DISIRability ALT

The time has come for me to say goodbye to the podcasting world. This is just a very short note to say “Thank you and Farewell”. I hope you have enjoyed the podcast and you have another week to listen to/read any of the episodes you may have missed. The podcast will be live up until Thursday, May 13, 2021. Below are some links to other creators whose work have inspired me. Ignixia, https://www.kink-positive.com/ Hannah The Scribe, https://serviceslavesecrets.com/ UnrulyNerdGirl, http://unrulynerdgirl.com/ Thank you for joining me! Stay well! A Full transcript of this episode can be found at: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1naggK4uWy2ewsjBXzRD5Dwcmjx5S9ZT73RxOYvz_TNY/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2021

I’m excited to welcome my guest, Dave Bahr (He/him) in Episode 24. Dave Bahr is an author, speaker and comedian focused on demystifying the public's perception of how to interact with people with disabilities. As founder of In-Sightful Living, Dave works as an accessibility consultant, aiding organizations to enhance their systems, environments, events, and cultures to be supportive of people with disabilities. Blind from birth, he teaches that having a disability is not a hindrance, but an asset. I’m excited to get the chance to talk with him today about communication in the vanilla world as well as around kink topics. Dave will share with us some of his kinks and his experiences attending parties and dungeons as a blind man. He also shares about his first time going to a dungeon and we both share our experiences around being educators today. I can’t wait for you to hear what he has to share! Dave’s work can be found at: In-sightfulliving.com Where you can also buy his book called “PRAVE. The Adventures of the Blind and the Brittle.” Dave also wrote an article on accessibility in a dungeon for Lustery, which can be found here: https://lustery.com/pov/people-describe-sex-to-me Dave can be reached by email at: dave@in-sightfulliving.com Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" and the text “Episode 24” are written underneath. In a dark green background on the left, there is the following text “Safeword for a Foot Rub. A Chat with Dave Bahr (He/him) of In-Sightful Living, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+)”. On the right, there is a photo of Dave sitting in a director’s chair.” A Full transcript of this episode can be found at: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1uELyD69mfev1d7fyknJqzrtn-yPCazGreakMAc913pc/edit?usp=sharing ©2021, DISIRability, Angela Car

Welcome to Series 2, Let’s Talk Books, Episode 2. Today, we talk about The Handi Book of Love, Lust and Disability. Andrew Gurza, who hosts the Disability After Dark podcast started the Handi organization with his sister. If you haven’t gotten your copy yet, please do so soon! Proceeds go to helping them design accessible sex toys for everyone. In this episode, I talk about some of my favorite topics and questions from the book and discuss how I would address the questions. Be sure to tell me your favorite parts of the book too. Order your book by visiting the “That’s Handi” website here: http://Thatshandi.co and check out the Disability After Dark podcast if you haven’t already. Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" and the text “Series 2 Episode 2” are written underneath. In a teal blue background, there is the following text “Let’s Talk Books: The Handi Book of Love, Lust and Disability”. Then the text at the bottom “with Angela Car (she/her) 18+)”. On the right, there is a photo of Angela reading the Handi Book of Love, Lust and Disability on a red reclining chair. Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1F3V7G68hgeV3w0H2-Eqpy1Y-30w7RF-UrYGWTu1B4ck/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2021

In Episode 22, I have the opportunity to interview Lorraine Stanley. Lorraine Stanley, formerly a fitness instructor, woke up paralysed in 2007, after a flu-type bug developed into M.E. and forced her to stop trading. Based in the UK, she hunted for support on sex and disability, and found very little accessible help. She discovered that there are often only a handful of sessions covering the subject of sex and intimacy across several years of formal training for health care and social care professionals. Lorraine decided to be pro-active, and ran several sex and disability discussion groups at her local independent living centre. Fast forward to 2021, and her not-for-profit training organisation SWAD has been featured in a book, she has launched her web-based training services, won business awards for innovative and progressive work, and has been an invited speaker at events local, national and international. Lorraine's lived experience of being bisexual and a swinger, combined with her professional background in training and development, makes for some interesting conversations! Lorraine’s organization can be reached at www.swaddorset.org. Her email is Lorainne@swaddoset.org. Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" and the text “Episode 22” are written underneath. In a teal blue background, there is the following text “Swimming, Sex and Swinging. A Chat with Lorraine Stanley, CEO of” and the logo of “SWAD” in purple and yellow colors, which states “where disability and sex come together. Then the text at the bottom “with Angela Car (she/her) 18+)”. On the right, there is a photo of Lorraine Stanley wearing a scarf with teal butterflies. Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1X6Dw41flaERUBOlCdzCKAS9VDES6zJ8xdXrH68hjSJ0/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2021

