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In this episode of Let's Talk Love, Robin has the incredible honor of speaking with two of the world's leading relationship experts, Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman. With decades of groundbreaking research, the Gottmans have transformed our understanding of love, offering science-backed insights into what makes relationships thrive.Their latest book, Fight Right, reframes conflict as an opportunity for growth rather than something to fear. In this conversation, they share practical tools for navigating disagreements with trust, curiosity, and mutual respect. Robin and the Gottmans explore different conflict styles, the importance of maintaining a strong foundation of positive interactions, and how to repair and reconnect after difficult moments.Whether you're navigating everyday disagreements or deeper relationship challenges, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you and your partner strengthen your bond—even when you don't see eye to eye. And for those joining In Bloom: A Love & Relationships Summit this April, you'll have the chance to learn from the Gottmans in person!Takeaways:Relationships can be improved with learned skills.Conflict is not inherently dysfunctional; it can be constructive.Softened startups in conflict discussions lead to better outcomes.Understanding your partner's dreams can resolve gridlock conflicts.69% of relationship problems are perpetual and unsolvable.Curiosity about your partner is essential for long-term relationships.There are key questions you can ask to deepen understanding in conflicts.Mutual understanding is the ultimate goal in conflict resolution.The ratio of positive to negative statements during conflict is crucial.All three conflict styles can be successful with the right approach.Missed bids for connection often lead to unnecessary conflicts.Trust means considering your partner's perspective when making decisions.Commitment involves addressing issues directly with your partner.Regrettable incidents should be processed thoughtfully, not rushed.Understanding each other's vulnerabilities fosters deeper connections.Join Us at In Bloom 2025

Besure to watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Lk5moCDwYWQ Today Don and Carrie Cole return and share with host Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale a unique Relationship Evaluation checklist they created to help couples check up on there relationship connection. Don and Carrie also discuss unique insights and techniques they have learned in practice with couples at the Center for Relationship Wellness and The Gottman Institute to improve relationship connection and intimacy. About Dr. Don & Carrie Cole: Dr. Carrie Cole is the Director of Research for The Gottman Institute and manages the Gottman Love Lab. She holds a Ph.D. in psychological research and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. She is a licensed professional counselor and an approved LPC supervisor in the State of Texas, a licensed mental health counselor in the State of Washington, and a Certified Gottman Therapist. Carrie is a Master Trainer for The Gottman Institute and trains therapists in Gottman Method Couples Therapy around the world. She is a consultant for the certification program and has led The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop for couples multiple times a year since 2008. Carrie has also published peer-reviewed journal articles independently and with doctors John and Julie Gottman. Her work with couples includes couples therapy, workshops, seminars, and intensive marathon sessions. Carrie and her husband, Dr. Don Cole reside in Seattle, WA. Links: Centerforrelationshipwellness.comcarrie@gottman.comdon@gottman.comgottman.com   Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/   Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com    This episode provides a compassionate and practical guide for anyone seeking to build healthier perspectives around sexuality, reduce shame, and improve intimacy in their relationships. Don't miss this deeply insightful discussion!

Are you buying into the myth that love should just magically work? Forget fairy tales—real, lasting love takes effort, communication, and intention. In this episode, Charles and Dan break down the final chapter of The Man's Guide to Women and uncover the science-backed secrets to making relationships last.We dive into:✅ The essential ingredient for a strong relationship: Trust✅ Why conflict avoidance is ruining your connection✅ The biggest myths about love (and how they set you up for failure)✅ Small, daily habits to affair-proof your relationship✅ The six-second kiss—does it really work?

Scroll down for a transcription of this episodeFrom daily check-ins to meaningful compliments and planned dates nights, we explore a 7-day love challenge to help couples strengthen their relationships. Summary: Developed by renowned psychologists Julie and John Gottman. Based on decades of research, this week-long practice offers simple, actionable steps to deepen connection and nurture relationships. From meaningful check-ins and heartfelt compliments to the importance of touch, we uncover how small, intentional actions can create lasting bonds. Whether you're looking to reignite romance or strengthen your partnership, the 7-day love challenge provides practical tools to bring more love and connection into your life.Sign up for The Science of Happiness podcast's 7-Day Love Challenge to receive these science-backed practices delivered directly to your inbox at greatergood.berkeley.edu/7daylovechallengeThis is part of our series The Science of Love.More about the 7-day love challenge:Drs. John and Julie Gottman are psychologist and the co-founders of The Gottman Institute. They created this practiced based on decades of research studying over 3,000 couples.Check out their book, The Love Prescription, Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy:  https://tinyurl.com/34nt5vv9This episode is supported by The John Templeton Foundation.Related The Science of Happiness episodes:  Who's Always There For You?: https://tinyurl.com/yt3ejj6wWhen It's Hard to Connect, Try Being Curious: https://tinyurl.com/bde6wyu7Are Your Remembering The Good Times: https://tinyurl.com/483bkk2hRelated Happiness Breaks:Loving Kindness Meditation: https://tinyurl.com/2kr4fjz5A Meditation on How to Be Your Best Self: https://tinyurl.com/3b38pw2fFollow us on Instagram: @ScienceOfHappinessPod We'd love to hear about your experience with this practice! Share your thoughts at happinesspod@berkeley.edu or use the hashtag #happinesspod.Find us on Apple Podcasts: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aapHelp us share The Science of Happiness! Leave us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts and share this link with someone who might like the show: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aapTranscription: https://tinyurl.com/bdh2ezhr

John & Julie Gottman founded the Love Lab at the UW in Seattle, WA which can predict with 94% accuracy whether a couple will stay together based on observing the first several minutes of their argument. The Gottmans discovered four relationship killers called “the four horsemen”; the first one being criticism. Criticism is when you attack the person or character rather than address the behaviors. The relationship antidote to criticism is a soft startup. Aaron Potratz & Nathan Hawkins are behavioral health experts, licensed counselors, and clinical supervisors with over 35 years of experience. They each own a private group therapy practice and co-own a third one together. Aaron is also a business consultant for therapists in private practice wanting to start, grow, or expand their business. *Watch this episode: https://youtu.be/2PUwgGAViUE *Now on YouTube: @shrink-think *Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shrinkthink.com/podcast -------------- *Member of the PsychCraft Podcast Network* https://psychcraftnetwork.com/

Welcome to this insightful episode of the Mindfully Masculine Podcast, where Charles and Dan explore relationship dynamics through the lens of "The Man's Guide to Women" by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. This episode is packed with discussions on love, commitment, and personal growth.Key Topics Discussed:Understanding Commitment:Debunking the myth of "the one."Biological and psychological factors influencing attraction.Challenges in identifying healthy versus unhealthy relationship dynamics.Stages of Love:Limerence: The initial, chemical-driven phase of love.Trust: Building confidence in your partner and aligning values.Loyalty and Commitment: Developing a deep, lasting bond.Relationship Growth and Self-Improvement:Navigating the pitfalls of past trauma and unhealthy relationship patterns.The importance of therapy, support groups, and self-reflection in making better partner choices.Why compatibility in handling conflict and emotional expression matters more than shared hobbies.Cultural and Practical Insights:Perspectives on arranged marriages and their approach to compatibility.The value of prenuptial agreements and forward-thinking financial planning.Red Flags and Relationship Risks:Avoiding impulsive decisions during the limerence stage.Recognizing and recalibrating a "broken picker" for healthier relationships.Actionable Advice for Men:Setting boundaries and principles before entering a relationship.Balancing emotions with logic when making life-altering decisions.Memorable Quotes:"You should want to feel butterflies, not lightning bolts." – Dr. Drew (quoted by Charles)"The person you're marrying is not the person you're divorcing." – Reflecting on the necessity of prenuptial agreements."A relationship should be the icing on the cake, not the cake itself."Resources Mentioned:"The Man's Guide to Women" by Drs. John and Julie GottmanExplore more episodes at mindfullymasculine.comConnect with Us:Website: Mindfully MasculineSocial Media: Follow us for updates, discussions, and more relationship insights.If this episode resonated with you, don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review. We'd love to hear your thoughts! See you next week as we dive into "Mother Nature: Understanding Women and Children."Support the show

In this insightful episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan dive into the surprising significance of shopping in relationships. Inspired by insights from The Man's Guide to Women by John and Julie Gottman, they explore how shopping can influence communication, emotional connection, and overall relationship health.Key Topics Discussed:How shopping dynamics differ between men and women.Understanding societal and cultural perspectives on shopping.The role of shopping in cultivating style and self-expression.Biological and historical roots of shopping habits.Tips for navigating crowded malls and managing shopping stress.Why shopping is a long-term predictor of relationship success.The art of supporting your partner's shopping habits (even if you don't love it).Takeaways for Listeners:Charles and Dan offer practical advice for men who want to strengthen their relationships by understanding their partner's shopping mindset. They also share tips for balancing personal boundaries with active support, avoiding conflict, and finding ways to make shopping more enjoyable for both partners.Don't Miss:The insightful discussion on how shopping habits reflect deeper emotional and social connections—and why criticizing your partner's purchases may be more harmful than you realize.Connect With Us:Visit mindfullymasculine.com to explore all our episodes and discover additional resources designed to help men thrive in their personal lives, relationships, and beyond.Support the show

On this episode of “The Conan and Jordan Show”, Conan and Jordan attempt to understand their partnership by inviting renowned relationship experts Drs. John and Julie Gottman into the studio. Get access to all the podcasts you love, music channels and radio shows with the SiriusXM App! Get 3 months free using this show link: https://siriusxm.com/conan.

