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In this episode I chat with Lauren, a neuro-affirming coach and founder of Curious Coaching. Lauren shares her journey from particle physicist to workplace wellbeing expert and explores how her own late-discovered neurodivergence shaped her life, wellbeing and career. We also discuss the importance of creating inclusive workplaces that honour both neurodiversity and gender identity. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I do. You can connect with me on Instagram @anastefancoaching You can connect with Lauren soon LinkedIn or her website LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/dawsonlauren Website - https://curious-coaching.co.uk/ Reading list: ADHD: An A to Z by Leanne Maskell is a great starting point, overview and reference point. 2. Unmasked: The ultimate guide to ADHD, autism and neurodivergence by Ellie Middleton for a great translation of traits into how they present in women. She also has a new book coming out in September - 'How to be you' 3. Life Isn't Binary: On Being Both, Beyond, and In-Between by Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi 4. Neuroqueer Heresies by Dr Nick Walker explores the neurodiversity paradigm, Autistic empowerment and postnormal possibilities 5. The power of different: Then link between disorder and genius by Gail Saltz, M.D. Covers a range of differences including ADHD
En este episodio exploramos el significado más amplio de "lo queer" como excusa para discutir temas más amplios relacionados con la inclusión, la diversidad y la justicia social. Manuel y Rai, las mentes creativas detrás de Jacobo Toledo, son dos diseñadores multidisciplinares cuya práctica se centra en la exploración de identidades queer y las narrativas visuales que emergen de estas. Nos cuentan cómo ellos exploran la complejidad y la riqueza del diseño queer y cómo creen que está moldeando el panorama del diseño contemporáneo hacia un enfoque más inclusivo y diverso. Referencias: Estudio de joyas Jacobo Toledo Rai Jacob: @raijacob Manu Huesca: @manuhuesca Queer Design Club "Quién teme al género" de Judith Butler: lectura recomendada "Tengo que morir todas las noches" de Guillermo Osorno: lectura recomendada "La noche soy yo" de Henri Donnadieu: lectura recomendada "La sociedad del cansancio" y "La salvación de lo bello" de Byung Chul Han: lectura recomendada "Queer x design: 50 years of signs, symbols, banners, logos, and graphic art of LGBTQ" de Andy Campbell: lectura recomendada "Queer, una historia gráfica" de Meg-John Barker: lectura recomendada “Let's say Gay” referencia al término “Queer” de Bell Hooks: artículo What does it mean “to queer” design: artículo
This episode may get your heads scratching if you're tuning in from a society that has very specific relationship dynamics and arrangements in place. My curiosity to how other's live their lives and what they deem as healthy for their relationships has never been higher, as I am in the process of becoming the best partner and friend myself.In this episode, I speak to Akil Apollo Davis, a full-time Performing Artist & Theatre Professor of Mask and Art Aesthetic. He has been a unique and influential presence in New York City's performance, educational and cultural avant-garde for 2 decades. We discuss the ins and outs of this thing called Sex Positivity. And to give you a brief idea, sex positivity is a social and cultural movement that promotes an affirmative and open attitude towards all aspects of sexuality. It encourages individuals to embrace and explore their own sexual desires, preferences, and identities without judgment or shame. Sex positivity emphasizes the importance of consent, communication, and respect in sexual relationships. He has trained with Monks in Thailand, Brahmans in Bali, Witches in New York, and has worked with Psychologists to bridge the gaps between esoteric knowledge and classical paradigms. Akil's Karmic mantra: there must be more light. Episode Highlights Meet the one and only Akil How he went from celibacy to monogamy to discovering consensual non-monogamy Akil's understanding of attachment and fear in relationships The establishment of monogamy Accessing your healthy sexual energy The tiers of being non-monogamous, and the importance of communication on your wants and needs Emotional maturity Real life examples on how non-monogamy works The ins and outs of play parties The downsides of sex positivity/monogamy Compersion - a new word to remember Resources, courtesy of Akil:Sex-Positivity for Curious Minds 1.“The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy2.“Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life” by Emily Nagoski3.“Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships” by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá4.“Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships” by Tristan Taormino5.“What Makes a Baby” by Cory Silverberg (for all kinds of families)6.“Queer: A Graphic History” by Meg-John Barker and Julia Scheele7.“The New Topping Book” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy8.“The New Bottoming Book” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy9.“Girl Sex 101” by Allison Moon and KD Diamond10.“Pussy: A Reclamation” by Regena Thomashauer11.“Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century” by Barbara Carrellas12.“Sex God Method” by Daniel Rose13.“The Art of Sexual Magic: Cultivating Sexual Energy to Transform Your Life” by Margo Anand Psychological and Emotional Work for Curious Minds1.“The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” by Bessel van der Kolk2.“The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse” by Wendy Maltz3.“Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma” by Staci Haines4.“Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha” by Tara Brach5.“The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship” by Don Miguel Ruiz6.“Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” by Dr. Sue Johnson7.“More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory” by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert8.“Love's Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy” by Irvin D. Yalom9.“Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex—and How to Get It” by Marty Klein Improving Your Sex Life1.“She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman” by Ian Kerner2.“The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know” by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams3.“The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge” by Tristan Taormino4.“The Multi-Orgasmic Woman: How Any Woman Can Experience Ultimate Pleasure and Dramatically Enhance Her Health and Happiness” by Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams5.“The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: How Couples Can Dramatically Enhance Their Pleasure, Intimacy, and Health” by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams6.“The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover” by David Deida7.“Guide to Getting It On: Unzipped” by Paul Joannides, Psy.D.8.“Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man” by Ian Kerner Get in touch with Stephanie: www.listeningwellpodcast.com | @listeningwellpodcast Thank you for Listening Well!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
En este episodio de nuestro podcast, exploraremos el mundo del movimiento Queer y su impacto en la industria tecnológica. Conoceremos a Fran Rodriguez Prados y nos adentraremos en una conversación que abordará temas desde la identidad personal hasta las estrategias para promover la inclusión y la diversidad en el entorno laboral.Este es el episodio 21 de la cuarta temporada del podcast de Charlas Técnicas de AWS.Tabla de Contenidos:01:03 Conociendo a Fran 03:26 ¿Qué es el movimiento Queer? 04:43 Involucrándose en el activismo Queer 07:14 Experiencia personal a lo largo de esta identidad 09:05 Cómo afecta el activismo Queer en la industria tecnológica 12:30 Desafíos en la industria tecnológica 18:36 Anécdotas en el campo tecnológico 26:16 Herramientas ante la discriminación 36:38 Cómo fomentar la Inclusión y Diversidad (I&D) 45:05 Creando el sitio perfecto 51:46 Recursos y reflexiones finalesPerfiles Invitado: - LinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/prados/- Twitter: https://twitter.com/MiniFranky
Minter Dialogue with Justin Hancock Justin Hancock, based in England, has been a relationships and sex educator for over 20 years. In that time he has worked with thousands of young people in schools, youth clubs, universities, and advice services. Justin created and still works at bishuk.com which is one of the leading relationships and sex education websites for young people over 14, this site attracts thousands of people per day. Justin provides training courses and RSE resources for teachers. He offers relationships and sex education for an over 18 audience too. He wrote ‘Enjoy Sex (How, when and IF, You Want To)' with Meg-John Barker, with whom he records the ‘Meg-John & Justin' podcast, and most recently published "Can We Talk About Consent, A book about freedom, choices and agreement," published by Frances Lincoln Children's Books in 2021. In this conversation, we look at the state of sex and relationships today, typically among the younger generations, the decline in reported sex, toxic masculinity, #MeToo, the rise of mental health issues, and how to broach consent, especially in a work environment. If you've got comments or questions you'd like to see answered, send your email or audio file to nminterdial@gmail.com; or you can find the show notes and comment on minterdial.com. If you liked the podcast, please take a moment to go over to Apple Podcasts or your favourite podcast channel, to rate/review the show. Otherwise, you can find me @mdial on Twitter.
Seeing double? This here podcast just so happens to share its name with a brilliant LGBTQIA+ bookshop, located in the heart of one of the queer places to be in the UK: Manchester. I met Matthew, the owner, and Jasper, the beagle, in the shop for a chat about their origin story, their book clubs and their exciting next move… Don't delay, listen (and visit) today! Referenceshttps://www.queerlit.co.uk/Social RefugeFeel Good ClubThe Cockatoo ClubDaniel Harding's Gay Man TalkingMatt CainHenry FryJulia ArmfieldMeg-John Barker's Rewriting the Rules and How to Understand Your Sexuality https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/“Non-binary Life” with Meg-John Barker https://www.spreaker.com/episode/48558860Alice OsemanSheena Patel's I'm A FanOcean Vuong's On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous Questions you may want to think about:If you could create any queer space, what would it look like?How do you find queer books? Matthew talks about many LGBTQIA+ books not being identifiable as such right away. Why do you think that is? Which queer book would you want to be in every school library?
This episode we're talking about Gender Theory & Gender Studies! We discuss theory vs studies, memes, feminism, books that should exist but don't, and more! You can download the podcast directly, find it on Libsyn, or get it through Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, or your favourite podcast delivery system. In this episode Anna Ferri | Meghan Whyte | Matthew Murray | Jam Edwards Things We Read (or tried to…) A Burst of Light by Audre Lorde Histories of the Transgender Child by Jules Gill-Peterson Before We Were Trans: A New History of Gender by Kit Heyam Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity by Julia Serano Queer: A Graphic History by Meg-John Barker and Jules Scheele Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Vaid-Menon A Quick & Easy Guide to Queer & Trans Identities by Mady G. and J.R. Zuckerberg Other Media We Mentioned BITCHfest: Ten Years of Cultural Criticism from the Pages of Bitch Magazine edited by Lisa Jervis & Andi Zeisler Body Outlaws: Rewriting the Rules of Beauty and Body Image edited by Ophira Edut A Room of One's Own by Virginia Woolf Female Masculinity by Jack Halberstam Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity by Julia Serano Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us by Kate Bornstein The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership by Darcy Lockman For Her Own Good: Two Centuries of the Experts' Advice to Women by Barbara Ehrenreich and Deirdre English The Argonauts by Maggie Nelson X-Gender, vol. 1 by Asuka Miyazaki A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns by Archie Bongiovanni and Tristan Jimerson Feminism is For Everybody by bell hooks Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne A Girl's Guide to Taking Over the World: Writings From The Girl Zine Revolution edited by Karen Green & Tristan Taormino Links, Articles, and Things A small sample of Bibliocommons user-curated lists: Early Feminism Through 1847 Feminist Classics: Third Wave Feminism, the 1990s Trans Classics: important books about the many trans experiences Very Short Introductions (Wikipedia) TERF / FART / “Gender Critical” Transgender Childhood Is Not a ‘Trend' by Jules Gill-Peterson Gill-Peterson is one of 1,000+ contributors to the New York Times who signed an open letter condemning the anti-trans bigotry in their coverage. Read it here. Hark! Episode 330: Fucking Pie 20 Gender Theory/Studies books by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) Authors Every month Book Club for Masochists: A Readers' Advisory Podcasts chooses a genre at random and we read and discuss books from that genre. We also put together book lists for each episode/genre that feature works by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) authors. All of the lists can be found here. Living a Feminist Life by Sara Ahmed The Sacred Hoop: Recovering the Feminine in American Indian Traditions by Paula Gunn Allen Borderlands/La Frontera: The New Mestiza by Gloria Anzaldúa Decolonizing Trans/Gender 101 by b. binaohan The Crunk Feminist Collection edited by Brittney Cooper, Susana M. Morris, & Robin M. Boylorn Beyond Trans: Does Gender Matter? by Heath Fogg Davis Women, Race & Class by Angela Y. Davis Asegi Stories: Cherokee Queer and Two-Spirit Memory by Qwo-Li Driskill Radicalizing Her: Why Women Choose Violence by Nimmi Gowrinathan White Tears/Brown Scars: How White Feminism Betrays Women of Color by Ruby Hamad Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center by bell hooks But Some of Us Are Brave: All the Women Are White, All the Blacks Are Men: Black Women's Studies by Akasha Gloria Hull Indigenous Men and Masculinities: Legacies, Identities, Regeneration edited by Robert Alexander Innes and Kim Anderson Patriarchy Blues: Reflections on Manhood by Frederick Joseph Hood Feminism: Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot by Mikki Kendall Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches by Audre Lorde This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color edited by Cherríe Moraga & Gloria Anzaldúa Colonize This!: Young Women of Color on Today's Feminism edited by Bushra Rehman I'm Afraid of Men by Vivek Shraya Black on Both Sides: A Racial History of Trans Identity by C. Riley Snorton Give us feedback! Fill out the form to ask for a recommendation or suggest a genre or title for us to read! Check out our Tumblr, follow us on Twitter or Instagram, join our Facebook Group, or send us an email! Join us again on Tuesday, March 21st when we'll be talking about the Moving and Management of Books! Then, on Tuesday, April 4th we'll be discussing the genre of Domestic Thrillers!
Fran chats to Dr. Sophia Graham about all things Self-consent: what it is, why it matters and how do we even do it? We talk about all the various aspects of being in a consent-based relationship with ourselves, including interoception (what on earth is that? find out here!), sociocratic decision-making, healthy self-trust and healthy self-doubt, and so much more! A bit about Sophia: Dr Sophia Graham is a recovering academic who has become a coach after completing therapy training in the UK. Self Consent is her passion project – and the work she finds most personally challenging, too. A wise friend once told her “your mess is your message” and she is living proof of concept (thanks Meg John Barker). She is a settled, white, queer, disabled, consensually non monogamous, survivor presently living on unceded Massachusett land. Most of her work revolves around teaching and learning about DBT skills, gender and sexual diversity, consensual non-monogamy, consent, sex work and neurodiversity. Links: The Love Uncommon Blog https://loveuncommon.com/ The Self-Consent Wheel: https://loveuncommon.com/2022/02/24/learning-self-consent-by-building-skills/ Sophia's self consent course: https://loveuncommon.com/self-consent-courses/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/consentbasedeverything/message
Sex is simple. Or so we're taught; animals can be male or female. But even the briefest glance at the animal kingdom tells us that this simply isn't true. Some creatures have only one sex; some have three; some have none at all. Some animals are two sexes at the same time; some flip flop between them when the time is right. When evolution came to solve the problem of procreation, she did it in a myriad of mind-blowing ways.When it comes to humans, it's even more complicated - we have this thing called Gender, too. It's often defined as the social and cultural side of sex, distinct from the biological. But that's not the full story. Becky Ripley and Emily Knight travel back to the dawn of human culture, and into the tangled depths of our genetic code, to try and unravel why we are the way we are, and why it matters so much that we understand it all properly.Featuring Professor Jenny Graves, geneticist at La Trobe University, and the writer and scholar Meg-John Barker.
