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My show is about teenagers, their unique realities and how best they can handle life's battles at this stage of their lives. On my show you'll hear things very pertinent to 21st century teenagers from an honest perspective, the teen perspective and a balance from mine as a teen mentor. You should listen to my show if you are a teenager, a young adult, a teen mentor or a 21st century parent with a sincere passion for a better relationship with teenagers.

KrisOAluta


    • Oct 13, 2023 LATEST EPISODE
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    Latest episodes from KrisOAluta

    Teenagers and Coping with Rejection Final Episode

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2023 8:46


    Self-care and Staying in a Positive Nurturing Environment

    Teens and coping with Rejection part 3

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2023 6:06


    Teens and Dealing with Rejection Part 3 Rejection comes in various kinds of shapes and sizes for teens, and it is something they will experience, it is only a matter of time. From your first crush not crushing back at you, to friends not showing up at your birthday party, losing out on the school sports team and more. All this as we previously stated, will trigger a negative energy -in-motion on our inside. This is why it is important we know ahead of time how best to manage rejection as teens bearing in mind, we are still trying to figure out who we are and how best to manage our energy -in-motion. Last week we started by recommending that we first acknowledge the rejection and call it what it is, no need to give it another name. Name it to tame it! This week, we look at another recommendation which is. 2. Do not allow the rejection to define you, rather grow from the experience. So, let us say you participated for the audition of your school's drama team and after the audition, you were not selected meaning you were rejected. In the words of Shaheensha Hafeez Khan, "It's easy to let external factors define us, especially the unfavorable ones, but only if we let them. Keep fighting & the unfavorable will become favorable". John Maxwell puts it this way, no matter the setback, you must first see value in yourself before you can add value to yourself. Thomas Edison said, " I never failed once at making a light bulb, I just found out 99 ways not to make one". Acknowledge you did not get the role, but the reason is not because you are terrible at acting. No, if you look deeply into the reason it may just be, you were not at your best during the audition, maybe you were a bit sick, or it was an audition for stage play which is going to be in front of a live audience, and your acting skills are more proficient in screen acting which is Infront of a camera. So like Thomas Edison, you are an actor who has just discovered how different both are, and you are going to use this new knowledge to grow from the experience as you continue the journey of discovering your own light bulb in sharpening your acting skills. Self-definition speaks of your entire being, consisting of all your characteristics, attributes, conscious, and unconscious, mental, and physical. Missing a lead role as painful as it may feel, should not define you as a failure, what about all the other aspects of you that you excelled in? It would be good to have a journal where you have defined yourself, stating all your attributes, you can run it by your mum or dad just to be sure you are not over flattering yourself. And the next time you go through any form of rejection, you pick up your journal and remind yourself who you are. This is all for today, thank you for listening

    Teenagers and Handling Rejection

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2023 6:40


    Teenagers and Rejection

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 22, 2023 7:26


    Rejection if not properly managed can generate strong negative emotions that can lead to other issues amongst teens. As teenagers, how should we manage rejection which can come in various forms such as losing out of the school's sports team, being kicked out of your BFF crew( Best friend for life crew), relocation, parent's bitter divorce...etc.

