Once upon a time, this painfully honest pair were engaged. Now, they live on opposite sides of the world. Each week they get together and chat life, love, and how to be better.
Peter C. Hayward and Honor Eastly
"I think when you feel safe with someone and you let out all of your insides, you really let out all of your insides. Like, once it started spilling you can't stop it. And that comes with the good, the bad and the ugly." After a 4-year break, Being Honest With My Ex returns (without SJ). Frankie acts as interviewer, asking: where's Peter? Where's SJ? And what happened at the end of the podcast? Edited by AJ Brandon. Full transcript. Mentioned this episode: Peter's Kickstarter campaign for Cartouche Peter's Kickstarter campaign for Robotopia The Reginald Method Support the show (and get early episodes!) If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!" See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Peter guests on an episode of Freelensers (originally recorded December 2018) Freelensers Podcast No Feeling Is Final (SJ's award-winning or nominated podcast) The Big Feels Club (keep up with SJ) Jellybean Games (what Peter's been up to)
We're on a break over Christmas! Maybe a bit beyond that as well, depending on how "new baby" treats Peter. We'll be back next year!
Peter guest-stars on a podcast about wizards hanging out. For more, visit tommclean.com/twowizards
Peter and SJ were both interviewed for the call-in podcast Full Circle.
In which Peter and SJ conclude their argument from the previous episode.
In which Peter gets mad at SJ for the joke he made in the last episode.
In which Peter is a sexy robot and SJ is sick of his shit.
The first half of the second live show! SJ explains dharmas and Peter tells the tale of his broken penis.
Part 2 of the first Being Honest With My Ex: Live! The most Peter thing that Peter's ever said, public authenticity, and - of course - The Wank Chat.
In which Peter and SJ recount their fashion experiments and blunders over the years. Slideshow: https://imgur.com/a/eGQZa
In which Peter and SJ record in the same room, for the first time ever.
In which Peter interviews the ex he's had for the longest.
SJ develops superstitious tendencies, and Peter makes fun of her for them.
SJ gets obsessed with Korean skincare products and Peter reroutes the path to his mountain.
This week's episode includes incest, mind control, government conspiracies, and gangrene.
This week we travel back in time to visit the extended edition of SJ meeting Peter's new partner.
Peter has an idea for a new podcast, and wants SJ to talk him out of it.
SJ's salmonella tells her that she really, really doesn't want to be Peter.
Peter has news. SJ, miraculously, does NOT have a panic attack.
Peter and SJ talk about feeling sexy and comfortable in their own skin.
Peter and SJ talk body image, dieting, and really large numbers.
Check out Peter's new podcast at http://www.sothisis.love!
In which Peter has news, and SJ has a panic attack.
We're back! Facebook Page Facebook Discussion Group BMX Subreddit
Check out SJ's new podcast at http://www.starvingartistpodcast.com!
Check out SJ's new podcast at http://www.starvingartistpodcast.com!
"Where have we been SJ?" "I have been many places in my mind" *laughs maniacally* In this mini episode we explain ourselves (and our absence), and talk unfathomable stress, fame, and the future of the podcast.
Peter: “My first arousal was Monty Python, then Harry Potter slash fic, then incest bestiality” This week: our first sexual experiences, cyber sexing as a 13 year old, and never being able to work in politics ever again.
“Fiscally conservative in the streets and socially liberal in the sheets” This week: SJ quits her job, and no surprise, immediately regrets it.
Check out our Kickstarter here! https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/honoreastly/being-honest-with-my-ex-live-a-podcast-about-feeli Also, we have a fancy new website: http://www.beinghonestwithmyex.com
“I think I have such a high opinion of you I don’t know why anyone would break up with you” This week: both SJ and Peter got dumped. How / why could either of them get dumped? Listen in to find out!
This week we talk to the author of an email that started like this: I have been trying to continue listening to your podcast for months now. I am so enamoured with SJ but Peter is honestly a giant douchebag. And ended like this: The day that SJ does something alone, I am on board, but as of today I am unsubscribing from the show, entirely because of Peter. Shit gets real. Things discussed this episode: Episode 47: Staying Friends With My Ex (the episode about getting the above email from Alice) Episode 31: Poly-sposions With My Ex (part 2 of the trilogy about the mess Peter and SJ made of polyamory Episode 20: Naked Photos Of My Ex (the episode that contains a reading of the one and only love letter Peter has sent) Episode 42: Finding My Mountain With My Ex (the episode about finding your path and aggressive self-sabotage) Episode 43: Having Kids With My Ex (the episode where Peter lays into Canada) Episode 28: Making Money With My Ex (Peter gives SJ a pep talk on quitting your job and living creatively) Episode 29: Getting Therapy With My Ex (on SJ’s troubles with the mental health system) Episode 10: Behind the Scenes With My Ex (look honestly I can’t even remember what this episode was about!) Peter’s other podcast, Let’s Write A Film To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"
“I think one of the biggest changes as a result of doing this podcast is that you and I are so much closer than we were a year ago. We are probably as close as when we were dating if you ignore sex.” It’s episode 52 of this weekly podcast, so this week is a year in review. Things discussed this episode: SJ’s #nofeelingisfinal campaign SJ’s What The Actual Fuck video Episode about getting hatemail about Peter (from someone who Peter interviewed on for the next episode) To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"
"With the patreon I feel like I have all this opportunity and I’m just crumbling underneath it" This week: creative terror and SJ’s private Patreon fears. Things discussed this episode: Jon Ronson’s So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed Hello Internet Dakota Access Pipeline Protests Ira Glass - The Gap So Good They Can’t Ignore You by Cal Newport To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"
