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Ep 178: The Pegging Book and Male Prostate Orgasms with Authors Cooper S Beckett and Lyndzi Miller published by Thorntree Press.  The Pegging Book: A Complete Guide to Anal Sex with a Strap-On Dildo is the topic of this podcast episode. I was lucky to be able to chat with both authors in this interview/chat. They are both podcasters as well, check out their links below to find out more. Cooper S. Beckett is also an author of several books on his own. In this discussion about their manual to pegging, we chatted about pegging as an act, where the term came from and what it means. They gave their advice and tips for pegging, for sex toy products for pegging, and about male anatomy, including the prostate. The P spot for men/people with penises, is analogous to the female G spot. Cooper shared with us his amazing experiences with prostate orgasms!They both shared reasons why pegging is beneficial to both partners and to a relationship, and also to long term relationships. They talked about shame and fears associated with sexual butt play, and how some men inappropriately make the fragility of their ego their partner's problem and how we should all be more sexually open. We discussed if pegging is kinky, and the answer is, that depends on the person/couple/group. We touched briefly on if milking the prostate is healthy, why prostate orgasms are fabulous for men on psych meds, and why we should all masturbate daily. Yes! I love that!Lyndzi, who works in a sex shop as an assistant manager and an educator, shared with us why sex shops are so beneficial to everyone's sexuality, and it's not just for the reason that we can get toys!They shared about their upcoming launch party for the book releasing this October. The book will be coming out in ebook, paperback, and audiobook (which the authors are narrating themselves, woohoo!) Find the book here (affiliate): https://amzn.to/3Q5ye2SFind out more about the book here: https://coopersbeckett.com/pegging/Cooper's podcast: https://www.lifeontheswingset.com/Lyndzi's podcast: https://polyamoryuncensored.wordpress.com/Hello! Welcome to my podcast!Listen to this podcast episode to improve your sexuality, learn something new, entertain your brain, and enjoy!On my podcast, you will find erotica and romance, topics on relationships, romance and love, self-care,  intimacy, for adults only,  interviews with experts, and the podcast The Proffitt PodcastThe podcast that shows you tips & strategies to create content with confidence!Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Reality Life with Kate CaseyThree times a week I interview directors, producers, and stars from unscripted television.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Up a RiverWidowed Lisa joins her favorite author for a cruise on the Rhine and meets Captain Dalton.Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

In the fourth episode of “No Shade, All Tea's” Season 2, host Dr. Nancy DiTunnariello talks with Psychotherapist, Dr. James P. Fedor about ethical non-monogamous relationships. Show Info: Host: Dr. Nancy DiTunnariello, ditunnan@stjohns.edu Production: The Bolt Productions Intro/Outro Arrangement & Audio Editor: Courtney Lemkin Chief Audio Editor: Elizabeth Petrillo Chief Content Creator: Nicole Sutherland Show Linktree: https://linktr.ee/_NoShadeAllTea_ Photo Media: Cactus Girl Media Logo: Toni Sanchez Pop Art Guest Info: Name: Dr. James P. Fedor Title: Psychotherapist Instagram: DrJPF2 Therapist Profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/james-fedor-shrewsbury-nj/155309 Research Sources: De Graeve, K. ‘No expectations': Straight men's sexual and moral identity-making in non-monogamous dating. Sexualities, 22(5-6), 844-859. Doi: 10.1177/1363460718779946 Fern, J. (2020). Polysecure: Attachment, trauma, and consensual nonmonogamy. Thorntree Press. Wood, J., De Santis, C., Desmarais, S., & Milhausen, R. (2021). Motivations for engaging in consensually non‑monogamous relationships. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 50, 1253-1272. doi: 10.1007/s10508-020-01873-x

Lou and Elizabeth discussed Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern. They talked about their own poly lives and the ways Polysecure helped them in their relationships.Hosted by Lou Barrett. Produced by Purple Palm Press (www.purplepalmpress.com)Find more about Elizabeth Harris and her music on Instragram (@fignewtunes) Listen to her new album, Soft Animal, on Spotify.Podcast merch available at www.purplepalmpress.com/shopPolysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern was published by Thorntree Press. You can purchase it at https://bookshop.org/shop/purplepalmpressSound Editor: Coly PuzzuoliTheme Song: Samantha GraceCover Art Illustration: Noelle RichardCover Art Design: Lauren McAndrews

Does polyamory seem complicated from the outside? Worried about abuse in polyamory? Double thinking about mononormativity? Want to learn about Relationship Anarchy? We've got it all covered for you with Claire Louise Travers of @polypages. Let's flip the poly pages together! Femme, polyamorous, queer. Claire is the director and founder of Poly Pages- an academic non-monogamous platform and podcast. Poly Pages, running events around critical conversations about polyamory, a global bookclub with the support of Thorntree Press, and collaborates with UK based polyamorous communities to produce the POLYAMORY DAY showcase *happening 2nd April, 2022. Claire is a researcher, writer and humanitarian aid worker.

