Divorce Dialogues

You might assume that mediators who specialize in prenups recommend them for everyone. But Laurie Israel is actually against prenuptial agreements for most couples. So, when should you consider creating a prenup? And how do you write one in a fair and loving way that strengthens the new marriage? Laurie is a collaborative lawyer and mediator based in Massachusetts, where she concentrates her practice exclusively on prenuptial and postnuptial agreements. Laurie also writes extensively about the art of mediating prenups, and she is the author of The Generous Prenup: How to Support Your Marriage and Avoid the Pitfalls. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Laurie joins Katherine to explain when a prenup is a good idea and when it isn't, discussing why it's inappropriate to think of a marriage as a business deal. Laurie shares her thoughts on prenups for inheritances, second marriages, and business owners, describing what to look for in a mediator to negotiate your agreement. Listen in for Laurie's insight on protecting both parties (not just the moneyed spouse) and learn how the right kind of prenup creates peace, certainty and fairness for all involved. Topics Covered Why Laurie is against prenuptial agreements for most couples When a prenup is a good idea and how it can create peace, certainty and fairness in those cases Why it's inappropriate to think of a marriage as a business deal Laurie's advice on what to look for in a mediator to negotiate your prenup Why Laurie suggests a prenup for second marriages and marriages involving children from previous relationships How Laurie thinks about building a prenup or postnup for business owners How fairness in a prenup is influenced by the laws in your particular state When it might be appropriate to draft a postnuptial agreement Laurie's thoughts on the complexities of money and marriage Laurie's loving approach to prenups that protect both people in a marriage (not just the moneyed spouse) How to address student loans and inheritances in a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement Providing for the surviving spouse when a marriage ends in death Connect with Laurie Israel Laurie Israel Law and Mediation: https://www.laurieisrael.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Generous Prenup by Laurie Israel: https://www.laurieisrael.com/book/ Ten Things I Hate About Prenuptial Agreements: https://www.laurieisrael.com/ten-things-i-hate-about-prenuptial-agreements/

In the early days of her family law practice, Heather Quick noticed a troubling pattern among the women she represented. Women often undervalued what they brought to the marriage and failed to stand up for themselves in the divorce process. So, what can women do to change their mindset around divorce and fight for what they deserve? Heather Quick is Founder and CEO of Florida Women's Law Group, the only divorce and family law firm in Northeast Florida that serves women exclusively. Consistent with her message of women's empowerment, Heather has published several books on divorce and business, including Women's Guide to Divorce in Florida and Women's Guide to Becoming a Successful Entrepreneur. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Heather joins Katherine to discuss the unique challenges facing women in divorce, from stay-at-home moms to female breadwinners. Heather explains how women compromise on finances to protect their children and why that's a bad idea, challenging couples to stop using their children as a negotiating tool in divorce. Listen in to understand how entrepreneurship can help women own their financial destiny and learn how FWLG advocates for women before, during and after divorce. Topics Covered What inspired Heather to focus on helping women stand up for themselves in divorce Why women tend to undervalue what they bring to a marriage What issues affect women in particular during the divorce process How women compromise on finances in divorce to protect their children (and why they shouldn't) The danger in using your children as a negotiating tool in divorce Common issues facing female breadwinners in divorce, e.g.: custody, alimony, etc. How Heather's books educate and empower women before, during and after divorce Heather's experience working with a team of all women at Florida Women's Law Group How Heather benefits from having a divorce coach on her team What motivated Heather to expand her focus to helping women excel as entrepreneurs Connect with Heather Quick Florida Women's Law Group: https://www.floridawomenslawgroup.com/ Women Winning Divorce Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/685277376560289 Women Winning Divorce Podcast: https://womenwinningdivorce.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Women's Guide to Divorce in Florida by Heather Brooke Quick, Esq.: https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Guide-Divorce-Florida-Advantage/dp/150323326X Is Divorce Right for You? by Heather B. Quick, Esq.: https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Right-You-Guide-Determine-ebook/dp/B00NH2QK1G/ Women's Guide to Becoming a Successful Entrepreneur by Heather B. Quick, Esq.: https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Guide-Becoming-Successful-Entrepreneur/dp/1511734655/ Julie Rountree on Divorce Dialogues: https://miller-law.com/podcast/the-missing-professional-from-a-divorce-litigation-team/ Changes to Florida's Divorce Law: https://www.attorneylauraolson.com/an-overview-of-floridas-new-alimony-law-elimination-of-permanent-alimony/

If you're going through a divorce, writing a love letter is probably the last thing on your mind. But Jennifer Lee, AWMA, AIF, suggests that sharing your values and hopes for the future in a family love letter to your children is a good first step for financial planning in divorce. So, how does a love letter help you set meaningful financial goals and make better money decisions? Jennifer is the founder of Modern Wealth, a Sarasota-based financial firm with a focus on helping individuals in transition, and author of Squeeze the Juice: Live with Purpose, Then Leave a Legacy. Jennifer brings a fresh perspective on the financial planning process by digging deep to understand her clients' values and helping them use money as a tool to accomplish their dreams. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Jennifer joins Katherine to share the personal experience that inspired her idea for a family love letter in the financial planning process. Jennifer explains why financial anxiety is such a common issue in the divorce process and challenges us to see money as a tool to reach our goals—not the goal itself. Listen in to understand how Jennifer supports the ‘non-moneyed' spouse in settlement negotiations and learn how Squeeze the Juice can help you make informed financial decisions in divorce. Topics Covered Why Jennifer includes writing a family love letter in the financial planning process Thinking of money as a tool to accomplish our dreams vs. the goal itself What drove Jennifer's father to communicate his values in a kind of family love letter Why anxiety around money is such a common issue in the divorce process How Jennifer helps the non-moneyed spouse in a divorce make financial decisions The danger in rushing through divorce negotiations because you want it to be done What experiences inspired Jennifer to write her book, Squeeze the Juice How your money story impacts the way you navigate financial decisions The 2 most important chapters in Squeeze the Juice for people going through divorce What it means to be the non-moneyed spouse in divorce (and what it doesn't mean) Why there's a power imbalance in divorce negotiations for the non-moneyed spouse Connect with Jennifer Lee Modern Wealth: https://modern-wealth.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Squeeze the Juice by Jennifer Lee: https://squeezethejuicebook.com/

Asking your partner for a divorce is challenging under any circumstances. But the conversation can be downright dangerous if you're leaving an abusive spouse. In fact, upwards of 70% of women who leave an abusive spouse are murdered. So, what resources are available to victims of intimate partner violence? How do you mitigate the risks associated with divorcing an abuser? Beverly Price is the driving force behind Her Empowered Divorce, a coaching practice that has supported thousands of women facing the most challenging aspects of divorce. Beverly is also the visionary behind the Divorce Coalition, a network of divorce professionals and survivor advocates united to transform the landscape of domestic abuse. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Beverly joins Katherine to explore the impact of domestic abuse in divorce and explain why you shouldn't leave an abuser without a safety plan. Beverly discusses the benefit of having a divorce coach, describing how she offers clients education and preparation around the process to reduce their anxiety. Listen in for Beverly's insight into the many forms of abuse and learn how survivors of domestic partner violence can work through the divorce process safely and with adequate support. Topics Covered The benefit of divorce coaching that goes beyond emotional management How education and preparation for divorce reduces the anxiety associated with the process Why Beverly suggests hiring an attorney, financial professional and divorce coach How Beverly's personal experiences inform her work as a divorce coach Divorce Coalition's work to improve abuse survivors' experiences in the court process The many forms of domestic abuse, i.e.: physical, financial, sexual, legal, emotional, etc. Why you shouldn't leave an abuser until you have support and a safety plan How Beverly coaches people through the conversation of asking for a divorce The statistics re: the number of men and women who experience intimate partner violence Beverly's advice on documenting abuse to prepare for divorce litigation Connect with Beverly Price Her Empowered Divorce: https://herempowereddivorce.com/ Her Empowered Divorce Podcast: https://herempowereddivorce.com/podcast Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/

Is your relationship causing you a great deal of stress? Do you suspect that your partner has a diagnosable mental illness? In such a challenging situation, it's human nature to blame the other person in the relationship. To label their behavior as wrong and ask, ‘Why won't they change?' But if their mental health is in question, they may not be able to change. And the better question is, ‘What is YOUR next right step?' Judy Herman is a mental health professional and relationship wellness advocate dedicated to equipping high-achieving women in the helping professions go from trauma drama into vibrant karma. Judy is also the host of Better Relationships, Better Life: The Podcast and author of Beyond Messy Relationships and Relationships with Purpose. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Judy joins Katherine to explain how her personal experience as a twice-divorced relationship therapist inspired her to write Relationships with Purpose. Judy discusses what differentiates someone with self-centered characteristics from a diagnosable narcissist and shares questions to ask yourself if you're married to someone with mental illness. Listen in for Judy's insight on shifting your attitude toward your partner from judgement to curiosity and learn strategies for staying grounded during challenging interactions in any relationship. Topics Covered How Judy's own challenging relationships inspired her to write her first book The identity crisis Judy faced as a twice-divorced relationship therapist What differentiates someone with self-centered characteristics from a diagnosable narcissist What questions to ask yourself if you're married to someone with mental illness How to shift your attitude toward your partner from judgement to curiosity Judy's strategies for staying grounded in challenging interactions with your partner Why Judy suggests getting professional help if you're feeling shame around your relationship Judy's deep breathing exercises for navigating intense interpersonal situations Connect with Judy Herman Judy's Website: https://www.judycounselor.com/ Better Relationships, Better Life: The Podcast: https://www.judycounselor.com/podcast/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Beyond Messy Relationships by Judy K. Herman: https://www.judycounselor.com/product/premier-author-signed-single-book/ Relationships with Purpose by Judy K. Herman: https://www.judycounselor.com/relationships-with-purpose/ Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/ My Lovely Wife in the Psych Ward by Mark Lukach: https://www.marklukach.com/book Judy's Relationship Stress Quiz: https://www.judycounselor.com/ Judy's From Chaos to Calm Online Course: https://www.judycounselor.com/jumpstart-emotionally-safe-conversations/

If you aren't fully informed about your finances in marriage, you can't negotiate from a level playing field in divorce. That's why Adrienne Grace is committed to helping women with what she calls holistic financial planning. So, what is holistic financial planning? How can it help you negotiate a realistic divorce settlement and build a plan for the future? Adrienne is the Women's Wealth Advocate and Holistic Financial Planner behind Transitioning Finances, a platform where she guides women and couples to successfully negotiate divorce settlements, survive financial transitions and rebuild afterward. Adrienne has 30-plus years of experience working in every area of the financial world, and she is passionate about helping you overcome your financial challenges and move empowered into the next phase of your life. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Adrienne joins Katherine to discuss why the inability to communicate about money is often the cause of divorce. Adrienne explains how she helps people understand the relative value of their assets and empowers them with the confidence to negotiate a divorce settlement. Listen in for Adrienne's advice on ‘talking to your honey about money' early in the relationship and learn how to design a holistic spending and savings plan to ensure your financial security in divorce. Topics Covered The personal experiences that led to Adrienne's work helping people through transitions How Adrienne defines holistic financial planning as looking at money as it relates to your life Why the inability to communicate about money is often the cause of divorce Adrienne's advice around talking to your honey about money before you get married Why Adrienne suggests setting aside private time to talk with your partner about money How women who are not fully informed about their finances struggle to negotiate a divorce settlement How Adrienne helps people understand the relative value of their assets Why it's crucial to design a spending + savings plan with a realist view of what it costs to live How Adrienne empowers people with the confidence to negotiate their divorce settlement Adrienne's experiences helping people find hidden assets in the divorce process Connect with Adrienne Grace Transitioning Finances: https://adriennegrace.com/ Adrienne on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womenswealthadvocate/ Adrienne on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adrienne-rothstein-grace-cdfa/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources From We to Me: A Financial Guide to Divorce by Adrienne Grace: https://adriennegrace.com/adriennes-books/ I'm Divorced. Now What? by Adrienne Grace: https://www.amazon.com/Im-Divorced-Now-What-Guide/dp/B0C6W6HX5Y Adrienne's Blog on Talking to Your Honey About Money: https://adriennegrace.com/remarriage-living-together-second-time-around/ Adrienne's Divorce Academy Online Course:https://adriennegrace.com/classes_and_courses/

