Podcast appearances and mentions of anita cassidy

Zayna and Jonathan talk to authors Lori-Beth Bisbey, Anita Cassidy and Meg-John Barker about the challenges of writing both fiction and non-fiction that either focuses on or touches on consensual non monogamy. Lori Beth and Meg-John are both therapists. Lori Beth has written fiction, memoir and self-help, recently publishing Dancing the Edge to Reclaiming Your Reality (a guide for survivors of gaslighting and trauma). Meg-John is probably best known for the iconic Rewriting the Rules but has also written a pile of others including Life Isn't Binary, and Gender, a graphic guide. Anita is the author of the novel Appetite and runs the website Alethya, a community for people interested in pursuing conscious relationships.

The healing power of sound and music and its ability to open the door to great joy, personal awareness and consciousness are the themes of our interview with the delightful Anita Cassidy-Bowman.   Anita is a sound healing practitioner and teacher who has used sound and meditation to heal her own depression and to find true freedom and joy in her life.   For more than 20 years Anita has has explored vocal therapy and the sound science of ancient India to create truly magical sound healing bath and story-telling events and to teach others how to do the same.   Anita believes each miniscule part of us vibrates, creating sound, which then merges with and influences the energetic vibrations of the rest of our world from the inner earth to the stars and beyond.

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It's a warm welcome back to our dearest Anita Cassidy and Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey. Lori is a psychologist and sex and intimacy coach, and Anita is a writer and founder of Alethya.com We are back to talk about the repercussions of boundaries, new year's resolutions and expectations! It's a big one for anyone struggling with the enormous amounts of pressure we feel around this time of year to "improve ourselves" according to capitalism & patriarchy's standards. Instead, let's focus on communication and accountability. Anecdotes contain examples from: polyamory/non-monogamy, writing, single life, friendship, setting historical context to labels, inability to accept complexity, and living outside of boxes. Take sweet care you wonderful souls. Do the work, without the expectations, and be aware of your intuitions when inevitably curveballs happen! On Twitter, you can reach us at @drbisbey, @anitacassidy76 and @christinewild_ . You can find out more about Lori at drloribethbisbey.com and Anita at alethya.com. Do watch out for Lori's new weekly radio show "The A to Z of Sex" in the sexy lifestyle network part of Voiceamerica, coming this year! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/runningwildwithchristine/support

Writer, Novelist and co-founder of the first Conscious Relationship community, Anita Cassidy talks us through the slow rise of apathy and unhappiness in relationships and what to do about it. Growing up with her Dad in the RAF she went to 6 different schools and was socialised to be the good girl, get perfect grades and cause no trouble. She hid the secret shame of overeating sweets in toilet-stalls which upgraded to wine as she became an adult. She learned to run away from pain through surface perfection but not having he language to understand feelings or what they may be telling her. A series of fed-up moments acted as her catalyst for change including being so hung over at her son’s Christmas play that all she could think about was trying not to vomit. She ended up giving up drink from one day to the next and began learning to have real conversations and listen to herself. Writing, reading and generally discovering what brought her joy led to the moment, on her 10 year wedding anniversary, where she broached the topic of not being happy in her marriage and wanting to explore new ways of being. As Brene Brown says ‘When we numb pain we also numb joy’ and we discuss the benefits and challenges of opening ourselves up to pure JOY! Ask yourself, when was the last time you allowed yourself to fully go with the feeling of joy without immediately worrying about something bad happening. We discuss: How to talk about difficult things when it’s just a whisper of discontent not a shout How to be ok with who you are no matter what other people might think How to create space for reflection How to embrace joy Co-parenting after the conscious relationship conversation How to understand anger and anxiety and what we’ve been allowed to feel as women It’s a good one! Find information about Anita’s novels, coaching and conscious relationship community at http://www.anitacassidy.uk

It's a warm welcome back to our dear Anita Cassidy and a perfect introduction to Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey. Lori is a psychologist, sex and intimacy coach. Her mission is to take sex and conversations about sex from the shadows to the light. She divides her time between client work, speaking, live events, podcasting and writing. You can hear here on the A to Z of Sex ™ weekly and Sex spoken Here weekly. Today we decided to delve into the difficult arena of setting and respecting boundaries! When it comes to intimacy, parenting, time, consent and so many more circumstances, how do we navigate our need for self-care and the fickleness of shifting wants and needs? What does it mean to have to be firm and ask for what you "need", when a little voice in the back of your head second-guesses those same demands? We discuss what the hardest part about boundaries is for each of us, and then take a slippery slope down the areas of fear, trauma and intuition. Take a seat on this communal couch with us and let's share our beautiful vulnerabilities.... On Twitter, you can reach us at @drbisbey, @anitacassidy76 and @christinewild_ . You can find out more about Lori at drloribethbisbey.com and Anita at alethya.com. Do watch out for Lori's new weekly radio show "The A to Z of Sex" in the sexy lifestyle network part of Voiceamerica, coming in 2019. You can find out more about The Gift Of Fear here: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/56465.The_Gift_of_Fear Please do let us know if you have any comments, questions or ideas for future topics that you want to hear us discuss! Happy Friday and please show us some love! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/runningwildwithchristine/support