This week: SJ sits down with Peter’s new partner to discuss love, exes and how shameless Peter really is. Things discussed this episode: Days Until app to count down to an event Podcasting panel SJ did for Digital Writers Festival (warning: there were lots of technical issues with this one!) Episode 20, when SJ read out the first (and only) love letter Peter has sent Email Debt Forgiveness Day To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"
“The next twenty seconds were really interesting cause I was like “oh, I could die now. This could be it.”” This week: Peter’s car accident, and what SJ would’ve done if he’d died. Things discussed this episode: Speed limits: to check out speed limits in different countries check out this handy Wikipedia page. Turns out that SJ and Peter were both right on Australian speed laws., Anything over the speed limit by 3 km/h or more will get you a fine in Victoria, whereas it’s 7 km/h over in Western Australia. In other states it’s 10% over the speed limit. Quora - the website that claims to have the answer to every question Peter’s injury from car accident Werner Herzhog’s film From One Second To The Next, on texting while driving. It’s 35 minutes long and you can watch it all on YouTube. To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"
Peter was in a car accident! (He's totally fine) But it meant we decided not to put out an episode this week. We'll be in your earholes next week. :)
“I don’t see you as the SJ I dated. You are my ex SJ, my friend who I used to be engaged to who I do a podcast with. I don’t like the SJ I dated.” Big talks, plus it’s Peter’s birthday so SJ gives him the best gift ever and asks him The Birthday Questions. Things discussed this episode: Peter’s games that he’s Kickstarted: Dracula’s Feast and Scuttle! Episode about Peter getting turned away at the US border Episode about Peter’s Facebook wall The Ferrett (quoting Jay Lake) on Bathtub Theory Ira Glass: the gap Alasdair Tremblay-Birchall’s new dad instagram To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!
SJ tells Peter of the horrible things she’s learned about him, and the pair try to decide whether or not they should stay friends. Things discussed this episode: Lena Dunham article No One Likes My Ex To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"
This week: the time Peter tried to placate SJ with rabbits, convenient veganism, and Peter realising he’s a bit of an asshole. Things discussed this episode: Gamergate video series Video about hating Phill Phish Video on what it is to be a good person To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"
This week: the trials, tribulations and masturbatory habits of those who work from home. Things discussed this episode: Here’s the Millennial episode that made Peter cry A short film that will definitely make you cry: Denali The Ferrett on why there isn’t one technique that works for everyone Neville Medhora’s to do list Eat That Frog Workflowy - the best list makey thing ever! Focus keeper - SJ’s trusted pomodoro app Pomodoro app - Peter’s trusted pomodoro app Money shredding alarm clock Gym pact 7 minute workout app Neville Medhora’s problem solving checklist Dracula’s Feast - there’s still a week to go! Hello Internet - and here’s the episode about email management Cortex - CGP Grey and Myke Hurley talking the methods and tools they use to be productive and creative Mitchell and Webb sketch about working from home This Is Your Song - project SJ did back in the day. Click the link to see SJ performing a song to Peter about his broken penis after they’d just met To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com):
“I’m not saying that I’m easy to date, I’m saying dating me does not in any way prepare you for having a kid.” Peter insults SJ, and she makes the mistake of trying to get him to apologize. Things discussed this episode: Peter conflated two of Joe Peacocks posts: 12 (also, it’s worth noting that Joe has disavowed a lot of the opinions and phrasings of his old writings) To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"
“I have recurring baby-related nightmares. I lose them like a set of car keys.” After a week surrounded by tiny humans, SJ unpacks all of her ideas about whether or not to have kids. Things discussed this episode: Australian Houses are Glorified Tents in Winter Target figured out a teenage girl was pregnant...before her family did. The Horrors of Children To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"
"I am really really talented at not achieving my goals." In this episode, Peter reveals that he has been aggressively sabotaging himself for the last, oh, 8 years now. Things discussed this episode: Neil Gaiman’s Make Good Art commencement speech Do women’s period’s sync? - "In light of the lack of empirical evidence for MS [menstrual synchrony] sensu stricto, it seems there should be more widespread doubt than acceptance of this hypothesis" Vlog brothers videos on failure - here’s Hank’s video, and John Green’s response on failing to follow up his book The Fault in Our Stars Wait But Why procrastination post (the best post on the internet). Here is a direct link to the Eisenhower Matrix. You can also check out the TED talk on procrastination by Tim Urban, the writer of that post. Episode 13 - Let’s Write A Film Teach For Australia Seth Godin - The Dip To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"
“Fuck! I bought a food truck before I realised I hate hospitality.” This episode: SJ’s embarrassing past as a boldly naive young person trying to save the world. Things discussed this episode: Little Bets, The Four Hour Work Week, The Art of Non-Conformity - all books about lifestyle design and design thinking (that I’m warning, can sometimes be distinctly missing an awareness of or to, social / political context) That Sexy Show - a sex-positive comedy game show that we did back in the day Who Gives A Crap - social enterprise toilet paper company Shebeen - Melbourne bar and social enterprise Conflict Kitchen, started by Jon Rubin (who’s work SJ really digs) Streat - social enterprise in Melbourne working with homeless people Be Bangles - I feel bad about coming down so hard on this project and looking like an asshole (and also a hypocrite) I guess we’re all just trying to find the best way to do the right thing really The Most Good You Can Do by Peter Singer Guy who has made a pledge to donate half his income GiveWell.org - an organisation that does in-depth charity research to suggest what would be best to donate to Dave Gorman - the man behind Are You Dave Gorman? And Googlewack Adventure Global Fund for Women - organisation advocating for women’s rights Sock company Odd Pears (turns out they do donate part of profits to charity!) To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"
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