What do you need to know about filing your taxes during or after divorce? Are asset transfers taxable? What about alimony and child support? Who claims the children? And what if your ex mishandled the finances and there's tax debt you knew nothing about? Tax Attorney Hubert Johnson is Founder of Guardian Tax Law, where he has assisted thousands of individuals and businesses dealing with IRS and state tax issues. Hubert lectures to tax professionals in seminars and training sessions across the country and has cowritten two books on tax debt resolution. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Hubert joins Katherine to answer your questions around tax issues in divorce, explaining where to go for tax information if your soon-to-be-ex handled the finances. Hubert walks us through the pros and cons of delaying divorce to file taxes jointly and discusses when asset transfers are a taxable event—and when they're not. Listen in for Hubert's insight on the tax rules around alimony and child support and learn where to go for help settling tax debt in the aftermath of divorce. Topics Covered The pros and cons of delaying divorce to file your taxes jointly Where to go for tax information if your ex-spouse handled the finances How to qualify as an ‘innocent spouse' if your partner fails to pay taxes Why the IRS pursues both parties equally for tax debt (filing jointly) When asset transfers are a taxable event and when they're not How to avoid capital gains on the sale of an asset in divorce When the IRS respects a marital settlement agreement Who should consider applying for ‘offer in compromise' with the IRS The state and federal tax rules re: alimony and child support What to do if your ex claims the children on their taxes but shouldn't Connect with Hubert Johnson Guardian Tax Law: https://guardiantaxlaw.com/ Guardian on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@guardiantaxlaw Guardian on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/guardian-tax-law/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources IRS.gov

Julie Rountree began her career as a divorce attorney. And she quickly realized that clients expected her to be both their legal advocate and counselor. But it was very difficult to wear both hats. Julie recognized that her clients needed someone to help them navigate the emotions of divorce. That's when she stumbled on divorce coaching and thought, ‘This is professional who's been missing from the divorce litigation team.' Today, Julie is the Certified Divorce Coach behind Divorce Coaching Solutions, a practice that helps clients navigate the frustration of divorce, grow their confidence, and transition into life beyond divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Julie joins Katherine to discuss her role in helping people work through their emotions, articulate their goals, and manage expectations around divorce. Julie walks us through what a divorce coach does for their clients, describing how she helps people become and remain the best version of themselves through the process. Listen in for Julie's advice on managing your anger to focus on negotiating a settlement and learn how a family law attorney can benefit from teaming up with a divorce coach. Topics Covered What inspired Julie's transition from family law attorney to divorce coach Julie's role in helping clients manage their frustrations and expectations around divorce What a divorce coach can do for someone who's considering divorce or working through the process Julie's goal to help clients remain the best version of themselves through divorce Julie's advice to someone who's worried about how reentering the workforce will impact alimony Why spousal support can be a bitter pill to swallow for the breadwinner of a divorcing couple How family law attorneys can benefit from teaming up with a divorce coach Managing your anger in divorce to focus on negotiating a settlement Connect with Julie Rountree Divorce Coaching Solutions: https://www.mydivorcecoaches.com/ Divorce Coaching Solutions on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100078882049039 Julie on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-anna-rountree-3967748/ Email julie@mydivorcecoaches.com Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765

We all assume that when we get divorced, things are going to get better. But when a marriage ends, communication is usually at a low point. And that communication style tends to stick, which causes ongoing conflict in the co-parenting relationship. So, what can you do to interrupt that conflict dynamic with your ex? How do you build a constructive, positive co-parenting relationship? Jenni Rock is the creator of Co-Parenting Without Conflict, a coaching practice that helps divorced parents exit toxic relationships and communicate in a way that prioritizes the needs of their children. Jenni brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to the table, helping parents navigate the often-challenging terrain of co-parenting after a divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Jenni joins Katherine to share the story of her own horrific divorce and explain how that experience informs her work in co-parenting conflict resolution. Jenni discusses the most common conflicts in co-parenting relationships and describes the consequences of using your children as a bartering tool. Listen in for Jenni's insight on navigating reactive feelings toward your ex and learn the first steps to changing the way you communicate and co-parenting without conflict! Topics Covered How Jenni's own horrific divorce informs her work in co-parenting conflict resolution Why divorced couples get stuck in the communication style at play when the marriage ended How Jenni helps people interrupt their conflict dynamic with an ex-spouse What differentiates a toxic relationship from a difficult moment in a relationship Blaming your partner vs. taking responsibility for what's not working in your relationship Jenni's insight on the most common conflicts in co-parenting relationships The consequences of using your children as a bartering tool in the divorce process What to consider before you hit SEND on a text or email to your ex-spouse Jenni's advice on what to do with reactive feelings you're tempted to fire at your ex How to set up a constructive, positive co-parenting relationship with your ex-spouse Connect with Jenni Rock Co-Parenting Without Conflict: https://coparentingwithoutconflict.com/home Email jennirock1@outlook.com The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765

Do you suspect that your soon-to-be-ex-spouse is hiding money? If your partner is trying to avoid equitable distribution in a divorce settlement, they might be keeping assets from you or transferring money into a secret account. But is it necessary to hire a forensic accountant? Or can you do the job yourself? Tracey Coenen is a renowned forensic accountant and the brains behind the Divorce Money Guide. She is also the author of the book Find Me the Money and host of the podcast of the same name. Tracey is passionate about helping people who feel powerless in the divorce process regain their confidence and take control of their money. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Tracey joins Katherine to explain how to identify when your spouse is hiding money and where they might be keeping it. Tracey walks us through the common reasons why people hide money in a marriage and describes why financial infidelity is just as devastating as romantic infidelity—if not more. Listen in for Tracey's insight on initiating the conversation around money in your marriage and learn the first steps to educating yourself about the family finances in divorce. Topics Covered How your relationship with money impacts the way you handle finances in a marriage Why we need to change the language we use to talk about money in divorce How to identify when your spouse is hiding money and where they might be keeping it When to hire a forensic accountant (and when you can do the job yourself) How Tracey's Divorce Money Guide helps you understand the financial piece of divorce The most common reasons why people hide money in a marriage What makes financial infidelity just as devastating as romantic infidelity Why talking about money in a marriage is so challenging and how to initiate the conversation Why Tracey suggests listing all the accounts you know about as the first step in getting more financial information The benefit of regularly running a credit report on yourself and exchanging that information with your spouse What Tracey says to women who want to educate themselves about the family finances How knowing where you're spending gives you power to create the life you want Connect with Tracey Coenen Fraud Coach: https://www.fraudcoach.com/dd Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Divorce Money Guide: https://www.fraudcoach.com/ Find Me the Money: Take Control, Uncover the Truth, and Win the Money You Deserve in Your Divorce by Tracey Coenen: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BYFCRMJR?&linkCode=sl1&tag=sequenceinc-20&linkId=ee67be01fe036601f36861168c84e524&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl Find Me the Money Podcast: https://www.fraudcoach.com/podcast

What story are you telling yourself about your divorce? Blaming your ex may seem justified, but that story only gets you stuck in a victim mentality with no control over your own life. So, how do you rewrite your story and start building an empowered life post-divorce? Kimberly Kelley is the neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) practitioner and hypnotherapist behind Reinvent Yourself, a program that helps newly single people create the life they want. She is also the author of No Blame No Shame: Living an Empowered Life After Divorce, where she describes the profound changes she made after her own marriage of 30 years came to an end. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Kimberly joins Katherine to discuss how the stories we tell ourselves affect our experience of divorce. Kimberly explains how the internal shame of another failed marriage drove her fears around what other people would think and describes how hypnotherapy empowered her to imagine a life beyond divorce. Listen in for Kimberly's advice on navigating a divorce you didn't choose and learn how NLP can help you reframe your divorce as a growth opportunity rather than a mistake! Topics Covered How NLP is the study of how we communicate with ourselves How we can leverage neuro-linguistic programming to live a more empowered life How the stories we tell ourselves affect our experience of divorce How Kimberly's internal shame drove her fears of what other people would think of her divorce Reframing your negative self-talk around divorce into something constructive How Kimberly helps people reframe their divorce story as a growth opportunity vs. a mistake Why blaming your ex-spouse puts you into a victim mentality Why Kimberly suggests exploring what you got out of your marriage How Kimberly uses hypnotherapy to help people imagine a life beyond divorce Kimberly's advice for navigating a divorce you didn't choose Connect with Kimberly Kelley Body Mind Spirit Healing Arts: https://kimberly-kelley.com/ Kimberly on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kimberly.dyer.kelley Email kimberlykelleyauthor@gmail.com Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources No Blame No Shame: Living an Empowered Life After Divorce by Kimberly Kelley: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C6YPXH3J?ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_9TSY3G3AE7589AQ5ARWK&tag=kpembed-20&linkCode=kpe Peggy McColl's Power Life Script: https://go.peggymccoll.com/powerlifescript-special-promotion

Wonder what your kids are experiencing during the divorce process? What if you could ask adult children of divorce for advice? Grace Casper became a child of divorce at the age of eight. By age 10, she had written the first draft of her book, Dear Parents: Notes from a Child of Divorce by Grace Casper. Today, Grace runs Divorce Tips from Kids, a platform dedicated to helping families navigate divorce, and hosts Divorce: What I Wish My Parents Knew, a podcast about divorce from the kids' perspective. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Grace joins Katherine to describe the pressure she felt to be the source of her parents' happiness after their divorce. Grace explains what inspired her to write about her parents' divorce and how we can apply Grace's story in Dear Parents to our own individual circumstances. Listen in for insight on the commoditization of kids in divorce negotiations and learn how Grace's resources can help you improve the experience of divorce for your children. Topics Covered What adult children of divorce would like to go back in time and tell their parents The pressure Grace felt to be the source of her parents' happiness after their divorce Why so many children of divorce see themselves as peacekeepers The power of apologizing to your child when you make a mistake as a parent What inspired Grace to journal about her parents' divorce when she was 10 years old How Grace turned her original 10 tips for kids into a book for divorced parents How Grace learned to let go of her bitterness & resentment and forgive her dad How you can apply Grace's advice in Dear Parents to your own situation How divorce lawyers, coaches and therapists can use Grace's resources to serve clients How Grace thinks about the commoditization of kids in divorce negotiations Grace's advice on keeping your children at the forefront of your thinking in divorce Connect with Grace Casper Divorce Tips from Kids: https://www.divorcetipsfromkids.com/ Divorce Tips on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcetipsfromkids/ Divorce Tips on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/divorcetipsfromkids/ Divorce: What I Wish My Parents Knew Podcast: https://www.divorcetipsfromkids.com/podcast Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Dear Parents: Notes from a Child of Divorce by Grace Casper: https://www.divorcetipsfromkids.com/dear-parents-notes-from-a-child-of-divorce

Worried thoughts about the future generate anxiety. And divorce begets an uncertain future. So, it's no surprise that anxiety is such a common emotion in divorce. But how do you navigate that anxiety without getting overwhelmed in the process? Bernadette Purcell is Founder of Shore Behavioral Health, a practice that helps patients with anxiety disorders enjoy more fulfilling lives and supports individuals and couples through all phases of divorce. A licensed clinical social worker in private practice since 2008, Bernadette is also the author of Divorced as F* in Seven Spiritual Steps. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Bernadette joins Katherine to discuss how worry impacts the divorce process and what to do about it. Bernadette explains how to prevent worry from turning into anxiety, challenging you to surrender to the fact that divorce is happening and leverage acceptance to take the next right step for you. Listen in for insight on getting comfortable with uncertainty and learn Bernadette's top stress management interventions for managing the anxiety of divorce. Topics Covered How thoughts about the future generate anxiety Bernadette's strategy for bringing yourself back to the present moment How to prevent worry from turning into anxiety What inspired Bernadette to write Divorced as F* How Bernadette defines spirituality as learning something that resonates and then truly living it Why it's crucial to surrender to the fact that divorce is happening Why it's a mistake to discontinue stress management interventions when you start to feel better How anxiety impacts the divorce process Bernadette's advice for getting comfortable with uncertainty What to do if divorce is making you anxious about the future Connect with Bernadette Purcell Shore Behavioral Health: http://www.shorebehavioralhealth.net/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Divorced as F* in Seven Spiritual Steps by Bernadette Purcell: https://www.bernadettepurcell.com/

