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"In this episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, Garrett and Danielle share how a recent discovery of a tangled web of lies woven by their teenage daughter exposes them as parents. Their conversation leads to possible causes and solutions, as well as realizations about their parenting strategy or lack thereof. The reality is, your kids are always hiding something from you, and it's your job to find out what it is."   QUOTES OF THE WEEK   “I’m finding out I may be like the good cop, meaning the silent, stoic guy who doesn’t yell; he just states the facts and convicts people.” –Garrett J White “I realize I gave her too much freedom. That’s my fault. And now I’m trying to course-correct to get back on track.” —Danielle K White   PARENTING CHALLENGE What is your parenting strategy?   FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.

"This week’s episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast is about making financial decisions, particularly when it comes to the ‘big’ ones. This is typically a hot topic for most couples, and the Whites are no exception. Their back-and-forth duel ultimately comes down to learning how to submit to the other’s insanity and accepting it as part of the equation." QUOTE OF THE WEEK: “Yes, we are fallible. Yes, we fuck a lot of things up. But the cool this is, we keep winning. Why? Because we keep submitting." --Garrett J White “If I expect a man to show up as a man and be masculine, then I have to show up as a woman… and let him be the man.” —Danielle K White COMMUNICATION CHALLENGE: Choose a topic and then ask yourself the question, "How can I pre-frame this in a way that will allow for us to have a rational conversation? THE 5 STAGES OF MARRIAGE: divorceyourwife.com WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE: This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com CLICK HERE TO WATCH THE EPISODE ON YOUTUBE

Always entertaining and willing to go where most won’t, Garrett and Danielle are keeping it real and raw in this week’s spicy episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, where they pull back the curtain on all things sex & relationships. What’s the difference between sex and intimate sex? What is vaginal masturbation? How much power do women have with the sex card? How does the Stack fit into all of this? What about Danielle’s fitness competition journey? How do you date your spouse? And...what was the last piece of the puzzle that ultimately set their marriage and sex life on fire?   Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast! —————— CLICK HERE TO WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBE —————— DATE NIGHT CHALLENGE: If you have something you want to do on Date Night, then schedule it. ——————  QUOTES OF THE WEEK  “You’ve become the sexual monster that I’ve wanted to be dominated by; the woman who tells me, ‘I conquered you!”’—Garrett J White “When you have sex without intimacy, I’m a personal vibrator.”—Garrett J White “If I’m not connecting with you, we’ll have sex to have sex. But I hold my emotions and vulnerability, and I don’t let myself even enjoy it or have fun.”—Danielle K White “I hated the idea of having somebody tell me, "You can spend money on this, but you can’t spend money on that." I wanted to keep my independence.”—Danielle K White —————— Divorceyourwife.com - Video series that walks you through the 5 Stages of Relationships. Wake Up Warrior Challenge - The Art & Science of Having It All.

Always entertaining and willing to go where most won’t, Garrett and Danielle are keeping it real and raw in this week’s spicy episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, where they pull back the curtain on all things sex & relationships. What’s the difference between sex and intimate sex? What is vaginal masturbation? How much power do women have with the sex card? How does the Stack fit into all of this? What about Danielle’s fitness competition journey? How do you date your spouse? And...what was the last piece of the puzzle that ultimately set their marriage and sex life on fire? Sit back and enjoy the Date Your Wife Podcast! —————— CLICK HERE TO WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBE —————— DATE NIGHT CHALLENGE: If you have something you want to do on Date Night, then schedule it. ——————  QUOTES OF THE WEEK  “You’ve become the sexual monster that I’ve wanted to be dominated by; the woman who tells me, ‘I conquered you!”’—Garrett J White “When you have sex without intimacy, I’m a personal vibrator.”—Garrett J White “If I’m not connecting with you, we’ll have sex to have sex. But I hold my emotions and vulnerability, and I don’t let myself even enjoy it or have fun.”—Danielle K White “I hated the idea of having somebody tell me, "You can spend money on this, but you can’t spend money on that." I wanted to keep my independence.”—Danielle K White —————— Divorceyourwife.com - Video series that walks you through the 5 Stages of Relationships. Wake Up Warrior Challenge - The Art & Science of Having It All.

"After a semi-brief hiatus, Garrett J & Danielle K White, dynamic, charismatic, entertaining, and powerful mega-producers, are back! In this highly-anticipated 'welcome back' episode, the couple brings us up to speed about their family life and businesses. They also touch on the five stages of divorce, and what ultimately re-ignited what is now their ride-or-die relationship. Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast."   Quote of the Week:  “You have to jump the gap, divorce the marriage as you know it as, divorce yourself as the way you see yourself, divorce the game in your family the way it’s been…you have to let go. Divorce is mandatory.“ —Garrett J White  “You have to look at what you want the end result to be and then you have to reverse engineer and figure out what those steps are in between to get you what you want.“ —Danielle K White

