Why or Why Not with the Watsons features first-round draft pick and Super Bowl Champion Benjamin Watson and his wife Kirsten Watson. Benjamin and Kirsten have decided to give you a behind the scenes look at their marriage and parenting journey.
After playing for the Saints a second time, The Watson's recall heading back to where it all started: New England. Listen in about the struggles of parenting new twins at the time, never sleeping, lugging seven kids around, and all the pains and injuries on the field. In this episode, The Watson's share their story of a growing family, football, and how they learned to see purpose through everything.
After leaving Baltimore, The Watson's headed back to New Orleans to play one more year with the Saints. Listen in and hear about the wins, the losses, and all of the in-between struggles of going back to play for Who Dat Nation. In this episode, The Watson's share what happened on and off the field with football, a growing family, and how they learned in a fresh way, how to trust that God was in control.
There is a lot that goes unseen when playing in the NFL. From getting injured on the field to struggles and suffering off of the field, fans rarely see what's happening off of the field. The Watson's experienced a lot of setbacks in their time with the Baltimore Ravens. They say in Baltimore, “Play Like a Raven.” It often means playing tough, resilient, and with character. In this episode, The Watson's look back at their tough yet fruitful time with the Ravens. Listen in as they share takeaways with the purple and black both on and off of the field that truly live up to “Playing Like a Raven.”
There's a lot that goes with years of playing in the NFL. Not only do players get to experience living in different cities, they also get all of the changes that take place in their family. The Watson's experienced a lot during their time in New Orleans. In this episode, The Watson's look back at their experiences of playing for the New Orleans Saints. Listen in as they share a few takeaways from their time with the black and gold.
After years in the NFL with several different teams and life changes, The Watson's learned a lot about business, sports, and life. In this episode, The Watson's look back at their experiences of playing with different NFL teams in several cities. Listen as they share five takeaways from their days of playing football that apply well to the journey of marriage, family, and life.
NFL training camp is over, the preseason is happening, and the regular season is about to be on us. In this episode, The Watson's look back at God's faithfulness and protection over their years in different NFL cities. Listen as they share the difficulties and obstacles they faced along the way and what it can mean for you and your journey.
From family time and fun to fishing and trips, Summer has hopefully been a memorable time of connecting with your family. Now, how can you make those memories last beyond Summer? In this episode, The Watson's share how they plan to create connecting points with their family in the coming months. Listen as they share how they are helping their family understand the importance of setting goals so they succeed throughout the school year.
They say more is caught than taught. When it comes to parenting children, this is often true. But, how do you find time to model correct behavior, speak truth into your kids' lives, and connect in a meaningful way? In this episode, The Watson's share how they create intentional times with each of their kids. They discuss how to make meaningful times of connection a priority—from special trips to weekly walks around the neighborhood. Listen as they share ideas to help each child feel connected and open to talk about anything and everything.
How you argue matters! In some marriages, there's very little arguing. In others, there's lots of it. With kids, it's important to know where to draw the line. In this episode, The Watson's share how they handle arguments in their house. Listen in as they share experiences in their marriage and family. They discuss what's worth arguing about, when to do it, where to do it, and when to call it finished.
Being single can be tough—if you don't want to be single! There are a lot of questions about singleness and dating. Culture has a lot to say on this topic. But, culture is often wrong. How do you handle singleness and dating as a believer? Listen as The Watson's share their experiences of being single, dating, being married, and living in obedience to God in all things.
We know the church is a group of people—and people aren't perfect. But, what happens when it's the church that hurts you? From all that's going on today—race issues, sexual failure, emotional and physical abuse—all of it can be so deflating as a believer. We need wisdom to know what to do in these situations. Listen as The Watson's share their experiences over the last few years and how they are learning to navigate church today so they can go forward authentically.
When was your last vacation? For many, it's been too long! In all of the busyness with family, it's difficult to find time to get away. But it's so worth it. In this episode, The Watson's share the vacation strategies that work for their marriage and family. Listen in on their experiences to find out how to make memories, create times of bonding, and why vacations are so important—with and without the kids.
This is happening too much. Sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, all of these experiences affect so many lives in the church. What do we do when the wounds come from the church? In this episode, The Watson's discuss their experiences and what can happen to our faith when the church isn't being the church. Listen as they share how to deal with these issues and still keep the faith.