Divorce makes us feel vulnerable. And many of us lawyer up and come out swinging to protect ourselves. But what if there's a more effective way to reach an agreement with your ex? What if a little self-reflection early on can help you improve the process of working with a divorce professional? Jacinta Gallant is a respected lawyer, mediator and educator recognized internationally for her innovative approach to conflict resolution training. Jacinta's Our Family in Two Homes resources for divorce professionals help their clients prepare for effective dispute resolution. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Jacinta joins Katherine to share her journey from cutthroat divorce litigator to effective mediator, describing how she leverages curiosity to understand clients on a deeper level and deliver what they need. Jacinta walks us through the reflection questions she encourages people to ask themselves before they meet with a divorce lawyer and explains how divorce attorneys serve clients better when they don't pretend to have all the answers. Listen in to understand why people who take the ‘high road' get better deals than those who come out swinging and get Jacinta's advice on using divorce as an opportunity for self-discovery and catalyst for a better life! Topics Covered Jacinta's journey from cutthroat divorce litigator to effective mediator Why divorce attorneys can't serve clients well when we pretend to have all the answers How Jacinta leverages curiosity to understand clients on a deeper level and deliver what they need What Jacinta learned by asking clients what it was like to work with her How Jacinta's reflection questions help clients get to know themselves better How Jacinta's Our Family in Two Homes workbook is delivered through the services of a collaborative divorce professional The benefit of reflecting on your hopes and fears re: parenting and finances before you meet with a divorce lawyer Why people who take the ‘high road' get better deals than those who come out swinging Divorce as an opportunity for self-discovery + catalyst for a better life Connect with Jacinta Gallant Jacinta's Website: https://jacintagallant.ca/ The Authentic Professional Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2WY6tXaASxiQkXBWebQmSY Our Family in Two Homes: https://intwohomes.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Dr. Cheryl Picard's Insight Approach to Conflict Resolution: https://www.collaborativepractice.com/system/files/The Insight Approach and CP - essay.pdf Going Steady: A Toolkit for Building Our Future Together by Jacinta Gallant: https://goingsteadytoolkit.com/

If your marriage is ending, you may be convinced that things will never be good again. But what if I told you there is a way to stay positive, even during a divorce? To feel less vulnerable in stressful situations? And change the dynamic of conversations with your ex? Bill Carmody serves as Chief Coaching Officer for Positive Intelligence, where he oversees the application of mental fitness for thousands of coaches worldwide. Bill is also the author of the bestselling book The 3 Rules of Marriage, and he is dedicated to being an inspirational leader who creates breakthroughs for himself and solves problems for others. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Bill joins Katherine to explain how Positive Intelligence strategies can help you be less reactive in stressful situations and stay positive regardless of your circumstances. Bill shares his approach to making progress in high-conflict conversations, challenging us to develop mental fitness and stop the cycle of judgement when we feel criticized by our ex. Listen in for Bill's PQ Reps exercise for dropping into your fully present self and learn how to leverage Positive Intelligence to focus on the outcomes you want during a divorce. Topics Covered How Positive Intelligence helps us stay positive regardless of our circumstances What happens when we let our emotions run us in the process of divorce Using Positive Intelligence to feel less vulnerable and be less reactive in stressful situations How to adjust your autonomic nervous system to cultivate a sense of calm Bill's PQ Reps exercise for dropping into your body and being fully present in the moment Bill's strategies for changing the dynamic of conversations in high-conflict circumstances How mental fitness allows you to focus on the outcome you want in divorce Bill's 3 rules of marriage (don't keep score, show appreciation & don't go to bed angry) Why we tend to judge others when we feel criticized and how to stop that cycle How PQ Reps can help people who are contemplating or navigating divorce Why Bill recommends coaching to help you focus on what's important in divorce Connect with Bill Carmody Positive Intelligence: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The 3 Rules of Marriage by Bill and Elena Carmody: https://www.threerulesofmarriage.com/free The Saboteur Assessment: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/saboteurs/

According to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, divorce is the second most stressful life event after the death of a spouse. And that stress has an impact on our food choices and overall health. So, how might we leverage integrative nutrition to make positive, lasting lifestyle changes while we're coping with divorce? Suzy Wood is the Integrative Nutrition Health Coach behind True Wellness Within, a platform that helps people make healthy food and lifestyle choices and rebuild their lives after the stress of divorce. Suzy's divorce was a calling card to reinvent herself, inspiring her to leave a career in high tech marketing to start her own business and live her best life. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Suzy joins Katherine to discuss the 12 lifestyle factors that must be in balance for you to live a healthy life. Suzy shares tips for finding an avenue for self-care to help you detox during or after divorce and discusses the importance of discerning what divorce advice works for you—and what doesn't. Listen in for Suzy's techniques to navigate the stressful moments of a divorce negotiation and learn how to leverage divorce as an opportunity to transform your life! Topics Covered How divorce gave Suzy the opportunity to transform her outlook on life How integrative nutrition looks at both lifestyle factors and the foods you eat The 12 lifestyle factors that must be in balance for you to live a healthy life How the stress of divorce impacts our food choices and overall health Suzy's tips for finding an avenue for self-care to detox during/after divorce Why Suzy suggests having an outlet to discuss divorce beyond friends and family How to discern what divorce advice works for you and what doesn't What Suzy says to people who are afraid of divorce and don't know what to do How Suzy's coaching program helps people make lasting lifestyle changes Stress-reduction techniques to use during triggering events in divorce Connect with Suzy Wood True Wellness Within: https://www.truewellnesswithin.com/ True Wellness on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/truewellnesswithin/ Suzy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suzanne-wood-true-wellness-within/ Email suzy@truewellnesswithin.com Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Divorce Detox Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1634325603620269

Traditional coparenting arrangements put the focus on the divorcing couple. They establish new, separate households, and the kids go back and forth. But what happens if you shift your focus and build a coparenting plan around the children? When Bill DeSalvo's ex-wife introduced him to the idea of nesting, he had misgivings. But he was open to the alternative because of its benefits for his kids. On the last episode of Divorce Dialogues, Bill's ex-wife, Beth Behrendt, walked us through the fundamentals of nesting, a coparenting strategy in which the children stay in the family home and the parents move in and out. Today, Bill joins Katherine to discuss the experience of nesting from his perspective, sharing the logistical questions he had around how it would work and how their arrangement has evolved over time. Bill explains what he learned about himself through nesting and describes the mutual respect he and Beth established by putting rules in place early on. Listen in for Bill's advice on building structure into a nesting arrangement without ‘scoreboarding' and find out if you have what it takes to make nesting work for your family. Topics Covered What differentiates nesting from traditional coparenting arrangements How nesting puts the focus on the children vs. the couple getting divorced Why Bill was receptive when his ex-wife introduced the idea of nesting The logistical questions Bill had around how nesting would work How Bill and his ex-wife's nesting arrangement has evolved over time What Bill learned about himself and how he grew as a person through nesting Bill's reaction to his ex-wife's decision to write Nesting After Divorce Bill's insight on what it takes to make a nesting arrangement work The rules Bill and his ex put in place early in their nesting arrangement How to build structure into a nesting arrangement without ‘scoreboarding' Connect with Bill DeSalvo Family Nesting: https://familynesting.org/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Beth Behrendt on Divorce Dialogues EP202: https://divorcedialogues.miller-law.com/make-divorce-easier-on-your-kids-with-nesting-with-beth-behrendt Nesting After Divorce: Co-Parenting in the Family Home by Beth Behrendt: https://www.amazon.com/Nesting-After-Divorce-Co-Parenting-Family/dp/1454949791/ref=sr_1_1?crid=39FZ0XEIJ3SN3&keywords=nesting+after+divorce&qid=1671135810&s=books&sprefix=nesting+after+dicorce%2Cstripbooks%2C74&sr=1-1

Separated parents often worry about the upheaval a divorce causes in their kids' lives, especially the stress that comes with moving back and forth between two households. But what if you could give your children the security of staying in the family home? Nesting allows kids to do just that. And it's the parents who move in and out. So, how does nesting work? Is it right for your family? Beth Behrendt is the author of Nesting After Divorce: Co-Parenting in the Family Home. A freelance writer and single mother of three, Beth has shared her nesting experiences in several national publications, including The New York Times and Psychology Today. She is also a regular contributor to Divorce Magazine and Laura Wasser's It's Over Easy. Beth built Family Nesting to offer advice to other families considering this unique approach to divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Beth joins Katherine to explain why she and her ex-husband made the decision to try nesting and how the arrangement benefits their family. Beth shares her take on nesting temporarily to make the transition to divorce easier, describing what the arrangement looks like for her family and how it's evolved over the last nine years! Listen in for Beth's insight on explaining the nesting situation to a new dating partner and find out if co-parenting in the family home is right for you. Topics Covered How nesting allows kids to stay in the family home after divorce How Beth's personal experience inspired her to write Nesting After Divorce Why Beth and her ex-husband made the decision to try nesting Beth's take on nesting for a year or two to make the transition to divorce easier How Beth, her ex and her kids benefit from the nesting arrangement What the nesting arrangement looks like for Beth's family (and how it evolved over the years) How Beth and her ex worked out who was responsible for what, e.g.: shopping, laundry, etc. Establishing rules re: introducing kids to new dating partners and allowing other adults to the nest How to explain the nesting situation to a new dating partner What qualities Beth's ex has that made nesting work for them How nesting impacted Beth's relationship with her ex and how it evolved over time Why nesting isn't right for every family but can work for many Connect with Beth Behrendt Family Nesting: https://familynesting.org/ Family Nesting on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/familynesting.org Family Nesting on Twitter: https://twitter.com/familynesting Beth on Twitter: https://twitter.com/bethbehrendt?lang=en Beth on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bethbehrendt/?hl=en Beth on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bethbehrendt Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: oii Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Nesting After Divorce: Co-Parenting in the Family Home by Beth Behrendt: https://www.amazon.com/Nesting-After-Divorce-Co-Parenting-Family/dp/1454949791/ref=sr_1_1?crid=39FZ0XEIJ3SN3&keywords=nesting+after+divorce&qid=1671135810&s=books&sprefix=nesting+after+dicorce%2Cstripbooks%2C74&sr=1-1 It Doesn't Have to Be That Way by Laura A. Wasser: https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/it-doesnt-have-to-be-that-way-how-to-divorce-without-destroying-your-family-or-bankrupting-yourself_laura-a-wasser/1636713/item/27286672/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=pmax_high_vol_midlist_under_%2410&utm_adgroup=&utm_term=&utm_content=&gclid=Cj0KCQjwmZejBhC_ARIsAGhCqncwxp8zb23HfEWYC7GEGIM50vaGJMsZnN9UVTJooWO507qOqOCYBtgaAmMIEALw_wcB#idiq=27286672&edition=8856959