In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan explore the profound connection between body image, confidence, and relationships. Drawing from The Man's Guide to Women by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, they unpack the challenges men and women face regarding societal expectations, body image, and communication in relationships.Key topics include:Understanding body image issues for both men and women.The impact of body perceptions on intimacy and sexuality.Strategies for fostering body positivity in relationships.The role of emotional intelligence in addressing societal pressures.How pop culture, like the Barbie movie, reflects and influences gender dynamics.Key Takeaways:Body Image and Relationships:A person's perception of their own body influences how they interpret their partner's feelings about them.Criticism of a partner's body or clothing can deeply affect intimacy and trust.Compliments should focus on sincerity, avoiding comparisons to others.Men and Body Image:Men are increasingly exposed to unrealistic body standards through media, such as superhero physiques.Confidence and self-acceptance are critical for both men and women in intimate relationships.The Power of Communication:Thoughtless comments about appearance can harm relationships, even when not directed at a partner.Learning to navigate sensitive conversations about appearance is essential.Pop Culture as a Mirror:Films like the Barbie movie highlight societal pressures on women and provide insights into modern gender dynamics.Men can benefit from engaging with these perspectives to better understand and support their partners.The Importance of Emotional Intelligence:Building a relationship on mutual respect, thoughtful communication, and shared vulnerability fosters deeper connections.Call to Action:Watch the Barbie Movie: Gain valuable insights into societal pressures on women and how they affect relationships.Practice Compliments: Turn every positive thought about your partner into a vocalized compliment.Be Mindful: Avoid jokes or offhand comments about appearance—they have a larger impact than you might realize.Episode Highlights:2:27 - Exploring how women view their bodies and the role of culture.6:19 - The relationship between body confidence and intimacy for men.16:04 - Why men should watch the Barbie movie to understand gender pressures.39:56 - How body image impacts sexual comfort and relationship quality.42:14 - Rapid-fire tips on what to avoid when discussing body image.Links and Resources:The Man's Guide to Women by Drs. John and Julie GottmanListen to our episode on the Barbie movie https://youtu.be/k0ldYcw1Ook?si=lfyTGhmNY03ws9yZVisit our website for full episodes and updates: mindfullymasculine.comSupport the show

Send us a textAre you ready for a BIG Announcement and fun surprise?Introducing my new co-host, Nate Bagley. Listen in as we reminisce about our first meeting at a Tennessee marketing conference and how his work with marriage legands like John and Julie Gottman first piqued my interest. Nate shares his experiences as his life took an unexpected turn during the pandemic. Nate and his wife made the bold decision to relocate to Costa Rica for a period of time and learned so much there. Hear Nate's heartfelt reflections on prioritizing his marriage amidst the chaos of a world-wide pandemic and his growing family.Parenting is a world unto itself, filled with both tender moments and unimaginable pressures. Hear the secret behind Nate's pink fingernails to the warmth of family traditions that make parenting rewarding. I share my woes about kids growing up and leaving home and we conclude that we must cherish every precious moment and show up for our marriage and family first and foremost.We are excited to share more great content with you as this season of the Secrets of Happily Ever After Podast unfolds!!!

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This episode is brought to you by Ollie, Lifeforce, and Lumebox.  Relationships, communication, and intimacy are the cornerstones of meaningful connections in our lives, yet they often present some of our greatest challenges. In today's episode, leading experts explore the keys to fostering deeper relationships, improving communication, and creating lasting intimacy, offering practical tools to transform how we connect with those we love. Today on The Dhru Purohit Show, we bring you a special compilation episode featuring Dhru's conversations with experts on relationships, connection, and intimacy. Drs. John and Julie Gottman discuss the importance of recognizing what your partner is doing right. They also highlight key findings from a seven-year study on happiness, including how to turn toward your partner and implement bids for connection. Dr. Emily Morse explains why scheduling intimacy—even if it feels like a chore—is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship. She also dives into the "Three T's of Communication" and how to initiate conversations about intimacy. Esther Perel shares why letting go of the need to be right is essential, along with strategies to overcome the overwhelming feeling of disconnect when your partner doesn't see your point of view. She breaks down how all fights connect to core pillars and offers tips on practicing mirroring for better understanding. If you're ready to enhance your relationships and improve your communication and intimacy, this episode is a must-listen! In this episode, Dhru and his guests dive into: Evidence that your partner is doing things right (2:00) Seven-year study on happiness and turning toward your partner (3:10) Bid for connection and how to implement it (6:18) Interdependence versus independence (16:12) Scheduling intimacy (20:35) Who should initiate the conversation (23:35) The 3 T's of communication: Timing, Tone, and Turf (25:15) Mirroring what you heard (29:15) Initiating the conversation and carrying the burden (33:25) The need to be right (39:52) The overwhelming feeling of disconnect (42:57) Catching yourself, listening, and mirroring (46:32) The core pillars: What all fights are about (53:15) Final thoughts (56:30) Drs. John and Julia Gottman have studied over 3,000 couples and through their research have found the secrets to successful partnerships. The Gottmans help give individuals the tools they need to listen and connect with their partner while providing a safe space for conversation and growth without criticism or contempt. Dr. Emily Morse is the host of the award-winning number one sexuality podcast, Sex With Emily, which has been on the air for nearly two decades.  Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author, and is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? and How's Work?  Also mentioned: Why Nobody Is Having Great Sex & How To Make it Amazing with Dr. Emily Morse 4 Big Signs That a Relationship Won't Last and the Latest Science on Creating Love with Drs. Julie and John Gottman Why Some Relationships Don't Last With Esther Perel This episode is brought to you by Ollie, Lifeforce, and Lumebox.  Want to give your dog the best in clean eating? Take the online quiz and introduce Ollie to your pet. Right now, Ollie is offering 60% off your first box of meals when you subscribe today! Just head to Ollie.com, use the code DHRU and you'll get 60% off your first box of meals in your subscription.  Right now, you can save $250 on your first diagnostic and get personalized suggestions. Optimize your longevity and track your progress; go to mylifeforce.com/dhru!  Lumebox is offering my community 50% off their portable Red Light device for Black Friday! Just go to thelumebox.com/dhru to get your device. Sale ends 12/2.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan delve into the art of making a memorable first impression in dating. Drawing insights from The Man's Guide to Women by John and Julie Gottman, they explore what to do—and what to avoid—when navigating first dates. From mastering conversational flow to choosing the perfect activity, this episode equips listeners with practical tips for meaningful connections.Key Takeaways:DO:Ask open-ended questions to foster genuine conversation.Be your authentic self—don't try to impress by pretending to be someone you're not.Speak slowly and confidently; tone and pace can shape perceptions.Plan creative dates that encourage interaction and connection (skip the overdone dinner-and-a-movie routine).Show respect through thoughtful gestures like opening doors or pulling out chairs.DON'T:Treat the date like a job interview with rapid-fire questions.Dominate the conversation, interrupt, or talk only about yourself.Use cheesy pickup lines or overt sexual innuendos.Spend lavishly to "buy" affection or attention—it sends the wrong message.Display inappropriate body language (e.g., staring at her chest or checking out other women).Pro Tips:Practice mindfulness in conversations to avoid filler words and awkward silences.Mirroring body language and maintaining balanced eye contact can build rapport naturally.Bring value to the interaction—focus on what you can offer, not just what you want to gain.Reflect on the balance between "being yourself" and striving to be your "best self."Big Idea:Approach every first date with curiosity and excitement. The goal isn't perfection; it's creating an authentic and enjoyable connection.Why Listen?If you've ever felt unsure about how to make a strong first impression, this episode is packed with actionable advice to navigate the modern dating world with confidence and mindfulness.Related Resources:The Man's Guide to Women by John and Julie GottmanPrevious Mindfully Masculine episodes on self-awareness and relationship-buildingSupport the show

