Podcasts about danielle k

Building a brand for your veterinary clinic or for yourself personally is a daunting task. And like today's guest mentions in the episode, you are building a brand whether you like it or not, so why not be in charge of how people see you? Danielle K. Lambert shares many more marketing gems in today's episode. She is the CEO and Founder of The Snout Group and The Snout School where she spends her time helping veterinarians' brands look pretty and guides them to communicate their authentic values to clients and colleagues.  Meet Danielle!If you're seeking a veterinary marketing and brand strategist that gets real results, look no further than The Snout Group's Danielle K. Lambert. Her colorful background makes her uniquely prepared to help veterinary brands develop effective branding and marketing campaigns. And when it comes to social media, there's no one in #vetmed with the proven ability to repeatedly create viral posts that Danielle has! Danielle utilizes her unique experience - including 5 years in practice management - to guide some of the biggest brands in veterinary medicine. Past clients include powerful personal brands, like Dr. Crocker Pet Vet, The Derm Vet, and Dr. Andy Roark, plus innovative practices like Dr. Cody Creelman's Fen Vet. Danielle is a passionate activist, using her social media following to discuss topics like living wages, anti-racism, and empowering female entrepreneurs. Connect with Danielle!@daniellesnout danielle@thesnoutgroup.com www.SnoutSchool.com ...Find out more about The Whole Veterinarian at our new website!Instagram: @thewholeveterinarianFacebookEmail: thewholeveterinarian@gmail.com

Interview with CyberCEO Danielle K. To know more about us visit www.cyberbacker.com

UVA Law professor Danielle K. Citron; Megan Gray of Gray Matters Law & Policy; and Rachel Levinson-Waldman of the Brennan Center for Justice's Liberty & National Security Program discuss issues of democracy and technology in privacy. The event was sponsored by the LawTech Center, the American Constitution Society for Law and Policy, and Law, Innovation, Security & Technology. (University of Virginia School of Law, Oct. 14, 2021)

Welcome back to the final episode of key takeaways from Funnel Hacking Live. Tony Robbins, Lisa Bilyeu, Garrett J. White, and Danielle K. White discussed how to leave an impact and a legacy on Day 4 of Funnel Hacking. Because there was so much valuable information from the event, I will just cover two of the speakers: Russell Brunson and Tony Robbins. 

The racial justice protests have been a huge story for local, national, and international media outlets throughout the summer of 2020. But as public opinion has shifted on issues like systemic racism and police brutality, how has the media reacted? What's the global view of these protests? University of Minnesota's Professor Danielle K. Kilgo answers these questions and more in this "Protests in Perspective" podcast.

The racial justice protests have been a huge story for local, national, and international media outlets throughout the summer of 2020. But as public opinion has shifted on issues like systemic racism and police brutality, how has the media reacted? What's the global view of these protests? University of Minnesota's Professor Danielle K. Kilgo answers these questions and more in this "Protests in Perspective" podcast.

Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…Communication Point #1: Divine Divorce Leads to Divine Destiny There are times when couples are in the midst of great chaos and find themselves knocking on the door of divorce. Because of this, most couples concur that there comes a point in their relationship where they must choose all in…again. Garrett: Although we didn’t get a divorce, there was an emotional separation that took place. We were functionally disconnected, meaning, we were very good at being disconnected. There came a time when the inevitable moment of decision presented itself where we had to make a choice. QUESTION What has been your experience with knocking on the door of divorce? Point #2: Am I With the Wrong Person? The IDEA of a relationship that is in continual bliss and always on fire is evident in the highlight reels that are plastered all over social media, giving others the impression of a fairytale happily-ever-after marriage. This is total bullshit. Garrett: There’s a moment of the Divine Divorce where you as a couple begin to drift but it’s actually setting up the next chapter of your relationship. Danielle: We kept looping back to the same arguments that never got solved, which had me wondering, “Am I with the wrong person?” QUESTION Is what you’re posting on social media a true reflection of the state of your marriage, or is it drenched in hopeful bliss and fantasy? Point #3: It’s Just How It Is Garrett: The vast majority of couples that I meet and connect with inside Wake Up Warrior and BMS are operating in very minimal sexual connection, very minimal emotional and spiritual connection, and are surviving. But the challenge is, they don’t even know they’re surviving. The belief is, “This is just how it is.” If you surround yourself with people who have this belief, it’s not until something traumatic happens where it begins to expose how shitty things really are. In our marriage when the money disappeared, that is when the chaos of our marriage was exposed. QUESTION Where in your world do you have the belief of “it’s just how it is?” Point #4: From Divorce to Divine Divorcement The reality of how people show up in marriage is quite alarming to Garrett. Inside of many relationships he is connected with, he has witnessed many couples where both people are out of shape, they don’t go out on dates, there is no seduction or flirting, and they are in the managing and survival mode. Then they get a divorce. “What blows my mind is the transformation that begins taking place AFTER the divorce, where they blossom into this entirely new person. Instead of having to get divorced, what if you could literally go through a Divine Divorcement?” QUESTION If on the verge of divorce, what would be possible inside your marriage if you considered the possibility of creating new patterns while remainging married? Point #5: It’s a Choice Garrett: No matter how powerfully connected you feel to who you are and what you have, the next version of your relationship as a couple is impossibly held hostage by the current constraints of what you believe is possible today. No matter what state your marriage is in today, there’s another level calling you. And in order to get to that next level, there’s a Divine Divorcement upon you. Divine in the sense that God, through the gift of agency, is giving you an opportunity to choose. QUESTION What are some of the limiting beliefs that are holding your marraige hostage? Communication Challenge: How are you choosing to show up in your marriage? What are you choosing to divorce? Without the divorcement and without the decision to do it, nothing is going to change inside of your relationship. Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about the things that attracted you to each other in the beginning of your relationship. How those have evolved and changed over time? What are some things you can do now to create new chemistry and excitement inside your relationship? Quote of the Week: “There’s a new destiny on the other side of divorce. Divorce is simply choosing to do something different; it’s the laying down and putting aside of that which is old and not working, for something that is new and can work.” —Garrett J White “People underestimate the small consistencies daily that create a big win in life. Stay committed, be patient, and kick your husband in the ass every now and again if he needs it.” —Danielle K White

On this episode I am joined by author Danielle K. Grant of That’s All Devotionals and Brooke Bonnet, a licensed social worker, for a little girl chat about marriage!

Featuring author Rosa Miller (Barren: Infertility, Grief, & Mustard Seed Faith) This weeks episode is on a very serious topic.. Child Abuse.. It is a recurring generational problem that never seems to go away. How can we fight it? How can we overcome it? Where does it end? When do we as a society say enough is enough. The QE Guys dive deep into a black hole this week discussing every form of abuse. Don't miss out on an amazing episode. Tune in NOW Special thanks to our guests Rosa Miller and Danielle K! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theqeguys/message

Featuring author Rosa Miller (Barren: Infertility, Grief, & Mustard Seed Faith) This weeks episode is on a very serious topic.. Child Abuse.. It is a recurring generational problem that never seems to go away. How can we fight it? How can we overcome it? Where does it end? When do we as a society say enough is enough. The QE Guys dive deep into a black hole this week discussing every form of abuse. Don't miss out on an amazing episode. Tune in NOW Special thanks to our guests Rosa Miller and Danielle K! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theqeguys/message

  Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…Communication Point #1: People Pleaser or Conflict Avoider? Danielle believes women typically aren’t people-pleasers, they’re conflict avoiders. Some women are so afraid of confrontation that they always try to make peace. “But ultimately it’s not because we’re trying to please people,” offers Danielle, “it’s because we’re trying to avoid conflict, which later on actually causes us more harm.” QUESTION How does this play out in your marriage?   Point #2: On the Hunt As Garrett reflects this topic of conflict, he realizes that “Danielle is a conflict avoider at the highest level. If you go through what has happened with us in the past seventeen years, she has NEVER been a conflict person.” “The only way we could ever have a real conversation was if I brought the collision to her, and then inside of it, I would actually hunt her down and force her to have a serious conversation with me.” QUESTION Who is typically the “hunter” inside your marriage? Point #3:  Hot-Headed When men become hot-headed inside of a conversation, many women refuse to continue on with that conversation, thus making it appear to the men that women are in this place of avoidance. From Danielle’s perspective, “Women recognize when a conversation or argument isn’t in a logical place and is going nowhere. When Garrett flips his lid, and I feel like I can’t reason with him because the conversation is not in a healthy place, I will refuse to continue, knowing that in this state, nothing is going to get solved. QUESTION Who is typically the hot-headed one in your relationship? How does this affect your communication? Point #4: Initiate or Avoid? Garrett admits being more emotional than Danielle, and one who desires to get into a fight and collide. Speaking to Danielle, “You were never an initiator of any type of hard conversation. Your mode was to just swallow it, ignore it, reframe it in your mind, let it go and move on…and pretend like it never happened.” Danielle: I was avoiding confrontation, and was thinking, “Oh, it will go away, it’ll quiet down. I also came to this place where I didn’t know how to have direct conversations with you. QUESTION Inside conflict within your marriage, who typically avoids, and who typically initiates?” Point #5: Therapy After six years of behaviors and patterns that were not serving the White’s, everything came to a head one afternoon during a huge argument in their kitchen where an ultimatum was issued by Garrett: either we’re going to therapy, or we’re done. Danielle: Going to therapy, we both had a logical sounding board to hear one another’s feelings. It helped me open up and communicate better, and I feel like Garrett was able to go deeper into the story or conflict without hitting his tipping point. QUESTION What has been your experience inside the conversation of therapy? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around the topic of “Avoider or Initiator.” Date Night Topic: During Date Night, have a conversation about the possibility of inserting Therapy into your lives. Quote of the Week: “Therapy gave us a better chance to pull off conflict and be in a conversation that would require both of us to own our shit.” —Garrett J White “In relationships, I think we argue to be right, not to get what we want. I think we both realized that there’s submission in getting what we want which makes us less willing to be right and more willing to get what we want.” —Danielle K White

Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…Communication Point #1: Divine Divorce Leads to Divine Destiny There are times when couples are in the midst of great chaos and find themselves knocking on the door of divorce. Because of this, most couples concur that there comes a point in their relationship where they must choose all in…again. Garrett: Although we didn’t get a divorce, there was an emotional separation that took place. We were functionally disconnected, meaning, we were very good at being disconnected. There came a time when the inevitable moment of decision presented itself where we had to make a choice. QUESTION What has been your experience with knocking on the door of divorce? Point #2: Am I With the Wrong Person? The IDEA of a relationship that is in continual bliss and always on fire is evident in the highlight reels that are plastered all over social media, giving others the impression of a fairytale happily-ever-after marriage. This is total bullshit. Garrett: There’s a moment of the Divine Divorce where you as a couple begin to drift but it’s actually setting up the next chapter of your relationship. Danielle: We kept looping back to the same arguments that never got solved, which had me wondering, “Am I with the wrong person?” QUESTION Is what you’re posting on social media a true reflection of the state of your marriage, or is it drenched in hopeful bliss and fantasy? Point #3: It’s Just How It Is Garrett: The vast majority of couples that I meet and connect with inside Wake Up Warrior and BMS are operating in very minimal sexual connection, very minimal emotional and spiritual connection, and are surviving. But the challenge is, they don’t even know they’re surviving. The belief is, “This is just how it is.” If you surround yourself with people who have this belief, it’s not until something traumatic happens where it begins to expose how shitty things really are. In our marriage when the money disappeared, that is when the chaos of our marriage was exposed. QUESTION Where in your world do you have the belief of “it’s just how it is?” Point #4: From Divorce to Divine Divorcement The reality of how people show up in marriage is quite alarming to Garrett. Inside of many relationships he is connected with, he has witnessed many couples where both people are out of shape, they don’t go out on dates, there is no seduction or flirting, and they are in the managing and survival mode. Then they get a divorce. “What blows my mind is the transformation that begins taking place AFTER the divorce, where they blossom into this entirely new person. Instead of having to get divorced, what if you could literally go through a Divine Divorcement?” QUESTION If on the verge of divorce, what would be possible inside your marriage if you considered the possibility of creating new patterns while remainging married? Point #5: It’s a Choice Garrett: No matter how powerfully connected you feel to who you are and what you have, the next version of your relationship as a couple is impossibly held hostage by the current constraints of what you believe is possible today. No matter what state your marriage is in today, there’s another level calling you. And in order to get to that next level, there’s a Divine Divorcement upon you. Divine in the sense that God, through the gift of agency, is giving you an opportunity to choose. QUESTION What are some of the limiting beliefs that are holding your marraige hostage? Communication Challenge: How are you choosing to show up in your marriage? What are you choosing to divorce? Without the divorcement and without the decision to do it, nothing is going to change inside of your relationship. Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about the things that attracted you to each other in the beginning of your relationship. How those have evolved and changed over time? What are some things you can do now to create new chemistry and excitement inside your relationship? Quote of the Week: “There’s a new destiny on the other side of divorce. Divorce is simply choosing to do something different; it’s the laying down and putting aside of that which is old and not working, for something that is new and can work.” —Garrett J White “People underestimate the small consistencies daily that create a big win in life. Stay committed, be patient, and kick your husband in the ass every now and again if he needs it.” —Danielle K White

It’s no secret that the Date Your Wife Podcast doubles as a weekly therapy session for married co-hosts, Danielle K and Garret J White. This week during their candid conversation about the topic of parenting, fireworks are ignited as they each take a strong stance for their differing parenting tactics and strategies. *Episode Repeat from July 2018*     Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month:     Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication     In This Week’s Podcast…. PARENTING     Point #1: Monster Mom, Monster Child     Garrett spent this past week in Costa Rica on a surfing vacation, and Danielle and the girls flew to Utah to be with her parents for a few days. That first night deep in the jungle of Costa Rica, Garrett received a frantic and emotional text call from Baily, their eleven-year-old daughter, who was screaming and freaking out about her smashed cell phone. That night, he realized that at the end of the day, he had absolutely no control over what was happening over 3500 miles away in a different country.   Danielle: At the same moment Garrett was having that realization, I was having the realization that there was nothing I could do, either. Bailey had flipped her lid and was totally irrational, to the point where anything I said escalated the situation on both sides. I started out calm, and then I got to the point where monster mom came out. I reminded her that she’s eleven and is not entitled to a phone, and eventually grabbed her phone and threw it. I suddenly realized that monster mom created monster child.   QUESTION     What is your parenting strategy when your kids are behaving irrationally?     Point #2: To Slap or Not to Slap     Garrett: Danielle texted me and asked me what she should have done. I said, slap her, but she said no. “Breaking cell phones is a very expensive habit because every cell phone you break, you inevitably end up getting a new cell phone, and we just end up spending more money. Slap her, it’s free, and a quick slap takes care of it all.”   Danielle: I remember being backhanded by my mom a few times. One time she did it so hard that I flew into the window and got a bloody nose. You want me to slap her, but the repercussions of being a pre-teen and having your mom or dad backhand you across the face cause far more scarring than throwing a cell phone.   QUESTION     What are your thoughts about slapping? Yes or no?     Point #3: Cell Phone Family Plan     Danielle: When Baily doesn’t have her cell phone with her 24/7, she’s more present. She has a tendency to get into her head. She worries about the wrong shit and gets sucked into the vortex. I think there’s a lot of good that comes from Social Media, but there have to be boundaries, and there have to be limitations so there isn’t this sense of entitlement. Tonight when we get home, we’re going to create a cell phone contract with her.   Garrett: I think the contract is a very good idea. I just think you need to be very clear about what you’re going to put on the contract. You better be ready to enforce it, and you better know what the enforcement of the plan is, otherwise it’s just going to be another one of those things that never happen. QUESTION     Cell phones and kids – why or why not?     Point #4: Different Parents, Different Strategies     Garrett: As parents, we have radically different strategies for dealing with our children. I deal with life one way, Danielle deals with life another way. Part of what used to cause a lot of conflict was that we didn’t know how to submit to what the other person was passionate about. For example, Danielle said that Baily told her to her face that she’s a fucking bitch. I would slap her in the mouth.   But Danielle’s opposed to that and thinks it’s super trashy. In my opinion, if our daughter calls Danielle a fucking bitch, she deserves to be slapped in the face. The end. Danielle’s strategy is to ignore and wait until things blow up, then she deals with the chaos from that point on. I like to intercept shit and punch it before it becomes a major issue. This has created a lot of chaos for us as we raise our children because we have totally different strategies.   QUESTION     What are your parenting strategies?     Point #5: Kings, Support Your Queens     Garrett: Gentlemen, yes it’s your job to lead in the house, but at the same time, your wife spends more time with your children. At the end of the day, although I may have opinions about how things should go on at home, she spends the most time with them and they’ve figured out their game. One of the worst things you can do is to fuck up their flow, even when it looks like complete insanity from the outside. Just support it.   There’s a shitload of disrespect in our country with kids in this age group who just don’t give a shit. They talk shit to their parents, to adults, and to teachers. I don’t necessarily have the answers, but here’s what I do know: inside of it at some point – as a man – it’s more important to back your wife in what’s going on than it is for you to be right.   QUESTION     How is this conversation resonating with you and your spouse?     Communication Challenge:      Discuss your parenting strategies in the area of discipline. How can you two come together to create a unified team?     Date Night Topic:      To slap or not to slap: why or why not? How has your upbringing shaped your opinion about it?     Quote of the Week:      “Have the courage to have conversations even when you disagree.” —Garrett J White      “Make sure that whatever the plan is that you back your significant other.” —Danielle K White

