Hi, I'm Your Messy Friend. My hopes here are simple: to accompany you in your day, maybe make you laugh, and to remind you: You are so not alone in your mess. With unfiltered & messy processing, inspiring conversations, thought provoking prompts and a LOT of compensating with humor, I hope to help you get into (and celebrate) your messy brain.
The Your Messy Friend podcast is an absolute gem in the world of self-help podcasts. From the moment I started listening, I knew I had found something special. This podcast is like having a heart-to-heart conversation with a close friend who understands and empathizes with your struggles. Kayleigh, the host of the podcast, introduces herself as not an expert, but rather someone who shares the same messy issues that many of us experience. This sincerity and authenticity shine through in her voice, creating a genuine connection with her listeners.
One of the best aspects of this podcast is its honesty and willingness to explore the messier parts of life. It acknowledges that these messy moments are an important part of the human experience. Instead of being talked at by mental health professionals, who may sometimes feel distant or detached, Kayleigh talks to her listeners as someone who has gone through similar struggles. As someone who has been in and out of therapy for years, it is refreshing to hear from someone relatable rather than an "expert." This podcast provides a safe space to delve into difficult topics without judgment.
Listening to Kayleigh feels like sitting in a best friend's bedroom late at night, pouring your heart out. Her comforting and supportive tone creates a sense of intimacy that allows listeners to open up about their own experiences. It's truly therapeutic to hear someone share their vulnerabilities openly and honestly. The first episode captivated me from start to finish, leaving me wanting more.
While it is difficult to find any major flaws in this podcast, one minor drawback could be that it only has one episode available at the time of this review. As a new listener, I am eager for more content and excited to see what guests will come on in future episodes. However, considering how well-received the first episode was, I have no doubt that the future episodes will be just as captivating.
In conclusion, Your Messy Friend is exactly the kind of self-help podcast I've been searching for. It embraces the messiness of life and provides a compassionate, relatable voice to guide listeners through their own struggles. Kayleigh's ability to create a safe and comforting atmosphere makes this podcast feel like a genuine conversation with a caring friend. I can't wait to see what else comes from this podcast and highly recommend giving it a listen.
Hi friends, In this quick episode, I elaborate on something I said in the last episode: "I don't let people talk to me like sh*t." xoxo YMF :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi my loves, Today I'm coming at you live from the comfort of my bed, a little hungover after a fun night out with friends! I use being hungover as an example of how we can rewrite our narratives and break patterns when negative feelings, like shame, come up. When we start being present in our lives, we can notice these patterns. When we notice the pattern, we can intervene. When we intervene, we are caring for ourselves and building a relationship with ourselves. It's awesome! I empower you to step in and be your own cheerleader. 10/10 recommendation: immediately after finishing this episode, listen to "Cheerleader" by Omi and dance to it/sing it to yourself. "Oh I think that I found myself a cheerleader!" :) xoxo YMF --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hello my messy friends :) I am back from an unintentional hiatus. This episode is mostly a recap of the last few weeks with some life lesson-themes sprinkled in. I talk about how flying challenged me to trust myself and the evidence that negated the old, anxiety-driven stories I was telling myself. I also share about how the Universe has repeatedly forced me into focusing on what I can control, and letting go of the rest. As always, I am grateful to you for listening and self conscious that this is a tangent with no through-line. HOWEVER - the evidence (you returning week after week, listening back to confirm, etc) would conclude that these episodes are generally very cohesive and that you enjoy them. So, that is the story I will be telling myself as I post this and start watching The Bear right after (have you seen it yet?? I'm excited!) xoxo Your Messy Friend :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hello my messy, exhausted, saucy, wonderful friends
