Chase What You Love

Trailer: My new re-branded podcast, Chase What You Love, is here! Hey Hey! I'm back! It's me Beth Gray Lease! Welcome to my new, re-branded podcast called Chase What You Love! As a podcaster and podcast manager, the road to where I am now hasn't been clear cut or simple. I've spent a lot of time trying to figure out what the next best thing for me was. I'm the type of person who likes to try new things but also I've felt like I've been stuck because you're not supposed to try new things, you're supposed to stick to things you're good at or just stick to one path. And I used to feel bad about that. But, I realized that one, I'm not the only person who likes to try new things and then move on, and two, there's really nothing wrong with that. And that's kind of why I wanted to start this podcast, Chase What You Love. It's all about Chasing what I'm loving right now. The things I love aren't necessarily set in stone. My interests change from time to time! I get really into something, and then maybe I want switch it up a bit. And I like the variety in that. I'm inviting you along for the ride. My plan is to have different podcast seasons all featuring what I'm loving at that point in my life. I'm so excited that you're here but I'm most excited about sharing that things that I'm loving with you and being able to connect about those things. So, stay tuned, the first season of Chase What You Love is about to drop!

Thank you so much for showing up this week and listening to my podcast! I share a big big update about So, I Got Divorced. :) Let's connect on Instagram. You can find me @ravenhairchica. Stay tuned. I'll be back soon.

I'm so excited to share this interview that I did with Alicia Robertson, of Lemonade Life! Alicia Robertson is an author, speaker, and trained life and divorce coach, who helps recently separated women through her business, Lemonade Life. She knows exactly how devastating it is to hear the words 'I want a divorce'. Her mission is to change the narrative around divorce, and provide support and guidance, with the ultimate goal of helping as many women as possible. We talk about how she got started with Lemonade Life, mindset, how she supports women through the divorce process, healing, and dating! Don't forget to get your copy of Alicia's book, Make Lemonade: Thrive Through Divorce by Transforming Your Life anywhere books are sold! You can find Alicia on IG @lemonadelifecoach, her website lemonadelife.ca, email Alicia at connect@lemonadelife.ca. You can connect with me on IG @ravenhairchica.

After I got divorced, I realized that I had no idea about what I wanted or needed. Literally, I couldn't make a decision. It was really hard for me! I was so used to going with the flow and not wanting to cause conflict, that I suppressed all of my wants and needs. For years! This week, I talk about what helped me start to trust myself and tune into what I needed after divorce. Follow me on Instagram @ravenhairchica!

I spent a lot of time pretending that I was happy in my marriage, but also, I didn't really consider getting a divorce until I was at my limit for putting up with things that I could no longer ignore. I share how I knew I was going to get a divorce in today's episode. Divorce is hard. It really is. It's not an easy decision. Let's connect on IG: @ravenhairchica

The power of writing things down...and then burning them! Let me know if you try this! Follow me @ravenhairchica on IG!

Have you heard this phrase or mantra? It's a huge reframe that made a big difference for me. It's a tough one to accept, but it does make a huge difference. Also, I talk about my favorite bird!

Hi friend! Today I share something that I have been thinking about lately. DIVORCE IS HARD. And it might seem like what you've been doing isn't that big of a deal, but it kind of is. You're amazing. You're doing it. You're not alone. Connect with me on IG! @ravenhairchica

Shadow work explores the parts of ourselves that we normally keep hidden (suppressed or forgotten) from the world. When we work through our shadows, we finally process repressed emotions, release them, and accept ourselves unconditionally. Wow! Powerful stuff! Kathryn Needham is a self-published author and has an amazingly supportive and informative Facebook Group called Healing Through Shadow Work. You can connect with Kathryn: in the Healing Through Shadow Work Facebook Group on IG: @healing_through_shadow_work through Kathryn's book: Healing Through Shadow Work on Kathryn's website

This week is an interview I did with my friend, Meg. She shares her story about what led her to file for a divorce. Even though she's still going through the process of divorce, her story is so relatable. Meg is so gracious to share all about her health journey, moving from her house, and how her relationship with her kids has changed. Thanks again for sharing, Meg! I'm really curious about what parts of her story you resonate with. Find Meg on IG @ecokind.style and @meg.e.m.c

I realized that you might not know much about me, so I interviewed myself! Here's some info about me. I hope you like it!