Married co-hosts, Danielle K and Garrett J White, share their experiences as they do their best to navigate their way through this life. This week, the topic of conversation is Communication. *EPISODE REPLAY FROM OCTOBER 2018*   Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….Communication Point #1: Some Like it Hot Danielle attributes her direct communication to the fact that she’s a Taurus. “They’re actually sweet people, but if you set them off, you better get out of the fucking way.” In marriage, she believes you have to use tact when you communicate with your partner. She usually runs questionable things through the ‘dating filter’ before she sends them to Garrett: “If we were dating, would I say this?” QUESTION How often do you find yourself running your communication through filters? Point #2: Don’t Poke the Bear Garret: Once Danielle is face down in the pillow, and the dog is curled up at her feet, I am now encroaching into the evil lair of insanity. I go about my evening routine knowing that Danielle is in comatose mode. Danielle: Do you want to make love to your whiteboards, or do you want to make love to me? Just give me a little squeeze. If I respond, you’re in luck; if I say nothing, you’re shit out of luck. QUESTION What non-verbal signals and signs do you give to each other? Point #3: Feeling Wanted Garrett: There was a time I was unable to acknowledge to myself nor have a conversation with Danielle about the fact that sex was important to me. I was always indirect and hoping things would work out instead of directionally speaking to them. It was the same with my businesses. Danielle: I started to understand that in order to get what I wanted, we both had to feel wanted. Girls like and want sex, but I think it’s more of being wanted, and having that attention and validation that my man is into me. QUESTION How do you make sure your partner feels wanted by you? Point #4: Direct Communication Garrett: Part of the conversation in our home is that we talk directly with each other, as well as in front of our children. Our kids have very strong opinions about things, and they use very powerful language. I used to steer clear of direct communication in our marriage, particularly on the topic of sex, because I just did not know how to get over my story of feeling rejected and my pain of feeling so. QUESTION In what areas of your life do you have a challenge with direct communication? Point #5: Running Man Garrett: I had given myself permission for a very long time to allow our relationship to be on eggshells, mostly because I literally couldn’t commit to much and I was always in a place where I was ready to bail. About two years ago, a shift took place inside of Garrett causing the back door to completely disappear. Danielle noticed huge results after Garrett finally gave himself permission to commit and go all in. QUESTION What level of commitment do you have inside your marriage? Communication Challenge: Inside of your relationship, where are you avoiding direct conversations? How is this impacting your marriage? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about this topic: In order to get what I want, we both have to feel wanted. Quote of the Week: “Commitment itself is the bridge or gateway to actual direct communication. If you’re not committed to your marriage, or to the person you’re married to, direct communication cannot happen.” –Garrett J White “As we set our relationship up for success, it impacts so many other areas of our life, including the example we set for our children.” –Danielle K White

In This Week’s Podcast…MONEY Point #1: Saving & Investing As Danielle steps back and looks at their amazing businesses and lifestyle, she is curious if there is a way to start putting more money into other areas, like savings, in addition to life insurance. She wonders if she is ignoring signs from their past mistakes, knowing that their current lifestyle is more abundant than ever before. Garrett: My wife has pushed for our life to rise over and over again. At this point, we save more money than we’ve ever saved in our whole lives. I’ve also gone from the only place where I would invest is in the business, and have moved into the place of investing in the family. Ask Yourself:  How are you doing in the area of savings? Point #2: Obsession The challenge inside of marriage when it comes to the topic of money is this: making money, growing money, keeping money, and leveraging money. Seventeen years ago, after reading the book ‘Rich Dad, Poor Dad,’ Garrett realized for the first time that he could make money and became obsessed with it. He went back and forth between the hustle mode of making money and the phase of growing money as he built teams and processes which led him to the game of keeping money. Over the past several years he has invested and put strategies into place which have benefited them in massive ways inside their bank accounts and savings vaults. Ask Yourself: Where are you as a couple when it comes to making & keeping money? Point #3: Building a Legacy Danielle: We live an amazing lifestyle. I’m at the point where I want to be able to build a legacy; an empire. If we stopped working ten years from now, I want to know that we could still live our amazing lifestyle for years to come plus help our children if we needed to. My parents live well but they can’t stop working. My dad is 69 and is still building custom homes because they have to continue working to maintain their lifestyle. I look at both of our parents and don’t want to live like either of them. Ask Yourself: What do you ultimately desire? Point #4: A Team Effort Danielle: Ladies, money is a tough conversation. Whether you’re a woman who can take care of herself, or you’re the Mom CEO of the family, it’s nice to have a guy that takes care of you. I also want to be a part of this team effort and part of the decisions. I don’t want to sit on the sidelines and be naive about what’s going on. Ask Yourself: How do you handle money decisions in your relationship? Point #5: Maintain Or Increase? Garrett to Danielle: Would you be willing to maintain our current lifestyle even though our businesses are increasing in revenue? We would maintain our current game, and everything else would go pure cash with no expense increase whatsoever in our personal lifestyle over the next five years. We would not change homes or cars and we would just keep the same game. We would put all the money away that you want to put away without having to up the standard, meaning… two bags, not nine. Ask Yourself: What are you willing to do in order to be able to put money away? Communication Challenge: Have some conversations with your spouse about the game of money: making, growing, keeping, and leveraging money. Date Night Topic: If the money were to suddenly stop coming in, how long would you be able to live your current lifestyle without changing anything? Quote of the Week: “This podcast isn’t about having all the answers for you but rather a conversation where we’re in a place of figuring shit out as we go.” -Garrett J. White “When I’m seventy years old, I want us to be working because we’re passionate about it and we are choosing to – we have a purpose behind it – not to just pay the fucking bills.” -Danielle K. White

What starts out with fireworks and plenty of sparks between co-hosts and elite dual producers, Garrett J and Danielle K White, segues beautifully into the topic of Gratitude which has the power to change everything.  Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…COMMUNICATION Point #1: WHAT IS A STACK? A Stack is a series of questions with five variations (Mega, Angry, Happy, Gratitude, Production) that Garrett originally created three years ago to deal with “my fucking rage.” These questions alter the way you are experiencing different relationships, events, and triggers in your life. One of the challenges men have is the inability to express emotion and end up suppressing them, which is the way society has taught, trained and educated men to do over the past 100 years. The whole point of the Stack is to allow you to release the energy that you’re feeling, whether you’re fucking raging, angry, triggered, or happy and get someone to their truth. QUESTION As a man, what has been your experience with sharing your emotions and feelings?   Point #2: IMPACT There are five different Stacks which serve different purposes. You’ve got the Mega and Angry Stack which allow you to release your rage & emotions, followed by the Happy and Gratitude Stacks, and then finally the Production Stack. The Gratitude Stack requires you to deliberately pause and look back and serves as a powerful tool of connection with your spouse and children. As Garrett has shared these with his children as part of the Core 4 game, he has witnessed first-hand the immense impact it has had on them individually and upon their relationship. QUESTION How has expressing gratitude for your spouse and children affected your relationship with them?   Point #3:  THE GIFT OF GRATITUDE Danielle shares how expressing gratitude gives you a different perspective: “There are going to be times in your life when you feel like you are in a dark place and it’s hard to snap out of that. You start to see the world through a negative lens.” “If you take a step back and begin appreciating the good moments, it gives you this sense of gratitude and everything begins to change. It puts life in a different perspective.” QUESTION What do you notice when you step back and begin seeing life through the lens of gratitude?   Point #4: INSPIRED From his Gratitude Stack about Danielle, Garrett received these insights and revelations about their marriage and how he feels about her: “Marital and mutual respect is something that takes a long time to uncover, and once it’s found, it’s priceless and profound.” “I sit and look at my wife while five months pregnant and am just inspired. I’m inspired by what it is to be pregnant and have your body do what it does with a little person inside of you who is growing. But of all the things that hits home the most is that she can make the baby AND also smash the shit out of life.” QUESTION What about your spouse inspires you?   Point #5: FROM THEN TO NOW Garrett: What makes this pregnancy different from the others is I am grateful for what we’ve become as a couple. In the past, I isolated myself and didn’t know how to deal with the whole pregnancy thing. Danielle: When you look back to how it was eight years ago with our last pregnancy during scary and uncertain times, things are so different this time. We know we’re in a good place right now with life and with marriage, and we’re excited about the next chapter. QUESTION As you step back and look where you’ve been compared to where you are now, what has changed? Communication Challenge: Discuss the art of collision and the ability to hold space for your spouse during intense & direct conversations. Date Night Topic: Make Gratitude the topic of your next Date Night. Share examples and stories of gratitude with each other. If you have access to the Gratitude Stack, do a Stack on each other and then share it during your date. *Keep an eye out for the summer release of the Attack With the Stack Series. Quote of the Week: “Gratitude is the ability to look back: here’s where we are, here’s where we were, and let’s be grateful for what is.” —Garrett J White “When you’re in a space of gratitude, nothing can get you down. Use it as a protective shield for yourself and your family, and to ultimately feel more powerful in life. When I’m in that space, I feel unstoppable.” —Danielle K White