Like a voice message from a friend, this episode is captured and given to you from the street. I just couldn't wait to tell you: you oughta give yourself whatever the f*ck you want today. What is it that you want today? What would just feel… easy? xoxo, Your Messy Friend. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi my messy friends :) Today I ponder what the world might look like if we could all just slow down, pause and enjoy the little things. ~*Happy Birthday*~ to my beautiful, strong Mama! xoxo, Your Messy Friend :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hello my beloved messy friends :) In today's episode, you get a good look at my inner critic. I process that in real time and share my thoughts on having boundaries with ourselves, taking action to support our #bestlife and how gratitude can turn a moment, day, life around. In light of the tragic overturn of Roe v Wade, please consider making a donation to the Love Land Foundation with funds therapy for Black women and girls. TW Black maternal mortality: Black women experience maternal mortality two to three times higher than that of white women in the US (CDC, April 2022). This decision impacts Black women and trans/non-binary AFAB folks more than anyone else. If you can, please make a donation by following the link below or going to thelovelandfoundation.org: https://www.flipcause.com/secure/cause_pdetails/NzU4MzM= CDC article: https://www.cdc.gov/healthequity/features/maternal-mortality/index.html xoxo Your Messy Friend (PS forgot my identifiers - Kayleigh, they/she, gender fluid and queer ((happy Pride!!)) White, German/Polish American. Cap sun, Sag moon, Virgo rising. The Advocate/INFJ:) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi, my messy friends! In today's tangential episode, I weave together thoughts about depression, getting in touch with our desires and fears, being an ally to ourselves and how that might allow us to show up more fully for others. My anti-fear manifesto: I'm grateful for this space to practice vulnerability and grow my emotional endurance. What's your anti-fear manifesto? xoxo Your Messy Friend :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!!! In this episode, I talk about how I recently went to church and quickly realized the pastor was homophobic (!!), and how the spirit of Jesus him/themself, or my highest self, dealt with it. I also talk about the difference between accepting and embracing the people in your life for who they are. I hope that something I've said resonates with you or at least makes you laugh, and to all of my queers out there: I LOVE YOU! YOU ARE VALID! I HOPE YOU WEAR A CROP TOP THIS MONTH! xoxo Your Messy Friend :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi my messy friends - in this episode, we honor ten lives tragically taken by a white supremacist in Buffalo NY on March 14th, 2022. Thank you to my friend Chloe who created the list of names and brief descriptions that I share in this episode. I ask you to please not shy away from potential discomfort, which can inherently perpetuate white supremacist culture. I lovingly challenge you to be here with me. To feel it and be here and breathe. To show up fully in the world, whole, for all that it is: painful, joyful, ugly, beautiful, frightening, and magical. **This episode has been edited since it's release in 2022; it is now shorter and focuses solely on the 10 lives lost.** With love, Your Messy Friend --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi my messy friends, Today we get into outgrowing our comfort zones, the discomfort of breaking patterns and why it's time to say "no more." As always, I hope that something I've said landed on your heart. Please feel free to connect with me about it over Instagram (or text or email if you know me, whatever!) and I hope you take some time soon to: -Practice self awareness/body check ins -Remind yourself that you're worthy of unknown, incredible outcomes -Take yourself on a date to congratulate yourself on all of the awesome human-ing you've been doing lately :) xoxo Your Messy Friend :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi friends - omw out the door to a job I ~*manifested*~ back in 2020. Tune in to hear about that, the power of believing in yourself and why you shouldn't wait to be an ophthalmologist. **I will be doing another episode addressing this, but just want to say here: I speak to the immense joy and liberation I feel living as an out, loud 'n proud queer. I want to acknowledge that this speaks to my privilege, and that I am very lucky to be able to live my truth so freely. There are so many valid reasons that people can't or struggle to come out. Please know this: it is enough to know it and feel proud of yourself. It is enough to whisper to yourself "... I'm gay (or an ophthalmologist) and I know it." I am proud of you, and love you for being here. xoxo Your Messy Friend :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi my messy friends :) Today's episode is full of deep breaths and giggly tangents about talking more kindly to ourselves, and the value of checking in with how we're feeling. I hope you'll talk to yourself like someone you love today (ahem) and let yourself know how appreciated you are. You're doing great. Tune in for more short episodes! Xoxo, Your Messy Friend --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