Dr Katie McDowell is my friend and colleague, and if I'm honest, the first trans and non-binary person I've known socially. Over the year that I've known Katie my understanding of gender and sexuality has completely transformed. When I thought about calling the podcast "She's The Doctor", my first thought was to run it by Katie. They approved and were keen to be a guest on the show - so today's episode is extra special as it is “They're The Doctor”. I have had so many interesting conversations with Katie over the last year which have challenged and changed my thoughts on a variety of socially accepted norms around gender, and I'm so glad to be able to share some of these with you today. This episode is a mixture of hearing from Katie about their lived experience as a trans non-binary person and paediatric doctor, but also learning about how we can be better allies, more empathetic doctors to our patients and how far we have to go as a healthcare systems. We hear their story of “coming out” (for want of a better term) as non-binary and the process of having top surgery. We also discuss paediatrics - working as paediatricians, how gender has a huge role in neonates, how we can better care for our LGBTQ+ patients. We touch on many important topics in this conversation and I'm very grateful to Katie for being so open and giving us their time and energy to educate us on topics that people often shy away from discussing. Where you can find Dr Katie McDowell: LinkedIn: Dr Katie McDowell Twitter: @KatuMcD Trans-formational? Why we need to do better for trans young people in the UK. The British Student Doctor Journal. 2021;5(2):75–84 Where you can find Dr Radhika Thakrar: Email: doctorradhika28@gmail.com Instagram: @doctorradhika Twitter: @RadhikaThakrar Useful Resources: Gender / Sexuality / Queer series of graphic novels by Meg-John Barker and Julia Scheele The Transgender Issue by Shon Faye Life Isn't Binary by Meg-John Barker Trans Power by Juno Roche None of The Above by Travis Alabanza NB: My Non-Binary Life podcast – Amrou Al-Kadhi & Caitlin Benedict Rainbow Badge Scheme New episodes out every Tuesday :) (although this is the last of this season so I will be having a break for a few weeks as of 6th September 2022!) Don't forget to rate, like and subscribe (please and thank you!)
In this final episode for season three we finish by completing the circle of sex education with Justin Hancock. Justin is a sex and relationships educator, trainer and practitioner working with young people and adults in this field since 1999. His website BISHuk.com is one of the leading sex and relationships advice websites for all those over 14. It receives thousands of visits per day and is highly regarded by young people and practitioners alike. Justin has worked in schools, colleges, universities, and youth projects for over 20 years delivering relationships & sex education (RSE) with young people over 14. In addition to this Justin works with practitioners in sex and relationships education and sexual health services providing training and resources. He is also the co-author of a sex advice book with Meg-John Barker ( episode 14 of this season) ‘Enjoy Sex - How, When and If You Want To'. He hosts the Culture Sex Relationships podcast. Justin's latest book is ‘Can We Talk About Consent', published by Quarto Books, is out now. www.bishuk.com www.bishtraining.com soundcloud.com/culturesexrelationships Social @bishtraining twitter
This episode brings two leading powerhouses of gender, trauma and their intersections with sex and pleasure. In this episode we look at the notion of intersectionality and how pleasure is informed by so much more than whats in our pants. You can find joy and pleasure after trauma and why generic sex advice can often make things worse for us than we intend. Alex Iantaffi, PhD, MS, SEP, CST, LMFT (they/them) is a family therapist, WPATH certified gender specialist, AASECT certified sex therapist, Somatic ExperiencingⓇ practitioner, clinical supervisor, and author. Alex is Chair of the Trans and Queer interest network of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) and President Elect of the Minnesota Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (MAMFT). Alex is the author of "Gender Trauma: healing cultural, social, and historical gendered trauma" and co-author of the books "How to UnderstandYour Gender: a practical guide for exploring who you are", “How To Understand Your Sexuality”, “Life Isn't Binary”, and “Hell Yeah Self-Care: a Trauma-Informed Workbook”. They also host the podcast Gender Stories. You can find out more about them at www.alexiantaffi.com or follow them on Twitter and Instagram @xtaffi and @genderstories Meg-John Barker is the author of a number of popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including graphic guides to Queer, Gender, and Sexuality, How To Understand Your Gender, Life Isn't Binary, Enjoy Sex (How, When, and IF You Want To), Rewriting the Rules, and Hell Yeah Self Care. They have also written a number of books for scholars and counsellors on these topics, drawing on their own years of academic work and therapeutic practice. Website: rewriting-the-rules.com. Twitter: @megjohnbarker, YouTube: MegJohnBarkerPsych
¿Por qué decir todes si ya existe todos? ¿Por qué incomoda la propuesta no binaria directa? Ya que estamos, ¿qué es el lenguaje inclusivo?, ¿y el lenguaje no binario?En este episodio, Carla Bataller Estruch, desde España, y Viviana Ávila Alfaro, desde Chile, nos hablan del lenguaje inclusivo no binario directo (nomenclatura que acuña Ártemis López). Une, editore y traductore; la otra, lingüista y con mucho interés en el lenguaje no binario. ¿Lista para escucharnos? Enlaces de interés Viviana Por mí y por todas mis compañeras - Blogspot El blog de todes - Blogspot Viviana Ávila Alfaro- Goodreads @laverdaderavivi (Instagram) Carla Carla Bataller Estruch - LinkedIn Fábulas estelares – Blog de literatura (carlabatallerestruch.com) Carla Bataller Estruch - Goodreads Carla Bataller Estruch – Crononauta @trad_carbaes (Twitter e Instagram) https://www.revistamercurio.es/2022/01/29/el-espejo-no-binario/ Otros Libro. Cómo entender tu género, Alex Iantaffi y Meg-John Barker Ed. Dos bigotes La entrada NC10: Lenguaje inclusivo no binario directo se publicó primero en Navegando Cultura.
Zayna and Jonathan talk to authors Lori-Beth Bisbey, Anita Cassidy and Meg-John Barker about the challenges of writing both fiction and non-fiction that either focuses on or touches on consensual non monogamy. Lori Beth and Meg-John are both therapists. Lori Beth has written fiction, memoir and self-help, recently publishing Dancing the Edge to Reclaiming Your Reality (a guide for survivors of gaslighting and trauma). Meg-John is probably best known for the iconic Rewriting the Rules but has also written a pile of others including Life Isn't Binary, and Gender, a graphic guide. Anita is the author of the novel Appetite and runs the website Alethya, a community for people interested in pursuing conscious relationships.
TW: This episode contains discussion of transphobia In this episode, Ruby is exploring how their own gender feels to them, speaking to her sibling and partner as well as other gender non-confirming and non-binary people about their experiences. She also hears from Meg-John Barker about what gender even is, the ways that we all go on a journey with gender throughout our lives, and the impacts these conversations are having. Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1RgDeoCT8XbfTMWd4YzcFd5afRwbnPaKK/view?usp=sharing CREDITS: Host: Ruby Rare Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West Social Assets: /Forward Slash This is a Broccoli Production Full transcript available here: RESOURCES: Gendered Intelligence Increasing understandings of gender diversity and improve trans people's quality of life Phone: 0330 355 9678 (Mon, Tues, Thurs 2pm-7pm / Wed, Fri 10am-3pm) Website: http://genderedintelligence.co.uk The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge Free and confidential helpline. Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day) Galop Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm) Website: http://www.galop.org.uk Switchboard LGBT+ Helpline to discuss things including sexuality, gender identity, and emotional wellbeing. Website w/chat: https://switchboard.lgbt Phone: 0300 330 0630 (Every day 10am - 10pm) LGBT Foundation Helpline run by LGBT health charity. Phone: 0345 3 30 30 30 (Weekdays 9am-9pm, Weekends 10am-6pm) Website: http://lgbt.foundation/helpline LINKS & FURTHER READING: Life Isn't Binary: On Being Both, Beyond, and In-Between by Alex Iantaffi & Meg-John Barker https://www.waterstones.com/book/life-isnt-binary/alex-iantaffi/meg-john-barker/9781785924798 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It's another Ask Justin week and this time I'm reading out an article I've written which is available at patreon.com/culturesexrelationships 'I've Never Been Able To Orgasm.' There are a lot of aggregated ideas about sex and bodies in your question which I think would be useful to examine up close to see how much we can see them shifting. The way that you refer to orgasms, the body, and the self could all do with being allowed to move. Please help support the podcast by either signing up to the Patreon or you could also buy some of the resources that I made with Meg-John Barker. Find those at megjohnandjustin.com/publications Justin
We love a good ‘both and': both cake and ice cream, both dogs and cats -- Meg-John Barker, who is both extremely clever and very warm and kind! Meg-John is an activist, writer, scholar, therapist, and expert on everything beyond the binary. In this episode, as well as in their multiple graphic guides, MJ explains how rigid binaries harm our bodies, limit our minds and how many benefits life beyond the binary has to offer, not just for genderqueer people but for everyone. Do you need more mental health input and genderqueer content? Let's face it; we all do, and here is where you can get some: @megjohnbarker and @Lena_Mattheis on Twitter, @queerlitpodcast on Instagram.Books and other awesome stuff by Meg-John Barker:https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/ Life Isn't Binary (with Alex Iantaffi)Gender: A Graphic Guide (with Jules Scheele)Queer: A Graphic History (with Jules Scheele)Mad: A Graphic GuideThe Meg-John & Justin Podcasthttps://www.patreon.com/MegJohnBarker People, places and texts mentioned:Lynda BarryJustin HancockJack HalberstamOpen Barbers (London)99% Invisible: On Averagehttps://99percentinvisible.org/episode/on-average/Beth Berila's Contemplative Practices for Ant-Oppression Pedagogybell hooksTorrey PetersJuno RocheCrossing Waves PodcastAlison Bechdel's Fun HomeEllen Forney's MarbelsNicole Georges‘ Calling Dr. LauraMaia Kobabe's Gender Queer: A MemoirBecky ChambersQuestions you might want to reflect on after listening:1.What does ‘non-binary' mean?2.How does binary thinking affect our everyday lives? Can you think of one example from the podcast and one from your own experience?3.How does the (constructed) emotional/rational binary affect learning, teaching and mental health?4.What are your thoughts about the sex/gender divide?5.Which book do you read when you need to feel warm and positive?
El and Josie chat about all the queer books El read in 2021! Check out the Gender Journeys Storygraph Challenges: Fiction Challenge Nonfiction Challenge While you're there, follow El's Storygraph at OutToExist! Queer Books El Read in 2021: The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald The Thirty Names of Night by Zeyn Joukhadar Raising Them by Kyl Myers What's Your Pronoun?: Beyond He and She by Dennis Baron Memoir of a Race Traitor by Mab Segrest The Song of Achilles by Madelline Miller The Deep by Rivers Solomon Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Vaid-Menon The Gay Revolution: The Story of the Struggle by Lillian Faderman The Empress of Salt and Fortune by Nghi Vo The Stonewall Reader edited by The New York Public Library Glitter+Ashes: Queer Tales of a World That Wouldn't Die edited by dave ring All Boys Aren't Blue by George M. Johnson Magnus Chase and the Gods of Asgard by Rick Riordan Transgender History by Susan Stryker Rubyfruit Jungle by Rita Mae Brown Trap Door: Trans Cultural Production and the Politics of Visibility Captive Genders by Eric A Stanley A Low Life In High Heels by Holly Woodlawn and Jeffrey Copeland In the Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado When The Tiger Came Down the Mountain by Nghi Vo Cemetery Boys by Aiden ThomasWhen The Tiger Comes Down the Mountain How To Survive a Plague by David France Detransition Baby by Torey Peters All Out: The No-Longer-Secret Stories of Queer Teens Throughout the Ages edited by Saundra Mitchell No Man of Woman Born by Ana Mardoll Boy Erased: A Memoir of Identity, Faith, and Family by Garrard Conley Normal Life by Dean Spade Tomorrow Will Be Different by Sarah McBride Boyfriend Material by Alexis Hall Last Night at the Telegraph Club by Malinda Lo Razorblade Tears by S.A. Crosby Pheonix Extravagant by Yoon Ha Lee Freshwater by Akwaeke Emezi One Last Stop by Casey McQuiston Cosmoknights by Hannah Templer Once & Future by Cori McCarthy and A.R. Capetta The Invisible Library by Genevieve Cogman Between Perfect and Real by Roy Stoeve The Ghosts We Keep by Mason Deaver Nonbinary Lives edited by Jos Twist, Ben Vincent, Meg-John Barker and Kat Gupta Winterkeep by Kristin Cashore The House In the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune The Queer Art of Failure by Jack Halberstam Real Queer America by Samantha Allen When the Moon Was Ours by Anna-Marie McLemore The Nobleman's Guide to Scandal and Shipwrecks by Mackenzie Lee Music for Gender Journeys Composed by Sonia Bourdaghs *** Follow us on social media or find us online! Twitter: @Gender_Journeys Tumblr: GenderJourneys.tumblr.com Website: JosieWrites.com/GenderJourneys Questions? Comments? Suggestions? Need some advice? Reach out to us at josiewrites.qtn@gmail.com!
Another fun experiment! This week, we are giving you a solo experience, the first ever solo venture by one of Sam and Chris! We want to bring you lots of variety in our content. This week, we thought we would try a new format where one of the hosts tells you about something they learned, some research they did, or something they want to talk about or teach to you. This episode, we are looking at the history and contemporary usage of the word queer - meta, eh? On this episode, Chris sits down and explains the origin, first use, pejorative uses, reclamation, and current uses of the word queer. A flirty trial episode - let us know what you think! PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for December 21! PSS: We are hiatusing (that's a word) for the holigays, so our next two episodes will be rereleases of full versions of our two-part episodes! Stay tuned for those - our next episode with brand new content will be airing January 18, 2022! C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!! ... follow Sam!! @gh0stbr3ath follow Chris!! @mx.fee follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast visit our website howtobequeer.ca!! Sources: Queer: A Graphic History (2016). Meg-John Barker & Julia Scheele. @mattxiv - "c'mon you can say it.. queer" --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/how-to-be-queer/message
An exploration beyond binaries of gender and sexuality, Meg-John talks about intersectionality, inbetweeness, plurality, the pros and cons of labels, the harm in binaries for everyone, whether you fit them or not, how to be a supportive ally to the trans community, why respecting pronouns is important, getting used to "they" as a pronoun and much more!
