The Beards and White Toes Podcast

"I been gettin' money, where the fuck you been?"- "Where U Been" by 2 Chainz So, Miss Kymberly and The Bearded 1 have been on a long hiatus. Well, they're back! In this episode, these two get back to work by giving a review of the show's new endeavors and the future of Beards and White Toes. Beard and White Toes is sponsored by The Breaks Cigars and Nina Sharae Resort & Swimwear. Also, follow BWT on IG, Facebook, Snapchat, and Tik Tok at Beards and White Toes.

Okay so boom! We had a topic and the topic was “Is Marriage Still Sacred?”. However, SOMEBODY had her people come through, and they had another topic in mind! We did good when staying on track at first, but then, it quickly went left! Look, Kymberly's people had questions that needed answers…probably the same questions some of y'all have been asking! And they were determined! Tune in to find out what they asked…and maybe the answers to some questions people have been asking!

"She was raised in Illinois, right outside of Chicago..."- R.Kelly from "When a Woman's Fed Up" Y'all know what it is when a woman's fed up...but, is she really fed up or is she tired?? It's a difference. Oh yeah, by the way, men get fed up, too!! You'll know when a person is fed up because NOTHING can make them stay! We get all into it in episode...Tired vs Fed Up!

"I lie because I do love you, girl! If I told you the truth all the time, that means I don't care about you..."- Jody from Baby Boy People who pray for rain have to remember that it comes with mud. Sure, we all deserve the truth. Sometimes, we deserve the hurt that comes behind it. Honestly, the truth does really hurt from time to time. So how come we subject ourselves to questions we really don't want the answers to? Is it for closure? Perhaps, you know the truth, and you want to see if the other person will be truthful. Hell, the best one is because you're just being nosey. In this episode, Kym and Sam tap into whether honesty is truly the best policy.

"It's not your looks (you're very pretty). It's not your style (the way you dress). It's not the way that you carry yourself. Girl, I'm sorry! You're not my kind of girl..." New Edition "You're Not My Kind of Girl" Have you ever been told your standards are too high? What about your expectations? Do they have to match? Maybe not, but be realistic; you might get the side eye when your expectation of the cost of maintenance puts you in an '87 hooptie. In this episode of "High Standards vs Low Expectations", Sam and Kym jump into what it looks like when your standards are high and your expectations are low, and vice versa.

"Don't ask my neighbors, don't ask my friends I hang around...don't be afraid to come me, don't ask my neighbor..."- "Don't Ask My Neighbors" by The Emotions Let's be clear: the heart knows what it knows. However, the heart can be taught some new tricks. One trick is understanding emotional intelligence, or EQ. EQ and love languages are the ultimate game-changers in a relationship. They're almost like hand and glove. If you can get an understanding of both, you have cracked the code to your partner's heart. In this episode, Kym and Sam discuss the importance knowing emotional intelligence, and allowing you and your partner to be vulnerable.

"Sometimes I wish I could act like a boy..."- "Like a Boy" by Ciara Social media has most definitely made toxic masculinity a major subject. Men show a lack of empathy for women, and women move with male-like attitudes. The real question is simple: why? Perhaps the male ego is so strong? Maybe, women have to act tough as a way to protect their feelings. Whatever the answer, it's rough out here. In this episode, Kym and Sam tap into male toxicity, and why it's an equal opportunity sport.

"We got money for war, but can't feed the poor..." - Tupac Shakur "Keep Ya Head Up" Chicago is going crazy right now! We're not talking about the Bulls, music, or Tommy riding in the old school on television. The violence is crazy. It's damn near scary. From homicides to carjackings, Chicago is looking out of control. Sadly, there's not enough being done to help the disenfranchised. Jobs are scarce, and money is tight. So, what can be done? In this episode, the Beards and White Toes welcomes Natara Roberts and Corey Anderson. They'll talk about their respective endeavors in Chicago. You're in for a special one!

"(Hey) I am not my hair. I am not this skin. I am not your expectations, no, no..." "I Am Not My Hair" by India.Arie Here's a question: Are you insecure because of what you see, or because what the world sees? Insecurities come from every which way. They come from our up-bringing. You know, your little brother grew a little taller than you. Maybe, you don't feel as pretty as your big sister. Your man cheated. Your woman doesn't affirm you. Here's the best one: social media created "societal norms", and you can't find your place. Whatever your insecurity is, remember, none of us are perfect. In this episode, Miss Kymberly, DJ Univercity, and Sam lock in on this very touchy topic.

