work in Modern Love.Follow Joan on Instagram for in-progress shots and behind-the-scenes studio news.Learn more about the NOT REAL ART Grant. Episode CreditsHost: Scott ‘Sourdough' PowerGuest: Joan Cox, Baltimore-based painter focused on queer intimacy, identity, and representation; NOT REAL ART grant winner.Production: Crewest Studio, Los AngelesTheme Music: Ricky Peugeot & Desi DeLauro of Parlor SocialSubscribe to NOT REAL ART for future episodes, follow us on Instagram, and join the conversation.

Mark Duplass and Katie Aselton's lives are completely intertwined. They've been married for almost 20 years while collaborating on films, raising children and spending as much time together as possible. The two see the same therapist, are nearly constantly touching each other and find it hard to function when one of them is away, a dynamic they describe as codependent. Their codependency is the inspiration for their new film “Magic Hour,” which they co-wrote and which Aselton directs and stars in. For the couple, codependency has added real depth and beauty to their relationship to the point they think the entire concept needs a rebranding. In this episode of “Modern Love,” Duplass and Aselton make their case for codependency, explain what it has enabled in their lives and share what they've had to sacrifice to maintain it. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3020: Alysha Jeney shares how lasting, healthy relationships begin with deep self-awareness, emotional accountability, and the willingness to confront old wounds and unhealthy patterns. Through her own journey of healing, therapy, and vulnerability, she reveals how personal growth can transform the way we connect, communicate, and build trust with others. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.modernlovecounseling.com/healthy-successful-relationship/ Quotes to ponder: "Building understanding within yourself is essential to promoting long-term success in your relationship(s)." "Be honest and vulnerable with yourself and it will take you and your relationship in a whole new direction." "The foundation of a successful relationship is self-awareness, so it is crucial to start there." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to another episode of Late Boomers, our new reality where we, Cathy and Merry, dive into what life looks like after 50, 60, and beyond! In this episode, we're talking all about modern love, late-in-life relationships, and the big question: Should you get married later in life, or is companionship enough? Inspired by a fascinating AARP magazine article, we explore everything from dating apps and living apart together to estate planning, finances, and finding purpose and joy in relationships as mature adults.Navigating relationships in your later years brings unique questions: Should you remarry or simply enjoy companionship? How important are legal commitments like marriage, especially when finances, family, and independence are at play? We open up about widowhood, the desire for independence, the realities of estate planning, and the dynamics of blending families after 50. Plus, we share our honest thoughts on dating apps, common red flags, and what commitment really looks like today.Key TakeawaysRedefining Relationships: Love and relationships after 50 are less about traditional expectations and more about comfort, independence, and honesty. Many boomers are discovering that “living apart together” offers both romance and breathing room for personal growth 03:03.Finances & Family: Marriage later in life has important financial and legal implications, including taxes, Social Security, inheritance, and healthcare 05:23. Estate planning is crucial—especially when children from previous relationships are involved.Commitment Without Marriage: A deep, committed relationship doesn't always need a legal contract. Emotional support, exclusivity, and shared life experiences can define partnership at this stage 24:18.Caregiving Concerns: Health issues and caregiving responsibilities weigh heavily on relationship decisions later in life 17:16. Discussing medical directives and power of attorney is essential even outside of marriage 18:14.Modern Dating: Dating apps are increasingly popular, even among people in their 70s and 80s! But they require dedication and can bring new challenges like love bombing, ghosting, and financial scams 11:07.Red Flags & Emotional Availability: Be aware of manipulative behaviors, financial exploitation, and emotional unavailability. Mature dating comes with its own set of risks and benefits 21:09.Are you navigating love and relationships after 50? Have you chosen to remarry, live apart together, or skip marriage entirely? We want to hear YOUR story and insights! Leave a comment on our YouTube channel, share your experiences, or suggest topics you'd like Cathy and Merry to discuss on future episodes. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Late Boomers wherever you listen and help us redefine what life, love, and happiness can be later in life.Thank you for tuning in to Late Boomers, our new reality, your new inspiration!Cathy & MerryMentioned in this episode:Late Boomers is part of the eWomenPodcastNetwork. eWomenPodcastNetwork

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3019: Alysha Jeney challenges the idea that better communication alone creates lasting love, arguing instead that successful relationships are built through shared commitment, self-awareness, vulnerability, and mutual respect. Her insights reveal how emotional honesty and personal growth deepen intimacy, helping couples create real security even through conflict and difficult seasons. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.modernlovecounseling.com/healthy-successful-relationship/ Quotes to ponder: “A healthy, successful relationship” is an evolution of two people that possess the same level of commitment, self-awareness/vulnerability and mutual respect.” “Creating a successful relationship is more about knowing yourself well enough to acknowledge when you're reacting in a way that is pushing your partner away.” “You cannot effectively communicate if you are always defensive, hurtful or shutdown.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Elle Russ chats with Rob Mack about the modern state of dating, relationships, loneliness, happiness, and human connection in an increasingly disconnected world. Together, they explore everything from dating app fatigue, commitment paralysis, and "strategic singledom" to the rise of polyamory, self-awareness culture, trauma patterns, friendship, and the misunderstood meaning of "alpha" traits in men and women. Drawing from both positive psychology research and personal experience, Elle and Rob unpack the emotional realities behind modern relationships with humor, insight, honesty, and philosophical depth. The conversation dives into modern loneliness, the paradox of choice, attachment, self-worth, emotional presence, and why learning to enjoy your own company may be one of the foundations of a healthy relationship. www.coachrobmack.com   FREEBIES: Free Thyroid Guide + Video Series: https://www.elleruss.com/thyroid-guide Free Confidence eBook & Workbook: https://www.elleruss.com/7secrets Elle's website: https://www.elleruss.com   #theellerussshow

On the nuances of grief and loss, personal rituals, and our willingness to be transformed.  0:00 — Introduction and Guest Introduction 3:04 — Marissa's Personal Story and Grief Journey 7:38 — Building a Grief Plan 13:24 — Understanding Trauma and Its Impact 17:27 — Boundaries and Self-Care 22:52 — The Role of Prayer and Rituals 28:22 — Memorializing Losses and Rituals 32:18 — Connecting with Nature and Finding Support 37:46 — Conclusion and Final Thoughts Merissa Nathan Gerson is the author of Forget Prayers, Bring Cake: A Single Woman's Guide to Grieving, and her writing appears in Modern Love for the New York Times, The Atlantic, Playboy, Tablet, CNN.com and beyond. Merissa trained in Shambhala Shamatha meditation, graduated with an MFA in Writing and Poetics from Naropa University, is a certified Sivananda yoga teacher, and holds an MA in Jewish Studies with a focus on inherited trauma as well as sex and gender from the Graduate Theological Union in Berkeley, California. She was the Inherited Trauma consultant to Amazon's Transparent and is the daughter and granddaughter of war refugees. She is currently training to be a rabbi. Forget Prayers, Bring Cake: A Single Woman's Guide to Grieving came out in 2021 from Mandala Press for Simon & Schuster. This book is a companion for these times. As McArthur Genius Kiese Laymon describes: "Merissa Gerson has created a neon treatise on the art and necessity of grieving."

