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Creating a healthier home is about more than making a few healthier swaps. Whether you're just beginning or you've already made changes, knowing what to prioritize next can help your efforts work together instead of leaving you wondering what you're missing. In this episode, discover why patience, the right sequence, and personalized support can help you keep moving toward the healthier home and lifestyle you want—without wasting time, money, or energy.

You love them. So why can't you shake the feeling that something might be wrong? Nothing is bad enough to leave. There's no glaring red flag. You're happy… mostly. But when you imagine getting engaged, moving in together, having a baby, or saying this is my person forever, something inside you hesitates. Do NOT ignore that feeling. But don't assume it means you should break up, either. In this episode, I'm sitting down with marriage and family therapist Dr. Benjamin Jones about the yellow, orange, and even beige flags that can leave you questioning your future together…and how to figure out what they actually mean. Dr. Ben offers a reframe that changes everything: Stop waiting for certainty. Start looking for confidence. You'll learn: How to tell a solvable problem from a real deal breaker Why you should never marry someone expecting them to change The question to ask when you love someone but still aren't sure Why confidence matters more than certainty Which relationship problems can actually get better with the right support Why waiting until after you're engaged to ask the hard questions may be too late If you're questioning whether this is really your person, listen to this episode before you make your next move. And if you want help figuring it out, book a free consultation with Dr. Ben at growingself.com/ben. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Skylight — Stay connected with the people you love through beautiful digital calendars and photo frames designed for real family life. Learn more at skylightcal.com/lhs.

EP:206 Hey Thrive Community!

The feeling you can't shake isn't going away. And there's a reason. The regret that keeps coming back. The boredom you feel in a life you actually love. The shame that whispers something terrible about you. Your instinct might be to fix it. Get over it. Make it stop. I want you to try something very different. In this episode, I'm talking with psychotherapist Daniel Smith, author of Hard Feelings, about the emotions most of us would happily delete from our lives, and why getting rid of them might be exactly the wrong goal. This conversation surprised me. Daniel says some things most people would never admit out loud. We get into regret, boredom, shame, anger, relationships, and the uncomfortable question that can completely change the way you understand what you're feeling. You'll learn: Why some feelings keep coming back no matter how hard you try to move on The surprising connection between boredom and the things you love most What may really be hiding underneath an old regret Why shame deserves to be questioned, not automatically believed When a dark emotion deserves your attention (and when you need to push back) The one question I want you to ask the next time a hard feeling shows up Because sometimes the feeling you're trying hardest to escape is the one you need to understand. And once you hear what it has to say, you might see your life very differently. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Skylight — Stay connected with the people you love through beautiful digital calendars and photo frames designed for real family life. Learn more at skylightcal.com/lhs.

You know those homeschool conversations where someone asks, “What curriculum are you using?” Sometimes it is harmless. Sometimes she is just curious, looking for ideas, or trying to understand what is working for another family. But sometimes that question lands in a tender place. You hear what someone else is using, what level their child is in, what tutorial they joined, how fast they are moving, or how much that mother expects every day—and suddenly your own homeschool starts to look smaller in your mind. In this episode, I'm talking about the pressure that can rise when another family's path starts to feel like the ruler you should use to measure your own. I share a recent conversation with a mother in a very full season who was trying to make wise decisions for the actual children in her home, only to feel deeply criticized by someone whose family and season looked very different from hers. That kind of conversation can make a mother wonder whether she should push harder, add more, or copy a path that does not truly fit. And I want to be clear: structured curriculum, co-ops, tutorials, high expectations, and rigorous homeschooling can be wonderful gifts when they are serving a specific child and family well. This episode is not against structure, challenge, discipline, or asking children to do hard things. But your homeschool does not have to win a conversation. If comparison has been making you question a path that is truly serving your children, this episode will help you slow down, look honestly at what God has placed in front of you, and choose faithfulness over impressiveness. Scripture referenced: Proverbs 3:5–6, ESV: “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” This passage is not a promise that every homeschool decision will be obvious, easy, or free from struggle. It is a call to trust the Lord, acknowledge Him in ordinary decisions, and refuse to build our homeschool on fear, appearance, comparison, or our own limited understanding. XOXO, Katie

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If you're doing EVERYTHING in your relationship and starting to resent the hell out of your partner for it…we need to talk. You're the one who notices. Remembers. Plans. Worries. Follows up. Makes sure things actually happen. And after a while, it stops feeling like we're in this together and starts feeling like: Why am I the only one who cares? I've been a marriage counselor for over twenty years, and I can tell you: this dynamic can get ugly. Because underneath the arguments about dishes, schedules, kids, errands, and who was supposed to do what is something much more painful: If you really loved me, why would you let me carry all of this alone? That's why I invited sociologist Dr. Leah Ruppanner, author of Drained, to join me for a very real conversation about mental load, resentment, and how to create a relationship that actually feels balanced again. And some of what she shared surprised me. Because the solution may not be getting your partner to do more. It may not be splitting everything 50/50. And some of the things you're doing to make your relationship more equitable could actually be keeping you stuck. You'll discover: Why does the mental load turn into such intense resentment? What's really happening when you feel like you're the only one who cares? Why can asking your partner to “just help more” backfire? What if 50/50 isn't actually the healthiest goal? Are you unknowingly making it harder for your partner to step up? And how do you change this dynamic when your partner isn't changing? If you're exhausted from carrying your relationship (and even more exhausted from being angry about it), listen to this before you have the same fight again. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Skylight — Stay connected with the people you love through beautiful digital calendars and photo frames designed for real family life. Learn more at skylightcal.com/lhs.

Julia and Drew are back in the studio after a long month to discuss Next Gen NYC Season 2, Episodes 6-9. The girls sip on some Cha Cha Matcha and dish about the show hitting a bit of a slump, the unfortunate magnetism of Charlie Zakkour, The Valley reunion, The Shards being the worst show on television, and raising millions for ALS. XOXO, Girls Room.Follow Girls Room on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow Drew on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow Julia on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

EP:206 Hey Thrive Community!

What if the thing you're most ashamed of isn't proof that you're a bad person…but proof that you care deeply about being a good one? If there's something you did (or didn't do) that you still replay in your mind years later, I want you to hear this: There may be a name for what you're carrying. Moral injury. And no, healing it does not mean pretending it was okay. In this episode, I'm talking with Dr. Jaimie Lusk, a board-certified psychologist, Marine Corps veteran, longtime VA clinician, and leading expert on moral injury. Together, we unpack why some experiences turn into crushing guilt and shame, and how to finally start loosening their grip. You'll learn: Why guilt that won't go away may actually be evidence of your conscience What moral injury is and why it can leave you feeling fundamentally “bad” The “million-dollar question” that can completely change how you see what happened How to separate your actual responsibility from the responsibility you've taken on What to say when someone you love is withdrawing under the weight of shame Why healing isn't about erasing the past, but about deciding what you do with it now How to find the right kind of professional help for moral injury You cannot go back and change what happened. But you do not have to spend the rest of your life punishing yourself for it. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Skylight — Stay connected with the people you love through beautiful digital calendars and photo frames designed for real family life. Learn more at skylightcal.com/lhs.