How do we keep our marriages thriving while trying to raise kids, reach goals, and work well? In this episode, as The Watson's celebrate their wedding anniversary, they share what they have learned from being married for sixteen years. Listen as they share how they navigate and strengthen their relationship from year to year.
Don't judge too quickly! How often do you take your entire family to camp? We know it's important to connect, but how often does it truly happen? In this episode, The Watson's share when they intentionally got away with their family and connected—and why you should look into family camp to connect with your family more than ever. Learn more about Family Camp at www.pinecove.com
Traveling is something every family has to learn to navigate. Whether it's for work or play, travel brings its own difficulties when you're married and have kids. One spouse is usually left to manage everything at home. In this episode, the Watson's share how they navigate traveling while married with kids, and how to stay connected through it all.
The kids are home, but without school to keep them busy and learning. What are you going to do?! From video games, TVs, and devices, it's difficult for parents to know how much screen time is too much. Our screens can control us—or we can control our screens. While every family is different, in this episode, the Watson's share three ways they navigate screen time by having a plan, creating rules, and using it to their advantage.
How’s that yearly Bible reading plan going so far?! Between the busyness of work, kids, school, and life...have you stayed on track? As married couples and parents, do you feel like you have answers for what life throws at you? From what happens when someone treats you wrong to when you’re overlooked for that job promotion, where do you turn and where do you point others? In this episode, the Watson’s share their struggles and stories of trying to engage with Scripture. Listen as they reveal what makes them worship in weariness, pray in persecution, and keep pointing to God through it all.
Work, marriage, life...all of it seems exhausting. Then, kids come along. How do you get through your day when your day doesn’t seem to end? In the midst of being overwhelmed, what keeps you going? In this episode, the Watson’s share their experiences of having five kids—and then having a set of twins. Twins! Listen as the Watson's reflect on all the exhausting challenges that come their way each day. And, hear how they remain hopeful and motivated to never give up.
Cue the music: School's out for Summer! School's out FOREVER! Well, not forever, just a few months. But, even in the next few months, what’s your plan for keeping the kids busy? In this episode, the Watson’s share three ways they plan on maximizing the Summer. Hint: their plan centers on the three f’s of faith, family, and fun! Listen as the Watson's reflect on what made their Summers great growing up and how they plan on intentionally enjoying this quickly-passing season while making it memorable as a family.
In the age of gift bags for attendees, Instagrammable decorations, and out-of-this-world celebrations—and this is just for kids’ parties—recent birthdays have made the Watson’s look deeper into what’s behind birthday celebrations for their family. In this episode, the Watson’s look at what to do when there are multiple young kids in the house, how to deal with jealousy from siblings, and much more. Listen as the Watson's reflect on what they’ve learned from recent birthdays and find out how to be more thoughtful during what can be memorable milestones.
We won’t say who’s turning 40. You’ll have to listen to find out! But, one of the Watson’s is about to celebrate a major milestone. In this episode, the Watson’s look back over the years at how they’ve celebrated birthdays and all of the ups, downs, and in-betweens of having babies and playing professional football. Listen as the Watson's reflect on what they’ve learned over the years and find out three things they would tell their younger selves.
What are your kids afraid of? If you ask them, who knows what you might find out! Fear grips everyone at some point and can often be crippling. Our fears are often rooted in control or lack of control. In this episode, The Watson’s share how we can remember what’s happened in the past and recognize when our kids have been able to overcome fear. Through everything, you will find that it’s our job as parents to point our kids to the Ultimate Comforter no matter what fears may come.
What are you afraid of? Whether it’s in marriage or parenting, fear gets everyone. Fear magnifies issues and is often far from reality. In this episode, The Watson’s share some of their strongest fears. Through those fears, they discuss why it’s vital to look at what fear is telling us about ourselves and what it’s telling us about our view of God. Our fears will come out in our marriages and in our parenting. It’s time to overcome our fears so we live free to point our families to God.
Moving is never easy. Once the excitement wears off, the packing and unpacking starts. How do we “stay home” spiritually in the midst of not feeling like we have a true home yet. In this episode, The Watson’s discuss how they are handling relocating to another state—with all of the busyness and emotions of moving an entire family. You’ll see how they’re navigating it all while trying to trust God through the unknown.
What’s the best school for your kids? The Watson’s have experienced lots of types of schools over the last 12 years. In this episode, they share how they have handled their kids’ education. They discuss what’s worked, what hasn’t, and how to navigate education so you’re confident to address the school, address your kids’ needs, and address your worldview as a parent who’s called to point your kids to Christ.