Krista is the co-founder of @PolyInPlace and she has teamed up with previous guest and friend of the podcast, Claire Travers @PolyPages to launch a book club for the polyamorous community, starting in October 2021. If you are looking for support and to engage with the community, be sure to go to www.polypages.org/bookclub to join! As a natural storyteller, Krista was inspired to create a community and platform for others to share their journeys into polyamory when she and her polycule hunkered down (like we all did) during the 2020 pandemic. In this episode, Krista and I talk about some of the books and stories that have inspired her, and she shares her journey of discovering polyamory and working through infidelity in her previously monogamous relationship. Krista shares how she and her husband were able to shed many of their old ideologies, put a stop to infidelities, and successfully move into ethical non-monogamy and polyamory. Be sure to follow Krista @PolyInPlace and tune into their event, Polyamory in Publishing in partnership with Claire from @PolyPages, Eve Rickert (co-author of More Than Two), Thorntree Press, and M. Ellery (author of A Color Named Love), and Rachel Krantz (author of a forthcoming memoir called Open). Go to www.polypages.org for more information! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/practicingpolya/support

This text is the foreword to the Thorntree Press book, “Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy,” by Jessica Fern. Immediatism.com My other podcast, PointingTexts.org Feedback and requests to Cory@Immediatism.com, and your comment may be shared in a future episode.

This text is the introduction to the Thorntree Press book, “Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy,” by Jessica Fern (2020). Immediatism.com My other podcast, PointingTexts.org Feedback and requests to Cory@Immediatism.com, and your comment may be shared in a future episode.

​​#jessicafern​ #polysecure​ #authorlove​ #nonmonogamy​ #ethicalnonmonogamy​ #polyamory Greg and Leanne are completely jazzed to have had the opportunity to meet with the author of "Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy", Jessica Fern! She unpacks some really important points for us, offers a lot of insight, and was just a joy to talk with! Jessica is a psychotherapist, public speaker and trauma and relationship expert. Reach out to her at www.jessicafern.com, and you can get a copy "Polysecure" on Audible, Kobo, at Thorntree Press, Indigo or on Amazon. Note: Please excuse the sound quality at times, as Leanne had to rely on her laptop mic and there was some distortion over Zoom. ​

​​#jessicafern​ #polysecure​ #authorlove​ #nonmonogamy​ #ethicalnonmonogamy​ #polyamory Greg and Leanne are completely jazzed to have had the opportunity to meet with the author of "Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy", Jessica Fern! She unpacks some really important points for us, offers a lot of insight, and was just a joy to talk with! Jessica is a psychotherapist, public speaker and trauma and relationship expert. Reach out to her at www.jessicafern.com, and you can get a copy "Polysecure" on Audible, Kobo, at Thorntree Press, Indigo or on Amazon. Note: Please excuse the sound quality at times, as Leanne had to rely on her laptop mic and there was some distortion over Zoom. ​

Abuse in Polyamory; a global live one-off event on 17th April 2021, at 10am LA/ 12noon CHI/ 1pm NYC/ 6pm LDN/ 7pm PAR. Get your tickets here, at www.polypages.org/events, or join our Patreon as an Early Bird Supporter and get in completely free. www.patreon.com/polypages. Abuse can happen in any relationship, whether you have one partner, two partners, or more. A polyamorous relationship is not any more or less likely to be abusive than a monogamous one, however having multiple partners may create unique situations that abusive people may exploit. Our social understandings of abuse assume a mono-normative relationship, leading to poor understandings and awareness of the ways abuse may present in a non-monogamous dynamics. In this one-off, live event - join three polyamorous survivors, educators and writers in a global conversation about abuse in polyamory. About the Speakers: Alicia Bunyan-Sampson - "Creator of @polyamorousblackgirl, an independent filmmaker, writer, counsellor/advocate and researcher based in Toronto. She focuses her work primarily on her identity as a black woman, love, trauma, sexuality and non-monogamy. Eve Rickert - "A Gen X nonmonogamous white settler living in Canada, Eve is the co-author of More Than Two and publisher of Thorntree Press." Sydney Rae Chin - "Polyamorous 3rd gen Chinese American woman, Intuitive Sex Guide runs @sydneyraechin empowering Pan Asian women and non men survivors to reclaim their sensuality"⁣ This event is supported by The Network/La Red. The Network/La Red is a survivor-led, social justice organization that works to end partner abuse in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, SM, polyamorous, and queer communities. Rooted in anti-oppression principles, our work aims to create a world where all people are free from oppression. TNLR strengthens our communities through organizing, education, and the provision of support services --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/polypages/support

JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site The Redhead Bedhead as well as for Glamour, The BBC, Bitch, PsychCentral, and more. You can read her blog at redheadbedhead.com and follow her on Twitter at @JoEllen Notte. JoEllen's book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having out now Thorntree Press 

I am excited to be interviewing my first guest! My co-host today is my friend Allie Phelan who is the Polyamorous Librarian! I have known Allie for several years since I started going to poly meetups. I started off thinking this would be Poly 101 discussion but listening to Allie, I learned some new things that I had never considered. Allie talked about shared language, words and their meanings, the importance of community, jealousy and compersion and coming out as polyamorous. Enjoy this episode! Allie mentions this book in the episode: “It’s called Polyamory. Coming Out About Your Non-Monogamous Relationships” by Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles, Thorntree Press. Avaiable on Amazon. You can find Allie's wordpress site here: https://polyamorouslibrarian.wordpress.com/. You can also connect with her on Facebook or @HelloLibrarian on Twitter. Go to disirability.com to answer today's question posted at the end of the episode. Don't forget to subscribe and come back for Episode 5 which will air on June 29, 2020! You can connect with Angela Car at disirability@gmail.com. Connect on social media @DISIRability. Please rate and review this podcast so that others can find it! Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/16kES_hH2fDJxmOyhKdHnjaU6Zhj4jTVi2O7183QyX38/edit?usp=sharing [Image description: DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the writing to the left, "A Chat with the Polyamorous Librarian" There is a black and white photo of Allie Phelan looking up on the right. Above the photo is the description "Allie Phelan, (she/her)". On the left bottom corner it states “Angela Car [she/her] 18+". ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

EPISODE 125: Interview with Eve Rickert. Eve Rickert is the co-author of the books “More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory” and “Black Iron”, and the co-founder and publisher of Thorntree Press. Follow her work at thorntreepress.com as well as her personal blog at brighterthansunflowers.com. If you get value out of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then consider becoming one of our patrons! Not only will you enjoy exclusive content made just for you, your support will also help us continue creating educational content while helping more people have a deeper understanding of consensual non-monogamy and healthy relationships in general. https://www.patreon.com/lovingwithoutboundaries

Want to work with me? Join the July cohort of the Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and pre-enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. My coaching practice has a few new spots available. If you could use support around the places where you feel most stuck, I'd love to support you. Details about my coaching practice are here: dawnserra.com/work-with-me . In a Sex Gets Real first, this episode is Part One of a THREE part series featuring Eve Rickert, Samantha Manewitz, and Aida Manduley. This episode is my conversation with Eve Rickert. In it, Eve shares her experience of being in a relationship with Franklin Veaux for five and a half years. She talks about what it was like in the beginning and what happened over the course of time. A part of she shares reveals what it's like to be on the receiving end of gaslighting and emotional abuse: the questioning of self, the isolation, thinking that you're actually crazy. Eve shares about how difficult it was to begin untangling herself from the confusion of it all and what happened when she started speaking with other women Franklin had been in relationship with. We explore and question who gets to tell the stories, who gets to have the redemption arc, and how we (collectively) are so terrible at asking about the people who were a part of that person's redemption, how we ignore or invisibilize their voices and experiences. We also talk about how being someone who caused harm doesn't make you a bad person or a disposable person, and being a survivor of harm doesn't mean you didn't also cause harm. We desperately need more nuanced and messy understandings of relationship dynamics and behaviors, to move away from the good vs evil, pure vs villain narratives that force us into black-and-white categories. This also contributes to victim blaming and the "good survivor" story that so many survivors feel boxed in by. Eve also speaks about being witnessed at Southwest Poly Love Fest and how important that was for her, but how it also made her question why she got to be witnessed in that way and some of the other people impacted by abuse don't get that gift. In the end, this conversation is really about examining problematic behaviors and the harm they can cause, engaging in accountability processes that are outside of our criminal "justice" system, and what we need to start asking ourselves about how we're doing relationship. The survivor pod resources mentioned in this episode include: Initial statement on February 11th Update on March 25th Tracking spreadsheet where you can find most of the documents, updates, and conversations happening Survivor pod PayPal where you can donate some money (PLEASE DO THIS) to support the process If you've been accused of consent violations or harm, this piece by Tamara Pincus is a good place to start. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Eve Rickert: Eve Rickert is the co-author of the books More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory and Black Iron, and the co-founder and publisher of Thorntree Press. Support Eve's fundraiser for suicide prevention here. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