"Why you all in my grill? Can you pay my bills? Let me know if you will..."- MIssy Elliott "All N My Grill" Sometimes, people just get way too close, or they try at least. Most times, we allow it to happen. We create a space for people to feel safe, but what happens when that safety is not being reciprocated? It diminishes our peace. It can make us respond irrationally, and essentially cause us to lose ourselves. That's when boundaries are necessary. In this episode, Kym and Sam talk with fellow podcaster, Mz. Metchi from The Blueprint Live, and they discuss the importance of boundaries. Oh...and welcome to season 2!

"Lean on me, when you're not strong..."- "Lean on Me" by Bill Withers We often times carry the weight of others, and we don't even know it. Carrying others isn't always a bad thing, though. It only feels bad when you feel as if you're being used. Other times, you could be a springboard for someone. The real question then becomes are you the crutch or the springboard? in this episode, Kym and Sam tap in, and discuss the differences.

"Baby come back...You can blame it all on me..."- "Baby Come Back" by Player Forgiveness provides peace whether it is with self, others, or both. Although forgiveness and reconciliation provide closure, it can still be a journey getting there. Honestly, it's not easy. However, new beginnings await. In this episode, Kym and Sam dive into the importance of reconciliation with self and others.

"She's playing hard to get, she just won't admit...That she likes me...She liiikes me!"- "She's Playing Hard To Get" by Hi-Five So, have you ever been in a situation where the signals were mixed? Better yet, how does it feel when the energy you once knew just stopped? Life situations can interfere. Time is NOT of the essence. There are many factors that can sway energy. Maybe that person is just not for you. In this episode, Sam and Kym talk about finding your place and your exit plan when dealing with unstable and unsure people.

"I know it past visiting hours, but can I please give her these flowers?"- "Roses" by Ye There are two types of people: givers and takers. These "givers" are the folks who fill your glass with positive reinforcement. The "taker" is the beneficiary who gives little to no reciprocity to the "giver". Now, there's a problem. In this episode, Kym and Sam talk about draining ass people, and how the word "No" is a complete sentence.

"I want to thank you, Heavenly Father, for shining your light on me..."- "I Want to Thank You" by Alicia Myers 2021 was a dope year for Kym and Sam. Over 30 episodes were recorded. A few guests blessed the show. All in all, BWT made a tremendous impact on them. In this episode, they reflect on their individual journeys, as well as their journey together as "The Bearded One" and "The One Who Does What She Wants". To all of the listeners, we thank you for being a part of our journey. Happy New Year!

"I love it when you give me head. I hate it when you give me headaches..."- "Can't Get Enough by J.Cole Peace looks different for everybody. What looks like chaos to some may be peace for others. Whereas bliss and quiet may be too much for people who live in chaos. Whether it is peace be still or peace out, we all need it. In this episode, we talk about the role it plays in relationships, work, and your personal life.

"Please give me peace, and make me believe that I'm not on my own...you've got to be good to me..."- H.E.R. In this episode, Ms. Kymberly with a Y digs into the consequences of allowing people to stay in your energy too long and ignoring the red flags.

"I ain't like the others you done dealt with in your past...All I ask, have some faith, believe in me..."- Believe by Raheem DeVaughn In this episode, The Bearded One gets really in depth about the struggles of men and the dating scene from his perspective. Needless to say, he kicked it on his soapbox for a minute. Enjoy this episode of BWT featuring Sam...sadly, without Kymberly...

In this bonus episode, Sam chats with Lauren Barnes, founder of Random Thoughtz. They chat about the importance of supporting Black businesses and her up-coming endeavors. Check out this latest episode.

"I'm just a bachelor, looking for a partner..."- From "Pony" by Ginuwine So, there is a lot of trash in the dating pool... A LOT! However, there are some treasures in that same pool. Who has time to sift through all of that? Yes, there are good people looking for other good people. However, good people are constantly finding "the trash". Time is wasted. Reciprocation is one-sided. Some people are just simply not compatible. It can be discouraging, but you don't give up. It's just super stressful. In this episode, Sam and Kym invited the lovely, Aja, and she dives into her struggle as well.

"And I started feeling haunted by me, 'Cause I know now what I wanted is peace of mind..."- "it's not u it's me" by Bea Miller and 6lack Sometimes, we get into situations that seem a bit promising. It may be a new relationship. It may be a job or career. It can be anything that you feel is for you. Then, the bottom falls out. He or she may be dealing with past relationship trauma. You may have given a job too much power over you. When that courtship goes dry, and you've done all you can, it's definitely not you. It's them (or maybe it is you...). When it's time to leave that job that's tearing you down, remember, it's not them...it's you! You gave them too much of you. In this episode, Kym and Sam dive into the cliche' "It's not you, it's me", and the feels that come with it.