Copy-cat siblings, being annoying, tattle-telling, when it comes to being a parent, you have so many battles to fight every single day! The Watsons swap stories about what happens at their home, how they overcome the daily battles, what works and what doesn’t, and how you can help build better kids through it all.
Where there are two or more children in a home, there will be sibling rivalry. In moments when children might not like their brothers or sisters, does that sibling know he or she is loved? In this episode, the Watsons share what sibling rivalry, and love, looks like in their family.
Anger does not produce God's righteousness. This little organ on the body called “the tongue” has caused quite a few problems. When it comes to marriage, we can go for the jugular or Jesus. How we speak to each other matters. Can we tame the tongue? Yes, we can learn to tame our tongues by remembering the word TAME. T: Think before you speakA: ApologizeM: Make a decision to do things differentlyE: Engage - engage with others in community We discuss all four ideas to TAME anger on the podcast. We hope you’ll listen to the full podcast and become the spouse who begins to tame your tongue.
Some conversations with your kids might seem too prickly or awkward. Some conversations are more appropriate for the other parent to take the lead. More often than we'd like to admit, in today's world, the mom is having to have ALL of those conversations. Dad, whether you're guilty of this or not, don't miss this conversation Benjamin and Kirsten have on the importance of the dad getting involved in the conversation. This could change your relationship with your kids and spouse forever!
This is the last week of Black History Month, but the conversations don't need to end! There is so much to talk about and the dialogue needs to stay open! That is why, this week, Benjamin and Kirsten finish out this series by continuing to answer some of the most asked questions—and these are BIG ones.
Make sure you are subscribed to the podcast so you don't miss a single episode this month because it's Black History Month! WOOOOO!!! Benjamin and Kirsten kick off this month by starting a normal, open, and honest conversation about growing up Black in America. They talk about the ups and the downs and what it means for their family as well as for ALL people.
This week on Why Or Why Not, discover the potential impact that you—that’s right, YOU—can have starting in your home and even stretching around the world! Tune in and be willing to listen—this could change your life forever.
Sometimes Life has a uniquely artistic way of sticking its dirty socks in your punch bowl. Well, 2020 decided to give Benjamin and Kirsten "one to remember it by"—BUT—God works through all of the interruptions in life for our good and His glory.
Stadium seat cushion, rolling cooler with snacks, hat, “Team Mom” clipboard, and sunblock—LET’S GO! That’s right—the Watsons are talking about kids and sports. You’ll want to be all in on this one! They’re talking practical things, how they do sports with their kids, how they grew up playing sports, and even the unrealistic expectations parents often have that can really set kids up for disappointment. So here we go! Aaaaaaaand BREAK!
Happy New Year! 2020—wow—didn't see that one coming. BUT, 2021 is now here and ALL of our troubles are gone! (cue confetti canons and party whistles)—or are they? This episode, reflect back on 2020 with the Watsons and how we can properly view our circumstances and still have hope moving forward into this new year—2021.
"All these kids are yours? So how do uh... when is uuuhh... I... eh... but..."Have you ever wondered what it's like in a big family? Have all of your questions answered while Benjamin and Kirsten talk about the ups and downs of daily life with 7 kids.
This week on Why Or Why Not, Kirsten and Benjamin really open up to show you the deep pains they've walked through, specifically with the miscarriages of their babies. Kirsten's transparency about her feelings is powerful, and profound wisdom is shared in the hope they cling to while dealing with such losses in life: a beauty from ashes.
“Hey, Mom, Dad, what’s sex? Wait—did you guys have SEX to have ME?!” Have you ever been blindsided by your kids' questions? You’re not alone! This week, Kirsten and Benjamin share how they’ve navigated these potentially awkward conversations and the relational benefits they reap for everyone.
You don’t have to be a “Bible scholar” to lead your kids in their spiritual lives. Benjamin and Kirsten talk about the simplicity and importance of family devotions and of leading your kids in valuing the growth of their most important relationship—their relationship with God.
This week, Benjamin and Kirsten continue in part 2 of the conversation on racial tension in our society with a special focus on the next generation: teaching our kids. Learn from their experiences and the wisdom gained as they've raised their children, not shying away from the conversation, but showing their children the importance of diversity and how to righteously fight for what's right.