In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan tackle the age-old question, "What do women really want?" through the lens of John and Julie Gottman's acclaimed relationship guide, The Man's Guide to Women. The hosts share actionable relationship advice for men, discussing the importance of trust, emotional attunement, and how understanding women on a deeper level can foster better relationships.Key Topics Covered:Understanding Women and Avoiding Common Stereotypes:Charles and Dan challenge popular stereotypes around women being "unpredictable" or "difficult to understand," emphasizing that meaningful relationships require intentionality and empathy.Building Trustworthiness in Relationships:Women desire trustworthiness, which encompasses more than honesty. Trustworthiness involves dependability, vulnerability, and a commitment to consistency—qualities that can strengthen any partnership.Mastering Attunement for Deeper Emotional Connection:The hosts explain the ATTUNE approach (Attend, Turn Toward, Understand, Non-defensive Listening, Empathy), a method for fostering emotional intimacy. Each step helps men create a safe and supportive space for their partners.Overcoming Defensiveness and Embracing Emotional Vulnerability:Charles and Dan candidly share their struggles with vulnerability and how men's fear of showing emotions can hinder relationships. They encourage listeners to view emotional openness as a strength, not a weakness.Breaking the Cycle of Conflict and Building Intimacy:The episode covers strategies for ending cycles of conflict and withdrawal in relationships. The hosts explain that empathy and understanding, rather than a desire to "fix" things, can lead to meaningful intimacy.Physical Presence and Attentiveness in Relationships:Small gestures—like putting away distractions, making eye contact, and offering full attention—can strengthen trust and convey emotional security to a partner.Top Takeaways and Relationship Tips for Men:Develop Trustworthiness - Consistency and honesty are key. Show up as a reliable partner by honoring commitments and staying transparent.Use Attunement Techniques for Lasting Connection - Apply the ATTUNE method to connect emotionally with your partner and build a resilient relationship.Prioritize Listening and Empathy Over Fixing - Women want to feel heard and understood, not necessarily "fixed." Listen actively and ask questions to show you care.Be Present in the Moment - Avoid distractions like phones or TV during meaningful conversations to demonstrate respect and priority.Break Cycles of Conflict with Empathy - Be the first to create emotional connection, even when it's uncomfortable, to foster closeness and intimacy.Memorable Quotes for Reflection:“Trustworthiness is about more than being truthful; it's about showing up consistently and reliably.”“Attunement isn't just about hearing words—it's about fully engaging to make your partner feel valued and understood.”“Our relationships thrive when we stop focusing on fixing and start focusing on understanding.”Additional Resources:The Man's Guide to Women by John and Julie Gottman for more insights into relationship dynamics.Support the show

Welcome back to the podcast! In this episode, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra share their excitement over a glowing five-star review from Dr. Lauren Anderson, MD, and dive into a discussion on repairing relationships with adults, inspired by the Gottman Institute's research. What You'll Learn in This Episode: - The Gottman Method: John and Julie Gottman's robust research on marriage and relationships has provided a wealth of knowledge about what makes relationships work and fail. The hosts discuss the “Four Horsemen” of relationship conflict: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling, and the importance of repair attempts to maintain healthy relationships. - Imperfect Relationships: Perfection isn't the goal. Instead, it's about how we manage the inevitable mistakes and miscommunications. The hosts explore the idea that 91% of the time, we're miscommunicating or having hurt feelings, but what matters is how we make repairs. - Repair Attempts: The episode focuses on how to initiate and recognize repair attempts, whether it's through a smile, kind words, or an action like holding hands. The key is creating a safe space to understand where your partner is coming from and to validate each other's feelings. - Using I-Statements: Effective communication during conflict can often begin with “I” statements, like “I feel overwhelmed” or “I need a break,” which can help de-escalate a heated conversation and foster better understanding. - Bids for Connection: Learn how responding to small “bids” from your partner—like a comment about the weather or a request for attention—builds the foundation of a healthy relationship and strengthens emotional connection. - Building Friendship: The hosts emphasize that a solid friendship is the foundation of any healthy relationship. The Gottman Method's “Sound Relationship House” model starts with nurturing fondness, admiration, and responding to your partner's emotional needs. - Practical Applications for Work and Life: Although this episode focuses on intimate relationships, the principles of repair can also be applied to professional relationships, friendships, and family dynamics. Key Takeaways: - Relationships are built on moments of repair, not perfection.- Using gentle startups and I-statements can help diffuse conflict.- Bids for connection are important to strengthen the emotional bond in any relationship.- You can apply these repair techniques in both personal and professional settings. Special Mention: Dr. Lauren Anderson, MD, left us a wonderful five-star review, and it really made our day! Your feedback means the world to us, so please leave a review if you haven't already. It helps other doctors find us and allows us to expand our ripple effect. Resources: Check out our new free video, *How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking It Up in Silence*. Scroll down in the show notes to find the link. Until Next Time: You are whole. You are a gift to medicine, and the work you do matters. Resources: https://www.gottman.com/blog/repair-secret-weapon-emotionally-connected-couples/ https://www.iecouplescounseling.com/blog/repair-attempts-preserve-relationship-conflict

In this episode, Chris and Alisa Grace explore bids for attention—small interactions that can significantly impact the strength of a relationship. They discuss how recognizing and responding to these bids can prevent couples from drifting apart, drawing on research from Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Grace's provide practical insights and tips to help you stay connected with your partner, emphasizing the power of intentional time together. Whether you're navigating life with a significant other, friends, or even colleagues, this episode offers valuable advice to improve your relationships.Resources Mentioned:The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman – A guide to strengthening relationships through understanding key emotional and relational principles.Gottman Institute – Learn more about the research behind bids for attention and other relationship dynamics.Ronald Blue Trust – A biblically-centered wealth planning service that supports couples in financial unity. Visit ronblue.com for more or contact Colby Gilmore at colby.gilmore@ronblue.com. Connect with Us:Website: cmr.biola.eduFacebook: facebook.com/biolacmrInstagram: instagram.com/biolacmrTwitter: twitter.com/biolacmrJoin the Conversation:Subscribe to The Art of Relationships Podcast to never miss an episode.Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to help others discover the show.Share this episode with someone who could benefit from these relationship insights.Sign up for weekly updates and resources from the Center for Marriage and Relationships! http://eepurl.com/bgsuQvAbout the Hosts: Chris Grace, Ph.D., and Alisa Grace are passionate about helping people build and sustain healthy relationships. As leaders of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships, they combine the wisdom of Scripture with scholarly research to offer practical advice and insights. Learn more about their work at cmr.biola.edu.

This week, I'm rebroadcasting a minisode where I explore a powerful concept from relationship experts John and Julie Gottman. The Gottmans introduced the idea of The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, and it has helped me personally in my relationships a great deal.  In this minisode, I break down each Horseman, share real-life examples, and provide a resource to help you apply the antidotes to these common behaviors. It's simple but deeply impactful. Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Article on the four horsemen The four horsemen antidotes Article on physiological flooding Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/631 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I share a powerful concept that can transform your relationships – bids for connection. These small moments when someone reaches out, whether it's your partner or your teen, can make all the difference in how we build trust and emotional intimacy. How we respond – whether we turn towards, turn away, or respond unkindly – shapes the quality of our relationships.I explore how noticing and responding positively to bids can strengthen your connection, whether you're in a romantic relationship or navigating the ups and downs of parenting teens. Drawing on both my own experience and the research of John and Julie Gottman, you'll learn how these interactions impact your mental health, emotional wellbeing, and the health of your relationships.Whether you've been feeling disconnected in your relationship or want to understand your child better, this episode offers practical tools to help you notice bids for connection and turn towards them with kindness.Key Takeaways:Bids for Connection: These are everyday actions or signals to establish connection. Learning to respond to them with care strengthens your bond.Turning Towards or Away: How you respond – with attention or indifference – plays a big role in maintaining emotional intimacy.For Couples: Positive responses to bids help you build trust and store up connection for harder times.For Parents: Teens' bids may seem subtle or negative, but recognising and responding to them is key to strengthening your relationship.Direct Quotes:"Bids for connection are one of the most powerful parts of a relationship. How we respond can make or break that connection.""We often get caught up in life, and miss those small moments where our loved ones are trying to reach out to us."Be sure to listen in for more on how to improve your relationships through bids for connection!Links:Join the Connected Teens Have questions or feedback? Send me an email, and I might cover it in a future episode!Submit a question to the Podcasthttps://forms.gle/nvNQyw9gJXMNnveY6 Connect with Marie https://thetherapyhub.com.au/ https://marievakakis.com.au/ https://www.instagram.com/marievakakis/

In this episode we talk about everything we love about Dr. John and Julie Gottman's research and relationship advice.