P is for Polyamory   Hi everyone!  Welcome to the A to Z of Sex.  I'm Dr Lori Beth and I am your host.  We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time.  Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don't have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is P and P is for Polyamory   Joining me for this conversation is Anita Cassidy, author, speaker and activist. We talked about polyamory, conscious relationships, friendships as relationship choices, deciding not to get on the relationship escalator, looking at the difficult issues and increasing the positivity in your relationships.   We talked a lot about unconscious expectations and the negative impact these often have on relationships and how becoming conscious and setting expectations with awareness and room for change makes relationships more stable and more exciting.  We spoke about how often polyamorous people get trapped in monogamous thinking because of conditions.    I talked about how monogamous relationships can benefit from setting expectations with awareness and regular relationship examination.   Today we talked about polyamory, conscious relationships, doing the hard work and the benefits you reap. If any of this triggered you or if you have a question or a comment, write to me at drloribeth@atozofsex.com. Thanks for joining me this week for the A to Z of Sex. Write in with your questions to drloribeth@atozofsex.com and visit both websites www.atozofsex.com and www.the-intimacy-coach.com to learn about alternative sexual choices, types of sexual relationships and to learn to sizzle and create that ideal lasting intimate relationship. For a free 30 minute session with me, head over to www.atozofsex.com and click on the button that says ‘book now'.   If you have enjoyed this podcast, please leave a review on Apple podcasts,  iTunes and/or Sticher and please subscribe! If you want access to extra writings, podcasts, videos and to know where you can see me live, sign up for my regular mailing by emailing me at drloribeth@atozofsex.com or picking up my free ebook at https://drloribeth.leadpages.co/intimacy-coach-opt Join me next week when the letter will be Q.

Anita Cassidy is back! We know how much you loved Episode 6, so we are back for another round of deep questions on social standards in our relationships. We all prefer to feel good, don't we? But what happens when we experience "negative" feelings within relationships? How do we discuss them in relationships that do or don't have solid communication tools in place? We give you our best advice and share some personal stories of our recent struggles. For you London folk, Anita and I will be in London on July 5th at her social on Extraordinary Conscious Relationships. Meet us between 6-10pm at Black & Blue, across from Waterloo station. More info on Anita's site nomoradicalrelationships.club Let's take this conversation IRL and have some drinks! As always, please rate, review and subscribe so I can keep doing this awesome work. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/runningwildwithchristine/support

In this sixth episode, Anity Cassidy and I discuss her book Appetite (http://amzn.eu/3dAVyBn), her approach to conscious relationships and writing about sexuality. We also share our takes on affairs, secret online lives, the difficulties we face as women, holding on to all the different sides of ourselves. Making mistakes is how we learn most often, don't you think? And what we've learned is that the secret to healthier relationships might be quite easy. Listen to find out! For more information, check out her website: www.anitacassidy.uk We also refer to Esther Perel. Check out her Ted Talks here: www.ted.com/speakers/esther_perel --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/runningwildwithchristine/support