It only took 22 days of overthinking it to post this raw, unedited episode... but here we are! I did it! Go me :) In today's episode we'll take a tangential stroll through topics such as how we talk to ourselves, how a need to be liked can lead to resentment (dun dun DUN) and the powers getting vulnerable and asking for help. Grab a cozy blanket and your favorite seasonal beverage (or, you know, Gatorade) and join me as I sip some cold apple cider (ah, so fresh) and get us in our feels. Thanks to all of you, my messy friends, for listening and connecting with me. I appreciate you. Message me @yourmessyfriend with topics you'd like me to cover, your thoughts on the latest episode, or to say hi! :) Xoxo Your Messy Friend --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hello my messy friends! I am back with another wonderful guest this week! We met at the workshop I mentioned in last week's episode, On Being Human by Jen Pastiloff. We cried and hugged and sang and held hands and, luckily, connected on Instagram afterward. *TW - Discussion of miscarriages and depression. My guest, Allison, has experienced some of the most painful grief imaginable - that of losing a child. I am so grateful to her for being brave and generous enough to share her feelings about this with us. I know I learned so much about grief and healing in this conversation, and I hope you will too. Thank you, Allison. She is a writer, researcher, published memoir editor and medicine woman, and inspires the people in her life with raw, authentic and truly relatable takes on mental health, what it means to own our fears and the meaning of grief. Also a Reiki practitioner and yoga teacher, this woman knows a thing or two about healing. She offers coaching through her website wearelivingbravely.com where you can also find her blog, Bravely, and her podcast Braving the Storm. I am so excited to welcome to the show, my friend, Allison Blair Snyder. Where can we find Allison? @allisonislivingbravely on IG wearelivingbravely.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi, welcome to the podcast... I'm Your Messy Friend :) It's just you and me this week, friend. I'm back after a week of recuperating from burn out, and in this week's episode I share the story of how a podcast episode changed my life, the "why" behind my work and the village it has taken to get me here. I hope you'll join me in answering the following prompts this week: 1) What qualities do I desire in my relationships? 2) What do I need to feel good right now? As always, thanks for listening and tune in next Monday for another episode. xoxo, Your Messy Friend What was that thing you mentioned? "On Being Human" by Jennifer Pastiloff Where can we find Overactive? @overactiveshortfilm on IG & Venmo --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
My guest today is someone I've dreamed of having on the podcast since its inception. Known as The Dope Doula on Instagram, she uses her platform to share all things birth. She is a prenatal and neonatal education and birth doula, as well as a Reproductive Justice Advocate. She is an informed, important and passionate member of the Birth Workers community, and I am so honored to have this opportunity to ask her a million questions and learn from her. My messy friends, please welcome to the show, Shakirah Hill Taylor! Where can we find Shakirah? @the_dope_doula on IG --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi, welcome to the podcast... I'm Your Messy Friend :) Today's guest is a natural storyteller and (lucky for us) has chosen to tell stories by way of performing and writing. As a writer, she is featured in publications such as Anti Racism Daily, Well and Good and Stylist Magazine. She also runs a blog and newsletter called Heart to Arts where she showcases Black owned businesses and diversity issues in the arts. All of these impressive accomplishments aside, my guest today is funny, quick-witted, kind and deeply intuitive. She not only plays a big role in Overactive, a series we are co-creating, but also in my life as a new friend and creative partner in crime. I am so freaking excited to welcome to the show, my dear friend, Shayna Conde! Where can we find Shayna? @shaynarc & @heart.to.arts on IG @SRCondee on Twitter @shaynarc on Clubhouse What was that thing you mentioned? Subscribe to Shayna's blog Heart To Arts here: https://hearttoarts.substack.com/ @overactiveshortfilm on Venmo if you'd like to help fund Overactive; we are hoping to raise at least $8,000 between now and July. Eek! Thank you to all who donate! (Donations will go toward cost of: crew, actors, equipment rental, location rental, catering & other essential expenses for Overactive.) https://venmo.com/overactiveshortfilm @overactiveshortfilm on IG --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi, welcome to the podcast... I'm Your Messy Friend :) It's just you and me today, friends, as we delve into how you're (really) feeling, how our "Littles" might be feeling and what we'd do if imposter syndrome didn't exist. I share about my at home writing retreat and encourage you to create a little retreat of your own. Tune in for this and some messy feels as I yell at a passing motorcyclist, grapple with imperfection and get real about how we all can hold and feel so much at once. If you are interested in supporting the AAPI community, consider taking this free Bystander Intervention Training to stop Asian/American and Xenophobic Harrassment by Hollaback: https://www.ihollaback.org/bystanderintervention/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi, welcome to the podcast... I'm Your Messy Friend :) *Trigger Warning: Discussion of disordered eating, body image & weight. *Apologies for the wonky sound on my end - please ignore and enjoy this emotional, informative and inspiring conversation! My guest today is courageous... a leader on the ever-growing, no filter, raw emotion, real life human-side of social media, she challenges stigmas around mental health and eating disorders by documenting and sharing both her struggles and triumphs. On a journey to creating, embodying and celebrating her most whole, accepting and loving self, my guest inspires her followers, friends and family to do the same, just by being... Alejandra. I am so excited and honored to welcome to the show, Alejandra Parrilla! Where can we find Ále? @being_alejandra on IG What was that thing you mentioned? The HAES Community; for more info go to https://haescommunity.com/ Ále's favorite advice: “I wish you would treat yourself with the same compassion you treat us.” - Ále's friend :) “Surrender more.” Gabby Bernstein “Everything is temporary.” - Ále "Embrace the perfectly imperfect." - Ále's Mom :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi, welcome to the podcast... I'm Your Messy Friend :) My messy friend du jour is Shani Nicole! A worldly woman of many, many talents, she is an artistic story teller, intuitive empath and humanist visionary, challenging the status quo through creative arts and creating healing and liberating solutions. Tune in for a discussion on how art, astrology and activism create the foundation for Shani's ever-evolving and expanding career. Stay for Shani's thorough and thoughtful breakdown of colonialism and racism, especially in the USA. She is a well of knowledge and experience, and I am so grateful for this opportunity to learn from her as she dives into these topics. Shani challenges us to think bigger, take time to think about what we've learned in the past year, and to (as we move from the age of Capricorn to Aquarius), transition "from me, to we." Welcome to the show, Shani! Where can we find Shani? @empathic_realist on IG, @empathicrealist on Clubhouse The Empathic Realist podcast is available where you get your podcasts. Make sure to subscribe and follow! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi, welcome to the podcast... I'm Your Messy Friend :) This week's episode is graced by a storyteller for feminine self expression, telling these stories with raw, evocative photos and videos under the business name SharetheSoul. The most Sag-y Sagittarius I've ever met, she also is co-creator of Solstead Maine which is a - wait for it- homestead in the heart of Maine. Tune in for our thoughts on the importance of dance parties, self care, hugs and french fries, and for your permission slip to determine, work and live in YOUR seasons! I am so excited to welcome to the show my dear friend, Em Roscoe! Where can we find Em? @sharethesoul & @solsteadmaine on IG What was that thing you mentioned? Izzy VanHall Paint Your Practice --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi, welcome to the podcast... I'm Your Messy Friend :) My very first guest once cut off all my hair, convinced me to dangle him out of a two story window and ran away with me on multiple occasions. He is the best dancer at any wedding, an avid Cheez-It lover turned vegan and an all around groovy and awesome human. Welcome to the show, my brother, Ryan Shuler! In this episode, Ryan and I discuss his "minor case of autism", the relationship between alcohol and anxiety, why it's important to have compassion for others and his wild, fantasy, imaginary dream life. Thank you, Ryan, for coming with your soul to bare and stories to share. (That rhymed!) Ryan is a filmmaker, video editor and founder of the media platform It's Easy Being Green which is bringing everyday eco-friendly stories to everyday people. You can find him on Instagram at @ryan.shuler and on Twitter at @RyanEShuler, and follow It's Easy Being Green at @easygreen422 on both IG & Twitter. Happy Birthday, Baby Sis! We love you! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
Hi! Welcome to the podcast... I'm Your Messy Friend :) My goals here are simple: to accompany you in your day, maybe make you laugh, and to remind you: You are so not alone in your mess. For a tangent on what I didn't learn at CPR training, stories of the messiest (and messiest-turned beautiful) things I've ever done, and 7 thought-provoking questions, listen ahead. The audio is not perfect and neither am I, but I figure it can only get better from here. (... I'm hoping?) Thank you for being here! Love, Your Messy Friend @yourmessyfriend IG & Twitter Mentioned in the episode: Ellie Schnitt: @holy_schnitt on Twitter and @ellie_schnitt on IG. Special thanks to my pal Cassidy for all of your help, BFF Chloe for letting me borrow your mic and LinkedIn royalty / founder of Say Things Better Lila Smith for your encouragement & guidance! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kayleigh-shuler/message
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