At the beginning of a new romance, we're not worried about repeating the unhealthy patterns that ended our previous relationships. We tell ourselves that this one is different. But statistics tell a different story. The divorce rate is 41% for first marriages, 60% for second marriages and 73% the third time around. So, what's behind those dismal statistics? And what can we do to heal a disappointing love life? Dr. Thomas Jordan is a clinical psychologist and a psychoanalyst in private practice in New York City. He also serves on the faculty of the NYU Postdoctoral Program in Psychoanalysis. Dr. Jordan founded the Love Life Learning Center to help people strengthen their ability to form and sustain healthy relationships, and he is the author of Learn to Love: A Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dr. Jordan joins Katherine to discuss the three features of a disappointing love life, describing how we unconsciously repeat unhealthy patterns learned in childhood. Dr. Jordan explains how to stop the generational transmission of unhealthy learning in relationships, challenging us to set up a marriage that nurtures the love experience and grows over time. Listen in to understand when your marriage can be saved and when it's time to divorce—and learn the first steps to healing your disappointing love life. Topics Covered The unhealthy patterns Dr. Jordan noticed in his practice that inspired Learn to Love Dr. Jordan's 3 features of a disappointing love life—repetition, replication and recreation The case study of a client whose childhood experience with a violent father informed her disappointing love life How we can't control our experience of love but can set up a relationship that nurtures that experience What it looks like to stop the generational transmission of unhealthy learning in love relationships Dr. Jordan's insight on the value in looking at divorce as a learning experience How an awareness of your psychological love life serves as the foundation of a growing relationship How to know whether your marriage can be saved or if it's time for divorce Why after divorce is a good time to ‘work on your love life' The first steps to examining your own love life and moving it in a healthier direction Connect with Dr. Thomas Jordan Love Life Learning Center: https://lovelifelearningcenter.com/ Love Life Learning Center on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dr.ThomasJordan/?ref=tn_tnmn Love Life Learning Center on Twitter: https://twitter.com/LLLearningCtr Love Life Learning Center on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovelifelearningcenter/ Dr. Jordan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drthomasjordan/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Learn to Love: A Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life by Thomas Jordan, PhD: https://www.amazon.com/Learn-Love-Guide-Healing-Disappointing/dp/1543987877/ref=sr_1_1?crid=6UIMHWDD2O54&keywords=learn+to+love+guide+to+healing+your+disappointing+love+life&qid=1574997753&s=books&sprefix=Learn+to+Love,aps,147&sr=1-1

Many people are overburdened with expenses after divorce. So, what options do you have when the cost of living on your own becomes overwhelming and you get into financial trouble? Though it is a last resort, sometimes filing for bankruptcy is the best way to eliminate some of your debt and get back on your feet. So, how do divorce and bankruptcy law work together? What do you need to know about declaring bankruptcy in divorce? Dawn Kirby is the cofounder of Kirby Aisner & Curley LLP, a women-owned law firm that represents corporate and consumer debtors and creditors in bankruptcy and restructuring matters. Dawn has more than 25 years of experience as a bankruptcy attorney, and she cofounded the pro se bankruptcy clinic at Legal Services of the Hudson Valley, which provides bankruptcy counseling to individuals who fall below the Federal poverty line. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dawn joins Katherine to explain why divorce is among the most common causes of bankruptcy and when to file for chapter 7 versus chapter 13 bankruptcy. Dawn discusses why alimony and child support are not dischargeable in bankruptcy, sharing the case study of a client who fell behind on his domestic support obligations and used bankruptcy to get back on track. Listen in for Dawn's insight on when it makes sense to declare bankruptcy and learn how the process can provide relief from the financial burdens associated with divorce. Topics Covered Why divorce is among the most common causes of bankruptcy How bankruptcy can provide relief from the financial burdens associated with divorce What differentiates chapter 7 bankruptcy from chapter 13 bankruptcy Why alimony and child support are not dischargeable in bankruptcy How bankruptcy law allows for a repayment plan if you fall behind on domestic support obligations Dawn's insight around how bankruptcy and divorce law work together Dawn's case study of a client who fell behind on his maintenance obligations and used bankruptcy to stop contempt proceedings and get back on track When it makes sense for a couple to file for bankruptcy BEFORE they get divorced How bankruptcy impacts a divorcing couple who owns property together Connect with Dawn Kirby Kirby Aisner & Curley LLP: https://kacllp.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources US Federal Bankruptcy Law: https://www.uscourts.gov/services-forms/bankruptcy/bankruptcy-basics

If you're going through a divorce, you've likely fallen into what David Emerald Womeldorff calls the Dreaded Drama Triangle or DDT. But this framework keeps you and your ex focused on your problems rather than the outcomes you want. So, what is the antidote to the toxicity of DDT? How do you shift out of fear and reactivity into creativity and empowerment? David is the Creator-in-Chief of The Empowerment Dynamic and Cofounder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center. He is also the bestselling author many books, including The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, David joins Katherine to explain the concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle, exploring how the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT. David describes why we fall into the roles of victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce and challenges us to leverage The Empowerment Dynamic as an antidote to DDT. Listen in for David's insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce and learn how to disrupt the pattern of DDT with or without your ex's cooperation! Topics Covered The concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and how it works What differentiates victimhood from victimization How the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT Why we fall into our roles as victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce How The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) serves as an antidote to the DDT The TED roles of creator, challenger and coach Why it's challenging to shift our focus from problems to outcomes David's insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce Disrupting the patten of DDT with or without your ex's cooperation Connect with David Emerald Womeldorff Center for the Empowerment Dynamic: https://theempowermentdynamic.com/#updates The Empowerment Dynamic on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theempowermentdynamic David on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-emerald-womeldorff-bab4494/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic by David Emerald: https://www.amazon.com/POWER-TED-EMPOWERMENT-DYNAMIC-Anniversary/dp/0996871802 The Karpman Drama Triangle: https://karpmandramatriangle.com/ Karen Horney's Interpersonal Theory of Adjustment: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34748442/ Oprah Interview with Adele: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=432173685235996

Divorce leaves us overwhelmed and vulnerable, compromising our ability to parent well. And despite our best intentions, we may inadvertently dismiss our kids' feelings or put them in an uncomfortable position. So, what can we do to gain a better understanding of what our children are going through during a divorce? How can we learn to coparent in a way that puts kids first? Christina McGhee is the divorce-parenting expert behind Divorce and Children and author of the highly acclaimed book, Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids. Christina is also the creator of the Co-Parenting Specialist Certification Training for divorce professionals and consulting producer of the films SPLIT: The Early Years and SPLIT UP: The Teen Years. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Christina joins Katherine to explain why it's crucial to create space for kids to talk about their experience of divorce and how to own it when you make a parenting mistake. Christina describes how children of divorce often feel the need to caretake their parents and struggle to recognize their own needs as they become young adults. Listen in for Christina's advice on validating the way kids feel (without stepping in to fix the problem first) and learn how to choose professionals who take a child-centered approach to divorce. Topics Covered How Christina's parents' divorce informs her work as a divorce-parenting expert Why Christina credits her ‘bonus kids' as her best teachers on parenting children of divorce Why it's crucial to create space for kids to talk about their experience of divorce The challenge of owning it when you make a mistake with your kids (and why it's so important) The premise behind the films SPLIT: The Early Years and SPLIT UP: The Teen Years How children of divorce often feel the need to caretake their parents and struggle with recognizing their own needs as they become young adults How parents can be the best possible resource for kids who are navigating divorce What it looks like to validate the way children of divorce feel without stepping in to fix the problem Christina's Co-Parenting Specialist Certification Training for divorce professionals How to choose a divorce professional who takes a child-centered approach Connect with Christina McGhee Divorce and Children: https://divorceandchildren.com/ Christina on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceandchildren/ Christina on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/divorceandchildren Christina on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christinamcghee/en Split Film: https://www.splitfilm.org/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids by Christina McGhee: https://divorceandchildren.com/christinas-book-parenting-apart/ Christina's Co-Parenting Specialist Certification Training: https://divorceandchildren.com/co-parenting-specialist-training/ Ellen Bruno on Divorce Dialogues EP190: https://divorcedialogues.miller-law.com/healing-conversations-with-children-of-divorce-with-ellen-bruno Ellen Bruno on Divorce Dialogues EP045: https://divorcedialogues.miller-law.com/empowering-kids-to-share-their-experience-with-divorce/

When you're going through a divorce, it's easy to lose your joy. You feel like you have every right to be down in the dumps. This was certainly true for Connie Monroe, who threw herself a pity party with wine and cigarettes every night after work during her divorce. But when she found out that her cousin had been diagnosed with cancer and the prognosis was not good, Connie had an AHA moment. She realized that divorce was not going to kill her, and it was an insult to her cousin to wallow. She recognized that joy was a choice. And in 2008, Connie left her corporate finance career to build Monroe Coaching, a transformational coaching practice that helps women navigate fertility issues and divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Connie joins Katherine to discuss her book, Holding Onto Joy Through Abandonment and Divorce. Connie shares the story of her own infertility issues, her husband's infidelity and their attempt to reconcile that ended in divorce. Listen in for Connie's advice on being completely honest with yourself about your marriage and learn how to avoid bickering over the small stuff and choose joy during a divorce. Topics Covered What it means to ‘hold onto joy' through a divorce How each of the 12 chapters in Connie's book offers a strategy for holding onto joy The AHA moment Connie realized divorce was not going to kill her How to set an intention each morning to avoid bickering over the small stuff in divorce The story of Connie's infertility issues, her husband's infidelity and their attempt to reconcile How Connie decided to pursue divorce once she uncovered her ex-husband's double life Connie's advice around being completely honest with yourself about your marriage How the skills Connie learned working in corporate finance inform her work as a divorce coach The mistakes Connie made with finances in her marriage (despite working in the space) Connie's top advice for listeners considering divorce Connect with Connie Monroe Monroe Coaching: https://monroecoaching.com/ Connie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/constancejmonroe/ 20/20 Retreats on Facebook: http://bit.ly/3l1HL0h Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Holding Onto Joy Through Abandonment and Divorce by Constance J. Monroe: https://www.amazon.com/Holding-onto-Through-Abandonment-Divorce/dp/1734284315

Divorce means accepting that things didn't go as planned and adjusting to major changes in your life. It's about taking on challenges you're not prepared for at a time when your confidence is shot. When Eykiena ‘Keena' Crowley got divorced, she struggled with all of these issues too. But her background as a combat veteran in the US Army meant that she had practice adjusting to unanticipated change. And she leveraged that military mindset to navigate her divorce. For Keena, giving up was not an option. Today, Keena is Founder and CEO of My Thriving Life Academy, a company that empowers people to identify their inner gifts and elevate to their pinnacle in life. Keena is also a divorce recovery coach, international speaker and author of A Superwoman's Guide to Recovering After Divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Keena joins Katherine to explain how the army prepared her for divorce and share her superwoman's approach to recovering from the breakup of a marriage. Keena walks us through the five major shifts women experience after divorce, discussing how to reinvent yourself, foster a growth mindset, and focus on the journey ahead. Listen in for Keena's insight on finding gratitude (even when things seem dark) and learn how to align yourself with the support you need to adapt to the circumstances and stay positive through divorce. Topics Covered The skills Keena learned in the US Army that prepared her for divorce How Keena describes her superwoman's approach to recovering after divorce 5 major shifts women experience after divorce 1. Identity 2. Financial 3. Social 4. Perspective 5. Mindset Keena's advice on adjusting to the changes associated with divorce Why Keena suggests intentionally aligning yourself with support How to practice positive mindset by acknowledging your wins every day Keena's insight on finding gratitude when things seem really dark Connect with Eykiena ‘Keena' Crowley My Thriving Life Academy: https://www.mythrivinglifeacademy.com/ Keena Speaks: https://www.keenaspeaks.com/ Keena on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkeena/ Keena on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachingwithkeena Keena on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithkeena/ Book a Free Call with Keena: https://calendly.com/eykiena Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources A Superwoman's Guide to Recovering After Divorce by Keena Crowley: https://www.mythrivinglifeacademy.com/book Keena's Free Gift: http://keenafreegift.com/