Welcome to the Date Your Wife podcast. This episode is dedicated to all the men who feel like they don’t have a voice when their wife is pregnant and who don’t know what to do with all of their sexual energy.  Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…SEX Point #1: Stay In Your Corner Garrett: There’s a phase inside of this where you’re super pumped because you’re having a lot of sex but you know the intention is to make a baby. Guys are then thrown into this corner and are put into this little shoebox during pregnancy and during the recovery after pregnancy. “For basically a year, the woman goes to a place of sacrifice,” Garrett explains, “but a guy goes to a place of sacrifice, too.” (Cue Danielle’s emerging laughing in the background) “This is exactly why guys don’t get a voice on this because the level of mockery is so intense.” QUESTION As a guy, how do you deal with this?   Point #2: What to Expect When You’re Expecting…Penis Edition There are a lot of guys who cheat during pregnancy because they don’t know what to do with all of their sexual energy. There’s no shortage of books and information for women, but practically nothing in place to prepare men for what they’ve just signed up for. Guys want to have sex but generally don’t approach this topic with their wives. And there’s no blog post, book or podcast addressing this – there’s nothing in place to guide a man through the emotional hurricane of pregnancy. QUESTION Guys, what is your experience with this? Point #3:  The Dichotomy Garrett: When your wife gets pregnant, all of a sudden there’s a rising emotion that comes from the Gods. It’s protecting and nurturing. It’s a feeling of “I will fuck anyone up who comes close to this. Everyone is now a second-class citizen to the spouse with the baby in the belly.” It completely suppresses the sexual drive between the man and the wife that he is curating and protecting. The challenge is, the sexual energy wants away from that environment and is immediately triggered by just about any female that walks the planet that is not pregnant. QUESTION How has this shown up in your marriage during pregnancy? Point #4: The Penis Power Is a Decision Many men stop instigating sex during pregnancy because they’re not sure how to deal with the rise of the protecting guardian, the decline of the sexual drive toward their wife, and the triggers outside of their relationship. And some men simply think it’s weird to have sex after their wife is six months pregnant. Garrett: I’ve chosen to channel my sexual energy, although triggered all over the place, towards my beautiful, gorgeous pregnant wife. It’s a decision, even though you’re under suppression. QUESTION As a man, what are your thoughts about this? Point #5: Society’s Advice Garrett understands how bitchy and whiny men can come across on this topic, especially when “we’re not the ones who are going to have to push a pumpkin out of our penis after nine months!” Society tells men, “Listen, asshole, you have no leg to stand on. You’re not the one whose body’s getting jacked and is going to spend twelve to eighteen months in recovery. Shut up pussy and just deal with it.” QUESTION What do you think about this? Communication Challenge: Have an open conversation around the challenges and the joys that both women and men face during pregnancy. What can you create together to bring more support and understanding to each other? Date Night Topic: During Date Night, engage in flirtatious banter you know will lead to a window of opportunity of sexual connection when you arrive home. Quote of the Week: “As I look at the ultrasound, I sit back in complete fascination in all of this. It’s so crazy that in a mass effort of about three minutes of participation, this thing happens.” —Garrett J White “I want the pregnancy perks but I still want to be treated like me. If you know there’s a window, make a move on me. Pretend like I’m notpregnant.” —Danielle K White

This week’s Date Your Wife podcast comes to you via the White’s actual Date Night where Garrett and Danielle explore the topics of conflict and avoidance inside their relationship. They reveal patterns and behaviors that did not serve them for years, which could have led to the demise of their marriage were it not for an ultimatum and decision during a huge argument – which ultimately created an opening that changed the trajectory of their marriage. .  Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…Communication Point #1: People Pleaser or Conflict Avoider? Danielle believes women typically aren’t people pleasers; they’re conflict avoiders. Women are so afraid of confrontation that they always try to make peace. “But ultimately it’s not because we’re trying to please people,” offers Danielle, “it’s because we’re trying to avoid conflict, which later on actually causes us more harm.” QUESTION How does this play out in your marriage? Point #2: On the Hunt As Garrett reflects this topic of conflict, he realizes that “Danielle is a conflict avoider at the highest level. If you go through what has happened with us in the past seventeen years, she has NEVER been a conflict person.” “The only way we could ever have a real conversation was if I brought the collision to her, and then inside of it, I would actually hunt her down and force her to have a serious conversation with me.” QUESTION Who is typically the “hunter” inside your marriage? Point #3:  Hot-Headed When men become hot-headed inside of a conversation, many women refuse to continue on with that conversation, thus making it appear to the men that women are in this place of avoidance. From Danielle’s perspective, “Women recognize when a conversation/argument isn’t in a logical place and is going nowhere. When Garrett flips his lid, and I feel like I can’t reason with him because the conversation is not in a healthy place, I will refuse to continue, knowing that in this state, nothing is going to get solved. QUESTION Who is typically the hot-headed one in your relationship? How does this affect your communication? Point #4: Initiate or Avoid? Garrett admits being more emotional than Danielle, and one who is desires to get into a fight and collide. Speaking to Danielle, “You were never an initiator of any type of hard conversation. Your mode was to just swallow it, ignore it, reframe it in your mind, let it go and move on…and pretend like it never happened. Danielle: I was avoiding confrontation, and was thinking, “Oh, it will go away, it’ll quiet down. I also came to this place where I didn’t know how to have direct conversations with you. QUESTION Inside conflict within your marriage, who typically avoids, and who typically initiates?” Point #5: Therapy After six years of behaviors and patterns that were not serving the White’s, everything came to a head one afternoon during a huge argument in their kitchen where an ultimatum was issued by Garrett: Either we’re going to therapy, or we’re done. Danielle: Going to therapy, we both had a logical sounding board to hear one another’s feelings. It helped me open up and communicate better, and I feel like Garrett was able to go deeper into the story or conflict without hitting his tipping point. QUESTION What has been your experience inside the conversation of therapy? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around the topic of “Avoider or Initiator.” Date Night Topic: During Date Night, have a conversation about the possibility of inserting Therapy into your lives. Quote of the Week: “Therapy gave us a better chance to pull off conflict and be in a conversation that would require both of us to own our shit.” —Garrett J White “In relationships, I think we argue to be right, not to get what we want. I think we both realized that there’s submission in getting what we want which makes us less willing to be right and more willing to get what we want.” —Danielle K White  

As a couple-on-the-go, co-hosts Danielle K and Garrett J White, delve into a topic that, at first glance, might appear to be in the oxymoron realm. However, in classic White style, Danielle and Garrett deliver insights and experiences that uncover what might be one of the most important things you will ever do as a married couple: go through your Divine Divorce in order to find your Divine Destiny. Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…Communication Point #1: Divine Divorce Leads to Divine Destiny There are times when couples are in the midst of great chaos and find themselves knocking on the door of divorce. Because of this, most couples concur that there comes a point in their relationship where they must choose all in…again. Garrett: Although we didn’t get a divorce, there was an emotional separation that took place. We were functionally disconnected, meaning, we were very good at being disconnected. There came a time when the inevitable moment of decision presented itself where we had to make a choice. QUESTION What has been your experience with knocking on the door of divorce? Point #2: Am I With the Wrong Person? The IDEA of a relationship that is in continual bliss and always on fire is evident in the highlight reels that are plastered all over social media, giving others the impression of a fairytale happily-ever-after marriage. This is total bullshit. Garrett: There’s a moment of the Divine Divorce where you as a couple begin to drift but it’s actually setting up the next chapter of your relationship. Danielle: We kept looping back to the same arguments that never got solved, which had me wondering, “Am I with the wrong person?” QUESTION Is what you’re posting on social media a true reflection of the state of your marriage, or is it drenched in hopeful bliss and fantasy? Point #3: It’s Just How It Is Garrett: The vast majority of couples that I meet and connect with inside Wake Up Warrior and BMS are operating in very minimal sexual connection, very minimal emotional and spiritual connection, and are surviving. But the challenge is, they don’t even know they’re surviving. The belief is, “This is just how it is.” If you surround yourself with people who have this belief, it’s not until something traumatic happens where it begins to expose how shitty things really are. In our marriage when the money disappeared, that is when the chaos of our marriage was exposed. QUESTION Where in your world do you have the belief of “it’s just how it is?” Point #4: From Divorce to Divine Divorcement The reality of how people show up in marriage is quite alarming to Garrett. Inside of many relationships he is connected with, he has witnessed many couples where both people are out of shape, they don’t go out on dates, there is no seduction or flirting, and they are in the managing and survival mode. Then they get a divorce. “What blows my mind is the transformation that begins taking place AFTER the divorce, where they blossom into this entirely new person. Instead of having to get divorced, what if you could literally go through a Divine Divorcement?” QUESTION If on the verge of divorce, what would be possible inside your marriage if you considered the possibility of creating new patterns while remainging married? Point #5: It's a Choice Garrett: No matter how powerfully connected you feel to who you are and what you have, the next version of your relationship as a couple is impossibly held hostage by the current constraints of what you believe is possible today. No matter what state your marriage is in today, there’s another level calling you. And in order to get to that next level, there’s a Divine Divorcement upon you. Divine in the sense that God, through the gift of agency, is giving you an opportunity to choose. QUESTION What are some of the limiting beliefs that are holding your marraige hostage? Communication Challenge: How are you choosing to show up in your marriage? What are you choosing to divorce? Without the divorcement and without the decision to do it, nothing is going to change inside of your relationship. Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about the things that attracted you to each other inthe beginning of your relationship. How those have evolved and changed over time? What are some things you can do now to create new chemistry and excitement inside your relationship? Quote of the Week: “There’s a new destiny on the other side of divorce. Divorce is simply choosing to do something different; it’s the laying down and putting aside of that which is old and not working, for something that is new and can work.” —Garrett J White “People underestimate the small consistencies daily that create a big win in life. Stay committed, be patient, and kick your husband in the ass every now and again if he needs it.” —Danielle K White