*Encore presentation from January 2018* Join co-hosts Danielle and Garrett J White with Week Two of the Date Your Wife Podcast, in which they share two VERY different views of how they were raised with money (or without) and how that has affected their relationship as a married couple.   In This Week’s Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Having Expensive Tastes In Which Money Matters Money causes a ton of chaos within marriage, which will make or break the relationship, forcing you to deal with your spouse on a whole new level. Danielle was raised by entrepreneurs that focused on having a home that was up to date and something to have pride in, while to Garrett having a lot of money was unattainable unless you were a doctor with a swimming pool in your backyard, like a kid he remembers from school. QUESTION What kind of background were you raised in that has effected the way in which you approach your outlook on money within marriage?   Point #2: The War of Spending Money Danielle spent money because she wanted to experience life, but for Garrett, money was about spending money on business, which he still struggles with, as they throw each other under the bus in how they spend money. According to Danielle is being a selective cheap bastard until her perspective of her role as a Stylist rather than a Hobbyist she was able to change. QUESTION If you could throw your spouse under the bus, what do you think they struggle with when it comes to spending money?   Point #3: ATMs and Porn Stars Garrett felt like the only way he had value was if he made money, and therefore when he makes money Danielle should put out for sex any time he wants. Women want to feel safe and secure, so it becomes hard to have sex with him when he’s no longer attractive as the Producer, and the man in the relationship doesn’t feel like he’s providing value to the relationship because of this role as well, in which his balls get cut off mentally. QUESTION What does being a Producer do to bring out the sexual dynamic within marriage?   Point #4: Learning from What Didn’t Work: The Cancun Contract With the Cancun Contract, it was 3 for 3: 3 Gifts for 3 sex sessions which led to feeling more like they were purchasing prostitution in an attempt to give their marriage a shot at what would work for them based off of their own love languages for 3 weeks, learning that using money as a manipulator didn’t work but ended to bigger breakthroughs later on. Garrett learned to invest because he wanted his wife to be happy, looking at money as a tool, not an asset by shifting his wife towards being the asset, showing that Danielle matters to him. QUESTION Where can you invest in your spouse with no strings attached, investing in experiences with your spouse and family? Where do you still need to give yourself permission to receive without guilt?   Point #5: I Want You To Want To Hold yourself to a higher standard in order to push your spouse to become more, believing in them more than they believe in themselves. At one point, Garrett made a huge realization that sometimes the man is the ATM, and you need to be OK with it because it shows that she is worth the investment. Danielle is a producer on her own, but she wanted him to want to be a man in seeing the value of investing in her. Now, they have both surrendered and invested in each other. QUESTION How can a woman powerfully support and invest emotionally in her husband to encourage him to become a bigger producer?   Date Night Topic: What improvements can be made in regards to the topic of money?   Quote of the Week: “I was raised to feel that you could get whatever you wanted in life if you are willing to work, but no one was going to save you. I didn’t know that I could want anything more than what I had. I learned that I needed to demonstrate in my marriage that my wife is worth spending money on and worth the investment.” —Garrett J White   “If you want to be treated like a Queen, you’ve got to treat your man like a King. Women need to own their part and let go of the guilt when your husband invests in you. Stop getting stuck in the stories that your man isn’t fulfilling you, and realize that you may not be fulfilling his needs. If he’s putting in effort, take the gifts he’s giving you and see how it feels to then harmonize in fulfilling his needs.” —Danielle White  

Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast, aka the White’s weekly therapy session, coming to you for the first time from their new home studio. In this week’s personal and up-close conversation from inside their bedroom, the highlights of this episode include details about Closet Sex, Garrett’s tendency to go to the extreme, the purpose behind this podcast, and business strategies when it comes to dealing with the haters. *This is an Encore presentation from February 2019*   Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…Communication Point #1: Closet Sex Danielle’s certain she has nailed down the exact time and place of conception of their baby due in July. Knowing her ‘window of pregnancy opportunity’ was wide open, and determined to take full advantage of it, she seduced Garrett one morning as he was on his way out the door. QUESTION Ladies, when and where was the last time you seduced your husband or partner? Point #2: Rivals & Haters Any successful business is always going to have rivals and haters. When you’re new in the game, you take it very seriously and it can be crippling. Garrett: Inside of a relationship, you have to choose you. At the end of the day, if you’re in a relationship that’s not working out, as hard as it might be, you have to take responsibility for the way your marriage is because of you. QUESTION What has been your experience with the “haters” inside of your personal and business life? Point #3: Compromise Danielle: When there’s an end result that I’m looking to get, sometimes I don’t look at the steps I need to take in order to get to that end result. A relationship is a sacrifice and compromise on both ends. There were many times Garrett and I told each other to fuck off. No one goes into a relationship wishing it was shitty. QUESTION What is the current state of your marriage?   Point #4: They’re Going to Talk Shit Garrett: We started down this path of being responsible for our own change as individuals which allowed us to make some very important decisions when it came to business. Part of that process comes from dealing with people who talk shit. In the beginning stage of business, we always believe we’re the exception and that there is something we can do that will have people NOT talk shit about us. QUESTION What is your strategy for dealing with people who talk shit about you or your business? Point #5: The Certainty of Collision Garrett: I think you need to fucking punch people because it helps YOU. When I launched my first podcast filled with explicit lyrics in the Christian category, I was like a knife salesman at a waterbed convention. People began attacking Garrett and were out to take him down. Even though he knew he had brought this on himself, he wasn’t prepared for the incessant heat he was receiving. As he launched his counter-attack on the haters, it began to weaponize him. QUESTION Where in your world have you taken a stand for something, and because of that, have you have received enormous backlash and persecution? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around this topic: It’s your partner that gives you insight and guidance that no one else will give you; it’s your partner that gives you a swift kick, and it’s hard to receive. Date Night Topic: On your next Date Night, have a steamy conversation about seduction. Quote of the Week: “You don’t have to go looking for haters. The moment you take a stand of any significance, a war of haters will come to your front fucking door who are there to train you on how to be able to effectively and powerfully collide with other human beings..” —Garrett J White “If you can’t take the heat, you’re not strong enough to keep going. People who have had enormous amounts of success have figured out how to move on, say fuck you, have tunnel vision, work harder and smarter, and become the best at what they’re doing.” —Danielle K White