Lauren Bans was seven months pregnant when she realized she needed a divorce. Suddenly, she found herself heartbroken, terrified, and completely unable to make decisions or think about the future. One day, her sister suggested they visit an escape room. As the door locked and the countdown began, Bans found herself enraptured by the puzzles, forgetting her reality for a moment and feeling like herself again. She was hooked and went back to escape rooms over and over. This week on the “Modern Love” podcast, Bans tells Anna Martin about her unique cure for heartbreak, and how making decisions in a fictional puzzle room helped her feel capable of making them in real life again, too. Read Lauren's story in The New York Times Magazine. We want to know: How has A.I. changed your relationships? Send us a voice memo. How to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times How to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

My guest is Caroline Bicks, whose new book Monsters in the Archives: My Year of Fear with Stephen King (Hogarth, 2026) became a bestseller shortly after release. After she was named the University of Maine's inaugural Stephen E. King Chair in Literature, Caroline Bicks became the first scholar to be granted extended access by King to his private archives, a treasure trove of manuscripts that document the legendary writer's creative process—most of them never before studied or published. The year she spent exploring King's early drafts and hand-written revisions was guided by one question: What makes Stephen King's writing stick in our heads and haunt us long after we've closed the book?Bicks focuses on five early works—The Shining, Carrie, Pet Sematary, 'Salem's Lot, and Night Shift—to reveal how he crafted his language, storylines, and characters. While tracking King's margin notes and editorial changes, she discovered scenes and alternative endings that never made it to print, but that King is allowing her to publish now. The book also includes interviews Bicks had with King along the way that reveal new insights into his writing process and personal history.Monsters in the Archives—authorized by Stephen King himself—is unlike anything ever published about the master of horror. It chronicles what Bicks found when she set out to unearth how King crafted some of his scariest, most iconic moments. But it's also a story about a grown-up English professor facing her childhood fears and getting to know the man whose monsters helped unleash them. --------- Caroline Bicks is the Stephen E. King Chair in Literature at the University of Maine, where she teaches courses in Shakespeare, early modern culture, and horror fiction. She is the author of Cognition and Girlhood in Shakespeare's World and Midwiving Subjects in Shakespeare's England; co-­ author of Shakespeare, Not Stirred: Cocktails for Your Everyday Dramas; and co-­ host of the Everyday Shakespeare podcast. Her essays and humor pieces have appeared in the Modern Love column  of the New York Times, McSweeney's Internet Tendency, and the show Afterbirth. She lives in Blue Hill, Maine, with her family. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

My guest is Caroline Bicks, whose new book Monsters in the Archives: My Year of Fear with Stephen King (Hogarth, 2026) became a bestseller shortly after release. After she was named the University of Maine's inaugural Stephen E. King Chair in Literature, Caroline Bicks became the first scholar to be granted extended access by King to his private archives, a treasure trove of manuscripts that document the legendary writer's creative process—most of them never before studied or published. The year she spent exploring King's early drafts and hand-written revisions was guided by one question: What makes Stephen King's writing stick in our heads and haunt us long after we've closed the book?Bicks focuses on five early works—The Shining, Carrie, Pet Sematary, 'Salem's Lot, and Night Shift—to reveal how he crafted his language, storylines, and characters. While tracking King's margin notes and editorial changes, she discovered scenes and alternative endings that never made it to print, but that King is allowing her to publish now. The book also includes interviews Bicks had with King along the way that reveal new insights into his writing process and personal history.Monsters in the Archives—authorized by Stephen King himself—is unlike anything ever published about the master of horror. It chronicles what Bicks found when she set out to unearth how King crafted some of his scariest, most iconic moments. But it's also a story about a grown-up English professor facing her childhood fears and getting to know the man whose monsters helped unleash them. --------- Caroline Bicks is the Stephen E. King Chair in Literature at the University of Maine, where she teaches courses in Shakespeare, early modern culture, and horror fiction. She is the author of Cognition and Girlhood in Shakespeare's World and Midwiving Subjects in Shakespeare's England; co-­ author of Shakespeare, Not Stirred: Cocktails for Your Everyday Dramas; and co-­ host of the Everyday Shakespeare podcast. Her essays and humor pieces have appeared in the Modern Love column  of the New York Times, McSweeney's Internet Tendency, and the show Afterbirth. She lives in Blue Hill, Maine, with her family. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/literary-studies

My guest is Caroline Bicks, whose new book Monsters in the Archives: My Year of Fear with Stephen King (Hogarth, 2026) became a bestseller shortly after release. After she was named the University of Maine's inaugural Stephen E. King Chair in Literature, Caroline Bicks became the first scholar to be granted extended access by King to his private archives, a treasure trove of manuscripts that document the legendary writer's creative process—most of them never before studied or published. The year she spent exploring King's early drafts and hand-written revisions was guided by one question: What makes Stephen King's writing stick in our heads and haunt us long after we've closed the book?Bicks focuses on five early works—The Shining, Carrie, Pet Sematary, 'Salem's Lot, and Night Shift—to reveal how he crafted his language, storylines, and characters. While tracking King's margin notes and editorial changes, she discovered scenes and alternative endings that never made it to print, but that King is allowing her to publish now. The book also includes interviews Bicks had with King along the way that reveal new insights into his writing process and personal history.Monsters in the Archives—authorized by Stephen King himself—is unlike anything ever published about the master of horror. It chronicles what Bicks found when she set out to unearth how King crafted some of his scariest, most iconic moments. But it's also a story about a grown-up English professor facing her childhood fears and getting to know the man whose monsters helped unleash them. --------- Caroline Bicks is the Stephen E. King Chair in Literature at the University of Maine, where she teaches courses in Shakespeare, early modern culture, and horror fiction. She is the author of Cognition and Girlhood in Shakespeare's World and Midwiving Subjects in Shakespeare's England; co-­ author of Shakespeare, Not Stirred: Cocktails for Your Everyday Dramas; and co-­ host of the Everyday Shakespeare podcast. Her essays and humor pieces have appeared in the Modern Love column  of the New York Times, McSweeney's Internet Tendency, and the show Afterbirth. She lives in Blue Hill, Maine, with her family. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/literature

