Podcasts about Pretending

Forgiveness is Key to Better Relationships: Interview With Brian & Heather Mayer Forgiveness can feel like the most unfair, unnatural thing in the world. When someone has wounded you—especially someone who was supposed to love you—choosing to forgive may feel like letting them off the hook. But Brian and Heather Mayer's story reminds us: forgiveness isn't about the other person's worthiness—it's about God's mercy. And it's the path to freedom, not just for them… but for you. Why Christian Marriages Struggle With Forgiveness Heather didn't realize how deeply unforgiveness had taken root. Even after their marriage began to turn a corner, her heart stayed guarded. She found herself stuck emotionally. The walls she had put up to protect herself were still up. And though they gave the illusion of strength, what they actually offered was isolation. She said, “I didn't feel like forgiving. I didn't want to say the words. But I knew the Bible said I had to. So I chose to obey—even without the feelings.” This is what many Christian spouses experience. You know the right thing to do, but your emotions don't follow. And it's tempting to wait until you “feel ready.” But true biblical forgiveness isn't based on emotion—it's a decision of the will rooted in trust that God can heal what you cannot.   How Unforgiveness Destroys Connection in Marriage Brian admitted he had been prideful and blind to Heather's needs. But what changed him wasn't just guilt—it was God's grace. He realized that he needed to ask for forgiveness, not just from Heather, but from their children, too. “I had to go back and apologize, not just for being short or irritable—but for the way my behavior affected my family.” He humbled himself, opened his heart, and began walking out a different kind of love—one marked by patience, listening, and repentance. That humility created space for healing. Unforgiveness doesn't just affect the person who hurt you—it poisons your heart, your communication, your marriage bed, and even your parenting. Because where pride builds walls of resentment to isolate, humility builds bridges and invites healing.   What the Bible Says About Forgiveness in Marriage God never promised forgiveness would be easy—but He did say it's essential. Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Jesus modeled radical forgiveness on the cross. And He calls His followers to extend that same grace in our closest relationships—even in marriage. Brian and Heather didn't wait until things “felt better.” They took action. They forgave before the emotions lined up. And that obedience opened the door for healing.   Choosing to Forgive Even When You've Been Deeply Hurt Forgiveness does not mean: Forgetting what happened Pretending it didn't hurt Ignoring necessary boundaries But it does mean surrendering the right to punish. It means releasing bitterness so you can receive peace. It means trusting God with your pain instead of letting it define your future.   Healing Starts With Forgiveness Bitterness promises protection—but delivers bondage. Forgiveness opens the floodgates of grace—not just for your spouse, but for you. For your kids. For your home. For your legacy. You don't have to live angry. You don't have to stay stuck. There is freedom on the other side of obedience. There is peace that replaces pain. There is joy waiting where there used to be fear. And best of all? You don't walk this alone. The God who forgave you will empower you to forgive—again and again.   Final Encouragement: Forgiveness Is the Gateway to Freedom Brian and Heather's story is living proof that no marriage is too far gone. That even the most painful seasons can become a testimony of God's redemption. Maybe your spouse has wounded you deeply. Or maybe you're the one who's caused the pain. Either way, Jesus stands ready to walk you both into something new. Today, start with one brave act of obedience: “I choose to forgive.” Even if your hands tremble. Even if your heart still aches. God will meet you there. And the freedom you long for is closer than you think.   Love,   The Delight Your Marriage Team   PS - Check out Brian & Heather's amazing Forgiveness Course at www.lovehowdeep.com/forgiveness [Use code DYM59 to receive the Course at the special price of $59, regularly priced at $297!] PPS - If you're ready to bring even more healing and freedom into your marriage, schedule a free Clarity Call and see if our Men or Women's Program is right for you. Prices are going up after July 18th, so make the call soon! PPPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate: "I struggled with unforgiveness and bitterness, lack of joy in motherhood, emotional lability, and frequent mental trips to the past…  [Now,] I am able to self-regulate my emotions better. I have gained the ability to understand my emotions and thoughts from a more objective standpoint instead of being a victim to my thoughts and emotions... I've grown in my understanding of forgiveness and how that flushes out to my everyday life… When I joined the program, I was hoping that my work would change my husband and my marriage. I didn't realize just how much work I had for my own heart!”

Send us a textYou love them. You want it to work. But no matter how hard you try, something keeps getting in the way of that deep connection you crave.This episode is for anyone standing at the edge of love, wondering why it feels so lonely even when you're not alone.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for people at a relationship crossroads. If you're facing daily conflict, growing emotional distance, or just aching for a more genuine connection, you're in the right place.This week, we're digging into the hard truth about connection: why love alone isn't enough, and why vulnerability (the thing we often avoid) is the very thing that makes lasting intimacy possible.What if the connection you're chasing isn't missing… it's just unskilled?In this raw and revealing episode, we unpack:Why revealing and witnessing are the non-negotiables of intimacyHow the race to the bottom begins in silence and ends in disconnectionWhat to do when love is present, but safety and truth-telling are notIf you've ever stayed in a relationship by clinging to the dream of what could be, while avoiding the truth of what is, this conversation is your mirror, your manual, and your permission slip to begin again with skills.Timestamps: 02:36 Navigating Relationship Conflicts04:32 The Importance of Vulnerability05:34 Love Alone is Not Enough06:38 Skills Required for Lasting Love08:48 The Illusion of Love Without Skills11:04 Personal Story: The Reality of Unbalanced Relationships18:28 The Need for Mutual Effort in Relationships18:48 Living in Pretend and Illusion22:59 Staying Current with Each Other24:57 The Challenge of Staying Current in Relationships26:24 The Importance of Making Time for Your Partner28:06 Understanding Relationship Dynamics31:01 The Race to the Bottom: Emotional Safety in Relationships36:01 Practical Tips for Revealing and Witnessing41:38 Follow the Fun: Reveal Roulette Exercise44:29 Final Thoughts and Resources

How many people are wearing a mask? Pretending to be someone they are not! and at what cost?Audiobooks and courses: https://emma-digallo-s-school.teachable.com/YouTube Channel All about Business and Self-care : https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC86s2ZCT-JvW4A5i3UfoaLA

Hey Sis, You look like you've got it all together — but inside, you're running on fumes. If you're tired of putting on a brave face while secretly battling brain fog, emotional fatigue, and the invisible pressure to keep going… this episode was made for you. In today's episode, I share 5 powerful ways to reset your mind, inspired by Dr. Caroline Leaf's research and rooted in the truth that God designed your brain to heal. This isn't about toxic positivity or pretending everything's fine — it's about choosing to think differently, detox your mind, and step into clarity, calm, and purpose. Xoxo, Cynthia Inside, I walk you through: The first step most women skip (but can't afford to anymore) Why neuroplasticity is the gift your stress doesn't want you to know about The question every high-functioning woman needs to ask herself today How to get expert support to stop living in survival mode The simple, faith-based system that helps you renew your mind — and your space If you're wondering why you feel mentally off even though you're “doing all the right things”… it's time to look deeper.