Here is a reboot of Sex Love Stories 6, please enjoy:   Sex Spoken Here: Sex Love Stories 6:  Anita Cassidy     Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.    Today is the sixth instalment of the sex love series.  Joining me today is author Anita Cassidy.  Anita describes herself as a white British woman, age 41 who grew up moving around a lot because her father was in the Royal Air Force.    We started with her first awareness of herself as a sexual being and she said that this wasn’t until she was 14 or 15.  She said she didn’t touch herself and that sex wasn’t talked about in her home.  She described her first awareness as noticing her body’s response to movies (and being uncomfortable watching them with her parents), enjoying the Sunday Sport images of naked women and stories about sex and described saving enough pennies to try to listen to the women talk on the phone sex lines.    Anita said her first proper sexual experience was when she was 17 and with a boyfriend.  She spoke about being ready to have sex and being excited to explore this new chapter of her life.  She talked about the next number of boyfriends she had where the relationships were good and the sex was pleasant if not exciting.   She spoke about stable relationships through university and then moving to London and moving in with her boyfriend.   Anita spoke about her first job in advertising sales for the Independent and that the atmosphere at work was very sexually charged and she enjoyed this.  She commented that this is interesting given current focus on sexual harassment and whether there is any place for sex and relationships in the workplace.   She talked about a period of time spent exploring and how much she enjoyed this and being the centre of attention.   Anita talked about reaching 26 and deciding it was time to be serious so that she was taken seriously.  She identifies this time as when she truly split her mind from her body and that she didn’t believe she could have both and exciting sexual life and a serious career.  Anita spoke of marrying and that the sex was ‘good enough’ but not really exciting.  She said that she was pregnant within 6 months of marriage and the focus became on having a family.  She said that they were not a couple who had no sex for many months and that they talked about making sure they were still having sex but said that they never talked about sexual desires, wants or needs.  Anita highlighted this as a theme throughout her life up to that point.   Anita spoke of realising she was bored and unhappy once her children were both in school and child care.  She said she ended up in a conversation with a man she met through her writing and that this was when she discovered kink and BDSM.  She described this as though someone had ‘walked through (my) mind and turned all the lights on’.  She spoke of reading Dr Meg-John Barker’s ‘Rewriting the Rules’ and asking her husband to read the book as well.  She talked about the painful conversation that led to them opening up their marriage.   Anita talked about finally integrating her sexual needs and desires and how amazing this is.  She spoke of this transforming the rest of her life. Anita’s book is available to pre-order now on Amazon.  Here is the link: Appetite   Today we spoke about being kinky, BDSM, Master/slave relationships, non-monogamy, the importance of congruence and communication, the wonders of being raised without shame around sexuality. If you were triggered or if this resonates with you, do email me. In addition to emailing me at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com for more information, you can find resources on the podcast pages as part of the podcast notes. Check out these podcasts and blogs for more information: BDSM dating D/s Relationships Consent Communication Non-Monogamy 1 Non-Monogamy 2 Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. I have a TV channel on the BonBonNetwork For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to https://the-intimacy-coach.com/and click the button that says Schedule Now! on the contact page. Please leave a review on iTunes and stitcher.  The next five people who leave a review on iTunes or Stitcher will receive a 10% discount on any of my services.

Sex Spoken Here: Sex Love Stories 6:  Anita Cassidy     Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.    Today is the sixth instalment of the sex love series.  Joining me today is author Anita Cassidy.  Anita describes herself as a white British woman, age 41 who grew up moving around a lot because her father was in the Royal Air Force.    We started with her first awareness of herself as a sexual being and she said that this wasn’t until she was 14 or 15.  She said she didn’t touch herself and that sex wasn’t talked about in her home.  She described her first awareness as noticing her body’s response to movies (and being uncomfortable watching them with her parents), enjoying the Sunday Sport images of naked women and stories about sex and described saving enough pennies to try to listen to the women talk on the phone sex lines.    Anita said her first proper sexual experience was when she was 17 and with a boyfriend.  She spoke about being ready to have sex and being excited to explore this new chapter of her life.  She talked about the next number of boyfriends she had where the relationships were good and the sex was pleasant if not exciting.   She spoke about stable relationships through university and then moving to London and moving in with her boyfriend.   Anita spoke about her first job in advertising sales for the Independent and that the atmosphere at work was very sexually charged and she enjoyed this.  She commented that this is interesting given current focus on sexual harassment and whether there is any place for sex and relationships in the workplace.   She talked about a period of time spent exploring and how much she enjoyed this and being the centre of attention.   Anita talked about reaching 26 and deciding it was time to be serious so that she was taken seriously.  She identifies this time as when she truly split her mind from her body and that she didn’t believe she could have both and exciting sexual life and a serious career.  Anita spoke of marrying and that the sex was ‘good enough’ but not really exciting.  She said that she was pregnant within 6 months of marriage and the focus became on having a family.  She said that they were not a couple who had no sex for many months and that they talked about making sure they were still having sex but said that they never talked about sexual desires, wants or needs.  Anita highlighted this as a theme throughout her life up to that point.   Anita spoke of realising she was bored and unhappy once her children were both in school and child care.  She said she ended up in a conversation with a man she met through her writing and that this was when she discovered kink and BDSM.  She described this as though someone had ‘walked through (my) mind and turned all the lights on’.  She spoke of reading Dr Meg-John Barker’s ‘Rewriting the Rules’ and asking her husband to read the book as well.  She talked about the painful conversation that led to them opening up their marriage.   Anita talked about finally integrating her sexual needs and desires and how amazing this is.  She spoke of this transforming the rest of her life. Anita’s book is available to pre-order now on Amazon.  Here is the link: Appetite   Today we spoke about being kinky, BDSM, Master/slave relationships, non-monogamy, the importance of congruence and communication, the wonders of being raised without shame around sexuality. If you were triggered or if this resonates with you, do email me. In addition to emailing me at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com for more information, you can find resources on the podcast pages as part of the podcast notes. Check out these podcasts and blogs for more information: BDSM dating D/s Relationships Consent Communication Non-Monogamy 1 Non-Monogamy 2 Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. I have a TV channel on the BonBonNetwork For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to https://the-intimacy-coach.com/and click the button that says Schedule Now! on the contact page. Please leave a review on iTunes and stitcher.  The next five people who leave a review on iTunes or Stitcher will receive a 10% discount on any of my services. I forward to next week’s sex love story.    

