Podcast appearances and mentions of tamara pincus

Send us a textHiatus Week 13: Playlist About Advocacy and Relationship Diversity, Exploring Intersectionality, Justice, and Representation Even while I'm taking some time off, I want to continue showing up for you and pursuing my passion, which is to help people break free from societal norms and rethink everything they know about relationships. I truly believe there's a new paradigm for relationships being birthed, one grounded in the concept and foundations of relationship diversity.So, to keep the conversations alive, I've taken a look back at my two years of episodes and noticed some exciting themes emerging. Each week, during my hiatus, I'll post a specially curated playlist of episodes centered on a specific topic. Then you'll find links to those episodes in the show notes to help you dive deeper into areas that might resonate with where you are in your journey.Let's continue exploring, growing, and embracing the expansiveness of relationship diversity together. This week's special playlist focuses on the theme of advocacy and relationship diversity. Featured episodes include conversations with experts like Tamara Pincus on fat justice and self-acceptance, Dr. Christopher Smith on race and non-monogamy, Brett Chamberlain on advocacy for non-monogamous families, Dr. Baddie on decolonizing relationships for BIPOC individuals, and Michelle Hy on the political nature of relationships. Each episode dives into critical discussions about intersectionality, justice, and representation in various relationship structures.Episodes in this playlist:Episode 67: Exploring Relationship Diversity, Fat Justice, and Self-Acceptance with Tamara PincusEpisode 99: The Intersectionality of Race and Non-Monogamy with Dr. Christopher Smith Episode 104: Advocacy and Support for Non-Monogamy with Brett Chamberlain, Executive Director for OPENEpisode 114: Decolonizing Relationships: BIPOC Perspectives with Dr. Badiee, PolyTherapistEpisode 117: Relationships are Political with Michelle Hy, Polyamorous While AsianThis is Relationships Reimagined.Join the conversation as we dive into a new paradigm of conscious, intentional and diverse relationships. ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️Get Your Free Relationship Diversity GuideConnect with me:YouTubeInstagramWebsiteGet my book, “Why Do They Always Break Up with Me? The Ultimate Support the show Please note: I am not a doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, counselor, or social worker. I am not attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental, or emotional issue, disease, or condition. The information provided in or through my podcast is not intended to be a substitute for the professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment provided by your own Medical Provider or Mental Health Provider. Always seek the advice of your own Medical Provider and/or Mental Health Provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your specific circumstance.

Today Asher is joined by Tamara Pincus, a licensed clinical social worker and AASECT certified sex therapist, with a specialty in working with kinky, polyamorous and LGBTQIA+ clients. She runs the Pincus Centre for Inclusive Treatment and Education in Washington, DC. They specialized in sex therapy and relationship counseling, as well as coaching, support groups, one-off workshops, multi-session sex and relationship classes, and accessible web resources. Tamara and Asher discuss sex through a fat positive, trauma informed and social justice lens. In true Asher style, there was little to no preparation before he hit record so be prepared for it to get a little messy at times.You can find all about Tamara and the Pincus Centre on the website Visit Asher's webiste and check out all his FREE RESOURCES. You can also book a consultation, join a course, find out about upcoming events, or join their exclusive online community The Weighting Room. If you enjoy this podcast and would like to support Asher so that he can continue making them, you can become a Patron. You'll find Asher on all the usual social media channels including Instagram, YouTube and Tik Tok.

On today's episode, we have licensed clinical social worker and certified sex therapist, Tamara Pincus (She/Her) join us for a conversation about celebrating sexual pleasure. Together we talk about sex and spirituality, being considered "too" much, and questioning the narratives of authority. If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.modernanarchypodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : ⁠⁠www.modernanarchypodcast.com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : ⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Tamara's Community: Tamara Pincus LICSW CST is a certified sex therapist who runs a practice providing therapy, coaching and sex education for primarily kinky, poly and LGBTQIA clients. Website : Www.tamarapincus.com Resources to Learn More: Pleasure Activism : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781849353267 Just say no' didn't actually protect students from drugs : https://www.npr.org/2023/11/09/1211217460/fentanyl-drug-education-dare What is Sexological Bodywork : https://sexologicalbodyworkers.org/whatis