Most of us are familiar with the five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. But what if your experience doesn't follow this linear pattern? Whether you're grieving the loss of a loved one or navigating a divorce, you need tools to move through the trauma of loss and get to life on the other side. Krista St. Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, post-traumatic growth and grief expert, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was unexpectedly flipped upside down. Therapy helped her learn the tools she needed to move forward and build a future she could get excited about. And now, she coaches other people through their grief and helps them love life again, too. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Krista joins Katherine to explain why the pop culture theory of grief doesn't describe everyone's experience, challenging us to reframe our emotions not as problems to be solved but a valuable part of being human. Krista offers advice on taking care of yourself after a divorce, describing the dual process theory of grief's balanced approach to healing. Listen in for insight on leveraging post-traumatic growth to change your life after a loss and learn Krista's strategies for creating calm through the stress of divorce. Topics Covered How her husband's death led Krista to a career in life coaching The similarities between becoming a widow and getting divorced Why the 5 stages of grief doesn't describe everyone's experience Krista's tips for taking care of yourself after a divorce Why Krista likes the dual process theory of grief's approach to healing Tools for creating calm when you're feeling anxious or stressed The concept of disenfranchised grief and why it can be so isolating How Krista helps people embrace post-traumatic growth Making conscious decisions re: the direction of your life post-divorce Connect with Krista St. Germain Coaching with Krista: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/ Krista on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/ Krista on Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista/ The Widowed Mom Podcast: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Five Stages of Grief: https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/

Most people think of narcissists as obnoxious and self-absorbed. They're flashy, loud and charismatic. And it's obvious that they're looking out for #1. But a covert narcissist is much harder to identify. They are generally well-liked and well-respected by others. And the way they manipulate their partner is much more subtle and difficult to recognize. So, how do you know if you're in a relationship with a covert narcissist? Is there anything you can do to make the divorce process more manageable? Debbie Mirza is a speaker, singer/songwriter and restorative coach with expertise in helping people heal from covert narcissistic abuse. Debbie is also the bestselling author of The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse, Worthy of Love: A Gentle and Restorative Path to Healing After Narcissistic Abuse and The Safest Place Possible: A Guide to Healing and Transformation. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Debbie joins Katherine to discuss what differentiates an overt narcissist from a covert one, explaining why it's challenging to recognize a lack of empathy in your marriage to a covert narcissist. Debbie walks us through the three phases of a relationship with a covert narcissist, describing how a covert narcissist cuts off their partner during the discard phase and makes divorce particularly brutal. Listen in for Debbie's insight on choosing an attorney who understands narcissism and learn how to protect yourself and your children through divorce from a covert narcissist. Topics Covered What it means to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder What differentiates an overt narcissist from a covert narcissist Why it's challenging to recognize a lack of empathy in a covert narcissist Debbie's advice for someone divorcing a covert narcissist The type of person a covert narcissist targets for a relationship How a covert narcissist's words and actions don't match How a covert narcissist uses their partner as an energy supply The 3 phases of a relationship with a covert narcissist 1. Love bombing 2. Demeaning and devaluing 3. Discard What to look for in an attorney when divorcing a covert narcissist Protecting yourself and your children in divorce from a covert narcissist Connect with Debbie Mirza Debbie's Website: https://www.debbiemirza.com/ Debbie on Twitter: https://twitter.com/debmirza Debbie on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debbiemirzacoaching Debbie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debbiemirza_author/ Debbie on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@debbiemirza1744 Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources DSM-5 Criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder: https://www.mind-diagnostics.org/blog/narcissistic-personality/narcissistic-personality-disorder-dsm-5-criteria-and-treatment-option The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse by Debbie Mirza: https://www.amazon.com/Covert-Passive-Aggressive-Narcissist-Recognizing-Psychological/dp/099862134X/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= Worthy of Love: A Gentle and Restorative Path to Healing After Narcissistic Abuse by Debbie Mirza: https://www.amazon.com/Worthy-Love-Restorative-Narcissistic-Narcissism/dp/0998621382/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1637933306&sr=8-1 The Safest Place Possible: A Guide to Healing and Transformation by Debbie Mirza: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0998621307/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i1

After 10 years of working in the divorce business, Judith Weigle reflected on the couples who were able to communicate well and navigate the process with less stress. And she identified the elements of what she calls a Heart-Healthy Divorce. So, what steps can you take to make your divorce more amicable and less acrimonious? Judith is Founder of Divorce Resource, Inc., a firm that provides both mediation and filing services for divorces, legal separations, paternity cases, and post-judgment revisions of settlement agreements. She has 12 years of experience as a mediator and 10 years in private practice family law. Judith also serves as host of The Amicable Divorce Expert Podcast. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Judith joins Katherine to share the four ingredients of a Heart-Healthy Divorce, explaining how to settle the emotional divorce before you file for a legal one. Judith discusses how to compartmentalize your time, using work as a respite and scheduling specific times to address your divorce. Listen in for Judith's insight on developing a self-care program that includes laughter and learn the communication skills for conflict that will help you sustain a Heart-Healthy Divorce! Topics Covered The 4 ingredients of what Judith calls a Heart-Healthy Divorce 1. Settle the emotional divorce before filing for a legal divorce 2. Learn how to compartmentalize your time 3. Learn communication skills for conflict 4. Develop a self-care program that includes laughter Engaging a therapist or divorce coach to work through the emotional aspects of divorce Why some attorneys take a scorched earth approach to divorce How to use work as a respite and schedule specific times to address your divorce The service Judith offers as a ‘paralegal on steroids' A mediator's role in helping divorcing couples come to settlement decisions Getting educated on divorce law in your state as a first step in the divorce process Connect with Judith Weigle Divorce Resource, Inc.: https://divorceresourceinc.com/ The Amicable Divorce Expert Podcast: https://theamicabledivorceexpert.com/ The Amicable Divorce Expert on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theamicabledivorceexpert/ Judith on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JudithMWeigle Email judy@divorceresourceinc.com Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Katherine on The Amicable Divorce Expert Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=VzS5wNj32uA Bill Eddy at the High Conflict Institute: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bill-eddy On Death and Dying by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross: https://www.amazon.com/Death-Dying-Doctors-Nurses-Families/dp/1476775540

Communication breakdown in a marriage often leads to divorce. But the way your partner triggers your nervous system often has nothing to do with them and everything to do with trauma you've experienced in the past. So, what if you could change the way your mind accesses that trauma and stay present with your partner in those moments? Dr. Don Wood, PhD, is CEO of the Inspired Performance Institute and creator of the patented TIPP method for clearing the effects of traumatic events and rebooting the brain for peak performance. Dr. Wood is also the author of two bestselling books, Emotional Concussions and You Must Be Out of Your Mind. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dr. Wood joins Katherine to explain how communication breaks down when the mind perceives a threat and describe how his TIPP method neutralizes our fight-or-flight response. Dr. Wood walks us through his memory reset process, weighing in on how unresolved trauma adversely effects our physical and mental health. Listen in to understand how trauma interferes with our ability to perform at the highest level and learn how to interrupt the trauma loop that threatens your marriage! Topics Covered The communication breakdown in Dr. Wood's marriage that inspired his work How communication breaks down when our mind perceives a threat and activates our nervous system Why it's challenging for couples who've both experienced trauma to communicate effectively How the TIPP method works to reset the way our mind accesses trauma What Dr. Wood's 4-hour memory reset process looks like How unresolved trauma impacts our physical and mental health How the excess cortisol associated with trauma leads to weight gain Why Dr. Wood suggests that both people in a marriage clear their trauma How trauma interferes with our ability to perform at the highest level Examples of professional athletes Dr. Wood has helped improve their performance Connect with Dr. Don Wood Inspired Performance Institute: https://www.inspiredperformanceinstitute.com/ Inspired Performance on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/inspiredperformanceinstitute Inspired Performance on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTKWCHeUmPZSqkvuRTblajA Dr. Wood on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-don-wood-phd-a71b8412/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Books by Dr. Don Wood: https://www.inspiredperformanceinstitute.com/books Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman: https://www.amazon.com/Thinking-Fast-Slow-Daniel-Kahneman/dp/0374533555 Adverse Childhood Experiences Study: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/about.html

Matthew Fray considered himself a good guy. He didn't lie. He didn't cheat. He wasn't violent. But his wife didn't trust him, and the marriage ended in 2013. What subtle cues did Matthew miss? What led his ex to believe she couldn't count on him? Today, Matthew is a relationship coach and writer who leans on the lessons of his failed marriage to help others avoid making the same mistakes he did. His work has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal and The Atlantic, among many other media outlets. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Matthew joins Katherine to discuss his book, This Is How Your Marriage Ends: A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships. Matthew shares the mistakes he made in his own marriage, explaining why conversations broke down any time he disagreed with his ex's thoughts or feelings. Listen in for insight on what it means to be trustworthy in a relationship and learn how to honor your partner's experience when they ask for help or tell you something's wrong. Topics Covered How journaling to understand his divorce led Matthew to write This Is How Your Marriage Ends Why conversations broke down any time Matthew's disagreed with his ex-wife's thoughts or feelings Why it's crucial to allow your partner the dignity to have their own perspective How Matthew's definition of ‘trustworthy' includes being there when your partner needs you Why relationships are not sustainable in the absence of trust How honoring his ex-wife's experience makes Matthew a more effective coparent How Matthew made himself the victim every time his ex asked for help or said something was wrong How failing to consider how your partner experiences you demonstrates a lack of respect Connect with Matthew Fray Matthew's Website: https://matthewfray.com/ Matthew on Twitter: https://twitter.com/mbtttr Matthew on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/matthewfrayMBTTTR/ Matthew on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/frayrelationships/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources This Is How Your Marriage Ends: A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships by Matthew Fray: https://www.amazon.com/This-Your-Marriage-Ends-Relationships-ebook/dp/B097RPC1SD ‘The Man Who Coaches Husbands on How to Avoid Divorce' in The New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/18/parenting/marriage-invisible-labor-coach.html ‘She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink' on Matthew's Blog: https://matthewfray.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/

In 2013, Ellen Bruno released the documentary Split: Divorce Through Kids' Eyes. In the film, 12 kids aged six to 12 share their experience of their parents' divorce. Ten years later, Ellen sat down with the same 12 kids for a sequel, Split UP: The TEEN Years. What did she learn about how to best support children through the process of divorce? Ellen is an award-winning filmmaker with a background in international relief work. She is on a mission to change the culture of divorce in our country through her films and the Split Outreach Project. Ellen is also a recipient of both Guggenheim and Rockefeller Fellowships, a Goldie Award for Outstanding Artist and the Shenkin Fellowship from the Yale University School of Art. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Ellen joins Katherine to explain how kids benefit from hearing straight talk about divorce from other kids. Ellen shares key lessons from the new film, describing how much time and energy kids spend caretaking their divorced parents and why it's crucial to tell your children that your divorce is not their fault. Listen in to understand how Ellen's films help parents refocus on their kids' needs and find out how being heard helps children heal from divorce. Topics Covered How Ellen's films give children the opportunity to share their experience of divorce What makes kids good ambassadors for changing the culture of divorce in this country How much time and energy children spend caretaking their divorced parents Ellen's personal experience with divorce (as a child and adult) and how it inspired the creation of Split How kids benefit from hearing straight talk about divorce from other kids How Ellen's films help parents refocus on their kids' needs and make more skillful choices The universal truths that came out of Ellen's interviews with children of divorce Why it's crucial to tell your kids that your divorce is NOT their fault The profound relationship between parental cooperation in divorce and kids' wellbeing Why Ellen suggests opening up a dialogue on divorce with your children Connect with Ellen Bruno Split Film: http://www.splitfilm.org/ Split Film on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/splitfilmforkids Split Film on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/splitfilmforkids/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Split: Divorce Through Kids' Eyes: https://missionfilms.gumroad.com/l/CrAny Split UP: The TEEN Years: http://www.splitfilm.org/professional_video.html Split Outreach Project: http://www.splitfilm.org/mailinglist.html Split Guide: http://splitfilm.org/order.html Ellen Bruno on Divorce Dialogues EP045: https://divorcedialogues.miller-law.com/empowering-kids-to-share-their-experience-with-divorce/ Dr. Christina McGhee: https://divorceandchildren.com/about-christina-mcghee/