    Active Listening

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2023 8:29


    During our recent mid-term mentoring workshops for pre-teens and teenagers, one of our major areas of focus was “Active Listening”. I asked the participants at the workshop to define what active listening was and for them to differentiate it from listening and hearing, as it relates to conversations with their parents. Their responses were very insightful which has inspired today's episode to help teens and parents to work at improving their “Active Listening” skills. Hearing In the simplest of definition, hearing is the process, function, or power of perceiving sounds. To perceive, means to be aware of the sound, not necessary the message the sound is trying to convey. We hear with our ears, the sound coming from what someone is saying, music playing, teacher's instructions and what our parents are saying. Listening Listening on the other hand is the ability to accurately receive and interpret messages in the communication process. When listening, a person not only hears what others are saying but tries to understand what it means. Active listening Active Listening is a communication skill that involves going beyond simply hearing the words that another person speaks but also seeking to understand the meaning and intent behind what is said, accurately. It requires being an active participant in the communication process. We hear with our ear; we listen with our 5 senses, plus our heart. How Can We Be Active in Our Listening? 1.Pay attention: Most times teens find it very difficult to look at their parents during conversations. Some say they do this out of respect as some culture frowns at teens making eye contact with parents or elders during a conversation. But for a teenager to actively listen to their parents during a conversation, one must pay attention to their parent which in most times includes making eye contact. Research shows that looking at the speaker during a conversation, activates the prefrontal cortex of our brain, the area responsible for decision-making, attention, and other complex cognitive behaviors. As much as 65% of a person's communication is unspoken, and not paying attention would mean missing out on 65% of the message passed. 2. Body Language: Unlike hearing which we do with our ears, active listening involves our 5 senses plus our heart. With proper eye contact from paying attention, we consciously and unconsciously listen to the speaker with our body language and positioning. Most of the teens at the workshop admitted that most times when their parents are talking to them and they are not ready to listen, they reflect this to their parents through their body language, even when they say “Yes, mum/dad, I'm listening", their body language give them away and this always offends their parents. Any teenager that wants to be good at active listening must also practice listening with their body language. You demonstrate to the person talking that not only are you paying attention, but you mirror their body language, capturing the emotions behind their message. You allow them finish without interrupting them. Not an easy thing to do in today's world where everyone is in a hurry right? (smiling). 3. Be non-judgmental and ask questions to be sure you understand: active listening is more about the person talking that they are fully understood, than the person who they are talking to. The truth is, we all want to be heard. It feels very good when you know you've been heard and understood by an active listener. Most of the teens at the workshop kept saying “Uncle Kris, our parents just don't get it”, “they don't listen to us”. While I agreed with them, we were also able to demonstrate that they also don't get it and may also have not been listening to their parents actively. In active listening, you won't form an opinion, not until you've fully understood what the speaker is saying, with questions asked to clarify your understanding that it aligns with theirs.

    The Positive Side of Feeling Guilty

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2023 9:15


    MAKE ROOM FOR THE NEW

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2023 10:17


    MAKE ROOM FOR THE NEW “You will have such a surplus of crops that you will need to clear out the old grain to make room for the new harvest” Leviticus 26:10. In the book of Leviticus in the Bible, God said to the Israelites who had for the past four hundred years experienced slavery, with no clue of what freedom is, what to do with it, or what it looks like, to start making room for the new. God was telling them that they should be prepared for what is coming. The preparation should be so detailed that they would need to not only clear out the old but also make room for the ‘new' that freedom brings over the slavery mentality. Hiroo Onoda and World War II Hiroo Onoda was a Japanese soldier who, during World War II, was saddled with the responsibility of securing Lubang Island in the Philippines. He was ordered to do all he could to hamper enemy attacks on the island, including destroying the airstrip and the pier at the harbour. Onoda's orders also stated that under no circumstances was he to surrender. He was to take his own life instead, an assignment he took to heart and executed excellently well.

    Don't 'Blank' Your Canvas

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2022 10:26


    Social media has come to stay as one of the major means of socializing and the current generation of young adults are at the frontline of anything social media-related, from money-making, to stardom, endorsements, learning, entertainment, you name it. But then for most of these young adults whose brains, according to research, are yet to be fully developed, finding social solace on social media can spell doom if not properly checked. According to Idiom.thefreedictionary.com, a person can be described as a blank canvas if they project themselves as having nothing of substance or permanence within or imprinted upon them, such that they can be easily filled with entirely new things. It refers to a painter's canvas that has yet to be painted on. I am not debating for or against social media. A lot of research has highlighted its advantages (Brown and Michinov, 2019; Tefertiller et al., 2020, Twenge and Campbell, 2019) and disadvantages (Dhir et al., 2018;  Tonacci et al., 2019). What I am really saying is for every time you want to visit social media for validation, don't ‘blank' your canvas. Rather, show up with your canvas already painted with a clear definition of who you are, what you stand for and your intention to grow on that path even though you are keeping an open mind to things. Remember that most of what you see on social media has been refined to look that way, which may be far from reality. If you want to be real and authentic, don't ‘blank' your canvas because you want validation, it can lead to another kind of problem for you in the long run.  As the world celebrates this year's International Youth Day and tries to bring more attention to the youth and their peculiar needs, I want to join in this celebration and at the same time challenge every youth out there to understand that the world needs their peculiar brand of originality, their special uniqueness. As you go about chasing your dreams, don't ‘blank' your canvas. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Inner voices and Meditation

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 17, 2021 12:34


    In this 4th episode on the topic ' teens and their inner voices', we take a look at meditation as a soft skill that can help us better manage our inner voices.