Across cultures, weddings are usually a big event. Lots of us look forward to dressing up and dancing the night away with the person we love — but what if you kept all the festivities and got rid of the romance? Well, some young people in China are doing exactly that, by looking online for a ‘marriage buddy'. They pretend to be together to please their families, but aren't actually legally married. So, why are they willing to go to such lengths to meet societal expectations? And how does it all work? Wanqing Zhang from the BBC's Global China Unit talks us through the process — and explains the pressure put on young people in China to tie the knot. And we hear from Linda, a young woman in China who tells us why she's decided to find a marriage buddy.Instagram: @bbcwhatintheworld Email: whatintheworld@bbc.co.uk WhatsApp: +44 330 12 33 22 6 Presenter: Iqra Farooq Producers: Chelsea Coates, Mora Morrison and Maria-Clara Montoya Video Journalist: Baldeep Chahal and Jem Westgate Editor: Julia Ross-Roy

Chris and Tyler sit down with Skid Maher of The Glass Cannon Podcast! We have a Patreon! What to support us? Click HERE! You can find us on Instagram (chaosenginepod) and Bluesky (chaosenginepod) You can also email us at chaosenginepod@gmail.com We have a discord now! Feel free to stop by if that interests you! Check out our friends: Pretending to be People! Stories & Lies Sorry, Honey I have to Take This Tabletop Talk Wilderspace Gaming Doomed to Repeat The Great Old Ones Gaming Negative Modifier Chaos Springs Eternal The Black Flare Podcast 9mm Retirement Radio Suffer Not

If nearly half your team is pretending to work, the real problem isn't laziness—it's leadership. When your mission is fuzzy, KPIs are unclear, and communication is inconsistent, your team isn't engaged—they're surviving. And most leaders make it worse by tightening control instead of building culture. In this episode, we break down how to fix the disengagement at its roots—starting with how you hire, how you lead, and how you design the systems your team runs on. You'll also hear: How “productivity theater” forms—and how to stop directing it The hiring mistake that kills accountability from day one Why the 5 C's are the missing link between clarity and ownership How Human Needs Theory reveals what your team is really missing Why AI isn't here to replace your team—it's here to give you back the bandwidth to lead them  Ready to stop managing and start leading? Get the tools to build a self-led team at AIbusinessscalingblueprint.com/boost

Premier American Uranium (TSXV: PUR | OTCQB: PAUIF) is acquiring Nuclear Fuels and once the deal closes, the combined company will be the largest pure-play uranium explorer in the U.S. Watch us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@BloorStreetCapital?sub_confirmation=1Listen on Spotify When You're Pretending to Workout: https://open.spotify.com/show/33A8EgA...Listen on Apple When You're Driving: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/prof...Follow Jimmy Connor:LinkedIn:   / jimmyconnorofficial  X (@jamesconnor1999): https://x.com/JamesConnor1999X (@BloorStreetCap): https://x.com/BloorStreetCap*This video/interview is not financial advice. This channel, Bloor Street Capital, is not responsible for the performance of its guests, sponsors or affiliates. WAIVER & DISCLAIMERIf you register for this webinar/interview you agree to the following: This webinar is provided for information purposes only. All opinions expressed by the individuals in this webinar/interview are solely the individuals' opinions and neither reflect the opinions, nor are made on behalf of, Bloor Street Capital Inc. Presenters will not be providing legal or financial advice to any webinar participants or any person watching a recorded version of the webinar. The investing ideas and strategies discussed on this webinar/interview are not recommendations to buy or sell any security and are not intended to provide any investment advise of any kind, but are made available solely for educational and informational purposes. Investments or strategies mentioned in this webinar/interview may not be suitable for your particular investment objectives, financial situation, or needs. You should be aware of the real risk of loss in following any investment strategy discussed in this webinar/interview. All webinar participants or viewers of a recorded version of this webinar should obtain independent legal and financial advice. All webinar participants accept and grant permission to Bloor Street Capital Inc. and its representatives in connection with such recording. The information contained in this webinar/interview is current as of June,2025 the date of this webinar/interview, unless otherwise indicated, and is provided for information purposes only.

Ur-Energy Inc. (NYSE American: URG | TSX:URE) is progressing toward full production levels at Lost Creek and quickly moving toward production operations at its second mine at Shirley Basin. At full production, the Company expects to mine up to 2.2 million pounds of uranium annually. Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BloorStreetCapital?sub_confirmation=1Listen on Spotify When You're Pretending to Workout: https://open.spotify.com/show/33A8EgA...Listen on Apple When You're Driving: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/prof...Follow Jimmy Connor:LinkedIn:   / jimmyconnorofficial  X (@jamesconnor1999): https://x.com/JamesConnor1999X (@BloorStreetCap): https://x.com/BloorStreetCap*This video/interview is not financial advice. This channel, Bloor Street Capital, is not responsible for the performance of its guests, sponsors or affiliates. WAIVER & DISCLAIMERIf you register for this webinar/interview you agree to the following: This webinar is provided for information purposes only. All opinions expressed by the individuals in this webinar/interview are solely the individuals' opinions and neither reflect the opinions, nor are made on behalf of, Bloor Street Capital Inc. Presenters will not be providing legal or financial advice to any webinar participants or any person watching a recorded version of the webinar. The investing ideas and strategies discussed on this webinar/interview are not recommendations to buy or sell any security and are not intended to provide any investment advise of any kind, but are made available solely for educational and informational purposes. Investments or strategies mentioned in this webinar/interview may not be suitable for your particular investment objectives, financial situation, or needs. You should be aware of the real risk of loss in following any investment strategy discussed in this webinar/interview. All webinar participants or viewers of a recorded version of this webinar should obtain independent legal and financial advice. All webinar participants accept and grant permission to Bloor Street Capital Inc. and its representatives in connection with such recording. The information contained in this webinar/interview is current as of June,2025 the date of this webinar/interview, unless otherwise indicated, and is provided for information purposes only.