My guest is Caroline Bicks, whose new book Monsters in the Archives: My Year of Fear with Stephen King (Hogarth, 2026) became a bestseller shortly after release. After she was named the University of Maine's inaugural Stephen E. King Chair in Literature, Caroline Bicks became the first scholar to be granted extended access by King to his private archives, a treasure trove of manuscripts that document the legendary writer's creative process—most of them never before studied or published. The year she spent exploring King's early drafts and hand-written revisions was guided by one question: What makes Stephen King's writing stick in our heads and haunt us long after we've closed the book?Bicks focuses on five early works—The Shining, Carrie, Pet Sematary, 'Salem's Lot, and Night Shift—to reveal how he crafted his language, storylines, and characters. While tracking King's margin notes and editorial changes, she discovered scenes and alternative endings that never made it to print, but that King is allowing her to publish now. The book also includes interviews Bicks had with King along the way that reveal new insights into his writing process and personal history.Monsters in the Archives—authorized by Stephen King himself—is unlike anything ever published about the master of horror. It chronicles what Bicks found when she set out to unearth how King crafted some of his scariest, most iconic moments. But it's also a story about a grown-up English professor facing her childhood fears and getting to know the man whose monsters helped unleash them. --------- Caroline Bicks is the Stephen E. King Chair in Literature at the University of Maine, where she teaches courses in Shakespeare, early modern culture, and horror fiction. She is the author of Cognition and Girlhood in Shakespeare's World and Midwiving Subjects in Shakespeare's England; co-­ author of Shakespeare, Not Stirred: Cocktails for Your Everyday Dramas; and co-­ host of the Everyday Shakespeare podcast. Her essays and humor pieces have appeared in the Modern Love column  of the New York Times, McSweeney's Internet Tendency, and the show Afterbirth. She lives in Blue Hill, Maine, with her family. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/popular-culture

My guest is Caroline Bicks, whose new book Monsters in the Archives: My Year of Fear with Stephen King (Hogarth, 2026) became a bestseller shortly after release. After she was named the University of Maine's inaugural Stephen E. King Chair in Literature, Caroline Bicks became the first scholar to be granted extended access by King to his private archives, a treasure trove of manuscripts that document the legendary writer's creative process—most of them never before studied or published. The year she spent exploring King's early drafts and hand-written revisions was guided by one question: What makes Stephen King's writing stick in our heads and haunt us long after we've closed the book?Bicks focuses on five early works—The Shining, Carrie, Pet Sematary, 'Salem's Lot, and Night Shift—to reveal how he crafted his language, storylines, and characters. While tracking King's margin notes and editorial changes, she discovered scenes and alternative endings that never made it to print, but that King is allowing her to publish now. The book also includes interviews Bicks had with King along the way that reveal new insights into his writing process and personal history.Monsters in the Archives—authorized by Stephen King himself—is unlike anything ever published about the master of horror. It chronicles what Bicks found when she set out to unearth how King crafted some of his scariest, most iconic moments. But it's also a story about a grown-up English professor facing her childhood fears and getting to know the man whose monsters helped unleash them. --------- Caroline Bicks is the Stephen E. King Chair in Literature at the University of Maine, where she teaches courses in Shakespeare, early modern culture, and horror fiction. She is the author of Cognition and Girlhood in Shakespeare's World and Midwiving Subjects in Shakespeare's England; co-­ author of Shakespeare, Not Stirred: Cocktails for Your Everyday Dramas; and co-­ host of the Everyday Shakespeare podcast. Her essays and humor pieces have appeared in the Modern Love column  of the New York Times, McSweeney's Internet Tendency, and the show Afterbirth. She lives in Blue Hill, Maine, with her family. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/book-of-the-day