It’s no secret that the Date Your Wife Podcast doubles as a weekly therapy session for married co-hosts, Danielle K and Garret J White. This week during their candid conversation about the topic of parenting, fireworks are ignited as they each take a strong stance for their differing parenting tactics and strategies. *Episode Repeat from July 2018*     Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month:     Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication     In This Week’s Podcast…. PARENTING     Point #1: Monster Mom, Monster Child     Garrett spent this past week in Costa Rica on a surfing vacation, and Danielle and the girls flew to Utah to be with her parents for a few days. That first night deep in the jungle of Costa Rica, Garrett received a frantic and emotional text call from Baily, their eleven-year-old daughter, who was screaming and freaking out about her smashed cell phone. That night, he realized that at the end of the day, he had absolutely no control over what was happening over 3500 miles away in a different country.   Danielle: At the same moment Garrett was having that realization, I was having the realization that there was nothing I could do, either. Bailey had flipped her lid and was totally irrational, to the point where anything I said escalated the situation on both sides. I started out calm, and then I got to the point where monster mom came out. I reminded her that she’s eleven and is not entitled to a phone, and eventually grabbed her phone and threw it. I suddenly realized that monster mom created monster child.   QUESTION     What is your parenting strategy when your kids are behaving irrationally?     Point #2: To Slap or Not to Slap     Garrett: Danielle texted me and asked me what she should have done. I said, slap her, but she said no. “Breaking cell phones is a very expensive habit because every cell phone you break, you inevitably end up getting a new cell phone, and we just end up spending more money. Slap her, it’s free, and a quick slap takes care of it all.”   Danielle: I remember being backhanded by my mom a few times. One time she did it so hard that I flew into the window and got a bloody nose. You want me to slap her, but the repercussions of being a pre-teen and having your mom or dad backhand you across the face cause far more scarring than throwing a cell phone.   QUESTION     What are your thoughts about slapping? Yes or no?     Point #3: Cell Phone Family Plan     Danielle: When Baily doesn’t have her cell phone with her 24/7, she’s more present. She has a tendency to get into her head. She worries about the wrong shit and gets sucked into the vortex. I think there’s a lot of good that comes from Social Media, but there have to be boundaries, and there have to be limitations so there isn’t this sense of entitlement. Tonight when we get home, we’re going to create a cell phone contract with her.   Garrett: I think the contract is a very good idea. I just think you need to be very clear about what you’re going to put on the contract. You better be ready to enforce it, and you better know what the enforcement of the plan is, otherwise it’s just going to be another one of those things that never happen. QUESTION     Cell phones and kids – why or why not?     Point #4: Different Parents, Different Strategies     Garrett: As parents, we have radically different strategies for dealing with our children. I deal with life one way, Danielle deals with life another way. Part of what used to cause a lot of conflict was that we didn’t know how to submit to what the other person was passionate about. For example, Danielle said that Baily told her to her face that she’s a fucking bitch. I would slap her in the mouth.   But Danielle’s opposed to that and thinks it’s super trashy. In my opinion, if our daughter calls Danielle a fucking bitch, she deserves to be slapped in the face. The end. Danielle’s strategy is to ignore and wait until things blow up, then she deals with the chaos from that point on. I like to intercept shit and punch it before it becomes a major issue. This has created a lot of chaos for us as we raise our children because we have totally different strategies.   QUESTION     What are your parenting strategies?     Point #5: Kings, Support Your Queens     Garrett: Gentlemen, yes it’s your job to lead in the house, but at the same time, your wife spends more time with your children. At the end of the day, although I may have opinions about how things should go on at home, she spends the most time with them and they’ve figured out their game. One of the worst things you can do is to fuck up their flow, even when it looks like complete insanity from the outside. Just support it.   There’s a shitload of disrespect in our country with kids in this age group who just don’t give a shit. They talk shit to their parents, to adults, and to teachers. I don’t necessarily have the answers, but here’s what I do know: inside of it at some point – as a man – it’s more important to back your wife in what’s going on than it is for you to be right.   QUESTION     How is this conversation resonating with you and your spouse?     Communication Challenge:      Discuss your parenting strategies in the area of discipline. How can you two come together to create a unified team?     Date Night Topic:      To slap or not to slap: why or why not? How has your upbringing shaped your opinion about it?     Quote of the Week:      “Have the courage to have conversations even when you disagree.” —Garrett J White      “Make sure that whatever the plan is that you back your significant other.” —Danielle K White

Welcome to a brand new episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast! The White’s are back after the recent birth of baby Isla, and in classic White style, share stories and details of their birth experience. As a bonus, we get a recommendation from Garrett for his new favorite breakfast burrito and a surprise prediction.   Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Change of Plans In the final weeks leading up to baby Isla’s birth, Danielle began experiencing some health issues, which ultimately led to an early inducement and delivery. “I always had this intuitive feeling that she would come a little early.” Danielle had considered doing a natural birth due to the not so great experiences with epidurals during her previous two births. But with the Pitocin speeding up and magnifying the contractions, she opted for an epidural at the eleventh hour. However, it only reached mid-thigh, which made it possible for Danielle to feel the intense pain and ebb & flow of each contraction. QUESTION What types of births have you and your spouse experienced?   Point #2: ISLA Hand-tied Hairline With 48 hours to come up with a name for her new hand-tied hairline, Danielle decided to name it after their daughter, Isla. “Most people think we named the baby after the hairline, but it was the other way around.” “It was so ironic that Isla came out with this super amazing hair that’s super thick, platinum blonde. It’s so cute! She’s so teeny and has the full head of hair!” QUESTION Were your babies born with or without hair? Point #3: Skin-to-Skin Garrett is celebrating the fact that he did not pass out as he did with their second baby. “I stood there like a champion holding Danielle’s left leg throughout labor. She didn’t even know I was in the room, yet there I was holding the left leg amidst the most intense, fierce pushing I have seen from my wife.” “Watching my wife naturally go through contractions was a new experience for me, not to mention the experience immediately following the birth. Instead of the nurses whisking Isla away, the doctor held Isla in front of me and said, “Congratulations, dad. kiss her. He then placed Isla on Danielle's bare chest."   QUESTION What has changed with the births of each of your babies?   Point #4: Grand Production Danielle is recovering really well and has to remind herself to take it easy. “I love the newborn, snuggly phase, but I also love staying busy and active. I’m trying to soak it all in because I know how fast it goes.” It’s been eight years since their last birth and one of the things Danielle had forgotten about which is causing some frustration is how long it takes to get out of the house with a newborn, and how big of a production it is. QUESTION What is your favorite “baby stage?”   Point #5: Another Baby in the Forecast? When asked by Garrett if there was another baby in their future, Danielle replied, “I don’t want to commit. Don’t get snipped on me or anything, but I can’t commit to closing the door AND I can’t commit to having another baby either.” Garrett: Before Baby Isla came out, Danielle said, “I’m done.” But mark my words. By the time Isla is about six years old,  Danielle’s going to want a secondary friend for Isla. My prediction is, Danielle has another baby at age 40.” QUESTION When did you know it was time to have another baby or when it was time to stop? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about the different types of birth options available. Date Night Topic: “To have more or not to have more, that is the question.” In a twist from a classic Shakespearian line, what are your thoughts about adding family members? How do you come to an agreement? Quote of the Week: “To sit and look at my daughter on my wife’s chest was amazing! And getting to kiss her right away was amazing! It was so much more intimate, so much more spiritual, so much more connected than any of the other three children’s births.” –Garrett J White “I don’t commit to a lot because once I do, I’m 120% in; this WILL go down. When I commit, I know I’m going to follow through 100%.” —Danielle K White

