Podcasts about sexually hurting

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Every week God gives us opportunities to help those affected by porn, abortion, rape, casual sex, a sexless marriage, same-sex attraction, or childhood sexual abuse. But often we fall short. Sadly, our response causes more harm. Today on the Coaching Christian Leaders podcast we will meet Dr. Sam Serio. Dr. Serio is the author of the book, Sensitive Preaching to the Sexually Hurting. He will share with us his insights on how to help those who have been sexually wounded. Dr. Serio shared: His Ministry Journey. 00:51 How his Ministry changed. 2:51 Seven types of sexual hurt. 4:03 The scope of the problem 6:57 God’s way of helping is superior to the world’s way. 9:22 The need to be sensitive on Mother’s Day of Father’s Day. 13:08 How you should be careful as you teach forgiveness. 14:07 How to communicate more effectively to the sexually hurting. 18:50 The consequences of and how to help a sexless marriage. 20:40 When the pastor is the one with the sexual hurt. 25:30 An overview of his counseling services. 28:00 His final thoughts 30:32 Resources His Book: Sensitive Preaching to the Sexually Hurting His Website:  http://www.healingsexualhurt.com/ Contact Information: drsamserio@gmail.com Closing Thoughts Thanks for listening to this episode of Coaching Christian Leaders. I’m sure you know a pastor, missionary, coach, or someone in leadership who would benefit from Dr. Serio’s insights. Please forward this episode to them. I know that they will thank you. Please subscribe to Coaching Christian Leaders and never miss an episode. You can subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, and most any podcast app. Also, visit our Facebook Page and leave a review there or join the conversation.  Finally, join the Coaching Christian Leaders team. You can do so by clicking HERE.  I send an email to all team members when a new episode is released. This email includes the show notes and Member Only Resources. I will never share your email address and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Our special guest is Dr. Sam Serio, the author of the book "Sensitive Preaching to the Sexually Hurting." In addition to being a widely sought-after Counselor, Teacher, Preacher, and Communicator - Dr. Sam Serio has written this book to especially help pastors, church staff members, seminaries/colleges, and specialized ministry leaders to communicate much better to those who are sexually wounded or addicted. He actually addresses seven very difficult and delicate sexual topics - using the Scriptures in providing for you actual sermon sentences, ideas and counseling tips. There is no book like it. Pornography. Abortion. Same-Sex Attraction. Casual Sex. Childhood Sexual Abuse/Molestation. Sexless Marriage. Sexual Assault/Rape. All seven are covered. Dr. Serio speaks with warmth and wisdom to empower today's and tomorrow's pastors or counselors to minister more effectively to people who suffer and hurt from sexual sin or pain. Numbers Don't lie, but sometimes they do, especially when it comes to the number of people who have been sexually hurt by someone else. They (or you) probably didn’t tell anyone about it yet it happened to you and you’ll never be the same now. The police don’t know, your spouse doesn’t know, your family doesn’t know, your colleagues don’t know, and your friends don’t know. No one really knows but you - and now you try to deal with it. Maybe it happened a long time ago but then, maybe it happened last night. Sexual crimes are the least reported of all types, for a wide variety of understandable and good reasons. For every one actually reported, there are anywhere from 5 to 10 times more that are never mentioned. Maybe it wasn’t actually a crime but maybe it was casual or consensual - but now you’re really feeling the effects of what happened. You struggle with it or you know someone who is trying to cope with it. Sexual hurt and pain can be the most overwhelming burden you can privately carry for the rest of your life. It’s a gray thundercloud that sometimes suddenly bursts on you (and everyone around you!) but sometimes it just drizzles all day long, leaving you dazed and confused. Why am I depressed so much now? Why can’t I get over this? Your sexual hurt might be affecting your everyday life at home or work. Maybe your relationships seem much harder to have now. You wonder why you don’t like certain kinds of people or get panic attacks out of the blue. Your emotions are over-powering you. You don’t know why you over-react so frequently. You don’t know why you’re so irritable or suspicious. Health issues have set in. You just can’t seem to forget what someone has done to you that hurt you so badly. Maybe you’re blaming yourself for something that you shouldn’t be feeling OR maybe you’re ignoring the guilt that you should be feeling. It could be either. Might you need to talk to someone who will help you You’re confused as to your sexual identity or you’ve lost your sexual dignity. You feel like damaged goods. You can’t believe it happened. Why you? You’ve lost a lot and try to keep busy so you won’t dwell on it. The anger doesn’t go away. You don’t know who to tell. You don’t know what to say or do about the shame, humiliation, anger, betrayal, disappointment, crying, loss, fear, depression or destructive tendencies that you now feel. It might be from casual sex, pornography, sexual molestation, rape, same-sex attraction, a sexless marriage or an abortion. Maybe you did tell someone but they didn’t believe you or they told you to get over it and get on with life. To learn more about Dr. Serio, visit www.healingsexualhurt.com