Episode 067:Exploring Relationship Diversity, Fat Justice, and Self-Acceptance with Tamara In today's episode, I have the honor of talking with Tamara Pincus, a licensed clinical social worker, certified sex therapist, and a fierce advocate for racial justice, fat justice, and LGBTQ rights. Our enlightening conversation journeys into the heart of relationship diversity, discussing Tamara's work with LGBTQ and non-monogamous individuals and the intriguing convergence of fat liberation and relationship variations. Prepare to broaden your understanding of relationship diversity, and learn how to appreciate and love yourself as you are.Ever wondered about the rise of polyamory and diverse relationships? Tamara discusses the importance of open conversations about ethical non-monogamy and the necessity for personal growth and creative problem-solving in meeting our needs. We delve into how societal perceptions on relationships are evolving, particularly among the younger generations, and the potential benefits of exploring non-monogamous relationships. Finally, we tackle the critical topic of body acceptance, discussing the power of reclaiming the term 'fat'. Tamara sheds light on how fat justice is tied with releasing shame and promoting self-love, reinforcing the need to make peace with our bodies. We underline the significance of self-acceptance and love in fostering deeper connections with others, a crucial aspect of relationship diversity. This is Relationships Reimagined.Connect with Tamara | Buy Her Book Pleasure Activism by Adrienne Maree Brown✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️Get Your Free Relationship Diversity Guidewww.relationshipdiversitypodcast.comInstagramTikTokWebsite Get my book, “Why Do They Always Break Up with Me? The Ultimate Guide to Overcome Heartbreak for Good”Podcast Music by Zachariah HickmanSupport the show Please note: I am not a doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, counselor, or social worker. I am not attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental, or emotional issue, disease, or condition. The information provided in or through my podcast is not intended to be a substitute for the professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment provided by your own Medical Provider or Mental Health Provider. Always seek the advice of your own Medical Provider and/or Mental Health Provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your specific circumstance.

Tamara is a licensed clinical social worker and AASECT certified sex therapist who runs a private practice in the Washington DC area. She specializes in working with kinky, polyamorous and LGBTQ clients. Tamara has been working in the field of sex therapy since 2011 and since then has built a practice with a team of 8 who do individual and relationship therapy as well as educational events. Tamara is passionate about racial justice, fat justice and LGBTQ rights. She also co-authored a book titled "It's Called Polyamory: Coming Out About Your Non-Monogamous Relationships" with Rebecca Hiles. She lives in Virginia with her husband, his girlfriend, all of their kids, 2 dogs, 2 cats and 2 snakes.Learn more about Tamara and her work:https://www.tamarapincus.com/Follow her on  social media:InstagramTwitterFacebookLinkedInCheck out her upcoming events:6 week class on ethical non-monogamy starting March 1stTuesdays running March 1 – April 5, 2022 from 7 PM – 8:30 PM$360 for the series in-person/$240 for the series as a virtual participant (class topic only, does not include discussion time)--Listeners of The Robin Smith Show can now join our Kiva Lending Team and help us in our effort to bring more good into being. Join Team Robley on Kiva!

Let's talk about sex. And sexual identity. And a customarily taboo subject in usual cocktail conversations, or any other: polyamory.  My guest is Tamara Pincus, a sex therapist and licensed social worker in Washington, D.C. who specializes in alternative sexuality counseling. But she's not only advising the poly and poly-curious, she's living a polyamorous lifestyle herself. Grab your cocktail and press play.  #BottomsUp You can always reach me at davecatanese@gmail.com with comments, critiques and guest suggestions.

I am excited to be interviewing my first guest! My co-host today is my friend Allie Phelan who is the Polyamorous Librarian! I have known Allie for several years since I started going to poly meetups. I started off thinking this would be Poly 101 discussion but listening to Allie, I learned some new things that I had never considered. Allie talked about shared language, words and their meanings, the importance of community, jealousy and compersion and coming out as polyamorous. Enjoy this episode! Allie mentions this book in the episode: “It’s called Polyamory. Coming Out About Your Non-Monogamous Relationships” by Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles, Thorntree Press. Avaiable on Amazon. You can find Allie's wordpress site here: https://polyamorouslibrarian.wordpress.com/. You can also connect with her on Facebook or @HelloLibrarian on Twitter. Go to disirability.com to answer today's question posted at the end of the episode. Don't forget to subscribe and come back for Episode 5 which will air on June 29, 2020! You can connect with Angela Car at disirability@gmail.com. Connect on social media @DISIRability. Please rate and review this podcast so that others can find it! Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/16kES_hH2fDJxmOyhKdHnjaU6Zhj4jTVi2O7183QyX38/edit?usp=sharing [Image description: DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the writing to the left, "A Chat with the Polyamorous Librarian" There is a black and white photo of Allie Phelan looking up on the right. Above the photo is the description "Allie Phelan, (she/her)". On the left bottom corner it states “Angela Car [she/her] 18+". ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