When people stop Ramy Youssef on the street, it's usually not because they're mega-fans of his comedy. Instead, they mostly just want to pet his dog. It's not until they walk away, he says, that they recognize him from his semiautobiographical sitcom, "Ramy," or his latest special, "Ramy Youssef: In Love." In fact, Youssef's dog, Basha, is a big part of the special and has become a major part of his life, even if he does sometimes steal the spotlight. On this episode of “Modern Love,” Youssef tells Anna Martin, our host, what he has learned about unconditional love from Basha. He reads a Modern Love essay from the archive, in which the writer describes working at an animal rescue and how watching humans in the midst of the adoption process redeemed them a little in her eyes. Here's how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times. Here's how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Isabel Allende began writing daily letters to her mother when she was a teenager. Over the next several decades, they exchanged over 24,000 of them. Allende credits their letter writing with removing the need for small talk and creating a deep bond between them. Knowing that she had to write to her mother every day pushed her to pay attention to her life in a way that, she says, was central to her becoming a writer.  Letters have been a throughline in her books as well. Allende's best-selling novel, “The House of the Spirits,” began as a letter to her dying grandfather. “The House of the Spirits” has just been adapted into a new TV series, and the connection between mothers and daughters is central to this multigenerational saga. In this episode of “Modern Love,” Allende tells the host Anna Martin about the transformative power of letter writing on her relationships and career.  Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Want to support the podcast? Join our Patreon or buy us a coffee. As an independent podcast, Shakespeare Anyone? is supported by listeners like you. In this episode, we are joined by author and Shakespeare scholar, Caroline Bicks, to discuss her latest book, Monsters in the Archive: My Year of Fear with Stephen King. Caroline will share with us how Shakespeare some of Stephen King's most famous works, and the surprising similarities she discovered between Shakespeare's writing and King's.  Monsters in the Archive: My Year of Fear with Stephen King is out now.  About Caroline Bicks Caroline Bicks is the Stephen E. King Chair in Literature at the University of Maine, where she teaches courses in Shakespeare, early modern culture, and horror fiction. She is the author of Cognition and Girlhood in Shakespeare's World and Midwiving Subjects in Shakespeare's England; co-author of Shakespeare, Not Stirred: Cocktails for Your Everyday Dramas; and co-host of the Everyday Shakespeare podcast. Her essays and humor pieces have appeared in the Modern Love column of the New York Times, McSweeney's Internet Tendency, and the show Afterbirth. She lives in Blue Hill, Maine, with her family. About Monsters in the Archives: My Year of Fear with Stephen King After Caroline Bicks was named the University of Maineʼs inaugural Stephen E. King Chair in Literature, she became the first scholar to be granted extended access by King to his private archives, a treasure trove of manuscripts that document the legendary writerʼs creative process—most of them never before studied or published. The year she spent exploring King's early drafts and hand-written revisions was guided by one question millions of Kingʼs enthralled and terrified readers (including her) have asked themselves: What makes Stephen King's writing stick in our heads and haunt us long after we've closed the book? Bicks focuses on five of his most iconic early works—The Shining, Carrie, Pet Sematary, ʼSalemʼs Lot, and Night Shift—to reveal how he crafted his language, story lines, and characters to cast his enduring literary spells. While tracking King's margin notes and editorial changes, she discovered scenes and alternative endings that never made it to print but that King is allowing her to publish now. The book also includes interviews Bicks had with King along the way that reveal new insights into his writing process and personal history. Part literary master class, part biography, part memoir and investigation into our deepest anxieties, Monsters in the Archives—authorized by Stephen King himself—is unlike anything ever published about the master of horror. It chronicles what Bicks found when she set out to unearth how King crafted some of his scariest, most iconic moments. But it's also a story about a grown-up English professor facing her childhood fears and getting to know the man whose monsters helped unleash them. Shakespeare Anyone? is created and produced by Kourtney Smith and Elyse Sharp. Music is "Neverending Minute" by Sounds Like Sander. For updates: Join our email list Follow us on Instagram at @shakespeareanyonepod Visit our website at shakespeareanyone.com Support the podcast: Become a patron at patreon.com/shakespeareanyone  Buy us a coffee Bookshop.org: Since 2020, Bookshop.org has raised more than $38 million for independent bookstores. Shop our Shakespeare Anyone? storefront to find books featured on the podcast, books by our guests, and other Shakespeare-related books and gifts. Every purchase on the site financially supports independent bookstores. Libro.fm: Libro.fm makes it possible to purchase audiobooks through your local bookshop of choice. Use our link for 2 free audiobooks when you sign up for a new Libro.fm membership using our link. Find additional links mentioned in the episode in our Linktree.  

Tracy Clark-Flory was 16 when she learned something that would change her world forever: She had a half sister she'd never met. Tracy's mother, Deborah, had gotten pregnant as a freshman in college. She'd given birth to a baby girl in secret and placed the baby for adoption. Tracy could tell that talking about this baby made her mom uncomfortable, so she didn't pry. But from that moment on, Tracy was full of questions. Where was this sister? What was her life like? Would she want to hear from Tracy if there was a way to get in touch? These days, Clark-Flory is a writer, and she is a mother herself. She has a new memoir coming out called “My Mother's Daughter: Finding Myself in My Family's Fractured Past.” In this episode of the “Modern Love” podcast, Clark-Flory tells Anna Martin how she finally got answers about her sister. She also shares what she found out about her mom: Turns out, there was so much more to her story, too. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

A talk from the 2026 Mockingbird Conference in NYC, Wow to the Deadness: Wonder for the Weary. April 24, 2026. Property of Mockingbird Ministries, all rights reserved (www.mbird.com).

Are you tired of feeling like you have to choose between keeping the peace and being true to yourself in your relationships? Many people mistake silence for harmony, stuffing down their true feelings for fear of conflict, only to wake up one day feeling unheard, unseen, and disconnected. But what if speaking up—being honest about your needs and setting boundaries—was actually the path to deeper connection and intimacy, not the source of division? In this episode, listeners are invited to rethink what it means to be authentic in close relationships, especially when it comes to sharing hard truths or setting limits. You'll hear insights on why self-assertion is not about ruining relationships, but about bringing your whole self into them. By exploring practical strategies, emotional tools, and real-life examples, this conversation guides you in overcoming the fear of rocking the boat—so you can communicate courageously and build relationships where both people feel truly known and valued. Tonya Lester, LCSW, is the author of Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself. A Brooklyn-based psychotherapist and writer known for her work with relationships and communication, her essay "Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself" was published in the Modern Love column in The New York Times, and she has been writing the popular Staying Sane Inside Insanity blog for Psychology Today since 2020. She has been featured as an expert in The Guardian, Newsweek, Well+Good, HuffPost, Fatherly, and the Bumble site, The Buzz.   Episode Highlights 04:03 The link between speaking up, emotional intimacy, and common gendered roles. 07:18 Navigating differences: collaboration, needs, and the relationship as a system. 12:40 Embracing discomfort and staying present with unresolved issues. 13:53 The importance of vulnerability and framing difficult conversations safely. 17:02 Applying healthy pressure: strengthening or releasing relationships. 19:56 Recognizing the "shock absorber" role and its impact on self and intimacy. 23:10 Identifying "shock magnets": escalation, withdrawal, and unhealthy conflict cycles. 27:29 Communicating effectively with kindness. 30:38 Defining self-possession and its role in relational health. 32:49 Using internal signals and "weathervane" emotions for personal growth. 38:11 Building emotional maturity: self-compassion, timeouts, and ongoing practice. 40:38 Understanding and managing emotional activation. 42:42 Addressing hidden relationship dynamics and the importance of modeling boundaries. 48:21 Exploring possibilities: challenging feelings of being trapped and opening to choice. 51:41 Putting clarity into practice: actionable tools and lasting relationship change.   Your Checklist of Actions to Take Practice Soft Startups: Begin hard conversations with vulnerability and clarity about your intentions rather than leading with anger or accusation to lower defensiveness in your partner. Name Your Emotions: Before raising a difficult topic, identify and share your underlying emotions, such as fear, anxiety, or longing, to increase openness. Set Boundaries with Clarity: Clearly state what is not working for you in the relationship and propose specific changes, avoiding blame or generalizations. Tolerate Unresolved Issues: Accept that not every problem will have an immediate solution and practice tolerating the discomfort of ongoing, in-process conversations. Take Breaks When Activated: When conflict escalates, or emotions run high, pause the conversation and use activities like taking a walk or shower to regulate your nervous system before returning. Use "I" Statements: Use concise, direct language to express your needs and feelings without attacking or criticizing your partner. Reflect on the System: Regularly assess if both partners are contributing to the emotional work and call out patterns where efforts are imbalanced. Model Self-Possession: Take responsibility for your own happiness and choices, setting an example for both yourself and others—including children—about how to live in alignment with your values.   Mentioned Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) About Tonya Lester (Psychology Today) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication (Free guide) How Being "Difficult" Can Assist Growth & Development In Relationship (ERP 360)   Connect with Tonya Lester Website: tonyalester.com Facebook: facebook.com/tlynnlester/ Instagram: instagram.com/tonyalesterpsychotherapy LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tonya-lester-b9a3ab14 TikTok: tiktok.com/@tonyalesterlcsw  