I hope this doesn't read as a baby update (haha). There's no baby! But this is definitely a baby-sized episode. Tons of stuff going on this week with work and life, and so, there's not a ton here. Just know that I'm still around and I'll be back next week with a new episode!

This week I chat with Nat Smith, who is a creativity and connection coach, and we dive into the Enneagram! After I got my divorce, I realized that I didn't know much about who I was. The Enneagram was such a helpful tool in helping me to understand more about myself and why I do what I do. It gave me more of an empathetic look at who I am and a more empathetic understanding of others and their personalities. Nat explores each Enneagram number and lends so much info about how the Enneagram came to be and how we can use it in our lives! Do you know your enneagram number? Find Nat on The Internet: natsmith.org on IG @creating_nat on Facebook: Create, Relate, and Activate free Facebook group: Vibrant Valentines Sign up for their newsletter Check out Thrive Market for 40% off your first order.

What is dating as an adult? Why is it the worst? Ha! I've come to realize that dating is a necessary evil that comes with trying to meeting new people. But also, the apps. Why??????

Mindfulness! It's the best. I incorporate my mindfulness practice around making coffee in the morning. And the practice has changed my life! Do you practice mindfulness?

This week I talk about 6 things that predict divorce! This is all work done by the Gottmans. Do you know about Drs. John and Julie Gottman? They're the OG experts on marriage and predictors of divorce. They've studied couples for 40 years and have narrowed down things that make a marriage successful and things that contribute to the relationship's demise. Pretty cool stuff! In fact, Dr. John Gottman can predict divorce within the first few minutes of seeing a couple's interactions. I want to learn about the mistakes I made in my past relationships, but I also want to improve so that I can be a better communicator and future partner! Find me on IG @soIgotdivorced.

Do you wonder sometimes about how you wound up in your situation? How you could have chosen your ex to be married to, to get divorced from, and are questioning things? I WAS TOO. I remember a therapy session where I was crying, wondering how stupid I could have been to have married my ex. To be fair, my ex was making my life difficult. But my therapist was compassionate and she helped me to reframe many of the thoughts I had about myself and my situation. And they kind of changed my life. This week, I look at a couple of statements and reframes for them. Do you have a question that's lingering in your mind about your situation or your divorce? Send me a DM on IG @soIgotdivorced! I'll help you reframe it. (lol, Ice Ice Baby just went through my head "if you got a question, yo, I'll reframe it". Find me on IG and the TikToks or email me. @soIgotdivorced, @soIgotdivorced, soigotdivorced@gmail.com Sending you so much love this week.

I'm highlighting other women and their divorce stories. This week, Kimberly Wright, shares her divorce stories! This was a really vulnerable and honest conversation about her experience and how she parented her twin boys through the process. Kimberly is starting her own podcast called, Break Up and Break Free, that is launching soon! Follow Kimberly's Break Up and Break Free Facebook page and follow Kimberly on Instagram @breakupandbreakfree.

I'm having a Healing from Gaslighting workshop on February 14, 2022 at 12 pm  EST! Send me a DM on Instagram @soIgotdivorced and I'll make sure you have the zoom link! You can also email me at soIgotdivorced@gmail.com to let me know that you'd like the zoom link! 

I talk about my favorite TV single mom, Lorelai Gilmore! I talk about the pilot and my favorite dynamics and moments from the pilot episode. Have you watched Gilmore Girls!

