Courage of Conviction

Don't call it a comeback! This is a (slightly) lighter episode - I'm too traumatized by the violence to be super deep. You know I love receipts! Important articles and concepts mentioned in this episode include: "Why are Single Older Women Judged by Society?" by Avishka Tandon. January 14, 2023. "What single shaming is and how to respond if someone does it to you" by Paisley Gilmour. March 25, 2021. Brief Overview of Womanism Don't be shy; I want to hear from you! IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction Email: CouragePod@gmail.com

Back from impromptu summer vacay! This is a deeply personal episode that I wanted to share because it's important that women of color take our power back. *If you're looking for me to dilute the message by constantly prefacing with some "Not all..."; you're barking up the wrong tree. Respectfully. :) Important articles mentioned in this episode include: 'I Refuse to Listen to White Women Cry' - Activist Rachel Cargle has built a brand — and a business — by calling out racial injustices within feminism by Marisa Meltzer "How white women use strategic tears to silence women of colour" by Ruby Hamad Thoughts about my hot takes? I want to hear from you! IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction Email: CouragePod@gmail.com

Literally, nothing but illustrious guests! You're invited to an intimate conversation about motherhood in the US, the abortion debate, even the death of Kevin Samuels...and so much more with my dear friend Opeyemi Awe ( @opeseestheworld ). Things mentioned throughout... Current fave song - "Every Moment" by Forever Jones Currently reading- "A Black Women's History of the United States" By Daina Ramey Berry and Kali Nicole Gross Thoughts about my hot takes? I want to hear from you! IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction Email: CouragePod@gmail.com

*Make sure to check out the sister episode "Ep. 2 - The Obligatory COVID-19 Episode"* On this episode I briefly talk about the lessons we learned from COVID: Gaslighting Healthism and more information about healthism Money over Everything – Capitalism's Song Racism Never Takes a Day Off Do you want to be a star at your next diversity training? Well I give you plenty of definitions for Unconscious Bias, Microaggressions, and the “Pet to Threat” phenomenon, with additional information about this syndrome here. Also fair warning, there will be some significant Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson fangirling! My battery was starting to die at one point; please excuse the weird beep. Thoughts about my hot takes? I want to hear from you! IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction Email: CouragePod@gmail.com

*Just a heads up - I got a little hype so there is a bit of language. I was rushing a bit so editing is done in waves... Wanted to share some key resources mentioned in the episode: https://www.newsweek.com/black-immigrants-report-racist-treatment-flee-ukraine-1683216 https://www.barrons.com/articles/russias-threats-have-taken-the-world-off-the-nuclear-map-51646063692 https://www.history.com/topics/black-history/black-history-month Thoughts about my hot takes? I want to hear from you! IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction Email: CouragePod@gmail.com

I'm BACK! My bad for the impromptu sabbatical. Full disclosure, I recorded this episode 1/17 (real MLK Day) but I think certain things are evergreen. Just a heads up this is a longer episode, because I spend the first half sharing my experience as a black woman skiing for the first time. Check out the link below for more information about Corporate America's attempt at racial justice: https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/interactive/2021/george-floyd-corporate-america-racial-justice/ Can you relate? I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction

Today we will talk about impact v. intent and how silence is violence. A few key resources: So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo "The Power and Strength of Bearing Witness: A witness assures us that our stories are heard, contained, and transcend time.' by Kristi Plklewicz, Ph.D on December 3, 2013. Can you relate? I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction

TW: Taylor Swift Fangirling out (just kidding but seriously) TW: Sexual Assault Started the episode off with some PEAK Karen-ing, then I have to address the saga that is R. Kelly's sex crimes against humanity. If you care, a chronology of R. Kelly's legal woes. https://apnews.com/article/r-kelly-entertainment-arts-and-entertainment-trials-new-york-c549cadbc4df9c2b96b5107ef207883e https://www.theatlantic.com/culture/archive/2021/09/r-kelly-guilty-conviction/620229/ Can you relate? I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction

Work is ghetto... *Also warning, I get a little "activated" so there is some language in this episode. On this episode I talk about the generational attitudes and job "hierarchy" when it comes to work. Check out the following resources mentioned in my podcast: Curious about the origins of Labor Day? NPR has an article "Here are 3 Pivotal Moments in Workers' History to Remember This Labor Day," September 4, 2021 by Jaclyn Diaz. And of course leave it to black women: "Atlanta's Washerwomen Strike" A very brief history including our Mexican-American heroes: "Workers Rights Activists and The History of Labor Day" Can you relate? I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction

*Please forgive the exasperated sighs. Sometimes I just get exhausted with nonsense! Today's episode is a brief recap of some things I experienced during my month-long hiatus, and then we jump right into the directional nature of power. Check out the following resources mentioned in my podcast: Must read alert- White Rage: The Unspoken Truth of Our Racial Divide by Carol Anderson Check out my friend Amber Webb Sims (Amber Webb Booker) on her podcast Broke-ish "Bearing witness to testimonies of antiblackness," by Candace Jordan. January 21, 2021 "Tone policing is a little-known microaggression that's common in the workplace — here's how to identify it," by Janice Gassam Asare, PhD. Aug 17, 2020 IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction

*My grandma is currently alive/this is not a tribute* Join me in this cathartic journey and receive all of the permission/space you need to express feelings about some of your loved ones that you may have kept suppressed for far too long. Please forgive me if my voice gets a lil shaky at points; this one is deeply personal. Can you relate? I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction

What do the Scriptures say about your Body Mass Index? Spoiler alert: NOTHING. Today's episode is the encore performance of the morality series, where I discuss morality around thin body types. If you want more information on the history of fatphobia and diet culture, check out "Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia" by Sabrina Strings. I also strongly encourage this fun, inciteful read "The F-It Diet: Eating Should be Easy" by Caroline Dooner. I also follow a few of these influencers as well: Lauren Leavell Lindo Bacon Diets Don't Work Haes Let me know what you think; I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction

In this episode, I am continuing the morality series with a discussion about the morality surrounding hair. I barely scratched the surface of this topic, but check these articles out that I referenced throughout: "Good Hair vs Bad Hair" by Serena Mushigo November 11, 2020 "What is 'Good Hair'?" by Perception Institute "The roots of 'good hair' are about survival, not beauty" by TheGrio Staff October 9, 2009 "'Freed from the Secret': Rep. Ayanna Pressley Opens Up About Living with Alopecia" by Merrit Kennedy January 17, 2020 Let me know what you think; I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction

As per usual, sex and religion and culture and relationships usually need a bit more time. Listen to this second part with my friend, Barry Vanderable, (@djcrunkable on twitter and IG) as we explore the consequences of purity culture in relationships. Let me know what you think; I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction

On this episode I explore my own personal view and experiences at the intersection of faith, respectability politics, and sex. I brought an old friend, Barry Vanderable, (@djcrunkable on twitter and IG) to join me as we talk about the very real ways purity culture shows up in interpersonal relationships. Let me know what you think; I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction

This week's episode will dive into the particulars of poor-shaming, attitudes and activities that are "classy" if you are rich v. "trashy" if you are not, and give my ironclad definitions for the differences between classes. We discussed some twitter threads and responses to the trashy v. classy debate: https://www.themarysue.com/twitter-trashy-vs-classy-economic-divide/ https://www.boredpanda.com/classy-if-rich-trashy-if-poor-answers/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic https://www.businessinsider.com/viral-twitter-thread-double-standards-between-rich-poor-trashy-classy-2020-7 Let me know what you think; I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction

Join me as I discuss several different types of privilege and what it means for your sense of belonging. Resources from the show: Forms of Privilege a compilation by Media Smarts "Different Types of Privilege, Including White Privilege - Explained" by Erin Bunch. July 14, 2020 Bechdel Test Movie List "What Thin Privilege Really Means" by Christy Harrison, MPH RD CEDRD. May 7, 2019 "22 Examples of Thin Privilege" by Shannon Ridgway. November 30, 2012 Let me know what you think; I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj Facebook: Courage of Conviction

We interrupt our regularly scheduled program to call things what they are (hate crimes) and encourage allyship and support - not just on a macrolevel but also in your interpersonal relationships. Also including an important article to help you understand intersectionality, "Racism, sexism must be considered in Atlanta case involving killing of six Asian women, experts say" By Kimmy Yam. Let me know what you think; I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj

Everything has changed from the way we think about work to the way we think about trust. Join me as I look back over the past year during the pandemic. Let me know what you think; I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj

My inaugural episode finally answers the question why I'm "mad" with Martin Luther King, Jr. I want to hear from you! Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj Twitter: @lavidaj

I invite you to come, get to know me as I ask the tough questions around conventional wisdom and attitudes. Email: CouragePod@gmail.com IG: @thereallavidaj