What do you do when the person you love wants something you're not sure you can give?In this episode of Books & Beyond, Tara speaks with Rahul Singh, debut novelist and academic, about his book Unfolding, which follows two gay men navigating a long-term relationship where their expectations of love begin to diverge.The conversation moves through the emotional complexity of open relationships, and how the book holds space for desire without rushing to label or judge it. They also discuss the novel's domestic world, where much of the story unfolds inside the home, and how class and gender shape the characters' lives and choices.Rahul also shares the unusual journey of writing the book without a publishing contract, across multiple drafts and years of uncertainty, all while his parents still don't know what the novel is really about.If you've ever struggled to stay on the same page in love, this one will stay with you.Books Mentioned in the Episode:Cobalt Blue by Sachin KundalkarFunny Boy by Shyam SelvaduraiThe Portrait of a Lady by Henry James‘Books and Beyond with Bound' is the podcast where Tara Khandelwal and Michelle D'costa uncover how their books reflect the realities of our lives and society today. Find out what drives India's finest authors: from personal experiences to jugaad research methods, insecurities to publishing journeys. Created by Bound, a storytelling company that helps you grow through stories. Follow us @boundindia on all social media platforms. 

Show SourcesThe Whitest Summer, Jennifer Hotes, Substack (good for a few laughs, I hope!)The women in love with AI companions: 'I vowed to my chatbot that I wouldn't leave him,' Alaina Demopoulos, The GuardianLove in the Time of A.I. Companions, Anna Weiner, New York MagazineSend us Fan MailSupport the showSupport Curious Cat, an independent, human-made podcast!Anxious about AI? Take two minutes to contact your local politician and ask them to tap the brakes on this technology. Still worried? Contact one of the orgs below and get involved. But for today, hug your kid, cook food and really breathe in deep as it simmers, walk in nature, brush a cat, donate to the food bank, brew a cup of tea, or draw a five-minute portrait of your dog. ***Is AI the Devil? on Substack!***Hero Organizations:80,000 HoursCenter for Humane TechnologiesState of Surveillance, an organization that helps foster online privacyBuy Curious Cat Podcast a Coffee!

Ruhama Wolle loves weddings, but after being a bridesmaid three times in a little more than a year, she reached a breaking point. The financial and emotional burden was too much, and in an article for Glamour magazine, she publicly resigned from ever being a bridesmaid again.  Now, Wolle has written “I Hope You Elope: A Bridesmaid Survival Guide,” with practical tips on how to navigate the ask with authenticity, honesty and boundaries. In this episode of “Modern Love,” Wolle tells host Anna Martin  about the bridesmaid dynamics that made her call it quits. Plus, she gives advice and scripts for those looking to approach the role in a new way. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode of Perspektives with Bank, Big Bank sits down with Minister Yahdan Yada aka Yada Awakening for a powerful conversation on relationships, masculinity, and the transformative role of women in society. Yada breaks down how elevating women ultimately elevates men, diving into themes of emotional intelligence, healing, and the influence of the divine feminine. The discussion challenges traditional views on gender dynamics, unpacking how societal systems have diminished the value of women while highlighting their role in spiritual awakening, family structure, and emotional growth. The conversation expands into self-love, trauma, and accountability in relationships, with a focus on how men can better understand themselves and show up with intention. Yada also explores the impact of lifestyle choices on health, advocating for natural healing, clean living, and spiritual alignment. From generational wealth and family dynamics to redefining masculinity and emotional wellness, this episode offers a grounded yet thought-provoking perspective on building stronger relationships, healthier communities, and a more balanced approach to love and life. Tune in and join the conversation in the socials below. Rate, subscribe, comment and share. Follow Perspektives With Bank on IG @perspektiveswithbank @@yada_awakeningSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Modern Love est une chronique créée par Amal Tahir et Marie Gaguech. Deux copines parisiennes parties à New York pour un girls trip - et qui ont décidé d'en faire une série de conversations sur l'amour et la vie des femmes aujourd'hui. Dans ce troisième épisode, elles parlent de vivre seule, de routine, de bien-être, et de ces petits rituels qui nous aident à nous sentir bien dans notre peau et dans notre tête. Avoir toute la place dans le dressing, décider de son rythme, prendre soin de soi - ce sont parfois des détails, mais ça change tout. Elles discutent aussi de leur routine skincare, notamment de la gamme Vinoperfect de Caudalie, et de la façon dont le fait de prendre soin de soi peut devenir un vrai moment pour se recentrer. Une conversation simple sur l'indépendance, le confort d'être seule chez soi, et le plaisir de créer une vie qui nous ressemble.XXAmal Tahir :https://www.instagram.com/amaltahirMarie Gaguech :https://www.instagram.com/mariegaguechHébergé par Ausha. Visitez ausha.co/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

Modern Love est une chronique créée par Amal Tahir et Marie Gaguech. Deux copines parisiennes parties à New York pour un girls trip - et qui ont décidé d'en faire une série de conversations sur l'amour et la vie des femmes aujourd'hui. Dans ce deuxième épisode, elles parlent de mariage, d'enfants, de pression sociale… et de ce fameux mec sexy qui peut tout remettre en question. Une discussion sans filtre sur les choix de vie, les envies contradictoires, et cette question qu'on finit toutes par se poser : est-ce qu'on veut vraiment la même chose que tout le monde ?XXAmal Tahir :https://www.instagram.com/amaltahirMarie Gaguech :https://www.instagram.com/mariegaguechHébergé par Ausha. Visitez ausha.co/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

Modern Love est une chronique créée par Amal Tahir et Marie Gaguech. Deux amies parisiennes parties à New York pour un girls trip - et qui ont décidé d'en faire une série de conversations sur la vie des femmes aujourd'hui. Dans ce premier épisode, elles parlent de ce que signifie être une femme dans les temps modernes : l'amitié féminine, l'identité, l'indépendance, et toutes les questions qu'on se pose en grandissant. Une discussion simple, honnête, entre copines.xxAmal Tahir :https://www.instagram.com/amaltahirMarie Gaguech :https://www.instagram.com/mariegaguechHébergé par Ausha. Visitez ausha.co/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