Episode 21 is all about Disabled Threesomes and Moresomes. I hear a lot of people saying that they want to have a threesome. This is more in the vanilla world, than in the kink world, but I hear a lot of folks saying “I wanna have a threesome” or “My partner wants to have a threesome and I’m not so sure.” So, this episode is for folks who are considering a threesome, or are curious about it and want to know how to have a safe, consensual, positive and sexy experience. I personally have had some amazing experiences and not so good experiences. I’m not an expert on it, but I thought I’d share my personal perspective on it, and just give you some things that I’ve learned over the years when it comes to threesomes and moresomes. Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a black background, there is the following text “Disabled Threesomes and Moresomes with angela car (she/her) 18+”. On the right, there is a stock photo of a hotel room with a large bed and a couch] Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/10fOoMU-VU7Mz24Wv9eQ3OaJgqFWrnsi2l8TNnl_AQxI/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2021

In Episode 20, I have the opportunity to interview Master Don. Master Don, also known as Dai Bando, is a Dominant in the Philadelphia area, the Head of Household of the House of Dai Bando, as well as an active member of the Lifestyle Community, He is a graduate of MTTA, Masters Academy, academy class XXI from 2013, the Foundations in Mastery program and has attended the esteemed Master/slave Development Center. Master Don holds membership in many Lifestyle-related associations and groups throughout the Philadelphia/central New Jersey area such as MAsT: Philadelphia, MAsT: Cherry Hill, Bucks County Power Exchange and the Gate munch and is a former member of the Executive Board of the Master-Dominant Consortium. Today, we talk about being in a power exchange dynamic with a disability, specifically with hearing loss. We talk about BDSM negotiations. We talk about tradition in M/s circles and how we fit in, or how we make the community work for us. Content warning: Master Don uses the term “handicapped” to refer to himself and uses it in general terms. We will have a discuss on language and the use of the term handicapped towards the end of the episode. Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a black background, there is the following text in white” Episode 20”, in grey text “As a Service to Me, They Become My Ears. A Chat with Master Don, Dai Bando” and in white text “with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is an emblem, which Master Don chose to share that includes an outer circle of white tiles on a black background, with red lines bordering it on the inside and outside, following by a second circle with a red background with white roots, following by a third inner circle, again of the white tiles in background, bordered by two thin white circles. The center is a black background with an eagle in the center surrounded by a wreath of Holly clutching a plague with the letters SPQR that has crossed lightning bolts behind it. SPQR stands for Senatus Populusque Romanus (the Senate and the Roman people). Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1s-h-0d_9bAGdp6ni9DHr4hCb_szb-0zJlogijhScs2M/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2021

In Episode 19, I wanted to talk about Surviving a Neurotypical Munch. So, I got the idea for this because I always had a hard time with social skills. I am learning more as an adult about neurodivergence and understanding why I have some learning, social and communication difficulties. I’m going to spend some time today talking about Spina Bifida and Neurodivergence, and then I’m going to move into talking about conversation skills. I will discuss a book that gives really good advice on communication and could even be helpful when you find yourself at a neurotypical munch. Some resources/other folks mentioned in the show: Spina Bifida Association, SBADV.org Follow Master_Dylan_ on Fetlife Book: The Art of Talking to Anyone, Rosalie Maggio Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the following text ”Surviving the Neurotypical Munch”, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is a stock photo of a person’s hand using a piece of chalk to draw stick figures of people with lines connecting them in a diagram on a chalk board] Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1it80aChCLUAijTHnZB-jK38k-rmpLeIajWp88o6L9VY/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

In Episode 18, we are talking about Twelve-step recovery and submission in a power exchange dynamic. Over the years, I’ve come to realize that these two separate worlds of mine, 12 step programs and M/s were really not all that different. They both have helped me to become a better person. They both helped me to become, not necessarily religious but spiritual. They both teach me about humility, obedience and service. They both teach me about power and powerlessness. My Higher Power that I chose today, is a nurturing, Loving God, not a punishing, judgement God. My Sir is a loving, nurturing Master. As I humble myself in service, to my Higher Power, and to my Sir, my anxiety and fears are removed on a daily basis. Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a yellow background, there is the following text ”12-Step Submission, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is a stock photo of a staircase with yellow steps and wooden railing.] Some resources mentioned in the show: Recovery In the Lifestyle: ritl.org AA.org The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous can be found at AA.org, bookstore OA.org CODA.org Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/188NXDUIjmNMfxC3nnTprX2a4asa12jLhneC3wgCvwcM/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

