Changing Lanes Above The Neck Podcast

This podcast has a little something for all three main podcast in the Mothtoaflame Media family.  Vivian and Marianne are back to shed some light on more Covid-19 related topics.  With subjects too many to list, we touch on a lot of material.  Listen up and see what you think.  That is all.... we'll let the podcast do the talking. 

Marianne is back in the states visiting and taking time out to do a very interesting podcast.  She brought a newbie, Vivian.  I have to admit, it was so much fun having both of them on.  Vivian had a very different spin on the pandemic being a Covid-19 survivor.  Subjects of term limits, the environment, history books suck, don't take down our past, the consequences of isolation - both mental and physical, the general loss of friends, family, and relationships, and isolation frustration all come into play during this podcast.  I am looking forward to having them both back on the show soon!  Thank you both for getting me off my ass and getting back on the mic!

It was early Saturday morning and I got the pleasure of having Armando back on the mic.  It's Dr. Love vs. Dr. Lust!  After a rocky start, we were about to get our grooves on!  The torrid topic of friends with benefits (FWB) was on the chopping block.  I knew he would come straight out of the gate with some great knowledge and views on the subject.  We did differ on a few points like the presentation and the need of a team.  You can see that Armando, after admitting he was a cuddle monster, was very passionate about his position on FWB.  We were both quick to state (multiple times) that the FWB territory does not just apply to men - there are some women out there that benefit (no pun intended) from it also.  Discussing wants and can'ts, dating for fun, the FWB sleepover, gotta love your Girl Scouts, teams and portfolios, exclusivity and the Astros!  Is the ultimate goal 'finality'... An irreversible ending?  Next podcast with Armando - prostitution in Colorado Springs???  Somebody to interview.   It is a commodity that has been around since the beginning of time!  It should be very interesting.  

Stacey and Allen stayed for a second podcast after Divorce Devil 029.  Once again, Stacey delivered a woman's point of view on the subject of dating after divorce.  Allen and I did come away more informed than our past podcasts.  Discussing women and options, effective communication, getting your needs met, being appreciative and accepting the person as they come to you were touched on.  Stacey brought up an excellent point of how people in relationships sometimes try to change each other.  Once you realize that 'flaw', hopefully, one or both people can take a step back and more in a more positive direction.  It was definitely an informative podcast for me.  Thanks, Allen and Stacey for taking the time to hang out at the studio for two shows!  This podcast will also be available on Divorce Devil.....

As usual, Connie brings to the podcast the best and unique subjects.  Cockblocking is the word in this one.  Going through different types of cockblocking, we expand quite a bit on its collateral damage.  Almost anything can cockblock.  (LOL)  I found it refreshing that we did not totally agree on the subject.  But, she did make think a little about my stance.  We would love to hear from our listeners about what they think about cockblocking in order to do a rebuttal podcast part two with your questions and/or comments.  You'll find this podcast rather interesting.... Enjoy....

I have the distinct pleasure of getting Barbara and Allen back for the first time together to do a podcast on us old people dating.  I have to give credit where credit is due, it was all Allen's idea - which turned out to be a very good and enlightening one.  Topics of the fear of rejection, dealbreakers, lying (embellishing) on a profile, what is love? (bacon), and 'on the table with her legs open' are all broached during the discussion.  Thoroughly engaging, Barbara and Allen take me back to some history I had forgotten about.  Skeletons are shaken from the closet - which is not a bad thing being that it is Halloween.  I really appreciate their honesty and candor in our conversation.  A part two is definitely in store for al of us sometime soon!  Almost an hour, dang!!!  Enjoy.....

Allen is back for some more talk about relationships.  This time it involves hunting and dating modes and where they differ and intersect.  A couple of quick shoutouts to James (CLATN #042) and Christ (CLATN #052).  We both acknowledge that women have somewhat turned the time on men. Some of them have become the hunters and not the hunted.  Allen does do to me what no other guest has - makes me come clean about some of my relationships!  Damnnnn....  With letting the shoe drop, a shark in the swimming pool, teach me how to fish Allen and tossing your net being discussed, there almost has to be a part two to this podcast.  Stay tuned....