This is a very special interview. Sonny Trill and The Bearded One have been friends for many years. Of course, there are many stories to be told during that friendship. In this episode, Sam sits down with Chicago rapper, Sonny Trill, and talks music, growth, and a lifelong bond that is still tight to this day.

"Happy birthday to you! Happy birthday to you! Happy birthday, Dear Kayle! Happy Birthday to you!!!" - "Regular Ass Happy Birthday" by Miss Kymberly with a Y and The Bearded One Co-parenting seems to be difficult for many and a breeze for some. Some relationships are drama filled while others are ideal for both the parents and the child. No matter how you look at it, co-parenting looks different for all parents. In this episode, Kym and Sam chat with their wonderful guest, Kayle. Hopefully, this episode can spark some healthier co-parenting relationships...maybe...

"Is it just me? Or is the sex so good I shouldn't have to fxck for free?"- Drake & DJ Khaled "For Free" Alright...so this was a fun episode. In this edition of BWT, we had the pleasure of chatting with the beautiful Chanel and her homie GiGi the MUTHAFXCKIN STYLIST! We talk about 40k AP watches, vacations, and free vagtastic voyages! Yea...this episode was like that! Have fun listening to this episode because we definitely had fun recording it!

"Meet me at the altar in your white dress. We ain't gettin' no younger, we might as well do it..."- Jagged Edge "Let's Get Married" So, we turned down our emotions for this episode. Marriage can be a beautiful thing if done with the correct person. In this episode, Kym and Sam talk about the reasons why marriage is still desirable. The tone is definitely different from part 1.

"He proposed to me. He proposed with a diamond ring. I started crying. He placed on my finger and I said 'Yes'."- Kelly Price from "He Proposed" Whew! Talk about a touchy subject! In this episode, emotions were high for Kym and Sam. Things kind of go left, but not intentionally. This episode is explosive. This is definitely an episode you do not want to skip. The topic was so good that there has to be a part 2!

"What about your friends? Will they stand their ground? Will they let you down again?"- TLC "What About Your Friends" The one dynamic in a person's growth is the supportive homie. Real friends make sure that you're making sound decisions, and they'll make sure to always have your best interests at heart. In this episode, Sam gets in-depth about the purpose of having strong friends. "Show me your friends, and I'll show you you're future."- Paris the Spitta

"Dress it up and make it real for me...whatever that fuckin' mean..."- Future from "March Madness" Social media has a lot of us re-thinking societal norms. One of those norms is how we view "relationship goals". But what are relationship goals? Who creates these standards? Here's a better question: does the man or woman of your dreams meet YOUR relationship goals? In this episode, Miss Kymberly, Sam, and special guest Cousin Shanese, talk about these "relationship goals". This is one of those "you don't wanna miss it" joints!

Fellas, if you give your woman 100 percent, she's likely to give you 1,000 percent. Is that true? If so, what does that even look like? In this episode, friend of the show, CL Furlough, joins in on the topic. Needless to say, his insight was very interesting and thoughtful. Check it out!

"Sometimes I love her, sometimes I love her not...But I ain't letting her go...No, no, no"- "She's All I Got" by Jimmy Cozier In this episode, we invited some of our social media homies to listen live, and offer up their insight. You ever love someone so much that even though the flags were fire engine red, you stayed anyway? Why? What does it look like? Miss Kymberly, Sam, and friends offer their thoughts on staying too long. Check it out!

In this special episode of BWT, Sam sits down with rapper, Trapmoney DD. In this episode, the King of the Hills talks about growing in the music world, thriving through the pandemic, and his newest music video, "Been Trappin". This is an exclusive that you do not want to miss!

"Take my money, my house, and my cars. For one hit of you, you can have it all, baby."- "Feenin" by Jodeci Whew! We did it! So, who do you think killed chivalry? Do you think it's dead? In this episode, we did a recap on chivalry, and whether it is dead or not. And of course, we get off topic and talk a little mess!

"Whatever happened to chivalry? Whatever happened to love and true honesty?"- Babyface "Chivalry" In this episode, we talk with Jay. Of course, it's always great to a guest, but Sam was really excited to have an ally on board. In this edition, the gloves come off, and it's on from "Go!". We get into parenthood, and more love language talk! Enjoy this episode as we beg the question "Is Chivalry Dead?"

In this feature edition of the Beards and White Toes Podcast, "The Bearded One" had the privilege of sitting down with Rasta Smilez. Rasta is currently in the midst of a 30 Day SALADS ONLY CHALLENGE!. During this interview, you'll get to know his journey and feel the positive vibes through your speakers.