In Episode 18, we are talking about Twelve-step recovery and submission in a power exchange dynamic. Over the years, I’ve come to realize that these two separate worlds of mine, 12 step programs and M/s were really not all that different. They both have helped me to become a better person. They both helped me to become, not necessarily religious but spiritual. They both teach me about humility, obedience and service. They both teach me about power and powerlessness. My Higher Power that I chose today, is a nurturing, Loving God, not a punishing, judgement God. My Sir is a loving, nurturing Master. As I humble myself in service, to my Higher Power, and to my Sir, my anxiety and fears are removed on a daily basis. Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a yellow background, there is the following text ”12-Step Submission, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is a stock photo of a staircase with yellow steps and wooden railing.] Some resources mentioned in the show: Recovery In the Lifestyle: ritl.org AA.org The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous can be found at AA.org, bookstore OA.org CODA.org Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/188NXDUIjmNMfxC3nnTprX2a4asa12jLhneC3wgCvwcM/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

On today’s episode, I thought we’d talk about our power-exchange relationships, getting through 2020 and getting through the holiday season especially if you have experienced depression or grief during this time of year. I also wanted to talk about how we are all struggling with social distancing now as we’re coming into the holidays in 2020 with the pandemic. We will talk about the importance of maintaining your D/s dynamic at this time and how to do so. Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the following text ”D/s, Holiday Blues and a Pandemic, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is a stock photo of a snowman with a sad face.] Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1uFx5d2ILcbBR0MNtsh-dRmHnVoheQQres9pU4pDoLXk/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

In episode 16, I have the opportunity to interview Pup Star Orion. Pup Star Orion (he/his/him) is queer trans genderfluid disabled switch and leather bull terrier puppy. Originally born in Santa Ana, El Salvador, Orion was raised in East Hollywood. He is the Social Outreach Coordinator for Obsidian LA, a qtbipoc volunteer run kink and education group. Orion is the LA Pup 2020-21, happily living as an ambassador for not just human pets but trans and gender variant human pets as well. An educator, Orion teaches everything pet play, including dark pet play, and how intersectional identities affect pet spaces. He also teaches how to navigate sex and kink with disabled and chronically ill bodies through his lens as someone who lives with chronic pain. A well-known exhibitionist, when he isn’t volunteering, it’s common to find him under the boots of or attempting to take the fist of your local queer cutie. In today’s episode, Orion talks about his experiences as a QTBIPOC disabled pup, and what lead him to his identity as a puppy. He talks about accessibility in the scene for QTBIPOC and disabled folx. He’ll describe some heavy impact scenes he has enjoyed and also discusses the beauty and strength of kinky disabled folx. I cant wait for you to hear this episode. PupStarOrion can be found on Facebook, Instagram, FetLife and PuppySpace @PupStarOrion. His twitter is NSFW. Follow him to find out about his class and new social/support group called “Chronically Kinky”. If you are QTBIPOC, follow Obsidian_LA on social media or visit their website Obsidian-LA.com Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the following text ”A Chat with PupStarOrion,(he/him/his) a disabled QTBIPOC and LA Pup 2020-21, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is a photo of PupStarOrion in a leather harness with a red bandana and his collar around his neck, holding his pup mask.] Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1dty0-RKk8_QEXqFTTbTjg9tHib4iB-Fn7-VsaR4IAH0/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

In Episode 15, I thought we could talk about some Communication Do’s and Don’ts when it comes to alternative lifestyles. We are going to talk about Do’s and Don’t’s from the beginning of messaging someone on social media, to negotiating a BDSM scene, to entering a D/s relationship and lastly how to handle a D/s breakup. The television series I mention in the show is called “Love on the Spectrum” and is available on Netflix. Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a light brown background, there is the following text “Episode 15 Communication Do’s and Don’ts” Underneath is a photo of a Do and Don’ts checklist with lightbulbs surrounding it. The text “with angela car (she/her) 18+ is on the left] Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1i5x2BbRuK0XNl4uhjqEqXUb_XPA1L7RCURPfvs2pT-Y/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