My guest today is Tamara Pincus, who is an AASECT certified sex therapist, an advocate for BDSM and polyamory, and an overall celebrator of the diverse BDSM community. In this episode, she breaks down the fundamentals of BDSM, gives advice on how to start and practice safely, as well as talks about trauma and dissociation and other important topics. As she reminds us, BDSM is really common, so if you're just getting started, curious, indifferent, or have been practicing for many years, this episode is for you. Enjoy! What is BDSM? Tamara says that the four letters stand for bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism. This essentially means tying your partner up, having power over another, sometimes utilizing pain, and things of that nature. She says that a lot of typical intercourse can be seen as versions of BDSM, given that there is usually a power dynamic at play. This can be considered an offshoot of BDSM – meaning that intercourse can be seen as a continuum of sorts on the BDSM spectrum. She says that role-play can also fall within the same category. For more on her BDSM ideas, listen in! BDSM for Healing from Trauma Tamara says that BDSM can actually lead to breakthroughs in sexual trauma. Someone who has experienced a specific kind of sexual trauma can claim and have mastery over their trauma through a BDSM act. Tamara says that healing can occur if the trauma victim feels better emotionally or experiences positive feelings afterward. When asked how sexual partners can engage in BDSM in a safe, non-intimidating way, she says that it's important to have a safe word or safe signal, as well as make sure there is agreed-upon consent between all participants. She also makes the good point that couples should get kink training and be cognizant about health conditions before doing rope play or breath play, and various other activities of the same category. To find a local dungeon or similar setting where you can learn these techniques, Tamara says to make sure you check out https://fetlife.com/. The “Top” and “Bottom” Dynamic Tamara says there's generally two distinct dynamics at play during any BDSM proceeding: the bottom and the top. The top is the dominant player, while the bottom is the receiver. There can be a flexible interplay of differing power dynamics as the top can also function as the bottom at the same time. Tamara makes it a point to remind listeners that the top needs to be completely aware of the wellbeing of the bottom given that dissociation can happen. After all, a lot of the draw of BDSM comes from the fantastical aspects of the act, so altered mental states are common. Legitimate BDSM Versus The “Fifty Shades” Version Tamara says that one of the biggest mistakes of Fifty Shades of Gray is that it doesn't understand the concept of non-concordance. This basically means that just because something turns you on physically doesn't mean you're emotionally turned on as well. Basically, your body is not lining up with your mind in this instance. How to Start & What to do if a Partner Isn't Into BDSM She suggests a few books that you can find below in the “key links” section, as well as the aforementioned FetLife community. She suggests being careful, using the right equipment, make sure you have ways of getting out of any equipment, and having open conversations about boundaries and consent with your partner. For those who have partners who are not into BDSM, she says that you need to have frank conversations about likes and desires. She says that you can try and fight your sexuality, but it might be a losing battle. It's best to explore options with your partner and see if there are compromises that can be made. Communicating about expectations is important! Key Links for Tamara: Her website: https://www.tamarapincus.com/ The social network for BDSM and Kink communities: https://fetlife.com/ Affiliate links for her book: It's Called Polyamory The New Bottoming & The New Topping Yes-N0-Maybe Kinky List: http://www.thatotherpaper.com/files/Yes_No_Maybe.pdf Worksheet For Talking to Partners About Sex: https://www.autostraddle.com/you-need-help-here-is-a-worksheet-to-help-you-talk-to-partners-about-sex-237385/ RoughBSAndKinky: http://sunnymegatron.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/ROUGH-BS-1.pdf More info: Link to the free guide – Talking About Sex: http://bettersexpodcast.com/talk Join my email list here: http://bettersexpodcast.com/list Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.com Web – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/ Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/ If you're enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcast Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/More info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