On her first day of college, Elizabeth Banks met a cute guy at a party. This was long before her roles in “Pitch Perfect” and “30 Rock.” A lot has changed, but 33 years later Banks is still with that same cute guy. In this episode of “Modern Love,” she tells our host, Anna Martin, about the intense conversations and difficult decisions that have kept her relationship alive. And, she reads “Making Space in Marriage, Even as the Walls Close In,” a Modern Love essay about a couple who crack open a stale marriage by leaping into Burning Man. Listen to and Follow ‘Modern Love' Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube |iHeartRadio Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. We Want to Hear From You Email us at modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com. Here's how to submit a Modern Love essay. Here's how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

R.I.P. Floyd - the sign man with a bitchin' heart of gold! LET'S SOLVE DTF: ST. LOUIS, HBO's mid-life crisis, buddy comedy, murder mystery drops the final episode where the tragedy of the Thunder Boys white rap group comes into sad view. Goodbye Floyd, Carol, Richard, Clark, Temu Tiger Tiger, Det. Homer, Det. Plumb, Modern Love, and the baseball umpire/paper person named Queece! A darkly comedic tale of three middle-aged individuals entangled in a love triangle, leading to one's untimely demise. But if someone killed Floyd (David Harbour), whodunnit? Was it weather man Clark (Jason Bateman)? Or did his widow Carol (Linda Cardellini) take him down? Other suspects include Clark's wife Eimy (Wynn Everett), Floyd's stepson Richard (Arlan Ruf), or a mystery person like Peter Sarsgaard? St. Louis Detective Donoghue Homer (Richard Jenkins) and Twyla special crimes officer Jodie Plumb (Joy Sunday) will have to crack the case. The tv show was created by Steven Conrad (Patriot, Perpetual Grace, LTD). #DTFStLouis #hbo #hbomax s1e7 s1e07 s01e07 00:02 Did the series work? 00:44 Let's Solve DTF: St. Louis 01:08 Spoiler Alert 01:28 Variety Article 02:00 Victim: Floyd Smernitch 04:57 Suspect: Clark Forrest 06:21 Suspect: Carol Love-Smernitch 08:06 Suspect: Richard 08:54 Suspect: Stephen Queece 08:59 Suspect: Modern Love 09:05 Suspect: Temu Tiger Tiger 09:22 My Thoughts "No One's Normal. It Just Looks That Way From Across The Street" After a series of revelations, Plumb and Homer question everything they know about the case. Variety article https://variety.com/2026/tv/news/dtf-st-louis-finale-recap-who-killed-floyd-1236712971/ Director Steve Conrad Writer Steve Conrad created by (as Steven Conrad) Cast Jason Bateman ... Clark Forrest David Harbour ... Floyd Linda Cardellini ... Carol Richard Jenkins ... Homer Joy Sunday ... Jodie Plumb Peter Sarsgaard ... Christopher Robert Spurce "Modern Love" Wynn Everett ... Eimy Arlan Ruf ... Richard Chris Perfetti ... Tiger Tiger Asher Miles Fallica ... Stephen Queece Composer Alex Wurman music by Cinematographer James Whitaker director of photography Editors Kevin D. Ross Max Koepke Whitfield Scheidegger Production Designer Laura Fox Art Director Charles Varga Set Decorator Lance Totten Costume Designer Molly Maginnis  

An Excuse To Cheat Or "Modern Love"? Open Relationships, Trauma Bonding, & More! Not Married Ep. 21 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

While the “Cannonball” team is on a short break, Wesley is recommending some notable conversations he's listened to lately from other New York Times shows. This week, it's an episode of “Modern Love,” featuring host Anna Martin talking with Zendaya and Robert Pattinson. They dig into the complicated relationship at the core of their new film, “The Drama,” and consider how much they actually want to know about their real-life romantic partners. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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It was Stefanie and Jonathan's worst nightmare: Jonathan's depression had become so severe he was begging to be taken to the hospital. Stefanie took him to the hospital and then took care of everything else for the family. When she married Jonathan years earlier, Stefanie knew about his mental health struggles. But she wasn't prepared for this moment. Then, Stefanie fell apart too — and it was Jonathan's turn to take care of her. In this episode, Anna talks to Stefanie about what it's like to love someone through the worst of it, and what Stefanie learned about her own needs after years of ignoring them. You can read Stefanie's original story in the Modern Love column. Listen to and Follow ‘Modern Love' Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube |iHeartRadio Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. We Want to Hear From You Email us at modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com. Here's how to submit a Modern Love essay. Here's how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In their buzzy new film, “The Drama,” Zendaya and Robert Pattinson play an engaged couple whose relationship is imploding. With their wedding just a week away, Emma (Zendaya) reveals a shocking secret about her past that sends her fiancé, Charlie (Pattinson), into a self-destructive spiral of doubt. The stakes are high for these fictional lovers, but the underlying relationship anxiety is relatable: What if you don't know the person you love as well as you think you do? What if they surprise you, and that surprise is not good? In this episode, Anna Martin, the host of “Modern Love,” asks Pattinson and Zendaya what these questions mean to their characters, and in their own lives. You can watch a video version of this episode here.  Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This week, we have an update to one of our favorite interviews from last year. When Jacob Hoff and Samantha Greenstone met, they became instant best friends. Then, even though Jacob was gay, they realized that their feelings for each other were evolving beyond the platonic, and they decided to give romance a try. On this episode, Hoff and Greenstone tell Anna Martin, host of “Modern Love,” how their love gave him the courage to come out to his conservative family. They also explain that when they decided to get married, they realized they'd have to get used to clarifying their commitment again and again. You can read Jacob and Samantha's Mini-Vows profile in the Styles section. How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times How to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Wendy C. Ortiz joins Let's Talk Memoir for a conversation about the English teacher who preyed on her when she was thirteen, writing about the person we are now when writing about our past, placing the reader in the physical and psychological experience of character-you, how important the opening pages are in setting the stakes, feeling fear and shame, taking care of yourself when writing about traumatic events, reminding ourselves who we were before abuse, growing up feeling comfortable keeping secrets, art as means to recovery, when your press goes out of business, when a predator asks you not to write about them but you do, and her new memoir Excavation.   Also in this episode: -interstitial chapters -university presses vs. small presses -taking care of ourselves when writing about trauma   Books mentioned in this episode: -Firebird by Mark Doty -Truth Serum by Bernard Cooper -The Chronology of Water by Lidia Yuknavitch   Wendy C. Ortiz is the author of Excavation: A Memoir, Hollywood Notebook: Essays, and Bruja: A Dreamoir, all of which were reissued in Spring 2025 by Northwestern University Press. Her work has been featured in the Los Angeles Times, The Rumpus, and the Los Angeles Review of Books. Her writing has appeared in BOMB Magazine online, The New York Times' “Modern Love,” Joyland, FENCE, DIAGRAM, and Pleiades, among others. She was awarded a Tin House residency to continue working on her next book. Her current project is Mommy's El Camino, a weekly online newsletter. Wendy is a psychotherapist in private practice in Los Angeles.    Connect with Wendy: Website: https://www.wendyortiz.com Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/wendyortiz.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.c.ortiz Book purchase via Bookshop: https://bookshop.org/p/books/excavation-a-memoir-wendy-c-ortiz/21982167?ean=9780810148604&next=t   – Ronit's writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Rumpus, The New York Times, Poets & Writers, The Iowa Review, Hippocampus, The Washington Post, Writer's Digest, American Literary Review, and elsewhere. Her memoir WHEN SHE COMES BACK about the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation was named Finalist in the 2021 Housatonic Awards Awards, the 2021 Indie Excellence Awards, and was a 2021 Book Riot Best True Crime Book. Her short story collection HOME IS A MADE-UP PLACE won Hidden River Arts' 2020 Eludia Award and the 2023 Page Turner Awards for Short Stories.  She earned an MFA in Nonfiction Writing at Pacific University, is Creative Nonfiction Editor at The Citron Review, and teaches memoir through the University of Washington's Online Continuum Program and also independently. She launched Let's Talk Memoir in 2022, lives in Seattle with her family of people and dogs, and is at work on her next book. More about Ronit: https://ronitplank.com Subscribe to Ronit's Substack: https://substack.com/@ronitplank Follow Ronit: https://www.instagram.com/ronitplank/ https://www.facebook.com/RonitPlank https://bsky.app/profile/ronitplank.bsky.social