In episode 14, I start off by talking openly about my feelings around being a disabled woman who has to wear adult diapers due to neurogenic bladder and bowel. Then we will focus on the topic of disability fetishes, devoteeism and disability. I will explain my thoughts and feelings on fetishes and devotees and hope you will share your thoughts about them with me. Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a light orange background, there is the following text in white letters “My Diaper is Not Sexy, but I Still Am” Underneath is a photo of a pink pair of panties next to a diaper in a dark blue background. Underneath is the text “with angela car (she/her) 18+.] Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1sa4GUN30twFnwwrYRFzUP9_KXQKlWSJvNkcM-5h1LQc/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Welcome to a new series on the podcast "Let’s talk Books!" These can be books on BDSM. These can be books on sexuality. These could be books on disability. Today’s book is going to be about all three. In this episode, I am going to discuss my favorite book on this subject. I’ve mentioned this book a few times on this show already. It is called “Kneeling in Spirit. Disabled Submissives” and it is edited by Raven Kaldera. Raven Kaldera has authored 42 books on many topics including M/s and Power Exchange, Spirituality and Disabilities. Links are below for Raven's author page on Amazon and his disability focused books through Alfred Press. Amazon link for Raven Kaldera: https://www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-text&rh=p_27%3ARaven+Kaldera&s=relevancerank&text=Raven+Kaldera&ref=dp_byline_sr_ebooks_1 https://alfredpress.com/category/disability/ Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a blue background on the left, there is the following text in white letters “Let’s Talk Books “Kneeling in Spirit, Disabled Submissives”. On the right, there is a photo of Angela sitting in a red chair reading with a purple background, with her face covered by the book cover of Kneeling in Spirit, Disabled Submissives.] Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Fj2z_4c4I-Yv4XONhQU5n3hczOOVETOWofvfxeY-xvQ/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Today I want to talk about mental health and alternative relationships, particularly talking about kink, polyamory and mental health. I will share some of the history and changes made by the American Psychological Association regarding BDSM. I will also share my thoughts and experiences around my own mental health with you and how kink and my power exchange dynamic have actually helped improve my mental health. Referenced article “BDSM versus the DSM” https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/01/bdsm-versus-the-dsm/384138/ Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a purple/blue background, there is the following text in white letters “Episode 12. Are Kinky People Mentally Ill, Angela Car, 18+”. On the right, there is a photo of a few eggs in a dish with faces painted on them showing different emotions, smiling, sad, angry, confused, shocked.] Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZ-XaEUxIBW29-4y5P1vr3ue56uJBXlMoB3iUugf-Jw/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

In Episode 11, we’re going to focus on Coming Out Kinky with Medical Professionals. We’re going to discuss the following questions. Why do we want to come out with Medical Professionals? Which Medical Professionals do we want to come out to? What are our fears or concerns about coming out? How do we go about coming out? And then What happens next? Dealing with the aftermath or what happens after we come out to our Medical Professionals. I will share my experiences of coming out with Medical Professionals with you. Please share your thoughts about this topic with me by visiting www.DISIRability.com. Here are some resources mentioned in this episode: The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom https://ncsfreedom.org The Kink Aware Professional List https://www.kapprofessionals.org/ Book recommendation: Elizabeth Ann Wood's book called Bound. https://www.amazon.com/Bound-Daughter-Domme-End-Life-ebook/dp/B07L97RMVD/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=bound+elizabeth+anne+wood&qid=1600617856&sr=8-1 Episode Cover Image: [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the following text in white letters “Episode 11. Coming Out Kinky with Medical Professionals”. On the right, there is a photo of two hands holding a EKG graph with a heart in the middle. Underneath is the 18+ symbol and text, Angela Car (she/her] Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/19Dbg7azMm3327G-_9UMWiBzYL46tA-KtHEqd47clq7E/edit?usp=sharing © DiSIRability, Angela Car 2020