Ever feel like your desire doesn't match what you see in the movies, or that your sex life doesn't quite stack up to what others seem to be experiencing? In this episode, I explore the many myths surrounding women's sexual desire and why so much of what we believe is misleading. From the pressure to experience spontaneous desire to the myth of the perfect sexual encounter, I break down how these misconceptions can impact our relationships and our sense of self.Drawing on the work of experts like John and Julie Gottman, Esther Perel, and Emily Nagoski, I'll guide you through how emotional intimacy, open communication, and understanding different types of desire can help transform the way you think about sex and connection.Key Takeaways:Spontaneous desire isn't the only kind of desire – responsive desire is just as valid and common, especially for women.There's no such thing as a perfect sexual encounter – intimacy is often clumsy, messy, and filled with unexpected moments.Emotional intimacy and sexual satisfaction are deeply connected. A strong friendship and open communication outside the bedroom can lead to a more fulfilling sex life.Long-term relationships don't have to kill desire – creating space for novelty, autonomy, and mystery can reignite attraction.Women are not the gatekeepers of sexual health in a relationship – sexual responsibility and desire maintenance is a shared effort.Resources:Mating in Captivity by Esther PerelState of Affairs by Esther PerelCome As You Are by Emily NagoskiThe Gottman Institute's resources on emotional intimacy and connectionThe Love Deck App by John and Julie GottmanThe Get Ready for Therapy Journal Here https://thetherapyhub.com.au/the-journal-pdf/Submit a question to the Podcasthttps://forms.gle/nvNQyw9gJXMNnveY6 Connect with Marie https://thetherapyhub.com.au/ https://marievakakis.com.au/ https://www.instagram.com/marievakakis/

After 50 years of research, the Gottmans can predict with 90% accuracy if a relationship is doomed for divorce, these are the answers to love you've been searching for  Drs. John and Julie Gottman are professional relationship researchers that have published over 200 academic journal articles and 46 books. They are the co-founders of The Gottman Institute and Love Lab. In this conversation, the Gottmans and Steven discuss topics such as, how to repair from an affair, why dating apps are broken, the facts behind an awful sex life, and why to stop chasing the idea of 'the one'.  (00:00) Intro (02:28) What Do You Do? (05:08) What We Doing Wrong About Dating (09:55) How Do We Find True Love? (11:39) What Is The Most Attractive Thing In A Person? (13:51) The Role Of Self Esteem In How Attractive You Come Across (16:13) There Isn'T 'The One' (18:30) Are We Attracted To People Different To Us? (21:11) Do We Need To Lower Our Expectations (24:52) It'S A Red Flag When They Want To Rush Things (29:06) Can You Fake Confidence? (31:25) Science Know If People Connect Well Or Not (35:13) How To Build Confidence (38:04) Differences Between Gender In Attraction (39:37) Why People Need Alcohol When Dating (44:29) Is Good Enough, Enough To Be With Soemone? (48:06) The Role Of Sex In Attraction (53:40) How To Spice Things Up (57:46) How Much Sex Should We Be Having? (01:03:21) Men Struggle To Talk About Their Feelings (01:09:36) Expressing Gratitude To Your Partner (01:15:55) How To Know If You Should Break Up (01:19:24) The 4 Horsemen Of The Apocalpse In A Relationship (01:25:02) Insecure People Are More Defensive (01:32:19) Do Homosexuals Relationships Last Longer? (01:33:45) Gaslighting (01:38:32) Why People Stay With Gashlighter Or Abusers (01:41:24) How To Help People Going Through Domestic Violence (01:45:01) Treating Affairs (01:47:45) What Percentage Of People Have Affairs? (02:00:42) Does Cheating Help A Relationship? (02:03:34) The Importance Of Connection Follow the Gottmans:  Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/66wXYNo5QMb  Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/5htmCbr5QMb  The Gottman Institute - https://g2ul0.app.link/KlYOelu5QMb  YouTube: You can purchase the Gottmans' book, ‘Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection', here: https://amzn.to/4emRC7u  Spotify: You can purchase the Gottmans' book, ‘Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection', here: https://g2ul0.app.link/KosccZE5QMb  Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes  My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook  Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb  Get your hands on the brand new Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://appurl.io/iUUJeYn25v Sponsors: Shopify - http://shopify.com/bartlett

We're going to do something a little different in today's video. This Thoughtful Money channel is all about wealth-building. So makes sense that we focus most of our attention on money. But money is a means to an end. It's not an end in and of itself. No one's goal in life is to die atop a big pile of cash -- instead we hope to use our money to better enjoy the things that really feed our souls. As those who live to be 100 years old tell us, true wealth, the things that really matter in life, are a function of the following three things: fulfilling relationships, purpose and health. So, as a number of you have asked for, I'm going to periodically interview experts on these key topics. And today we're going to focus on what makes for successful happy relationships. To help us understand what makes or breaks the important relationships in our lives, I've invited a professional marriage & family therapist today. Ashley is a licensed MFT, trained in Emotion-Focused Therapy (otherwise known as EFT) and the Gottman Method of couples therapy -- Drs John & Julie Gottman we're made famous by Malcolm Gladwell's coverage of them in his book "Blink" describing how they could predict with near 90% accuracy whether or not a couple will remain together after interviewing them for only 3 minutes. In her California practice, Ashley deals with clients from all backgrounds, many of whom are Silicon Valley power-couples, though she also sees her fair share of rural farmers. I would be remiss if I didn't also acknowledge that Ashley is my wife. So I can personally vouch for both her professional credentials as well as the effectiveness of the strategies for conflict resolution she'll share with us in today's discussion. Because we have put plenty of them to use in our own marriage -- which just celebrated its 24th anniversary last week. HAVE QUESTIONS FOR ASHLEY? You can contact her at https://taggartrelationships.com/ #relationships #therapy #mentalhealth --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thoughtful-money/support

To learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out ⁠Neurodiverse Love._________________________________________________ Living in a neurodiverse marriage poses unique challenges. This episode includes information on how partners in marriages where one or more partners are on the spectrum can work with Drs. John and Julie Gottman's Sound Relationship House Theory-7 research-based principles for making marriage work to better their relationships. This will include brief, significant strategies partners can use to bridge their differences or build upon friendship, intimacy, and romance; manage conflict and create an even more meaningful relationship. You can learn more about Dr. Michael McNulty at: www.chicagorelationshipcenter.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/neurodiverse-love/support

John and Julie Gottman are world-renowned relationship researchers and psychologists who have been happily married for the past 37 years. They've authored more than 40 books together, including Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection.  On this week's episode of Everyday Better, the Gottmans join Leah to share their perspectives on conflict resolution in relationships. They explain how disagreements, whether at home or in the office, present opportunities to strengthen bonds and deepen connections. They also discuss the three main styles of conflict management in couple relationships and propose a new method for voicing dissatisfaction that moves from criticizing to complaint-making.  Follow Leah Smart on LinkedIn. Follow The Gottman Institute on LinkedIn. For more on conflict resolution in relationships, check out the Gottmans' latest book, Fight Right. And, don't forget to sign up for Leah's weekly newsletter to get practical tips on how to level up with small steps every day.

Relationship Experts Drs. John & Julie Gottman EXPOSE the SHOCKING REASON Why Relationships Fail. 94% Accurate Divorce Predictions: Discover the biggest predictors that guarantee which marriages will crumble and how to get the LOVE you WANT! The Gottman duo are world leading relationship researchers that have been studying couples for over 40 years, publishing over 200 academic journal articles and 46 books. They are the co-founders of The Gottman Institute and Love Lab. Drs Gottman drop the ULTIMATE Relationship Bombshells, including the 4 Horsemen of Relationship Apocalypse (Spot these 4 predictors of relationship demise before they DESTROY your love life!), PLUS....learn the #1 skill for Connection and BETTER SEX! Your relationship is either HELPING or HARMING you HEALTH, and is a big factor in how you fight disease. The Gottmans also break down:- The #1 Cause of CHEATING & how it can lead to PTSD- Childhood Trauma's Hidden Role in Relationships: How a lack of positive relationship role models can WRECK your marriage- Ways to better support your partner's trauma- Why Addiction can spell disaster for even the strongest of relationships- Phases of recovery from affairs & other forms of betrayal- How to argue with your partner in a healthy way- Why today's culture seems to be afraid of long term commitment- Codependency: Is it really as HORRIBLE as it sounds, or could it be the key to your marriage's survival & your own longevity?- Why Women Are UNHAPPY: The unsettling reason behind women's relationship dissatisfaction and the FEARS they face daily- Men's Emotional Needs: How today's involved dads are CHANGING EVERYTHING- Social Media's Role in Cheating: How it's fueling nonmonogamy and screwing up your communication- Effects of porn addiction on the other partner- Key communication factors in healthy partnerships- The Managerial Marriage: Why losing PLAYTIME is the nail in the coffin for happy marriages- The Power of a 6-SECOND KISS: This simple act could SAVE your relationship! TUNE IN to MBB now & learn how to turn around your relationship before it's too late! The latest version of The New Marriage Clinic: https://wwnorton.com/books/9781324016311BialikBreakdown.comYouTube.com/mayimbialik