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You know those days that are so packed with appointments you think, “I guess we're not really doing school today”? For years, appointment days frustrated me. We did the driving, sat in the waiting rooms, talked to providers, answered questions, listened carefully, and came home wiped out. But because we had not finished the normal books and lessons I had planned, the day still felt wasted. Over time, I began to see those days differently. In this episode, I'm talking about medical visits, therapy appointments, waiting rooms, car conversations, follow-up practice, and the kind of learning that may already be happening in the middle of a complicated family life. This does not mean every appointment has to become school. It does not mean every visit needs a project, a worksheet, or a carefully planned lesson afterward. Sometimes the wisest thing after an appointment is rest. But if you have been feeling like appointments are only stealing from your homeschool, this episode will help you begin noticing what may already be there—and let real learning count with a little more peace. XOXO, Katie Mentioned in this episode: Road Trip Mysteries — USA Edition — a screen-free adventure book with puzzles, coloring pages, geography, history, and science that can travel with your family on appointment days. Road Trip Mysteries — Yellowstone Edition — another Road Trip Mysteries adventure for families who want a ready-to-bring resource for car rides, waiting rooms, and travel days.  

Hi all! We've been dealing with some pressing family issues the past two weeks that popped up during our vacation, so we're behind schedule with episodes. We're recording an big ol' episode Sunday covering Next Gen NYC S2 Episodes 6 through 9. Sorry for the delay! Life happened and will continue to happen. In the interim, we're re-releasing some classicos from the vault. Endlessly appreciative of your listenership, and see you this weekend.----------------------------------------------------------------------Drew is joined by his Bravo group chat girls Ilina Mitra and Clare B to discuss Season 9, Episode 7 of Summer House. The girls crack open an ice cold Loverboy and dish about Jesse's day-long sexual meltdown, swashbuckler fetishes, searching for Alix Earle in Miami, the devious and puffy Craig Conover, and Kyle handling conflict responsibly and maturely (which will obviously never happen again). XOXO, Girls Room.Follow Girls Room on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow Drew on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow Julia on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Why do certain stories break us open in ways we cannot fully explain? Why does the sacrifice of a fictional lion make a grown adult cry? Why does a humble gardener carrying his friend through darkness produce that catch in the throat that feels like something more than sentiment? Why does a wrongly imprisoned man emerging into the rain with his arms outstretched feel less like a plot point and more like a moment of genuine liberation? In this episode Tanya explores one of the most beautiful ideas in all of Christian thought — the concept C.S. Lewis called Sehnsucht — the inconsolable longing that no earthly experience can satisfy. Drawing from Ecclesiastes 3:11, Lewis's works including The Weight of Glory and Mere Christianity, and Tolkien's argument that the gospel is the myth that is also true, Tanya makes the case that the stories that move us most are not accidental. They are echoes. Breadcrumbs scattered by God across the human imagination — in Narnia and Middle Earth and nineteenth century Paris and the walls of Shawshank — all carrying the same thread. The same fingerprint. The same frequency that the eternity in every human heart was designed to recognize. She walks through the gospel thread running through The Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe, The Lord of the Rings, Les Misérables, The Shawshank Redemption, Beauty and the Beast, and Encanto — showing the specific gospel element each story carries. And she addresses what we see in people who reject the longing versus those who follow it home — drawing from Pascal, Frankl, and Augustine. This is not a theology lecture. It is a joyful, relational, wonder-filled conversation about the Story we were all made for. In This Episode You'll Learn: What Ecclesiastes 3:11 means when it says God set eternity in the human heart C.S. Lewis's concept of Sehnsucht — the inconsolable longing and what it points toward The famous argument Lewis received from Tolkien — the gospel as the myth that is also true Why story bypasses the defensive intellect and reaches the soul directly The gospel thread running through The Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe — substitutionary atonement and resurrection The gospel threads in The Lord of the Rings — providence, sacrificial love, and human insufficiency completed by grace The grace-and-law dynamic in Les Misérables — and what Javert shows us about the person who cannot receive grace The resurrection imagery in The Shawshank Redemption The gospel of love-before-worthiness in Beauty and the Beast The performance-based identity and grace-restoration arc in Encanto What Pascal, Viktor Frankl, and Augustine contribute to the question of the rejected longing What is different about the life of the person who has received the True Story An invitation to pay attention to the ache — and follow the thread home People and Works Referenced C.S. Lewis — The Weight of Glory, Mere Christianity, The Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe, The Voyage of the Dawn Treader, An Experiment in Criticism J.R.R. Tolkien — The Lord of the Rings, On Fairy Stories Victor Hugo — Les Misérables Blaise Pascal — Pensées Viktor Frankl — Man's Search for Meaning Augustine of Hippo — Confessions Carl Jung — Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious Scripture Referenced Ecclesiastes 3:11 — "He has set eternity in the human heart." Romans 5:8 — "While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." John 1:5 — "The light shines in the darkness and the darkness has not overcome it." Romans 8:22 — "The whole creation has been groaning." Revelation 21:5 — "Behold, I am making all things new." Key Takeaway The stories that move us most are not accidental. They carry the frequency of the True Story — the gospel of sacrifice, grace, resurrection, and love-before-worthiness that God has been telling since before time began. The ache they produce is not sentiment. It is the eternity in your heart recognizing where it belongs. Pay attention to it. Follow the thread. It points home.   I hope this episode blesses you! Xoxo, Tanya Episode Resources: Episode Catalog   My trusted Supplement Dispensary: Aligned Vitality Fullscript Dispensary My trusted Telehealth Peptide Provider:  EllieMD_Tanya Engesether *I do get a small commission when you use one of the above affiliate links. 2 Ways To Connect With Me: 1️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/community   2️⃣CONTACT: Leave me a question or comment ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/contact     "Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they're meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! 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What if improving your health has less to do with doing more...and more to do with doing less? In this episode, discover why simplifying your wellness journey may be the key to reducing stress, creating a healthier home, and building healthier habits that last. If you've been feeling overwhelmed by all the wellness advice, this conversation will help you focus on what matters most so you can move forward with greater peace and confidence.

The problem isn't that you can't decide. It's that you have too many options. If every big decision feels exhausting, there's a reason for it, and it has nothing to do with willpower. I know because I'm exactly the same way. I once spent 90 minutes trying to pick something to watch on Netflix, watched every trailer, and finally handed the remote to my husband and said, "You choose." Sound familiar? In this episode, I'm joined by David Epstein, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Range and bestselling author of Inside the Box: How Constraints Make Us Better. Together, we explore why keeping every door open is quietly making us more anxious, more overwhelmed, and less satisfied, and why creating limits is often the fastest path to clarity, confidence, and peace. You'll learn: Why having more options often leads to more regret The surprising brain bias that keeps you stuck How to stop second-guessing yourself after you make a decision Why "good enough" beats trying to find the perfect choice How to make big life decisions feel smaller and less scary A simple subtraction exercise that instantly clarifies your priorities Why committing to one path actually gives you more freedom, not less If you're tired of overthinking, afraid of making the wrong choice, or keeping every possibility alive because you don't want to miss out, this conversation will help you stop spinning and start moving forward. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Skylight — Stay connected with the people you love through beautiful digital calendars and photo frames designed for real family life. Learn more at skylightcal.com/lhs.