My guest today is Tamara Pincus, who is an AASECT certified sex therapist, an advocate for BDSM and polyamory, and an overall celebrator of the diverse BDSM community. In this episode, she breaks down the fundamentals of BDSM, gives advice on how to start and practice safely, as well as talks about trauma and dissociation and other important topics. As she reminds us, BDSM is really common, so if you’re just getting started, curious, indifferent, or have been practicing for many years, this episode is for you. Enjoy! What is BDSM? Tamara says that the four letters stand for bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism. This essentially means tying your partner up, having power over another, sometimes utilizing pain, and things of that nature. She says that a lot of typical intercourse can be seen as versions of BDSM, given that there is usually a power dynamic at play. This can be considered an offshoot of BDSM – meaning that intercourse can be seen as a continuum of sorts on the BDSM spectrum. She says that role-play can also fall within the same category. For more on her BDSM ideas, listen in! BDSM for Healing from Trauma Tamara says that BDSM can actually lead to breakthroughs in sexual trauma. Someone who has experienced a specific kind of sexual trauma can claim and have mastery over their trauma through a BDSM act. Tamara says that healing can occur if the trauma victim feels better emotionally or experiences positive feelings afterward. When asked how sexual partners can engage in BDSM in a safe, non-intimidating way, she says that it’s important to have a safe word or safe signal, as well as make sure there is agreed-upon consent between all participants. She also makes the good point that couples should get kink training and be cognizant about health conditions before doing rope play or breath play, and various other activities of the same category. To find a local dungeon or similar setting where you can learn these techniques, Tamara says to make sure you check out https://fetlife.com/. The “Top” and “Bottom” Dynamic Tamara says there’s generally two distinct dynamics at play during any BDSM proceeding: the bottom and the top. The top is the dominant player, while the bottom is the receiver. There can be a flexible interplay of differing power dynamics as the top can also function as the bottom at the same time. Tamara makes it a point to remind listeners that the top needs to be completely aware of the wellbeing of the bottom given that dissociation can happen. After all, a lot of the draw of BDSM comes from the fantastical aspects of the act, so altered mental states are common. Legitimate BDSM Versus The “Fifty Shades” Version Tamara says that one of the biggest mistakes of Fifty Shades of Gray is that it doesn’t understand the concept of non-concordance. This basically means that just because something turns you on physically doesn’t mean you’re emotionally turned on as well. Basically, your body is not lining up with your mind in this instance. How to Start & What to do if a Partner Isn’t Into BDSM She suggests a few books that you can find below in the “key links” section, as well as the aforementioned FetLife community. She suggests being careful, using the right equipment, make sure you have ways of getting out of any equipment, and having open conversations about boundaries and consent with your partner. For those who have partners who are not into BDSM, she says that you need to have frank conversations about likes and desires. She says that you can try and fight your sexuality, but it might be a losing battle. It’s best to explore options with your partner and see if there are compromises that can be made. Communicating about expectations is important! Key Links for Tamara: Her website: https://www.tamarapincus.com/ The social network for BDSM and Kink communities: https://fetlife.com/ Affiliate links for her book: It’s Called Polyamory The New Bottoming & The New Topping Yes-N0-Maybe Kinky List: http://www.thatotherpaper.com/files/Yes_No_Maybe.pdf Worksheet For Talking to Partners About Sex: https://www.autostraddle.com/you-need-help-here-is-a-worksheet-to-help-you-talk-to-partners-about-sex-237385/ RoughBSAndKinky: http://sunnymegatron.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/ROUGH-BS-1.pdf More info:Link to the free guide – Talking About Sex: http://bettersexpodcast.com/talkJoin my email list here: http://bettersexpodcast.com/listBook and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/