Admittedly different than most in the hair industry, the dynamic duo of Danielle K and Garrett J White bring a little spice to the table, a different flavor to the mix, and together, with their artists, deliver up BIG results. They’re turning the world of hair upside down and couldn’t be happier about it. In Big Money Stylist, we go over the following formula each month: Week #1: Power Week #2: Production Week #3: Profit Week #4: Protection In This Week’s Episode…..PRODUCTION Point #1: Slave Behind the Chair With his background as a PE teacher, many have questioned Garrett’s involvement in the hair industry. Yet, when you’re married to an artist as he has been for the past 15 years, you see first hand the challenges the hair industry presents. Garrett recognized that even if an artist becomes world class in their artistry and abilities, they remain chained to the chair due to their lack of business know-how, which is NOT taught in hair school. QUESTION What have you been led to pursue even though it was out of your scope of study or training? Point #2: What’s Driving You? After Danielle finished hair school, she wanted to find a solution to her “crappy hair,” which began her journey into the world of hair extensions. Along the way, she had to figure out how to be a better businesswoman. What drove Danielle, in the beginning, was her passion for hair and problem-solving. She attributes her business success to loving what she does, sharing it with others, and delivering up great results in the form of transformation. QUESTION What is the driving force behind your success? Point #3: Addicted to the Craft When artists step back and take a good look at the big picture, more often than not, they realize they’re not making as much money as they thought they were. In many cases, they’re quite shocked by the reality of their situation the facts and numbers are painting. Danielle: I realized, like most artists, that I was working a ton and wearing myself out. I was not detail-oriented nor was I doing my numbers. I was, however, addicted to the craft, to the transformation, to the money. QUESTION Where in your world are you running yourself into the ground because of your addiction to the money, the results, or the craft? Point #4: Raising the Bar The changes inside of BMS in 2019 are results-driven; they’re creating an environment of elite artists with sustaining and lasting results who are dominating in the hair game. The Road to BMSCON4 in November 2019 has benchmarks along the way that every artist MUST complete in order to attend, including six months of training and pre-requisites, as well as a financial commitment. “Gone are the days of going home with another piece of paper that you can hang on your mirror and nothing happens.” QUESTION How are you leveling up your game? Point #5: The 7 Problems Artists Face Garrett: In the beginning we launched NBR training but then we saw a bigger problem: it’s one thing to learn the NBR method, it’s another thing to build a business that works and ultimately fulfills the three pillars of BMS: work less, make more, love your life. Each of the 7 Problems that Garrett identifies has an opposite to it, which is what their students are experiencing inside of BMS. “The game I play is results. That’s it. The real commitment is assuring our students have a shot to get results.” QUESTION As you step back and take a look at your life, what are your results? What actions are you willing to take if you’re not happy with the results? Quote of the Week: “Most artists are completely and utterly stuck in a rut. The only difference between a rut and a grave are the dimensions.” –Garrett J White “The more business savvy we become, the more we can love the art and the hair; the more we can create that balance and lifestyle that we’re looking for, which is ultimately how to win in this game.” –Danielle K White

Today’s conversation inside the Date Your Wife podcast centers around the importance of adding people to your team and features two surprise guests who shed some additional light on this subject. It’s never a dull moment with the White’s as they navigate the ever-changing waters of marriage, family, and business, aka The Trifecta of Insanity. Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…Money Point #1: Babysitter, Nanny, or Home Manager? The first addition to team Garrett & Danielle? The important position of a Nanny/Home Manager, whose role is very different from that of a Babysitter. It’s vital to get really clear about the roles, compensation, and expectations of each of these BEFORE you add them to your team. In a cameo appearance, Bailey, the White’s twelve-year-old, clearly defines the distinction between these roles. “A Nanny/Home Manager is full-time and committed, works a lot, and actually likes the kids. They manage the household, the workers, and run errands for the parents. A Babysitter is like, “I need you to go to bed while I’m watching the Bachelor.” QUESTION How would bringing one of these on board change your family’s life? Point #2: Does Overcompensation Lead to Entitlement? Whether it’s your place of business or home-related, overcompensating can lead to behaviors and feelings of entitlement, something Danielle and Garrett have first-hand experience with. Adds Danielle, “If you overcompensate people, it builds a lot of entitlement. They start creating stories in their mind where they can’t see anything else; they start painting you as the bad guy, and collect evidence to back those stories.” QUESTION Where have you experienced this as either the one feeling entitled or the one witnessing it? Point #3: House Cleaner When adding a House Cleaner to your team, a couple of key things to consider are 1-trust and 2-being comfortable with leaving a mess and not feeling like you have to clean up BEFORE they arrive. Getting really clear on the role they are going to play is of utmost importance. What do you want them to do? What don’t you want them to do? What do you want your Home Manager to delegate to your House Cleaner? It’s up to you to communicate clear directions in order for everything to run smoothly. QUESTION How has having a House Cleaner on board improved your life and/or your relationships? Point #4: This is a Man’s Job Danielle grew up with a father who was always hands-on when it came to building, repairing, and handling big and small jobs around the house, something she expected Garrett to automatically take on as the “man of the house” after they were married. However, it didn’t exactly pan out the way she expected. Garrett decided he would take on the responsibility of caring for their pool to prove to Danielle that he was a “man,” but when his plan went sideways within the week and the pool was filled with moss, it was clear that some things are best left to the professionals. QUESTION What do you automatically expect your husband to do because it falls under the category of “that’s just what men do?” Point #5: Let Go in Order to Grow Garrett: “As I sit here and look at the unit that has become the idea of family, just like an entrepreneur looks at their business and realizes he cannot do it by himself, that he must let go in order to grow, I’m going to have you consider that inside of your family life it’s no different.” “As you and your partner become more and more successful inside of the game of business and life, it’s actually selfish for you to continue to play the game so small. In order to play bigger, you’re going to have to involve more team members.” QUESTION If you were to look in your world right now, where is the one place in your life where you could bring someone on the team who could free you up so you could actually do the things that matters? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around this topic: It’s ok to bring people on the team to accelerate your marriage and your family. How do you both feel about this? Date Night Topic: Entertain the idea of creating space inside your team for a Babysitter, Nanny, or Home Manager and get really clear about the details, expectations, and compensation. What would that look like for your family? How would that clear up space for more family time, couple time, or alone time? Quote of the Week: “You cannot build a family without a team. It’s difficult, if not impossible to build your marriage and family to ultimately become what you want it to be if you’re trying to do it alone.” —Garrett J White “To women, let go. Test it out for a couple of months and just what happens. See if it makes an improvement, see what opens up in your relationship with your kids and your spouse. Could you find something else fulfilling to put your time towards?” —Danielle K White  

Married co-hosts of the Date Your Wife podcast, Danielle K and Garrett J White, share their experiences with you each week as they do their best to navigate their way through this life. This week, the topic of conversation is Communication. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication   In This Week’s Podcast….Communication Point #1: Some Like it Hot Danielle attributes her direct communication to the fact that she’s a Taurus. “They’re actually sweet people, but if you set them off, you better get out of the fucking way.” In marriage, she believes you have to use tact when you communicate with your partner. She usually runs questionable things through the ‘dating filter’ before she sends them to Garrett: “If we were dating, would I say this?” QUESTION How often do you find yourself running your communication through filters? Point #2: Don’t Poke the Bear Garret: Once Danielle is face down in the pillow, and the dog is curled up at her feet, I am now encroaching into the evil lair of insanity. I go about my evening routine knowing that Danielle is in comatose mode. Danielle: Do you want to make love to your whiteboards, or do you want to make love to me? Just give me a little squeeze. If I respond, you’re in luck; if I say nothing, you’re shit out of luck. QUESTION What non-verbal signals and signs do you give to each other? Point #3: Feeling Wanted Garrett: There was a time I was unable to acknowledge to myself nor have a conversation with Danielle about the fact that sex was important to me. I was always indirect and hoping things would work out instead of directionally speaking to them. It was the same with my businesses. Danielle: I started to understand that in order to get what I wanted, we both had to feel wanted. Girls like and want sex, but I think it’s more of being wanted, and having that attention and validation that my man is into me. QUESTION How do you make sure your partner feels wanted by you? Point #4: Direct Communication Garrett: Part of the conversation in our home is that we talk directly with each other, as well as in front of our children. Our kids have very strong opinions about things, and they use very powerful language. I used to steer clear of direct communication in our marriage, particularly on the topic of sex, because I just did not know how to get over my story of feeling rejected and my pain of feeling so. QUESTION In what areas of your life do you have a challenge with direct communication?   Point #5: Running Man Garrett: I had given myself permission for a very long time to allow our relationship to be on eggshells, mostly because I literally couldn’t commit to much and I was always in a place where I was ready to bail. About two years ago, a shift took place inside of Garrett causing the back door to completely disappear. Danielle noticed huge results after Garrett finally gave himself permission to commit and go all in. QUESTION What level of commitment do you have inside your marriage? Communication Challenge: Inside your relationship, where are you avoiding direct conversations? How is this impacting .your marriage?   Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about this topic: “In order to get what I wanted, we both had to feel wanted.”   Quote of the Week: “Commitment itself is the bridge or gateway to actual direct communication. If you’re not committed to your marriage, or to the person you’re married to, direct communication cannot happen.” –Garrett J White “As we set our relationship up for success, it impacts so many other areas of our life, including the example we set for our children.” –Danielle K White Head over to Amazon to pick up your copy of the book, Be the Man. warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com