In the first episode of a new series, Diggory Waite and his accredited sex therapist mother Cate Campbell explore the ‘Wheel of Consent' with its developer Dr. Betty Martin, who also outlines how we can implement the Wheel's concepts into our everyday interactions as well as teaching us how we can apply the consensual practices with our partners by playing the 3-minute game and how with a simple solo exercise, we can wake up our hands to pleasure. Our mailbag will return in next week's episode where we'll be discussing 'Pegging' with the wonderful Zachary Zane. Make sure you send in your sex or relationship questions to our accredited therapist Cate who will answer them on the pod! You can email them to podcasts@hattrick.com or by DMing us on Instagram - @realsexedpodYou can find Dr Betty Martin and her book ‘The Art of Giving and Receiving' at https://bettymartin.org/You can also find accredited sex and relationship therapist Cate Campbell's blog, going into more detail on what was discussed in today's episode, here: https://catecampbell.wordpress.com/?p=367The Real Sex Education is a Hat Trick PodcastReading List:The Consent Checklist by Meg John Barker https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Consent-Checklist-1.pdfBeres, M.A. (2007) “Spontaneous” sexual consent: An analysis of sexual consent literature. Feminism & Psychology, 17;1, 93-108.Campbell, C. (2020) “Sexual Consent”. In: Contemporary Sex Therapy, Abingdon: Routledge, 145-151.Greenspan, R. (2017) Dancing with the dominant: learning consent with kink and bondage, University Wire Service, February 13th, 1.Hancock, J. (2021) Can We Talk About Consent? Frances Lincoln Children's Books.Kornhaber, S. (2019) Cruising in the age of consent. The Atlantic, 324;1, 96-103.Watching & listening List:Betty Martin: The Wheel of Consenthttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=auokDp_EA80Betty Martin: How to Play the 3-Minute Gamehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KCzpNBNbVMThe New Age of Consent (BBC, 2018): Jameela Jamil asks how we should navigate consenthttps://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/b0bh4361When "Yes" Means "No", the Truth about Consent | Joyce Shorthttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=imr5ZiAY_ao&list=LL&index=2What can Sexting teach us about Consent? | Amy Adele Hasinoff https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LdDRv2f2dFc See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Dr Meg-John Barker joins me to discuss all things gender and non-binary. We will cover current cutting edge ideas about gender, why life can be and should be seen as non-binary, the basics of gender pronouns, understanding ambivalence and shades of grey. We will finish off the show with some tips and tricks to increase your ability to deal with the non-binary and live in the shades of grey or the rainbow of colour.
Was the humour intentional or not? Does it matter? After a discussion of the Camp aspects of Dr. No, I have a go at coming up with a score (out of 007) to rank it - purely in terms of queerness - in relation to the other Bond films. Finally, some post re-view reflections on why people get worked up about the gender binary, an excerpt from a brilliant book by Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi (link below) which has shaped my thinking and the acknowledgements. https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/self/new-book-life-isnt-binary-out-today/ Full references on www.licencetoqueer.com/dr-no
Have you ever questioned your own gender identity? Do you know somebody who is transgender or who identifies as non-binary? Do you ever feel confused when people talk about gender diversity? This down-to-earth guide is for anybody who wants to know more about gender, from its biology, history and sociology, to how it plays a role in our relationships and interactions with family, friends, partners and strangers. It looks at practical ways people can express their own gender and will help you to understand people whose gender might be different from your own. With activities and points for reflection throughout, this book will help people of all genders engage with gender diversity and explore the ideas in the book in relation to their own lived experiences.
Justin Hancock is a sex educator whose website bishuk.com is visited by thousands of young people a week. He also co-hosts the Culture Sex Relationships podcast for adults and has recently written the book Can We Talk About Consent? We chat with Justin about the commodification of sex, sexual subjectivity, gender, what sex would be like under (or on top of) socialism, flirty politicians, Virginia Woolf's sex life, the material drivers of chemsex, Yvette and Ed's love of poppers, a Californian orgasm cult and more... Plus, David visits the Vagina Museum. Buy our merch Second Row Socialists on Twitter Comradio on Twitter Patreon for Culture, Sex, Relationships (The Meg-John & Justin Podcast) Patreon for BISHuk Follow Justin on Twitter The Meg-John & Justin Podcast | Neoliberalism and Sex and Relationships The Meg-John & Justin Podcast | Her Sexual Self: Joy Townsend. Sexual subjectivities Rewriting the rules by Meg-John Barker How to understand your gender by Alex Iantaffi & Meg-John Barker Gender: A Graphic Guide by Meg-John Barker The Bisexual Index Bi UK The Meg-John & Justin Podcast | Justin Chats With Eleanor Janega About The Objectification of Sex Whipping Girl - Julia Serrano 'Why women had better sex under socialism' - Kristen R. Ghodsee 'Republicans and Democrats Don't Just Disagree About Politics. They Have Different Sexual Fantasies' - Justin Lehmiller Spinning, spooning and the seductions of flirtatious masculinity in contemporary politics (2010) - Candida Yates Britain's party leaders throw kitchen sink at election' (2015) - Bangkok Post 'Love And Sex With Many: Research On The Health And Wellness Of Consensual Non-Monogamy' - Forbes "Storming then Performing": Historical Non-Monogamy and Metamour Collaboration (2021) - Brian M Watson and Sarah Stein Lubrano Sex & Drugs & Rock n Roll - Ian Drury and The Blockheads on TOTP (1978) 'What is Chemsex? And how worried should we be?' (2016) - Barbara Speed in The New Statesman The rise of chemsex: queering collective intimacy in neoliberal London (2018) - Jamie Hakim The Orgasm Cult - BBC Podcast by Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Enjoy Sex (How, When and If You Want To) by Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock The cult of ecstasy: Tantrism, the new age, and the spiritual logic of late capitalism (2000) - Hugh B. Urban The Vagina Museum Follow The Vagina Museum on Twitter Period Positive
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking about the topic of consent. Justin Hancock @bishsexed and I talk about why more conversations about consent are needed, why we think that they aren't happening and how we can all better understand consent, what it means, and what it looks like. Consent is a powerful word, but not everyone understands exactly what it means. It is an essential component of not just our sex lives and relationships but all aspects of our lives. Despite this we have historically seen it left out of mainstream education and conversation and we see millions of examples worldwide about how consent has not been freely given and has been violated. Discussions around consent both in and out of our relationships need to be normalised and demystified in order that we can make the changes to our culture around consent, which is what Justin and I aim to tackle in our conversation. Justin Hancock is the author of Can We Talk About Consent? and has been a relationships and sex educator for over 20 years. In that time he has worked with thousands of young people in schools, youth clubs, universities, and advice services. Justin created and still works at bishuk.com which is one of the leading relationships and sex education websites for young people over 14, this attracts thousands of people per day. As one young person put it “It's perfect for young people without being too cringe“. Justin also provides training courses and RSE resources for teachers. He also offers relationships and sex education for an over 18 audience too. He wrote ‘Enjoy Sex (How, when and IF, You Want To)' with Meg-John Barker and is the host of a new podcast Culture Sex Relationships. https://www.bishuk.com/ Instagram : @bishsexed This episode was sponsored by iPlaysafe App. Download the free app and order your iPlaySafe Box - a home STI testing kit. Your results will be sent directly your app, along with an iPlaySafe badge verifying your sexual health status. It's then up to you when, with whom, and whether you share it. https://www.iplaysafe.app/ Instagram : @iplaysafeapp Kate Moyle is Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist and Certified Psycho-Sexologist, who is passionate about having open and normalising conversations around sex and relationships; and helping people to get to a place of sexual health, happiness and wellbeing. Follow Kate on Instagram at @KateMoyleTherapy
I love Meg-John Barker, and you will too. We met for the first time on the pod but her wisdom, kindness and laugh won me over. An esteemed academic psychologist, theraprist and author they were fascinating company for this wonderful conversation. The key things we spoke about were the problems with self-help books, the need to reimagine self-care, the centrality of trauma to all of us and the inhumane systems we all have to live in. 'Hell Yeah, Self-Care' - MJB's brilliant new book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Hell-Yeah-Self-Care-Trauma-Informed-Workbook/dp/1787752453 See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Episode Notes Resources referenced in this episode: Our Family Coalition https://ourfamily.org/ ONE Archives Foundation https://www.onearchives.org/ Teaching LGBTQ History http://www.lgbtqhistory.org/ Billy DeFrank Center https://www.defrankcenter.org/ The LGBT Youth Space https://youthspace.org/ Our Germs, Our Future. Human Microbiome as a Community of Self. | Miriam Lueck Avery | TEDxMarin: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJTjuiYrmFs California History-Social Science Project, Resources & professional learning for K-12 history-social science: https://chssp.ucdavis.edu/regional-sites Queer: A Graphic History by Meg-John Barker, Julia Scheele (Illustrations) https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/28957268-queer A Queer History of the United States by Michael Bronski https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10065595-a-queer-history-of-the-united-states?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=xC389q7h8s&rank=1 Transgender History by Susan Stryker https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2420983.Transgender_History?ac=1&from_search=true&qid=9OT4gsFOrH&rank=1 Making Gay History hosted by Eric Marcus https://makinggayhistory.com/ Queer America: Learning For Justice hosted by hosts Leila Rupp and John D'Emilio https://www.learningforjustice.org/podcasts/queer-america
This week Alice and Kim talk LGBTQ+ reads for Pride Month. Follow For Real using RSS, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. For more nonfiction recommendations, sign up for our True Story newsletter, edited by Alice Burton. This content contains affiliate links. When you buy through these links, we may earn an affiliate commission. Nonfiction in the News Roxane Gay Starts Publishing Imprint With Grove Atlantic [NYT] New Nonfiction Somebody's Daughter: A Memoir by Ashley C. Ford Forget the Alamo: The Rise and Fall of an American Myth by Bryan Burrough, Chris Tomlinson, and Jason Stanford Unwell Women: Misdiagnosis and Myth in a Man-Made World by Elinor Cleghorn Black Snake: Standing Rock, the Dakota Access Pipeline, and Environmental Justice by Katherine Wiltenburg Todrys Quick Mentions! The Second: Race and Guns in a Fatally Unequal America by Carol Anderson The Kissing Bug : A True Story of a Family, an Insect, and a Nation's Neglect of a Deadly Disease by Daisy Hernández Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons by John Paul Brammer As a Woman: What I Learned about Power, Sex, and the Patriarchy after I Transitioned by Paula Stone Williams LGBTQ+ Reads The Winners of the 2021 Lambda Literary Awards Transgender Nonfiction: The Black Trans Prayer Book by J. Mase III and Dane Figueroa Edidi LGBTQ Nonfiction: The Lonely Letters by Ashon T. Crawley Bisexual Nonfiction: wow, no thank you by Samantha Irby Lesbian Memoir/Biography: My Autobiography of Carson McCullers by Jenn Shapland Gay Memoir/Biography: A Dutiful Boy: A Memoir of a Gay Muslim's Journey to Acceptance by Mohsin Zaidi LGBTQ Studies: Becoming Human: Matter and Meaning in an Antiblack World by Zakiyyah Iman Johnson Gender: A Graphic Guide by Meg-John Barker and Jules Scheele We Have Always Been Here: A Queer Muslim Memoir by Samra Habib Becoming Nicole: The Transformation of an American Family by Amy Ellis Nutt My Sister: How One Sibling's Transition Changed Us Both by Marizol Leyva and Selenis Leyva Reading Now KIM: Malibu Rising by Taylor Jenkins Reed Lightning Flowers: My Journey to Uncover the Cost of Saving of Life by Katherine E. Standefer ALICE: Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harari CONCLUSION You can find us on SOCIAL MEDIA – @itsalicetime and @kimthedork. Amazing Audio Editing for this episode was done by Jen Zink RATE AND REVIEW on Apple Podcasts so people can find us more easily, and follow us there so you can get our new episodes the minute they come out. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
“How free are we to determine how we experience and express our sexuality? How much is this determined by the structures around us?” These are just two of the very big questions and ideas we encounter as part of the adventure in Meg-John Barker and illustrator Jules Scheer’s Sexuality: A Graphic Guide In this episode […] The post In Graphic Detail: Interview with Meg-John Barker appeared first on Pleasure Mechanics.
Dr Meg-John Barker joins me to discuss all things gender and non-binary. We will cover current cutting edge ideas about gender, why life can be and should be seen as non-binary, the basics of gender pronouns, understanding ambivalence and shades of grey. We will finish off the show with some tips and tricks to increase your ability to deal with the non-binary and live in the shades of grey or the rainbow of colour.