EP205: Hey Thrive Community!

Money. Intimacy. Chores. Parenting. Sometimes it's just the way they said "okay." If it feels like you're fighting about everything, don't try to fix everything. Fix this first. In this episode, I'm joined by my colleague Alejandra Piñero Stillmann, a licensed marriage and family therapist at Growing Self, to talk about the one change that makes every other relationship problem easier to solve: emotionally safe communication. Because here's what I've learned after working with thousands of couples... The fight you're having is rarely the real problem. When couples feel stuck, they usually try to solve money, intimacy, parenting, or household conflict one issue at a time. But if every conversation turns into an argument, none of those problems stay solved. The foundation has to come first. In this episode you'll learn: Why you're probably fixing the wrong problem The real reason the same arguments keep happening What emotionally safe communication actually looks like How to stop seeing each other as opponents and start working as a team Why lasting relationship change takes practice—not perfection The one question to ask your partner tonight that can change the entire conversation If you're ready to take the next step, download my free Communication That Connects training and workbook at www.growingself.com/communication. And if you'd like personalized support, you can learn more about Alejandra Piñero Stillmann and book a free consultation at www.growingself.com/alejandra. Alejandra works with individuals and couples in both English and Spanish and specializes in helping people build healthier, more connected relationships. Sometimes the biggest breakthrough in your relationship isn't solving the biggest fight. It's finally learning how to have a different conversation. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Skylight — Stay connected with the people you love through beautiful digital calendars and photo frames designed for real family life. Learn more at skylightcal.com/lhs.

In Part 2 of this conversation, Cynthia Harvey-Brown and Carlie Zak move from awareness to action, sharing practical ways to support your energy, establish healthier rhythms, and make intentional choices that foster lasting well-being. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed or simply looking for a place to start, this episode offers realistic encouragement and practical next steps to help you create a healthier life and home—one intentional decision at a time. In This Episode Practical habits that support greater energy Creating healthier daily rhythms Why your home environment matters Simple, sustainable changes you can make today Encouragement to take your next step with confidence       Hey Friend, Thank you for joining me for Part 2 of this conversation. If there's one thing I hope you'll remember, it's this: lasting transformation begins with one intentional decision. You don't have to change everything overnight. Simply begin with the next right step. Thank you for being here. If this conversation encouraged you, would you share it with another woman who may need to hear it? With gratitude, Xoxo, Cynthia Connect with us:    If you're ready to create a healthier home that supports your health and well-being, I'd love to help. You can schedule a complimentary Wellness Discovery Call using this link. Carlie is also generously offering listeners a complimentary 15-minute Rhythm Session to help you explore what's keeping you from feeling aligned and energized. You'll find her information and special offer in today's show notes below. Carlie Zak's Personal Re-Alignment Rhythm (pdf + tutorial): https://www.vitalityhabits.ca/carlierealignrhythm vitalityhabits.ca IG: @carliezak WEB: VitalityHabits.ca FREE: Re-Alignment Rhythm    

I need you to stop making that pros-and-cons list. It's not going to give you the answer. When you're trying to decide whether to leave a relationship, the not-knowing can feel unbearable. One day, you're done. The next, you're wondering whether you should try one more time. I've worked with couples for decades, and here's what I wish more people knew: You may not be stuck because you're indecisive. You may be asking the wrong question. In this episode, I'm talking with Growing Self marriage and family therapist Georgi Chizk about discernment counseling, a short, structured process that helps you stop spinning and start getting clear. And there's something important I want you to hear: You don't have only two choices. There's a third path nobody talks about. Listen to learn: The one-to-ten question that reveals your true commitment level Why couples therapy can fail when one person is already leaning out How trying harder can accidentally push your partner further away The three legitimate paths forward, including choosing to stay Two exercises you can use tonight to begin finding clarity You cannot repair a relationship until you know whether both people genuinely want to try. And you don't need to have the answer before asking for help. Georgi offers free consultations for people who feel exhausted, uncertain, and ready to find a clear path forward. Meet Georgi and schedule your free consultation at www.growingself.com/georgi. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Skylight — Stay connected with the people you love through beautiful digital calendars and photo frames designed for real family life. Learn more at skylightcal.com/lhs.

EP:204 There are some conversations that are incredibly difficult for me to have. This is one of them. My children should not have had to grow up without their father. I should not have had to raise my children without him. No family should have to experience the devastating loss of someone they love because of a mental health crisis. And yet, so many families are living with grief, trauma, and unanswered questions after losing someone they love. As a parent and someone who supports parents every day, I see how much pressure we're carrying. We're expected to do more, be more, achieve more, parent perfectly, show up for everyone, and somehow keep it all together. But our brains and nervous systems weren't designed to carry unlimited stress. Eventually, something has to give. And if you're struggling right now, please don't wait until things get worse to ask for help. If you're feeling hopeless, isolated, overwhelmed, or like you can't keep going, reach out to someone. Talk to a trusted friend. Contact a mental health professional. Call a crisis line. Go to the hospital if you need immediate support. You do not have to figure this out alone. And if you're the person supporting someone who is struggling, I want you to hear this, too: You can love someone deeply and still need support for yourself. You can show up for them while also taking care of your own nervous system. And sometimes, one of the hardest things we have to learn is that we can do everything we can to support someone—and still cannot control the outcome. That doesn't mean you didn't love them enough. It means you're human. In this episode of Thrive Like a Parent, I'm opening up about grief, mental health, family loss, parenting through unimaginable circumstances, and why asking for help is not a sign of weakness. If you're struggling, please reach out today. Don't wait. And if someone you love is struggling, please don't assume they'll reach out on their own. Check in. Ask the uncomfortable question. Let them know they're not alone.

Money shame grows in silence. And the secret you're carrying is hurting you more than the mistake itself. My guest, Tiffany “The Budgetnista” Aliche, woke up on her 30th birthday jobless, living in her childhood bedroom, and $300,000 in debt. She'd been scammed. She was facing foreclosure. And she was too ashamed to tell her own father—an accountant and CFO—while living under his roof. Then she finally told the truth. That moment changed everything. In this deeply honest conversation, Tiffany and I unpack why emotional baggage related to money can be the biggest obstacle standing between where you are now and where you want to be financially.  Learn why smart, capable people hide money mistakes, and why shame can keep those mistakes growing long after the original crisis is over. As Tiffany puts it, “shame shields solutions.” Listen to learn: Why unresolved shame cripples your ability to become financially secure Why money shame feels so isolating How to separate a mistake from your identity The three patterns behind many financial disasters How to challenge the money story still running your life How to cultivate a positive relationship with money so that you can earn what you're worth… and keep (and grow) your money!! My friend, this is a very different way to think about your relationship with money. But working on yourself in this area unlocks the door to the financial prosperity and security that you want and deserve. Xoxo, Dr Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Skylight — Stay connected with the people you love through beautiful digital calendars and photo frames designed for real family life. Learn more at skylightcal.com/lhs