My guest today is Tamara Pincus, who is an AASECT certified sex therapist, an advocate for BDSM and polyamory, and an overall celebrator of the diverse BDSM community. In this episode, she breaks down the fundamentals of BDSM, gives advice on how to start and practice safely, as well as talks about trauma and dissociation and other important topics. As she reminds us, BDSM is really common, so if you’re just getting started, curious, indifferent, or have been practicing for many years, this episode is for you. Enjoy! What is BDSM? Tamara says that the four letters stand for bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism. This essentially means tying your partner up, having power over another, sometimes utilizing pain, and things of that nature. She says that a lot of typical intercourse can be seen as versions of BDSM, given that there is usually a power dynamic at play. This can be considered an offshoot of BDSM – meaning that intercourse can be seen as a continuum of sorts on the BDSM spectrum. She says that role-play can also fall within the same category. For more on her BDSM ideas, listen in! BDSM for Healing from Trauma Tamara says that BDSM can actually lead to breakthroughs in sexual trauma. Someone who has experienced a specific kind of sexual trauma can claim and have mastery over their trauma through a BDSM act. Tamara says that healing can occur if the trauma victim feels better emotionally or experiences positive feelings afterward. When asked how sexual partners can engage in BDSM in a safe, non-intimidating way, she says that it’s important to have a safe word or safe signal, as well as make sure there is agreed-upon consent between all participants. She also makes the good point that couples should get kink training and be cognizant about health conditions before doing rope play or breath play, and various other activities of the same category. To find a local dungeon or similar setting where you can learn these techniques, Tamara says to make sure you check out https://fetlife.com/. The “Top” and “Bottom” Dynamic Tamara says there’s generally two distinct dynamics at play during any BDSM proceeding: the bottom and the top. The top is the dominant player, while the bottom is the receiver. There can be a flexible interplay of differing power dynamics as the top can also function as the bottom at the same time. Tamara makes it a point to remind listeners that the top needs to be completely aware of the wellbeing of the bottom given that dissociation can happen. After all, a lot of the draw of BDSM comes from the fantastical aspects of the act, so altered mental states are common. Legitimate BDSM Versus The “Fifty Shades” Version Tamara says that one of the biggest mistakes of Fifty Shades of Gray is that it doesn’t understand the concept of non-concordance. This basically means that just because something turns you on physically doesn’t mean you’re emotionally turned on as well. Basically, your body is not lining up with your mind in this instance. How to Start & What to do if a Partner Isn’t Into BDSM She suggests a few books that you can find below in the “key links” section, as well as the aforementioned FetLife community. She suggests being careful, using the right equipment, make sure you have ways of getting out of any equipment, and having open conversations about boundaries and consent with your partner. For those who have partners who are not into BDSM, she says that you need to have frank conversations about likes and desires. She says that you can try and fight your sexuality, but it might be a losing battle. It’s best to explore options with your partner and see if there are compromises that can be made. Communicating about expectations is important! Key Links for Tamara: Her website: https://www.tamarapincus.com/ The social network for BDSM and Kink communities: https://fetlife.com/ Affiliate links for her book: It’s Called Polyamory The New Bottoming & The New Topping Yes-N0-Maybe Kinky List: http://www.thatotherpaper.com/files/Yes_No_Maybe.pdf Worksheet For Talking to Partners About Sex: https://www.autostraddle.com/you-need-help-here-is-a-worksheet-to-help-you-talk-to-partners-about-sex-237385/ RoughBSAndKinky: http://sunnymegatron.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/ROUGH-BS-1.pdf More info:Link to the free guide – Talking About Sex: http://bettersexpodcast.com/talkJoin my email list here: http://bettersexpodcast.com/listBook and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/

