Dressing Room Confessions

Tune in this week and discover why it's important that we not only celebrate Pride Month, but also consider in what ways we are taking for granted the rights heterosexual couples and our internal biases. 

This week Lauren and I wanted to take a moment to share with you how we met and why we chose to work together on this podcast. However, after hearing the news of the Uvalde Elementary School Shooting we felt the need to talk about the impact guns are having on our communities, overall psyche and the feeling of helplessness.  I have to believe that we as a society agree on more than we think, starting with our wellbeing and protection. Listen in as we discuss why we feel like we are being held hostage, the hypocrisy in thinking and that despite our different beliefs, we can do better for our children. 

If we don't know the meaning of consent and how to engage with it, how can we teach our kids? This week, I'm revisiting my conversation with Dr. Solomon where we discuss how consent has changed since what we were taught growing up, why there is no black and white definition, and the model of consent we're trying to move into.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/010

In this episode, Lauren and I talk about rape culture, rape myths, and how we can educate people to take responsibility for their actions. We discuss the problem with saying “boys will be boys,” the harmful patriarchal messaging passed down for generations and ingrained into us as a society, and how we might be subtly contributing to this messaging.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/09

Join us this week for an informative conversation about sex and consent with Dr. Jennifer Litner of Embrace Sexual Wellness. Hear why there is not a one-size-fits-all for sex education and kids, what age parents should start having these conversations with their kids, and some suggestions to help you do so.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/08

Listen in this week as Olivia shares her journey of using plant medicine to reconnect with her disassociated body and reclaim her story. Hear her experience of healing her relationship with herself and her body, how her relationships with her family and friends have changed since doing this work, and her advice to people feeling stuck and frozen after experiencing assault.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/07

This week, Shandi Nichelle, Founder and CEO of FREEWELL, shares her experience of sexual assault, the shame that comes with assault, how she's healed, and how she's helping others heal as well. We discuss substance abuse among survivors and her passion for helping survivors of human trafficking, and Shandi shares her advice to anybody listening who feels shame after sexual assault and is afraid to speak up.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/06

This week, hear Alicia's experience of being intersex, how her childhood and the rest of her life has been affected by this, and what we can do as allies to support the intersex community. Hear Alicia's advice to parents and caregivers of intersex children or intersex children who are unsure of how to have the conversation, and some incredible resources available to intersex people.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/05

This week, spiritual coach and LGBTQ advocate Chris Tomkins shares some practical tips, tools, exercises, and advice to help you teach your kids about inclusivity. We're uncovering the blind spots we may face as parents and caregivers, discussing the importance of educating our kids on bullying and queerphobia, and showing you how to talk to your children about LGBTQ+ people and matters.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/04

Join us this week as we explore people's perceptions around gender and identity, where they come from, and how to stop placing things in binary boxes. There is a lot to unpack here, but the key is staying open, so we're showing you why you don't need to understand the inner details of somebody's identity but you do need to be respectful.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/03

This week, Faith shares their coming out story and the reason they were apprehensive about coming out to their brother, and we discuss the experiences of people coming out and the consent you have to share this with others. We're talking about the importance of pronouns and labeling, other people's judgments, being an ally, and dealing with people's reactions to coming out.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/02

In this episode, we're talking about labels, identity, sexual preferences, and the gender spectrum as a whole. The identities we discuss have existed for thousands of years, but there wasn't the terminology or space in society to acknowledge and understand them, so Faith and Lauren share their advice to parents about their children's gender identity, coming out, and sexual preferences.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/01

Hey Renegades, Ashley here from House of Other.  After experiencing my child coming out a couple of years ago as non-binary I opened up to understand what this meant for them and  I found myself unlearning and learning a lot about human sexuality.  There was a world of terminology and education that I wasn't taught growing up.  I didn't know how to handle the conversations that arose but through my own self-coaching, new education, and interest to understand what they were going through, I discovered sex positive parenting. If you find yourself not understanding what the younger generation is talking about when it comes to gender and sexual diversity, intimate justice, and human sexuality, it's okay. You weren't taught, it's that simple. The truth is that the landscape has changed. And your kids need people in their lives who can communicate and educate them.  They need you.  The House of Other podcast is here to help those caregivers who want to take responsibility for educating their children on sexual wellness. We'll help you give your sex education a modern update and teach you how to have those conversations with your kids.  So if you're committed to creating a conversation and space for your children that empowers them and their overall sexual wellbeing this show is for you.  Be sure to hit that follow button and together we'll move from confusion and conflict, to curious and connected through intentional, present, and positive sex parenting. 

One chapter ends and another one begins... Stay tuned for my new chapter coming soon.