Today we feature a conversation with Koe Creation, the second generation s3x educator for the 21st Century! This weekend their premier book, and memoir titled This Heart Holds Many; My Life as the Non-Binary Millennial Child of a Polyamorous Family was published through Thorntree Press. Today we will discuss their life, and the process of crafting their story. WithPolyAnna.com Patreon.com/WithPolyAnna Suggested Links: http://Koecreation.com https://www.amazon.com/This-Heart-Holds-Many-Polyamorous/dp/1944934723 https://uwm.edu/lgbtrc/support/gender-pronouns/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Modern_Paganism https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/42789727-this-heart-holds-many Guest Social Media: @Koecreate Guest Email: KoeCreation@gmail.com *Theme Song: "Somethin for Ya" by Mnage Quad --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/withpolyanna/support

In time for New Year's Eve parties, just a reminder about consent. Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones. Today I am starting my series on risk assessment in relationships with the topic of consent.  Consent is the foundation for all sexual agreements and relationships.   Some feel the current emphasis on consent is too intense and make fun of the idea of having to ask for permission each step of the way in a sexual encounter.  Others feel that we don’t take consent seriously and we make too many assumptions. Joining me today to discuss this is Kitty Stryker.  Kitty Stryker is a Degenderette, writer, queer activist, and authority on developing a consent culture in alternative communities. She was the founder of ConsentCulture.com, a website that ran for 4 years as a hub for LGBT/kinky/poly folks looking for a sex critical approach to relationships, which will be relaunched on 2017. Kitty also cofounded the artsy sexy party Kinky Salon London, as well as being head of cosplay for queer gaming convention GaymerX. Having finished "Ask: Building Consent Culture", an anthology through Thorntree Press coming out in October, Kitty tours internationally speaking at universities and conferences about feminism, sex work, body positivity, queer politics, and more. She lives in Oakland, California with her wife, boyfriend, and two cats, Foucault and Nietzsche. We started by talking about issues around consent and the reasons for Kitty starting ConsentCulture.com.    Kitty spoke about how hard it is for people to take responsibility and then look at changing behaviour.  She spoke about the problems in the alternative sexuality communities when consent violations occur.  Often calling the police makes things worse as the police are not necessarily friendly to kinky, LGBT or people of colour.  She spoke about the need for communities to come up with a clear plan to resolve these situations that don’t simply involve calling someone out and then isolating that person from the community. We spoke about how hard it can be to give proper consent when alcohol or drugs are involved.  Kitty advises people to consider if they are willing to go to jail for the person and the activity they are about to undertake.  She highlights the fact that we all make mistakes in this area and violate consent.  It may be as simple as hugging an acquaintance who didn’t want to be hugged or as serious as rape.  We spoke about how it can be hard to draw your own boundaries and how this can be especially difficult if you are involved in power exchange.  Kitty spoke about the reasons that people don’t use a safe word even when they should and said that she had done some research that found that often women refuse to do so because they want to please a partner and men are more likely to just want to be seen as tough.  She spoke about sitting down and actually looking at how her boundaries had been violated over the years and how she had just brushed this off rather than dealing with the issues.  We spoke about things like playing in a public situation and how difficult it is for people to find a way to protect themselves without feeling like they are causing drama in public. We spoke about the trauma that perpetrators experience and the fact that they too need help to resolve any shame and guilt.  Kitty highlighted that when we talk about consent in sexual relationships it is only an opening conversation to discussing all the places in which we need to think about boundaries and consent in society.  She highlighted things like consent in medical situations, and where information is shared, and education. Kitty’s book will come out in October.  If you want to pre-order, here is the link: https://www.amazon.com/Ask-Building-Consent-Kitty-Stryker/dp/1944934251/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1497383382&sr=8-1&keywords=ask+building+consent+culture The website for the book is https://consentculture.com/  Website where stories have been gathered about consent to help deepen understanding https://medium.com/consent-culture-a-conversation Website Link http://kittystryker.com/   Facebook link https://www.facebook.com/officiallykittystryker/   twitter link https://twitter.com/kittystryker Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com.  If there was something you didn’t like, tell me that too! Follow me on twitter @drbisbey, Instagram @drbisbey and Facebook.  Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.  For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to www.the-intimacy-coach.com and click the button that says Schedule Now! If you enjoyed this podcast, please subscribe and leave a review on iTunes.    Sign up to find out more here   