Most women realize that the right team can help us move through the divorce process more quickly and easily. But what if you've already got a therapist and supportive friends and family—and you still feel stuck? Wendy Sterling is a top divorce recovery coach and healer, life transition specialist and creator of The Divorce Rehab program. She also serves as host of The Divorced Woman's Guide podcast. Wendy helps newly divorced women who are having trouble moving forward find joy, self-worth and freedom, and her work has been featured on NBC, The List and Thrive Global, among many other media outlets. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Wendy joins Katherine to explain what differentiates a divorce coach from a therapist and describe how she helps divorced women identify what we want and build a vision for the future. Wendy discusses what a divorce coach can do that friends and family cannot and walks us through the five steps of her signature Divorce Rehab program. Listen in for Wendy's insight on giving your children the tools to respond to questions about your divorce and learn how investing in a divorce coach can help YOU accelerate the healing process. Topics Covered What differentiates a divorce coach from a therapist How a divorce coach helps you focus on where you want to go based on where you are today How building the right support team accelerates your healing Why so many divorcing women don't know what they want and how Wendy coaches them into a vision for the future What a divorce coach can do that friends and family cannot Wendy's 5-step Divorce Rehab program The spiritual aspect of Wendy's Divorce Rehab program Giving your children the tools to respond to questions about your divorce Why Wendy suggests inviting kids to therapy to process their parents' divorce What Wendy would do differently in her own divorce Connect with Wendy Sterling Divorce Rehab with Wendy Sterling: https://wendysterling.net/ Divorce Rehab on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wendytsterling Divorce Rehab on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcerehabwithwendy/ The Divorced Woman's Guide Podcast: https://wendysterling.net/podcast/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765

Do you have a hard time saying NO for fear of letting people down? Do you say YES out of obligation and then resent being coerced into something you didn't really want to do? To make relationships work, it's important to set clear boundaries. But first, you've got to take the time to figure out what you want. Leanne Kanzler is a psychologist and breakup coach who helps clients get to where they deserve to be, a happier and more content place within themselves. Leanne has supported thousands of people on setting boundaries through her one-to-one coaching, group coaching, and Breakup to Breakthrough online program. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Leanne joins Katherine to explore how boundaries demonstrate respect for yourself and others and explain how to overcome the fear of telling someone what you want. Leanne discusses the idea of a transformational breakup, describing how divorce can be an opportunity for self-discovery, growth and learning. Listen in for Leanne's insight on navigating loneliness after a breakup and learn how to make your relationships more fulfilling by establishing healthy, clear boundaries. Topics Covered How Leanne's own divorce led to a career as a psychologist and breakup coach Why it's crucial to set clear boundaries in relationships How boundaries demonstrate respect for yourself and others How a coach can help you develop the skill of setting clear boundaries Reading body language and facial expression to determine if someone is hiding what they really want Leanne's advice on overcoming the fear of telling someone what you want The idea of a transformational breakup and how divorce can be an opportunity for growth Why we tend to date ‘the same person in a different body' Why Leanne recommends waiting at least 6 months after a breakup to start dating again How to handle loneliness on holidays and special occasions after a divorce Connect with Leanne Kanzler Leanne's Website: https://leannekanzler.com/ Transformational Breakup on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LeanneKanzlerTransformationalBreakup Transformational Breakup on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/The_Transformational_Breakup/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Neuro-Linguistic Programming: https://www.nlp.com/what-is-nlp/ Feng Shui: https://www.thespruce.com/what-is-feng-shui-1275060

If your identity is wrapped up in being a wife, a mother and a corporate executive, what happens if you lose your job? Or your kids leave the nest? Or you get a divorce? In the year leading up to her 50th birthday, all three of those things happened to Jennifer Arthurton at once. And the future seemed like a big black hole. But then Jennifer realized she had much wisdom and experience to share, and she reinvented herself. Today, Jennifer is the empowerment coach, podcast host, writer and speaker behind Old Chicks Know Sh*t, a community designed to inspire and support women in midlife in chasing our dreams. In making her own midlife course corrections, she developed a passion for helping other women uncover the inherent knowledge and power we possess—at a time when we often feel overlooked and doubt ourselves most. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Jennifer joins Katherine to explain what makes the transition to midlife tumultuous for many women and explore how to connect with yourself and create a vision of what you want out of life. Jennifer discusses why women tend to discount our experiences and accomplishments, describing how to overcome limiting beliefs and rebuild trust in yourself after a divorce. Listen in for Jennifer's insight on writing a life resume and learn how to defy cultural stereotypes and make the transition to middle age with confidence! Topics Covered What inspired Jennifer to create the Old Chicks Know Sh*t community Jennifer's experience of losing her identity as a wife, mother and corporate exec What makes the transition to midlife tumultuous for many women Shifting from a focus on the external (what we do for others) to the internal (what's important to us) Jennifer's advice on fostering self-connection to create a vision of what you want from life What it looks like to overcome limiting beliefs and voice your ideas The mainstream narrative around what it means to be a woman over 50 Jennifer's insight on rebuilding trust and belief in yourself after a divorce Why women discount their own experiences and accomplishments Jennifer's challenge to write a life resume of the skills you've developed and obstacles you've overcome Jennifer's perspective on the benefits of being a middle-aged woman Connect with Jennifer Arthurton Old Chicks Know Sh*t: https://www.oldchicksknowshit.com/ Old Chicks Know Podcast: https://www.oldchicksknowshit.com/the-podcast Old Chicks Know on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oldchicksknowshit/ Old Chicks Know on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/oldchicksknowshit Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Midlife Kickstarter Mastermind: https://www.oldchicksknowshit.com/kickstartermastermind Old Chicks Know Sh*t Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/1927174787572948/?fref=mentions

When it comes to money management, many married women either defer to their partners or work out a financial division of labor. But the paradigm shifts if you're getting a divorce. And you may be insecure in your ability to manage money on your own for the first time. So, how do you overcome the confidence gap and build a successful financial life for yourself post-divorce? Harvard Business School Graduate and Money Mindset Coach Britt Williams Baker is Cofounder of Dow Janes, a financial education and empowerment platform that helps women pay off debt and get invested. Britt and her business partner, Laurie-Anne, believe that everyone deserves the confidence, clarity and peace of mind that comes with having your finances handled. And to date, they've helped 8,000-plus women set up long-lasting money systems and invest for the first time. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Britt joins Katherine to discuss the concept of a money persona and explain why rewriting the story you're telling yourself about money is the first step in having a healthy financial life. Britt describes how to separate money facts from money feelings and walks us through the process of spending in alignment with our values. Listen in for Britt's insight on paying off debt quickly and learn how to develop a weekly ritual that makes money management a positive experience for you! Topics Covered Overcoming the confidence gap when managing money on your own for the first time How to uncover your subconscious money persona Why rewriting your money persona is the first step in having a healthy financial life When having a very different money persona from your partner is a problem Some of the basic agreements you need to make before you merge finances with a partner Deciding IF and HOW you want to share finances with a partner Why it's crucial to separate money facts from money feelings (and how to do it) Britt's top 2 strategies for paying off debt quickly Why Britt suggests planning a weekly money ritual How to spend money in alignment with your values—even after a divorce Thinking about Future You as a way to frame long-term financial planning Connect with Britt Baker Dow Janes: https://www.dowjanes.com/ Dow Janes on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dow.janes/ Dow Janes on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedowjanes Dow Janes on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/dowjanesfinance/ Dow Janes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DowJanesFinancialEducation Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Dow Janes Free Investing Class: https://try.dowjanes.com/webinar-o/ The Million Dollar Year Group Coaching Program: https://www.dowjanes.com/programs

So, you'd like to take the high road in your divorce, but you're afraid you'll get screwed in the process. If you ask Andy Heller, that is a flawed way to look at things. In fact, he contends that there's a positive correlation between conflict and cost in divorce. And you can save money and protect your health and wellbeing by letting some things go and incorporating empathy into actions that affect your ex. Andy is the author of Take the High Road: Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family, a roadmap of best practices to make divorce easier for you, your children and your former spouse. In the book, Andy leverages his personal experience with divorce and background as businessman and real estate investor to communicate practical strategies that replace battleground tactics with a healthy, supportive process that works for all involved. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Andy joins Katherine to share the business skills that helped him navigate divorce effectively, like presenting two offers in a negotiation and using the timecard tool in high-conflict situations. Andy explains why you shouldn't criticize your spouse in the company of your children (even if your ex is criticizing you!) and explores how to cultivate patience as your kids adjust to new circumstances. Listen in for Andy's insight on communicating with your ex-spouse as coparents and learn how to reduce conflict and save money by taking the high road in a divorce negotiation. Topics Covered How his experience of divorce inspired Andy to write Take the High Road Why you actually save money by reducing the number of conflict points in a divorce The benefit of focusing on the outcome you want vs. making your ex pay Why you shouldn't criticize your spouse in the company of your children (even if your ex criticizes you) What business skills Andy recommends to help divorcing people coparent effectively Andy's strategy of presenting two offers in negotiating an MSA How to offset the concern that you're compromising too early in divorce negotiations Using the business tool of the timecard in a high-conflict divorce Andy's advice on communicating in coparenting with questions and deferring to your ex for solutions How to cultivate patience and help your kids adjust to new circumstances Connect with Andy Heller Take the High Road to Divorce: https://takethehighroaddivorce.com/ Email andy@takethehighroaddivorce.com Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Take the High Road: Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family by Andy Heller: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1940013941/ref=cm_sw_r_api_i_VTQAP10J5N8HJ8MAYJ49_0

Divorce is scary, especially if you're not confident in your ability to manage money independently. But what if the end of your marriage is not the financial Armageddon you fear? What if it's actually an opportunity to take control of your financial future? David Stolz is a certified public accountant, personal financial specialist and certified divorce financial analyst. David has more than 20 years of experience working in the areas of tax and divorce financial planning, and he's the author the new release Women, Divorce and Money: Taking Control of Your Finances and Your Future. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, David joins Katherine to discuss what inspired him to write the book and why it focuses specifically on women. David shares his experience with clients in a contested divorce, describing why it's crucial to understand the whole picture of what you owe and what you own before you negotiate a divorce settlement. Listen in for David's insight on making clear financial decisions in a stressful time and learn how he helps women build confidence and take control of their finances. Topics Covered How to see divorce as a financial opportunity rather than financial Armageddon Shifting from shared responsibility in marriage to taking control of your personal finances How David helps clients draft a spending plan (and why he's not a fan of the term budget) David's experience with clients in a contested divorce Why it's crucial to understand the whole picture of what you own and what you owe before you negotiate a divorce settlement What inspired David to write Women, Divorce and Money and why the book focuses on women How the stressors of divorce impact our ability to make clear decisions How money conflicts in a divorce relate to security, self-esteem and ego David's challenge to women to be strong and strategic in negotiating a divorce settlement David's advice on building a team of experts and being mindful of who you listen to Connect with David Stolz Women, Divorce and Money: https://www.david-stolz.com/ David on Twitter: https://twitter.com/stolz_dave David on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stolz_dave/ David on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidstolzauthor Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Women, Divorce and Money: Taking Control of Your Finances and Your Future by David Stolz: https://www.amazon.com/Women-Divorce-Money-Control-Finances-ebook/dp/B09VQ2JMGX

If you're in the process of getting a divorce, you've probably had enough with lawyers. So, why should you consider hiring yet another attorney? Because if you fail to enlist the help of a lawyer who specializes in estate planning and asset protection, your ex-spouse will have the power to make important decisions about your life. Decisions you no longer trust them to make. Asset Protection Advocate Harry Barth is Founder and Senior Managing Partner at Barth Calderon, LLP and coauthor of the book Planning Today for All Your Tomorrows. A nationally recognized speaker on estate, business and asset protection planning, Harry has 40-plus years of experience helping thousands of families protect the assets they've worked hard to build. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Harry joins Katherine to explain why he suggests modifying healthcare directives, powers of attorney, wills and trusts in the early stages of divorce. He encourages us to make decisions about the division of assets in the form of a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement, describing how this kind of proactive planning around money strengthens a marriage. Listen in for Harry's insight on the challenges associated with estate planning for the blended family and learn how an asset protection attorney can serve you during and after a divorce. Topics Covered Why Harry suggests modifying healthcare directives and powers of attorney in the early stages of divorce Harry's advice on modifying wills and trusts as part of the divorce process How to create a new will before you know what the property division of your divorce settlement will be What can happen if you ignore estate planning and asset protection in divorce The benefit of putting together a special asset protection trust in conjunction with a prenuptial agreement Using a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement to name what assets will and will not be divided when a marriage ends Why It's a good idea to make decisions about the division of assets while you're still in a loving place How premarital planning around money strengthens a marriage The challenges associated with blended family estate planning and how to ensure your plans for your children are irrevocable Connect with Harry Barth Barth Calderon LLP: https://barthattorneys.com/ Email harry@barthattorneys.com Call (714) 704-4828 Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765