Hi all! Julia and Drew are on vacation right now, so we're re-releasing a classic Next Gen NYC S1 ep. Enjoooooooy!Julia and Drew are back in the studio to discuss Season 1, Episode 2 of Next Gen NYC. The girls sit down for some penne alla vodka and dish about Georgia getting severe up in here, Gia's superfluousness, penguin friends, the legendary diva Erika Christensen, and "woo!" vs. "yeah!" girls. XOXO, Girls Room.Back next week with new episodes!Follow Girls Room on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow Drew on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow Julia on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Everyone is talking about burnout. But Tanya believes the conversation is incomplete — and that the missing pieces are actually the most empowering ones. In this evidence-rich, countercultural, and deeply personal episode, Tanya goes beyond the surface conversation about burnout to address what the research actually shows, what is happening physiologically in a burned-out body, and why the most powerful levers for recovery may be more within reach than most people have been told. She starts with a surprising finding: by most objective measures, people are not working dramatically more hours than previous generations. So why is reported burnout rising so significantly? The answer — rooted in research on the always-on culture, the expectation gap, social comparison, resilience development, and workism — is more complex and more personal than most burnout conversations acknowledge. She brings her Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner lens to the physiology of burnout — explaining what is happening in the HPA axis, the dopaminergic system, and the prefrontal cortex in a way that is clinically grounded and completely accessible. And she addresses the faith dimension honestly — when faith protects against burnout, and when distorted religious messaging actually accelerates it. Then she says something countercultural: the current narrative that places burnout responsibility almost entirely on organizations and systems may actually be making individual recovery harder — because it removes agency from the people who need it most. This is not a harsh episode. It is a hopeful one. Because the most honest thing you can say to a burned-out woman is: you have more power in this than you have been told. In This Episode You'll Learn: The surprising data on working hours — and why burnout is rising even when hours have not dramatically increased Christina Maslach's three-dimension definition of burnout — exhaustion, cynicism, and reduced efficacy — and why it matters The physiological signature of burnout — HPA axis dysregulation, dopamine depletion, prefrontal cortex suppression Why you cannot think your way out of a physiological state — and what that means for recovery The always-on problem — how the collapse of recovery time drives burnout more than volume of work The expectation gap — Derek Thompson's concept of workism and the rise of work-as-identity The social comparison problem — how upward social comparison on a global scale creates a new kind of depletion The resilience research — what Nassim Taleb's antifragility and Ann Masten's resilience work actually say The faith dimension — what the research shows about religion as a protective factor against burnout When distorted faith messaging accelerates burnout instead of preventing it The countercultural take on whose responsibility burnout recovery actually is Martin Seligman's learned helplessness research — and why external locus of control makes burnout worse What actually helps — physiological recovery, identity work, expectation recalibration, structural limits, community A direct word to the woman who is in burnout right now Researchers and Sources Referenced Christina Maslach — Burnout: The Cost of Caring; Maslach Burnout Inventory Herbert Freudenberger — original burnout research (1974) Barry Schwartz — The Paradox of Choice Derek Thompson — Workism (The Atlantic, 2019) Leon Festinger — Social Comparison Theory Martin Seligman — Learned Helplessness research Ann Masten — Resilience research Nassim Nicholas Taleb — Antifragility Matthew Walker — Why We Sleep Robert Sapolsky — Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers Adam Grant — Languishing research (2021) Gallup State of the Global Workplace Report Indeed Burnout Survey (2021) Bureau of Labor Statistics — Average Working Hours data Scripture Referenced Matthew 11:28 — "Come to me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest." Psalm 23:2-3 — "He makes me lie down in green pastures... he restores my soul." Genesis 2:2-3 — God rested on the seventh day Galatians 6:9 — "Let us not grow weary in doing good." Isaiah 40:31 — "Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength." Key Takeaway Burnout is real, physiologically measurable, and clinically significant. It is also shaped — significantly — by what we believe about our worth, what we expect work to provide, and how much recovery we protect. The most empowering truth about burnout is that the most powerful levers for recovery are more within your reach than the current conversation acknowledges. You have more agency in this than you have been told. I hope this episode blesses you! Xoxo, Tanya Episode Resources: Episode Catalog   My trusted Supplement Dispensary: Aligned Vitality Fullscript Dispensary My trusted Telehealth Peptide Provider:  EllieMD_Tanya Engesether *I do get a small commission when you use one of the above affiliate links. 2 Ways To Connect With Me: 1️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/community   2️⃣CONTACT: Leave me a question or comment ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/contact   "Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they're meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!"    If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. 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I need you to hear this: You do not have to feel ready to change your life. But believing you need to feel ready? That's what gets people stuck, every time.  Here's the deal: You already know what you need to do. But if you keep waiting—for confidence, motivation, certainty, or some magical sign that says, now…. that what needs to change. The new idea: feeling ready comes after you take action, not before. That was just one of the main takeaways from an incredibly inspiring conversation with Cate Hall — a woman who doesn't just preach that, she lives it.  She's used this method to become a Supreme Court attorney, #1-ranked poker player (really!), and most recently the author of You Can Just Do Things. She's here to teach you about the hidden reason smart, capable people stay stuck, and more importantly, how to break the pattern. Listen to learn: The tiny shift that turns “someone should” into “I could” Why waiting for motivation may be the very thing keeping you frozen How to take action before your brain has talked you out of it Why rejection gets less powerful the moment you stop avoiding it How one brave move can create opportunities you never could have planned You do not need a personality transplant. You do not need a perfect plan. You need one move. And that move can change everything. So press play. Let's get you moving. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠ Skylight — Stay connected with the people you love through beautiful digital calendars and photo frames designed for real family life. Learn more at skylightcal.com/lhs. Music: Freedom Day by Andy Slatter

EP:203 Hi friends, I absolutely love these Q&A episodes because they're all about YOU. Every month, I get hundreds of questions from parents, caregivers, and individuals who are trying to better understand themselves, regulate their nervous systems, navigate difficult relationships, and break free from survival mode. This episode is my chance to answer some of your most asked—and most important—questions. If you've been feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, anxious, or simply wondering, "Why do I keep reacting this way?" you're not alone. In this month's Thrive Like a Parent Q&A, we're having an honest conversation about what it really takes to heal, regulate your nervous system, and create lasting change. Together, we'll explore: ✨ How to better understand your unique brain and nervous system. ✨ Practical tools for emotional regulation and reducing anxiety. ✨ My personal journey through grief, healing, and finding resilience. ✨ What to do when you're growing—but your partner isn't ready. ✨ How to support yourself without waiting for everyone else to change. ✨ The small daily habits that create lasting emotional wellness. One thing I hope you'll take away from this episode is that healing isn't about becoming a different person—it's about becoming more connected to who you've always been. You don't have to have all the answers today. You don't have to heal overnight. You simply need to take the next step. Whether you're navigating parenting challenges, relationship struggles, anxiety, trauma recovery, burnout, or simply trying to become the healthiest version of yourself, I hope this conversation reminds you that healing is possible—and you don't have to do it alone.