Len Duggan is my guest to chat about vaccine science, the science of flat earth also the CIA Honors Hollywood, NOT Saving the children, Pretending to Care, the Truth About the Authoritarian and His Moral Compass

Ever wondered why some people effortlessly manifest dreams into reality while others stay stuck? Take billionaire Richard Branson. When stranded in an airport facing a cancelled flight, he didn't sulk; he saw an opportunity and seized it. He didn't pretend his wish was fulfilled.Because he IMAGINED an opportunity - from his UNSTOPPABLE identiy.You can pretend all day, but pretending never made anyone great. Have you ever noticed that? Maybe you did something like I did…When I was just a tiny, itty-bitty Mr 2020, my name was John, and I pretended to be an astronaut. Spoiler alert: I never flew into space and I never walked on the moon.Later, I pretended to be a policeman. And guess what? I actually became one. I didn't become a cop because I was pretending to be a policeman at age six. I became one because I began seeing the world like a policeman does. I started hanging out with them, asking questions, and catching how they perceived life.Manifesting is all about perception, not pretending.Now, let's talk about Richard Branson. Today he owns an island.Today, he is a billionaire.But back in his mid 20s….Picture this: Branson is stranded at a Puerto Rican airport, dying to reach a babe on the beach in the Virgin Islands. The announcement comes: "Flight cancelled." Now, most folks slump back into their seats, whining and moaning. But not Richard Branson.He didn't just refuse to sit in the shit; he literally couldn't. His identity, how his identity percieved  the world wouldn't allow it. He saw opportunity instead of obstacles.Branson marched up to an FSBO…A fancy airport term for private flight operators and asked, "Hey, what's it gonna cost me to fly me there, right now?" The answer was something crazy like $2,000 or 4,000, way above what he could afford then. Did Branson give up? Hell no.Because of his IDENTITY, he grabbed chunk of cardboard, and made a sign.He scribbled something bold like, "One-way flight to Virgin Islands, $39 bucks. Welcome to Virgin Airlines!" Guess what? He filled that plane and, boom, Virgin Airlines was born.He wasn't pretending to be successful. He wasn't acting as if.He saw himself as the guy who makes shit happen. Branson didn't have time for excuses. The dude saw possibilities, endless opportunities.Here's your gut-check: How often do you settle for shit town make excuses? How often could you start strutting into possibilities? Because every single moment you sit in Shit Town making excuses, can't possibly even dream of excellence.Branson didn't go into a trance and make mind movies….He didn't come up with the perfect affirmation…He didn't ned the planets to align with his Grabovi numbers…He used the sacred fire of Imagination.Neville Goddard called the imagination Jesus Christ, within you.And that's exactly why pretending doesn't work.Pretending doesn't activate your INNER FIRE!You can only ignite it by SEEING as the person - who has their wishes fulfilled.By becoming the kind of person who literally can't sit still in the Shit Town of excuses.Pretend and play with sticky tapes….Or change your identity  and become unstoppable. It's simple, and it's easy.But only if you drop the bullshit that tells you otherwise.Visit me at MrTwentyTwenty.com. Drop me a note.Invest in you. Because here's the deal…If you don't believe in you and invest in your dreams today….You never will.You can make excuses or you can make millions.Dive deeper. Soar higher.See ya.Your Friend,Mr Twenty TwentyGet IdentityBasedManifesting.com - Click Here!Peek into my yummy world at https://MrTwentyTwenty.com 

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Welcome to Ask Paul Tripp, a weekly podcast from Paul Tripp Ministries where pastor and best-selling author Dr. Paul David Tripp answers your questions, connecting the transforming power of Jesus Christ to everyday life.This week, Paul addresses a question from a listener about Genesis 20: Was Abraham sinning by saying Sarah was his sister? Or was this justified because he was protecting him and his wife from evil?If you have a question you'd like to ask Paul, you can email ask@paultripp.com or submit it online at PaulTripp.com/Ask.Everyday Gospel: A Daily Devotional Connecting Scripture to All of LifePaulTripp.com/EverydayGospel

 We met Amelia at Folk Alliance in Montreal in February 2025 and it was great to catch up on her and learn more about her.  We talked about her new single “Pretending to Read” and you can hear it on this episode!! We also talked about co-writing vs. solitary writing, the consumer as employee market, and Amelia's interest and dedication to financial confidence for musicians!   AMELIA RAY IS THE INTERPRETER: part storyteller,part musician, and possible spy who has performed in 25 countries and speaks seven languages. Amelia's unique perspective and songwriting ability inspires Cultural Cohesion – a celebration of our diversity and common understanding of our shared experience through music.    Cracking the code of what it means to be human, Ray has written compositions like “Ana no potable” – a song in Spanish in the voice of a disgruntled constituent to a lousy mayor –, “Dream” – a tribute to musicals dedicated to anyone who's ever pursued their passions – and “Hambone Says” – a performance piece that uses a contemporary past aesthetic to explore U.S.racial and music history, and which won the Global Film Exhibition 2024 Best Music Video award. Her newest single, “Pretending to Read,” sees our protagonist covertly people-watching on the subway while using a book as a clever disguise for her true intentions.     Check Amelia out here:  Website: ameliaray.net  Patreon: Amelia Ray  Bandcamp: Amelia Ray  IG: Officialameliaray  Youtube: Amelia Ray  Facebook: Amelia Ray  Tidal: Amelia Ray     

Get on the waitlist for Functional Health Coaching HERE. In this episode, we're confronting a trap that many high-capacity Christian women leaders fall into — leading from performance instead of presence. If you've ever felt like you have to prove your worth in the boardroom, overdeliver to feel safe, or play a role just to hold it all together… this episode is for you. We explore how people-pleasing, perfectionism, and fear of being misunderstood drive us to perform rather than lead authentically. You'll walk away with a renewed perspective on what real courage looks like in leadership — and practical steps to break the cycle of pretending so you can lead from identity, not insecurity. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How performance-based leadership quietly leads to burnout and resentment The connection between people-pleasing and fear of rejection What it means to lead from identity, not image Faith-based mindset shifts to cultivate courage Reflection prompts to help you move from pretending to presence   I hope this episode blesses you! Xoxo, Tanya   #AuthenticLeadership #FaithBasedLeadership #WomenInLeadership #ChristianLeadershipPodcast #CourageOverComfort #PeoplePleasingRecovery #MidlifeWomen #LeadershipBurnout #PerformanceToPresence #RootCauseHealing #FunctionalWellnessCoach #LeadWithCourage #GraceFilledLeadership #EmotionalResilience #IdentityInChrist   Episode Resources:   GFL Episode Catalog   5 Ways To Connect With Me: 1️⃣ FREE CALL: Book your FREE Coaching Call now! Get personalized and practical strategies for work-life balance. Start your grace-filled life and leadership journey ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/workwithme   2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/community   3️⃣ FREE WORKSHOP: Watch my FREE “Conquer Your Email Inbox” workshop! It's your key to jumpstart productivity ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/workshop   4️⃣ COACHING: Are you READY to Lead Well, Live Well and BE Well? Get on the waitlist for functional health coaching. It's the accountability and guidance you need to reclaim your health and happiness! ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/health   5️⃣CONTACT: Leave me a question or comment ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/contact   "Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they're meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!"    If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. Don't forget to follow the show so you don't miss any episodes! And, if you're feeling really generous, I'd be SO honored if you would share this podcast with someone.   Click here to view our privacy policy.   Reminder:  The information you hear on this show is not meant to diagnose, manage or treat disease.  Always consult with your own health practitioner before you make any changes to your health.