Learn about Adele's beautiful, handcrafted objects and how she advocates for sexuality and sensuality while speaking to gender and racial inclusion. We discuss the challenges she has faced being censored on social media and public platforms for her work, and how her work is so much more than simply creating sex toys.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/86

I'm sharing my thoughts on dating and showing you the importance of being your own best date before attempting to find a partner. The One will come when it's time and not a minute sooner, so I'm showing you how to listen to your inner wisdom and strengthen your inner sense of self and the liberation available to you when you trust and surrender to this process.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/85

Tune in this week and hear a candid conversation with Faith as they share their journey with self-love and feeling intense love for another person as well as the concept of learning to express who you are as a person. We discuss social constructs, feminism, patriarchy, and love, and Faith walks me through some concepts I am somewhat unfamiliar with.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/84

This week, Jane and I have a candid discussion about menopause, aging, and learning to love ourselves and our bodies. Jane shares her advice to women entering their 40s who are concerned about the aging process and shows you how to embrace, accept and find joy in the everyday moments.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/83

Tune in to hear my thoughts on Sex/Life and the narratives and messaging it perpetuates around gender roles, sexual intimacy, relationships, and love. You know I don't hold back, so I'm sharing why it left me feeling so pent up and some questions I'd encourage you to ask yourself if you still want to watch it.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/82

People have been emailing, calling, and texting me asking things like where they should go on a first date, what lube they should use with their partner, what toy would be best in the bedroom, how they should communicate their sexual desires, and more. You're curious, I get it. So I'll give you what you want.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/81

Dr. Alexandra Solomon and I are having an explorative conversation around consent, clarity, and what we've been taught about heteronormative relationships. We discuss consensual sex, polyamory, BDSM, and being Queer, and I am very excited to share today's conversation about what consent is at the very core. There are so many nuances around consent, and we're diving deeper into them this week.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/80

I'm sharing my journey through Shamesville and why despite feeling all the emotions, it was worth going through. It is OK to be imperfect, and this week, I'm showing you how to have the courage to sit with your emotions and grow in a relationship, regardless of the outcome or other person. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/79

I'm sharing a recent realization I had about my 90 days of celibacy and exploring why as human beings, we have to show ourselves compassion, kindness, and grace when something doesn't go as planned. Discover how to embrace your drama and internal mess and love yourself through that, because Renegades, this is how we learn. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/78

I'm diving into the super sexy topic of consent and communication. Consent is sexy. Advocating for yourself and your boundaries is sexy. I'm sharing how you can step up your communication skills to ensure you and your person are on the same page so you can feel free to connect even deeper. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/77

Find out why worrying about your relationships, dating, and future is distracting you from your life and how to intentionally focus on all you have right here and now. If it's meant to be for your greater good, it will be, so I'm showing you how to trust in this and learn to be present with your life exactly as it is. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/76

Find out why I’m taking 90 days of celibacy and what I hope to achieve at the end of it. It is said that if you can harness your sexual energy and channel it to your creative sources, that you can possibly create on a genius level. I’m looking forward to directing my energy elsewhere and giving you some inspiration to consider your own sex life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/75

It may not seem like it, but it is possible to have a deeply passionate love without feeling powerless and crazy. I’m exploring why we need to question our emotions and showing you how to become empowered by learning what’s going on in your brain. By knowing what’s going on chemically, you can manage the process even if just a little bit, and learn to lose yourself in the moments – not the man. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/74

Listen in this week as I explore why no matter how famous we become, it is always possible to choose to remain humble. I'm sharing some stories of people who have inspired me with their treatment towards others, and why regardless of our status, we must remember that we are all human. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/73

In this episode, I’m exploring how to find solutions to problems in relationships, the importance of being open to hearing other peoples’ thoughts and feelings about you, and how to view problems as opportunities to grow and learn. Can you hold space for questions and answers, focus on the facts, and find solutions? Of course you can, Renegades, it’s what we do. Explore more with me in this episode. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/72

Join me this week as I share how your actions of playing it cool might actually be gameplaying and how to start being honest about what you want. Life is going to happen regardless, yet we can still decide how we want to navigate it. Learn how to stop playing it cool and start taking responsibility for your emotions. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/71

Tune in this week to hear a candid conversation with my son, Nick. Nick shares what it was like being raised in a female-dominated household after losing his father early on in his life, why his dating life has been incredible in the last year, and I’m sharing what I’ve learned from my son and other people of his generation. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/70

In this episode, I’m telling you why developing awareness of your thoughts enables you to talk back to your brain and rewire your thought processes. I share some questions to ask yourself that will enable you to deconstruct what your brain is telling you, and why your thinking is optional so you can choose to think in a way that serves you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/69

In this episode, I’m sharing some steps to help you flow more freely through your new beginnings, and why the only person you can figure out is you. I’m showing you the importance of tending to your needs and nurturing yourself, and how to process pain while remaining present in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/68