I recorded this episode in December! It was supposed to go live right before Christmas, but I had some other thoughts on my mind at the time. Ignore all of the holiday related talk and just replace "Christmas" with "New year"! :) I share two visualizations that helped me get through my divorce. One was imagining my divorce and everything I was going through as a small blip or thread in my tapestry of life. The other was imagining my life as an impenetrable fortress where I could decide who I let in and when. Email is the second best thing after snail mail! Send me an email to say hi, to chat, or ask me a question at soIgotdivorced@gmail.com. You can find me on IG @soIgotdivorced and TikTok @soIgotdivorced. Join my Facebook group called, So, I Got Divorced. It's a group where you can find support and solidarity. Search for the group, So, I Got Divorced, and click to join! You are enough, you are worthy, and you are loved! Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode! Get $30 off your order with Butcherbox.

Super vulnerable episode! This week I share a big part of my story that I wasn't sure I was going to share ever. But, I realized that it's something that is so much a part of my story that it had to be shared. And so, here it is.

I worked with three different attorneys when I got divorced and went through child custody proceedings. I learned so much through that process. I made a lot of mistakes in selecting attorneys to work with and they really set back my case in the long run. I'm sharing these four mistakes to avoid when selecting a divorce attorney. Listen in and find out what they are! Email is the second best thing after snail mail! Send me an email to say hi, to chat, or ask me a question at soIgotdivorced@gmail.com. You can find me on IG @soIgotdivorced and TikTok @soIgotdivorced. Join my Facebook group called, So, I Got Divorced. It's a group where you can find support and solidarity. Search for the group, So, I Got Divorced, and click to join! You are enough, you are worthy, and you are loved! Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode.

This week I talk with Kimber Dutton about perfectionism. Kimber Dutton is the host of the new Just Be Your Bad Self Podcast. As a recovering people-pleaser, ex-mormon, and stay-at-home mother of 3, she highly values authenticity and believes you don't have to be perfect to be worthy of love. Podcasting absolutely lights her up and she feels that there is no greater honor than to shine the spotlight on every day people who are showing up for the world by showing up for themselves.

Do you coast through the year only to end the year thinking that you didn't really accomplish much? ME TOO. Until I sat down and really thought about how far I've come this year, that is. This year has been huge in terms of personal growth and figuring out boundaries. Also, if you're a single mom, it's hard to find time to do anything besides homework, bedtime routines, and mealtimes. But honestly, let's add up the little things that we did this year and give ourselves a big pat on the back. We made it through the freaking year. We did it! I can't wait to see what 2022 brings. I'll see you in the new year!

Just a little Christmas message from me to you! Have a great holiday. And a Merry Christmas! Email is the second best thing after snail mail! Send me an email to say hi, to chat, or ask me a question at soIgotdivorced@gmail.com. You can find me on IG @soIgotdivorced and TikTok @soIgotdivorced. Join my Facebook group called, So, I Got Divorced. It's a group where you can find support and solidarity. Search for the group, So, I Got Divorced, and click to join! You are enough, you are worthy, and you are loved! Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode!

This week, I have an incredible conversation with Mikki Gardner. She shares all of her tips on how to co-parent with confidence. I was a bit surprised at what she shared because the answer to successfully co-parenting isn't what you think. Listen in to find out more!  Mikki Gardner is a certified Life Coach and Conscious Parenting Coach. She is a mom to 3 boys (her son and 2 bonus sons) and dog. She co-parents with her partner, her ex husband and his wife. Mikki is the host of the Co-Parenting with Confidence Podcast and has a private one-on-one coaching practice, where she helps moms ditch the conflict + frustration of divorce and become a strong, loving, confident co-parent. IG: @mikkigardner FB: Mikki Gardner Coaching   Co-parenting with Confidence podcast  Email is the second best thing after snail mail! Send me an email to say hi, to chat, or ask me a question at soIgotdivorced@gmail.com. You can find me on IG @soIgotdivorced and TikTok @soIgotdivorced. Join my Facebook group called, So, I Got Divorced. It's a group where you can find support and solidarity. Search for the group, So, I Got Divorced, and click to join! You are enough, you are worthy, and you are loved! Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode! If you want to support me on this journey, you can buy me a coffee!