Send us a textWhat happens when the smiling couple on social media closes the front door? Behind the curated photos and perfect captions, many marriages are crumbling under the weight of fake happiness. In this raw, real, and necessary conversation, we expose how pretending everything is fine, when it's not, slowly suffocates love, kills sexual intimacy, and leaves couples emotionally disconnected and spiritually depleted.This episode is packed with expert talk, marriage advice, and self-improvement insights to help you identify the real problems behind the performance. We unpack why couples fake happiness, fear of conflict, social pressure, guilt and reveal the subtle signs you might be faking it without even realizing. From avoiding intimacy to fantasizing about being single, these red flags are destroying marital joy and killing off real romance.But we're not just diagnosing we're giving you tools to fight back. Learn how to:Have honest, judgment-free conversations with your spouseRebuild emotional trust and sexual intimacyInvite God's power into your marriage for true healingReconnect through touch, truth, and intentional effortMove from “picture-perfect” to deeply connected and joyfully realWe'll challenge you to stop faking and start fighting for each other. Because your married life is too important for pretend love. You deserve a genuine connection, God-centered partnership, and a relationship that doesn't just look good but feels alive.

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Fiery services and awful sights We have a Patreon! What to support us? Click HERE! You can find us on Instagram (chaosenginepod) and Bluesky (chaosenginepod) You can also email us at chaosenginepod@gmail.com We have a discord now! Feel free to stop by if that interests you! Check out our friends: Pretending to be People! Stories & Lies Sorry, Honey I have to Take This Tabletop Talk Wilderspace Gaming Doomed to Repeat The Great Old Ones Gaming Negative Modifier Chaos Springs Eternal The Black Flare Podcast 9mm Retirement Radio Suffer Not

SummaryIn this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., explores the journey of becoming unapologetically oneself. She discusses the societal pressures that lead individuals to perform roles for acceptance, the importance of recognizing one's true self, and the process of unlearning and reclaiming authenticity. The episode emphasizes that living authentically is a sacred journey, not a selfish act, and provides practical steps for listeners to begin their own journey towards self-acceptance and freedom.Keywordsauthenticity, self-discovery, unapologetic living, personal growth, self-acceptance, emotional well-being, self-identity, personal transformation, inner voice, self-worthTakeawaysWhat would it feel like to be fully, freely, and unapologetically you?The journey to authenticity involves recognizing what holds us back.We learn to perform for acceptance from a young age.Socialization can lead us to lose touch with our true selves.Pretending to be someone else can become painful.Becoming who you are is a transition and a process.Unlearning roles and scripts is essential for authenticity.Living unapologetically means not shrinking to make others comfortable.You have to stop abandoning yourself for others' approval.Becoming yourself is a sacred act, not a selfish one.Sound Bites"We learn to perform for acceptance.""We lose touch with our own voice.""Pretending becomes too painful."Chapters00:00 Introduction to Authenticity02:00 The Journey to Becoming Unapologetically You03:08 Why It's So Hard to Be Yourself09:16 Becoming You is a Transition16:15 The Process of Unlearning and Reclaiming17:13 What It Means to Live Unapologetically23:22 Understanding Unapologetic Living24:04 How to Begin32:20 The Sacredness of Being YouThanks for listening. Please leave a review and share this episode with someone who will benefit from listening to it. I welcome you to join the Your Aha! Life Global Community. Go to https://yourahalife.comAnd follow me on Instagram @tonya.yourahalife.XO, Tonya

What happens when the Red Flags guy, the Sip & Spill/Covid Morning guy, the Vitagen guy, and that viral fat song comedian walk onto a podcast set?We're unpacking what it really means to go viral — who's selling out, who's holding on for dear life, and who's slowly disappearing into the gaping chasm of irrelevancy. At what point does attention-seeking become something darker? And is it still worth it when the likes stop coming in?This is one episode you definitely wanna be sat for.Follow Jenhan on Instagram at:https://www.instagram.com/kuahjenhan/ Follow Graeme on Instagram at:https://www.instagram.com/instagraeme_tj/ Check out Like This, Like Dad at:https://ticketmaster.sg/activity/detail/25sg_jenhan CHAPTERS00:20 - Like This, Like Dad02:10 - Fighting for your attention 05:20 - Pretentiously defining social media 09:00 - The woes of being slightly popular 11:00 - The Morning Guy 15:16 - Choose your validation15:55 - Asking our exes to say “I'm proud” 17:39 - Are you actually relevant or just a trend 19:20 - The gaping chasm of irrelevancy 22:30 - Why everyone wants a podcast26:00 - Putting numbers to heart 27:40 - Our fanciest tickleadges 31:00 - Being a flower blooming crack addict35:30 - Making IG pins our personality 38:20 - Dead dad competitions38:55 - There's a ghost in the audience41:00 - Flaring nostrils at smelly personalities 44:00 - Attention seeking vs. Narcissism 46:20 - The intersection between christian influencers49:00 - The irk of religious influencers 52:40 - Pretending we don't want attention 55:00 - Motivated by becoming forgotten 57:30 - It's the climb Graeme hasn't peaked 1:00:00 - Healthy unrealistic 24/7 spiralling1:06:40 - Staying upping and still coming1:09:18 - Find the circle and fill your hole 

Ever felt like you've spent your whole life pretending to be someone you're not… without even realising it?This one's for you.In today's episode, we're diving deep into the masks we wear – the people-pleaser, the overachiever, the chameleon, the ‘good girl' or ‘good boy' – all those roles we slip into without meaning to, just to feel safe, accepted, or "normal."But unmasking? That's a whole other story.Together with Dr. Miguel (our go-to neuroscience and nervous system expert), we get real about the cost of masking, why unmasking isn't a one-size-fits-all thing, and why it can feel so bloody exhausting trying to “just be yourself” when your nervous system doesn't feel safe.We explore:The science behind masking, stress, and burnoutWhy unmasking is less about big reveals and more about small, honest stepsThe messiness of identity (and why it's OK to be in-between)ADHD, intuition, and how your body always knows when you're faking itAnd the wild parallels between coming out as neurodivergent and coming out as queerPLUS: a hilarious (and painfully relatable) game of ‘Guess That Mask' involving marathon medals, thank-you cards, and a very mysterious peach