This week’s episode of the Date Your Wife podcast is coming to you from the beautiful beaches of Cancun, Mexico, where your co-hosts, Danielle K and Garrett J White are on a romantic weekend get-a-way. In this week’s conversation, the powerful duo opens up about the journey and evolution of their sexual rebirth. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication   In This Week's Podcast.... SEX Point #1: The Cancun Connection Garrett: Part of the game of being married is taking trips, but for a decade, we didn’t go on vacations very often. And when we did, it was a shitshow. I was upset, I'd be working, and we’d get in fights all the time about sex. The first time we came to Cancun, though, there was a sexual revolution that took place for us during that trip. Now, going on vacation is this exciting thing for me. Danielle: We come back here for long weekend get-a-ways, where it's all about having fun, reconnecting, unplugging, and hanging out; it's like having Date Night every night. I think that’s why we like coming here because it was one of the first trips we took together after we finally committed to taking the time to create the space and the money to make it happen. QUESTION: What is the place you go back to that reminds you of your reconnection? Point #2: Doorway to Apathy Danielle: We’ll talk with couples who are having a great vacation, yet they're not having sex and they don't care. I feel it’s an interesting space to be in. They can say, "I have respect for my wife, we don't have sex, it’s not a big deal," but where and how does that trickle down into the relationship? Garrett: When this happens, one of the things a guy will do is to completely shut down sexually and become this sedated, constricted, pitiful man. He will completely cut off his sex drive and lock it away. What women don’t understand is that this lack of sexual energy affects everything about a man's life - inside of his family and his business. Men become sedated dogs who just survive...and they’re okay with it. QUESTION: How long have you been in the "I don't care" phase? Point #3: Rejection Garrett: There are guys who are sexually frustrated as fuck, and they’re trying to find a way out. They go beat the shit out of each other at the gym and then come home to this gorgeous Barbie doll princess-wife on ice blocks. I was begging for hand jobs back then and I was sliding down this path that was very confusing and frustrating. I didn’t know how to get out of it; I didn’t know how to snap out of that game. If you’re a dude who’s thinking: I'm not getting fucking laid, I've been married to this woman for five-ten years, we’ve had two babies, we’re not having sex, it’s awkward as shit, I don’t get blow jobs, we don’t connect, my wife doesn’t even want me to touch her...I get it. I was there with Danielle. If I tried to approach her at all, or even tried to touch her or kiss her in any way, shape or form, she would reject me. Even when I was trying to reconnect, she was still rejecting the shit out of me. QUESTION: Gentlemen, how does Garrett's experience resonate with you? Point #4: Feeling Invisible Danielle: I felt like my needs weren't being met. What I was attracted to at a very young age was this guy who had a lot of drive; I knew he was going to be successful at whatever he did in life. When he got to this place where he was working, working, working - which was what I was initially attracted to - my needs weren't being met with TIME. Garrett was working his ass off, and then he would come home wanting to get laid. Slowly, the courting, the dating, and the fun began to go away. I became resentful of his work, I didn’t want to go to his events, I didn’t give a shit if he was speaking, and I didn’t care anymore. We were in this place where I felt like he wanted more, but I had been in this space for three to four years where my needs weren't being met. "Screw you, you’ve tarnished my trust, why would I cross the line?" I was in a painful place where I began questioning why I was even in this relationship. QUESTION: Ladies, how does Danielle's experience relate to yours? Point #5: Sexual Rebirth Garrett: There has to be this moment where you make a decision: I am willing to do whatever is required to get to this place of my desire. What did I want? I wanted a relationship with my wife where we could communicate, talk, have open conversations, we could battle, we could dialogue, we could have sex or not have sex, we could be playful and flirt, we could hang out and connect - and inside of that, there would be no weirdness. It took years, not months or weeks, but years of working this out to get to where we are today. Danielle: I went through a couple of years where I was thinking I don’t know if I want to quit - probably because I was scared - but I don’t know if I want to continue to stay married. That’s when I decided to just focus on me and my business; I started to focus on growth as a person. In that space, I think that Garrett started to work on himself, too, and we were both getting our mojo back. We've gotten into this powerful space together because we’re choosing it; we're choosing to do the work together. QUESTION: What one thing are you committed to doing inside of your relationship to experience a sexual rebirth? Communication Challenge: I invite you as a couple to have a conversation around the possibility of participating in a 30 day KingsKit Challenge for the men: warriorbook.com, and for the ladies, participating in Wake Up Warrior for women: wakeupwarriorwoman.com.   Date Night Topic: 1 - Share the places you would like to go as a couple for your weekend get-a-ways. 2 - Set a date and begin planning your next one. Quote of the Week: "As a man, the first step to launching a sexual revolution within my marriage was to be able to be in a place of launching intensity and connection within myself, and of dealing with my own bullshit, lies, and stories. And inside of that, setting myself up on a trajectory of ultimately being able to create the conditions that would set my marriage sexually free." --Garrett J White "Have fun!" --Danielle K White  

Married co-hosts, Danielle K and Garrett J White, discuss the art of Crucial Conversations in this week’s episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. Their first encounter and first kiss are revealed as they take a trip down memory lane, and Garrett introduces the Triangle, which doubles as a favorite sex move of one of the Warriors as well as a communication strategy – a strategy which has proven to be a total game changer for Garrett and their marriage. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication   In This Week’s Podcast…. COMMUNICATION Point #1: First Kiss Garrett: Seventeen times we went out for ice cream until you decided you couldn’t handle it anymore. I played the “I don’t give a fuck” game, you came after me, our lips brushed, then you landed one on me. I had a pattern of burning relationships with girls very quickly, like within two weeks. But with you, I really wanted to kiss you, I really wanted to have sex with you, and I still want to have sex with you all the time. Danielle: We were laying in your bed. After a two-hour shoulder massage, I knew I had to be classy and not just go in for the kill. You lined your face up with mine, your lips were nuzzling mine, and I remember thinking, “I don’t know what this is but I better go in.” QUESTION What is the memory of your first kiss with your spouse or partner? Point #2: The Triangle Garrett: The triangle is one of the natural things Danielle does when it comes to putting herself in another person’s shoes. When tensions are high, when there’s a lot on the line, and when shit is spicy, Danielle has the ability to diffuse the situation. She did this for a decade or longer before I was able to. Danielle: When I find myself getting emotionally riled up, I don’t like being in that space, so I place myself in the other person’s shoes. I try to envision it from their perspective, which helps me calm down. I may not agree with them, but it helps me understand why they’re acting the way they are, and why I’m being triggered by them. QUESTION What happens in your conversations when you put yourself in another’s shoes? Point #3: Crucial Conversations Garrett: The first step in having crucial conversations is to get clear about what Iwant from the conversation. The next step is, what do I want for my wife in this situation? And then the third, what do I want for us as a couple in this situation? As I answered these questions, it gave me clear distinctions and actions that would force me to not be right, and force me to let go of things. For ten years, I fought to be right, over getting what I wanted QUESTION Where in your world are you not clear about what you want? How is this affecting the actions you’re taking inside of your relationship?   Point #4: What Does My Partner Want? Garrett: I used to think, “What the fuck is wrong with you, Danielle? Why aren’t we having sex?” I wasn’t holding a safe space for Danielle. The safe space is a place you hold for another person for safe dialogue, where you just let them talk. I couldn’t hold open that space at all, especially with Danielle, particularly when I was feeling triggered sexually. I would become this crazy person. I would get clear about what I wanted but I had no concern for what she wanted Danielle: I think that guys have this belief that because they’re providing, their wives should naturally want to have sex. As women, yes, it’s great that you’re providing for us, but we want you to want to spend time with us. Guys want action and sex, women want guys to want to hang out with them without the pressure of having sex. QUESTION What are you doing to provide and hold space for your spouse? Point #5: Groping vs Seducing Garrett: I got to this place where I wanted Danielle to feel wanted, and part of that included seducing her, not just touching her all the time. It became more and more natural for me to help her get what she wanted, knowing that in helping her get what she wanted, would get me what I wanted as well. Danielle: In that space, it was interesting. You’d want to come spend time with me, but the only way I can describe it is that you were groping me. You had your hand planted on my ass and were literally all over me. I would get triggered and annoyed, which would lead to you shutting down. I just needed a safe space where I could enjoy the time with you while getting warmed up. QUESTION How does this resonate with you? Communication Challenge: Your final challenge inside of this week’s show is this: Sit down and have a conversation and ask yourselves these three questions: What do I want for myself in this situation? What do I want for my partner or my spouse in this situation? What do I want for us as a couple? Note: Keep in mind that it might be a little emotionally triggering for both of you. This is a good time to practice the art of holding space for each other. Date Night Topic: Take a trip down memory lane: How and where did you meet? Quote of the Week: “I think what you’re going to find once you get clear is that there’s a lot of shit you’re doing that will not get you what you want. It makes it easy to shift gears and to say I’m not going to do these things anymore, and instead I’m going to do these things because these are the things that will get me what I want.” —Garrett J White “Garrett’s always a good surprise. If you’re bored or safe, that’s not necessarily a good place to be in a marriage. I feel if you’re in maintenance mode, you’re stagnant and digressing.” —Danielle K White