Get ready for a spicy conversation in this week’s brand new episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast with married co-hosts, Garrett J and Danielle K White, who are preparing to enter a new chapter of their life with the arrival of baby Isla in eight weeks. Join them as they candidly discuss the challenges that come with pregnancy and the seasons & chapters the births of each of their children have opened up for them. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Pregnancy Desert The White’s are in full-on pregnancy mode as they enter the eight-week countdown for the arrival of baby Isla who is due to arrive mid-July 2019. Danielle has reached the mega uncomfortable stage where some mornings she struggles to roll out of bed, while Garrett admits they’re in the pregnancy desert when it comes to sex. “The last eight weeks, I literally transform into some kind of cartoon character. My body starts to retain water and it just gets super ugly. It’s rough. QUESTION Describe what life has been like in the home stretch phase of your pregnancies. Point #2: His & Her Sacrifices When a woman is pregnant, the physical sacrifices she makes to carry and birth that baby are both substantial and obvious. The sacrifice men make, not so obvious. But Garrett says the sacrifices are nonetheless all too real and mostly go unnoticed and are not taken seriously. “As a guy, being in the homestretch is a very interesting game. How do I not be a dick and show up in a selfish way, and at the same time, how do I maintain and manage what I’m up to and what I’m about? When our wives are pregnant, we have no leg to stand on. And inside of that, there’s some serious stuff that goes on for us.” QUESTION What is the “unspoken” shit you go through as a man when your wife is pregnant? Point #3: Roll Me Over Danielle has good days and bad days. Sometimes she barely notices she’s pregnant until she goes to get out of bed and feels like a potato bug stuck on its back. “It takes a lot of energy to be pregnant, and I feel like every ounce of energy I give has to be more focused. Even though I’m operating at fifty percent, that fifty percent is pretty damn good because I make sure whatever energy I put out is worth my time.” QUESTION Ladies, how is your energy when you’re pregnant? How does it affect your everyday routine? Point #4: Suck It Up Phase As a man watching his wife go through pregnancy, Garrett feels super-protective and super supportive, yet he almost feels like they are in a holding pattern …even though they’re not. “I feel like, at some point, you and I lose connection through the pregnancy phase… but not in a bad way.” “It’s almost like we’re in a season of war where there are war rules and peace rules. During war, there’s a different set of principles. As a husband, I’m trying to stay active in the game and at the same time, support Danielle in whatever ways she needs. We’re in the homestretch of the ’suck it up’ phase.” QUESTION What does your ‘suck it up” phase look like?   Point #5: Why Do You Stay? Each child’s arrival into the White home has brought new life and a new chapter into their lives, and they feel baby Isla will do the same. “Every child has come at a different season in our life – Parker with my first wife, then Bailee right before things were about to fall apart, and then Ruby. Without the birth of Ruby, I don’t think we make it.” Danielle: I feel like a lot of times, women stay in relationships because of the children, or they use that as their excuse. Really, they just crave security, and that’s why they stay. And that’s kind of how it was with Ruby. She kept us together. Women want safety and security, no matter what form that comes in. QUESTION When things got tough in your marriage, what part did the children play in keeping you together and weathering the storms? Communication Challenge: Do you think men make sacrifices when their wives are pregnant? Why or why not? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about the different seasons and chapters you entered after the births of each of your children. Quote of the Week: “Marriage itself is a game of seasons, and each season demands a different set of skillsets. But the one thing that has to always be there are two people who are showing up and offering as much as they can.” —Garrett J White “When you’re making a decision, don’t come up with excuses. Literally, look where you’re at and decide to make a decision that’s going to best support you. In supporting yourself, you support others. Not supporting yourself is actually selfish.” —Danielle K White

In this week’s Date Your Wife Podcast, Danielle and Garrett have a conversation about their conflicting parenting strategies – as well as possible solutions – as they reveal real-life challenges. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication   In This Week’s Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Permission to Pursue Your Passion Danielle: I was raised as a Mormon where I felt like I had to be this perfect mom. If I work, I better figure out how to balance it all. As a result, there has been a lot of mommy guilt as I’ve tried to create a balance between all of the hats I’m wearing. One day the Voice said to me, “You will impact way more people if you pursue this passion [hair].” I’ve discovered that by pursuing my passion, I ultimately affect my children. Garrett: There tends to be a war within women – women who produce and work outside the home, and women who work only inside the home. Both of these sides tend to throw stones at each other. At the end of the day, it’s not about whether you produce outside or inside of the home. At some level as a woman, you have to give yourself permission to pursue a passion or purpose beyond your children. QUESTION As a couple, how do you feel about your wife pursuing her passions in addition to raising a family? Point #2: If-Then Scenario When asked by Garrett if she believes that producing outside the home makes her a better mom, Daniellereplied: I don’t know. I know I’m a better me, but sometimes I feel like a shitty mom. There are moments as a kid that mold us. As much as I feel like I’m fucking up, hopefully, I have enough of those moments of me leading and guiding other women or of just being me where they’re going to say “I want to be like my mom.” Garrett: She would only be giving a quarter of who she is to her children if she wasn’t working. They would never see a woman taking a stand for her life. I know she’s a better mother because she’s a better producer. But this doesn’t mean that every single woman listening to this must launch a business to be a better mom. At the end of the day, the key phrase is, as you are becoming better as a woman, then the relationship you have as a parent ultimately expands by default. QUESTION Do you believe you’re a better mom because you do or  because you do not work outside of the home? Point #3: Conflicting Parenting Strategies Garrett: You and I are very different people. As a result, we have very different parenting strategies. When there’s a problem with our kids, I collide and conflict with them, while you pretend it’s not there. Your parenting strategy is to literally ignore and hold out and wait for the storm to pass. Your game is: The tsunami is coming, get to high ground. Danielle: When you get mad and yell at our girls, my thought is, “Garrett, they’re girls. Don’t yell at them like that!” When the girls are crazy emotional, I ignore them. When I’m pissed, my thoughts are: Just get out of my way, just let me be pissed. As girls, we tend to have more of an emotional side. So when I see that the girls have flipped their lid – and I can’t get reel them back in no matter what I say – I know I need to give them space. QUESTION What are your parenting stratetgies?   Point #4: Assasin Attack vs Retreat to Higher Ground Garrett: I have a different strategy: I don’t ignore it. When the tsunami comes, I run down like Spartan 300 to hell’s gate against a million people and I wage war on the ensuing enemy. I can see the same crazy spot where the storm cannot be negotiated with, but the difference is, I come in like an assassin in the night and grab the situation by the horns. Danielle is uncomfortable with conflict, while Garrett is uncomfortable with sitting and allowing the storm to brew. “Danielle’s picture of parenting is us running to high ground. I see that and I pee on it. My parenting plan is my wife’s got war paint on her face, she’s wielding a sword and a shield, and I’m yelling, “Woman, we’re going to the front line!” I start running and when I look back, she’s squatting and peeing on my parenting plan.” QUESTION How are you relating to Danielle’s and Garrett’s differences in parenting strategies? Point #5: Walk and Talk Garrett: If the challenge is my daughter is a lot like me, here’s the reality: If I had to get out of bed and then 15 minutes later had to be at school or work or anywhere, I’d be fucking crazy too. Last night, I asked my daughter to go for a walk. We held hands, we talked about how dad is crazy in the morning, and how I noticed she’s also experiencing a lot of crazy in the morning. We’ve implemented The Walk and Talk with our daughter, and I’ve also brought it to the Warrior brotherhood: You go for a 30-minute walk with your child, you hold hands, and just let them talk. The whole focus is to let them get their feelings out, to validate those feelings, and to throw yourself under the bus, thus giving your child the chance to be ok with being human. QUESTION Do you have a child where investing in a daily Walk and Talk would make a world of difference for them? Communication Challenge: What are your parenting strategies? If they are causing collision and confusion in your relationship and in your family, how you can unite them? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation centered around your wife pursuing her passions beyond that of a being a wife and a mother. Quote of the Week: “For the guys out there, if I am a leader in my home, then this means I must also take the lead as a man on the parenting side, which means I’ve also got to take a stand for their greatness and in their weakness.” —Garrett J White “I’m kind of an introvert, yet I believe if you find something you’re passionate about, you can outgrow the person you think you are. For me, getting outside of my comfort zone is a new high that fuels me.”