Marcus and Jessica break down a viral relationship advice post that's sparking heated debates online. A therapist claims women need to accept "tradeoffs" when dating—want a successful man? Expect long hours. Want ambition? Accept tunnel vision. But is this advice actually helpful, or just basic clickbait?Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

This week in The Mama's Den, we're getting honest about relationships—and why social media often gets it wrong. From judging couples online to loving a version of someone instead of their full self, the Mamas unpack the real, nuanced reasons relationships work… and why they don't. Because not everything you see online tells the full story—and sometimes, neither does love alone. If you've ever looked up and thought, “Wait… who have you become?”—this one is for you. The Mamas are building our community and ways to keep in touch with you. Share your email address here: https://tinyurl.com/MamasDen Make sure you connect with our Mamas on IG: @themamasdenpodcast Ashley - @watermeloneggrolls Codie - @codieco  Melanie - @melaniefiona Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In the 5 AM hour, Larry O’Connor and Bethany Mandel discussed: Modern Love: A New York Times article about a writer in a non-monogamous marriage goes viral. Cesar Chavez: The Civil Rights icon, Is accused of abusing girls for years according to an investigation by The New York Times. ADL: Jonathan Greenblatt, CEO of the Anti-Defamation League, says that right-wing extremists have committed the most violent acts in the last 25 years. Kid Needs App to Tell Time: Kid discovers he can use ChatGPT to help him read clock with hands. Where to find more about WMAL's morning show: Follow Podcasts on Apple Podcasts, Audible, and Spotify Follow WMAL's "O'Connor and Company" on X: @WMALDC, @LarryOConnor, @JGunlock, @PatricePinkfile, and @HeatherHunterDC Facebook: WMALDC and Larry O'Connor Instagram: WMALDC Website: WMAL.com/OConnor-Company Episode: Thursday, March 19, 2026 / 5 AM HourSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When Joan Price's husband died, her grief left her feeling alienated from her body. She was numb. She couldn't have orgasms. Her sex drive disappeared. Joan understood better than most people the importance of a fulfilling sex life; as a sex educator for older adults, she centered her work around pleasure and desire. So, she began the process of rediscovering what it means to feel good after loss. Joan ended up writing a book about everything she learned, called "Sex After Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved." This week on “Modern Love,” Joan Price tells the story of reconnecting with her sexuality, and she shares advice for anyone looking to do the same. Please note: this episode contains explicit descriptions of sex. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ryan Spahn is a Drama Desk Award–winning actor and writer. Select Off-Broadway: Richard II (Red Bull), Danger and Opportunity (East Village Basement), The Antiquities (Playwrights Horizons), Jordans (The Public), Merry Me (NYTW), Good Enemy (Audible), Jane Anger (New Ohio), Summer & Smoke (CSC), Daniel's Husband (Westside), Moscow x6 (MCC), Exit Strategy (Primary Stages), Gloria (Vineyard). Select TV/Film: Sub/liminal, Zero Day, Elsbeth, AHS: Delicate, Succession, Modern Love, The Bite, Chicago P.D. Ryan co-wrote the feature film He's Way More Famous Than You and wrote the play Inspired By True Events (Concord Theatricals, Theatrely's “Best of 2024.”). Juilliard graduate and the first teenaged Borg on Star Trek: Voyager. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jessie Buckley is nominated for best actress at the Oscars this weekend, for her performance in the movie “Hamnet.” She plays the wife of William Shakespeare — and a grieving mother — as the couple confronts the loss of their only son. The role has already won her a Golden Globe, a BAFTA and an Actor Award. In a conversation on “The Sunday Daily,” The Times's chief movie critic, Manohla Dargis, said it would be a major upset if Buckley did not also win an Academy Award. Ahead of the ceremony, we're bringing you our conversation with Buckley from last year. “When I was filming ‘Hamnet,' I deeply wanted to become a mother,” Buckley said. “And it was such a gift to move through this woman and her motherhood and her love and her loss before I became a mother myself.” On this episode of “Modern Love,” Buckley describes how she was able to access the vulnerability she portrayed onscreen. And she talks about how her life has changed since having her own child. Plus, she reads the Modern Love essay “The Wrong Kind of Inheritance” by Victoria Dougherty. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit smokeempodcast.substack.comNancy and Sarah discuss a NYT interview with Lindy West, the former Jezebel firebrand whose new memoir describes her path toward polyamory — and it's a rocky one! Nancy and Sarah are split on this one, but West's account raises an interesting question: When a woman who doesn't want an open marriage learns to embrace it, does that represent a new kind of liberation, or the old-school accommodation of being the perfect wife? They also talk about a recent essay on the dating crisis among young people and another about the trendiness of love addiction. Special episode alert: Nancy learns about gooning.Also discussed:* AI SPAM = Never answering the phone again* How much would you pay for a piece of rhubarb pie?* Some love for Aidy Bryant* Personal writing vs. activism* “The liberating spirit of anal sex” is a phrase that's used* Is there anything worse than one-third of men saying they're afraid to approach a woman? Yes, yes there is* Nancy watches porn. Reports back with what men gooners want * The behavioral modifications that came with our screens* “Is love the most important thing to you?” is a dumb question* You want more hockey? We got more hockey!Plus, Sarah's new book has a pub date, an Oscar Best Picture bet, Nancy finally admits her latest television addiction — and more!Resist the goon cave. Become a paid subscriber.