In the show that is sparking an opportunity for married couples to have conversations they wouldn’t normally be able to have, married co-hosts Danielle K and Garrett J White dive deep into the topic of Parenting in this week's real and raw Date Your Wife Podcast as they discuss discipline, connection and what really matters to them as parents. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication   In This Week's Podcast....PARENTING Point #1: Miscarriage Danielle and Garrett have a thoughtful and candid conversation about her miscarriage that happened while Garrett was in Florida speaking at the recent Click Funnels event. "As women, most of the time we know we are pregnant long before a test tells us we are, as we tend to be naturally intuitive about our bodies." Danielle was hesitant to tell many people she was pregnant because somehow she knew this pregnancy wasn’t going to last and she didn’t want to get her hopes up too much in case something like this were to happen. QUESTION: If you have experienced a miscarriage, how has it affected you, your spouse and your children? Point #2: The Puppy Parenting Strategy Danielle's beloved Weiner dog, Chloe, is 14 years old and has had a self designated poop rug in every house the White's have ever lived in. Garrett is Chloe’s master poop picker upper and Danielle claims cute Chloe drops those logs on the rug simply because she and Garrett haven't taught her well, nor have they been consistent with her, while Garrett swears it's because of doggy poop karma. Danielle: I suck at being consistent as a parent and am full of empty threats. I don’t even know how to parent my ten year old daughter. I’m always thinking of things to take away from her for her punishment or giving her time frames to complete things, but she doesn’t seem to care. She is so stubborn and hates being told what to do. QUESTION: In what ways are you and your spouse consistent or inconsistent with your children? Point #3: Conflicting Parental Strategies Although Danielle admits she has no parenting strategy, she feels Garrett's approach is too harsh and tends to get in between he and the kids when he is trying to discipline them his way. Garrett shares that they're a shit show in a lot of areas and that they really don't have much figured out when it comes to parenting, except in a couple of areas where they both admit they really shine at being parents: connection and family time. Garrett: Sometimes I’m not even sure how to respond to my children because we have such contradicting strategies for parenting. I’m very much in your face, aggressive and yelling, where Danielle obviously does not do this. Oft times this causes collision. QUESTION: What ways of disciplining do you and your spouse tend to agree on? Point #4: Take Off the Filters Garrett: As adults we have been trained to stuff everything down, we've been trained to not talk about the truth or reality. The one thing that I was worried about as a father was giving our children the space to be emotionally honest with us in our home, which means being able to talk to us about hard things. Amidst the fact that Danielle and Garrett admittedly have very obvious dysfunction in their disciplining skills, the one thing they agree to having is a deep connection and open communication with their children. There's no topic that's considered taboo or off limits. In their home, the kids are exposed to a reality check of how life really is, which includes debate, disagreement and open conversation. QUESTION: Is the filter on or off at your home? What can you do to create a more open environment for your family?   Point #5: Get Clear On What Really Matters Garrett: What exactly is your commitment to your children? You’re not going to win all of the wars in all of the categories. If you do, what you will end up with is a very sedated child who is doing a shit load of stuff behind your back. I need to know that my children can take care of themselves. I need to know that my daughter has the power to take a stand for herself when I’m not around or when Danielle’s not around. You’re never going to have a perfect situation no matter what you try to do, and you’re never going to have it all figured out and have nailed down every single aspect of parenting with your children. QUESTION: What are the parts of parenting that actually matter to you?   Communication Challenge: What is the part of the relationship between you and your children that actually works? Date Night Topic: What are the things that are non negotiable for you inside this relationship between you and your children - the things that you are going to battle hard on? What are all of the other things that would be nice to have but you're going to let them go or let them slide while you focus all of your energy on your main commitment?   Quote of the Week: "You need to pick what your battles are. We are all trying to create a game that makes sense for our children and for us as parents. We are not perfect with this, we don’t profess to be, nor do we pretend like we have all of the answers. Something we do have is the communication and the opportunity to share." --Garrett J White   "I’ve noticed on the topic of communication, because it is our strength with our children, that cousins, siblings, and people outside of the family feel like they can come to us and share things with us. We’re the safe place for people come to tell things to." --Danielle K White  