Are you pretending to be happy in your marriage? It's a common experience for the men we coach, they stay passive and trying to make her happy while all the while inside they are miserable. In this episode I talk about why this is a doomed approach if you want to ever feel confident and alive again, let alone feeling masculine and sexy and leading the attraction in your marriage.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roundtable/ If you're facing possible divorce, we have an online course which is specifically for you - Defuse the Divorce Bomb: https://mojopolis.thinkific.com/courses/HDDB-preview?ref=a53950 What if this next year everything changed for you? That's what we want for you brother, We love teaching men these tools - how to be better, how to know who you are, what you stand for, what you want and how to CREATE it in your life through our Masculine Confidence coaching programs. Dan and I are here to guide you on this mission.https://goodguys2greatmen.com/mens-relationship-coaching/ Steve's book Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband will help you to lead yourself and your relationship back to good health. Understand why your partner acts the way she does toward you and learn how to lead your life in the direction you want it to go. You CAN have the relationship you want, fulfilling all your desires while maintaining love and respect.https://goodguys2greatmen.com/straight-talk-tools-for-the-desperate-husband/ We also have a free e-book to help men learn how to lose their fear and be more bold in their marriage to create the love and connection they want. Get The Hard to Swallow Truth About Saving Your Marriage: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/ If you want to learn more about how to take a bigger step toward being a clear-headed, confident man of action, then find out more here: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/mens-relationship-coaching/ We would be thrilled to help you get there - our first discovery call is always free and always gives you a BIG boost of confidence. You WILL become a clearer, stronger, more confident man only through other men. Your woman cannot take you there - and she doesn't WANT to...trust us on that. Sign up to receive our email newsletters for lots more free tips and advice here: https://archive.aweber.com/stevemain Subscribe to be notified whenever we upload a new video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC13h36xaBvyTPVAES4-4rXw?sub_confirmation=1 You can watch all our videos here: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/video-library/ Or read our blog articles here: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/blog/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.

Choosing to be fully yourself can shift relationships, unlock clarity, and ease the weight of pretending. In this heartfelt episode, Angel Williams and Julie Holly explore the liberating and often challenging journey of showing up as your authentic self. From teaching in high-poverty schools to facilitating meaningful personal growth through book clubs and intentional reflection, they share how honesty, vulnerability, and consistency in identity can transform both personal and professional relationships. They unpack the emotional weight of seemingly small decisions—like letting go of a nostalgic dress—and offer tangible steps for building self-awareness and cultivating an identity rooted in truth.     [00:01 - 03:00] The Classroom as a Mirror How teaching in a high-poverty school revealed the importance of authenticity Why middle school students demand the real you The significance of being consistent in identity across age groups   [03:01 - 06:43] From Acceptance to Action How self-acceptance can feel terrifying yet freeing The need to strip away masks in order to find your people Why rejection from others might be confirmation, not condemnation   [06:44 - 09:19] Letting Go to Move Forward How clearing out old belongings can unlock emotional growth What to do when memories get tangled in objects The importance of sitting with discomfort to uncover insights   [09:20 - 13:00] Evaluating Identity Across Settings Why it matters to reflect on who you are in different social contexts The need for honest self-checks after conferences and events How reading consistently supports identity development   [13:01 - 17:12] Living Authentically in Public and Private How consistency in personality simplifies life and builds trust The significance of staying genuine in community spaces Why safe environments and teacher-hearted leaders matter in live events     Connect with Julie:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-holly/     Key Quotes:     “You are expending far more energy trying to be someone you're not.” - Julie Holly   “You are created so uniquely… we don't need a repeat of someone trying to be an imposter.” - Julie Holly       Visit sponsorcloud.io/contact today and unlock $2,000 of free services exclusively for REI Rocks community members! Get automated syndication and investor relationship management tools to save time and money. Mention your part of the REI Rocks community for exclusive offers. Help make affordable, low-cost education summits possible. Check out Sponsor Cloud today!

Do you find yourself running a mental list of what you've got to do tomorrow...next month... instead of living in the moment? Comedian and presenter Joel Dommett is getting better at appreciating the present.In this chat, Fearne and Joel debate if it's a good or bad thing to set career goals, and explore how to focus on the process rather than an outcome. Joel also has some advice about faking confidence in order to build it, and explains why his marathon efforts brought out his shadow side...Plus, Joel justifies some of his more questionable tattoos, and reveals some big behind the scenes gossip from The Masked Singer!Joel's Happy Idiot tour has been extended into the autumn; get your tickets here. If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like: Mo Gilligan Julian Clary Joanne McNally Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Only one right wing figure was predicting a year ago that a Trump presidency would result in more Middle East involvement at the behest of Israel - Nick Fuentes.Now as Russia threatens to join Iran against the United States, it's time to be honest that Nick was right, and what comes next could get very ugly.MINISTRY SPONSORS:Squirrelly Joe's Coffee - Caffeinating The Modern ReformationOur audience can get a free bag of coffee (just pay shipping) by visiting https://squirrellyjoes.com/rightresponseKingsmen CapsCarry the Crown with Kingsmen Caps — premium headwear made for those who honor Christ as King. Create your custom crown or shop our latest releases at https://kingsmencaps.com.Western Front Books. Publishing for men on the right. Not churchy. Christian.https://www.WesternFrontBooks.com/Armored RepublicWe make Tools of Liberty for the defense of every free man's God-given rights: Arm yourself with body armor and a plate carrier of your choosing; build your setup with accessories, equip yourself with an armored backpack.https://www.ar500armor.com//Private Family BankingHow to Connect with Private Family Banking:1. Receive a FREE e-book entitled "How to Build Multi-Generational Wealth Outside of Wall Street and Avoid the Coming Banking Meltdown", by going to https://protectyourmoneynow.net/2. Schedule a Free 30-Minute Discovery Appointment call today at www.liberationeconomy.comHeaven's HarvestGet 10% off your Heaven's Harvest order by using discount code "RRM" at checkout on their website.https://heavensharvest.com/rrm

The town awaits We have a Patreon! What to support us? Click HERE! You can find us on Instagram (chaosenginepod) and Bluesky (chaosenginepod) You can also email us at chaosenginepod@gmail.com We have a discord now! Feel free to stop by if that interests you! Check out our friends: Pretending to be People! Stories & Lies Sorry, Honey I have to Take This Tabletop Talk Wilderspace Gaming Doomed to Repeat The Great Old Ones Gaming Negative Modifier Chaos Springs Eternal The Black Flare Podcast 9mm Retirement Radio Suffer Not

In this raw and vulnerable episode of The Dream Interpretation Podcast, guest host April Angel opens up about her deeply personal healing journey—centered around the pain of never meeting her biological father. Through the lens of dream interpretation, she explores how our dreams don't just reveal spiritual gifts or future potential—they also expose the wounds that block us from stepping into our true selves. This isn't just theory. April uses her own dreams to show you exactly how healing unfolds when you're brave enough to look at the messages Spirit has been sending all along. Whether you're navigating your own father wound, facing rejection, or simply trying to understand the purpose behind recurring dreams, this episode will resonate deeply. Aisling School Healing Course https://www.dream-analysis.com/courses/live-your-life-purpose-dream-interpretation.htm Talk to Sandy about our courses https://bookings.theaislingschool.com/sandy/got-questions Our flagship mentorship program is here https://www.dream-analysis.com/courses/mentorship.cgi?v=5  Courses: https://www.dream-analysis.com/courses  Download Free dictionary: https://www.dream-analysis.com/  Submit your dream: https://www.dream-analysis.com/podcast  Show Archives: https://www.dream-analysis.com/podcasts/  ⏱️ Chapters 00:00 – Intro: April's Personal Journey 01:05 – Why This Episode is Different 02:18 – What Dreams Really Are: Messages from Spirit 04:45 – The Father Wound: A Life Without Biological Connection 07:30 – How Rejection Shows Up in Dreams 10:15 – Facing the Grief You Didn't Know Was There 15:40 – Breaking the Pattern of Pretending 20:10 – What Healing Looks Like in Real Time 24:05 – Invitation to Honor Your Own Journey 27:15 – Final Reflections & Encouragement