In Season 2 Episode 48 of our Montessori Babies Podcast, I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Savita Srivastava, a Yale-trained gastroenterologist. We talk all about the importance of your baby's gut microbiome!We touched on ideas like:What is the gut microbiome and how does it develop in infancy?How do the gut and the brain relate?Practical steps new parents can take to build baby's gut gardenHow baby's gut garden affects life long healthand more!Dr. Savita Srivastava's Resources:Grab her book: First 1000 Days: How Your Baby's Gut Microbes Shape Lifelong HealthWebsite: https://www.doctorsavita.com/Find her on LinkedInInsta: @gutdoctorsavitaFB: https://www.facebook.com/gutdoctorsavitaMontessori Babies Resources:

Sometimes, the people you love most can push your nervous system past its breaking point. Nervous system regulation is what helps you stay grounded, communicate clearly, and respond instead of react. And when you don't have it, you snap. You shut down. You get flooded, overwhelmed, or completely disconnected from the people you care about most. You're not failing. You're not “too sensitive.” And you're not bad at relationships. Your nervous system may simply be overloaded. I'm talking with emotional-development expert Alyssa Blask Campbell about why two people can experience the exact same moment in completely different ways, and how those invisible differences can create conflict, disconnection, and hurt feelings. Listen to learn: The four hidden senses shaping your emotional world Why generic self-care works for some people—and fails others How sensory differences create surprising relationship conflicts The difference between numbing yourself and truly regulating How to build calming strategies that actually fit you Sometimes the person you love isn't ignoring you, overreacting, or being difficult. Their nervous system may simply be speaking a different language. I hope this conversation helps you understand yourself more deeply, take things less personally, and bring more compassion into your relationships. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠

Have you ever reached the end of a full day knowing you cared for everyone, but still wondering whether your children felt loved by you? You handled meals, school, appointments, messages, laundry, medication, behavior, and everything else that had to happen. You were present. You were working. You were loving your family through all of it. But inside, you may still be thinking, “I just want my kids to know they are loved.” In this episode, I'm talking about that tender concern many mothers carry—especially when family life requires a lot of managing, planning, correcting, driving, caregiving, and keeping things moving. I share a small story from our home about an ordinary moment with one of my children, a coloring page, and a choice I almost treated as unimportant. That moment helped me notice something I still need to remember: the work of caring for a family really is love, but sometimes our children also need simple ways to experience that love as connection. If your days have been full and connection has felt hard, this episode will help you think gently about one ordinary way love can become easier for your child to feel. XOXO, Katie

What if the way you feel is connected to something in your everyday environment that you have not thought to question? In this episode, you are invited to take a wider view of your health and consider how your habits, routines, stress, sleep, household products, and daily surroundings may be influencing your body in ways that are easy to overlook.

How often should couples have sex? I'm going to tell you the truth: If you're counting, something deeper is already asking for your attention. When your partner starts feeling more like a roommate, it's easy to panic. To compare. To wonder whether your relationship is broken. But the “right number” isn't the answer. If you're lying next to the person you love wondering, “What happened to us?”... this episode is for you. In this conversation, I'm joined by Growing Self clinician and certified sex therapist Dori Bagi to uncover the hidden reasons desire fades, and what can actually bring it back. Listen to learn: Why sexual frequency is often a distracting symptom How spontaneous and responsive desire work differently The hidden expectations quietly creating pressure and resentment How hormones, body image, and emotional disconnection affect desire Whether attraction can return after it feels completely gone You may not have a libido problem. You may have an understanding problem. And once you can finally see what's happening, you can start changing it. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self P.S. If this is touching something tender in your relationship, you don't have to figure it out alone. You can connect directly with Dori for compassionate, expert support at growingself.com/dori.  Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠

Julia and Drew are back in the studio to discuss Next Gen NYC Season 2, Episode 5. The girls sip on some Cha Cha Matcha and dish about the show's best episode yet, Charlie's horrific transphobia, the new season of Project Runway, Audrey Hobert, and why culture was better in 2012. XOXO, Girls Room.We're taking next week off for summer vacation, but we'll be back in two weeks with a supersized episode covering Episodes 6 and 7!Timestamps:0:00 - 15:10 - Project Runway is Driving Drew to the Brink15:10 - 25:50 - Julia and Drew Reminisce about 2000s Reality TV25:50 - 51:18 - We're Millenials and We're Sad About Culture!51:18 - end - Next Gen NYC RecapFollow Girls Room on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow Drew on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow Julia on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

EP:202 Is the mess in your house stressing you out more than you'd like to admit? Hi friends, Can I be honest with you? One of the biggest triggers for my nervous system is mess and clutter. When my home feels chaotic, it can feel like my brain immediately goes into overdrive. And if you're a parent, I have a feeling you know exactly what I'm talking about. For years, I believed that a clean house meant I was doing a good job, and a messy house meant I was somehow failing. But here's what I've learned... Your home's appearance is not a reflection of your worth as a parent. In this episode of Thrive Like a Parent, I'm sharing how I stopped chasing perfection and started creating a home that supports my nervous system instead of overwhelming it. One of the biggest shifts I made was creating one space that belongs just to me—my bedroom. It's my calm, peaceful reset when toys are everywhere, laundry is piled up, and life feels beautifully chaotic. No TV. No clutter. Just a space where my nervous system can finally exhale. I've also had to let go of the unrealistic expectation that my home should look Pinterest-perfect. Because let's be real... When you're raising kids, "lived in" doesn't mean you're failing—it means you're living. I'm also sharing simple ways I've helped my kids become part of the solution by introducing responsibilities one small step at a time. Not because I expect perfection from them, but because teaching life skills builds confidence, responsibility, and teamwork. And maybe the hardest lesson of all... I had to stop worrying about what other people thought. I used to feel anxious whenever my parents came over, convinced they'd notice every toy on the floor or every pile of laundry. But healing taught me something powerful: Clutter doesn't define your value. Your home doesn't need to be spotless for you to be an incredible parent. If you're feeling overwhelmed by the mess, struggling with perfectionism, or constantly carrying the mental load of trying to keep everything together, I hope this episode reminds you to give yourself a little more grace. Because peace isn't found in a perfectly clean house. It's found in a regulated nervous system.