Welcome Chris (John Doe) to the CLATN Podcast.  I've been trying to get him on the show ever since we first met earlier this summer.  I knew he would not disappoint my listeners at all.  And, Chris comes through with flying colors.  It's probably the most I've ever laughed recording a podcast.  His honesty slaps you in the face again and again.  With honesty being one of the best policies when making a dating profile, we touched on quite a few online dating subjects - which ones to use, the most efficient, what to look for and so on.  We did digress a few times, normalcy to my show.  The podcast almost lasted an hour - a testament to the fun we were having.....!

Connie shows up with a very important topic (we thought) concerning dating and relationships.  Womanscaping and Manscaping.  We both learned a lot during this podcast.  Besides me finding out about Connie's preferences - we touched on subjects of women wearing less makeup, no side dishes, botox, vagina rejuvenation because of ugly vaginas, and embrace your gray hair.  Definitely gonna be a part two to this one.  I thought of a lot more to add to talk about.  Can't wait!  Thanks Connie.... It was a blast!

Allen stayed after CLATN 050 and helped me tackle the subject of Divorce - a second chance at happiness.  He was extremely forthcoming with his thoughts and experiences on the topic.  We must love and be happy with ourselves before we can be happy with others.  Hoping others can benefit from this podcast, we only express what works for us and hopefully can stir something in others.  Take a listen, what do you have to lose?

Allen returns to share his thoughts on the mic.  Sharing space and the overnight drawer was a topic he brought to the podcast and it sounded good to me.  So, after some discussion, we decided to get it done.  It came out pretty well.  I even got some self-reflection in. Accepting us as we are is pretty much the basis for the show.... Check us out....

Marianne is back for one more podcast before heading back home to Holland.  She contacted me a few days ago with the subject of self-pity.  I did a little research and I was definitely game.  So here it is.  Subjects on consequences, chasing your tail, enabling people, destructive depression and self-reflection are touched upon during this episode.  I am going to check into recording podcasts through the Facebook Phone app to see if we can continue our subject when she is at home.  We'll see.  Enjoy the show.  It was definitely a free-flowing emporium of self-pity!

Curtis is back with a vengeance, bringing his thoughts of dating at our age.  Being friends for almost 30 years, we have been there for each other during our marriages, the birth of children and divorces.  Twins so to speak.  Even though we definitely disagree on lots of points, we do agree on a few.  Other topics include baggage, expectations, the difference between sex and intimacy, fitting in his world and talking to / and approaching women.  His ying to my yang.  Stay tuned to learn and mostly laugh.  As usual, Curtis does not disappoint our listeners.  Thanks, Buddy.  

Connie stops by for dinner, drinks and podcasts.  Expectations are one of our favorite discussions.  Adding to the conversation with topics of a beard under the sundress, man-o-pause, sex staying the same and cutting wood the podcast takes on a life of its own.  I don't know if we solved any problems with relationships, but we definitely brought a few subjects to the forefront.  As you listen, she definitely has me laughing during the show.  Be sure to tune in to her RC 047 podcast on being an Auntie....

Staying in relationships too long... Allen and I talked about it last week.  So, here is Connie and a woman's perspective.  I was surprised at how much in common the two sides have.  I thought the female view would be more emotional, but I was pleasantly surprised.  The guild of breaking up dominated the conversation for a while.  We all have stayed in a relationship too long at one time or another.  Enjoy!!

Allen returns to the CLATN Podcast to help me tackle the subject of staying too long in relationships.  We all have done it!  Why?  We dive into all the reasons why.  Join us as we discuss all of them into somewhat detail.  Other topics such as the comfortable blanket, the glass of water, arm candy, non-verbal communication and staying honest with your deal breakers are thrown into the podcast hopper.  Come along and listen to our brand of relationship issues of staying too long....  We don't pretend to be professionals, just down to earth and real!

What a special time discussing one of our favorite subjects.  Pete sticks around for a second podcast to discuss the sometimes elusive WPF.  Deciding expectations can sometimes drive people to that stage, we explore getting rid of labels, the 'L' and 'R' words, how to avoid nesting, and the top of the mountain.  Pete does an excellent job with his self-definition of each stage and some sub stages.  The door is definitely open for another visitation on the subject.  We really had fun doing this show.

Armando comes to the podcast with his thoughts and views on dating in 2018.  You gotta love vodka and mango, what a great combination.  He does raise some important questions and issues that we try to tackle.  Lose the gravy train, raising and lowering of expectations, do you want or need and fresh produce are swirled into the show.  Some of his views even made me, the wise one, questions some of my stances on a few things.  We are looking forward to having him back in the podcast studio soon.