It's easy to blame your exes for failed relationships. And believe that if you could just FIND the right partner, then you'd have lasting love. But what if you need to BE the right partner in order to build a great relationship? Roy Biancalana is a certified relationship coach and a nationally recognized expert in the field of attraction and conscious relationships. For the last 15 years, Roy has supported single people in the art of attracting healthy, sustainable intimate relationships. Roy also serves as host of The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast and bestselling author of several books, including Relationship Bootcamp: Hard-Core Training for Life, Love and the Pursuit of Intimacy. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Roy joins Katherine to explore how his own positive experience with a relationship coach inspired his career in the field and explain why we have to let go of blame to break the cycle of breakups. Roy discusses the concept of relationship personas, describing how each persona attracts its reciprocal and why Roy the Rescuer developed a pattern of dating damsels in distress. Listen in for Roy's insight on transforming the relationship you're already in and learn how to build a healthy, long-term relationship by getting into ‘relationship shape.' Topics Covered How Roy's experience with a relationship coach inspired his career in the field Roy's mission to help others break the vicious cycle of breakups Why you have to let go of blame and finger pointing to become coachable The concept of relationship personas and how each persona attracts its reciprocal Why Roy the Rescuer attracted damsels in distress Discovering your relationship persona and uncovering your authentic self Why being the right partner is key in building a healthy, sustainable relationship How to make the relationship you're in better by getting into ‘relationship shape' How to build the relationship muscle of letting go of the past Connect with Roy Biancalana Coaching with Roy: https://coachingwithroy.com/ The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-attracting-lasting-love-podcast/id1561528328 Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Relationship Bootcamp: Hard-Core Training for Life, Love and the Pursuit of Intimacy by Roy Biancalana: https://coachingwithroy.com/roy-biancalanas-book/

Assisted reproductive technology has dramatically changed the concept of family. And it wasn't until the Child-Parent Security Act (CPSA) went into effect that the law in New York finally caught up with how children are being conceived. But what happens if the parents of a child conceived with assisted reproduction get divorced? Denise Seidelman is Cofounder of Rumbold and Seidelman, a firm specializing in adoption and reproductive law. She served on the Board of Trustees for the Academy of Adoption and Assisted Reproduction Attorneys and was one of three attorneys who drafted the CPSA. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Denise joins Katherine to share the definition of assisted reproduction and explain how it works biologically and legally. She describes how the Child-Parent Security Act revised parentage law, creating security for intended parents using assisted reproduction and making compensated surrogacy legal in New York. Listen in for insight into how assisted reproduction impacts marriages and find out what happens to a frozen embryo in the event of a divorce. Topics Covered The definition of assisted reproduction and how it works biologically and legally Why genetics is no longer a factor in determining who's a parent How the Child-Parent Security Act revised parentage law in New York State What the CPSA does to create security for parents of children conceived via assisted reproduction Examples of difficult legal cases involving sperm donors before the CPSA What it means to have a child through surrogacy How the CPSA made compensated surrogacy legal in New York The protections for surrogates and intended parents in the new law How assisted reproduction impacts marriages Denise's insight on what happens to a frozen embryo in the event of a divorce Connect with Denise Seidelman Rumbold & Seidelman: https://adoptionlawny.com/ Rumbold & Seidelman on Twitter: https://twitter.com/adoptionlawnynj Rumbold & Seidelman on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RumboldandSeidelman Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Child-Parent Security Act: https://www.health.ny.gov/vital_records/child_parent_security_act/

Divorce makes most people feel isolated and alone. But what if you had a friend going through the process at the same time? Someone to lean on for support and share your experiences? Jessica Klingbaum and T.H. Irwin went through a divorce at the same time, and that shared experience inspired the two friends to found exEXPERTS, a vetted online resource and community for women navigating divorce. Prior to cofounding exEXPERTS, Jessica spent 22 years as a network news producer, and T.H. built a career in experiential marketing and business development for the media industry. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Jessica and T.H. join Katherine to explain how they benefitted from getting divorced at the same time and explore how supporting each other through the process led to the creation of exEXPERTS. They discuss the similarities and differences between their divorce processes, describing how Jessica experienced a relatively short, amicable divorce while T.H. endured a long, litigious one. Listen in for T.H. and Jessica's insight on how to know your marriage is bad enough to walk away and learn where to go for support, education and empowerment as you navigate divorce. Topics Covered How getting divorced at the same time benefitted Jessica & T.H. What differentiated T.H.'s long, litigious divorce from Jessica's relatively short, amicable one How to know if your marriage is bad enough to walk away How supporting each other through divorce inspired T.H. & Jessica to build exEXPERTS How exEXPERTS serves as a vetted online resource and community for women exEXPERTS' purpose to empower, connect and educate women in the divorce process T.H. & Jessica's advice on coming to terms with your feelings Why Jessica was able to maintain a close friendship with her ex while T.H. endured an acrimonious divorce How a cheating spouse's remorse can turn to rage Why T.H. & Jessica suggest getting educated on your options first Connect with Jessica Klingbaum & T.H. Irwin exEXPERTS: https://exexperts.com/ exEXPERTS on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exexperts exEXPERTS on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exEXPERTS/ exEXPERTS on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/exEXPERTS/ Divorce etc... Podcast: https://exexperts.com/thepodcast/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765

Divorce can often be the impetus for changing the way we parent into a new child-centered approach. Dr. Julie Varner is a clinical psychologist specializing in parenting and family life, including divorce and family transitions. As a married mother of four, she brings compassion and understanding to her professional work and a passion for raising and loving the little people in our lives. Besides her clinical work, she helps families through Instagram at Divorce Doodles and her children's books that explore ways to help free kids from big life burdens so they can get back to being kids. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dr. Varner joins Katherine to discuss how to relate to your children in an emotionally warm way while still offering behavioral support and guidance through positive parenting. Listen in as Dr. Varner shares why positive parenting works. She offers insight into why divorce is an optimal time to transition your parenting style to help facilitate cognitive and social competencies so your child can succeed in the real world and cultivate satisfying lifelong relationships. Topics Covered What positive parenting is and isn't The key to helping children learn to regulate their behavior and emotions for positive lives How respectful dialog with your children supports their cognitive development What is an activating event in positive parenting How positive parenting helps children develop trust in adults Why positive parenting is the superglue that creates satisfying lifelong parent-child relationships How to stop being a fixer so your children can learn to process their own feelings How to stop projecting your thoughts and ideas onto your kids The number 1 thing that leads to permissive parenting during a divorce Connect with Dr. Julie Verner The Caring Parent: https://thecaringparent.com/ Divorce Doodles on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcedoodles/?hl=en Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Order The Incredible Shrinking Girl: https://www.amazon.com/Incredible-Shrinking-Girl-Divorce-Story/dp/1949480011/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2DXLTCZVH9S94&keywords=the+incredible+shrinking+girl&qid=1644522926&sprefix=the+incredible+shrinking+girl%2Caps%2C127&sr=8-2 Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child The Heart of Parenting: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Emotionally-Intelligent-Child-Parenting/dp/0684838656/ref=sr_1_1?crid=11E73NJ7OZ35S&keywords=raising+an+emotionally+intelligent+child.&qid=1655222690&sprefix=raising+an+emotionally+intelligent+child.%2Caps%2C443&sr=8-1 The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00AK78PSM/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

How do you learn to share your children with someone you no longer love, trust, or get along with? And how do you handle other people's expectations of you and your situation in divorce? Michelle Dempsey-Multack is a genuine girl power enthusiast. She's also a divorced, remarried mom & stepmom who is co-parenting with her daughter's father. The host of the popular Mom's Moving On podcast, Michelle, recently published her book of the same name with Simon and Schuster. Mom's Moving On is filled with empowering advice from someone who has been through it and has come out the other side. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Michelle joins Katherine to discuss the biggest obstacles she faced in her own divorce and how that experience led her to start her podcast and write her book to help others facing the same challenges find answers from the experts. Michelle says, "Put your children at the center of your decision-making, not in the middle. And I think there's a fine line between at the center and in the middle." Listen in as Michelle shares an important tip for adopting a mindset that will lead to more powerful communication with your ex, how to adopt a divorce narrative that works for you, and more information and advice to help moms move on from divorce. Topics Covered What led Michelle to her career as a divorce coach and specialist How to frame conversations with your ex for more peace and power How to create a divorce narrative that works for you Where to find the emotional support you need while going through your divorce Why it's so important to give yourself the space and permission to feel ALL THE emotions that come with your divorce How the story you tell yourself about your divorce impact your future How to open yourself up to your next chapter Connect with Michelle Dempsey-Multack Mom's Moving On: https://momsmovingon.com/ Mom's Moving On Podcast: https://momsmovingon.com/podcasts/ Michelle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichelledempsey/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Order Mom's Moving On: https://www.amazon.com/Moms-Moving-Real-Life-Conquering-Co-Parenting/dp/1982184582/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=moms+moving+on&qid=1626971683&sr=8-1

Divorce is never easy, and when there is a child with special needs involved, it can be even more challenging. Families need support and information to navigate the complexities of special needs divorces to reach the best possible outcome with as little time, money, and stress invested as possible. Marianne Hughes is the proud mother of two sons on the opposite ends of the autism spectrum. After her divorce journey, where she successfully advocated for her children's needs, Marianne started Special Family Transitions to support families with children with disabilities as a valued Special Needs divorce coach and consultant. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Mary Ann joins Katherine to discuss the special considerations for co-parenting, long-term care, and child support arrangements that do not affect the special needs child's eligibility for public benefits. Listen in as Mary Ann shares how she supported her children through the social stories she created for them during her divorce and what she thinks is the most critical thing to consider in a special needs divorce. Plus, why focusing on the end goal of the divorce will create the best-case scenario for your special needs child for the long term. Topics Covered How to be sure you meet the needs of the special needs child while you are divorcing Mary Ann's best piece of advice for special needs parents that are in the process of a divorce How to plan to keep the child from losing their government services, benefits, and SSI Why it's essential to think about a long-term parenting strategy during the divorce What is a special needs trust and what are the pros and cons Why having a team of experts is essential in securing the future for your child with special needs How to focus on the end goal in the divorce to secure the best-case scenario for your special needs child How Mary Ann helps her client give their special needs child the best life possible post-divorce Connect with Mary Ann Hughes Special Family Transitions: https://www.specialfamilytransitions.com/ Special Family Transitions on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/specialfamilytransitions/ Special Family Transitions on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/specialfamilytransitions Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Special Family Transitions on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChI4BaUMGf50O2yPE_YnjFA LoneStar LEND SLP: Self Care To Support Neurodiverse Children in Divorce on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8xi745v_pd8

We've all heard of prenuptial agreements, those agreements signed by the marrying parties before the wedding. But what about postnuptial agreements? They may be rare, but they can be just as valuable. Many people don't understand that marriage is a legally binding contractual obligation. There are built-in legal requirements for support and property division within this contract, based on your state's law. You are entering into a legal agreement just by getting married why not go further and decide how you want your assets divided, instead of leaving it up to the state. Melinda M. Previtera is a graduate of Rutgers Law school and was named to the Top 40 Under 40 list by the Institute of Family Lawyers. She holds a certification in mediation and practices in all areas of family law as a Partner at Petrelli Previtera, LLC in Philadelphia. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Melinda joins Katherine to explain what postnuptial agreements are and how couples can use them to help communicate their wants and needs to navigate their expectations around money and property division. Listen in as Melinda shares why postnuptial agreements are not just for the wealthy. She'll offer some advice on how to broach the topic with your partner so you can determine the specifics of your financial future as a couple. The truth is ALL marriages end, either by death or divorce. A postnuptial agreement can be part of a couple's financial planning, offering each person the safety, security, and knowledge of what will happen so they can stop worrying about the what-ifs. Topics Covered How postnuptial agreements work Who should consider a postnuptial agreement The most significant benefit of a postnuptial agreement The essential conversations missing from most marriages How discussing expectations around money can strengthen your relationship How a postnuptial agreement can help with estate planning How a postnuptial agreement can effectively protect the assets of the family and each individual Connect with Melinda Previtera Petrelli Previtera, LLC: https://www.petrellilaw.com/our-team/melinda-m-previtera/ Melinda Previtera on Twitter: https://twitter.com/PetrelliLaw Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765