Have you ever overextended yourself to the point where you collapsed? Gave and gave and gave until your well was dry.. The problem isn't that you can't handle hard things. It's that you haven't learned how to find your sustainable pace. If you're trying to figure out how to lead a productive and full life without becoming exhausted and depleted in the process, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I'm joined by award-winning science writer Elizabeth Svoboda, author of The Art of Pacing. Together, we unpack the hidden pattern behind that all-or-nothing cycle and why the answer isn't pushing harder or checking out completely. You'll learn how to work with your energy instead of constantly fighting against it, including a simple breathing technique that can calm your nervous system in just a few minutes. Listen to learn: Why high achievers keep swinging between overdoing it and shutting down How to calm your nervous system with a simple, science-backed strategy you can do immediately Hacks that make your to do list feel easier (and energizing) The one question that helps you make better decisions about what to say yes to How to get clarity about YOUR sustainable pace (not someone else's) How to get your energy back after a “burnout breakdown” and avoid going there again. It's time to stop chasing someone else's pace and start trusting your own. This episode will give you direction about how to do that. Lastly, take 10 seconds to think about who in your life is barely holding it all together and needs to hear this message today. Forward it to them.  And there it is: You just made a difference. (We're on this mission, together.) Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠

Maybe you are thinking about bringing your child home because school is not working. Or maybe you are already homeschooling, but the curriculum, methods, or supports you chose are not helping the way you hoped. When your child has dyslexia, ADHD, autism, disability, behavior struggles, or several different needs at once, the next decision can feel terrifying. You may be afraid you will choose the wrong thing, make the gaps worse, or miss something important. You may be thinking, “I love my child, but I do not know enough to do this well.” In this episode, I'm sharing a personal story from a season when I walked into a professional evaluation expecting to be told that I had failed my child. That is not what happened. The appointment did not give us a complete educational plan, but it did help me see something I had almost missed. It also helped me understand that I did not have to solve my child's entire education all at once before taking the next step. We'll talk about the fear of getting it wrong, the value and limits of professional evaluations, and how to keep paying attention to the child in front of you when the path ahead is not clear. And I want to be clear: this episode is not about rejecting professional help, and it is not about treating every professional opinion as the final word. It is about receiving useful information, protecting what is already helping, and continuing to look for support that sees both your child's struggles and your child's possibilities. If you are afraid you will mess this up, this episode will help you breathe, think more clearly about the next step, and remember that needing help does not mean you are failing. Mentioned in this episode: Wings to Soar Academy — an online school created to support bright children with significant learning differences. From the archive recorded under a former show name: Beth Ellen Nash / Wings to Soar interview, Part 1   From the archive recorded under a former show name:  Beth Ellen Nash / Wings to Soar interview, Part 2 An optional resource for reading and spelling support: Touch-type Read and Spell may be helpful for some learners who need a multisensory approach to reading, spelling, and typing. It will not fit every child, but our family has found it useful. Use code: KKEENE (Disclosure: I may earn a commission if you purchase through this link, at no additional cost to you.) XOXO, Katie

Have you ever been in a conversation where someone said something about Christianity that you knew was not right — but you struggled to articulate exactly why? That is the conversation that prompted this episode. In this honest and grace-filled exploration of Christian apologetics, Tanya Engesether shares a personal interaction that left her convicted — not of wrongdoing, but of the need to go deeper into the foundations of her faith. To know not just what she believes, but why it matters. And to be able to say so graciously when a conversation requires it. In this episode Tanya addresses two of the most foundational doctrines in Christian belief — the Holy Trinity and the finality of salvation in this life — with theological substance, scriptural grounding, historical context, and a consistent spirit of grace toward those who hold different views. She explores what is actually at stake if the Trinity is wrong — why it is not a secondary theological detail but the load-bearing wall of everything Christianity teaches about salvation and the character of God. She walks through the key Scriptures on post-mortem salvation and the finality of the opportunity for salvation in this life. And she addresses the question every thoughtful Christian wrestles with: what about those who never heard? Throughout, the spirit of 1 Peter 3:15 guides the episode: always be prepared to give an answer — with gentleness and respect. This is not an episode about winning arguments. It is an episode about knowing the God you love well enough to describe Him accurately — and about holding that truth with enough grace that it can actually reach the people you care about. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why doctrine is not the opposite of relationship — it is the description of the One we are in relationship with The difference between secondary issues Christians can disagree about and load-bearing doctrinal walls What the Holy Trinity actually is — simply, accessibly, without academic jargon Why the Trinity is not just a theological technicality but the foundation of how salvation works What is actually at stake if Jesus is not fully God — the salvific implications Key Scriptures on the Trinity — John 1:1, John 10:30, Matthew 28:19, Genesis 1:26 The historical context of Nicaea and the Arian heresy — and why it is still relevant today What Scripture teaches about the finality of salvation in this life The parable of the rich man and Lazarus — what it reveals about the state after death The difference between Catholic purgatory and post-mortem salvation theology The compassionate answer to "what about those who never heard?" The spirit of 1 Peter 3:15 — how to hold hard conversations with gentleness and respect Why knowing what you believe is not arrogance — it is an act of love What Jude 3 calls every Christian to — and what contending for the faith actually looks like Scripture Referenced 1 Peter 3:15 — "Always be prepared to give an answer... with gentleness and respect." John 1:1 — "In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God." John 10:30 — "I and the Father are one." Matthew 28:19 — "Baptize them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit." Genesis 1:26 — "Let us make mankind in our image." 1 John 4:8 — "God is love." Hebrews 9:27 — "It is appointed for man to die once, and after that comes judgment." Luke 16:19-31 — The parable of the rich man and Lazarus 2 Corinthians 6:2 — "Now is the day of salvation." Romans 3:26 — "The just and the justifier." Jude 3 — "Contend for the faith that was once for all entrusted to God's holy people." John 14:16-17 — Jesus promises another Counselor Philippians 2:9-11 — "The name above every name." Key Takeaway Knowing what you believe — and being able to say it graciously — is one of the most loving things you can do. The Trinity is not a theological technicality. It is the load-bearing wall of Christian salvation. The finality of salvation is not a harsh rule. It is the foundation of the gospel's urgency. And being rooted in these truths — able to hold them and articulate them with grace — is an act of faithfulness to God and love toward the people around you.   I hope this episode blesses you! Xoxo, Tanya Episode Resources: Episode Catalog   My trusted Supplement Dispensary: Aligned Vitality Fullscript Dispensary My trusted Telehealth Peptide Provider:  EllieMD_Tanya Engesether *I do get a small commission when you use one of the above affiliate links. 3 Ways To Connect With Me: 1️⃣COACHING: Are you READY to Lead Well, Live Well and BE Well? Book a FREE discovery call with me to find out more about functional health coaching. It's the accountability and guidance you need to reclaim your health and happiness! ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/coaching   2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/community   3️⃣ CONTACT: Leave me a question or comment ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/contact   "Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they're meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!"    If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. Don't forget to follow the show so you don't miss any episodes! 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One of the biggest wellness decisions you'll ever make has nothing to do with buying another "clean" product. Why is it that we can genuinely want something better for our health... and still struggle to follow through? In this episode, discover why willpower alone isn't enough to create lasting change, how familiar patterns quietly influence your everyday choices, and how understanding them can help you make healthier decisions with greater confidence.

You might not be falling out of love. You might just be exhausted. When you can't sleep, everything gets louder. The resentment. The anxiety. The dishwasher fight that suddenly feels like proof your entire relationship is broken. I've seen this happen again and again: people blame their partner, their marriage, or themselves—when the real saboteur is sleep deprivation. In this episode, I'm talking with marriage and family therapist and sleep expert Chrissy Lawler about what exhaustion is really doing to your mood, your parenting, and the people you love most. Listen to learn: Why exhaustion makes every conflict feel more serious How poor sleep quietly drains connection and intimacy The counterintuitive reason to get out of bed when you can't sleep How caffeine, alcohol, and nighttime habits sabotage your rest Why sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is go to bed angry Simple, evidence-based ways to start sleeping better tonight Before you decide your relationship is broken, check your sleep. A full night of rest might change the entire conversation. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠.