This week, Patricia talks about a couple great backlist titles that are nonfiction must-reads! Subscribe to All the Books! using RSS, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher and never miss a book. Sign up for the weekly New Books! newsletter for even more new book news. This post contains affiliate links. When you buy through these links, Book Riot may earn a commission. Books discussed on the show: Hood Feminism: Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot by Mikki Kendall Gender: A Graphic Guide by Meg-John Barker, illustrated by Jules Scheele See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
I was delighted to be joined today to chat with Meg-John and Alex about their excellent new workbook 'Hell Yeah Self Care!' We chatted about: The importance of self care Why people critique self care Self care as political and anti-capitalist Wellbeing giving self-care a bad name Comparing self-care with the network of care we discussed in the Hologram episode The capacity for doing care and self-care is unfairly distributed Trauma and self-care Reflective self care The kindness cradle of slowness, gentleness, being enough, and consent For the full discussion head to our Patreon where you can hear us chat for another 20 mins about: Somatic self-care Coronavirus, lockdowns and self care It’s really excellent so please do buy it and have a go. It’s playful and interesting whilst also being challenging and gentle. You can get it from most bookshops online, but here’s a nice indie queer publisher https://www.queerlit.co.uk/products/hell-yeah-self-care Justin
In this episode, psychosexual and relationship therapist Cate Campbell and son Diggory invite lecturer and writer Meg-John Barker onto the show to talk about the history of attitudes toward sex in the UK, what one learns after reading 60 sex advice books cover to cover and how we're all just a crab in a bucket on the beach...Cate Campbell's blog post on the episode can be found here: https://catecampbell.wordpress.com/?p=352You can get Meg-John's new book Sexuality: A Graphic Guide by visiting their website: https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/The Real Sex Education is a Hat Trick Podcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Kelly and Hannah answer listener requests for book recommendations. Subscribe to the podcast via RSS, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. To get even more YA news and recommendations, sign up for our What’s Up in YA newsletter! SHOW NOTES Short story collection. Preferably fiction and/or fun/uplifting Meet Cute: Some People Are Destined to Meet; Tales from the Inner City by Shaun Tan; Take the Mic edited by Bethany C. Morrow; Snow in Love; Hope Nation edited by Rose Brock; The Radical Element edited by Jessica Spotswood. A gift for my brother who isn’t a big reader. He’s in college, loves soccer and video games, and hasn’t enjoyed a book since reading Holes in middle school. Don’t Read the Comments by Eric Smith; Slay by Brittany Morris; The Pros of Cons by Alison Cherry; Booked by Kwame Alexander; Furia by Yamile Saied Mendez; Warcross by Marie Lu; Feed by MT Anderson. New, contemporary, socially conscious, diverse. Yes No Maybe So by Aisha Saeed and Becky Albertalli; The Voting Booth by Brandy Colbert; Punching the Air by Ibi Zoboi and Yusuf Salaam; Running by Natalia Sylvester; We Didn’t Ask For This by Adi Alsaid; Dear Justyce by Nic Stone. Diverse body positive books. What I Like About Me by Jenna Guillaume; Melt My Heart by Bethany Rutter; My Eyes Are Up Here by Laura Zimmermann; Gabi, a Girl in Pieces by Isabel Quintero; If It Makes You Happy by Claire Kann; Body Talk: 37 Voices Explore Our Radical Anatomy edited by Kelly Jensen. YA dealing with survivors of sexual abuse/pedophilia/other childhood trauma: some of my favorites that I’ve read are Sadie, Girl in Pieces, Suicide Notes from Beautiful Girls, Perks of Being a Wallflower and Speak. Grown by Tiffany D. Jackson; Blood Water Paint by Joy McCullough; The Way I Used to Be by Amber Smith; Charm & Strange by Stephanie Kuehn; How Dare the Sun Rise by Sandra Uwiringyimana; Wrecked by Maria Padian; Infandous by Elana K. Arnold; In The Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado. A YA book to get my friend who doesn’t really read….p.s. she really likes Disney. Disney’s Twisted Tales; Dorothy Must Die by Danielle Paige; Shadow and Bone by Leigh Bardugo; Under a Painted Sky by Stacey Lee. One of my high school students likes mysteries and fantasy novels, but doesn’t like any “kissing” (i.e. lots of romance or a focus on a relationship). What suggestions could I give her? Goldie Vance: The Hotel Whodunit by Lilliam Rivera; Endangered by Lamar Giles; Jennifer Lynn Barnes; Karen M. McManus; Complicit by Stephanie Kuehn. A book for my 16 year old nephew who is a very particular reader. Used to love Rick Riordan but has moved on. Beyond Riordan, the only books I’ve sent him that he has actually called begging for the sequels is Scythe. He likes Agatha Christie “because it makes him think” (to figure out what is going on). I’ve tried AS King and Going Bovine, but have not gotten a reaction and all the fantasy tried and trues. Would love an idea from you! Bitterblue by Kristin Cashore; The Future will be BS-free by Will McIntosh; The Lines We Cross by Randa Abdel-Fattah; Warcross and Legend by Marie Lu. A contemporary with some magic and some romance, but the story does not center grief. Now and When by Sara Bennett Wealer; Displacement by Kiku Hughes; Lobizona by Romina Garber. I am looking for a fantasy novel with romance that ideally is part of an almost finished or finished series. I have already read many of the popular ones, so I guess I am looking for those that were a bit more under the radar. I have read/started the Folk of the Air Series, A Court of Thorns and Roses Series, Red Queen Series, all of Cassandra Clare, etc. and loved them all! Looking for something in that realm. Blythewood by Carol Goodman; Lost Voices by Sarah Porter; The Madman’s Daughter by Megan Shepherd; Brooklyn Brujas by Zoraida Cordova. Warm fuzzy story about family (chosen, biological, adopted, whatever) with winter holiday(s) (not necessarily Christmas, but Christmas ok) as a backdrop and a happy ending. Something wintery and hopeful. (At least something that leaves the reader with some hope.) I like a variety of things. Some writers whose work I’ve enjoyed: Katie Henry, Karen McManus, Tomi Adeyemi, Jenny Han, Nina LaCour, and too many names to list. A few books I’ve read and enjoyed because of this podcast: Agnes at the End of the World, We Are the Perfect Girl, and Orpheus Girl. 10 Blind Dates by Ashley Elston; The Kid Table by Andrea Seigel; The Chaos of Standing Still by Jessica Brody. A feminist book like Rules for Being a Girl. Girls Like Us by Randi Pink; The Degenerates by J. Albert Mann; Burn Baby Burn by Meg Medina; Watch Us Rise by Renee Watson and Ellen Hagan. Books for a 13 year-old. She loves the Shadowhunter Chronicles by Cassandra Clare and anything written by Rick Riordan. Recently, I loaned her my copy of With the Fire on High by Elizabeth Acevedo (one of my favorite YA authors ever) and she loved it. I’d really like to give her books in a genre she loves and one that will expand her reading material. Finding Yvonne by Brandy Colbert; New Kid/Class Act by Jerry Craft; Inventing Victoria by Tonya Bolden; Akata Witch/Akata Warrior by Nnedi Okorafor. Something that will make me laugh, but also teach me something. The Go-Between by Veronica Chambers; Cherry by Lindsey Rosin; Unpregnant by Jenni Hendriks and Ted Caplan; We Are The Perfect Girl by Ariel Kaplan. I’m looking for at book for my niece (18 years old). She is not an avid reader out side required reading in school. She’s not that into fantasy and Sci fi, she likes contemporary fiction better. She might like a short story collection because 40 pages is not as daunting as 350 pages (or more if it’s a series) for a story. Books she had liked recently: They Both Die at the End by Adam Silvera and Broken Things by Lauren Oliver. Try Margarita Engle, Nikki Grimes, Stephanie Hemphill, Kwame Alexander as an alternative to short stories but still with a lot of white space, as it may be less intimidating; Toil and Trouble edited by Jessica Spotswood and Tess Sharpe; Clap When You Land by Elizabeth Acevedo. I’m interested in spooky tales, thrillers, science fiction, and non-WWII fiction. No dystopias or urban fantasy, please! The most important thing to me as an aromantic asexual person is that’s there’s no significant romantic element. I don’t want the main character to have any romantic partners or to spend several pages daydreaming about their crush(es). Thanks! Pan’s Labyrinth by Guillermo del Toro and Cornelia Funke; Dread Nation by Justina Ireland; Dreamland Burning by Jennifer Latham; The Blood Confession by Alisa M. Libby; The Girl From The Well by Rin Chupecho; Jackaby by William Ritter; Watch Over Me by Nina LaCour. A book for my 19 year old sister who loves Wilder Girls and The Poet X. She is a fan of feminism, horror, and queerness in books. The Cure for Dreaming by Cat Winters; Mary’s Monster by Lita Judge; The Good Luck Girls by Charlotte Nicole Davis; Furia by Yamile Saied Mendez; We Are The Wildcats by Siobhan Vivian; The Stars and the Blackness Between Them by Junauda Petrus. A book for my daughter. She recently told me that she is gay. I want to show her how much I love her and accept her. She loves graphic novels and has read many of the most popular ones featuring same sex relationships. Everything Noelle Stevenson! Lumberjanes, Nimona, The Fire Never Goes Out; Queer: A Graphic History by Meg John Barker and Julia Scheele; Skim by Mariko Tamaki; Mooncakes by Suzanne Walker and Wendy Xu; Kiss Number 8 by Colleen AF Venable and Ellen T. Crenshaw; Moonstruck by Grace Ellis and Shae Bragl. Something heavily folklore-based (Maggie Stiefvater or higher level of “heavily”) and LGBTQ+ please? European and Asian folklore are my favorite but I’ll be happy to dive into any other as well. Anna-Marie McLemore; A Thousand Beginnings and Endings edited by Elsie Chapman and Ellen Oh; Wicked As You Wish by Rin Chupeco; A Curse of Roses by Diana Pinguicha; Forest of a Thousand Lanterns by Julie C. Dao; Girl, Serpent, Thorn by Melissa Bashardost. A fantasy or science fiction novel, preferably action-packed. Etiquette and Espionage by Gail Carriger; The Marrow Thieves by Cherie Dimaline; Cut Off by Adrianne Finley; Orleans by Sherri L. Smith. An awesome ghost story. The Girl from the Well by Rin Chupeco; Wait Till Helen Comes by Mary Downing Hahn; Horrid by Katrina Leno; The Tenth Girl by Sara Faring; Watch Over Me by Nina LaCour; Thirteen Doorways, Wolves Behind Them All by Laura Ruby; Cemetery Boys by Aiden Thomas. School for Good & Evil read-alikes for 14-year-old reluctant reader. Thanks! Carry On by Rainbow Rowell; The Irregular at Magic High School manga series by Tsutomu Sato; The Black Mage by Daniel Howard Barnes; Supermutant Magic Academy by Jillian Tamaki; A Blade so Black by LL McKinney; Spin the Dawn by Elizabeth Lim; Liz Braswell’s Twisted Fairy Tales series; Melissa Albert’s The Hazel Wood. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Released to mark the International Day of Consent - November 30th - Zayna and Jonathan ask Jenny Wilson, of campaigning group Consent Culture, and author, psychotherapist and mentor Meg-John Barker to walk us through the vital issue of consent. It's a great listen - two really switched on people who have thought long and deep about what we need to focus on when we're looking for consent.
Sofie talks to Stacy Bias about processing trauma, fighting with her therapist, being present, empathy, healing, Meg-John Barker’s concept of Plural Selves, monsters at the end of books, and drawing bums.Content warning – coronavirus, C-PTSD, disassociation, food, eating, panic attacks, disordered eating, OCD, therapy, couples therapy, addiction, diet culture, narcissism, sociopathy, grief, self harm, body image, sadness, depression, binge eating, eating disorders, weight loss, lactose intolerance, mindful eating, trauma, abuse, fires, Nazis, anxiety, hypervigilance Artwork by Justine McNicholJingle by Harriet BraineProduced by Dave Pickering Made of Human Podcast online:Twitter: @podmohFacebook: facebook.com/madeofhumanpodcastWeb: madeofhumanpodcast.comPatreon: patreon.com/mohpod Sofie Hagen online:Twitter: @SofieHagenFacebook: facebook.com/sofiehagen.komikerWeb: sofiehagen.comInstagram: @sofiehagendk
Alex Iantaffi and Meg-John Barker interview one another about self-care from a trauma-informed perspective. They talk about what self-care is, why embodiment matters, and how individual and collective trauma impact our capacity to care for ourselves and others. Their new book "Hell Yeah Self-Care!: A Trauma-Informed Workbook" will be published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers in January 2021 (but you can pre-order it now). This talk was given as part of The Embodiment Conference. However, both Alex and Meg-John want to be clear that their participation is not an endorsement of the conference. In fact, they invite you to read the open letter about the conference that Tada Hozumi wrote at: https://medium.com/@tadahozumi/public-letter-to-mark-walsh-and-the-embodiment-conference-ab9319ee4b69 Alex and Meg-John hold their participation in the event with open hands and with as much transparency as possible. Thank you for listening!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/genderstories)
Join us for a multi-faceted and life-affirming conversation with writer, writing mentor and independent scholar Meg-John Barker where we discuss their wide ranging thoughts on gender non-conformity, plurality, consent, ‘anti-self help,’ and participation in queer and other subcultures. Topics we cover include: What it means to write an “anti self-help book” Plurality and trauma The intersections of psychology, gender non-conformity, and relationship structures outside the mainstream The crucial and complicated nature of consent Navigating the contradictions of academia and DIY media production About Meg-John Barker: Meg-John Barker is the author of a number of popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including Queer: A Graphic History, Gender: A Graphic Guide, How To Understand Your Gender, Life Isn’t Binary, Enjoy Sex (How, When, and IF You Want To), Rewriting the Rules, and The Psychology of Sex. They have also written a number of books for scholars and counsellors on these topics, drawing on their own research and therapeutic practice. Find Meg-John online: On the web: rewriting-the-rules.com, megjohnandjustin.com On Social Media: Twitter: @megjohnbarker Instagram: @meg_john_barker Facebook: megjohnbarkerwriter YouTube: youtube.com/c/MegJohnBarkerPsych/ Links to relevant resources: Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors book: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22760492-healing-the-fragmented-selves-of-trauma-survivors Plural Selves: https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/plural-work/ The Bisexuality Report: https://www.bimedia.org/bireport/ Life Isn’t Binary: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/43818540-life-isn-t-binary Queer: A Graphic History: https://iconbooks.com/ib-title/queer-a-graphic-history/ Gender: A Graphic Guide: https://iconbooks.com/ib-title/gender-a-graphic-guide-2/ Sexuality: A Graphic Guide: https://iconbooks.com/ib-title/sexuality/ Meg-John and Justin podcast: https://megjohnandjustin.com/ https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/self/zones-of-stuck-patterns/ https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/self/plurality-and-trauma-2-practices/ Links to So Many Wings’ social media and website On the web: https://somanywings.org On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somanywingspodcast On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somanywingspodcast On Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/join/somanywingspodcast
Esta semana tenemos un episodio extra! Hablamos con Raquel Rojas (www.raquelgrojas.com), traductora del libro "Cómo entender tu género" de Meg-John Barker y Alex Iantaffi. https://www.lamarea.com/2020/05/07/novedad-editorial-como-entender-tu-genero-de-alex-iantaffi-y-meg-john-barker/ Hablamos sobre cuestiones lingüísticas de identidad de género no binaria, así como del lenguaje inclusivo. Yo hago referencia al libro de "Ni por favor ni por favora" de Maria Martin Barranco. Raquel hace referencia a un artículo de Artemis López, en la linterna del traductor, número 19. Y también nos recomienda la guía del lenguaje inclusivo que publicó la Universidad del País Vasco junto con Pikara Magazine: https://alava.sartu.net/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Uso-inclusivo-del-castellano_UPV.pdf Agradecimientos a Fraggle por cedernos el uso de su gran canción "Get High": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y3UloOBwNZk
In this joint episode of Gender Stories and the Meg-John & Justin podcast, Alex Iantaffi and Meg-John Barker continue the conversation with Deana Ayers about abolition. They discuss how abolition needs to be addressed at the cultural, community, and interpersonal levels as well as in the inner work each one us needs to do to make this vision a reality. Deana Ayers is 21 year old Black, nonbinary organizer. They graduated in May 2020 with a Bachelor of Social Work degree from the University of North Texas. As a college student they were involved with student government, reproductive justice organizing, and a push for transformative justice and police abolition. They are currently living in Minneapolis, MN with their girlfriend, where they work as a Political Education Coordinator at an abolitionist organization. You can check out their writing and organizing work at deanajayers.com and follow them on Twitter @deanajayers. Deana's call to action is to support ZACAH's efforts in providing emergency housing to the unsheltered residents of Minneapolis: https://www.zacah.org/minneapolis-sanctuary-emergency-resSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/genderstories)
Dr Meg-John Barker joins me to discuss all things gender and non-binary. We will cover current cutting edge ideas about gender, why life can be and should be seen as non-binary, the basics of gender pronouns, understanding ambivalence and shades of grey. We will finish off the show with some tips and tricks to increase your ability to deal with the non-binary and live in the shades of grey or the rainbow of colour.