Show Notes for Episode 8: A Look at Modern Dating with the Love Rabbi Episode Description In this engaging episode of Judaism with Altitude, we delve into the world of modern dating with Rabbi Yisroel Bernath, affectionately known as "The Love Rabbi." As the spiritual director at Chabad of NDG and the Jewish Chaplain at Concordia University in Montreal, Rabbi Bernath brings a wealth of experience and insight into the complexities of contemporary relationships. Guest Bio Rabbi Yisroel Bernath is the spiritual director at Chabad of NDG and the Jewish Chaplain at Concordia University. Rabbi Bernath is celebrated for his warmth and non-judgmental approach, earning him the title of one of Canada's most popular under-40 rabbis. In 2010, Rabbi Bernath was Canada's only finalist for the Jewish Community Hero Award. Having made over 100 matches, he founded JMatchmaking International in 2012. Rabbi Bernath starred in the CBC Documentary "Kosher Love," has a significant social media following, and provides valuable insights on love, marriage, and Judaism. Beyond his matchmaking expertise, Rabbi Bernath is an innovative media personality, professional voice-over artist, storyteller, screenwriter, actor and certified sommelier. His work includes the award-winning animation "Young Abraham," appearances in "The Will" and "Mixed Blessings," and he was involved in Netflix's Jewish Matchmaking. He has also been a guest on CTV's Your Morning, Breakfast TV Montreal, and Global News Montreal. Episode Highlights - Rabbi Bernath's weekend matchmakers training seminar and innovative speed dating session. - The challenges of modern dating and the importance of tapping into personal networks. - The need for positivity and optimism from those supporting daters. - Insights into the roles of men as finders and women as findable in the dating world. - The lack of relationship role models today and the impact on modern relationships. - Rabbi Bernath's recommendation of John and Julie Gottman's book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work **Follow Rabbi Yisroel Bernath**: - Instagram: @montrealrabbi - Website: TheLoveRabbi - Podcast: Matchmaker Matchmaker The Love Rabbi Kabbalah for Everyone Daily Jewish Thought Kosher Wine Podcast Listen to the full episode to gain more insights into modern dating and the wisdom of Rabbi Yisroel Bernath. **Follow Us**: - Website: Theje.com - Facebook: OlamiDenver - Instagram: @OlamiDenverExperience **Subscribe and Review**: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to Judaism with Altitude and leave us a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your feedback helps us bring more meaningful content to you.

Hi, send us a text message. Schema Circle Membership - Join Now! Information about private therapy/coaching with Gemma or Justine email us: justineandgemma@goodmood.com.au In today's episode, Gemma explores the impact of Defensiveness on relationships, its root causes, and practical steps to overcome it.Key Points:Defensive Phrases:Common examples: "It's not my fault," "You always," "You never," "You're overreacting."Recognize these as signs of defensiveness.Impact on Relationships:Defensiveness is a relationship killer, identified by John and Julie Gottman as one of the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse."High levels of defensiveness can predict relationship breakup and divorce.Triggers and Responses:Often triggered by low to medium-level criticisms or requests from a partner.Immediate emotional responses include feelings of threat, anger, and injustice.Behavioral Patterns:Refusing to acknowledge wrongdoing.Redirecting blame or overly justifying actions.Counterattacking or withdrawing.Underlying Causes:Common schemas involved: defectiveness, emotional deprivation, mistrust, subjugation.Often stems from childhood experiences with critical or narcissistic parents.Steps to Overcome Defensiveness:Reflect on defensive incidents when calm.Identify triggers and feelings.Recognize the part of yourself you're defending.Acknowledge and validate your vulnerable inner child.Reassure the defensive part of you that you're now an adult and safe.Practice responding calmly and reasonably.Practical Exercise:Sit quietly and recall a recent defensive episode.Identify your reaction and underlying feelings.Visualize a conversation with your inner child and defender.Reassure them and imagine a healthier response in future interactions.Conclusion: Defensiveness is common but can be managed with self-awareness and compassionate inner dialogue. Reflect, identify triggers, and practice calm responses to improve relationship dynamics.CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from love-traps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeSupport the Show.

Does feedback sting extra hard? David introduces the concept of rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), where you interpret feedback or questions or redirections as being very harsh and personal, and then really take it to heart—even if that's not really what is being communicated to you--and how this plays into relationships. This episode, David and Isabelle are joined by fellow ADHD clinician, Noah, and Isabelle's husband, Bobby, who both also have ADHD.-----Isabelle & David welcome Isabelle's husband, Bobby, and David's friend and fellow clinician, Noah, who both also have ADHD. David introduces the concept of rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), where you interpret feedback or questions or redirections as being very harsh and personal, and then really take it to heart—even if that's not really what is being communicated to you (example: Did you empty the dishwasher? Someone with RSD: WHY DO YOU THINK I'M LAZY?!) What do you do if you and your partner BOTH have RSD and ADHD? Awareness is gamechanging. How you give people the feedback that maybe they're taking your feedback too personally/harshly? There is a comedic setup in giving people the feedback that they may not take feedback well. What if your partner is neurotypical and feels like your ADHD hyper focus forgetfulness feels like you're doing things on purpose, then you go down a shame spiral of forgetting (for example)? The neurotypical partner may have resentment towards the behaviors and also, how can it get better? It will happen again, we will fail. Not trying to be something you're not, but also always working to improve and putting in effort, as well as paying attention to repairs and actually doing the work to prioritize what your partner's needs are-speaking their love language (see Gary Chapman's Love Languages below). How RSD connects to years of feeling like you're failing and getting social feedback there's something wrong with you. The importance of finding a partner who accepts you and gets that ADHD is not going away.WHO IS GOTTMAN? Basically John & Julie Gottman are relationship gurus who found an institute years ago where they research how people in relationships interact scientifically. With their experience they define the individual ways we crave, express and accept love from others. For more information, check out: https://www.gottman.com/DAVID'S DEFINITIONS of Gary Chapman's Love Languages (https://www.5lovelanguages.com):1. words of affirmation - talking about your feelings of intimacy, appreciation or praise to another person 2. quality time - making time to be in close proximity with another person doing a preferable task3. physical touch - acts of touching, kissing, hugging, physical acts of closeness4. acts of service - being able to take care of things or fix problems for other people5. receiving gifts - feeling appreciation from the things that are given to you by another person-------cover art by: Sol Vázqueztechnical support by: Bobby Richards

In today's solo episode, I'm excited to share a powerful tool that can help transform your relationship in just one hour a week—the State of the Union meeting. Created by the renowned John and Julie Gottman, this technique is all about building stronger, more empathetic relationships.In this episode, I discuss how dedicating just one hour a week to a structured conversation with your partner can make a huge difference. I'll guide you through the steps of these meetings, from starting with appreciation to tackling issues constructively. This is one of my favourite techniques to teach couples, and I'm thrilled to share it with you.Key Takeaways:The importance of setting aside one hour a week for your relationship.How to start your State of the Union meeting with appreciation.Tips for discussing issues with a focus on personal feelings, not blame.Understanding and validating your partner's perspective.The ATTUNE acronym: Awareness, Tolerance, Turning Towards, Understanding, Non-defensive listening, Empathy.Making repair attempts and discussing missed or overlooked issues.How to end the meeting by asking what you can do to make your partner feel more loved next week.Submit a question to the Podcasthttps://forms.gle/nvNQyw9gJXMNnveY6 Connect with Marie https://thetherapyhub.com.au/ https://marievakakis.com.au/ https://www.instagram.com/marievakakis/

Rhomas Men's Team podcast here. As always, if you resonate with our content, please follow, like, share, comment, and support our channel: https://www.rhomas.com/ In today's discussion, we're diving into an insightful refresher on the book "8 Dates" by John and Julie Gottman. This guide is a treasure trove for anyone looking to strengthen their relationships through meaningful, intentional conversations. We'll revisit key concepts from the book, such as effective communication, understanding your partner's needs, and building a deeper connection through structured date nights. Whether you're new to the book or need a reminder, this episode will equip you with practical tools to enhance your romantic life. Join us as we explore the transformative power of these eight essential conversations. Get ready to reignite the spark and cultivate a more fulfilling relationship. #8Dates #RelationshipGoals #EffectiveCommunication #JohnGottman #JulieGottman #Rhomas #SelfImprovement #DeepConnection #LoveAndRelationships

In this episode of Almost Awakened, Bill shares his two month dive into relationship research. From John & Julie Gottman to Jordan Peterson RESOURCES: Thanks so much for watching! Please like, subscribe, and leave a comment! Visit our Channel to find everything Mormonism! https://www.youtube.com/c/MormonDiscussionsInc or @MormonDiscussion Our mission at Mormon Discussion is to be a… Read More »Creating A Fulfilling Romantic Relationship [Almost Awakened 182] The post Creating A Fulfilling Romantic Relationship [Almost Awakened 182] appeared first on Mormon Discussions Podcasts - Full Lineup.