Julia and Drew are back in the studio to discuss Next Gen NYC Season 2, Episode 4. The girls sip on some Cha Cha Matcha and dish about the show hitting a new peak, Riley's classist meltdown, Hudson's bejeweled entourage, the extremely boring World Cup final, and Carl Radke's torrid dalliance with a mixed fruit-flavored coffee creamer. XOXO, Girls Room.Follow Girls Room on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow Drew on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow Julia on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

EP:201 Is your child a sensory seeker… or a sensory avoider? The answer might surprise you. Hi friends, If you've ever wondered why one child melts down over loud noises, another constantly crashes into furniture, or mealtimes feel like a daily battle, this episode is for you. One of the biggest misconceptions I see as an occupational therapist is that we tend to label our children—and ourselves—as either a "sensory seeker" or a "sensory avoider." But the truth is, our sensory systems are so much more complex than that. We all have unique sensory profiles. And understanding them can completely change the way you parent. In this episode of Thrive Like a Parent, I'm breaking down how sensory processing impacts your child's emotions, behaviors, and nervous system—and why learning your child's sensory profile can help you respond with more confidence, compassion, and connection. We'll explore: ✨ What a sensory profile actually is—and why it matters. ✨ Why your child may be both a sensory seeker and a sensory avoider. ✨ The connection between sensory processing and emotional regulation. ✨ How sensory needs influence meltdowns, transitions, picky eating, sleep, focus, and everyday behavior. ✨ Practical strategies to support your child's nervous system while regulating your own. Here's what I want every parent to know: Your child's behaviors aren't random. They're communication. When you understand what's happening inside their nervous system, you stop reacting to behaviors—and start responding to the needs underneath them. And this isn't just about your child. As parents, understanding our own sensory profiles can be just as life-changing. The more aware we become of our own nervous systems, the better equipped we are to stay calm during challenging moments, communicate more effectively, and create a home where everyone feels safe, supported, and understood. If you're tired of feeling like you're constantly walking on eggshells, frustrated by parenting strategies that don't seem to work, or simply want to understand your child on a deeper level, I know this episode will give you a fresh perspective.

Are you chronically late, stressed, and frazzled? Feel like you never have enough time to do what you really want and need to do? Here's the reality: Until you can manage your time, you'll always feel out of control. Poor  time management isn't just making you late. It's quietly stealing your life. If you feel buried, behind, overcommitted, and weirdly guilty all the time, this episode is going to hit hard. Because the problem may not be that you're lazy, scattered, or “bad at time management.” The real problem is that you're saying yes to everything and accidentally saying no to the life you actually want. I'm sitting down with Samantha Lane, TEDx speaker and founder of Origami Day, to talk about the simple time management shift that can help you stop living on autopilot. Here's the uncomfortable (but also liberating and life-changing) truth: You don't have a time problem. You have a choosing problem. Listen to learn: Why poor time management is really a life-management problem The brutal truth about your 168 hours each week How every “yes” secretly becomes a “no” Why your to-do list will never actually be done The simple weekly planning ritual that can calm the chaos If you've been trying to become more disciplined, more productive, more organized, and somehow still feel like you're failing, this conversation will help you stop blaming yourself and start choosing your life on purpose. You're not behind.You're just ready to choose differently. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠

Have you ever started a homeschool day with a good plan, only to realize that the day you planned for is not the day you actually have? Maybe someone slept badly. Maybe the children are unusually restless. Maybe your own energy is low, or an unexpected problem has pulled the day off course. Other times, the lessons are simply creating more conflict than learning. In this episode, I'm sharing something a seasoned homeschool mother told me when my children were five and under and I was still trying to understand how homeschooling could work inside a busy home with several little ones. Her answer surprised me because it was not about becoming stricter, pushing harder, or forcing the original plan to work no matter what. It helped me see that a wise homeschool plan can leave room for hard days. We'll talk about how to recognize when the original plan no longer fits the day you actually have, and how a few simple backup choices can help you lower the pressure without feeling like you are giving up on school. And I want to be clear: this is not an excuse to quit every time a lesson gets hard. Sometimes children need help staying with difficult work, and sometimes attitudes need to be addressed. But one hard day does not mean your homeschool is failing. If your homeschool day has fallen apart and you are not sure whether to keep pushing or change course, this episode will help you think more wisely about what your family actually needs next. Scripture referenced: Proverbs 16:9, ESV: “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” This verse does not tell us to stop planning. A plan can help us remember what matters and use our time well. But the plan is a tool for serving the family, and it can be adjusted when the people, time, attention, or circumstances change. Mentioned in this episode: Movie Schooling — a prepared resource for using wholesome movies for meaningful learning, conversation, and family connection without creating another lesson from the beginning. XOXO, Katie

Drew is joined by freelance writer, Vulture recapper, and Bravo connoisseur Tom Smyth to discuss Next Gen NYC Season 2, Episode 3. The girls sip on some Cha Cha Matcha and dish about Georgia's star quality, old gay Brooks, Liam's Patrick Bateman-esque vibe, the bountiful delights of old women snobbery, and crowning the ascendant queen that is Rowan Henchy. XOXO, Girls Room.Follow Girls Room on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow Drew on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow Julia on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

In the series finale of The Weight of the Chair, Tanya Engesether casts a clear, specific, and deeply honest picture of what changes when a leader has done the inner work — the honest, countercultural, body-and-soul-and-spirit work of tending to herself that this series has been describing. Not theory. Not aspiration. What actually becomes different. The presence that comes when the nervous system is no longer running a continuous background threat assessment. The ability to receive feedback without it becoming a verdict on personhood. The limits set with honesty rather than apology. The groundedness that stays when the emotional temperature in the room rises. The leading from overflow rather than from the bottom of the tank. And beyond the leadership — what changes in the relationship with the team, with the self, and with God. The faith that becomes sturdy rather than performed. The quality of prayer that shifts when the whole self shows up rather than the managed version. The peace that guards rather than the peace that depends on outcomes. This is not a destination. It is a direction. And Tanya names that honestly too — because the work is ongoing, the returning is ongoing, and what changes is not that the hard things stop. What changes is the baseline you come back to between them. Key Takeaway The work does not produce a life without difficulty. It produces a different quality of life within it. A different baseline to return to between the hard things. More presence, more honesty, more groundedness, more genuine usefulness to the people you lead and the God you serve. That is what is available on the other side. And it is worth every difficult step of getting there. I hope this episode blesses you! Xoxo, Tanya Episode Resources: Episode Catalog   My trusted Supplement Dispensary: Aligned Vitality Fullscript Dispensary My trusted Telehealth Peptide Provider:  EllieMD_Tanya Engesether *I do get a small commission when you use one of the above affiliate links. 3 Ways To Connect With Me: 1️⃣COACHING: Are you READY to Lead Well, Live Well and BE Well? Book a FREE discovery call with me to find out more about functional health coaching. It's the accountability and guidance you need to reclaim your health and happiness! ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/coaching   2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/community   3️⃣ CONTACT: Leave me a question or comment ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/contact   "Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they're meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!"    If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. Don't forget to follow the show so you don't miss any episodes! And, if you're feeling really generous, I'd be SO honored if you would share this podcast with someone.   Click here to view our privacy policy.   Reminder:  The information you hear on this show is not meant to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent disease.  It is for educational purposes only. Always consult with your own health practitioner before you make any changes to your health.