From Amy:Timing for creative work is interesting. Sometimes you start a project that, for whatever reason, doesn't want to come together right then. Later the perfect timing arises, and you understand that this project was preparing itself to meet the moment.I recorded this conversation with Sigrid K. Nielsen two years ago; then my podcast went on a forced hiatus. (As in, my editor quit to be a musician, causing me to rework my production process.) Which meant that this and other conversations never got produced, but I kept them in reserve.Now it's Pride Month 2025; now is the moment.What I said then is equally true today: Sigrid K Nielsen lights up a room. I have spent time with her on many occasions, live and on Zoom calls, 1:1 and in groups, and she's never been anything but her most authentic, fully expressed, and yes, BLISSFUL, free self. That's a choice on her part. When you read Sigrid‘s book (forthcoming) you'll see what I mean: Sigrid is incredibly vibrant. But you don't have to wait for the book to meet her. You can listen today.Be forewarned, Sigrid will force you to rethink things you thought you were certain of. Because she sure has rethought things. Courageously so.Back to the timing: As I release this episode, it's Monday, June 23. I wanted to release it on Friday, but that just didn't want to happen, even though it was ready. All the things were conspiring to delay publication. Then on Saturday evening, we learned that bombs were illegally dropped on Iran without notice and without any justification except to make an old man feel good about himself. As with so much right now, there is so much distraction.And I'm going to say this part out loud: Othering trans people, making them scapegoats for all the harms in the world, is keeping US ALL from being who WE ALL truly are, seeing what's right there for us to see. WE ALL have it in us to be compassionate, kind, loving people, when we're not running scared from each other. But that requires awareness.We can make another choice.This othering is not a new tactic. It was there in the 30's in Germany, when trans people were targeted (we forget that part because their libraries, their history, their rich artistic culture was obliterated), and it was there in the 80's when Sigrid and I were coming of age, and only rockstars could dress as they wanted. Because it was a "costume."Performance, you see. Heaven forbid YOU be queer. Or other. Sigrid's former self knew that assignment.But that required hiding in plain sight. Even from yourself. And once you're aware of what's really there, you can't not see it. Pretending not to see is exhausting. You want to stop making believe.Isn't that true for us all?Sigrid is a trans woman who transitioned at nearly 50 years old. AND. This is who she's always been.As much as I have always recognized Sigrid's voice as powerful, her writing sublime, her presence uplifting and joyous, there has never been a moment when her message was more essential.We have solutions to find for our one small, beautiful planet's great problems. Queer people are not one of those problems. They deserve all the love.They are leading the way, ahead of their time.It's going to require all of us to face our deepest fears and embrace our most profound gifts. Our humanity. And to be abundantly clear, this doesn't mean YOU have to be TRANS. Unless you are.We need YOU to be YOU. That's our agenda.Because, as Sigrid often reminds me, though our stories may look vastly different on the surface— hers is from the perspective of a trans woman who came out at midlife, and mine is a different kind of midlife revival—our real-life stories are universal.We are all human and we are all in this together.Thanks Sigrid!Love, AmySigrid K. Nielsen stepped into her truth in May 2021 and has been living her best self ever since. Her life is better now than anything she ever imagined in her wildest dreams. She works with people and companies as a speaker, coach, and Financial Advisor. Amy Hallberg is the author of Tiny Altars: A Midlife Revival and German Awakening: Tales from an American Life. She is the host of Courageous Wordsmith Podcast and founder of Courageous Wordsmith Circle for Real-Life Writers. As an editor and writing mentor, Amy guides writers through their narrative journeys—from inklings to beautiful works, specifically podcasts and books. A lifelong Minnesotan and mother of grown twins, Amy lives in the Twin Cities with her husband and two cats. Get Amy's Books and AudiobooksLearn about Courageous Wordsmith Circle for Real-Life WritersWork with Amy 1:1

Welcome to part 4 of our series "Agape | What the modern world is missing". We pray that God uses this message in your life today to encourage you and build your faith.Pursuit Church on Social Media:facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PursuitChurchDenver/?ref=bookmarksinstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pursuit_church/Pursuit Worship on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Pursuit-Worship-671274439695803/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pursuit.worship/

In this deeply personal and transformative episode, Lindsey shares a powerful message that came to her during her morning devotions: "It is possible to miss who you've been called to be because you're addicted and attached to who you've settled to be." If you've been settling for a life controlled by your eating disorder, this episode will open your eyes to the incredible life waiting for you on the other side of recovery. What You'll Learn: The powerful devotional quote that sparked this entire episode Why settling for your eating disorder is actually addiction in disguise 8 specific ways life becomes dramatically better in recovery The shocking statistics about eating disorders and relationships that no one talks about How to identify where you're settling vs. truly living Why your brain chooses "guaranteed misery" over uncertain freedom The exact moment Lindsey knew she had to stop pretending and start living The 8 Things Better Than Settling for Disordered Eating: 1. ENERGY ☕ Energy to tackle today with cream in your coffee No more "I don't drink my calories" badge of honor True nourishment vs. running on empty 2. CARBS & FREEDOM

There was a palpable tension in the room. Jonathan hadn't been on the podcast in a long time. Our last interaction was through a text message where he thanked me for an article I wrote about his previous full album release "Borrowed Time". I thought the article was clever and complementary but, it ultimately said that the music didn't resonate with me. Did the article enrage him? Was he playing the long game? Pretending to be appreciative of the article but secretly waiting until he could come on the pod to confront me? I've never thought of him as a violent man but, he could've been training Jiu Jitsu his entire home school career for all I know. As I set down at the microphone, full of fear and confusion, I decided to let come what may and I hit the record button. Bomethius is the brainchild/alter ego of Jonathan Hodges. Jonathan is multi-instrumentalist, singer and songwriter. His latest single Thunderbird is available for streaming everywhere. I'M A FAN OF: https://linktr.ee/Imafanof Bomethius: https://www.bomethius.com/  

In this deeply personal episode, we explore one of midlife's most powerful transformations: letting go of the woman you thought you had to be to become the woman you actually are. We're talking about the personas we've worn for protection—the Good Girl, the Over-Achiever, the Caretaker, the Chameleon, and the "Always Fine" Woman. Then we dive into the signs that these masks no longer fit, examine the real fears behind our performances, and explore practical strategies for living authentically. This episode offers both permission and practical tools to stop pretending and start being real. Perfect for any midlife woman who's tired of performing and ready to come home to herself.Send a Text Message :)

Modi govt needs to focus on building domestic capabilities and reducing internal polarisation. India's foreign policy should not be shaped by delusion and narcissism.  