For the past 18 months, you have known this podcast as The Real Pastors Podcast. But now it is time to make a change. So I am rebranding the podcast. The podcast will now be called Coaching Christian Leaders. Why are you doing this you ask? There are a few reasons. The title Real Pastors never explained what the podcast was about. When I picked the Real Pastors, I took the idea from Real Simple Magazine. Unfortunately, what works for a magazine does not work for a podcast. Another reason is that my guest list has broadened. In addition to the pastors and missionaries I normally interview, there will be Christian authors, counselors, and leaders sharing their knowledge. For example, our first guest for Coaching Christian Leaders is Dr. Sam Serio. Dr. Serio is the is the author of Sensitive Preaching to the Sexually Hurting. This is a great interview and I am honored that he will be on the show. Third, some new doors are opening for me. Real Pastors made it possible for me to begin coaching leaders. And so it is only fitting that this podcast includes coaching. So what will be the new format? I will continue to interview guests who have a story or an expertise that will benefit you the listener. I will also be releasing coaching specific episodes to help leaders move forward. This will include interviews with Christian coaches and also my own coaching tips. Thanks to all the listeners who supported the Real Pastors Podcast these past 18 months. I look forward to further serving you through Coaching Christian Leaders. I’ll see you soon.

John Harling, the pastor of Hanover Fellowship Church in Hanover Pennsylvania, is our guest. John is married to his wife, Peggy, and they have two sons.  John is a graduate of Liberty University with a Masters of Divinity. He is also an author. His book is titled Grounded for Growth.   In this interview, John shares his personal battle with pornography. John will tell his story and give you some practical ways to defeat the power of porn. Interview Timeline Caught with porn - 13:12 Pornography Stats - 15:30 John's first exposure - 18:10 How pornography impacts the mind - 19:40 Deliverance from sexual sin - 26:11 AAA Policy - 26:54 Abstain - 27:12 Affirmation - 30:57 Accountability - 35:30 Covenant Eyes - 40:27    Contact Info Feel free to contact John with your questions. His email is:pjharling@comcast.net Resources Care for Pastors - www.CareforPastors.org Covenant Eyes Internet Accountability and Filtering - www.CovenantEyes.com Grounded for Growth Leaders Guide by John Harling Grounded for Growth Student Workbook by John Harling Here are two books I use to counsel men addicted to pornography. The book by Tim Challies is very helpful to use with men who are not strong readers. The book by Heath Lambert and Joshua Harris is also a great book, especially for the counselor. Sexual Detox: A Guide for Guys Who Are Sick of Porn, by Tim Challies Finally Free: Fighting for Purity With the Power of Grace, by Heath Lambert and Joshua Harris It is important that we minister with sensitivity to the those who struggle with pornography and other sexual issues. A book that may help you do so is by Dr. Sam Serio titled Sensitive Preaching to the Sexually Hurting. I am reading it now and it has been helpful. Finally, approximately 25% of Christian women are addicted to porn, but they rarely seek help. Also, most pastors are ill-equipped to counsel women on this subject. Crystal Renaud has written a book that can help. It titled Dirty Girls Come Clean. The book is written for the woman struggling with porn. Ms. Renaud also has a ministry. The website Ms. Renaud also has a ministry that provides women with help, hope, and healing from pornography and sexual addiction. The website is www.dirtygirlsministries.com. Accountability Questions Chuck Colson, in his book The Body, lists the questions used by Charles Swindoll. Have you been with a woman anywhere this past week that might be seen as compromising? Have any of your financial dealings lacked integrity? Have you exposed yourself to any sexually explicit material? Have you spent adequate time in Bible study and prayer? Have you given priority time to your family? Have you fulfilled the mandates of your calling? Have you just lied to me? Closing Thoughts Thanks for listening to Real Pastors.  If you are not a subscriber then please become one. That way you will never miss an episode.  You can subscribe at iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, and most any podcast app. Also, please leave a review of Real Pastors wherever you listen.  Your reviews help the podcast reach more people. Finally, I am in the process of recording new interviews and I would love for you to participate. Here's how. Just review the Roundup Questions found on the blog page. Then email me if you have some insight on any of the subjects. I will email back and schedule the interview. Interviews will last 10-15 minutes. Or if you do not want to be interviewed but still want to answer a Roundup question, use our Speakpipe app. Click the Speakpipe icon at Realpastors.com or go directly to www.Speakpipe.com/realpastors. You will have only 90 seconds to answer. I will pick the best answers for an upcoming episode. 