In this two-part episode Bryn chats with Keithley Wilkinson and Rose Lewis from Cardiff and Vale UHB's Equality Team, and Lisa Cordery the UHB's Children's Rights Lead and trans rights advocate. In part one, they discuss LGBT+ health and the issues these communities can sometimes face when accessng healthcare. Suggested Reading: Trans Britain by Christine Burns Transgender Health by Ben Vincent Non-binary lives by Jos Twist, Meg-John Barker, Kat Gupta, Ben Vincent Understanding Trans Health by Ruth Pearce Disclosure on Netflix If you want to get in touch with the Equality Team, please do so by emailing keithley.wilkinson@wales.nhs.uk
Sometimes our worst critiques come from within, but you’re not alone in this experience! Annie and Rose discuss what internalized biphobia is, why we internalize toxic shame, the ways we have personally experienced it, and how identifying those thoughts is the first step to learning to love your beautiful bi self. CAVEAT: wow the world is so much more of the world is on fire since we recorded this in April! Timestamps BiLights 44:00 Listener Mail 46:23 Bising Star 47:40 AdBice 49:00 References Dr. Lauren Costine’s article on Internalized Phobias https://drlaurencostine.com/internalized-phobia/ Queer: a Graphic History by Meg-John Barker, Julia Scheele https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781785780714 Think Before You Speak PSAs (Rose was incorrect, this is not Ellen!) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qNWh2BgA_Cg That little girl and her affirmations https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-W727P7oJHU TikTok Bisexuals (to get you warmed up) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oq-t6J5iCkI Playing with Butler and Foucault: Bisexuality and Queer Theory, April S Callis https://doi.org/10.1080/15299710903316513 Auli'i Cravalho, Star of Disney's 'Moana,' Comes Out as Bisexual https://www.out.com/celebs/2020/4/09/aulii-cravalho-star-disneys-moana-comes-bisexual Marcelo Hernandez Castillo https://www.marcelohernandezcastillo.com/ https://twitter.com/marcelo_H_ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hellogoodbis/message
Pride in Comics: In this month’s show, Alex Fitch talks to a pair of zine creators turned graphic novelists about their work on gender and sexuality. Eleanor Crewes discusses her forthcoming book The Times I Knew I Was Gay an autobiographical title which dramatised her experiences of coming out, and Dr. Meg-John Barker explores writing […]
Welcome to The Feeling is Musical! Today, we chat with guest, Vee Fansler, a board-certified music therapist, as they share about their personal experience of being a queer music therapist. Transcript of “Being a Queer Music Therapist” available at www.scMusicProject.org/Podcast. RESOURCES Queer: A Graphic History by Meg John Barker and Illustrated by Julia Scheele | Book Gender Affirming Voicework: An Introduction to Music Therapy by Maevon Gumble | Journal Article White Oleander by Jane Fitch | Book ABOUT THE MUSIC PROJECT From its origin as the Everett Symphony, the Snohomish County Music Project has since transformed into one of the leading music therapy providers in the Pacific Northwest. Visit www.scMusicProject.org to learn more. FOLLOW US Instagram // www.instagram.com/scMusicProject Twitter // www.twitter.com/scMusicProject Facebook // www.facebook.com/scMusicProject
In this special joint episode of Gender Stories and the Meg-John & Justin podcast, Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi reflect on how a non-binary approach might influence the way we approach the COVID-19 crisis. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/genderstories)
Joining Charles Adrian for the 130th Second-Hand Book Factory is a slightly coldy Moses Woldetsadik. They talk passionate love, consensual sex and thoughtful kingship. You can find a song by Teddy Afro based on Moses’ first book on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mFzHpK7ibfo You can watch a video about Meg-John and Justin’s three handshake model of consent here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=awrp7EJGqyc and read more about it here: https://bishtraining.com/three-handshakes-an-activity-for-learning-how-consent-feels/ You can read about King Tewodros II on Wikipedia here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tewodros_II Marked as explicit on iTunes because of discussion of sex. Episode image is a detail from the cover of Enjoy Sex (How, when and IF you want to) A Practical And Inclusive Guide by Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock, published in 2017 by Icon Books Ltd; cover design by Mecob; Image © Shutterstock.com/MariyaF. More info and a link to a transcript of this episode is at http://www.pageonepodcast.com/ Book listing: Fikir Eske Mekabir (Love Unto Crypt) by Hadis Alemayehu (trans. Sisay Ayenew) Enjoy Sex (How, when and IF you want to) A Practical And Inclusive Guide by Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock Stories of King Tewodros told by Moses’ mother
Een gesprek met Meg-John Barker over het belang van vertragen (of zelfs stilstaan), loslaten en de negatieve gevoelens die we soms ervaren. Dit is Ongehoord. Dé podcast over seksualiteit in al haar verschijningsvormen. Twee keer per maand kan je een nieuwe aflevering beluisteren. De ene keer een interview met een expert en de andere keer deelt iemand diens persoonlijke seksuele levensverhaal, onder de noemer Dicht op de Huid.Over stilstaan en Meg-John BarkerVoor ik iets meer vertel over de geweldige gast in deze podcast een kort bericht van mij, Marije. Dit is voorlopig de laatste Ongehoord podcast. Het gaat momenteel niet zo goed (iets waar ik in het intro meer over vertel) en ik heb besloten om een paar maanden te stoppen met alle werkzaamheden van het Platform voor Seksualiteit. Zo ook de podcast, zij het met pijn in mijn hart. Maar als het goed is ben ik over een paar maanden weer terug met nieuwe afleveringen!Ik had me geen betere gast kunnen wensen voor deze laatste aflevering. Want als er iemand voor mij van invloed geweest is als het gaat over seksualiteit, bewustzijn, vertragen en zorg voor jezelf, dan is het Meg-John Barker. Hen is educator, schrijver, podcastmaker en heel veel meer. Hen schreef een van mijn favoriete boeken over seks: Enjoy Sex en daarnaast ben ik een fan van hun nieuwsbrieven en zines over o.a. consent, bij je gevoel blijven als het zwaar is en plural selves. Ik schreef Meg-John vooraf over mijn huidige staat van zijn en ik vroeg of hen open stond voor een losser gesprek dan dat ik normaal voer. Waarin alles minder voorbereid was en het ook wat meer over persoonlijke dingen kon. Gelukkig was dat het geval en ik ben superblij met resultaat. We hebben het over self-care, over rouw, over consent en over vertragen. Meg-John vertelt onder andere over wat hen geleerd heeft en nog steeds leert van het werk van Pema Chodron. SupportLaat ons weten wat je vond van deze aflevering van Ongehoord! Facebook, mail, message, bel, postduif of geef ons lief een recensie en rating in iTunes! Je kan ons ook steunen via Patreon, jouw bijdrage helpt in het verder verbeteren van Ongehoord! Als je ons steunt via Patreon heb je toegang tot uniek bonusmateriaal. Al onze Ongehoord! gast delen tips over boeken die ze gelezen hebben, interessante oefeningen om te doen of iets anders waar ze enthousiast over zijn.
This week, Liberty and Kelly discuss Uncanny Valley, We Wish You Luck, and The Missing American, and more great books. This episode was sponsored Novel Gazing, Saga Press, an imprint of Simon & Schuster, and ThirdLove. Pick up an All the Books! 200th episode commemorative item here. Subscribe to All the Books! using RSS, iTunes, or Spotify and never miss a beat book. Sign up for the weekly New Books! newsletter for even more new book news. BOOKS DISCUSSED ON THE SHOW: Uncanny Valley: A Memoir by Anna Wiener You’re Not Listening: What You’re Missing and Why It Matters by Kate Murphy The Missing American by Kwei Quartey Black Girl Unlimited: The Remarkable Story of a Teenage Wizard by Echo Brown Dark and Deepest Red by Anna-Marie McLemore We Wish You Luck: A Novel by Caroline Zancan Cleanness by Garth Greenwell Saving Savannah by Tonya Bolden WHAT WE’RE READING: Tigers, Not Daughters by Samantha Mabry Plain Bad Heroines by emily m. danforth MORE BOOKS OUT THIS WEEK: Me and Mr. Cigar by Gibby Haynes Still: Poems by Sandra Meek The Strange Ones by Jeremy Jusay Your New Feeling Is the Artifact of a Bygone Era (Kathryn A. Morton Prize in Poetry) by Chad Bennett Zed: A Novel by Joanna Kavenna The Great Concert of the Night by Jonathan Buckley Many Rivers to Cross by Peter Robinson All the Ways We Said Goodbye: A Novel of the Ritz Paris by Beatriz Williams, Lauren Willig, Karen White You Can Only Yell at Me for One Thing at a Time: Rules for Couples by Patricia Marx and Roz Chast Finding Mr. Better-Than-You by Shani Petroff The Thief Knot: A Greenglass House Story by Kate Milford Serious Noticing: Selected Essays, 1997-2019 by James Wood Hitting a Straight Lick with a Crooked Stick: Stories from the Harlem Renaissance by Zora Neale Hurston Making Our Way Home: The Great Migration and the Black American Dream by Blair Imani and Patrisse Cullors The Poison Garden: A Novel by Alex Marwood Love Her or Lose Her: A Novel by Tessa Bailey Virtuoso by Yelena Moskovich Saltwater: A Novel by Jessica Andrews The Broken Heavens by Kameron Hurley Beyond the Shadowed Earth by Joanna Ruth Meyer Fabulous: Stories by Lucy Hughes-Hallett The Prized Girl: A Novel by Amy K. Green Father of Lions: One Man’s Remarkable Quest to Save the Mosul Zoo by Louise Callaghan The Better Liar: A Novel by Tanen Jones Little Gods by Meng Jin The Hollows: A Novel (The Kinship Series) by Jess Montgomery Imperfect Union: How Jessie and John Fremont Mapped the West, Invented Celebrity, and Helped Cause the Civil War by Steve Inskeep Adults and Other Children by Miriam Cohen St. Francis Society for Wayward Pets: A Novel by Annie England Noblin Light Changes Everything: A Novel by Nancy E. Turner A Beginning at the End by Mike Chen A Longer Fall (Gunnie Rose Book 2) by Charlaine Harris How Quickly She Disappears by Raymond Fleischmann The Tenant by Katrine Engberg Track Changes by Sayed Kashua Burn the Dark: Malus Domestica by S.A. Hunt Oligarchy: A Novel by Scarlett Thomas Infinity Son by Adam Silvera From the Desk of Zoe Washington by Janae Marks Race To the Sun by Rebecca Roanhorse Lucky Caller by Emma Mills A Scheme of Heaven: The History of Astrology and the Search for Our Destiny in Data by Alexander Boxer Parents Under the Influence: Words of Wisdom from a Former Bad Mother by Cécile David-Weill Brain Wash: Detox Your Mind for Clearer Thinking, Deeper Relationships, and Lasting Happiness by David Perlmutter MD, Austin Perlmutter MD, Kristin Loberg The Secret Guests: A Novel by Benjamin Black A World Without Work: Technology, Automation, and How We Should Respond by Daniel Susskind The Housing Lark by Sam Selvon Gender: A Graphic Guide by Meg-John Barker, Jules Scheele (Illustrator) To the Edge of Sorrow: A Novel by Aharon Appelfeld, Stuart Schoffman (translator) Followers: A Novel by Megan Angelo The Conference of the Birds (Miss Peregrine’s Peculiar Children) by Ransom Riggs A Good Man by Ani Katz The End of the Ocean: A Novel by Maja Lunde, Diane Oatley (translator) Imaginary Museums: Stories by Nicolette Polek The Vanished Birds: A Novel by Simon Jimenez Go with the Flow by Karen Schneemann and Lily Williams The Whispers of War by Julia Kelly Big Lies in a Small Town: A Novel by Diane Chamberlain Tightrope: Americans Reaching for Hope by Nicholas D. Kristof Echoes Between Us by Katie McGarry Strange Exit by Parker Peevyhouse Stories of the Sahara by Sanmao, Mike Fu (Translator) The King’s Questioner by Nikki Katz Kingdomtide by Rye Curtis Three Poems by Hannah Sullivan Just After the Wave by Sandrine Collette, Alison Anderson (Translator) Pixie Pushes On by Tamara Bundy The Lost Arabs by Omar Sakr Little Envelope of Earth Conditions by Cori Winrock Say Her Name by Zeta Elliott Funny You Should Ask: Serious Questions About the Book Publishing Industry by Barbara Poelle Stella Diaz Never Gives Up by Angela Dominguez Grabeland: A Novel by eteam
tl;dr Abuse in polyamory. Can squirting cause incontinence? Are there men who don't like sex? How to have sex with someone with large breasts? Patrons who support at $3 and above, there's a new bonus at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. It's a listener question about first time sex, birth control, and deep throating. Tune in to hear it and thanks for supporting the show financially. This week’s episode is you and me and your emails. Before we get to that, a few announcements. First, I am in two new books. You can find an essay I wrote almost 2 years ago in the recently released "Sex Positive Now" anthology and I have been turned into a comic character for Meg-John Barker's soon to be released "Gender: A Graphic Guide". Pre-order yours today! This week, I am also bringing our attention to two articles about abuse in polyamory that I think offer important questions for us all to hold. Head to dawnserra.com/ep288 for the links. We need to hold ourselves and each other accountable for the ways we are doing relationship, and unfortunately much of the mainstream polyamory/non-monogamy advice just doesn't hold the nuance that's needed for people who have trauma, who experience mental illness, and a whole host of other realities. On to your questions! First up, Cathryn wrote in with some really sweet messages about discovering the podcast. Next, Sofia wrote in about squirting and incontinence. Can squirting lead to incontinence? I got input from several pelvic floor therapists, and though the answer is more complicated, the overall sense is yes, it can. We explore why in the episode. Then, Jose asks, “Am I the only guy who doesn't like sex?" But the thing is, Jose has a thriving sex life - with himself. It's partnered sex he doesn't care for, so we explore asexuality, masculinity myths, and why it's perfectly normal and OK to prefer sex with yourself. Finally, Breast Distress has a new partner who has large breasts. How can she become a better at sex with someone who has large breasts, especially when it's something she's never done before? Also, huge thanks to Hemlock for their awesome song "Firelight" which was used in this episode between questions. I'm digging it! Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram. About Dawn Serra: What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence. It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cats as I read a YA novel, or obsessing over MasterChef Australia. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Stream it on Spotify Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous) Episode Transcript Visit dawnserra.com/ep288 for the episode transcript.