Tell me what's on your mind.If you bought tickets to a pop-up taco museum restaurant in San Antonio, you got scammed. If someone wants to hook you up with a priest who does exorcisms, beware. But we begin with the story of a brand new scam called call merging. It involves merging your phone call with a scammer and a bank's two-factor authentication system, stealing your secret code.

It seems like we are bombarded by news about millions of dollars pouring into AI startups, which have crazy valuations. In this episode, Chris and Dan dive deep into the highs, lows, and hard choices behind funding an AI startup. They explore early bootstrapping, the transition to venture capital, and what it's like to trade in code commits for investor decks. Featuring:Chris Benson – Website, GitHub, LinkedIn, XDaniel Whitenack – Website, GitHub, XLinks:Builder.ai Collapses: $1.5bn 'AI' Startup Exposed as 'Actually Indians' Pretending to Be BotsSponsors:Miro: Feeling overwhelmed by AI? Miro brings clarity by combining human creativity with intelligent tools to help teams get great work done. Learn more at miro.com.

Transformations are hard, and too often, they fail to deliver on their promise. In this episode of The Product Experience, Lily and Randy speak with Jen Swanson, CEO of Tuckpoint Advisory Group, to unpack why transformation initiatives falter and what it truly takes to succeed.Key Takeaways— Transformation requires intentionality: Real transformation isn't accidental or surface-level; it must be deliberate, comprehensive, and backed by leadership.— Avoid ‘transformation theatre': Pretending to change—without restructuring ownership, processes, or collaboration—is worse than doing nothing at all.— Start with honest orientation: Knowing your starting point is essential before plotting a path forward.— Executive involvement is non-negotiable: Transformations can't be delegated. Leadership must model the change and communicate relentlessly.— Product-led is about mindset, not just teams: Everyone should operate within the product model, but not all need to be on product teams.— Pace matters: Organisations must assess their capacity for change and determine the right balance between ambition and sustainability.— Give grace for the learning curve: People need space to be bad at new things before they get good—psychological safety is essential.Chapters0:00 – Introduction & the myth of sneaky transformations1:01 – Jen's background and path into product2:53 – What transformation really means5:53 – Defining honest orientation8:00 – What is transformation theatre?12:09 – When real change feels fake13:04 – The importance of executive commitment16:04 – Why transformations fail19:11 – Common catalysts for transformation22:06 – Product-led vs product thinking25:00 – Who's in the opOur HostsLily Smith enjoys working as a consultant product manager with early-stage and growing startups and as a mentor to other product managers. She's currently Chief Product Officer at BBC Maestro, and has spent 13 years in the tech industry working with startups in the SaaS and mobile space. She's worked on a diverse range of products – leading the product teams through discovery, prototyping, testing and delivery. Lily also founded ProductTank Bristol and runs ProductCamp in Bristol and Bath. Randy Silver is a Leadership & Product Coach and Consultant. He gets teams unstuck, helping you to supercharge your results. Randy's held interim CPO and Leadership roles at scale-ups and SMEs, advised start-ups, and been Head of Product at HSBC and Sainsbury's. He participated in Silicon Valley Product Group's Coaching the Coaches forum, and speaks frequently at conferences and events. You can join one of communities he runs for CPOs (CPO Circles), Product Managers (Product In the {A}ether) and Product Coaches. He's the author of What Do We Do Now? A Product Manager's Guide to Strategy in the Time of COVID-19. A recovering music journalist and editor, Randy also launched Amazon's music stores in the US & UK.

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Jody Hamilton fills in for Steph this week. She discusses the capture of Vance Boelter - the suspect in the shootings of 2 Minnesota lawmakers and their spouses. She also jokes about Trump's pathetic, expensive birthday parade.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Bob and Eric discuss the #NoKings protest and why people are drawn to socialist/communist movements.Long-time show hosts Bob Dunlap, a businessman from North Carolina, and Eric Matheny, a criminal defense attorney in Florida, deliver weekly patriotic brilliance. Here on Maverick Broadcasting Netowrk, the outspoken duo are ready to take it to the next level. America is at a crossroads. Bob and Eric are here to keep people informed about the right directions to go. Catch them every Saturday at noon Eastern as they discuss the important issues of the week.Follow Maverick Broadcasting Network on Pickax to catch the full lineup of shows and breaking news: https://pickax.com/maverickbroadcastingProtect your financial future with precious metals! Get your FREE Gold and Silver Guide from My Gold Guy today and take control of your financial destiny! https://mygoldguy.comIndulge in the finest quality with Freedom First Beef – sous vide, freeze-dried, and ready to savor today or in a decade. Order now using code BOBANDERIC for a 25% discount. https://freedomfirstbeef.comBe ready for anything life throws your way with The Wellness Company's Medical Emergency Kit. Order today using code BOBANDERIC for a 10% discount at https://twc.health/mbn.Unleash the spirit of liberty in every cup with Supermassive Black Coffee. Order now using code MAVERICK and savor the unparalleled taste of freedom in every patriotic sip. https://supermassiveblackcoffee.com.com

A riverboat bound for home We have a Patreon! What to support us? Click HERE! You can find us on Instagram (chaosenginepod) and Bluesky (chaosenginepod) You can also email us at chaosenginepod@gmail.com We have a discord now! Feel free to stop by if that interests you! Check out our friends: Pretending to be People! Stories & Lies Sorry, Honey I have to Take This Tabletop Talk Wilderspace Gaming Doomed to Repeat The Great Old Ones Gaming Negative Modifier Chaos Springs Eternal The Black Flare Podcast 9mm Retirement Radio Suffer Not

Characters are made and laughs are had We have a Patreon! What to support us? Click HERE! You can find us on Instagram (chaosenginepod) and Bluesky (chaosenginepod) You can also email us at chaosenginepod@gmail.com We have a discord now! Feel free to stop by if that interests you! Check out our friends: Pretending to be People! Stories & Lies Sorry, Honey I have to Take This Tabletop Talk Wilderspace Gaming Doomed to Repeat The Great Old Ones Gaming Negative Modifier Chaos Springs Eternal The Black Flare Podcast 9mm Retirement Radio Suffer Not