James Proby drops his knowledge and experience on the subjects of relationships and love.  I've been trying to get him on the show for a while.  Let's just say, James does not disappoint with his unique vibe and comprehensive views.  Women need security, trimming the list, presenting in a space and the balance of love - like -lust are all revealed and discussed in the presentation.  It was a joy and honor to share the mic with him.  Definitely, in addition to getting a callback, we will broach other related topics.  Drop us a line and let us know what you would like us to talk about next.  You are in control.  Hey, come on, come along take a ride, there's a party over there that ain't no jive.  It's live, live it's all the way live... Stay tuned.....

Toni and Elizabeth are back full force with a podcast concerning where are all the good men.  This one takes the cake for me, for I have never laughed so much during a session.  The podcast also discusses love, good women, adapting in relationships, quantity is not quality and gotta show your work just like math.  It was a little out of control, but that's what makes it work between the three of us.  Grab our energy and let the advice and views roll around in your head.  Like I said - it was a wild ride.  

Loretta and Marcy stayed for a second podcast.  Fresh from the Divorce Devil Podcast, I probed their minds about dating after divorce.  We discuss picking your nose on a date, marrying a younger man, the man pool is too small, social rules and realignment of expectations among other topics.  Before we started, they both agreed they wouldn't have too much to say, but we hear differently.  They each jump right in with both feet and provide some great and interesting insight on dating after divorce.

Allen is a newbie to the podcast mic.  He sits right down and gets right to it.  Respect and dating rule the subject with touching on creating a good online profile, how women describe their friends, I like big butts, the additive property of soft deal breakers and your girlfriend's interaction with your friends. It was a fun filled interview and conversation.  We look forward to getting Allen back in the studio soon.  

Together for the first time, Liz and Toni crash the mic with a bang.  While they totally disagree on the role of options and dating, they do come together on the subject of the weak man.  They do trade roles where Toni is a new age dater and Liz is more traditional.  Subjects of being a cougar with wisdom, building a team, competition, married guys and screwing the cable guy and still no free cable traverse this podcast.  Pay attention.  It does go pretty fast.  A repeat performance is definitely happening soon.  Thanks, ladies

Well, this is the one podcast a few of you have been waiting for.  After posting an article about unsolicited penis selfies on the Mature Dating Cookbook Facebook Group page, I decided to do a bit of research on the subject.   Connie was brave enough to do a podcast with me concerning my findings.  I think we did a tasteful job with it.  As difficult as it could have been, we had fun doing it.  With both the man and woman's point of view, we tackle all sides of the equation.  Subjects of aggressive comments, reviewing dick pics, timing, background, the law, Victoria Secrets boobs and being proud of your junk come into play during the podcast.  I think there will be a part two on this subject.  I never thought it would be such a popular topic before my research started.  Stap in and take a listen....  Thanks Connie.

Pete is back after an extended hiatus.  He brings his brand of thoughts and ideas back to the podcast.  Discussing the elusive white picket fence brought on a host of other subjects - the American dream, social media, bag of chips, using runners and men suck at communication are a few.  If you are out there in the dating world and are as old and cool as us, this is not one to miss.  As usual, we have a fun time trying to analyze the white picket fence syndrome.  See how we did!

Podcast number two with Isaiah was off the chain.  Definitely being schooled in the difference between dating in your 20's and dating later in life, I never thought about feeding steak to someone piece by piece.  From the mouths of babes.  I thought the Raisin Canes Podcast was fun with him - he turns up his flavorful thoughts on dating and it ends with an all out laughathon.  Too many subjects to list here.  We definitely have to have him (and Demi) back on the show.  Watch out for this one. (NSFW) ..  

Toni hung out for another podcast after discussing the perils of raising kids.  Talking about not dating online, we navigate the 50 and over dating world.  She seems to have a handle on it.  With discussing topics of Christmas and Thanksgiving options, by the blood of Jesus, karma, people have patterns and just of age while not grown, we try to hit all phases of dating in our times.  A podcast that will not disappoint.  Funny as all get out.  I had a blast, as usual, with Toni and her interesting views.  Take a listen...