In this episode, I had a great discussion with Amin Lakhani (He/Him). Amin is a comedian, writer, and disabled anti-hero. He was born with a neuromuscular condition called Charcot-Marie-Tooth syndrome, which causes his muscles to atrophy. He has used a power chair since the age of 15. He gained internet notoriety as The Dating Coach on Wheels. He now shares his life lessons & dark humor online, on podcasts and other places. He also mentions the movie “Secretary” from 2002 directed by Steven Shainberg and written by Erin Cressida Wilson, which is a must see for anyone interested in BDSM! Amin Lakhani can be found at datingcoachonwheels.com or on Instagram or Youtube at datingcoachonwheels. You will want to check out his Youtube videos. He is hilarious! Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a dark green background, there is the following text in white letters “A Chat with Amin Lakhani, (He/Him), Comedian and Disabled Anti-Hero. 18+”. On the right, there is a photo of Amin, a man in a power wheelchair and green in shirt in front of French chateau with green shutters.] Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1KdqYTBBsSeGXxcCuzD4onaQmFW-oNh3t8lDsiBYfnss/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Episode 9 Description For today’s episode, we’re going to talk about a difficult topic. Most shows on alternative relationships talk about the fun aspects. Today, we are going to talk about something that many long-term alternative relationships will face at some point. Today, we are going to address caretaking, grief and loss. Join Angela Car as she shares her story of changing caretaking roles, and shares her experience with grief and anticipatory grief. Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a tan background, there is the writing “Caretaking, Grief and Loss”. On the left-hand side, there is the text: in Alt relationships. With angela car [she/her] 18+. On the right, there is a photo of Angela’s memorial tattoo which states “In this life and all hereafter”, which were in her husband’s wedding vows to her.] Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1u0aBV1z9sLQhawuhfDY5zHeAkhmWvZyUoLBHqxM9UMA/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Welcome back! For today’s episode, we’re going to talk about vulnerability and transparency in alternative relationships. We’ll talk about communication, opening up to new partners, or “peeling back the layers of the onion”. We’ll share about baggage that we bring with us to our relationships, and we explore the question “How do we talk with our partners about our disability and our medical issues?”. I mention the author Brene Brown in this podcast and I highly suggest reading her work on vulnerability. You can find her Ted Talk on the Power of Vulnerability and numerous books on the topic including Dare to Lead which is mentioned in this episode. Episode Cover Image [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a light purple background, there is the writing “Peeling Back Your Layers. On the left-hand side, there is the text: Transparency and Vulnerability in ALT Relationships. 18+. On the right, there is a photo of the layers on an onion in the shape of a human head. Under the photo it states “Angela Car (she/her)”.] Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1L_OQNbuY_kugBNYAE0quP3YSK_P2gCLzLhi-v2ajfWg/edit?usp=sharing ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Join me in this episode where I will discuss my journey into a 24/7 total power exchange dynamic on the right side of the slash. I will discuss rituals and protocols that have made me feel safe in my dynamic with my Sir. Content warning: The terms Master and slave will be used in this episode. I will explain what they mean to me in my power exchange dynamic. Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PoCSXg1qUF0RGLMnkzYVwxn4RirRsJ4ZUfzzjv9teao/edit?usp=sharing [Image description: DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a black background, there is the writing “He leads and i follow, M/s, TPE and Disability. There is a photo of a scarf I crocheted of the M/s flag. Under the photo it states “Angela Car [she/her] 18+". ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

I am excited to be interviewing my first guest! My co-host today is my friend Allie Phelan who is the Polyamorous Librarian! I have known Allie for several years since I started going to poly meetups. I started off thinking this would be Poly 101 discussion but listening to Allie, I learned some new things that I had never considered. Allie talked about shared language, words and their meanings, the importance of community, jealousy and compersion and coming out as polyamorous. Enjoy this episode! Allie mentions this book in the episode: “It’s called Polyamory. Coming Out About Your Non-Monogamous Relationships” by Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles, Thorntree Press. Avaiable on Amazon. You can find Allie's wordpress site here: https://polyamorouslibrarian.wordpress.com/. You can also connect with her on Facebook or @HelloLibrarian on Twitter. Go to disirability.com to answer today's question posted at the end of the episode. Don't forget to subscribe and come back for Episode 5 which will air on June 29, 2020! You can connect with Angela Car at disirability@gmail.com. Connect on social media @DISIRability. Please rate and review this podcast so that others can find it! Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/16kES_hH2fDJxmOyhKdHnjaU6Zhj4jTVi2O7183QyX38/edit?usp=sharing [Image description: DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the writing to the left, "A Chat with the Polyamorous Librarian" There is a black and white photo of Allie Phelan looking up on the right. Above the photo is the description "Allie Phelan, (she/her)". On the left bottom corner it states “Angela Car [she/her] 18+". ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