    Creating a safe place for your Inner Voice can do the trick

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 27, 2021 12:44


    Teens and their Inner Voices.

    Inner Voices 3

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2021 9:39


    Meditation can do the trick

    Teens and their Inner Voices Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 5, 2021 10:15


    Automatic Negative thoughts(ANT) can be managed.

    Teenagers and their Inner Voices.

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2021 12:06


    Scientist say that our inner voices are as a result of our brain activities and that we have an average of 15,000 to 20,000 thoughts daily. Most of which are negative. As teens and young adutls, do we experience inner voices and how should we handle it, especially the ones that say " your parents don't love you", "you are ugly" and "nobody wants to be around you"?

    Teens and safety online.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 16, 2021 12:49


    After your parents must have gone through the hurdle of buying you a laptop and providing internet, you have the responsibility to ensure you follow certain minimum online safety procedures in your actions. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Choosing who your friends are is your responsibility, so choose wisely.

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2021 11:36


    If our friends are like an elevator that either take us up or bring us down, then choosing our friends is serious business.

    Vision 2021: Are you in the right company?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2021 12:08


    As you go about working your plans for 2021, are you walking with the right company that can aid your pursuit or vice versa?

    Visioning is Spiritual Pt 2.

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2021 9:12


    When God gives you a vision, He provides the resources to actualize the vision.

    Write the Vision Make It Plain

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2021 11:04


    Today,we have a lovely guest who is here to share with us her plans and how she is making her vision for 2021 plain. Enjoy!

    Write the Vision Make It Plain.

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2021 10:17


    Rank your Vision list according to your Most Valuable Goals( MVGs)... Visioning is Spiritual.

    Write down your Vision for 2021

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2021 6:26


    In an atmosphere of Gratitude, you see yourself elevated to an altitude where inspiration is in abundant supply.....write down the Vision...

    Gratitude, an emotion in the right direction.

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 18, 2020 10:08


    As we start winding down on 2020, let's get our energy geared up in the right direction.

    Dear teenager and young adult, what in life are you preparing for?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2020 9:47


    What in life are you preparing for? What life's challenge, are you preparing yourself to be a solution to?

    What inspires you?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2020 8:46


    Know your source of inspiration and cultivate it.

    Cultivating Psychological Safety in the home.

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2020 10:53


    You want others to be vulnerable?

    Psychological Safety in the home -Whose responsibility is it?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2020 12:17


    Silence should not be taken as consent.

    Psychological Safety in the home

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2020 9:58


    What is Psychological Safety and who is responsible for it in the home?

    Habits and SMART Goals.

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2020 8:19


    Our Habits have significant impact on our SMART Goals.

    Rape: The interviews part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2020 20:40


    In this continuation on the topic rape, I had the privilege of interviewing some young adults on what they know about rape.

    Teenagers, Young Adults & Rape

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2020 15:35


    Date Rape, Retaliatory Rape and others. Teenagers need to be very aware of Rape and how not be become a victim.

    Teenagers and Habits part 2.

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2020 14:36


    Cultivating a new #Habit.

    Hi Teenagers, let's build our social skills together.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 30, 2020 8:31


    In Continuation of our episode titled "Be Skilful" ,we narrow things down focusing on Social Skills. Enjoy! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Teenagers and Habits : Continuation

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 28, 2020 9:54


    Habits are settled tendencies that drives over 40% of our daily decisions. Do you know your habits and can your habits help get you to your destination in life?

    Teenagers and Habits.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 24, 2020 1:53


    There is so much being said today about Teenagers and their habits. In this episode we take an honest look at this topic as it relates to teenagers. Please watch out for the full episode. Thank you for listening and God bless .

    #Teenagers

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 21, 2020 4:03


    We are Teenagers and we are unique.

    Be Skilful

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2020 9:20


    As teenagers, our priority should be to identify and hone our various skills , as we prepare for the future.

    skilful
    Peer Pressure

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2020 11:26


    Peer pressure is a norm that we have to plan ahead on how best to handle it.

    Teenagers: Mood Swings

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 22, 2020 13:44


    One moment you are the happiest dude in class and suddenly the most irritable?

    Teen Crush.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2020 14:28


    What is a Crush? Is it something to be ashamed of? How should we handle our feelings or Crush?

    KrisOAluta (Trailer)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2020 0:58


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