My guest today is Tamara Pincus, who is an AASECT certified sex therapist, an advocate for BDSM and polyamory, and an overall celebrator of the diverse BDSM community. In this episode, she breaks down the fundamentals of BDSM, gives advice on how to start and practice safely, as well as talks about trauma and dissociation and other important topics. As she reminds us, BDSM is really common, so if you’re just getting started, curious, indifferent, or have been practicing for many years, this episode is for you. Enjoy! What is BDSM? Tamara says that the four letters stand for bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism. This essentially means tying your partner up, having power over another, sometimes utilizing pain, and things of that nature. She says that a lot of typical intercourse can be seen as versions of BDSM, given that there is usually a power dynamic at play. This can be considered an offshoot of BDSM – meaning that intercourse can be seen as a continuum of sorts on the BDSM spectrum. She says that role-play can also fall within the same category. For more on her BDSM ideas, listen in! BDSM for Healing from Trauma Tamara says that BDSM can actually lead to breakthroughs in sexual trauma. Someone who has experienced a specific kind of sexual trauma can claim and have mastery over their trauma through a BDSM act. Tamara says that healing can occur if the trauma victim feels better emotionally or experiences positive feelings afterward. When asked how sexual partners can engage in BDSM in a safe, non-intimidating way, she says that it’s important to have a safe word or safe signal, as well as make sure there is agreed-upon consent between all participants. She also makes the good point that couples should get kink training and be cognizant about health conditions before doing rope play or breath play, and various other activities of the same category. To find a local dungeon or similar setting where you can learn these techniques, Tamara says to make sure you check out https://fetlife.com/. The “Top” and “Bottom” Dynamic Tamara says there’s generally two distinct dynamics at play during any BDSM proceeding: the bottom and the top. The top is the dominant player, while the bottom is the receiver. There can be a flexible interplay of differing power dynamics as the top can also function as the bottom at the same time. Tamara makes it a point to remind listeners that the top needs to be completely aware of the wellbeing of the bottom given that dissociation can happen. After all, a lot of the draw of BDSM comes from the fantastical aspects of the act, so altered mental states are common. Legitimate BDSM Versus The “Fifty Shades” Version Tamara says that one of the biggest mistakes of Fifty Shades of Gray is that it doesn’t understand the concept of non-concordance. This basically means that just because something turns you on physically doesn’t mean you’re emotionally turned on as well. Basically, your body is not lining up with your mind in this instance. How to Start & What to do if a Partner Isn’t Into BDSM She suggests a few books that you can find below in the “key links” section, as well as the aforementioned FetLife community. She suggests being careful, using the right equipment, make sure you have ways of getting out of any equipment, and having open conversations about boundaries and consent with your partner. For those who have partners who are not into BDSM, she says that you need to have frank conversations about likes and desires. She says that you can try and fight your sexuality, but it might be a losing battle. It’s best to explore options with your partner and see if there are compromises that can be made. Communicating about expectations is important! Key Links for Tamara: Her website: https://www.tamarapincus.com/ The social network for BDSM and Kink communities: https://fetlife.com/ Affiliate links for her book: It’s Called Polyamory The New Bottoming & The New Topping Yes-N0-Maybe Kinky List: http://www.thatotherpaper.com/files/Yes_No_Maybe.pdf Worksheet For Talking to Partners About Sex: https://www.autostraddle.com/you-need-help-here-is-a-worksheet-to-help-you-talk-to-partners-about-sex-237385/ RoughBSAndKinky: http://sunnymegatron.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/ROUGH-BS-1.pdf More info:Link to the free guide – Talking About Sex: http://bettersexpodcast.com/talkJoin my email list here: http://bettersexpodcast.com/listBook and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/

In today’s show, Dr. Chris Donaghue opened it up with some hot topics. He then started to talk about forms of non-monogamy and then brought on Shira Lazar from Let’s Go There to speak on this. After Shira, we had Tamara Pincus on with us, a licensed psychotherapist, to speak on non-monogamy. She and Dr. Chris dropped some great gems on these. Dr. Chris then brought in Virgie Tovar, a body-positive author, and activist on to talk on body positivity and dating while fat. He also answered your freak on the street questions. Dr. Chris then read your responses to the question of the night, “what’s an interesting sex fact that you’ve learned.” He also answered some of your love sex and relationship questions.

Tuesdays, 9 pm Eastern, 6 pm Pacific: "Leading Edge Love," host Sumati Sparks: This week, her guest is Tamara Pincus, Licensed Social Worker, Sex Therapist & Author (www.tamarapincus.com). Sumati Sparks, The Open Relationship Coach, (www.SumatiSparks.com) offers coaching sessions via video conferencing, telephone or in person in the San Francisco Bay Area. SUMATI WORKS WITH: • Professional Married Men & Women who have little or no intimacy in their long-term relationship. • Single or Divorced People who do not wish to have another traditional relationship. • Couples who want to successfully open their relationship. • Singles & Couples who don’t know where to find other polyamorous people to meet & date. • Heterosexual as well as Queer, Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Transgender, Intersex & Questioning Persons. COMMON CHALLENGES HER CLIENT'S FACE: • Frustrated and fed up with the loss of vitality that comes from being in a relationship with no intimacy. • Feeling like their partner would never go for it. • Confused, nervous and a little scared about how to open their relationship. • No idea where to meet other polyamorous people to potentially date. • Eager and hopeful but want to do it right. WHAT SHE DOES FOR HER CLIENTS: • Get CLEAR about what they want. • PREPARE to ask their partner for it, then SPEAK THEIR TRUTH. • CREATE the relationship of their wildest dreams. • Have FUN in the process. HOW SUMATI SERVES HER CLIENTS: With her signature program called:   ADDING MORE LOVE, PASSION & JOY!