In episode 5 we'll talk about accessing BDSM play, safely, with a disability. We will talk about safety, before, during and after the scene. I will share about the first BDSM scene I participated in, then share about the types of play I enjoy and what accommodations I need in order to participate in play. Here are some links mentioned in the podcast. Consent Fries link https://plannedparenthood.tumblr.com/post/148506806862/understanding-consent-is-as-easy-as-fries-consent National Coalition on Sexual Freedom ncsfreedom.org Go to disirability.com to answer today's question posted at the end of the episode. Don't forget to subscribe and come back for Episode 5 which will air on June 29, 2020! You can connect with Angela Car at disirability@gmail.com. Connect on social media @DISIRability. Pleave rate and review this podcast so that others can find it! Follow this link for full transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/14Q9hFBY9OXHjJwjFjN8cpIZoqDn2B60155trsAfGkrw/edit?usp=sharing [Image description: DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a light orange background, there is the writing in red letters: Episode 5 “A Pain that I Choose." There is a photo of a black flogger in a white background underneath. In black letters it says "Accessing BDSM" above the picture. In the middle, it states “Angela Car [she/her] 18+" in red letters. ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Happy Pride Month! In episode 4, we will talk about respecting other's identity and creating safe spaces. I identify as queer, disabled and kinky and I will tell you my coming out story. I will also discuss how to welcome newcomers in the kink scene who may be queer or disabled. Language, pronouns and disability etiquette will be discussed to help event organizers become more inclusive. Go to disirability.com to answer today's question posted at the end of the episode. Don't forget to subscribe and come back for Episode 5 which will air on June 29, 2020! You can connect with Angela Car at disirability@gmail.com. Connect on social media @DISIRability. Pleave rate and review this podcast so that others can find it! Follow this link for full transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Xr9KJNtMgGj_h9lqavR5-l6bgxSQnONuUiGjqT492AI/edit?usp=sharing [Image description: DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. ALT written in black underneath. Background underneath is the rainbow colors. On the left there is the writing "Angela Car [she/her] 18+", Image on the right is a white square with green writing: "Episode 4: Queer, Disabled and Kinky"] ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

In this episode, I will discuss my experience coming into the kink scene in Philadelphia, PA. I will discuss who I was before entering the scene and who I am today. Myths about people with disabiltiies and sex as well as kink will be debunked. Go to disirability.com to answer today's question posted at the end of the episode. Don't forget to subscribe and come back for Episode 3! You can connect with Angela Car at disirability@gmail.com. Connect on social media @DISIRability. Leave a review for this podcast wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow this link for transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1m9N34mJ-fF7m21CyjEFw0URYbVSCP-ir50ez8f3sTxE/edit?usp=sharing [Image description: DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. ALT written in black underneath. Image on the left underneath in red background states in white letters "Imagine a Woman You Meet in a Dungeon" Angela Car [she/her] 18+, image on the right is a photo of me from a Kink Event standing with my crutch in a red dress with white polkadots. An event ID badge is around my neck] ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Join angela car (she/her) for this trailer of DISIRabilityALT as she describes the acceptance she found, as a disabled woman when she entered the kink scene in Philadelphia, PA. angela shares a unique perspective as a woman born with Spina Bifida as she explores polyamory, bdsm and power exchange relationships. You can connect with Angela Car at disirability@gmail.com. Connect on social media @DISIRability. Leave a review for this podcast wherever you listen to podcasts. Go to disirability.com to answer today's question posted at the end of the episode. Don't forget to subscribe and come back for Episode 2! Follow this link for transcription https://docs.google.com/document/d/1ZyIcVJRzAMUv_Z1FZIL0zEY-7_7HHfvh9nmNSifFea0/edit?usp=sharing [Image description: DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. ALT written in black underneath. Image on the left underneath in light orange background, states in white letters "What did I find when I entered the Kink Community?" Angela Car [she/her] 18+, image on the right is a photo of my arm with a tattoo of a tea cup with the saying "I am enough", while holding onto my crutch.] ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

In episode three, you will get a deeper look into my vanilla dating life and relationships. I will discuss improving my self-esteem, flirting and how to meet potential partners. I will address how Spina Bifida affects my sex life. I will talk about mistakes I have made in the past and what I learned from them. Go to disirability.com to answer today's question posted at the end of the episode. Don't forget to subscribe and come back for Episode 4 which will be coming June 15, 2020! You can connect with Angela Car at disirability@gmail.com. Connect on social media @DISIRability. Leave a review for this podcast wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow this link for full and complete transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1G58TgHx0ZZaZ-7bArunrdqkcpT2fUXnFwKtkAC4oKTE/edit?usp=sharing [Image description: DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. ALT written in black underneath. Image on the left underneath in light orange background states in black letters "My Problem was I Thought Being Sexy Meant Not Being Disabled?" Angela Car [she/her] 18+, image on the right is a photo of me standing with my crutches wearing a black sweater over a red shirt and black pants. I am outside surrounded by trees. I have a handbag strapped arround my waist.] ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020