When she was growing up, the writer Lindy West was bombarded with negative messages about being fat. The whole world seemed to think she didn't deserve love unless she lost weight. In her first book, “Shrill,” West wrote about how hard it was to combat fatphobia within herself, in society and on the internet, where she was attacked by some particularly vicious trolls. By the end of the book, West had found confidence in herself. She also got married to the love of her life. Now, West is opening up about a conflict that was built into her marriage from the start: She wanted to be monogamous. Her husband, Aham, did not. To make Aham happy, West agreed that he could see other people, but she was terrified of what would happen to her self-esteem if he ever acted on it.  This week on “Modern Love,” West talks about what happened when Aham started seriously dating someone else. Once this new girlfriend entered the picture, it forced West to rethink her feelings about her marriage, and about herself. On the other side of all that tough emotional work, she was surprised to discover a new kind of joy.  Lindy West's latest book, “Adult Braces: Driving Myself Sane,” comes out March 10. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

When Helena de Groot was a child, she pictured an exciting future for herself: living in a big city, getting an apartment with lots of plants, having a creative job and going dancing on the weekends. She never saw becoming a mother as part of that future. When people asked, she told them she didn't want children. As she grew up, got married and watched her friends become parents, she stood by that decision. But, deep down, she had doubts. The question of whether she was making the right decision for the right reasons consumed Helena's thinking, and had profound implications for her life and marriage. This week on the “Modern Love” podcast, she discusses how she navigated uncertainty, how it changed her life and how she imagined her future. Helena de Groot's podcast about her experience, “Creation Myth,” is available from the CBC.  How to submit a Modern Love Essay to the New York Times How to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Julia Stoller loved her dad. But she never wanted to be him. He was a rule follower, he was so serious, and he was so straight. Then, when Julia was in her 20s, she got a phone call that completely changed her idea of who her father was. And as he opened up to her, sharing secrets he had been holding onto for decades, she was finally able to open up to him, too.This week on “Modern Love,” Anna talks to Julia about what happened when she had to get to know a whole new version of her dad, and what she learned about herself in the process.You can read Julia's original story in the Modern Love column.We Want to Hear From YouEmail us at modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com. Here's how to submit a Modern Love essay. Here's how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Joy Behar and Sara Haines sit down with executive producer Brian Teta to talk about Alyssa's new baby boy and what it will be like with guest co-hosts at the table. They also talk about the passing of actor Robert Duvall and why “The Godfather” is one of their all-time favorite movies. Sara and Joy also delve out some relationship advice and talk about who should make the first move. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Recently, the “Modern Love” team asked you to share stories about the most romantic things that have ever happened to you. What struck us about your stories was how frequently romance was found in quiet, everyday actions: rubbing your loved one's feet, paying the bill, changing a flat tire, eating dinner together on the porch. This week, in celebration of Valentine's Day, we hear stories that remind us all how simple love can be. Then, we speak to the king and queen of Valentine's Day. For 30 years, Lonnie Anderson has made giant, over-the-top valentines for his wife, Anne Bolger Witherspoon, and has become a local legend in Albuquerque for doing so. The two tell us why Lonnie goes to the extraordinary lengths he does, and what it feels like for Anne to receive these extravagant, very public valentines. Find photos of Lonnie's valentines here.How to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York TimesHow to submit a Tiny Love Story Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Please note: this episode contains explicit descriptions of sex.Jennette McCurdy pretty much grew up in front of an audience. In her role on the Nickelodeon show “iCarly,” she seemed like a bubbly, happy teenager. Behind the scenes, though, she was struggling. In her 2022 memoir, “I'm Glad My Mom Died,” McCurdy described her toxic and often abusive relationship with her mother, her struggles with depression and disordered eating, and the painful work she did to build herself back up. The book was a New York Times bestseller for over 80 weeks. McCurdy has a new book out, and this time, she's written a novel. “Half His Age” tells the story of an intimate relationship between a 17-year-old girl named Waldo and her 40-year-old teacher, Mr. Korgy. This week on “Modern Love,” McCurdy explains how some of her own experiences inspired the story in “Half His Age,” and how writing the book allowed her to work through her rage, understand her desire and reclaim her power. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

When Jordan Carlos looks back on the role he was playing in his family a few years ago, he does not like what he sees. He was bringing home a good salary as a comedian, but doing only the bare minimum as a husband and a dad. When Jordan did show up at home, he was more likely to take the kids out for an all-day candy binge than to take them to the dentist or to tuck them in by bedtime.But Jordan got a painful wake-up call when the pandemic hit and his work came to a halt. Home all the time, Jordan looked around and noticed that nobody seemed to need, or expect, any help from him. And his marriage was in serious trouble.This week on “Modern Love,” Jordan explains how he let things get so bad in the first place, and how day by day, chore by chore, he started to take responsibility for all the little things that actually mean a lot.Jordan's book, “Choreplay: The Marriage-Saving Magic of Getting Your Head Out of Your Ass,” comes out Feb. 10.Listener Callout: “Modern Love” wants to hear from you. What's the most romantic thing that has ever happened to you? What's the most romantic thing you've ever witnessed? If something made you feel that rush of romance, send us a voice memo by Feb. 4, and we may use it on the show. Check out our submission page to learn more. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.