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Author and academic Meg-John Barker joins Helen and Marianne to explore what it means to be non binary, the limitations of language when it comes to gender, the importance of education and the impact on our mental health of having to conform to gender stereotypes. We hope you enjoyed this episode. If you have been affected by any of the topics discussed in our podcast and would like to get in touch, please drop us a line at info@GenderGP.com. You can also contact us on social media, where you will find us at @GenderGP on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. We are always happy to accept ideas for future shows, so if there is something in particular you would like us to discuss, or a specific guest you would love to hear from, let us know. Your feedback is really important to us so if you could take a minute or two to leave us a rating and a review for the podcast on your favourite podcast app, it will help others to discover us. Links: Gender, sexual and relationship diversity (GSRD): Good practice across the counselling professions - BACP https://www.bacp.co.uk/events-and-resources/ethics-and-standards/good-practice-across-the-counselling-professions/gpacp001-gender-sexual-and-relationship-diversity/ Find out more about MJ Barker here: The Meg-John and Justin Podcast: https://megjohnandjustin.com https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com Follow MJ on Twitter: @megjohnbarker Additional resources: Sexuality and Gender for mental health professionals by Christina Richards and Meg John Barker How to Understand Your Gender: A Practical Guide for Exploring Who You Are by Alex Iantaffi and Meg-John Barker Gender queer and non binary genders by Christina Richards, Walter Pierre Bouman, Meg-John Barker Understanding trans health: Discourse, power and possibility by Ruth Pearce Transgender Health: A Practitioner's Guide to Binary and Non-Binary Trans Patient Care by Ben Vincent The GenderGP Podcast Exploring the Binary with Meg-John Barker – The GenderGP Podcast S4 E2 Hello, this is Dr Helen Webberley. Welcome to our GenderGP Podcast, where we will be discussing some of the issues affecting the trans and non-binary community in the world today, together with my co-host Marianne Oakes, a trans woman herself, and our head of therapy. Dr. Helen Webberley: Today I am really excited to welcome MJ Barker. Thank you very much for joining Marianne and myself. And as always, I’m going to hand over to you to introduce yourself and tell us a bit about you and your work and your interest in this area. MJ Barker: Absolutely. So yeah. MJ Barker, Meg-John Barker for my professional writing work, and my background is I've been an academic in psychology and sociology. I've also been a therapist for many years and an activist on LGBT matters for a long time. But I've given most of that up recently to become a full-time writer. So the main thing that I do is to write books, self-help books and gender relationships and sex, and also graphic guides comic books about introducing various ideas. So I've written a Queer: A Graphic History and the Follow Up on Gender which is out in November actually.And I've also written the book Life Isn't Binary, so it's taking non-binary thinking about gender and applying it to all kinds of other things, with Alex Iantaffi, my co-author for that. I also to have a podcast on sex and gender and relationships with Justin Hancock, the sex educator. It's theMeg-John and Justin podcast. So we've got plenty of stuff on trans there. And I guess in this area I mean doing a lot of kind of non-binary activism is I can definitely speak to non-binary issues. And then Alex and I in our book How toUnderstand Your Gender, we talk a lot, and then Life Isn't Binary, we talk a lot about breaking down binaries, including kind of a man-woman binary obviously, and gay-straight binary, but also maybe the trans-cis binary,
Welcome to The Second Circle. A sex podcast for overthinkers.This week Franki talks to bisexual polyamorous woman L about opening up her marriage and managing multiple relationships. In The Overthinkers Guide To Sex, Frankie Wells and Anouszka Tate of sex podcast Project Pleasure tell us how some of their best and worst sexual experiences shaped them.In the intro Rob and Franki also talked about the BBC drama Wanderlust as well as Louis Theroux's documentary about polyamory, Love Without Limits. L and Franki referenced research which shoes that polyamorous people tend to practice safer sex and also mentioned the book Enjoy Sex: How, when, and if you want to by Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock.The Second Circle is a sex and gender politics podcast produced and hosted by journalist Franki Cookney. It seeks to bring some (okay, a LOT) of the nuance back into discussions of sex, relationships, and gender and challenges the idea that sex doesn't deserve the same thought and attention that we give to the rest of our lives.Series 3 of The Second Circle is supported by That's The Spot.Get in touch on Twitter @The2ndCircle or email us secondcirclepodcast@gmail.com.If you're enjoying the podcast, please visit the Patreon page to find out more about how you can support sex-positive content AND get rewarded for your loyalty! Or if you just want to low-key share the love, why not buy me a coffee?Support the show (https://ko-fi.com/frankicookney)
Rosie is joined by academic, therapist and author Meg-John Barker, comedian and podcaster Iszi Lawrence and journalist Sharan Dhaliwal to discuss looking beyond the binary breakup scripts of needing to move rapidly from love to hate, relationship anarchy, placing a value on friendships and other types of connection outside of traditional romantic relationships, breakup language, bisexuality, biphobia, polyamory, labels, early sexologists, saving the world and much more. Recorded at Kings Place on Oct 11 2019. The next London live recordings are at Kings Place on Nov 8. Book tickets: https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/the-breakup-monologues/ We are also recording at Podcast Social Club in Thirsk on Nov 23. Book tickets: http://www.podcastsocialclub.com You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues
Claire and Sebastian connect long distance to discuss the many different ways we relate to one another. From monkish celibacy to orgies to multiple life partners, there are so many way to practice intentional relationships it's almost overwhelming. But Claire and Sebastian still find something missing and talk about political anarchy, metamours and the relationship escalator. This episode was our first recorded long-distance with Claire in Cambridge, UK and Sebastian still stateside. Show Notes: The relationship between Kiney’s infamous ‘X’ category to modern day asexuality is explore by Justin J. Lehmiller (2017) by the The Psychology of Human Sexuality. John Wiley & Sons. Asexual flag as per the Asexual Visibility and Education Network found here. Also see the Trevor Project here. We will not give airtime to discussing this particular sub-section of celibate persons given the recent terror attacks on women. We recommend episode 120 of the podcast Reply All, which cover the history of the ‘InvCEL’ or ‘InCEL’ community. Relationship Anarchy was introduced by Andie Nordgren as a political manifesto. See here. It was also used in 2010 Open Con and in 2013 by Dr Meg-John Barker in her lecture ‘Rewriting the Rules: Non/monogamies’. Solo-poly is outlined well in an article by Polyamory Today on Medium, written by Shannon Ashley and available here. Poly Wanna Podcast discuss the Relationship Escalator in episode 14. For more on the difference between Prescriptive and Descriptive Hierarchy see this fun post by Chelsey Dagger on Polyfor.us Metamour is introduced by Polyamory School on Medium and can be found here. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/polypages/support
In the fifth Cutting of Season 3, Dave considers different elements of identity. He talks to Scout Pup about furries and puppies, and speaks to Alex Iantaffi about genograms, intergenerational trauma and mind plasticity. The episode features more clips from the Meg-John and Justin podcast, which consider hierarchies of love and relationships. CONTENT NOTE: trauma, holocaust, genocide and intimate partner violence. The Family Tree's Cuttings discuss the real issues raised in the show with special guests from podcasting, journalism, religion and the arts. Find our Guests! Alex Iantaffi: http://www.alexiantaffi.com/ Gender Stories Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/gender-stories/id1353717550 Meg-John and Justin (podcast, book, zines): https://megjohnandjustin.com/ Meg-John Barker (writing, zines): https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/ Justin Hancock's sex and relationship education for young people: Bish https://www.bishuk.com https://bishtraining.com/ Life Isn't Binary by Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Life-Isnt-Binary-Beyond-Between/dp/1785924796
Welcome to the first of two keynote addresses from the 2019 Graphic Medicine conference, the theme of which was, “Queerying Graphic Medicine: Paradigms, Power, and Practice.” Meg-John Barker’s keynote address fits perfectly with this framing of our conference and our work in Graphic Medicine. Meg-John is the author of a number of popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including Queer: A Graphic History, How to Understand your Gender, Life isn’t Binary, Enjoy Sex (How, When, and IF You Want To), Rewriting the Rules, The Psychology of Sex, and The Secrets of Enduring Love. They have also written a number... Read More
In the fourth Cutting of Season 3, Dave considers different forms of and approaches to therapy; talks to poet, playwright and performer, Tanaka Mhishi about consent, masculinity and recovering from trauma; and plays some clips from the Meg-John and Justin podcast, which consider social and personal scripts, staying with our feelings, and power. CONTENT NOTE: rape, sexual assault, suicidal ideation, mental health issues, racism, violence, trauma The Family Tree's Cuttings discuss the real issues raised in the show with special guests from podcasting, journalism, religion and the arts. Find our Guests! Tanaka Mhishi: https://tanakamhishi.co.uk/ Tanaka's work around sexual violence: https://www.angles.org.uk/profiles/tanaka-mhishi/ The Consent Collective: https://www.consentcollective.com/ Meg-John and Justin (podcast, book, zines): https://megjohnandjustin.com/ Meg-John Barker (writing, zines): https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/ Justin Hancock's sex and relationship education for young people: Bish https://www.bishuk.com https://bishtraining.com/ Tanaka's episode of Getting Better Acquainted: https://soundcloud.com/gettingbetteracquainted/gba-347-tanaka-mhishi
This week, Hannah chats to author Dr Meg-John Barker about consent cultural, and the difficulties of being consensual in our sex lives and relationships when the whole of cultural is non-consensual. MJ discusses the limited definition of what we see as sex, and the importance of solo sex and knowing our bodies and what we want. They also chat about the pressure we put on romantic love, and how we value this above all other kinds of love. Finally, they talk about communicating with your partner, and how there is no one relationship style that is easier or better than others. Meg-John: https://twitter.com/megjohnbarker
Your pleasure matters. Join the July cohort of my 5-week online Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. Welcome to this week's episode, it's a very special treat, but first! Did you know you can support the show? You can, on Patreon. The show is entirely self-funded, so every single dollar makes a huge difference for me. If you support at $3 and above each month, you get exclusive weekly content you can't find anywhere else and if you support at $5 per month and above, you can help me answer listener questions. This week's bonus is my chat with Adiposivity's founder Substantia Jones for the Explore More Bodies summit. We talk all about her project of photographing fat, naked bodies all around the world. Don't miss it! Head to patreon.com/sgrpodcast to support the show and get your bonus access. So, for this week's episode, in the spirit of treating myself to a vacation and working as little as possible (thank you to the person who emailed me and said I deserve a break - it felt so great to receive that support), this week's episode is my chat with Meg-John Barker from the very first Explore More Summit. Meg-John is someone I have learned SO much from and I adore their curious, compassionate approach to mental health, gender, love, and relationship. If you haven't checked out their awesome books, including one of my favorites "Rewriting the Rules", you can learn more about them here. In this interview, we talk about the ways we define love and how rigid it is, how we can find new ways to love and be in relationship, the romanticism and idea of The One that sets us up for a ton of distress, more expansive ways to approach happiness and love in our lives, self-criticism and intense emotions, and how we can begin healing and learning ways to navigate it all. Also, that book I mentioned, "Turn This World Inside Out" by Nora Samaran is recently out by AK Press, and you can grab your copy here. I'll be back next week with loads of your questions, so stay tuned! Have questions of your own you'd like featured on the show? Send me a note! Grab the full episode transcript at sexgetsreal.com/ep268 Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram. About Host Dawn Serra: What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence. It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cats as I read a YA novel, or obsessing over MasterChef Australia. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)
As part of our project gathering the voices of men and boys around relationships, masculinity and abuse, Ruth spoke to Justin Hancock. Take our voices of men and boys survey: https://www.snapsurveys.com/wh/s.asp?k=155626547271 Justin runs www.bishuk.com, a website for over 14s about sex, love and you. His website for practitioners is www.bishtraining.com and he also co-wrote the free RSE resources at www.dorseforschools.com. In addition to all this he also works with Meg-John Barker about sex and relationships at www.megjohnandjustin.com where you can find podcasts, blogs, zines and books for a general (adult) audience.
In this special episode Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi answer a series of questions about all things non-binary posed by their publisher, Jessica Kingsley, to celebrate LGBT History Month in the UK and their upcoming book, Life Isn't Binary (to be published in May 2019). https://www.amazon.co.uk/Life-Isnt-Binary-Beyond-Between/dp/1785924796/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1550678081&sr=8-1&keywords=life+isn%27t+binary The full transcript of the episode can be found here http://genderstories.buzzsprout.com/156032/960367-non-binary-everything
Dr Meg-John Barker joins me to discuss all things gender and non-binary. We will cover current cutting edge ideas about gender, why life can be and should be seen as non-binary, the basics of gender pronouns, understanding ambivalence and shades of grey. We will finish off the show with some tips and tricks to increase your ability to deal with the non-binary and live in the shades of grey or the rainbow of colour.