This week is a huge milestone as we are celebrating the 100th episode of the Moms With Dreams Show! I’ve been anticipating this day for several weeks now. I remember when I started my podcast back in May 2015. Producing one show per week felt like an eternity away from 100, but now it’s finally here! Over the past few weeks, I’ve heard from other podcasters that I am the exception in the industry – that most podcasts don’t make it past 20 episodes, let alone reach 100! I had no idea since all the podcasts that I listen to are successful with hundreds of episodes. This conversation was my reminder to stop and acknowledge myself for making it this far – something that I often forget to do. Instead of interviewing a guest or teaching a lesson, I invited my listeners and previous guests to join me in this episode. After my extended introduction, you’ll hear audio clips of them sharing a few words about the show. I am grateful for my community and want you to have access to these wonderful people. Below you’ll find their names, a brief bio, contact information and a link to their episode if they were a guest. In this episode, I gave a shout out to John Bukenas, my podcast producer. If you’re thinking about starting a podcast or you’ve already started and need an editor, I highly suggest John. You can find him at http://audioeditingsolutions.com Guests and Listeners Who Contributed to This Episode: Annett Bone appeared on Episode 72: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-072-never-late-great-wannett-bone/ Annett Bone is the founder and host of The DancePreneuring Studio podcast where she guides her listeners on a journey of transformation inspired by dance, life, and business. The podcast is a reflection of her personal adventure overcoming her fears and returning to her passion for dance after a 20 year hiatus, the lessons that she has learned along the way, and proving that it’s never too late to be great. www.AnnettBone.com annett@annettbone.com Cherise Patterson, loyal listener Cherise Patterson is the Founder and CEO of Such A Mom, LLC.  Through her faith centered A.D.D Management Coaching Program, Cherise supports and teaches Moms with children affected by A.D.D how to care for themselves, get organized, “Achieve their Desired Dreams” and thrive during elementary school years into young adulthood.  Cherise is a dedicated wife and loving mother who cherishes quality time with her family. https://www.facebook.com/cpsuchamom/   Dr. Nyali Taylor appeared on episode 69: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-069-taking-risks-feeling-free-40-wdr-nyali-taylor/   Dr. Nyali Taylor is a vascular surgeon at CTMH | Doctors Hospital. After attending Rutgers University as a scholar-athlete, she obtained dual degrees in Medicine and Public Health from Drexel College of Medicine. Dr. Taylor then completed her general surgeon training at the Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania, followed by a vascular surgery fellowship at Cooper University Hospital. Academically, she has co-authored two textbook chapters and several peer-reviewed scholarly journal articles.   Dr. Samantha Madhosingh appeared on episode 17: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-017-dr-samantha-madhosingh-achieve-success-holistic-happiness/   Dr. Samantha Madhosingh is a Licensed Psychologist, Bestselling Author, & Speaker. She received her doctorate in professional psychology from The George Washington University and has dedicated more than 20,000 hours to researching, understanding, & solving the infinite possibilities of human potential, behavior, & performance. Dr. Samantha is the founder and CEO of ElevateHER, an organization serving women leaders (and interested men) in business and in life by providing key strategies to rewire their brains, achieve mastery in mindset, communication, & relationships, and ultimately create a legacy of lasting wealth.  http://askdrsamantha.com/ Famira Green appeared on episode 6: http://ericablocker.com/the-art-of-visual-branding-for-your-business/   Famira Green is a creative brand strategist and founder of FAMIRA Media Group (www.famiragreen.com). She is the creator of the #EMPRESSnation Movement Creator and host of the upcoming web tv show, #BeDifferent #BrandDifferent, where she will connect with entrepreneurs who are not afraid to move to the beat of their own drum and do things their way. With her branding and digital media company, Famira taps into her intuition and teaches heart-centered women entrepreneurs how to use the power of storytelling and visual branding to create a brand empire of influence, impact, inspiration and income. www.famiragreen.com http://bit.ly/famiragift http://facebook.com/iamfamira http://instagram.com/iamfamira http://twitter.com/iamfamira Dr. Jen Riday appeared on episode 59: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-059-create-a-happy-vibrant-life-with-dr-jen-riday/ Dr. Jen Riday is the Women’s Happiness Expert and host of the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast. She helps women find greater light and meaning – regardless of their circumstances – through meditation, listening to intuition of a Higher Power. www.jenriday.com http://facebook.com/groups/vibranthappywomen Jewell Robinson appeared on episode 43: http://ericablocker.com/create-healthy-money-habits-with-jewell-robinson/ Jewell Robinson is the CEO of Jewell Robinson Insurance and Financial Services. Her business is certified by the California Dept. of Insurance which allows her to be licensed in, but not limited to, the following states; CA, AZ, DE, TX, GA, IL and VA. Her platform is to educate clients and the community on creating healthy financial habits. areyoufff@gmail.com http://jewellrobinson.com Joe Pardo appeared on episode 80: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-080-vision-dream-big-wjoe-pardo/ Helping people achieve their dreams has always been Joe Pardo’s goal in life. In early 2014, he left his family’s $100 million business to pursue his goal and became a 4th generation entrepreneur. Joe started the Dreamers Podcast soon after his exit from the family business to inspire others to dream big. He continues to give back and make an impact through this work with start-ups, afterschool programs and his educational conferences. http://superjoepardo.com Judy Graybill appeared on episode 39: http://ericablocker.com/healing-transforming-blended-families-relationships/ Judy Graybill is an international authority on stepfamilies and co-parenting after remarriage. A Certified Stepfamily Coach, Judy sits on the Advisory Board for Stepfamily Systems Co-Parenting Center, has helped step couples in 8 countries across 4 continents, and is also an inspirational speaker, consultant, and writer on improving remarriages, mending relationships, and creating harmony at home. For nearly a decade as Executive Director of Sensible Steps, LLC, Judy has given clients a-ha's, real world solutions, empowerment, a stronger spousal relationship, and peace of mind. Email: judy@stepfamilycoach.com http://stepfamilycoach.com/ Danielle K. Howell appeared on episode 16: Danielle K. Howell is “your online success coach”. She empowers you to create your economy and claim your freedom. http://www.youronlinesuccesscoach.com/ www.Facebook.com/youronlinesuccesscoach Knifie Burks appeared on episode 7: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-007-knifie-burks-coaching-women-to-build-wealth/ Knifie Burks is a licensed real estate broker with 17 years of experience. She also supports entrepreneurs from various industries organize, automate, delegate and develop effective social media systems that position them as experts in their chosen industries. https://www.facebook.com/groups/yoursocialrealtor/ https://www.instagram.com/thesocialmedialifestyle/ http://www.instagram.com/thesocialmedialifestyle Kristin Young appeared on episode 91: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-091-put-magic-back-marriage-wkristin-m-young/ Kristin Young is a certified professional coach, marriage enthusiast and speaker. She created her organization, Living the Vows, to assist others with bringing joy to their marriages. Kristin wants to see healthier, joy-filled marriages and believes that one giant step in this direction is being intentional about marriage. http://livingthevows.com   Kym Stewart (Kennedy) appeared on episode 65: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-65-turn-passion-profession-kym-kennedy/ Kym has been coaching women for over 15 years in circles, workshops and individually. Kym has recently launched her Born To Coach Program, a12- week program that helps coaches expand their coaching to deliver their unique message and attract their unique audience. www.meaningfulabundance.com Marc Mawhinney appeared on episode 1: http://ericablocker.com/reinvent-your-business-and-make-a-big-comeback-wmarc-mawhinney/ Marc Mawhinney is a lifelong entrepreneur who’s on a mission to help coaches build successful businesses! He achieves this with his coaching programs; his podcast, Natural Born Coaches; his Facebook group The Coaching Jungle, and his exclusive print newsletter – Secret Coach Club. www.secretcoachclub.com www.naturalborncoaches.com Dr. Marilyn Porter appeared on episode 15: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-015-marilyn-e-porter-stop-giving-your-gift-away/ Dr. Marilyn Porter is most widely known for her work as a spiritual life coach, author and ministry development. Dr. Porter now stands alone in a very sacred and savvy space known as the “The Scatter Brained Genius’ Coach”. Her journey to becoming The Scatter Brained Genius’ Coach has been colorful with quite a few pit stops and pitfalls.  She helps clients transform their lives and stamp out chaos, confusion and stagnation. http://thescatterbrainedgenius.com Sabrina Blocker, loyal listener Sabrina Blocker is a proud single mother who is very active in her church and in song ministry. She has a special interest in women's issues and continues to help inspire and lead women through life’s many challenges. Sabrina can be found enjoying life – which includes spending precious time with her children, family, friends and helping out in her church and performing the work of God. beanblocker71@gmail.com Sarah Aderson appeared on episode 13: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-013-sarah-aderson-build-an-empire-not-a-business/ AND on episode 83: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-083-turn-services-products-wsarah-aderson/ Sarah Aderson is the authority that spiritual and visionary entrepreneurs depend on to help them transform their services into digital and physical products. She empowers you to build an empire instead of a business. Sarah is an international speaker, bestselling author, marketing strategist, and empire builder.  Her services and products are infused with infinite love.  When she’s not creating products, you can find Sarah in Atlanta, GA enjoying trail mix and time with her awesome son. www.expandyourheart.org   Shakesia Morgan appeared on episode 73: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-073-journey-healthy-hair-wshakesia-morgan/   Shakesia Morgan is the founder of Just Simply Hair Care Products. After suffering from scalp ailments from the age of 12 and witnessing her daughter inherit the same ailments, she said "enough is enough" and became a hair enthusiast. Determined to end the cycle, Shakesia created quality, all natural products that stimulate hair growth. Shakesia is extremely passionate about helping others not only reach their hair potential but regain their confidence. www.justsimplyhair.com http://facebook.com/justsimplyhairproducts http://twitter.com/justsimplyhair http://instagra.com/justsimplyhair Stacie Walker appeared on episode 92: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-092-ok-start-stacie-walker/ Stacie Walker is best known as an international best-selling author, award-winning podcast personality, and business strategist and coach. She's also the creator of the Ambitious Mompreneurs Summit, a bi-annual online conference to help women put themselves first, so they can design a beautiful life doing the things they love. http://StacieWalker.com Telese Hampton, loyal listener Telese Hampton is the owner of Me and My Girls Clothing, an online clothes boutique. Her passion is empowering young women. In her free time, Telese enjoys skating, traveling and spending time with her family. She is a proud wife and mother of two wonderful daughters. www.meandmygirlsclothing.com https://facebook.com/mandmgclothing Terahshea McCray, loyal listener Terahshea McCray is a fitness and nutrition expert with numerous certifications from leading international health and wellness organizations. In addition to training and coaching clients, Terahshea is a consultant with New Legacy Leaders Project. His personal mission is to help combat unhealthy lifestyles that create generational problems for Americans. http://terahsheamcray.com http://instagram.com/tfitness4u Teresa Robinson appeared on episodes 26: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-026-teresa-robinson-making-health-and-fitness-a-lifestyle/   and in episode 62: http://ericablocker.com/mwd-061-tap-into-the-power-of-yoga-wteresa-robinson/ Teresa Robinson is a Yoga Alliance Registered, 200-hour Certified Yoga Teacher in Central New Jersey. She began practicing at the end of 2014, after going through an emotionally challenging year. Developing her own practice helped her overcome depression, grief, and anxiety. She became a teacher to pay it forward in hopes of bringing the gift of yoga to everyone who needs it. She teaches weekly mixed-level flow classes in Piscataway, Bernardsville, and Warren. Teresa’s classes are fun and energetic, with a strong emphasis on the Universal Principles of Alignment, providing a safe and mindful approach for students at any level. http://teresarobinsonyoga.com http://agiftforeveryone.co http://facebook.com/teresarobinsonyoga http://instagram.com/yoganubia     I’ll be wrapping up this season soon and taking a short summer break to return in the fall. If there are any topics you want me to cover during my next season, you would like to be a guest or know someone who would make a great guest, please let me know. You can leave a comment below or email me at Erica@momswithdreams.com.   Thank you for being a part of my journey to 100 episodes! I am grateful to have you in my community and look forward to sharing the next 100 episodes with you.   Keep doing what you love, Erica    

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