The conversation of Parenting is the theme of this week’s episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, where the Whites discuss accountability, checklists, belief systems, unsolicited advice, and loving your kids no matter what. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication   In This Week’s Podcast….Parenting Point #1: Morning Chaos Garrett describes their eleven-year-old daughter as a morning psychopath. She sets her alarm to go off up to nine times every morning just so she can wake up and get out of bed. Their seven-year-old daughter is very much into routines. It’s almost as if she goes into auto-pilot in the morning and is good to go as long as everything is set up perfectly for her in advance. QUESTION How are your children similar? How are they different? Point #2: Unsolicited Advice Garrett is very committed as a parent to teaching the ‘right’ thing to his children. He’s had people reach out to him offering unsolicited advice about their parenting styles. Danielle: Everybody is super judgy about parenting styles, and at some level, every parent feels like they have fucked up their kids. QUESTION How do you handle unsolicited advice when it comes your way? Point #3: I Love You No Matter What If Danielle had to choose only one thing to teach their children, it would be accountability coupled with love. “If you could embed accountability and love into a kid, I think that would solve the world’s problems.” Years ago, Garrett began telling his daughters, “I love you, no matter what.” No matter what they do or say, he told them he will always love them. QUESTION If, as a parent, you could only teach your children one thing, what would that be? Point #4: Boxes and Checklists Just like in education, there’s a box that people try to put their kids into of ‘this is what it looks like to be successful.” And anything that doesn’t fit inside that box, they consider inaccurate or not right. For most parents, they’re always trying to get it “right” with their children, so they always feel guilty. And because they never get it ‘right’ based on a checklist that never ends, they don’t focus on the actual belief systems they want to instill in their children. QUESTION How are you keeping your children inside a box?   Point #5: Core Beliefs Garrett: You can teach your kids all kinds of tactics, but what are the important mindsets and skillsets that you ‘should’ teach your children? There are plenty of people who know how to do the dishes, yet are unable to produce in life. I’m convinced that what people actually learn as children and what they take into their adult life is driven by the values and beliefs their parents instill in them, both by what they say and by what they watch their parents do. QUESTION What are the core beliefs that you are brainwashing your kids to believe that are empowering them as people? Communication Challenge: What are the actual belief systems that matter to you, and that you are instilling in your children? What are the beliefs about themselves and the world that you are consciously depositing into them?   Date Night Topic: On your next Date Night, have a conversation about how you want your children to remember your interaction and love connection as a couple.   Quote of the Week: “I was blown away when I got married at how horrifically unprepared I was to be a married man.” –Garrett J White “She’s not mine to manipulate and control; I’m there to guide her, lead her, show up, and do the best I can as a parent.” –Danielle K White Head over to Amazon to pick up your copy of Be the Man. warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com