"I give good love. I'll buy your clothes. I'll cook your dinner, too...Soon as I get home from work."- Babyface "Soon As I Get Home" In this episode, we welcomed the beautiful and insightful, Autumn, to BWT. It was time to get another woman's point of view on chivalry. Needless to say, there was a lot of thought provoking conversation going on, and of course, we did not hold back. Enjoy part 2 of the series, "Is Chivalry Dead?".

"Now, I'm the kinda guy who don't believe that chivalry is dead, no...Now, I like openin' doors, pickin' up your hanky off the floor. Treat her like a lady..."- The Temptations "Treat Her Like a Lady" Who killed chivalry? Is chivalry even dead? Chivalry amongst millennials and the generations under seems to be near extinction. Who's still holding doors and pulling out chairs? Who's pumping their woman's gas or preparing their man's plate? Chivalry seems to be an old-fashioned concept. Can something on the verge of extinction be revived? In this episode, we kick off the "Is Chivalry Dead?" Series. After four weeks, you tell us who killed chivalry, or if it's even dead.

"It must be love that's on your mind. You're doin' things you wouldn't before..." - "Love Changes" by Kashif w/ Meli'sa Morgan We're not perfect by any stretch of the means, and that's okay. But what if you needed a little tweaking or enhancing? Better yet, what if you're just not cutting it, but your partner sees your potential? Although change is constant, it's also optional. However, do you change because you want to, or because well, you need to? In this episode, we explore the option of changing for the right person, and what it looks like.

"Compliment what she does. Send her roses just because. If it's violins she loves, let them play. Dedicate her favorite song, and hold her close all night long. Love her today...Find one hundred ways." - "One Hundred Ways" by James Ingram and Quincy Jones Ladies and gentleman, in this episode we give THEE ultimate playbook on how to reach your spouse's heartstrings. There are five love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, giving gifts, and physical touch. Knowing your partner's love language can be the breakthrough on maintaining a healthy and long-lasting relationship. More importantly, knowing your own love language can help your partner understand you better as well. In this episode, we dive into the world of cheat codes, or rather the Five Love Languages.

"Don't you know, you'll always be the most beautiful woman I know..."-Musiq Soulchild from "Dontchange" She's insecure about her body. He's insecure about his feelings. We're all insecure about something. Check this out...we're all flawed in one way or another. But, when someone embraces you for you, it will subside those insecurities. In addition, you'll see yourself in the light in which your significant other sees you, and that'll lead to a bright future. In this episode, we talk about embracing those flaws within each other and ourselves.

"You see, I can't be in your life. You gotta go home to your wife, yeah, yeah...oh...It's morning"- Kelly Price in "As We Lay" Sure, the act of cheating is characterized by many as selfish or shameless. The cheater is the villain. The one who's been cheated on is the one the people root for to have a happy ending. And the mistress, or mister, or sneaky link, or whatever you want to call them is the symbolic choice between good and evil. But, when does cheating become a choice? Better yet, why? In this episode, we take a very deep look into the thoughts of the cheater and the cheated on. Grab a snack, and charge your listening device. We're gonna get deep...

"If you love me, say it. If you trust me, do it. If you want me, show it. If you need me, prove it..."- Brownstone "If You Love Me" Have you ever met someone who just talks way too much, and cannot deliver on the things they say? In the dating game, you have to be about that action! In this episode, we discuss putting your money where your mouth is. Get comfortable as we get down on this pillow talk!

"Let's talk about sex, baby! Let's talk about you and me! Let's talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be..."- Salt-N-Pepa So, you just met somebody. You're both showing mutual interest in each other. Conversation is good. Chemistry is strong. You're both having a great time, and you're enjoying each other's company. Now, things are getting a little physical. There's some touching, kissing, feeling, but...yea, there's no sex. In this episode, we ask two questions: How soon is too soon, or, how long is too long? Let's talk about it!

"Day by day, it's more impossible to cope..."- Scarface from "My Mind is Playing Tricks On Me" Life is hard because life IS hard. There's no shame in tough times. However, we handle life's situations differently. Some people have the mental toughness to shake off any problem or situation that may come their way. What about those who can't? In this episode, we get personal. We laughed. We cried. We laughed some more. We hope that this message finds you, and that you receive it, and share it.

Donnell Jones once said: "When you love someone, you just don't treat them bad." So you've been hurt, or you've done some hurting. You're not healed, but you take your pain into the next relationship. What does that look or feel like? In this episode, we dive into healing yourself before you hurt someone else. Leave those bags at the door, and COME ON IN!