Pepper Mint discusses his new book, Playing Fair: Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men Into Women 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Intro and host chat Minx apologizes for not publishing the last two weeks due to work and family obligations, but yay, we have an interview with Pepper this week! 2:00 Interview: Pepper Mint Pepper Mint is an activist, educator, and community organizer in the polyamory and BDSM communities in San Francisco.  Over the years, he has been responsible for many fun adventures, including Poly Speed Dating and the OpenSF conference.  You can find his writings at freaksexual.com and pepperminty.com, and you can buy his new book Playing Fair: a Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men Into Women on Amazon here or at Thorntree Press here. 24:30 Feedback Nick writes in about how the episode 535 on asexuality was a revelation for him. 28:40 Happy Poly Moment Catharina shares a happy poly moment about being an awesome partner and metamour! 31:30 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones. Today I am starting my series on risk assessment in relationships with the topic of consent.  Consent is the foundation for all sexual agreements and relationships.   Some feel the current emphasis on consent is too intense and make fun of the idea of having to ask for permission each step of the way in a sexual encounter.  Others feel that we don’t take consent seriously and we make too many assumptions. Joining me today to discuss this is Kitty Stryker.  Kitty Stryker is a Degenderette, writer, queer activist, and authority on developing a consent culture in alternative communities. She was the founder of ConsentCulture.com, a website that ran for 4 years as a hub for LGBT/kinky/poly folks looking for a sex critical approach to relationships, which will be relaunched on 2017. Kitty also cofounded the artsy sexy party Kinky Salon London, as well as being head of cosplay for queer gaming convention GaymerX. Having finished "Ask: Building Consent Culture", an anthology through Thorntree Press coming out in October, Kitty tours internationally speaking at universities and conferences about feminism, sex work, body positivity, queer politics, and more. She lives in Oakland, California with her wife, boyfriend, and two cats, Foucault and Nietzsche.   We started by talking about issues around consent and the reasons for Kitty starting ConsentCulture.com.    Kitty spoke about how hard it is for people to take responsibility and then look at changing behaviour.  She spoke about the problems in the alternative sexuality communities when consent violations occur.  Often calling the police makes things worse as the police are not necessarily friendly to kinky, LGBT or people of colour.  She spoke about the need for communities to come up with a clear plan to resolve these situations that don’t simply involve calling someone out and then isolating that person from the community.   We spoke about how hard it can be to give proper consent when alcohol or drugs are involved.  Kitty advises people to consider if they are willing to go to jail for the person and the activity they are about to undertake.  She highlights the fact that we all make mistakes in this area and violate consent.  It may be as simple as hugging an acquaintance who didn’t want to be hugged or as serious as rape.  We spoke about how it can be hard to draw your own boundaries and how this can be especially difficult if you are involved in power exchange.    Kitty spoke about the reasons that people don’t use a safe word even when they should and said that she had done some research that found that often women refuse to do so because they want to please a partner and men are more likely to just want to be seen as tough.  She spoke about sitting down and actually looking at how her boundaries had been violated over the years and how she had just brushed this off rather than dealing with the issues.  We spoke about things like playing in a public situation and how difficult it is for people to find a way to protect themselves without feeling like they are causing drama in public.   We spoke about the trauma that perpetrators experience and the fact that they too need help to resolve any shame and guilt.  Kitty highlighted that when we talk about consent in sexual relationships it is only an opening conversation to discussing all the places in which we need to think about boundaries and consent in society.  She highlighted things like consent in medical situations, and where information is shared, and education.   Kitty’s book will come out in October.  If you want to pre-order, here is the link: https://www.amazon.com/Ask-Building-Consent-Kitty-Stryker/dp/1944934251/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1497383382&sr=8-1&keywords=ask+building+consent+culture     The website for the book is https://consentculture.com/   Website where stories have been gathered about consent to help deepen understanding https://medium.com/consent-culture-a-conversation     Website Link http://kittystryker.com/   Facebook link https://www.facebook.com/officiallykittystryker/   twitter link https://twitter.com/kittystryker   Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com.  If there was something you didn’t like, tell me that too! Follow me on twitter @drbisbey, Instagram @drbisbey and Facebook.  Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.  For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to www.the-intimacy-coach.com and click the button that says Schedule Now!    If you enjoyed this podcast, please subscribe and leave a review on iTunes.  If you want more information, sign up for my newsletter here. I look forward to seeing you next week for part two of risk assessment in relationships.    