The White’s celebrate their 15 year anniversary in this powerful and entertaining episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast where they have a conversation around the all-important and ofttimes tricky topic of Money inside a marriage relationship. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication   In This Week’s Podcast….Money Point #1: Save the Date Danielle: For years, we celebrated our anniversary on the 22nd of August until six years ago when I found our old wedding book and was so shocked to see the date of August 21st. Garrett: We’re grown ass adults and every year we text our mothers to see what date we got fucking married, though we do remember the first place we had sex after we got married. QUESTION How do you show each other that remembering your anniversary important to you?   Point #2: When Visions Collide A crucial turning point for Garrett was in having a collision with Danielle about investing in blinds for his Warrior HQ – a vision inside his business that he could see but that she could not. For a long time, Garrett didn’t see the point in the purses that Danielle loves buying, but now he does. Danielle: It’s creative expression which transfers over to confidence in life, business, and in everything else. QUESTION How do you as a couple deal with two different visions of where to invest your money? Point #3: Leading a Double Life Danielle: After everything was ripped from us, it took about four years to rebuild that trust. And in that four years, everything felt unsafe and inconsistent to me so I finally said, screw you. I’ll do my thing, you do yours. As women, we look to our husbands for safety and security. When that goes away, there’s this lack of trust. I questioned every little move Garrett was making because I was building back up the trust from years of his patterns of inconsistency with money. QUESTION Gentlemen, are you providing security and safety for your Queen? Point #4: The Awakening Garrett: After giving Danielle the responsibility of handling the bills because I got so stressed out about my inability to pay them, she began taking on that stress. I realized I was using my wife as a shield from me having to deal with shit.  My wife started channeling heavy levels of masculine energy which had us fighting at home a ton. I’m like fuck, I’m coming home to a dude. I realized I was the one who had created this dude the moment I decided to turn the queen into a shield. I had an awakening. QUESTION What needs to shift in your relationship when it comes to being the man and leading the battle so you can take your wife out of that role?   Point #5: Reality Check Garrett: Gentlemen, if you’re going to go make the money, then you manage the money. All of you fucking men out there who are expecting your wife to split the fucking bills with you, fuck you. Women want a purpose to produce but they don’t want to feel the pressure of having to be the provider. There are far too many men who are okay with the idea that they can sit back and lean on the production power of the Queen and only build themselves far enough to meet halfway. QUESTION Ladies, how do you feel about this? Communication Challenge: Gentlemen, ask yourself this question: Who would I have to become such that my wife could choose to work and choose to produce if she wanted to?   Date Night Topic: On your date this week, take a trip down memory lane and recall the events leading up to the day the two of you met. What impressed you about each other? What have you grown to love about each other through the years? Quote of the Week: “At the end of the day, I’ve yet to meet a powerful producing woman who doesn’t want her man to raise the sword and go to war so she can rest at times.” —Garrett J White “I got to this place where I wanted to be in the relationship with Garrett because I wanted to, not because I felt I had to.” —Danielle K White

Learn the Golden Rules when dating as a modern women in during this episode. Molly + Marcy talk about online dating, dating your spouse, and how important it is to remain true to yourself during it all. In this episode Molly refers to the Date Your Wife Podcast with Danielle K White + Garret J White you can listen to it on iTunes as well. Follow Molly @mollysmanelife Follow Marcy @thecoteriecolumbus Please leave a review below!

It’s no secret that the Date Your Wife Podcast doubles as a weekly therapy session for married co-hosts, Danielle and Garret J White. This week during their candid conversation about the topic of parenting, fireworks are ignited as they each take a strong stance for their differing parenting tactics and strategies. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication   In This Week’s Podcast…. PARENTING Point #1: Monster Mom, Monster Child Garrett spent this past week in Costa Rica on a surfing vacation, and Danielle and the girls flew to Utah to be with her parents for a few days. That first night deep in the jungle of Costa Rica, Garrett received a frantic and emotional text call from Baily, their eleven-year-old daughter, who was screaming and freaking out about her smashed cell phone. That night, he realized that at the end of the day, he had absolutely no control over what was happening over 3500 miles away in a different country. Danielle: At the same moment Garrett was having that realization, I was having the realization that there was nothing I could do, either. Bailey had flipped her lid and was totally irrational, to the point where anything I said escalated the situation on both sides. I started out calm, and then I got to the point where monster mom came out. I reminded her that she’s eleven and is not entitled to a phone, and eventually grabbed her phone and threw it. I suddenly realized that monster mom created monster child. QUESTION What is your parenting strategy when your kids are behaving irrationally? Point #2: To Slap or Not to Slap Garrett: Danielle texted me and asked me what she should have done. I said, slap her, but she said no. “Breaking cell phones is a very expensive habit because every cell phone you break, you inevitably end up getting a new cell phone, and we just end up spending more money. Slap her, it’s free, and a quick slap takes care of it all.” Danielle: I remember being backhanded by my mom a few times. One time she did it so hard that I flew into the window and got a bloody nose. You want me to slap her, but the repercussions of being a pre-teen and having your mom or dad backhand you across the face cause far more scarring than throwing a cell phone. QUESTION What are your thoughts about slapping? Yes or no? Point #3: Cell Phone Family Plan Danielle: When Baily doesn’t have her cell phone with her 24/7, she’s more present. She has a tendency to get into her head. She worries about the wrong shit and gets sucked into the vortex. I think there’s a lot of good that comes from Social Media, but there have to be boundaries, and there have to be limitations so there isn’t this sense of entitlement. Tonight when we get home, we’re going to create a cell phone contract with her. Garrett: I think the contract is a very good idea. I just think you need to be very clear about what you’re going to put on the contract. You better be ready to enforce it, and you better know what the enforcement of the plan is, otherwise it’s just going to be another one of those things that never happen. QUESTION Cell phones and kids – why or why not?   Point #4: Different Parents, Different Strategies Garrett: As parents, we have radically different strategies for dealing with our children. I deal with life one way, Danielle deals with life another way. Part of what used to cause a lot of conflict was that we didn’t know how to submit to what the other person was passionate about. For example, Danielle said that Baily told her to her face that she’s a fucking bitch. I would slap her in the mouth. But Danielle’s opposed to that and thinks it’s super trashy. In my opinion, if our daughter calls Danielle a fucking bitch, she deserves to be slapped in the face. The end. Danielle’s strategy is to ignore and wait until things blow up, then she deals with the chaos from that point on. I like to intercept shit and punch it before it becomes a major issue. This has created a lot of chaos for us as we raise our children because we have totally different strategies. QUESTION What are your parenting strategies?   Point #5: Kings, Support Your Queens Garrett: Gentlemen, yes it’s your job to lead in the house, but at the same time, your wife spends more time with your children. At the end of the day, although I may have opinions about how things should go on at home, she spends the most time with them and they’ve figured out their game. One of the worst things you can do is to fuck up their flow, even when it looks like complete insanity from the outside. Just support it. There’s a shitload of disrespect in our country with kids in this age group who just don’t give a shit. They talk shit to their parents, to adults, and to teachers. I don’t necessarily have the answers, but here’s what I do know: inside of it at some point – as a man – it’s more important to back your wife in what’s going on than it is for you to be right. QUESTION How is this conversation resonating with you and your spouse? Communication Challenge: Discuss your parenting strategies in the area of discipline. How can you two come together to create a unified front? Date Night Topic: To slap or not to slap: Why or why not? How has your upbringing shaped your opinion about it? Quote of the Week: “Have the courage to have conversations even when you disagree.” —Garrett J White “Make sure that whatever the plan is that you back your significant other.” —Danielle K White