In this episode, I’m sharing why we tend to want to rush through dating, and why we should pause and think consciously about what we want to feel, and what kind of person we want to be attracted to. I’m encouraging you to slow down, take a breath, and ask yourself whether you really need to move so quickly in a new relationship, and how slowing down and reflecting will transform your experience of dating. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/67

Join me this week as I share why your needs and expectations have very little to do with the other person and everything to do with yourself. These expectations disconnect us from the other person, Renegades; they turn us off. I’m proposing a new idea to consider when it comes to dating and encouraging you to be bold enough to ask for what you want. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/66

Join me this week as I share why more people are more likely to reach for a drink or dessert before they reach for an orgasm, and why this needs to change. I’m explaining why it’s important to get into your body and out of your mind, and why stress affects our sex drives, but orgasm can be the answer. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/65

In this episode, I’m discussing how we process traumatic events such as the storm in Texas, and why even though several people share an experience, they will deal with it very differently. I’m contemplating my own actions during this disaster and sharing how inspiring it is when people come together during traumatic events. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/64

In this episode, I invite you to dive deep with me and begin peeling back the layers of your own conditioning. What if you were the coping mechanism, the solution, the way home? What if getting to know who you are is not just an act of love, but necessary for survival? This is what I’m exploring today, Renegades. I hope you’ll take this journey with me. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/63

In today’s episode, I lift the goddess’ veil to show you that your femininity, girlhood, and womanhood are all intrinsic parts of who you are. This is my valentine to you, Renegades. I hope this episode helps you find the courage to express your femininity regardless of who society has told you to be in relationships. Let this message of love carry you through this weekend. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/62

In today’s episode, I’m showing you why spending time going back in your mind and playing out what happened last time doesn’t serve you and how to approach things from now on. I explain why things aren't happening to you - you're choosing them, and why getting brutally honest with each other will serve you in the long run, whether the relationship works out or not. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/61

Listen in today, Renegades, to find out why the stories your brain has on repeat might not be your truth anymore. This experience of seeing my stories for what they are is what brought me home, and what let me finally start writing new ones. In this episode, I’m sharing how you can also examine your stories and decide if you want to keep holding onto them or finally let them go.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/60

In today’s episode, I’m using this cautionary tale to show you how powerful your thoughts and beliefs are, and showing you how to decide if you want to choose new ones. What would happen if they weren’t “the one” and you didn’t feel rejected? Tune in to unveil what your beliefs are creating and start imagining a more erotic reality. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/59

In today’s episode, I reveal why it’s so hard to advocate for yourself in most situations, but especially in relationships. Pretending you don’t care when you desperately do does not get you what you want. I’m sharing what does help you get what you want and need, and how it starts with using your voice. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/58

In this episode, I’m exploring what it means to be an expert and why we hold onto beliefs that weren’t even ours to begin with. I’m inviting you to look inside your mind at your beliefs so you can decide if you want them to stay there. Dating doesn’t have to be draining or dramatic; let me show you how. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/57

Listen in today to discover what it means to live an erotic life and why 2021 is your year to abandon the shame. This year, I invite you all to join me in feeling turned on by the simplest things in life and writing our own guidebooks. Let’s learn from 2020 and continue living our best Renegade lives.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/56

In today’s episode, I challenge you to imagine a health warning before your mind drama takes off. What would happen if you weren’t so quick to believe the text on the screen or the thoughts in your brain? I’m sharing how when you pause to become aware, inquire, and seek, you actually reveal the truth. Shift happens, Renegades. It’s up to you what you choose to believe. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/55

In today’s episode, I’m teaching you how to have complete agency over your feelings and what you create in your life. It’s called emotional adulthood; learning to manage your mind through awareness. I’m sharing my experience with believing hard, and how you, too, can choose beliefs that guide you to a life of beauty, resilience, and compassion. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/54

In today’s episode, I show you why the person you’re obsessed with thinking about isn’t the problem. The problem is your brain on dating; that you haven’t learned to become aware of your thoughts and then choose them consciously. I’m sharing how you can start doing this with compassion and curiosity, and therefore, take back control of the volume dial. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/53

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a throwback episode that keeps being relevant as time goes on. You may have heard it before, but today, you’ll hear it from a new viewpoint. I’m sharing how I taught myself to date consciously, break up consciously, and how you can start practicing the art of managing your mind and emotions right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/52

In today’s episode, I’m diving into why so many of us have commitment issues and why we’d rather live with those issues than find a solution. Society supports our commitment issues, so why shouldn’t we? I’m exploring what it means to commit and some ways that you can choose with intention what you want to commit to. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/51

In this week’s episode, I’m sharing where I find purpose and meaning in my life and why I continue to show up for this podcast week after week. I’ll be pulling back the veil on the think-feel-act cycle, the decision to find meaning, and some lessons I learned over 50 episodes of this show that I think will help you inquire, seek, and reveal for yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://modernrenegades.com/50