In this episode Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi answer a series of questions about all things non-binary posed by their publisher, Jessica Kingsley, to celebrate LGBT History Month in the UK and their upcoming book, Life Isn't Binary (to be published in May 2019). Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/genderstories)
This episode is all about language. Alex Iantaffi reflects on the multiple ways in which language and gender are connected and can define one another. They invite us to look at language through the lens of gender and to reflect on what we might open up or close down with our linguistic choices. As well as offering some definitions of words like trans, cis and non-binary, which have already been used on the show, they also invite us to look at gendered words such as madam, lady, gentleman, handsome and pretty from a more intentional perspective. If you would like to deepen this conversation, you can check out Alex's website at www.alexiantaffi.com, their book "How To Understand You Gender" and the upcoming book "Life Isn't Binary", both co-authored with Meg-John Barker. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/genderstories)
We had a look around the Modern Couples exhibition at the Barbican https://www.barbican.org.uk/whats-on/2018/event/modern-couples-art-intimacy-and-the-avant-garde which is all about the relationship between art, avant garde and relationship models. We went round it to chat about the relationships and considered just how radical they were and what we can learn about this for ourselves. Here’s the blurb from the exhibition: “Explore modern art and modern love; Modern Couples reveals how relationships can become a playground for creativity. Featuring the biggest names in Modern Art, Modern Couples explores creative relationships, across painting, sculpture, photography, design and literature. Meet the artist couples that forged new ways of making art and of living and loving. The exhibition illuminates these creative and personal relationships, from the obsessional and fleeting to the life-long.” It’s £16 and it’s on till 27th January 2019 and if you’re interested in relationship diversity and/or avant garde art, this is for you. We did this because we are also running a workshop on 6th December 2018 at the Barbican. Buy tickets here https://www.barbican.org.uk/whats-on/2018/event/modern-couples-make-your-own-relationship-rules 'Modern Couples: Make Your Own Relationship Rules' Modern Couples demonstrated how artists at the beginning of the 20th century were taking the radical approach to their work and applying (at least some of) this radicalism to their personal relationships. Justin Hancock and Meg-John Barker are here to help you explore the different kinds of relationship models seen in the show and how we might navigate them today. From monogamy, to ethical non-monogamy, to relationship anarchy, and our relationship with ourselves, this friendly and practical workshop will give you helpful tools to help you with whatever kind of relationship style might work for you. The workshop is open to anyone, regardless of previous knowledge and experience. We hope it will be lively, interactive, fun and thought-provoking.
Justin Hancock, a fantastic, experienced and qualified UK-based sex and relationships educator chats with Alex Iantaffi about the role of gender in sex education, consent, power and privilege and so much more! Justin is also the co-host of the fabulous Meg-John & Justin podcast, as well as co-author (with Meg-John Barker) of Enjoy Sex (How, when and IF you want to). You can find his podcast and educational zines co-created with Meg-John Barker at https://megjohnandjustin.com/ Find out about their training courses and resources at https://bishtraining.com/ and find their sex education website for everyone over 14 at https://www.bishuk.com/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/genderstories)
Dr. Meg-John Barker, amazing UK-based scholar, therapist, author, sex and relationship expert and Alex's friend for the past 15 years, as well as co-author of "How To Understand You Gender", shares vulnerable insights on writing, vulnerability and, of course, gender, as well as so much more! Join us at the kitchen table for a warm and vulnerable conversation on so many topics close to our hearts.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/genderstories)
Please enjoy again: Q is for Queer. Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I'm Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don't have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is Q and Q is for Queer. Queer is defined in a number of ways. Queer can be a slur used for homosexual people. Queer is also reclaimed by many people who have non-mainstream sexual orientation or gender identification. Queer theory is an academic discipline that studies all things non-binary – so polyamory, bisexuality, and non-binary gender, gender fluid and transgender. To learn a full history of the term Queer, check out Dr Meg-John Barker's graphic novel Queer: A Graphic History. Joining me today is Shula Melamed who is a Relationship and Wellness Coach located in New York City. She has been coaching individuals, couples and groups on topics of intimacy, sexuality, healthy relationships, social skills and adhering to health and wellness programs. In addition to working with her clients she has also done research on the popularity of pole dancing classes, has worked as an ethnographer of youth subcultures in New York City, on public health research on drug use and adherence to HIV medication and as a sexual health advisor for the sex positive underwear line Oddo. Shula thanks for joining me! To start, how do you define queer? Shula defined queer in a similar manner to mine. Our conversation covered privilege, intersectionality, and the need for people on the LGBTQIA spectrum to be seen. We spoke about how invisibility has mental health and physical health consequences and how queer can be seen entirely politically. Shula spoke about how the millennials seem to have more fluid ideas about gender, sexuality and relationship structure. She mentioned someone who identifies as demi-sexual who says that she cannot have sex with anyone unless she has an emotional relationship with the person. I had never heard the term demi-sexual before. I pointed out that this is the way sexual relationships were seen in generations past – only to be had in relationships that had an emotional connection and component. Shula offers listeners a complimentary 30 minute Skype session. Head over to her website www.shulamelamed.com and mention that you heard her on the A to Z of Sex podcast. She can be found on Facebook (shulamelamedmamph), twitter: @shulamelamed and linked in (shulamelamed). Thanks for joining me this week for the A to Z of Sex Write in with your questions to drloribeth@atozofsex.com and visit both websites www.atozofsex.com and www.the-intimacy-coach.com to learn about alternative sexual choices, types of sexual relationships and to learn to sizzle and create that ideal lasting intimate relationship. For a free 30 minute session with me, head over to www.atozofsex.com and click on the button that says ‘book now'. Please join me next week when the letter will be R.
Please enjoy again: Sex Spoken Here: Let’s Talk about Gender part 3 Welcome to my virtual therapy room! I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones. Today I am continuing my series about gender. Joining me today to continue the discussion is Dr Meg-John Barker. They are a writer, therapist, and activist-academic specialising in sex, gender and relationships. Meg-John is a senior lecturer in psychology at the Open University and a UKCP accredited psychotherapist, and has over a decade of experience researching and publishing on these topics including the popular books Rewriting the Rules, The Secrets of Enduring Love and Queer: A Graphic History. We started by talking about language and definitions. Meg-John highlighted that non-binary is the overarching term used now for anyone who doesn’t identify as male or female. We spoke about how many other terms there are that fall under non-binary including but not limited to: gender queer, gender fluid, demi (boy, girl), trans. We spoke about how hard it is for people to understand the gender journey and how important it is for everyone to look at this journey as even folks who are happy with the gender assigned at birth go through gender changes throughout the life span. Meg-John used the example of a woman going on the pill which is taking hormones and a woman who has had breast cancer and her breasts removed as a result having to look at how she expresses her female gender. They also mentioned men who have larger boobs and choose to do breast reduction or men who take steroids to do body building. Gender does not stay static through the life span. We spoke about how hard people find ambivalence and uncertainty and how badly people want to categorise and box people, places and things. We talked about how much pressure there can be for trans people to make the decision to transition and then do it quickly and that this is unhelpful. We both feel this comes from the difficulty people have with uncertainty and ambivalence in part. We talked about how gender is not just socially influenced but that it is biologically influenced as well and that sex is not just biological but can and is socially influenced. We spoke about Meg-John’s book coming out in the autumn which is about how to figure out issues around your gender. We noted that having a gender identification outside of male or female seems to upset people more than issues around sexuality, kink and polyamory versus monogamy. You can find Dr Meg-John Barker at: Website: www.rewriting-the-rules.com. Twitter: @megjohnbarker. All of their books are available on the website. Check out their podcast: Meg-John and Justin Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook.. Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to www.the-intimacy-coach.com and click the button that says Schedule Now! I look forward to seeing you next week.
Please enjoy again: Sex Spoken Here: Let’s Talk about Gender part 1 Welcome to my virtual therapy room! I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones. Today I am continuing my series about gender. Last week I started my discussion with Melvin Marsh. Today we are continuing that discussion. If you haven’t heard part 1, go on and download it and have a listen. Melvin Marsh is a practicing medical hypnotherapist in with particular interests in medical hypnosis, phobias, and anxiety. While attending medical school, hypnotherapy was suggested to him to deal with his own anxiety problem caused by a residual medical phobia. As hypnotherapy started to relieve the symptoms, he realized he could use hypnosis to help his future patients. Eventually, he left medical school to pursue studies at HMI College of Hypnotherapy where he graduated with honors. He became a certified hypnotherapist under the strict guidelines of the Hypnotherapist's Union Local 472 AFL-CIO, the strictest certifying agency in the United States requiring an additional 80 clinical hours over that of the National Guild. Melvin has been interviewed by top podcasts, including being interviewed by the famous Adam Eason of Hypnosis Weekly and is much in demand as a speaker and teacher. We started by finishing our talk about screening and therapy prior to transitioning and the number of people who have second thoughts and return to their original gender. We moved on to the difficulties involved in dating and talked about when it is appropriate to tell someone that you are trans (as soon as possible says Melvin). We spoke about the effects of transition on sexuality and the fact that sometimes sexual orientation changes and other times it does not so nothing can be assumed. We talked anatomy and the changes that happy for FTM transsexuals. We spoke about the different ways people like to have sex, the importance of getting pronouns correct but the recognition that honest mistakes are usually quickly forgiven. We spoke about how awful it is when someone repeatedly chooses to address a person incorrectly and how invalidating that is. If you want to find Melvin: Website Link www.afterhourshypnotherapy.com Facebook link https://www.facebook.com/afterhourshypnotherapy/ twitter link https://twitter.com/melsmarsh/ Other social media link https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJhbqVCZtqEuwVx-azZJoA/ Offer you want to promote on the show If you wish to book LGBT culturally competent hypnosis, or anything like that in general, $50 (USD) off any service but you have to use the contact us form on the website so it goes directly to me and just mention Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook.. Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to www.the-intimacy-coach.com and click the button that says Schedule Now! I look forward to seeing you next week for part three of this series on gender where I will be interviewing Dr Meg-John Barker.
Here is a reboot of Sex Love Stories 6, please enjoy: Sex Spoken Here: Sex Love Stories 6: Anita Cassidy Welcome to my virtual therapy room! I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones. Today is the sixth instalment of the sex love series. Joining me today is author Anita Cassidy. Anita describes herself as a white British woman, age 41 who grew up moving around a lot because her father was in the Royal Air Force. We started with her first awareness of herself as a sexual being and she said that this wasn’t until she was 14 or 15. She said she didn’t touch herself and that sex wasn’t talked about in her home. She described her first awareness as noticing her body’s response to movies (and being uncomfortable watching them with her parents), enjoying the Sunday Sport images of naked women and stories about sex and described saving enough pennies to try to listen to the women talk on the phone sex lines. Anita said her first proper sexual experience was when she was 17 and with a boyfriend. She spoke about being ready to have sex and being excited to explore this new chapter of her life. She talked about the next number of boyfriends she had where the relationships were good and the sex was pleasant if not exciting. She spoke about stable relationships through university and then moving to London and moving in with her boyfriend. Anita spoke about her first job in advertising sales for the Independent and that the atmosphere at work was very sexually charged and she enjoyed this. She commented that this is interesting given current focus on sexual harassment and whether there is any place for sex and relationships in the workplace. She talked about a period of time spent exploring and how much she enjoyed this and being the centre of attention. Anita talked about reaching 26 and deciding it was time to be serious so that she was taken seriously. She identifies this time as when she truly split her mind from her body and that she didn’t believe she could have both and exciting sexual life and a serious career. Anita spoke of marrying and that the sex was ‘good enough’ but not really exciting. She said that she was pregnant within 6 months of marriage and the focus became on having a family. She said that they were not a couple who had no sex for many months and that they talked about making sure they were still having sex but said that they never talked about sexual desires, wants or needs. Anita highlighted this as a theme throughout her life up to that point. Anita spoke of realising she was bored and unhappy once her children were both in school and child care. She said she ended up in a conversation with a man she met through her writing and that this was when she discovered kink and BDSM. She described this as though someone had ‘walked through (my) mind and turned all the lights on’. She spoke of reading Dr Meg-John Barker’s ‘Rewriting the Rules’ and asking her husband to read the book as well. She talked about the painful conversation that led to them opening up their marriage. Anita talked about finally integrating her sexual needs and desires and how amazing this is. She spoke of this transforming the rest of her life. Anita’s book is available to pre-order now on Amazon. Here is the link: Appetite Today we spoke about being kinky, BDSM, Master/slave relationships, non-monogamy, the importance of congruence and communication, the wonders of being raised without shame around sexuality. If you were triggered or if this resonates with you, do email me. In addition to emailing me at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com for more information, you can find resources on the podcast pages as part of the podcast notes. Check out these podcasts and blogs for more information: BDSM dating D/s Relationships Consent Communication Non-Monogamy 1 Non-Monogamy 2 Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. I have a TV channel on the BonBonNetwork For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to https://the-intimacy-coach.com/and click the button that says Schedule Now! on the contact page. Please leave a review on iTunes and stitcher. The next five people who leave a review on iTunes or Stitcher will receive a 10% discount on any of my services.
I don't write smut, I don't share sexy pictures, I don't wear slutty outfits. So am I sexy enough? Things get up close and personal in the first of The Second Circle's Solo Sessions as Franki goes it alone in order to ponder a question that's been on her mind. This episode looks at how it feels when everyone around you seems to be having more adventurous sex than you and why we need to shake the idea that there's such a thing as the “right” way to be sexy.LINKSYou can read Clarisse Thorn's essay I'm Not Your Sex-Crazy Nympho Dreamgirl here.If you like tackling subjects like this in fine detail, you should definitely check out Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock's podcasts here. Their book, Enjoy Sex, is available here.The Second Circle is a sex and gender politics podcast hosted by Franki Cookney. Get in touch @The2ndCircle or via our contact page. If you enjoyed the show today, why not buy me a coffee?Support the show (https://ko-fi.com/frankicookney)
Guest: Lisa Keating from My Purple UmbrellaThis amazing women tells the story of how she went from being a massage therapist with a gift for crafting to becoming an advocate for LGBTQ+ rights in WA state through her nonprofit, My Purple Umbrella. Ideas referenced in the show:HB2661 Anderson- Murray Background HIB details; HIB Resources from Tacoma Public SchoolsTeaching conflict management for kids Pre-K through 5th grade--Kelso’s ChoiceSCDM - each school building has a committee that works on school-wide initiatives. It’s a great place to start if you want to make positive change happen in local schools.Language changes over time, be patient with the process and also have grace for yourself and others Timeless or Terrible: Tanning Do Your Fudging Homework:Lisa: Check out My Purple Umbrella’s book club - the Queerest Book Club Ever - at King’s Books on the first Monday of each month. The book for March is Queer: a Graphic History by Meg-John Barker.Annie: One Teacher in Ten, edited by Kevin Jennings and 50 Queers Who Changed the World by Daniel Jones.Hope: YA books! Simon vs. the Homosapien Agenda by Becky Albertalli, None of the Above by I.W. Gregorio and If I Was Your Girl by Meredith Russo.