“In this world, nothing is certain except death and taxes.”—Benjamin Franklin When you are getting divorced your taxes are probably not the first thing on your mind, but as Benjamin Franklin said in his famous quote taxes remain even when a marriage ends. Taxes are never an easy topic to discuss but there are many tax implications divorcing couples should address, especially if children or alimony are involved. Tatiana Tsoir is an author, speaker, and visionary accountant. For over 15 years she's worked with business owners to help them manage their money and their bottom line. Tatiana is also an experienced adviser on all the scenarios impacting the tax-related matters of divorce. On this episode of the podcast, Tatiana joins Katherine to discuss when to bring up the issue of taxes in your divorce. She discusses the common misunderstanding about the child tax credit, the 529 plan, and strategies for both that can save both parties money. Listen in for Tatiana's insight into underutilized tax strategies for small business owner parents and the number one thing people who are divorcing should think about when they talk about their taxes. Topics Covered When the issue of taxes should be brought up in divorce How to structure taxes to support both parents when children are involved How a business-owning spouse can legally deduct alimony payments How to employ tax strategies that will save both parties money The key to making the child tax credit work for you and your spouse How to avoid misunderstandings around the 529 education plan Tatiana shares one of the most underutilized tax strategies of small business owner parents Best practices for using a custodial Roth IRA account When to start thinking about using tax strategies to increase education funding options The first thing people who are divorcing should think about when discuss their taxes Connect with Tatiana Tsoir Linza Advisors: https://www.linzaadvisors.com/ Tatiana Tsoir on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tatianatsoir.author/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Dream Bold, Start Smart by Tatiana Tsoir: https://www.tatianatsoir.com/dreambold

Divorce is a very complicated and emotional process on its own. It becomes even harder when we start separating the money. Dividing marital funds during a divorce may seem daunting, but there are plenty of things you can learn to make the process as smooth as possible. Shara Goldfarb is a family law attorney with the Miller Law Group and a certified divorce financial analyst. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Shara joins Katherine to discuss financial considerations that are important to make before starting the divorce process. She explains marital property versus separate property and what funds can be subjected to equitable division. Listen in as Shara advises on how to be reasonable with your financial expectations going into a divorce, how to gather the proper financial information needed for a divorce, and why you should try to conserve your financial resources during divorce proceedings. Topics Covered Why it's important to gather financial information prior to divorce proceedings and what documentation is the most helpful to have Why it is easier and cheaper to get all financial information ready for your lawyer before divorce proceedings How to obtain tax information and bank statements prior to your divorce The differences between an adversarial process and a collaborative divorce and how it shapes financial discussions with your spouse and lawyers Shara's advice on how to be reasonable with your financial expectations if you're thinking about getting a divorce Why you should try to conserve your resources with the right professionals involved, rather than spend more money than necessary on a lawyer or other legal fees Why marital property is subjected to equitable division, but separate property is not How different kinds of debt, equity, and mortgages are divided during a divorce Why it is important to work with a lawyer and a certified divorce financial analyst (CDFA) when getting a divorce Connect with Shara Goldfarb Shara on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shara-goldfarb-78369386/ Email Shara at shara@miller-law.com Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources About Shara Goldfarb: https://miller-law.com/our-attorneys/shara-goldfarb/

Has your divorce left you exhausted and longing to get away from it all? When a marriage ends, most people are physically and emotionally drained. After all the chaos, a week zoning out on a beach in the sun somewhere sounds just about perfect. But what if you could combine a relaxing retreat with intentional practices designed to help you process your feelings? After her divorce, Annie Allen shifted from her former training as a Certified Marriage and Family Counselor to Certified Divorce & Life Transition Coaching®. Now she helps people through private and group coaching, her Starting Over Stronger Divorce Survival & Recovery podcast, and specialized post-divorce healing retreats. On this episode of the podcast, Annie joins Katherine to share how post-divorce healing retreats offer structured activities, designed to help participants find closure so healing can begin. Topics Covered What is a post-divorce healing retreat Why do people need to heal post-divorce The secret insight that leads to therapy success When marriage therapy offers the best chance to heal a relationship How a structured post-divorce retreat helps to bring about emotional healing Why intentional rest helps you hear your innermost self The key that helps people find peace during a healing retreat How to gain the strength and clarity to set boundaries and effect change The most important part of a post-divorce healing retreat Connect with Annie Allen Starting Over Stronger: https://www.startingoverstronger.com/ Starting Over Stronger on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SOSDivorce/ Starting Over Stronger Divorce Survival & Recovery Podcast: https://www.startingoverstronger.com/podcast Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources SOS Retreat in November 2022: https://www.startingoverstronger.com/retreats

What can the 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program teach you, and who benefits the most? No matter if the decision to divorce was yours or not, when a marriage ends, everyone involved suffers. With emotions at their peak, it is easy to be hijacked by the conflict trap and lose focus on what is important. But there is another way. Karen McMahon is a Certified Relationship and Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce . Karen leads a team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear, and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen is the co-author of Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility and co-creator of JBD's exclusive 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program. On this episode of the podcast, Karen joins Katherine to share the key components of the 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program. She walks us through a few of the steps, describing in detail the emotional healing available to program participants. Listen in for Karen's insight into how the 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program can help you do the self-work to emerge from your divorce a more refined version of yourself, ready to step into your new story. Topics Covered What the 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program is based on The typical challenges we all face in divorce How step 1 and step 2 of the program help create emotional healing What it looks like to curb the conflict in divorce so you can make proactive, constructive decisions Why people resist healing the heart The key to regaining control in any situation How looking at your story differently is the catalyst for change Why each step in the 12 step program plays a part in navigating a calm, clear, confident divorce Why step 9 (overcome pain) is most important for moving ahead How tuning into your intuitive knowing can help you make better decisions for the life you want Connect with Karen McMahon Journey Beyond Divorce: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/ Journey Beyond Divorce on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/journeybeyonddivorce Journey Beyond Divorce on Twitter Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast: https://twitter.com/JBDdivorcecoach Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility by Karen McMahon and Lisa Brick: https://www.amazon.com/Stepping-Out-Chaos-Transforming-Possibility-ebook/dp/B00SA2NQLA Join the 12 Step Recovery Program: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/JBD12stepprogram

Divorce is hard. The emotions of the breakup colliding with the legal business is a lot for people to manage mentally. What's really complicated is when people get too wrapped up in their divorce and fail to see their children's pain. But what is the best way to talk to children about divorce? What do they struggle with the most throughout the separation process? Ann Papayoti is an international life, leadership and relationship coach, as well as a speaker, educator, and co-author of The Gift of Shift, an intimate self-help book about creating a new outlook on life. She is the founder of SkyView Coaching, where she helps people rise above their most challenging moments so they can thrive once again. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Ann joins Katherine to explain the four main things children really want from their parents after a divorce. They discuss the complicated emotions children feel and how parents can make it as easy as possible for their kids to navigate a divorce. Listen in as Ann shares her experience with divorce that led to becoming a life coach, the relationship between grief and gratitude, and the importance of becoming your own best friend. Topics Covered The difference between a divorce coach and a breakup coach Keeping the emotion of the breakup out of the business of the divorce The 4 things children want from their parents after a divorce How parents often fail to show up for their kids emotionally after a divorce The importance of communication between the child and the parent during and after the separation between the two parents How children end up in the middle of the communication between parents getting divorced The relationship between grief and gratitude Ann's book and her personal experiences with divorce, grief, and becoming her own best friend Dealing with betrayal and the importance of trusting yourself Connect with Anne Papayoti SkyView Coaching: https://skyviewcoaching.com/ SkyView Coaching on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/skyviewcoaching/ Ann on Twitter: https://twitter.com/ann_papayoti Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annpapayoti/ Ann on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annpapayoti/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Free Gift from SkyView Coaching: https://skyviewcoaching.com/soul-cpr-free-gift/ The Gift of Shift: Discover the Key Within to Unlock Your Best Life by Tracey MacDonald and Ann Papayoti: https://www.amazon.com/Gift-Shift-Discover-Within-Unlock/dp/1663211256

Why is it that some friendships don't survive divorce? When a marriage ends, some friends feel like they have to take sides. Others are overwhelmed and simply don't know what to say. But if you're willing to move through a little awkwardness, you can keep the friendships that matter to you after a divorce. Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, is a licensed therapist with an expertise in supporting children, adults, couples and families through divorce recovery. She is also the founder of Moving Past Divorce and author of The Remarriage Manual: How to Make Everything Work Better the Second Time Around, the 2020 winner of the American Book Fest's Best Book Award for Self-Help: Relationships. On this episode of the podcast, Terry joins Katherine to share the four key reasons why some friendships don't survive a divorce. She discusses the common misunderstanding that life is ruined by divorce, describing what it looks like to reclaim aspects of yourself that you abandoned in an unhappy marriage. Listen in for Terry's insight on finding a new partner post-divorce (without repeating the same mistakes) and learn how to maintain the friendships that are important to you after a divorce. Topics Covered How Terry got interested in the work of divorce recovery and remarriage The common misunderstanding that your life is ruined by divorce What it looks like to reclaim aspects of yourself that you abandoned in an unhappy marriage The top 4 reasons why some friendships don't survive divorce What it's like for Terry to compare her personal experience with that of her clients How to maintain the friendships that are important to you after a divorce Why people self-isolate to avoid pity or social awkwardness during a divorce Best practices for finding a new partner after divorce (without repeating the same mistakes) Why intentional communication is crucial in creating a successful stepfamily Terry's best advice for practicing positive communication Connect with Terry Gaspard Moving Past Divorce: https://movingpastdivorce.com/ Moving Past Divorce on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/movingpastdivorce Moving Past Divorce on Twitter: https://twitter.com/movepastdivorce Terry on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/terry-gaspard-28738b4a/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Remarriage Manual: How to Make Everything Work Better the Second Time Around by Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW: https://movingpastdivorce.com/the-re-marraige-manual/

Divorce can be extremely depleting and a time where most people find their self esteem to be at its lowest. Though, it can also be an opportunity to become the best version of ourselves. So, how can we get back to feeling good for ourselves after a divorce? Carol Davidson is a seasoned and certified image consultant, life coach, speaker, and educator who has helped thousands of people over the last 20 years to transform their appearance, wardrobe and self-esteem. She consults with private and corporate clients worldwide, offering a full suite of image consulting, personal styling, and life coaching services. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Carol joins Katherine to share her tips and tools to not only become comfortable and confident in your own skin. She explains what image consulting is and how clothing has the power to impact how you feel about yourself, affecting your moods, confidence and performance. Listen in for Carole's insight on how to look and feel your best inside and out, even after a divorce. Topics Covered What an image consultant does and why people seek out for one How your inside can impact your outside and vise versa How Carol got into image consulting Tools that Carol uses when helping clients transform how they feel inside and out Why image consulting doesn't involve a “makeover” How to get started in building your confidence following a divorce Signs that it's time to get an image consultant The differences between an Image Consultant VS a Personal Stylist Tips for a wardrobe refresh post divorce Connect with Carol Davidson Carol Davidson: https://caroldavidson.com/ Carol Davidson on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CarolDavidsonLifeStyleStrategy Carol Davidson on Twitter: https://twitter.com/CarolDavidson Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765