How you define your relationship determines its trajectory. If you see your romance as a triumph over adversity, you will triumph. This is one of the many lessons we took from our long ago exploration of Drs. John and Julie Gottman, and we discuss their philosophy thoroughly on this week's podcast with Maria Bamford and Scott Marvel Cassidy. Their new graphic novel from Fantagraphics, Hogbook and Lazer Eyes, details their complicated coupling, all told through the eyes of their various elder pugs. When Maria Bamford and Scott Marvel Cassidy were at their lowest, they signed up for the dating website O.K. Cupid, using the handles "Hogbook" and "Lazer Eyes." One date became two, which became three, then four. Their compatibility was less than a sure thing, but as they persisted, their connection solidified. Something about the other stirred understanding in themselves, and witnessing that epiphany through their canine housemates cleverly, maybe magically, creates profundity. After the Gottmans, we discuss the other classic texts that shaped our understanding of relationships: Dan Slott and Michael Allred's Silver Surfer. As we've previously covered on the show, entering a marriage is to engage with "The Infinite All-In." In a best-case scenario, one of you will leave the other to wallow in grief. As you'll hear, for Maria Bamford and Scott Marvel Cassidy, "the 50/50 risk" gives value to the partnership. As longtime admirers of Maria Bamford's standup comedy and television work and Scott Marvel Cassidy's comics and artistry, it was more than a joy to chat with them about Hogbook and Lazer Eyes. Discussing romance and collaboration with another creative couple helped us more clearly define our desires and wants for the future. Is a puppy on the horizon? Possibly. To continue this conversation online, follow Maria Bamford on Twitter, Instagram, and her Website. Follow Scott Marvel Cassidy on Instagram and his Website. Hogbook and Lazer Eyes is now available from Fantagraphics. Find it wherever fine comics are sold. As always, Omnibus, the Digital Comic Store and Reader, sponsors our Referrals segment. This week, we selected two comic book titles on the site that satisfy this episode's themes. We won't spoil what they are here, but if you click the links below, you'll be immediately escorted to those books. Brad's Referral Lisa's Referral Other Relevant Links: Brad and Lisa on Free With Ads, Talking Tank Girl Subscribe to the 2000 AD Thrill-Cast Subscribe to the Vactor-Verse Subscribe to Wizards: The Podcast Guide to Comics Final Round of Plugs (PHEW): Support the Podcast by Joining OUR PATREON COMMUNITY Join us at the Alamo Drafthouse in Winchester, Virginia, on 5/19 at 4:00 PM for our Green Lantern screening, co-sponsored by Four Color Fantasies. Watch the latest episode of The B&B Show, where Brad and Bryan Review the Hottest Cinematic Releases. And, of course, follow Comic Book Couples Counseling on Facebook, on Instagram, and on Twitter @CBCCPodcast, and you can follow hosts Brad Gullickson @MouthDork & Lisa Gullickson @sidewalksiren. Send us your Words of Affirmation by leaving us a 5-star Review on Apple Podcasts. Continue your conversation with CBCC by hopping over to our website, where we have reviews, essays, and numerous interviews with comic book creators. Podcast logo by Aaron Prescott @acoolhandfluke, podcast banner art by @Karen_XmenFan.

Welcome back to The Psychotic Break!This week Kimi and Madey tackle The 4 Horsemen of Relationships. Developed by John and Julie Gottman, The 4 Horsemen are 4 types of communication that predict relationship failure. Stay tuned to learn more and hear about Madey and Kimi's personal examples!

In this thought-provoking message titled "Meaningful Friendships," part of the "Life-Giving Relationships" sermon series, Pastor Rex Keener delves into the profound impact of godly friendships through the lens of the iconic bond between David and Jonathan from the Old Testament book of 1 Samuel. Drawing wisdom from the research of renowned psychologists John and Julie Gottman, Pastor Rex underscores the vital role of friendship as a "marriage protector" – a truth that extends beyond marital bonds to encompass all spheres of life. He challenges the notion that exotic trips or grand romantic gestures are the key to lasting relationships, asserting instead that cultivating genuine friendship is paramount. As the biblical narrative unfolds, Pastor Rex highlights three defining characteristics of the friendship between David and Jonathan, qualities that serve as a blueprint for nurturing meaningful connections in our own lives. First, he explores the sacrificial spirit that undergirded their bond, exemplified by Jonathan's selfless act of yielding his royal inheritance to David, recognizing God's sovereign choice. This willingness to sacrifice personal ambitions for the sake of a friend is a profound lesson in humility and prioritizing others above oneself. Secondly, Pastor Rex examines the ability of true friends to celebrate each other's victories and mourn losses together. Drawing from Romans 12:15, he emphasizes the challenge of genuinely rejoicing with those who rejoice, even when their successes may stir envy or resentment within us. Yet, a great friend transcends such pettiness, choosing instead to support and uplift their companion wholeheartedly. Finally, the enduring loyalty that Jonathan exhibited towards David, even in the face of life-threatening circumstances, is highlighted as a hallmark of meaningful friendship. Pastor Rex underscores the rarity and preciousness of a friend who will steadfastly stand by your side through adversity, speaking up for you when you cannot defend yourself. Woven throughout the message are poignant real-life stories and anecdotes that bring these timeless principles to life, reminding us of the invaluable role that genuine friends play in our spiritual growth, personal survival, and overall well-being. As Pastor Rex concludes, he points to the ultimate example of friendship found in Jesus Christ – the One who sacrificed Himself to knit His soul to ours, clothe us in righteousness, and ensure that we need never be alone. This powerful message challenges us to embrace the blessings of godly friendships and to embody the selfless, unwavering love that Christ modeled for us. We pray this message from April 28, 2024 will bless you!! Subscribe to our channel: www.youtube.com/gracefellowshipny To give online: gracefellowship.com/give/ To glorify God by making more and better disciples. This is the vision of Grace Fellowship, led by Pastor Rex Keener and based in New York's Capital Region. —— Stay Connected Website: gracefellowship.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/gracefellowshipny Instagram: www.instagram.com/gracefellowshipny

There is so much to learn from the Gottman Method of therapy, which is based on 40+ years of relationship research thanks to the work of John and Julie Gottman. I wanted to discuss how we can apply some of these key lessons to build better relationship habits, and was grateful to have a conversation with Anna Aslanian, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who's a certified Gottman Method therapist. For more about Anna, check out: https://www.instagram.com/mytherapycorner/ https://mytherapycorner.com/ https://www.gottman.com/author/anna-aslanian-lmft/ — If you're enjoying the podcast… JOIN THE YOU LOVE AND YOU LEARN PATREON COMMUNITY FOR $7/month. — Additional resources: Join Deconstruct the Doubts digital course here (instant + lifetime access) Click here to join the waitlist for the next cohort of Beyond the Doubts group coaching Download the free video training: The Single Most Important Lesson in Healing Relationship Anxiety Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

Today Dave Schramm and Liz Hale explore the profound insights of doctors John and Julie Gottman's latest book, "The Seven Day Love Prescription". They delve into practical advice taken from extensive research on thousands of couples, focusing on strengthening relationships through simple actions and deeper understanding. They discuss the significance of turning towards your partner, the power of touch, the importance of asking open-ended questions, and the brain's tendency to focus on negativity. This episode provides valuable tips for fostering a deeper connection and revitalizing your marriage by incorporating daily habits that enhance love and affection. Insights: Dave: Slowing down and understanding your partner’s world takes humility. I love the word compassion, as we've talked about humility. And let me add gratitude; expressions of appreciation for the little things of being thoughtful. Kindness and gratitude is two sides of the same coin. When someone is kind, hopefully the other person is grateful. And they recognize that and understand each other's worlds. It’s hard to settle on one thing, but kindness could change a marriage. Slow down and be a little more kind, little more gentle, a little more thoughtful. Liz: You know, what I have loved is how we've talked about how healthy "we" consists of healthy "me" and I'm really the only person in the relationship that can really guarantee how I show up right? I am only in control of me. So I think when I show up paramount with kindness, I think that is the key. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: StrongerMarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelife Dr. Dave Schramm: https://drdaveschramm.com https://drdavespeaks.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642 Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

Do you ever fight with your partner? Do you ever fight with your partner about parenting? (Pretty much all of the couples I work with do both of those things.) And these arguments tend to follow a pretty well-defined formula: Child misbehaves. Parent A gets overwhelmed, criticizes the child and snaps at Partner B for not doing more to help. Parent B and says that clearly Parent A's 'better parenting approach' isn't working, since the kids are still misbehaving - this is contempt. Parent A knows they don't want to parent the way they were raised, and also knows they aren't doing things totally in alignment with their values right now. Parent A has done a lot of work to try to heal themselves, but worries that it isn't happening fast enough to protect their children. And isn't it better than the bribing and punishing that Parent B is doing? They're being defensive. Parent B stonewalls - they are overwhelmed and shuts down, refusing to talk about the issue. Both partners walk away feeling frustrated, wonder how on earth it got to this point, and feel hopeless that it will ever improve. If your fights look like this, I'm here to let you know that there is hope! Last year I did Levels 1 and 2 (of 3 levels) of Gottman Method training. The Gottman Method is basically the only evidence-based framework for couple's therapy. Drs. John & Julie Gottman describe the main ways they see couples struggle in their communication, and named them the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse - you saw all of them in the example above. How many of the Horsemen show up in your fights? (Criticism is almost always the first Horseman to arrive. Interrupt that, and you can communicate in entirely different ways.) If you wish there was a better way to communicate about these challenging issues with your partner so you could actually get on the same page and parent as a team, today's episode will show you how to do that.