Sex Spoken Here: Sex Love Stories 6: Anita Cassidy Welcome to my virtual therapy room! I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones. Today is the sixth instalment of the sex love series. Joining me today is author Anita Cassidy. Anita describes herself as a white British woman, age 41 who grew up moving around a lot because her father was in the Royal Air Force. We started with her first awareness of herself as a sexual being and she said that this wasn’t until she was 14 or 15. She said she didn’t touch herself and that sex wasn’t talked about in her home. She described her first awareness as noticing her body’s response to movies (and being uncomfortable watching them with her parents), enjoying the Sunday Sport images of naked women and stories about sex and described saving enough pennies to try to listen to the women talk on the phone sex lines. Anita said her first proper sexual experience was when she was 17 and with a boyfriend. She spoke about being ready to have sex and being excited to explore this new chapter of her life. She talked about the next number of boyfriends she had where the relationships were good and the sex was pleasant if not exciting. She spoke about stable relationships through university and then moving to London and moving in with her boyfriend. Anita spoke about her first job in advertising sales for the Independent and that the atmosphere at work was very sexually charged and she enjoyed this. She commented that this is interesting given current focus on sexual harassment and whether there is any place for sex and relationships in the workplace. She talked about a period of time spent exploring and how much she enjoyed this and being the centre of attention. Anita talked about reaching 26 and deciding it was time to be serious so that she was taken seriously. She identifies this time as when she truly split her mind from her body and that she didn’t believe she could have both and exciting sexual life and a serious career. Anita spoke of marrying and that the sex was ‘good enough’ but not really exciting. She said that she was pregnant within 6 months of marriage and the focus became on having a family. She said that they were not a couple who had no sex for many months and that they talked about making sure they were still having sex but said that they never talked about sexual desires, wants or needs. Anita highlighted this as a theme throughout her life up to that point. Anita spoke of realising she was bored and unhappy once her children were both in school and child care. She said she ended up in a conversation with a man she met through her writing and that this was when she discovered kink and BDSM. She described this as though someone had ‘walked through (my) mind and turned all the lights on’. She spoke of reading Dr Meg-John Barker’s ‘Rewriting the Rules’ and asking her husband to read the book as well. She talked about the painful conversation that led to them opening up their marriage. Anita talked about finally integrating her sexual needs and desires and how amazing this is. She spoke of this transforming the rest of her life. Anita’s book is available to pre-order now on Amazon. Here is the link: Appetite Today we spoke about being kinky, BDSM, Master/slave relationships, non-monogamy, the importance of congruence and communication, the wonders of being raised without shame around sexuality. If you were triggered or if this resonates with you, do email me. In addition to emailing me at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com for more information, you can find resources on the podcast pages as part of the podcast notes. Check out these podcasts and blogs for more information: BDSM dating D/s Relationships Consent Communication Non-Monogamy 1 Non-Monogamy 2 Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. I have a TV channel on the BonBonNetwork For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to https://the-intimacy-coach.com/and click the button that says Schedule Now! on the contact page. Please leave a review on iTunes and stitcher. The next five people who leave a review on iTunes or Stitcher will receive a 10% discount on any of my services. I forward to next week’s sex love story.
Sex Spoken Here: Let’s Talk about Gender part 3 Welcome to my virtual therapy room! I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones. Today I am continuing my series about gender. Joining me today to continue the discussion is Dr Meg-John Barker. They are a writer, therapist, and activist-academic specialising in sex, gender and relationships. Meg-John is a senior lecturer in psychology at the Open University and a UKCP accredited psychotherapist, and has over a decade of experience researching and publishing on these topics including the popular books Rewriting the Rules, The Secrets of Enduring Love and Queer: A Graphic History. We started by talking about language and definitions. Meg-John highlighted that non-binary is the overarching term used now for anyone who doesn’t identify as male or female. We spoke about how many other terms there are that fall under non-binary including but not limited to: gender queer, gender fluid, demi (boy, girl), trans. We spoke about how hard it is for people to understand the gender journey and how important it is for everyone to look at this journey as even folks who are happy with the gender assigned at birth go through gender changes throughout the life span. Meg-John used the example of a woman going on the pill which is taking hormones and a woman who has had breast cancer and her breasts removed as a result having to look at how she expresses her female gender. They also mentioned men who have larger boobs and choose to do breast reduction or men who take steroids to do body building. Gender does not stay static through the life span. We spoke about how hard people find ambivalence and uncertainty and how badly people want to categorise and box people, places and things. We talked about how much pressure there can be for trans people to make the decision to transition and then do it quickly and that this is unhelpful. We both feel this comes from the difficulty people have with uncertainty and ambivalence in part. We talked about how gender is not just socially influenced but that it is biologically influenced as well and that sex is not just biological but can and is socially influenced. We spoke about Meg-John’s book coming out in the autumn which is about how to figure out issues around your gender. We noted that having a gender identification outside of male or female seems to upset people more than issues around sexuality, kink and polyamory versus monogamy. You can find Dr Meg-John Barker at: Website: www.rewriting-the-rules.com. Twitter: @megjohnbarker. All of their books are available on the website. Check out their podcast: Meg-John and Justin Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook.. Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to www.the-intimacy-coach.com and click the button that says Schedule Now! I look forward to seeing you next week.
Sex Spoken Here: Let’s Talk about Gender part 1 Welcome to my virtual therapy room! I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones. Today I am continuing my series about gender. Last week I started my discussion with Melvin Marsh. Today we are continuing that discussion. If you haven’t heard part 1, go on and download it and have a listen. Melvin Marsh is a practicing medical hypnotherapist in with particular interests in medical hypnosis, phobias, and anxiety. While attending medical school, hypnotherapy was suggested to him to deal with his own anxiety problem caused by a residual medical phobia. As hypnotherapy started to relieve the symptoms, he realized he could use hypnosis to help his future patients. Eventually, he left medical school to pursue studies at HMI College of Hypnotherapy where he graduated with honors. He became a certified hypnotherapist under the strict guidelines of the Hypnotherapist's Union Local 472 AFL-CIO, the strictest certifying agency in the United States requiring an additional 80 clinical hours over that of the National Guild. Melvin has been interviewed by top podcasts, including being interviewed by the famous Adam Eason of Hypnosis Weekly and is much in demand as a speaker and teacher. We started by finishing our talk about screening and therapy prior to transitioning and the number of people who have second thoughts and return to their original gender. We moved on to the difficulties involved in dating and talked about when it is appropriate to tell someone that you are trans (as soon as possible says Melvin). We spoke about the effects of transition on sexuality and the fact that sometimes sexual orientation changes and other times it does not so nothing can be assumed. We talked anatomy and the changes that happy for FTM transsexuals. We spoke about the different ways people like to have sex, the importance of getting pronouns correct but the recognition that honest mistakes are usually quickly forgiven. We spoke about how awful it is when someone repeatedly chooses to address a person incorrectly and how invalidating that is. If you want to find Melvin: Website Link www.afterhourshypnotherapy.com Facebook link https://www.facebook.com/afterhourshypnotherapy/ twitter link https://twitter.com/melsmarsh/ Other social media link https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJhbqVCZtqEuwVx-azZJoA/ Offer you want to promote on the show If you wish to book LGBT culturally competent hypnosis, or anything like that in general, $50 (USD) off any service but you have to use the contact us form on the website so it goes directly to me and just mention Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook.. Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to www.the-intimacy-coach.com and click the button that says Schedule Now! I look forward to seeing you next week for part three of this series on gender where I will be interviewing Dr Meg-John Barker.
Welcome to my virtual therapy room! I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Today we are continuing our discussion about non-monogamy. Joining me again to explore this is Dr Meg-John Barker is a writer, therapist, and activist-academic specialising in sex, gender and relationships. Meg-John is a senior lecturer in psychology at the Open University and a UKCP accredited psychotherapist, and has over a decade of experience researching and publishing on these topics including the popular books Rewriting the Rules, The Secrets of Enduring Love and Queer: A Graphic History. Website: www.rewriting-the-rules.com. Twitter: @megjohnbarker. Welcome to the show. Today I would love to focus on the practicalities involved in non-monogamy. Let’s start with how you know if non-monogamy is for you? Meg-John spoke about reading about different types of non-monogamy in Tristan Tamorino’s book Opening Up , reading the classic book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, The Ethical Slut and reading Frankline Veaux and Tatiana Gill’s More than Two. We spoke about taking things slowly and examining your needs and looking at what feels like it will suit your style. Meg-John highlighted the fact that you may not know how things will work for you until you actually try things but we both agreed that the more thought you put into your needs and limits and the more you explored before jumping into a relationship, the more likely you will make a better relationship choice. Meg-John identified metacommunication (talking about the way in which you communicate including what information is shared with your partner) is a skill that is particularly helpful when talking with potential lovers or partners. We both identified high level communication skills, conflict management skills and assertiveness as essential life skills as well. Meg-John said that some people they know have taken to using a shared google doc to design their relationship including talking about expectations, limits, desires, form of non-monogamy, the way time is spent and even the relationship patterns that you have identified that might not be the best. Meg-John suggested that rather than doing what one does when dating which is present all the shiny pretty things and sometimes pretend there are no more murky parts to the self, in this situation, one is presenting the murky parts up front as part of the whole. We spoke about jealousy and about learning to experience the feeling fully and then sit with it, reflecting to understand where it is coming from and gain insight. Once that insight is gained, perhaps speaking to the person about the jealousy but not in a way that looks for the person to change their behaviour. Meg-John did make the point that just because someone is polyamorous does not mean that they are perfect or nice and that sometimes people act like jerks and then jealousy might be a very appropriate response. We finished up by speaking about how you can go about meeting other polyamorous people. We spoke about using Meetup to find groups, locating groups on Facebook, and that in urban areas people can even look for groups that cover some of their intersectionalities. We noted that in some poly groups a certain type of person can be overwhelmed by requests for dates while other people can find themselves feeling rejected as they might be ignored. We also highlighted that there can be pressure in more sex-positive groups to be poly or non-monogamous as well and that learning assertiveness is also an essential skill to manage these areas. Dr Meg-John Barker’s books mentioned on the program: Enjoy Sex (How, when and if you want to) (with Justin Hancock) Free Zines Twitter @megjohnbarker Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/megjohnbarkerwriter Website: Rewriting the Rules Thanks for joining me this week for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com, follow me on twitter @drbisbey. For a free 30 minute strategy session with me, go to www.the-intimacy-coach.com and click the button that says Schedule Now! I look forward to seeing you next week.
Welcome to my virtual therapy room! I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Today we are beginning our discussion about non-monogamy. Joining me to explore this is Dr Meg-John Barker is a writer, therapist, and activist-academic specialising in sex, gender and relationships. Meg-John is a senior lecturer in psychology at the Open University and a UKCP accredited psychotherapist, and has over a decade of experience researching and publishing on these topics including the popular books Rewriting the Rules, The Secrets of Enduring Love and Queer: A Graphic History. Welcome to the show. Let’s start with some definitions of non-monogamies. Meg-John spoke of definitions that run from fully monogamous in the strictest sense which may preclude having friends of the opposite gender through to monogamish in which a couple may say that kissing other people is OK or certain sexual acts are OK through open relationships where there is sex with others (including swinging, don’t ask don’t tell) through to polyamory where there are multiple romantic partners, mentioning polygamy (1 man multiple wives) and polyandry (1 woman multiple husbands). Meg-John spoke of how many different forms all of these can take and spoke of relationship anarchy where people don’t prioritise any type of relationship and also solo polyamory where someone considers their primary relationship to be with themselves. Meg-John made the point that relationships are like fingerprints, completely individual and that people can and should construct the relationships that work for them. I note the new research on sexual orientation that sees orientation as flowing over a number of axes instead of just heterosexual to homosexual. How do non-monogamies fit here? Meg-John replied that non-monogamies can be seen as part of the sexuality and sexual orientation spectrum. They spoke about the work of Dr Elisabeth Sheff on polyamory and how many people see non-monogamy as one axis that is part of sexual orientation spectrum and that this can be fluid over the life time. We discussed the statistics in relation to monogamy and non-monogamy and highlighted that if one looks worldwide non-monogamy is more usual and that in the west if one includes non-consensual non-monogamy (like affairs and flings), then non-monogamy is also the norm. Meg-John and I both agreed and repeatedly highlighted that there is no one way to have a relationship and that it is essential that education talk about the many possible ways to be in relationship and highlight that none of them are right or wrong rather a style may be right or wrong for you. In part two, we talk about some of the practicalities of non-monogamy. You can find Dr Meg-John Barker at: Website: www.rewriting-the-rules.com. Twitter: @megjohnbarker. Thanks for joining me this week for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com, follow me on twitter @drbisbey. For a free 30 minute strategy session with me, go to www.the-intimacy-coach.com and click the button that says Schedule Now! I look forward to seeing you next week for part 2 of this series.
The final part of the New Year Transformation series is all about RELATIONSHIPS! Our intimate relationships can have a profound impact on our overall quality of life so cracking the code of what makes a "successful" relationship is absolutely vital. Unlike business, which is limited only to those who have had the courage to start an entrepreneurial venture, most of us have had at least some experience when it comes to intimate relationships no matter how successfully those relationships may have been, so we all have some perspective and perhaps some intense feelings about the topic! So, to help us delve into this topic I sought out an expert who has dedicated their professional career to understanding relationships. Our guest today is Dr. Meg-John Barker, MJ for short! MJ is a writer, therapist, and activist-academic specialising in sex, gender and relationships. Please remember to subscribe to the show on your chosen Podcast platform to get automatic updates! The Unstoppable Podcast : © 2019 Unstoppable Media Soundtrack: © 2017 Jon Burns
What is ‘being present’? Why does it matter? How can you achieve it? One of the key skills for a counsellor or psychotherapist - and a key element of the therapeutic relationship - is the ability to be ‘present’ to the client whatever material they bring into the room. This film explores what ‘being present’ means, both in relation to the therapist capacity to sit with clients’ material, and in relation to the client becoming more able to be present to themselves and sit with their experiences and difficult emotions. These things are emphasised across all therapeutic approaches, but mindfulness in particularly has some tools for developing the capacity to be present. This animation was developed by Dr Meg-John Barker, Senior Lecturer in Psychology at the Open University, and Damn Fine Media.
Transcript -- What is ‘being present’? Why does it matter? How can you achieve it? One of the key skills for a counsellor or psychotherapist - and a key element of the therapeutic relationship - is the ability to be ‘present’ to the client whatever material they bring into the room. This film explores what ‘being present’ means, both in relation to the therapist capacity to sit with clients’ material, and in relation to the client becoming more able to be present to themselves and sit with their experiences and difficult emotions. These things are emphasised across all therapeutic approaches, but mindfulness in particularly has some tools for developing the capacity to be present. This animation was developed by Dr Meg-John Barker, Senior Lecturer in Psychology at the Open University, and Damn Fine Media.
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