In this week's Date Your Wife Podcast, Danielle and Garrett have a conversation about their conflicting parenting strategies - as well as possible solutions - as they reveal real-life challenges. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication   In This Week's Podcast....PARENTING Point #1: Permission to Pursue Your Passion Danielle: I was raised as a Mormon where I felt like I had to be this perfect mom. If I work, I better figure out how to balance it all. As a result, there has been a lot of mommy guilt as I've tried to create a balance between all of the hats I'm wearing. One day the Voice said to me, "You will impact way more people if you pursue this passion [hair]." I've discovered that by pursuing my passion, I ultimately affect my children. Garrett: There tends to be a war within women - women who produce and work outside the home, and women who work only inside the home. Both of these sides tend to throw stones at each other. At the end of the day, it’s not about whether you produce outside or inside of the home. At some level as a woman, you have to give yourself permission to pursue a passion or purpose beyond your children. QUESTION: As a couple, how do you feel about your wife pursuing her passions in addition to raising a family? Point #2: If-Then Scenario When asked by Garrett if she believes that producing outside the home makes her a better mom, Danielle replied: I don’t know. I know I'm a better me, but sometimes I feel like a shitty mom. There are moments as a kid that mold us. As much as I feel like I’m fucking up, hopefully, I have enough of those moments of me leading and guiding other women or of just being me where they’re going to say “I want to be like my mom.” Garrett: She would only be giving a quarter of who she is to her children if she wasn’t working. They would never see a woman taking a stand for her life. I know she’s a better mother because she’s a better producer. But this doesn't mean that every single woman listening to this must launch a business to be a better mom. At the end of the day, the key phrase is, as you are becoming better as a woman, then the relationship you have as a parent ultimately expands by default. QUESTION: Do you believe you're a better mom because you do or  because you do not work outside of the home? Point #3: Conflicting Parenting Strategies Garrett: You and I are very different people. As a result, we have very different parenting strategies. When there’s a problem with our kids, I collide and conflict with them, while you pretend it’s not there. Your parenting strategy is to literally ignore and hold out and wait for the storm to pass. Your game is: The tsunami is coming, get to high ground. Danielle: When you get mad and yell at our girls, my thought is, "Garrett, they’re girls. Don’t yell at them like that!" When the girls are crazy emotional, I ignore them. When I’m pissed, my thoughts are: Just get out of my way, just let me be pissed. As girls, we tend to have more of an emotional side. So when I see that the girls have flipped their lid - and I can’t get reel them back in no matter what I say - I know I need to give them space. QUESTION: What are your parenting stratetgies?   Point #4: Assasin Attack vs Retreat to Higher Ground Garrett: I have a different strategy: I don’t ignore it. When the tsunami comes, I run down like Spartan 300 to hell’s gate against a million people and I wage war on the ensuing enemy. I can see the same crazy spot where the storm cannot be negotiated with, but the difference is, I come in like an assassin in the night and grab the situation by the horns. Danielle is uncomfortable with conflict, while Garrett is uncomfortable with sitting and allowing the storm to brew. "Danielle’s picture of parenting is us running to high ground. I see that and I pee on it. My parenting plan is my wife’s got war paint on her face, she's wielding a sword and a shield, and I’m yelling, “Woman, we're going to the front line!” I start running and when I look back, she’s squatting and peeing on my parenting plan." QUESTION: How are you relating to Danielle's and Garrett's differences in parenting strategies? Point #5: Walk and Talk Garrett: If the challenge is my daughter is a lot like me, here’s the reality: If I had to get out of bed and then 15 minutes later had to be at school or work or anywhere, I’d be fucking crazy too. Last night, I asked my daughter to go for a walk. We held hands, we talked about how dad is crazy in the morning, and how I noticed she's also experiencing a lot of crazy in the morning. We've implemented The Walk and Talk with our daughter, and I've also brought it to the Warrior brotherhood: You go for a 30-minute walk with your child, you hold hands, and just let them talk. The whole focus is to let them get their feelings out, to validate those feelings, and to throw yourself under the bus, thus giving your child the chance to be ok with being human. QUESTION: Do you have a child where investing in a daily Walk and Talk would make a world of difference for them? Communication Challenge: What are your parenting strategies? If they are causing collision and confusion in your relationship and in your family, how you can unite them? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation centered around your wife pursuing her passions beyond that of a being a wife and a mother. Quote of the Week: "For the guys out there, if I am a leader in my home, then this means I must also take the lead as a man on the parenting side, which means I’ve also got to take a stand for their greatness and in their weakness." --Garrett J White "I’m kind of an introvert, yet I believe if you find something you’re passionate about, you can outgrow the person you think you are. For me, getting outside of my comfort zone is a new high that fuels me." --Danielle K White

Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast where professionals Garrett J and Daniel K White, who happen to make babies together, take on the topic of Money in this week’s episode. One of the more interesting gems discovered in today's conversation is Garrett's confession to having pierced his nipples while attending college, arguably one of the worst decisions he has ever made.  Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication   In This Week's Podcast....MONEY Point #1: Sword and Shield Garrett: Danielle doesn't collide well with people, and since I do, one of the things we rely on inside of our marriage when it comes to money is that I’m the guy out in front with the shield and sword. I'm the guy that goes to war. I’m the guy that collides with everyone inside of the topic of money. I remember the days when I would put Danielle out front to be the shield and would yell at her that it was her job to pay the bills because I was too busy. I would ask her why I felt like I was married to a man and she said it's because I had put her in man shoes. This, of course,  had a huge impact on our sex life. QUESTION: In your marriage, who is out in front going to war? Point #2: Illusion Garrett: Danielle looks like she’s a very orderly person when she’s with me because I’m a hurricane. She's very clean but isn't good at cleaning. Open any drawer in our house and Danielle admits it's a scary shit show. Danielle: We compliment each other very well when it comes to our strengths and weaknesses. When it comes to numbers, I tend to shut down a little bit and get overwhelmed, and only want to be told numbers on a need to know basis QUESTION: How do the two of you compliment one another? Point #3: Let Go and Let Him Lead Danielle: I don’t know what's going on with the bills, and I trust that Garrett has that taken care of. In the past, I wanted control over what I was making only because when shit was going south in our marriage, that was my safety net and escape plan. Garrett: Being able to give your man a position to lead is vital.  A common complaint from powerful women is that their man is not leading. My response? Quit cutting off his balls. If you want him to act like a king with the vaults and the money, then you’re going to have to actually show up in a way that gives him space to do that. QUESTION: Ladies, are you cutting off your husband's balls? Point #4: Growth Yields Abundance Garrett: While I was using you as a shield, you were part of the key game of triggering me to want more. I think I would have settled for way less than what we currently have, but you exposed me to a place of possibility of a life being married to you other than how I was raised. Danielle: At the end of the day, significance only gets people so far. By pushing Garrett to grow, we have become better people. We've tapped into a different network of people and we've been able to impact more people’s lives directly by putting a dollar figure behind it. QUESTION: Where in your relationship have the two of you settled?   Point #5: Push and Lead Garrett: You drove me to care more about money in the sense of getting economically compensated for what I do, and to keep pushing that. I then I took it upon myself to create profitable businesses and a lifestyle that was financially prosperous, and a legacy that would matter economically. That's the gift I got from Danielle. Danielle: Lead by example rather than dragging your spouse with you. If they don’t see that shift and if they don’t want to be the better version of themselves, then you might cross paths. At one point, our circumstances caused me to push myself out there with an attitude of wanting to produce more, and in the process became a better artist and person. QUESTION: How do you push your spouse to become a better version of themselves? Communication Challenge: Have a discussion about the man being out in front leading, guiding, and protecting his family. What would it take for you two to pull this off? What changes would have to take place?  Date Night Topic: On your next Date Night, share with each other the ways you compliment one another. Quote of the Week: "When I took the shield back and started paying the bills, I started producing and began to double down, focusing on myself and making sure I was on point as a producer. When I did this, this magical thing came back. Danielle became more attracted to me and we began having more sex." --Garrett J White "We see it all the time where couples come inside both of our businesses trying to get each of their spouses on board. It seems there’s always going to be one more driven than the other. I’ve always thought of Garrett as being the one more driven, but once I gave myself permission, I discovered that I'm actually very driven and super passionate." --Danielle K White

In the show that is sparking an opportunity for married couples to have conversations they wouldn’t normally be able to have, married co-hosts Danielle K and Garrett J White dive deep into the topic of Parenting in this week's real and raw Date Your Wife Podcast as they discuss discipline, connection and what really matters to them as parents. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication   In This Week's Podcast....PARENTING Point #1: Miscarriage Danielle and Garrett have a thoughtful and candid conversation about her miscarriage that happened while Garrett was in Florida speaking at the recent Click Funnels event. "As women, most of the time we know we are pregnant long before a test tells us we are, as we tend to be naturally intuitive about our bodies." Danielle was hesitant to tell many people she was pregnant because somehow she knew this pregnancy wasn’t going to last and she didn’t want to get her hopes up too much in case something like this were to happen. QUESTION: If you have experienced a miscarriage, how has it affected you, your spouse and your children? Point #2: The Puppy Parenting Strategy Danielle's beloved Weiner dog, Chloe, is 14 years old and has had a self designated poop rug in every house the White's have ever lived in. Garrett is Chloe’s master poop picker upper and Danielle claims cute Chloe drops those logs on the rug simply because she and Garrett haven't taught her well, nor have they been consistent with her, while Garrett swears it's because of doggy poop karma. Danielle: I suck at being consistent as a parent and am full of empty threats. I don’t even know how to parent my ten year old daughter. I’m always thinking of things to take away from her for her punishment or giving her time frames to complete things, but she doesn’t seem to care. She is so stubborn and hates being told what to do. QUESTION: In what ways are you and your spouse consistent or inconsistent with your children? Point #3: Conflicting Parental Strategies Although Danielle admits she has no parenting strategy, she feels Garrett's approach is too harsh and tends to get in between he and the kids when he is trying to discipline them his way. Garrett shares that they're a shit show in a lot of areas and that they really don't have much figured out when it comes to parenting, except in a couple of areas where they both admit they really shine at being parents: connection and family time. Garrett: Sometimes I’m not even sure how to respond to my children because we have such contradicting strategies for parenting. I’m very much in your face, aggressive and yelling, where Danielle obviously does not do this. Oft times this causes collision. QUESTION: What ways of disciplining do you and your spouse tend to agree on? Point #4: Take Off the Filters Garrett: As adults we have been trained to stuff everything down, we've been trained to not talk about the truth or reality. The one thing that I was worried about as a father was giving our children the space to be emotionally honest with us in our home, which means being able to talk to us about hard things. Amidst the fact that Danielle and Garrett admittedly have very obvious dysfunction in their disciplining skills, the one thing they agree to having is a deep connection and open communication with their children. There's no topic that's considered taboo or off limits. In their home, the kids are exposed to a reality check of how life really is, which includes debate, disagreement and open conversation. QUESTION: Is the filter on or off at your home? What can you do to create a more open environment for your family?   Point #5: Get Clear On What Really Matters Garrett: What exactly is your commitment to your children? You’re not going to win all of the wars in all of the categories. If you do, what you will end up with is a very sedated child who is doing a shit load of stuff behind your back. I need to know that my children can take care of themselves. I need to know that my daughter has the power to take a stand for herself when I’m not around or when Danielle’s not around. You’re never going to have a perfect situation no matter what you try to do, and you’re never going to have it all figured out and have nailed down every single aspect of parenting with your children. QUESTION: What are the parts of parenting that actually matter to you?   Communication Challenge: What is the part of the relationship between you and your children that actually works? Date Night Topic: What are the things that are non negotiable for you inside this relationship between you and your children - the things that you are going to battle hard on? What are all of the other things that would be nice to have but you're going to let them go or let them slide while you focus all of your energy on your main commitment?   Quote of the Week: "You need to pick what your battles are. We are all trying to create a game that makes sense for our children and for us as parents. We are not perfect with this, we don’t profess to be, nor do we pretend like we have all of the answers. Something we do have is the communication and the opportunity to share." --Garrett J White   "I’ve noticed on the topic of communication, because it is our strength with our children, that cousins, siblings, and people outside of the family feel like they can come to us and share things with us. We’re the safe place for people come to tell things to." --Danielle K White