How our false expectations and misunderstandings about relationships can create an incalculable amount of suffering — and the many problems of the "You complete me" model.Description: This episode was part one of our four-part series where we're counter-programming against the way Valentine's Day is often celebrated, and examining different kinds of relationships including romantic, friendship, and family. Today's guest hews a bit more closely to the traditional Valentine's Day theme and will do some myth-busting around all the things we tend to get wrong when we talk about romantic relationships. Myisha Battle is the author of the book, “This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between.” She also hosts the podcast How's Your Sex Life? Much of her public work focuses on the early stages of relationships, but in her private practice, she counsels people at all stages, and in all kinds of relationships. Content Warning: Explicit language and conversations about sex. In this episode we talk about:Five ways to improve intimacy and connection in romantic partnershipThe nuts and bolts of sex, and how we often get intimacy and sex confused in unhelpful waysUnderstanding men's and women's cycles to depersonalize issues in sex and relationshipsThe myth of finding “the one”The orgasm gapBromanceAnd if you're looking, tips on how to make finding a partner easierFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/myisha-battle-archive Where to find Myisha Battle online: Website: www.myishabattle.com/Social Media:Twitter: @MyishaBattleInstagram: @MyishaBattleBook Mentioned:This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between Other Resources Mentioned:Alain de Botton's Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person The School of Life #418. How Not to Ruin Your Relationships | Drs. John & Julie Gottman#213: Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel#464. How to Keep Friendships From Imploding | Esther PerelHalf the World Has a Clitoris. Why Don't Doctors Study It?Michael Vincent Miller's Intimate TerrorismEsther Perel's Mating in CaptivityAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Becky delves into the concept of 'hidden dreams' within relationships, drawing on insights from John and Julie Gottman's work on healthy conflict. Becky highlights how perpetual arguments often mask deeper, unexpressed desires and values. Through the lens of the Gottmans' personal experience and a detailed example of their methodology, she illustrates the transformative potential of uncovering and empathizing with these hidden dreams for resolving conflicts. The episode emphasizes the significance of thoughtful questioning in revealing underlying aspirations and acknowledges that, although not all conflicts are solvable, their manageability improves with mutual understanding and empathy. Becky encourages listeners to embrace the role of a 'dream catcher' in their own relationships and shares avenues for feedback and further discussion on this vital topic. 00:00 Welcome to the Healthy Conflict Series: Unveiling Hidden Dreams 00:21 Understanding Perpetual Arguments in Relationships 01:32 The Gottmans' Discovery: The Technique of Hidden Dreams 01:56 The Iceberg of Conflict: Uncovering Hidden Dreams and Values 02:58 Judging Desires: The Pitfall of Value Judgments in Relationships 03:57 A Real-Life Example: The Gottmans' Cabin Conflict 05:29 The Power of Understanding and Dialogue 08:33 Practical Steps: Questions to Uncover Hidden Dreams 10:30 The Unsolvable Nature of Some Conflicts and the Value of Empathy 11:24 Applying the Dream Catcher Technique in Your Life1 2:28 Conclusion and Invitation to Share Your Experiences https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

If over half of marriages end in divorce, what are the skills to make sure your relationship stays in the successful 50%? Drs. John and Julie Gottman are world leading relationship researchers that have been studying couples for over 40 years, publishing over 200 academic journal articles and 46 books. They are the co-founders of The Gottman Institute and Love Lab. In this conversation the Gottman's and Steven discuss topics such as, the 3 skills you need for a healthy relationship, the steps to repair a relationship after an argument, why kissing can extend your life, and how cuddling leads to a better sex life. You can purchase the Gottman's new book, ‘Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection', here: https://amzn.to/3TDm5Fx Follow the Gottman's: Twitter - https://bit.ly/3xcZA2z Instagram - https://bit.ly/4cC2UVl YouTube - https://bit.ly/4awssRS Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/3kxINCANKsb My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://smarturl.it/DOACbook Follow me: https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceo Sponsors: ZOE: http://joinzoe.com with an exclusive code CEO2024 for 10% off Linkedin Ads: https://www.linkedin.com/doac24 Shop the Conversation Cards: https://thediary.com/products/the-cards  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode features insights from John and Julie Gottman's research on conflict in marriage, advocating for healthy disagreement as a key component of intimacy and trust in relationships. Host Becky debunks myths about conflict-free marriages, introduces the concept of 'soft startup' for resolving disagreements, and discusses how to avoid the 'four horsemen of the apocalypse' (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) for better communication. 00:00 Welcome to the Healthy Conflict Series 00:11 The Importance of Healthy Conflict in Marriage 00:45 Learning from the Gottmans: Embracing Conflict for Intimacy 03:30 Understanding Your Conflict Culture 04:08 The Gottmans' Five Steps to Resolving Conflict 05:19 Identifying and Overcoming the Four Horsemen 10:01 Self-Reflection and Improvement Exercise 14:09 Practicing Healthy Conflict Responses 15:30 Homework and Preview for Next Week --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Can the biggest conflicts in your relationship actually bring you closer and create deeper intimacy? Happy couples fight. But there is a difference between healthy conflict and unhealthy fighting. One leads to stronger marriages and relationships while the other ends in heartbreak, frustration, and loneliness. But even more importantly, how you fight can predict the future of your relationship. I'm excited to welcome our guests John and Julie Gottman to the show today. The Gottman's are world experts on relationships with over fifty years of research and clinical experience. Together, they founded The Gottman Institute and have written multiple books, including their latest, Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection. Conflict between two people is inevitable. But the first three minutes of that fight can lead to understanding or disaster. Listen in as the Gottman's share the four horseman behaviors that ruin marriages and show you to use the Bagel Method to compromise and connect for a happier, healthier partnership. Link to Limitless Expanded Link to Kwik Success Program Link to Kwik Programs  (Use code: PODCAST15) Link to Show Notes Link to Kwik Brain C.O.D.E. Quiz Link to Free Speed Reading Masterclass  If you're inspired, I want to invite you to join me in my brand NEW 10-day course, specifically designed to boost your productivity. I know it sounds too good to be true, but I give you step-by-step guides using the accelerated learning model to help you get more done and achieve your goals.

It's Lisa Bilyeu here with another episode of Women of Impact and this one is FILLED with science-backed methods that will help you have a stronger, healthier relationship with your partner!  Today we are joined by the world's leading relationship scientists, Dr. John Gottman & Dr. Julie Gottman. Together they have more than 50 years researching couples and relationship health, and they have SOOOO much information to share if you want to build a strong, long-lasting relationship! In this episode, we're diving into: - The signs that all but guarantee your relationship won't last, AND what you can do before it's too late - Why you MUST go deep into the conflict to truly understand why you're fighting - How to fight right and keep it from getting out of control with their “Repair checklist” - Ways you and your partner can come together and find solutions or compromise  - The 5 steps to ACTUALLY heal an emotional injury in your relationship - Why cheating is a symptom of a problem in your relationship, and not the CAUSE of the problems - How contempt in a relationship can lead to physical illness  - And soooo much more!   The Gottmans are dedicated to helping couples repair and strengthen their relationship, and their research has truly been revolutionary and unmatched! From fighting, to cheating, to sex and SOOOO much more, in this episode, you're getting a research-based MASTERCLASS on strengthening relationships.  Be sure to get a copy of “Fight Right” here: https://www.amazon.com/Fight-Right-Successful-Conflict-Connection/dp/0593579658  Follow The Gottmans: Website: https://www.gottman.com/ For Couples: https://gottmanconnect.com/  Order Your Copy of “Fight Right”: https://www.amazon.com/Fight-Right-Successful-Conflict-Connection/dp/0593579658  Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu:  Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu  X: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu  If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/lisabilyeu  Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement Sponsors: If you purchase an item using these affiliate links, Impact Theory may receive a commission. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa now to grow your business–no matter what stage you're in. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at https://betterhelp.com/women and get on your way to being your best self! Right now, download NetSuite's popular KPI Checklist, designed to give you consistently excellent performance - absolutely free, at https://NetSuite.com/WOMEN. Post your job for free at https://LinkedIn.com/LISA.Terms and conditions apply. Go to https://tryviome.com/LISA and use code LISA to get 20% off your first 3 months, and take control of your gut health today! Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase by going to https://drinkAG1.com/lisa. ***CALLING ALL BADASSES!*** If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  *New episodes delivered ad-free, EXCLUSIVE access to hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, and so much more!* Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! *****Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP***** Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Lisa Bilyeu here with another episode of Women of Impact and this one is FILLED with science-backed methods that will help you have a stronger, healthier relationship with your partner!  Today we are joined by the world's leading relationship scientists, Dr. John Gottman & Dr. Julie Gottman. Together they have more than 50 years researching couples and relationship health, and they have SOOOO much information to share if you want to build a strong, long-lasting relationship! In this episode, we're diving into: - The signs that all but guarantee your relationship won't last, AND what you can do before it's too late - Why you MUST go deep into the conflict to truly understand why you're fighting - How to fight right and keep it from getting out of control with their “Repair checklist” - Ways you and your partner can come together and find solutions or compromise  - The 5 steps to ACTUALLY heal an emotional injury in your relationship - Why cheating is a symptom of a problem in your relationship, and not the CAUSE of the problems - How contempt in a relationship can lead to physical illness  - And soooo much more!   The Gottmans are dedicated to helping couples repair and strengthen their relationship, and their research has truly been revolutionary and unmatched! From fighting, to cheating, to sex and SOOOO much more, in this episode, you're getting a research-based MASTERCLASS on strengthening relationships.  Be sure to get a copy of “Fight Right” here: https://www.amazon.com/Fight-Right-Successful-Conflict-Connection/dp/0593579658  Follow The Gottmans: Website: https://www.gottman.com/ For Couples: https://gottmanconnect.com/  Order Your Copy of “Fight Right”: https://www.amazon.com/Fight-Right-Successful-Conflict-Connection/dp/0593579658  Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu:  Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu  X: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu  If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/lisabilyeu  Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement ***CALLING ALL BADASSES!*** If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  *New episodes delivered ad-free, EXCLUSIVE access to hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, and so much more!* Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! *****Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP***** Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you heard of the four horsemen? With regard to relationships, it was created by Dr. John and Julie Gottman - founders of the Gottman Institute, and it has been found to be remarkably accurate about predicting divorce. These destructive communication patterns, if they go unchecked, are likely to land a couple in splitsville, back on the apps, and desperately tuning into our show for answers. We get into what those patterns are and how to avoid them by trying out a couples' check in we found from Amanda Goetz' Life's A Game weekly newsletter. Keep it Complicated with Jen, Lauren, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our Pod merch - shop here Shop our Amazon store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated

What 40 years of research tells us about how to cultivate good relationships in our lives.World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. John Gottman has conducted over 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. He is the co-founder of The Gottman Institute and Affective Software Inc. as well as author of over 200 published academic articles and author or co-author of more than 40 books, including The New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Dr. Julie Gottman is the Co-Founder and President of The Gottman Institute and Co-Founder of Affective Software, Inc. A highly respected clinical psychologist and author, she is sought internationally by media and organizations as an expert advisor on marriage, domestic violence, gay and lesbian adoption, same-sex marriage, and parenting issues. She is the co-creator of the immensely popular The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop for couples and she also co-designed the national clinical training program in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. In this episode we talk about:how to talk (and listen) to your partner in moments of conflictwhat to do before you start trying to solve a problem togetherwhy “there's no such thing as constructive criticism” the details of John's research findings, which have allowed him to predict with stunning accuracy whether a couple will get divorcedhow the Gottmans themselves do when it comes to operationalizing their findings/advicehow and why betrayal occurswhen a couple should consider separating the role mindfulness can play in healthy relationshipsand the role of humor in relationships.Related Episodes:Six Buddhist Strategies for Getting Along Better with Everyone | Sister True DedicationThe Science of Emotional Intelligence | Daniel GolemanImproving Your Relationships - Buddhist Style | Martine BatchelorSign up for Dan's weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFor tickets to Dan Harris: Celebrating 10 Years of 10% Happier at Symphony Space: click here Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/gottmans-418-rerunAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Conflict doesn't have to suck. These iconic relationship researchers tell us how. Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection is the name of a new book by esteemed guests Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman.They are the co-Founders of The Gottman Institute and have completed over 40 years of research with more than 3,000 couples. John is the researcher; Julie the clinician. They have written several books together, including Eight Dates and The Love Prescription.Even though the majority of the Gottmans' research is on couples, the advice is applicable to all types of relationships. In this episode we talk about:The three principle conflict stylesWhy we often don't understand what it is we're fighting aboutPerpetual problems vs. Solvable problemsWhy the first three minutes of an argument are key The simple sentence to use at the beginning of an argumentHow to downregulate defensiveness in an argumentWhy the Gottmans' believe there is no such thing as constructive criticismWhy apologizing quickly isn't always the right moveWhen a fight might spell the end Related Episodes:Dan Savage on how to handle disappointment in your relationships, how to get better at sex, and why “a couple” is an IllusionLori Brotto on mindful sexDevon and Craig Hase on how not to be a hot messMyisha Battle on love, sex, dating, and relationship mythsSign up for Dan's weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFor tickets to Dan Harris: Celebrating 10 Years of 10% Happier at Symphony Space: click here Full Shownotes: http://tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/gottmans-726See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

“If you're dealing with an issue, don't describe your partner. Describe yourself, your feelings, and your needs," says Julie Gottman, Ph.D. Julie and John Gottman, Ph.D., leading relationship experts and founders of the Gottman Institute, join us to discuss how to know if your partner is long-term material, plus: - The top ingredients for a loving relationship (~00:02) - The three main conflict styles (~02:34) - The “bomb drop” fight (~09:16) - What to do if you feel “flooded” during a fight (~11:17) - The “shallows” fight (~16:17) - How to resolve “the standoff” (~19:20) - How couples can rebuild their relationship post-affair (~28:43) - What causes affairs? (~34:20) - The Gottmans' top 3 green flags in a relationship (~35:56) - How to know if you've found The One (~43:01) - What causes unhappy marriages? (~46:02) - How to know if you're ready for a serious relationship (~50:51) - The Gottmans' No. 1 tip for successful relationships (~54:18) Referenced in the episode: - The Gottmans' book, Fight Right. - mbg Podcast episodes #320 and #461, with the Gottmans. - Learn more about the Gottmans' research on marriage and couples. - Check out Caryl Rusbult's research. - Research on recovering after an affair. Visit shop.mindbodygreen.com/whey20 to get 20% off whey protein isolate+. Cannot combine with gift cards or other discount codes. We hope you enjoy this episode, and feel free to watch the full video on YouTube! Whether it's an article or podcast, we want to know what we can do to help here at mindbodygreen. Let us know at: podcast@mindbodygreen.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Every single human being is a pack animal. That's what we are biologically. We would die if we didn't depend on each other. Saying what you need is a form of connecting with your partner and saying, let's be a team. Can you serve me in this way? Can I trust you to have my back? Because I've got yours. And I want to be there for you. The other thing that people don't realize is that when they ask their partner for something they need, what they're doing is saying to the partner, you are my chosen one. You are my confidant. You are the person I trust more than anybody to be there for me. And the other person may feel very honored by that, actually. What that person is saying is you are trustworthy. You are the person that I know has the strength and the resources to be there for me.” Doctors John and Julie Gottman are two of the most famous and popular couples therapists in the world—not only because of their ability to impart relationship-saving and relationship-strengthening advice, but because of John Gottman's decades of reearch in the so called “Love Lab,” where he observed couples over time and could predict—with a dizzying level of success—who was destined to divorce. In short, the Gottmans are the world's leading relationship scientists, having gathered data on thousands of couples—they then use those findings to train clinicians and create simple principles for couples around the world. In their latest book, Fight Right, they explore conflict—something we're all trained to avoid at all costs. Their point though, which their research supports, is that conflict is essential for healthy relationships, clearing out the brush of stagnant resentments and deepening bonds. In today's conversation, we explore everything from fighting styles—there's avoiders, validators, and volatiles—along with our tendency to start conflict harshly because we feel like we need a lot of ammo to justify the rupture and make our point. And then we move to modes and paths of repair, along with what their latest research can tell us about infidelity and its root cause. I loved this conversation, which we'll turn to now. MORE FROM JOHN & JULIE GOTTMAN: Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work The Gottman Institute: A Research-Based Approach to Relationships Gottman Relationship Quiz: How Well Do You Know Your Partner? Find a Gottman Trained Therapist Follow the Gottman Institute on Twitter and Instagram To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

John and Julie Gottman are top relationship researchers, psychologists, and the power couple behind the new book, “Fight Right." They joined Leah Smart to share eye-opening perspectives on conflict management and resolution. We're all familiar with those tense moments at home or office disagreements. The Gottmans reveal that these aren't just hurdles to overcome; they're valuable opportunities to strengthen bonds with family, colleagues, and even yourself. The Gottmans highlight the transformative power of the simple shift from criticizing to making complaints, give their take on and reveal the three styles of handling conflict that can change your perspective on disagreements. Follow Leah Smart on LinkedIn  Follow The Gottman Institute on LinkedIn Listen to the previous conversation with The Gottmans