Aired Thursday, 15 June 2017, 4:00 PM ET Navigating Consent with Kitty Stryker, author of “Ask: Building Consent Culture” Martha invites Kitty Stryker onto the show to discuss what consent culture is, why it’s important, and how it can challenge rape culture. Kitty has been a consent activist for over 6 years, working with alternative communities to combat abuse and create sustainable accountability practices. Martha and Kitty will explore the ways in which alternative sexualities embrace constructs of consent, and the ways in which they are still learning. About the Guest: Kitty Stryker Kitty Stryker is a Degenderette, writer, queer activist, and authority on developing a consent culture in alternative communities. She was the founder of ConsentCulture.com, a website that ran for 4 years as a hub for LGBT/kinky/poly folks looking for a sex critical approach to relationships and which will be relaunched on 2017. Kitty also cofounded the artsy sexy party Kinky Salon London, as well as creating the award winning Ladies High Tea and Pornography Society, the SF based kink party Whippersnappers, and acts as head of cosplay for queer gaming convention GaymerX. Having finished “Ask: Building Consent Culture”, an anthology through Thorntree Press coming out in October, Kitty tours internationally speaking at universities and conferences about feminism, sex work, body positivity, queer politics, and more. She lives in Oakland, California with her wife, boyfriend, and two cats, Foucault and Nietzsche. Websites: kittystryker.com and https://medium.com/@kittystryker Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kittystryker Blog: http://kittystryker.com/blog/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/kittystryker Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missstryker/

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Content note: talk of suicide. I always love when I get to have nuanced conversations about topics like sex work, porn, consent, and polyamory. So, when Kitty Stryker said she'd come on the show, I knew the discussion would be a gritty one. Kitty is currently working on an anthology book all about creating consent culture that comes out in 2017. We dig into what that looks like and how she's centering marginalized voices. Then we talk about what consent means within the context of capitalism and work. If you can't leave sex work because traditional employers won't hire former porn performers and you have to remain in sex work even if you're ready to leave, can you truly be consenting to the work? If we started focusing more on labor issues and capitalism, could we bridge the gap between anti-sex work feminists and pro-sex work feminists to find a common ground where nuance was encouraged? Kitty also shares a personal story about suicide and how it ties into kink and poly communities. What does a community actually mean, anyway? At the end of the hour, we field a question from a listener about polyamory and whether it's right for her. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources from this episode Kitty's article "Porn Didn't Ruin Your Sex Life. Sorry." "So Someone You Love is Suicidal" by Kitty can be read here, too. The Five Love Languages About Kitty Stryker Kitty Stryker is a writer, activist, and authority on developing a consent culture in alternative communities. She was the founder of >ConsentCulture.com, a website that ran for 4 years as a hub for LGBT/kinky/poly folks looking for a sex critical approach to relationships and which will be relaunched on 2017. Kitty also cofounded the artsy sexy party Kinky Salon London, as well as creating the award winning Ladies High Tea and Pornography Society, the SF based kink party Whippersnappers, and acting as head of cosplay for queer gaming convention GaymerX. Now working on "Ask: A Discussion of Consent Culture", an anthology through Thorntree Press coming out in 2017, Kitty tours internationally speaking at universities and conferences about feminism, sex work, body positivity, queer politics, and more. She lives in Oakland, California with her fiancee and two cats, Foucault and Nietzsche. You can find Kitty at kittystryker.com, on Twitter @kittystryker, and on Facebook. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)