Want to work with me? Join the July cohort of the Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and pre-enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. My coaching practice has a few new spots available. If you could use support around the places where you feel most stuck, I'd love to support you. Details about my coaching practice are here: dawnserra.com/work-with-me . In a Sex Gets Real first, this episode is Part Three of a THREE part series featuring Eve Rickert, Samantha Manewitz, and Aida Manduley. This episode is my conversation with therapist Aida Manduley. In it, we are building on the previous two episodes which included a conversation with Eve Rickert and Samantha Manewitz as we explore emotional abuse, accountability, and different ways of being in community with each other. Aida has been a part of several transformative justice processes and has tremendous perspective around how we can center those harmed without throwing out those who caused the harm. We also talk about how white supremacy impacts the ways we show up in life, the false promises made to cis men, and why grief work is crucial to alternative justice practices and accountability. We dive into why communities are where we should start when we're considering how harm happened in the first place and why we all need to adjust our expectations for how long these processes take. It's not a superhero movie where everything is resolved with one fell swoop. I cannot wait for you to hear this awesome conversation, and as noted in the other episodes, your financial help for the survivor pod would mean so much. Resources mentioned in this episode include: Initial statement on February 11th Update on March 25th Tracking spreadsheet where you can find most of the documents, updates, and conversations happening Survivor pod PayPal where you can donate some money (PLEASE DO THIS) to support the process If you've been accused of consent violations or harm, this piece by Tamara Pincus is a good place to start. Patreon supporters - head to patreon.com/sgrpodcast to hear my bonus chat with Aida Manduley on what helps and what hinders accountability processes. If you aren't a supporter, I'd love your financial support to help keep the show going. If you pledge $3 per month, you get access to exclusive weekly bonus content and if you support at $5 per month and above, you can help me field listener questions. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Aida Manduley: Aida Manduley is an award-winning Latinx activist, international presenter, and trauma-focused clinician known for big earrings and building bridges. Trained as a sexuality educator, social worker, and nonprofit management professional, they’re* working to make the word a more equitable place through education, therapy, and community organizing. Their perspective centers intersectionality and maximizing kindness, while retaining both a sense of humor and a sense of justice. From The New York Times to The Rainbow Times, Mx. Manduley has been interviewed by a variety of media outlets. They were even brought on for a debate on the Laura Ingraham show—a popular conservative radio program—and lived to tell the tale. You can follow them on Twitter (@neuronbomb) or Instagram (@aidamanduley), like their page on Facebook, sign up for their newsletter (debuting September 2018), stay tuned to what books they’re nerding out with, and/or get more information about their professional accomplishments via LinkedIn. Grab the episode transcript at http://sexgetsreal.com/ep263

Want to work with me? Join the July cohort of the Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and pre-enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. In a Sex Gets Real first, this episode is Part Two of a THREE part series featuring Eve Rickert, Samantha Manewitz, and Aida Manduley. This episode is my conversation with therapist Samantha Manewitz. We build on the conversation I had with Eve Rickert in Episode 261, exploring emotional abuse and gaslighting in relationships. One of the things Samantha stresses in this conversation is how normalized gaslighting is in the world right now. We have the highest levels of power (the US President) gaslighting an entire nation, and none of us are immune. We also explore some things that help reveal behaviors that might lead to emotional abuse and what one word can change the way we enter into relationships. This is an important and powerful conversation about how subtle emotional abuse can be, and how to look out for DARVO which is how emotional abusers position themselves as the victim. The survivor pod resources mentioned in this episode include: Initial statement on February 11th Update on March 25th Tracking spreadsheet where you can find most of the documents, updates, and conversations happening Survivor pod PayPal where you can donate some money (PLEASE DO THIS) to support the process If you've been accused of consent violations or harm, this piece by Tamara Pincus is a good place to start. Patreon supporters - head to patreon.com/sgrpodcast to grab your bonus content this week which includes a little PDF of the questions Samantha offered around helping to figure out if we're being gaslit, plus a few bonus minutes of our conversation AND an embodiment exercise that can help us arrive in the body in a gentle way. If you aren't a supporter, I'd love your financial support to help keep the show going. If you pledge $3 per month, you get access to exclusive weekly bonus content and if you support at $5 per month and above, you can help me field listener questions. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Samantha Manewitz: Samantha Manewitz, LICSW CST, is an educator and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She has trained mental health professionals, sex educators, and alt-sex communities on healthy communication, abuse prevention, and mental health in BDSM. Samantha was a featured presenter at multiple conferences, including CatalystCon West, American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities, and the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit. Among her therapeutic specialties are trauma (complex PTSD), sex therapy, couples therapy (level 2 Gottman trained), and gender affirming care for transgender/non binary clients. Samantha is also on the faculty of the Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment, where she has presented on sexual coercion and psychotherapy with kinky clients. Stay in touch with Samantha at beyondsafewords.com. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