Welcome to the Software Process and Measurement Cast 102. SPaMCAST 102 features my interview with Anita Cassidy.  We discussed her book "A Practical Guide to Information Systems Strategic Planning" along with how to improve value and performance of IT! Anita Cassidy is owner and partner of ITDirections ( www.itdirections.com ), a technology consulting organization focused on the areas of strategic planning, assessments, software selection, contract negotiation, process improvement, coaching and temporary CIO. With over 30 years experience in IT, Anita has a reputation in the industry as a trusted advisor, consultant, and executive coach who has a true passion and track-record for making a difference. Anita is a nationally recognized industry leader in strategic planning and has published five books, including a best-seller titled "A Practical Guide to Information Systems Strategic Planning" (Taylor & Francis Group). Her latest book, published in 2010 was titled "A Practical Guide to Reducing IT Costs" (JRoss Publishing). As an accomplished facilitator, instructor, presenter, and industry expert, she has been a speaker at many national events and conferences, quoted in various articles and magazines, and served as a technology advisor and industry authority. Anita has held the CIO, VP, and top IT positions in worldwide companies such as Fisher-Rosemount (a division of Emerson Electric), Sanofi Diagnostics Pasteur (Beckman Coulter), and Graco. Anita is also an adjunct professor co-teaching an Engineering IT masters course at St. Thomas University.  Ms. Cassidy holds a Bachelor of Science in Business Management with MIS emphasis from the University of Minnesota, Carlson School of Management. Ad for my book! Mastering Software Project Management: Best Practices, Tools and Techniques co-authored by Murali Chematuri and myself and published by J. Ross Publishing has hit the bookshelves!  According to Robert C. Anderson, Director, Process Development and Quality Assurance, Computer Aid, Inc, "Mastering Software Project Management is a masterpiece of clarity, organization and depth of practical knowledge." If you a project manager or know project managers buy yourself a copy and a second to lend co-workers!Have you bought your copy? Contact information for the Software Process and Measurement CastEmail:  spamcastinfo@gmail.comVoicemail:  +1-206-888-6111Website: www.spamcast.netTwitter: www.twitter.com/tcagleyFacebook:  http://bit.ly/16fBWV Conferences and Speaking Engagements in 2010 (To Date)October 7th 11:00 - 12:30 Webinar: Functional Metrics and Agile Estimation, RevisitedRegister here! Synopsis - Estimation is a lightning rod for conflicts between agile and process driven methodologies. However, times are changing, and agile is maturing.  Part of the process of maturing is the incorporation of best practices from other methods and frameworks.  In this webinar, Tom Cagley will explain how functional metrics allow you to incorporate additional process discipline into the estimation processes typically used by agile teams. Next!SPaMCAST 103 will feature the thirds installment of the Seven Deadly Sins of Measurement Programs essay.  We take on sloth, really this time!

SPaMCAST 101 features the second part of my Seven Deadly Sins of Measurement Programs essay.  In this installment we focus on gluttony.  I jumped over sloth as I decided it needed a rewrite (no sloth here!). Citrix GoToAssist Express is sponsoring SPaMCAST Solve technical issues faster with GoToAssist Express. Try it FREE for 30 days. Ad for my book! Mastering Software Project Management: Best Practices, Tools and Techniques co-authored by Murali Chematuri and myself and published by J. Ross Publishing has hit the bookshelves!  According to Robert C. Anderson, Director, Process Development and Quality Assurance, Computer Aid, Inc, "Mastering Software Project Management is a masterpiece of clarity, organization and depth of practical knowledge." If you a project manager or know project managers buy yourself a copy and a second to lend co-workers! Have you bought your copy? Contact information for the Software Process and Measurement CastEmail:  spamcastinfo@gmail.comVoicemail:  +1-206-888-6111Website: www.spamcast.netTwitter: www.twitter.com/tcagleyFacebook:  http://bit.ly/16fBWV Conferences and Speaking Engagements in 2010 (To Date) October 7th 11:00 - 12:30 Webinar: Functional Metrics and Agile Estimation, Revisited Register here! Estimation is a lightening rod for conflicts between agile and process driven methodologies. However, times are changing, and agile is maturing.  Part of the process of maturing is the incorporation of best practices from other methods and frameworks.  In this webinar, Tom Cagley will explain how functional metrics allow you to incorporate additional process discipline into the estimation processes typically used by agile teams. Next!SPaMCAST 102 features my interview with Anita Cassidy.  We discussed her book "A Practical Guide to Information Systems Strategic Planning" along with how to improve value and performance of IT!