This week, I have a conversation with Meg South. She shares her story about being in a fraudlationship with her husband. She thought her relationship was based on love and trust, but it turns out it was based on lies and deceit. Her side of her relationship was real, but her ex-husband's side was based on fraud and lies. Meg shares her story of finding out the truth about her ex-husband, what a fraudulationship is, and how you can avoid one. I consider her story to be one of strength, courage, and empowerment. I can't wait for you to listen in! You can find Meg: @fraudulationship on Instagram Fraudulationship to Freedom podcast How to Spot a Military Phony Online & Avoid Being Targeted podcast Fraudulationship FB group Fraudulationship to Freedom website   Resources that Meg mentions in the show: Love Fraud, Donna Andersen Debbie Mirza on FB If you want to support me on this journey, you can buy me a coffee!

Life after divorce is really tough. Here are the four things that helped me the most after I got divorced!  Email is the second best thing after snail mail! Send me an email to say hi, to chat, or ask me a question at soIgotdivorced@gmail.com. You can find me on IG @soIgotdivorced and TikTok @soIgotdivorced. Join my Facebook group called, So, I Got Divorced. It's a group where you can find support and solidarity. Search for the group, So, I Got Divorced, and click to join! You are enough, you are worthy, and you are loved! Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode! Get $30 off your order with Butcherbox. Click this link to get started: http://rwrd.io/xl28gnv?c The Affirmation stickies! They come in a pack of one purple floral and one yellow floral post it stack. They're $15 per pack! You can send to my Venmo is @Beth-Lease, cash app is $ElizabethLease, PayPal is @egl127 and I'll reach out to get your address!  If you want to support me on this journey, you can buy me a coffee!

This is Part 2 of my divorce journey. Attorneys, police calls, and PFAs, Oh my! It's been a wild journey and I'm sharing it here! Email is the second best thing after snail mail! Send me an email to say hi, to chat, or ask me a question at soIgotdivorced@gmail.com. You can find me on IG @soIgotdivorced and TikTok @soIgotdivorced. Join my Facebook group called, So, I Got Divorced. It's a group where you can find support and solidarity. Search for the group, So, I Got Divorced, and click to join! You are enough, you are worthy, and you are loved! Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode! If you want to support me on this journey, you can buy me a coffee!

This is the first episode everrrrrr of So, I Got Divorced!  Email is the second best thing after snail mail! Send me an email to say hi, to chat, or ask me a question at soIgotdivorced@gmail.com (mailto:soIgotdivorced@gmail.com). You can find me on IG @soIgotdivorced (https://www.instagram.com/soigotdivorced/) and TikTok @soIgotdivorced (https://www.tiktok.com/@soigotdivorced). Join my Facebook group called, So, I Got Divorced. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/433444788315414) It's a group where you can find support and solidarity. Search for the group, So, I Got Divorced, and click to join! You are enough, you are worthy, and you are loved! Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode! Get 10% off your order at beekeepersnaturals.com (https://beekeepersnaturals.com/) with code Beth10 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app (https://anchor.fm/app)

So, I start sharing my divorce journey. Listen in for Part 1 of 2!  Email is the second best thing after snail mail! Send me an email to say hi, to chat, or ask me a question at soIgotdivorced@gmail.com (mailto:soIgotdivorced@gmail.com). You can find me on IG @soIgotdivorced and TikTok @soIgotdivorced (https://www.tiktok.com/@soigotdivorced?). Join my Facebook group called, So, I Got Divorced. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/433444788315414) It's a group where you can find support and solidarity. Search for the group, So, I Got Divorced, and click to join! You are enough, you are worthy, and you are loved! Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode! Get $30 off your order with Butcherbox. Click this link to get started: http://rwrd.io/xl28gnv?c (http://rwrd.io/xl28gnv?c) --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app (https://anchor.fm/app)

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