Welcome to The Shaun Tabatt Show! Today I speak with Dr. Sam Serio about his new book Sensitive Preaching to the Sexually Hurting (Kregel, 2016). About the Book:  Today's church has sadly failed to minister to men and women deeply affected by porn, abortion, rape, casual sex, a sexless marriage, same-sex attraction, or childhood sexual abuse. Church leaders know these broken people sit in their pews. What they don't know is what to say to them. Those who would speak out directly from the pulpit worry that they will be unwise or insensitive, whatever their intent to the contrary. They may even fear being fired and losing their ministry altogether. The truth is that seminary curriculums rarely prepare preachers to talk about sex in their sermons. Despite the pervasiveness of sexual wounds in the church, preachers tend to either ignore them and say nothing or abhor them without nuance and condemn. Sam Serio posits a powerful and necessary middle ground: preaching that offers forgiveness, transformation, and restoration. Sensitive Preaching to the Sexually Hurting is a ready-to-use resource written from a preaching perspective. Serio examines the causes and consequences of the seven most difficult sexual issues of today. Moreover, he provides appropriate wording to use in crafting sermons, along with corresponding Scripture texts. He examines how preachers can prepare their churches, their hearts, and their sermons for the topic, and how these can all work together to build a healthier future for their congregations and the wider church body. About the Author:  Dr. Sam Serio writes with more than thirty-five years of experience in preaching and counseling. He has pastored churches, conducted seminars, and currently counsels individuals who daily feel the deep emotional effects of sexual sin or pain. Dr. Serio is founder and president of Healing Sexual Hurt where people from all around the world seek his words of biblical wisdom and warmth in these taboo topics. He has published various articles and is available to speak at churches and conferences. Dr. Serio lives with his family in Atlanta, Georgia. Connect with Sam: HealingSexualHurt.com Facebook For additional show notes, visit ShaunTabatt.com/101.    

Tonight's special guest is Dr. Sam Serio from Atlanta, Georgia, whose book "Sensitive Preaching to the Sexually Hurting" is specifically designed for contemporary Communicators, Ministries, Church Leaders and Christian Counselors. He explains the unique materials equip Pastors, Preachers & ALL types of Ministry Leaders or Church Staff with carefully constructed biblical messages and counseling tips to help people who secretly struggle with seven types of topics, including childhood sexual abuse. "I also help pastors to be more competent and compassionate as they minister to sexually broken people in their congregations or communities," Sam writes. "I counsel women, men and couples from all over the world on how to work through their deepest wounds or darkest sexual secrets which affects all their relationships." The web site HealingSexualHurt.com encourages everyday people who feel sexually hurt, broken, tempted, addicted or wounded to get the best theology and therapy by a well trained and wise Counselor and Pastor. "I have been interviewed on several national Radio Talk Shows," he says. "I've written several National Magazine Articles & have conducted numerous Training Workshops and Seminars to equip Church or Ministry Leaders today in these taboo topics." He offers two separate links from his web site that would be helpful to NAASCA family members: boyhood_sexual_abuse_assault and childhood_sexual_abuse.