What Hump? Thirty Years of Cybersecurity and the Fine Art of Pretending It's Not a Human ProblemA new transmission from Musing On Society and Technology Newsletter, by Marco CiappelliJune 6, 2025A Post-Infosecurity Europe Reflection on the Strange but Predictable Ways We've Spent Thirty Years Pretending Cybersecurity Isn't About People.⸻ Once there was a movie titled “Young Frankenstein” (1974) — a black-and-white comedy directed by Mel Brooks, written with Gene Wilder, and starring Wilder and Marty Feldman, who delivers the iconic “What hump?” line.Let me describe the scene:[Train station, late at night. Thunder rumbles. Dr. Frederick Frankenstein steps off the train, greeted by a hunched figure holding a lantern — Igor.]Igor: Dr. Frankenstein?Dr. Frederick Frankenstein: It's Franken-steen.Igor: Oh. Well, they told me it was Frankenstein.Dr. Frederick Frankenstein: I'm not a Frankenstein. I'm a Franken-steen.Igor (cheerfully): All right.Dr. Frederick Frankenstein (noticing Igor's eyes): You must be Igor.Igor: No, it's pronounced Eye-gor.Dr. Frederick Frankenstein (confused): But they told me it was Igor.Igor: Well, they were wrong then, weren't they?[They begin walking toward the carriage.]Dr. Frederick Frankenstein (noticing Igor's severe hunchback): You know… I'm a rather brilliant surgeon. Perhaps I could help you with that hump.Igor (looks puzzled, deadpan): What hump?[Cut to them boarding the carriage, Igor climbing on the outside like a spider, grinning wildly.]It's a joke, of course. One of the best. A perfectly delivered absurdity that only Mel Brooks and Marty Feldman could pull off. But like all great comedy, it tells a deeper truth.Last night, standing in front of the Tower of London, recording one of our On Location recaps with Sean Martin, that scene came rushing back. We joked about invisible humps and cybersecurity. And the moment passed. Or so I thought.Because hours later — in bed, hotel window cracked open to the London night — I was still hearing it: “What hump?”And that's when it hit me: this isn't just a comedy bit. It's a diagnosis. Here we are at Infosecurity Europe, celebrating its 30th anniversary. Three decades of cybersecurity: a field born of optimism and fear, grown in complexity and contradiction.We've built incredible tools. We've formed global communities of defenders. We've turned “hacker” from rebel to professional job title — with a 401(k), branded hoodies, and a sponsorship deal. But we've also built an industry that — much like poor Igor — refuses to admit something's wrong.The hump is right there. You can see it. Everyone can see it. And yet… we smile and say: “What hump?”We say cybersecurity is a priority. We put it in slide decks. We hold awareness months. We write policies thick enough to be used as doorstops. But then we underfund training. We silo the security team. We click links in emails that say whatever will make us think it's important — just like those pieces of snail mail stamped URGENT that we somehow believe, even though it turns out to be an offer for a new credit card we didn't ask for and don't want. Except this time, the payload isn't junk mail — it's a clown on a spring exploding out of a fun box.Igor The hump moves, shifts, sometimes disappears from view — but it never actually goes away. And if you ask about it? Well… they were wrong then, weren't they?That's because it's not a technology problem. This is the part that still seems hard to swallow for some: Cybersecurity is not a technology problem. It never was.Yes, we need technology. But technology has never been the weak link.The weak link is the same as it was in 1995: us. The same it was before the internet and before computers: Humans.With our habits, assumptions, incentives, egos, and blind spots. We are the walking, clicking, swiping hump in the system. We've had encryption for decades. We've known about phishing since the days of AOL. Zero Trust was already discussed in 2004 — it just didn't have a cool name yet.So why do we still get breached? Why does a ransomware gang with poor grammar and a Telegram channel take down entire hospitals?Because culture doesn't change with patches. Because compliance is not belief. Because we keep treating behavior as a footnote, instead of the core.The Problem We Refuse to See at the heart of this mess is a very human phenomenon:vIf we can't see it, we pretend it doesn't exist.We can quantify risk, but we rarely internalize it. We trust our tech stack but don't trust our users. We fund detection but ignore education.And not just at work — we ignore it from the start. We still teach children how to cross the street, but not how to navigate a phishing attempt or recognize algorithmic manipulation. We give them connected devices before we teach them what being connected means. In this Hybrid Analog Digital Society, we need to treat cybersecurity not as an optional adult concern, but as a foundational part of growing up. Because by the time someone gets to the workforce, the behavior has already been set.And worst of all, we operate under the illusion that awareness equals transformation.Let's be real: Awareness is cheap. Change is expensive. It costs time, leadership, discomfort. It requires honesty. It means admitting we are all Igor, in some way. And that's the hardest part. Because no one likes to admit they've got a hump — especially when it's been there so long, it feels like part of the uniform.We have been looking the other way for over thirty years. I don't want to downplay the progress. We've come a long way, but that only makes the stubbornness more baffling.We've seen attacks evolve from digital graffiti to full-scale extortion. We've watched cybercrime move from subculture to multi-billion-dollar global enterprise. And yet, our default strategy is still: “Let's build a bigger wall, buy a shinier tool, and hope marketing doesn't fall for that PDF again.”We know what works: Psychological safety in reporting. Continuous learning. Leadership that models security values. Systems designed for humans, not just admins.But those are hard. They're invisible on the balance sheet. They don't come with dashboards or demos. So instead… We grin. We adjust our gait. And we whisper, politely:“What hump?”So what Happens now? If you're still reading this, you're probably one of the people who does see it. You see the hump. You've tried to point it out. Maybe you've been told you're imagining things. Maybe you've been told it's “not a priority this quarter.” And maybe now you're tired. I get it.But here's the thing: Nothing truly changes until we name the hump.Call it bias.Call it culture.Call it education.Call it the human condition.But don't pretend it's not there. Not anymore. Because every time we say “What hump?” — we're giving up a little more of the future. A future that depends not just on clever code and cleverer machines, but on something far more fragile:Belief. Behavior. And the choice to finally stop pretending.We joked in front of a thousand-year-old fortress. Because sometimes jokes tell the truth better than keynote stages do. And maybe the real lesson isn't about cybersecurity at all.Maybe it's just this: If we want to survive what's coming next, we have to see what's already here.- The End➤ Infosecurity Europe: https://www.itspmagazine.com/infosecurity-europe-2025-infosec-london-cybersecurity-event-coverageAnd ... we're not done yet ... stay tuned and follow Sean and Marco as they will be On Location at the following conferences over the next few months:➤ Black Hat USA in Las Vegas in August: https://www.itspmagazine.com/black-hat-usa-2025-hacker-summer-camp-2025-cybersecurity-event-coverage-in-las-vegasFOLLOW ALL OF OUR ON LOCATION CONFERENCE COVERAGEhttps://www.itspmagazine.com/technology-and-cybersecurity-conference-coverageShare this newsletter and invite anyone you think would enjoy it!As always, let's keep thinking!— Marco [https://www.marcociappelli.com]

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