Memory and Barbara have been friends of mine for over 20 years.  So, it was fitting to get them on a podcast.  Their specialty conversation is online dating.  We were able to talk about it on the podcast along with topics of jean shorts, expectations, learned lessons and always go with your gut.  Thay should have a podcast of their own to provide women and men direction and tips while online dating.  Stay tuned.  It was off the chain.

Barb and Sue stayed for another podcast.  Fresh from the Divorce Devil Podcast, we tackle the subject of the Perils and Joys of Online Dating.  They are well versed on this topic.   I learned a lot from these two.  Icebreakers, how they treat the wait staff and finding the body come up along the way.  One episode I will not easily forget.  I enjoyed the way they applied their experiences to the total discussion.  One for the record books.  Thanks, ladies.

Marianne hung out for another podcast.  This time we took the divorce out of the equation of identity.  She discusses it as in terms of  Muslim perspective.  Actually, this podcast could be applied to any group; African Americans, Disabled or any other classification.  I even learned a thing or two.  Other subjects on processing the social identity, type of alienation, and understanding yourself in the collective are touched upon.  Thanks for staying Marianne.

Toni stayed around for another podcast after we solved the problems with millennials.  This topic: Mature Dating.  We discussed a myriad of subjects associated with it, it's ok to stop talking, donkeys are half price, fight or flight, and don't talk about the ex on the first date.  I feel that I have to explain all the talk about salad.  Back in the day, someone once told Toni that she put too much dressing on her salad.. hence all the brouhaha about salads and dressing.  Makes me want to ease up on mine as well.  As usual, she does not disappoint with bringing her direct style of giving advice.  I learn something every time we podcast.  Thanks, Toni...

Connie brings Jessica to the podcast arena.  After a crockpot and cornbread, we take on some of the elements of dating.  The main points of expectations, communication, and honesty are foremost on the topic list.  Listen up guys, if you want half a chance in today's dating world, this is a must listen.  There are some real bullet points to pay attention to.  We must have them back on the show soon....

Connie stayed for another podcast.   She actually picked the subject of dating while taking care of your parents.  I honestly didn't think it would fly, but it is now one of the funniest and my favorite podcast to date.  Thanks Connie for coming up with a most interesting subject.  We also touch on topics of baby boomers, knife in the chest, being selfish, epic qualities of dating and communication.  This is a wild one towards the end.  Enjoy, I did.

Staying for another podcast, Napoleon and I dive into the relationship of church, religion, and sex.  A difficult subject at best.  He does attempt to hammer a conversation out.  With no time to fact check to prevent fake news, I just gut it out and complete the interesting podcast.  Hummmm???

Back on the mic is Connie.  I convinced her to come back for what turned out to be an epic dialogue.  What a refreshing conversation from a woman's point of view.  We've heard from a lot of my male friends.  She really shows the opposite side of the spectrum.  Additional subjects of being true to yourself, men's egos, informed decisions, soft to medium deal breakers and honesty are discussed in this podcast.  As usual, it was always fun to learn something new and interesting.  Thanks, Connie.

Napoleon is back for another raging discussion (NSFW).  As usual, the podcast starts with a bang and doesn't let up until the end.   Deal breakers, ugly feet, be a muse on the golf course and empathy and sympathy are all broached on this episode,  I have to be on my toes at all times when we record.  I definitely learned something once again...

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Patty stays for a second podcast dealing with respect. We could talk about this subject all day. The ins and […]

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Elizabeth graces the studio once again with her presence and wisdom.  Insecurities rule the subject for the day.  One of […]

Richard is back on the show and it goes semi-sideways.  But, as always, it is a blast. Warning… this show […]

Fresh from the Raisin Canes Podcast, Elizabeth and Dawson grace the mic with their wit and perception on dating.  This […]

Denise is back helping me define and talk about expectations.  Obviously it is a topic we both struggle with, probably […]

Conspiracy theorist, Richard, is back with me on the show to discuss respect and the lack there of in society […]

Richard and David are more entertaining than ever.  Maybe mainly to themselves. Starting with the subject of women, predators and […]

The State of One….  Denise tries to explain her theory of the State of One.  A very interesting podcast that […]

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Ron is back for a second go round.  He and David tackle the subject of respect in and out of […]

Patty and David are up and at it again hitting the topic of drunk driving.  After getting caught, there are […]

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