Want to work with me? Join the July cohort of the Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and pre-enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. My coaching practice has a few new spots available. If you could use support around the places where you feel most stuck, I'd love to support you. Details about my coaching practice are here: dawnserra.com/work-with-me . In a Sex Gets Real first, this episode is Part One of a THREE part series featuring Eve Rickert, Samantha Manewitz, and Aida Manduley. This episode is my conversation with Eve Rickert. In it, Eve shares her experience of being in a relationship with Franklin Veaux for five and a half years. She talks about what it was like in the beginning and what happened over the course of time. A part of she shares reveals what it's like to be on the receiving end of gaslighting and emotional abuse: the questioning of self, the isolation, thinking that you're actually crazy. Eve shares about how difficult it was to begin untangling herself from the confusion of it all and what happened when she started speaking with other women Franklin had been in relationship with. We explore and question who gets to tell the stories, who gets to have the redemption arc, and how we (collectively) are so terrible at asking about the people who were a part of that person's redemption, how we ignore or invisibilize their voices and experiences. We also talk about how being someone who caused harm doesn't make you a bad person or a disposable person, and being a survivor of harm doesn't mean you didn't also cause harm. We desperately need more nuanced and messy understandings of relationship dynamics and behaviors, to move away from the good vs evil, pure vs villain narratives that force us into black-and-white categories. This also contributes to victim blaming and the "good survivor" story that so many survivors feel boxed in by. Eve also speaks about being witnessed at Southwest Poly Love Fest and how important that was for her, but how it also made her question why she got to be witnessed in that way and some of the other people impacted by abuse don't get that gift. In the end, this conversation is really about examining problematic behaviors and the harm they can cause, engaging in accountability processes that are outside of our criminal "justice" system, and what we need to start asking ourselves about how we're doing relationship. The survivor pod resources mentioned in this episode include: Initial statement on February 11th Update on March 25th Tracking spreadsheet where you can find most of the documents, updates, and conversations happening Survivor pod PayPal where you can donate some money (PLEASE DO THIS) to support the process If you've been accused of consent violations or harm, this piece by Tamara Pincus is a good place to start. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Eve Rickert: Eve Rickert is the co-author of the books More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory and Black Iron, and the co-founder and publisher of Thorntree Press. Support Eve's fundraiser for suicide prevention here. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

The decision to come out as non-monogamous (or not) is a difficult one. In today’s episode, Cassie is talking to sex therapist and licensed social worker Tamara Pincus. We will be covering how and when (and when not to) come out, society's changing views on polyamory, and practical ways to have conversations with people about your open relationships.

The Swingset invites Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles, authors of the new book "It's Called Polyamory" onto the show to discuss the many things people both new and experienced to nonmonogamy, specifically, polyamory, may encounter. They join Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Chris Pent.   Find Tamara Pincus' and Rebecca Hiles' new book, It's Called "Polyamory", out on paperback and Kindle now!   Join Dylan, Cooper, Dr. Liz, Mister Pent, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph at Playground 2018!   You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Also, follow us on Spotify! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist! Thank you to djdead who purchaed mobile lavalier microphones!     Intro Music: Lookas & Krewella - Alarm Thank You Music: Stephen Walking - Shark City Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA) Chris Pent's Music: Infected Mushroom - Spitfire Outro Music: Modestep - Higher   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!     Our Playground 2018 advertisement featured music by Krzysztof Słowikowski from his Mega Man 6 Guitar Playthrough titled: Knight Man. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.               Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell  

Mou is joined by  is joined by DC-based psychotherapist, and sex therapist, Tamara Pincus, to discuss her personal views on non-monogamous lifestyles and how her own choices contribute to her treatment style and work.  Tamara Pincus is a licensed clinical social worker with 10 years of experience in mental health treatment. She has worked in agencies for the homeless and chronically mentally ill and has worked in direct service, management and quality improvement. She has provided individual as well as group treatment and assessment to a diverse group of clients in terms of race, sexual orientation, gender orientation and presenting problems. She is certified in co-occurring disorders treatment for clients with both chronic mental illness and substance abuse issues