Your partner heard something you never said. That's why the conversation went sideways. That's why you're suddenly defending yourself.That's why they're hurt.That's why you're both thinking, “How did we get here again?” If you're struggling with a lack of communication in a relationship, this episode is for you. Because the problem may not be that you're bad at communicating. It may be that you and your partner are speaking completely different emotional languages. In this episode, I'm talking with psychotherapist Jason VanRuler, author of Discovering Your Communication Type, about why the same words can land beautifully for one person and completely miss another. We'll unpack the five communication types, why good intentions still create painful disconnection, and how to speak in a way your partner can actually receive. You'll learn: Why your partner hears something totally different than what you meant How the same words can comfort one person and trigger another The five communication types that shape every hard conversation Why “men can't communicate” is a lazy, damaging myth How to stop blaming each other and start translating each other What to say after a fight when you actually want to repair You don't have to keep having the same argument forever. You may just need to learn how your partner listens. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠

EP:200 Is intimacy in your relationship feeling more like another item on your to-do list than a meaningful connection? Hi friends, This week, we're talking about something that so many couples experience—but very few people are willing to say out loud. Over the years, I've noticed a common pattern with the parents and couples I work with: they're disconnected from intimacy. Sex starts to feel like an obligation instead of a place where both partners feel seen, safe, connected, and alive. And here's what I want you to know... That isn't how intimacy is supposed to feel. True intimacy isn't about checking a box or meeting someone else's expectations. It's about emotional safety, nervous system regulation, trust, vulnerability, and mutual pleasure. It's about creating a space where both people feel valued—not where one person silently sacrifices their own needs. If you've ever...

Wired and tired? I've been there too, and I know first hand… this is not sustainable. Help is here. If you're searching for nervous system regulation strategies because your body feels like it's waving a white flag — the insomnia, the tension, the stomach issues, the collapse at night — this episode is a must listen.  Join me for this conversation with somatic expert Liz Tenuto, known as The Workout Witch, about why chronic stress gets stored in the body, why your doctor can say “everything looks normal” when you feel anything but, and how somatic healing can help you come back to yourself. You'll learn: Why your body won't switch off at night How functional freeze makes you look fine while you're shutting down The body signs of stored stress: jaw, shoulders, gut, sleep, pain Why somatic healing can help when thinking harder doesn't A one-minute reset you can try right now If your body has been begging you to listen, this episode is where we start. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠

Have you ever looked around your house and thought, “I want this home to feel peaceful. I want it to feel like rest and joy. But right now, it just feels like work”? The table is filled with schoolbooks. The sink has dishes. Shoes are scattered near the door. Someone needs help. Someone is hungry. The house has been used all day for learning, meals, play, work, and care. In this episode, I'm talking about what to do when the whole house seems to need attention, but you do not have the time or capacity to clean everything. I share a simple question that helps me narrow my attention: What small space needs to be usable again before we can move forward? If dinner is next, you may not need to clean the whole kitchen. You may only need to wash the pan you plan to use and clear enough counter space to prepare the meal. Before lunch, you may only need to move the books and clear enough of the table for everyone to sit down. Before an appointment, you may need to move the bags and shoes blocking the doorway—not finish the entire room. I also share something an occupational therapist told me when my children were small and I felt embarrassed about the toys and lived-in mess in our home. Her words helped me remember that a home being used for learning, growing, eating, resting, making mistakes, and trying again will look used. And I want to be clear: sometimes the best choice is not to clean at all. If a child needs comfort, correction, encouragement, or help calming down, that person may need your attention more than the dishes do. The goal is not to make the whole house look perfect. The goal is to notice the one obstacle making the next part of family life harder, make that small space usable, and then stop. I also share how Movie Schooling can fit naturally into a day when both the house and the homeschool need a simpler plan. It gives you a prepared way to use a wholesome movie for learning and conversation without creating another lesson from the beginning. If your house feels like work instead of a place of rest and joy, this episode will help you narrow your attention to what would help your family next—without feeling responsible for the entire house at one time. Scripture referenced: Proverbs 14:1, ESV: “The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.” This verse is not saying that a messy room means a weary mother is tearing down her home. Building a home also includes the way we speak, respond to one another, and decide what matters most. A tidy room is not worth becoming harsh with the people in it. Mentioned in this episode: Movie Schooling — a simple guide for families who want to use wholesome movies for meaningful learning, conversation, and connection without creating another lesson from the beginning. This episode is supported by: CTC Math — comprehensive video lessons and flexible, self-paced math learning for busy homeschool families. XOXO, Katie

You're the tiger pacing the cage… but the door has been open the whole time. If you want to know how to gain confidence for real — not perform it, fake it, or force it — this conversation will show you where to start. Because the truth is, you can look wildly successful and still feel trapped inside your own head. In this episode, I'm talking with Sara Anderson about why confidence doesn't magically appear when you achieve enough — and why the higher you climb, the louder your self-doubt can get if you don't address it from the inside out.  Because here's the part nobody tells high achievers: You cannot think your way into confidence while your body is screaming danger. Real confidence is built from the inside out. Listen to learn: Why achievement can make your self-doubt worse, not better Why your mind goes blank when the stakes are high How your body betrays your confidence before you say a word Why affirmations don't work when your nervous system is in panic mode How to stop freezing, spiraling, and over-explaining under pressure The 10-second grounding tool that helps bring your brain back online How to stop performing confidence and finally start trusting yourself Why the cage door is already open — and how to walk through it If you're tired of pacing the same old cage, this episode is your open door. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠.

Feeling down when, at least on the surface, nothing is horrible? It's easy to blame yourself, and think “what's wrong with me that I can't just be happy?”  Here's a new idea. Maybe that feeling is not wrong at all.  Maybe it's a signal from your emotional guidance system that it's time to evolve.  The boredom. The restlessness. The exhaustion. The quiet little voice whispering, “I cannot keep doing this.” You can numb it.You can explain it away.You can call it anxiety, burnout, depression, hormones, laziness, or “just a rough patch.” But what if it's none of that? What if the real problem is that your life doesn't fit anymore?  In this episode, I'm talking about how to change your life when you feel stuck, especially when nothing is technically “wrong,” but everything inside you is screaming. Because that feeling you keep trying to get rid of? It may be the most important message you've gotten in years. Today, I'm going to help you stop ignoring it, stop shaming yourself for it, and start reading it for what it is: your emotional guidance system telling you it's time for a new chapter. You'll learn: Why feeling miserable doesn't always mean something has gone wrong How to tell the difference between a bad mood and a life that no longer fits Why boredom, dread, and restlessness can be signs of personal growth The journaling questions that reveal what you actually want Why insight alone won't change your life How to find the clarity, courage, and allies you need to move forward You don't have to blow up your life today. But you do need to stop betraying yourself by pretending you don't hear the alarm. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts.